what if I told you all that you had a
superpower like Wonder Woman life you
know bro a superpower that at any moment
you could call up your mind and
transform any adversity that you’re
currently facing whether it be in life
or at work to your next big opportunity
you see in my experience I found that a
calm mind is a receptive mind in a
receptive mind is an open mind and an
open mind is a creative mind a mind that
is able to not be reactive but
responsive in 2010 I was a fresh
graduate and I managed to land a job
with the Obama administration yeah
you’re right the mechanized a Department
of Energy and the environment was
challenging everything was super fast
paced and I was working with some of the
best engineers scientists in the world
you know it’s honor working alongside
those folks but at the same time I had
this syndrome maybe you’ve heard of it
it’s called imposter syndrome it’s one
of these things we have these questions
that come up you start to doubt yourself
start to say what I’m even doing here if
these guys you know respect me I don’t
know what I’m doing
this all came to a head one day when our
chief of staff of the office had just
came back from a safari in Kenya and he
told us he brought us all back a gift
that represented how he worked in the
office so at one point I’m like excited
finally I get feedback because you know
if we get feedback usually it’s because
you did something really wrong okay or
it could be really good I finally get to
know how I fit so it’s 8 a.m. my morning
meeting the shutters 10:00 deciding to
do the the window that’s facing the
National Mall we’re all seated around
the rectangular table chief of staff is
at the head so he’s calling us up one by
one he calls up the budget advisor first
by the virus standing next to it he says
here’s an office give them a wooden
statue of a Thomas because you are
strong and dependable and able to carry
your weight in the weight of everyone
else in this office he thing cause of
the dead to eat you first and you get
the giraffe because you’re able to stick
your neck down for everyone and see
above the frame please doing this my
heart is pounding I have that a syndrome
you know maybe those questions will be
fine validated maybe I’ll finally be the
one that he seizes I’m doing something
here
they calls me on the last one as I’m
standing next to he’s breeches down to
his left pocket and pulled out a wooden
figures about this big said to them he
falls over and picks it up hands in in
my direction and he says
excellent this is for you an ostrich
because you think you can fly but you
never will my heart hit the floor I’m
angry I’m humiliated this guy just to
make matters worse I had to take this
thing and put it on my desk like
everyone else proudly display it for the
rest of the day look at it but at least
I do one thing I knew where I stood that
I don’t even stand at all it was awful
you might be this is think this is the
point where I stood up and ran to his
office and gave him that letter of
resignation but I didn’t I didn’t it
took me five years five years to finally
make the change I needed to improve my
life I’m sure you will probably go
through something like this is why I’m
sharing with you this is a promise that
nothing is real or you may have gone
through something like this before
when I finally resigned in February 2015
I went on an 18-month research
sabbatical where I got to explore the
question how can i generate happiness
for myself and reduce my own suffering
so that I can do the same for others you
know I learned a lot on this journey but
the main thing that I learned was that
happiness is a choice I think this is a
choice mrs. made proven and I stumbled
upon a research study by a very good
time psychologist and a birthday she
basically found that outside of our
genetics the next biggest influence on
our overall perception of happiness is
the choices we make the choices we make
and if the choices we made bring us
happiness to meet choice equals power
okay towards means power and power means
creativity creation if you are able to
have be empowered
you’re able to create the future you
want
this notion was kind of echoing goodness
you might not have heard this guy before
but he’s a well-known neurologist and a
Holocaust survivor he says that between
a stimulus something that’s causing you
trouble and the response that you had
there’s this space in the middle you
gotta realize that there’s a space you
can choose in that space lies our power
to choose how we want to respond might
seem simple but it’s quite big in that
power in our response is inaudible is
our freedom is our growth this happiness
to me does that got me thinking you know
what’s the common thread here what is
the common thread about this creation
thing that to me the most the first
point of creation everything you see
Edna’s multiverse was started here
started with a bump that’s the first
unit of creation don’t take my word for
new breakthroughs in the fields of
neural cardiology in mine science and
you know what else you’re showing that
