Translator: Ezilly Bezerra Reviewer: Maricene Crus
All I’m going to say
is the result of my research “body, aging and happiness”
with 5 thousand men and women
from 18 to 96 years.
I am currently researching only those who have passed the age of 90.
Have you ever heard of the happiness curve?
Research by economists
in 80 countries
with more than 2 million people
found a constant pattern.
Younger people and older people
are the happiest
and those who feel less happy
are those that are between 40 and 50 years old.
The researchers found
a curve of happiness in the letter “U” format.
Happiness is greatest in early life
begins to decline over the years
reaching its lowest point, around the age of 45,
and then begins to rise.
Older people,
if they have good health and financial and affective stability,
They can feel so happy.
and the younger ones.
I also found a curve of happiness
in Brazilian women that I have been researching for more than 30 years.
Those between the ages of 40 and 50,
are those who feel most unhappy, dissatisfied, frustrated,
depressed and exhausted.
They complain, mainly, of lack of time,
lack of recognition,
and lack of freedom.
Some even say that everything is missing.
When I asked the women
what they envy most in men,
they said in the very first place:
“freedom”.
Second, they said to pee standing up.
(Laughs)
They also envy men’s freedom
with his own body,
sexual freedom,
the freedom to laugh, to play with any nonsense and many other freedoms.
When I asked the men
what they envy most in women,
they simply replied, “Nothing.”
(Laughs)
When I asked the women,
which she most envy in other women,
they said body, beauty,
youth, thinness and sensuality.
The body envied by them is young,
skinny and sensual.
In Brazil, this body model is a true capital.
Brazilian women do the most in the world
plastic surgery, fill, Botox,
[use] sleeping pills, weight-loss pills, appetite suppressants,
hair dyes and anxiolytics.
They are the ones who are most dissatisfied with their bodies.
The ones that most fail to leave home, go to parties
and even to work
when they feel old, fat and ugly.
It is no wonder that Brazilians have a real panic of aging.
As one 45-year-old teacher said.
She saying:
“My biggest crisis was when I turned 40.
I panicked because I was getting old.
I do not know if I have plastic surgery, Botox, fill,
I do not know if I can continue wearing miniskirt and bikini,
I’m afraid they call me a ridiculous old lady.
I’m in the ‘can I can?’ Phase.
I am an invisible woman, a transparent woman,
a woman ‘neither, nor’,
neither young nor old. “
But I have some great news for you.
Everything starts to improve, and much,
after 50 years
and the curve of happiness begins to rise.
The women of more than 60 years that I researched,
said categorically:
“This is the best moment of my life.
I’ve never been so happy.
It’s the first time in my life that I can be myself.
I’ve never been so free! “
And how have they won the much-desired freedom?
Do you want to write down the tips they gave me?
You can write it down.
First, they have discovered that time is real capital.
They do not want to and can not waste their time anymore.
Younger women want to please everyone
take care of everyone,
and complain that they do not have time for them.
Older, they begin to prioritize the time to take care of themselves.
For this, they had to learn to say “no”
one thing that seems very simple, but it is not.
Learning to say “no” is a real revolution for women.
They also did a real existential cleaning.
The cleaning is not just throw away those clothes that no longer serve,
the cacarecos, those things that we do not want in our lives anymore.
This is also important, but it is the easiest.
Existential cleansing is taking away from our life
all those people who only do evil,
which only criticize, and suck our energy:
the true emotional vampires.
They also learned how to turn on the “Fuck!” Button.
It’s not like they’re saying fuck everybody,
fuck for what others think.
Is not it; they are very elegant.
It is much more an inner attitude.
“They’ll say I’m a ridiculous old lady,
Why do I go to the beach in a bikini? “
(Laughs)
“They will say that I am an old baranga,
Why do I like wearing miniskirts? “
(Laughs)
“They will also say that I am a ‘piriguete’ crown,
why do I date a younger guy? “
(Laughs)
This inner “fuck” is liberating.
Do you want to try it?
They also talked a lot about the importance of friends.
It is the friends who care, who listen,
who talk, who lead to the doctor,
who call every day to find out how they are.
They talked a lot more about friends.
than the husband, the children and the grandchildren.
When I asked the women, “Who will take care of you in old age?”,
they said in the first place: “Myself.”
Then they said, “My friends.”
When I asked the men, “Who will take care of you in old age?”,
they answered: “My wife,
(Laughs)
my daughters,
my granddaughters. “
Finally, they learned to laugh and play a lot more.
Sixty percent of the younger women I researched
said they envy men’s ability
to laugh, to play foolishly.
I asked, “Then why do not you laugh anymore?”
“Because I do not have time!
Because I’m very afraid of what others are going to think. “
Older, they learn to laugh a lot more,
especially laugh at themselves,
as a 65-year-old doctor said.
Look what she said:
“I do not know why it took me so long to find something so simple,
that freedom is the best rhyme for happiness.
My recipe for a happy life is:
have life projects, do not worry about what others think,
say no to everything I do not want anymore in my life,
and enjoy my friends.
As a doctor, I can guarantee:
laugh a lot,
especially laugh at myself,
is always the best remedy.
I want to end with a question for you:
“Why do we take so long?
to discover such a simple thing?
That the best rhyme for happiness is freedom
and that we laugh a lot, especially laugh at ourselves,
is always the best remedy.