the brain does not have a monopoly on
thing the heart and the gut can do
something of their own and many times
they’re sending orders to the brain this
research has been seen in countless
number of books on emotional
intelligence and positive psychology
specifically business related books
business leaders are some of the most
successful companies are leveraging the
multiverse within them to make some of
the best decisions to make more creative
decisions make more innovative decisions
so that’s the case how can everyone how
can the average employee how can the
average student leverage their inner
multiverses wealth to get out of there
at first situation luckily there are
lots of tools out there but they’re
quite kind of dance
and what we’ve done at human ii is
really kind of pump those tools into a
simple framework and we utilize some
tools and experiences i call it empathy
map and two basic principles of
cognitive psychology as well so another
thought that you don’t want to try it
you want to try some of these tools okay
let’s try some so this is a really
simple tool called the empathy map but
before we do that let’s so maybe get
calm and relaxed in our chairs but here
anything you have in your hands you can
put it in your lap or and just let your
wait sit in the chair with the chair
take you you can take a deep breath in
blow it out slow
just relax can’t even look down at the
floor close your eyes you awaken as
you’re relaxing your eyes are closed
bring to mind the last maybe three
months a challenging situation whether
that they have worked with a colleague
or something in life let it come to my
let it come into your body mind continue
to relax you have your eyes closed
continue to keep them closed now you
want to pay attention through five
different things you want to take
yourself out of that situation and go
behind almost the video camera as if you
are looking at yourself in this
challenging situation through a video
camera you looking for a couple things
one what are you doing what is the
physical thing dirt them are you running
are you shouting are you wishing
something what do you doing capture that
thanks what are you saying what are you
saying to this person into your
colleague what are you actually saying
almost if you could capture the okay
what are you thinking as this situation
happen what is going in your mind what
do you what are the thoughts that are
happening next what are you feeling what
are those unpleasant feelings that are
coming up capture it and last what do
you need give it that you feeling you
have these unpleasant thoughts and
feelings what are you needing and it’s
time something tangible maybe it’s
overvalued possibly you got that image
hold it
good you can open your eyes and will
affect up here now for example what if I
would have had a Timothy back into and
this is just training wheels sometimes
you can use this just on the spot what
if I was it had a tool like this when I
was called an ostrich what I realized
maybe that what I was doing was choosing
to sit in the back of the room when the
boss was telling me to come sit next to
him what I want to realize that you know
I was saying to my colleagues that you
know I don’t know how to do this for you
know this time seems impossible maybe I
would have realized that I was thinking
that I don’t know what I’m doing I’m
telling myself that I’m thinking I’m not
experience I’m feeling anxious I’m
feeling maybe hesitant and just burnt
out and at the end of the day what I
need is support I need clarity and maybe
some fun so coming back to you if you
were to use something like this think
about that situation you had and map out
those things those are your centers of
intelligence this is where you’re going
to find that next creative solution and
I believe if you do this this will be to
some sort of new approach to looking at
your challenge so what if you did this
the next time you had something smaller
like planning your day or firefighting a
situation at work what if you did this
in partnership you have something more
than blame and judgment to communicate
about you had actually needs to say in
the word one of our organizations use
this as a way to make their employee and
experience more engaging more productive
employees or an innovative employee
pulling that look like and then you know
and I challenge you today
before the challenge you must remember
one thing that no remember that those
that will help you develop the feelings
that’s probably the most important part
of the graph is the feelings list I
think it’s a really hard thing to define
people to struggle with that and also
the needs okay but again the thing if
you’re going to take away anything today
is remember that that combine that you
have leads to it a receptivity okay that
receptivity will lead to openness and
that openness will lead to creativity
and that’s what you need a gap in that
situation so goes back to you please
choose to use that super power of choice
to choose calmness and open yourself to
that inner creative intelligence that
you have thank you
[Applause]
superpower like Wonder Woman life you
know bro a superpower that at any moment
you could call up your mind and
transform any adversity that you’re
currently facing whether it be in life
or at work to your next big opportunity
you see in my experience I found that a
calm mind is a receptive mind in a
receptive mind is an open mind and an
open mind is a creative mind a mind that
is able to not be reactive but
responsive in 2010 I was a fresh
graduate and I managed to land a job
with the Obama administration yeah
you’re right the mechanized a Department
of Energy and the environment was
challenging everything was super fast
paced and I was working with some of the
best engineers scientists in the world
you know it’s honor working alongside
those folks but at the same time I had
this syndrome maybe you’ve heard of it
it’s called imposter syndrome it’s one
of these things we have these questions
that come up you start to doubt yourself
start to say what I’m even doing here if
these guys you know respect me I don’t
know what I’m doing
this all came to a head one day when our
chief of staff of the office had just
came back from a safari in Kenya and he
told us he brought us all back a gift
that represented how he worked in the
office so at one point I’m like excited
finally I get feedback because you know
if we get feedback usually it’s because
you did something really wrong okay or
it could be really good I finally get to
know how I fit so it’s 8 a.m. my morning
meeting the shutters 10:00 deciding to
do the the window that’s facing the
National Mall we’re all seated around
the rectangular table chief of staff is
at the head so he’s calling us up one by
one he calls up the budget advisor first
by the virus standing next to it he says
here’s an office give them a wooden
statue of a Thomas because you are
strong and dependable and able to carry
your weight in the weight of everyone
else in this office he thing cause of
the dead to eat you first and you get
the giraffe because you’re able to stick
your neck down for everyone and see
above the frame please doing this my
heart is pounding I have that a syndrome
you know maybe those questions will be
fine validated maybe I’ll finally be the
one that he seizes I’m doing something
here
they calls me on the last one as I’m
standing next to he’s breeches down to
his left pocket and pulled out a wooden
figures about this big said to them he
falls over and picks it up hands in in
my direction and he says
excellent this is for you an ostrich
because you think you can fly but you
never will my heart hit the floor I’m
angry I’m humiliated this guy just to
make matters worse I had to take this
thing and put it on my desk like
everyone else proudly display it for the
rest of the day look at it but at least
I do one thing I knew where I stood that
I don’t even stand at all it was awful
you might be this is think this is the
point where I stood up and ran to his
office and gave him that letter of
resignation but I didn’t I didn’t it
took me five years five years to finally
make the change I needed to improve my
life I’m sure you will probably go
through something like this is why I’m
sharing with you this is a promise that
nothing is real or you may have gone
through something like this before
when I finally resigned in February 2015
I went on an 18-month research
sabbatical where I got to explore the
question how can i generate happiness
for myself and reduce my own suffering
so that I can do the same for others you
know I learned a lot on this journey but
the main thing that I learned was that
happiness is a choice I think this is a
choice mrs. made proven and I stumbled
upon a research study by a very good
time psychologist and a birthday she
basically found that outside of our
genetics the next biggest influence on
our overall perception of happiness is
the choices we make the choices we make
and if the choices we made bring us
happiness to meet choice equals power
okay towards means power and power means
creativity creation if you are able to
have be empowered
you’re able to create the future you
want
this notion was kind of echoing goodness
you might not have heard this guy before
but he’s a well-known neurologist and a
Holocaust survivor he says that between
a stimulus something that’s causing you
trouble and the response that you had
there’s this space in the middle you
gotta realize that there’s a space you
can choose in that space lies our power
to choose how we want to respond might
seem simple but it’s quite big in that
power in our response is inaudible is
our freedom is our growth this happiness
to me does that got me thinking you know
what’s the common thread here what is
the common thread about this creation
thing that to me the most the first
point of creation everything you see
Edna’s multiverse was started here
started with a bump that’s the first
unit of creation don’t take my word for
new breakthroughs in the fields of
neural cardiology in mine science and
you know what else you’re showing that
the brain does not have a monopoly on
thing the heart and the gut can do