Thanks.
(Applause)
All I’m going to say
is the result of my research “body, aging and happiness”
with 5 thousand men and women
from 18 to 96 years.
I am currently researching only those who have passed the age of 90.
Have you ever heard of the happiness curve?
Research by economists
in 80 countries
with more than 2 million people
found a constant pattern.
Younger people and older people
are the happiest
and those who feel less happy
are those that are between 40 and 50 years old.
The researchers found
a curve of happiness in the letter “U” format.
Happiness is greatest in early life
begins to decline over the years
reaching its lowest point, around the age of 45,
and then begins to rise.
Older people,
if they have good health and financial and affective stability,
They can feel so happy.
and the younger ones.
I also found a curve of happiness
in Brazilian women that I have been researching for more than 30 years.
Those between the ages of 40 and 50,
are those who feel most unhappy, dissatisfied, frustrated,
depressed and exhausted.
They complain, mainly, of lack of time,
lack of recognition,
and lack of freedom.
Some even say that everything is missing.
When I asked the women
what they envy most in men,
they said in the very first place:
“freedom”.
Second, they said to pee standing up.
(Laughs)
They also envy men’s freedom
with his own body,
sexual freedom,
the freedom to laugh, to play with any nonsense and many other freedoms.
When I asked the men
what they envy most in women,
they simply replied, “Nothing.”
(Laughs)
When I asked the women,
which she most envy in other women,
they said body, beauty,
youth, thinness and sensuality.
The body envied by them is young,
skinny and sensual.
In Brazil, this body model is a true capital.
Brazilian women do the most in the world
plastic surgery, fill, Botox,
[use] sleeping pills, weight-loss pills, appetite suppressants,
hair dyes and anxiolytics.
They are the ones who are most dissatisfied with their bodies.
The ones that most fail to leave home, go to parties
and even to work
when they feel old, fat and ugly.
It is no wonder that Brazilians have a real panic of aging.
As one 45-year-old teacher said.
She saying:
“My biggest crisis was when I turned 40.
I panicked because I was getting old.
I do not know if I have plastic surgery, Botox, fill,
I do not know if I can continue wearing miniskirt and bikini,
I’m afraid they call me a ridiculous old lady.
I’m in the ‘can I can?’ Phase.
I am an invisible woman, a transparent woman,
a woman ‘neither, nor’,
neither young nor old. “
But I have some great news for you.
Everything starts to improve, and much,
after 50 years
and the curve of happiness begins to rise.
The women of more than 60 years that I researched,
said categorically:
“This is the best moment of my life.
I’ve never been so happy.
It’s the first time in my life that I can be myself.
I’ve never been so free! “
And how have they won the much-desired freedom?
Do you want to write down the tips they gave me?
You can write it down.
First, they have discovered that time is real capital.
They do not want to and can not waste their time anymore.
Younger women want to please everyone
take care of everyone,
and complain that they do not have time for them.
Older, they begin to prioritize the time to take care of themselves.
For this, they had to learn to say “no”
one thing that seems very simple, but it is not.
Learning to say “no” is a real revolution for women.
They also did a real existential cleaning.
The cleaning is not just throw away those clothes that no longer serve,
the cacarecos, those things that we do not want in our lives anymore.
This is also important, but it is the easiest.
Existential cleansing is taking away from our life
all those people who only do evil,
which only criticize, and suck our energy:
the true emotional vampires.
They also learned how to turn on the “Fuck!” Button.
It’s not like they’re saying fuck everybody,
fuck for what others think.
Is not it; they are very elegant.
It is much more an inner attitude.
“They’ll say I’m a ridiculous old lady,
Why do I go to the beach in a bikini? “
(Laughs)
“They will say that I am an old baranga,
Why do I like wearing miniskirts? “
(Laughs)
“They will also say that I am a ‘piriguete’ crown,
why do I date a younger guy? “
(Laughs)
This inner “fuck” is liberating.
Do you want to try it?
They also talked a lot about the importance of friends.
It is the friends who care, who listen,
who talk, who lead to the doctor,
who call every day to find out how they are.
They talked a lot more about friends.
than the husband, the children and the grandchildren.
When I asked the women, “Who will take care of you in old age?”,
they said in the first place: “Myself.”
Then they said, “My friends.”
When I asked the men, “Who will take care of you in old age?”,
they answered: “My wife,
(Laughs)
my daughters,
my granddaughters. “
Finally, they learned to laugh and play a lot more.
Sixty percent of the younger women I researched
said they envy men’s ability
to laugh, to play foolishly.
I asked, “Then why do not you laugh anymore?”
“Because I do not have time!
Because I’m very afraid of what others are going to think. “
Older, they learn to laugh a lot more,
especially laugh at themselves,
as a 65-year-old doctor said.
Look what she said:
“I do not know why it took me so long to find something so simple,
that freedom is the best rhyme for happiness.
My recipe for a happy life is:
have life projects, do not worry about what others think,
say no to everything I do not want anymore in my life,
and enjoy my friends.
As a doctor, I can guarantee:
laugh a lot,
especially laugh at myself,
is always the best remedy.
I want to end with a question for you:
“Why do we take so long?
to discover such a simple thing?
That the best rhyme for happiness is freedom
and that we laugh a lot, especially laugh at ourselves,
is always the best remedy.
Thanks.
(Applause)
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