something of their own and many times
they’re sending orders to the brain this
research has been seen in countless
number of books on emotional
intelligence and positive psychology
specifically business related books
business leaders are some of the most
successful companies are leveraging the
multiverse within them to make some of
the best decisions to make more creative
decisions make more innovative decisions
so that’s the case how can everyone how
can the average employee how can the
average student leverage their inner
multiverses wealth to get out of there
at first situation luckily there are
lots of tools out there but they’re
quite kind of dance
and what we’ve done at human ii is
really kind of pump those tools into a
simple framework and we utilize some
tools and experiences i call it empathy
map and two basic principles of
cognitive psychology as well so another
thought that you don’t want to try it
you want to try some of these tools okay
let’s try some so this is a really
simple tool called the empathy map but
before we do that let’s so maybe get
calm and relaxed in our chairs but here
anything you have in your hands you can
put it in your lap or and just let your
wait sit in the chair with the chair
take you you can take a deep breath in
blow it out slow
just relax can’t even look down at the
floor close your eyes you awaken as
you’re relaxing your eyes are closed
bring to mind the last maybe three
months a challenging situation whether
that they have worked with a colleague
or something in life let it come to my
let it come into your body mind continue
to relax you have your eyes closed
continue to keep them closed now you
want to pay attention through five
different things you want to take
yourself out of that situation and go
behind almost the video camera as if you
are looking at yourself in this
challenging situation through a video
camera you looking for a couple things
one what are you doing what is the
physical thing dirt them are you running
are you shouting are you wishing
something what do you doing capture that
thanks what are you saying what are you
saying to this person into your
colleague what are you actually saying
almost if you could capture the okay
what are you thinking as this situation
happen what is going in your mind what
do you what are the thoughts that are
happening next what are you feeling what
are those unpleasant feelings that are
coming up capture it and last what do
you need give it that you feeling you
have these unpleasant thoughts and
feelings what are you needing and it’s
time something tangible maybe it’s
overvalued possibly you got that image
hold it
good you can open your eyes and will
affect up here now for example what if I
would have had a Timothy back into and
this is just training wheels sometimes
you can use this just on the spot what
if I was it had a tool like this when I
was called an ostrich what I realized
maybe that what I was doing was choosing
to sit in the back of the room when the
boss was telling me to come sit next to
him what I want to realize that you know
I was saying to my colleagues that you
know I don’t know how to do this for you
know this time seems impossible maybe I
would have realized that I was thinking
that I don’t know what I’m doing I’m
telling myself that I’m thinking I’m not
experience I’m feeling anxious I’m
feeling maybe hesitant and just burnt
out and at the end of the day what I
need is support I need clarity and maybe
some fun so coming back to you if you
were to use something like this think
about that situation you had and map out
those things those are your centers of
intelligence this is where you’re going
to find that next creative solution and
I believe if you do this this will be to
some sort of new approach to looking at
your challenge so what if you did this
the next time you had something smaller
like planning your day or firefighting a
situation at work what if you did this
in partnership you have something more
than blame and judgment to communicate
about you had actually needs to say in
the word one of our organizations use
this as a way to make their employee and
experience more engaging more productive
employees or an innovative employee
pulling that look like and then you know
and I challenge you today
before the challenge you must remember
one thing that no remember that those
that will help you develop the feelings
that’s probably the most important part
of the graph is the feelings list I
think it’s a really hard thing to define
people to struggle with that and also
the needs okay but again the thing if
you’re going to take away anything today
is remember that that combine that you
have leads to it a receptivity okay that
receptivity will lead to openness and
that openness will lead to creativity
and that’s what you need a gap in that
situation so goes back to you please
choose to use that super power of choice
to choose calmness and open yourself to
that inner creative intelligence that
you have thank you
[Applause]
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