to stop for a moment and think about the
way that you got into this tent was it
because this is the only place where
there is air conditioned and beanbag or
was it because a friend invited you to
come and he said that it’s going to be
interesting we’ll see or you don’t have
any idea at all how you got here I’m
going to talk about the way that I got
on this stage and my story is related
with horses and of course I didn’t come
on horseback to the island and I’m not
going to talk about horseback riding
either but I’m going to talk about the
relationship and the connection with
these amazing creatures and they how
they helped me to find my way and how I
helped others to find their way with
their help ever since I was conscious I
there were always horses around me I
remember that every day in school I was
waiting for the moment where I could go
to the fields behind our hard house
where my horses were and as you can see
there is no equipment on the horses no
saddle no bit nothing so I had to wait
and look for the opportunity when they
let us on their back I had to pay a very
good attention to their body language
and I had to see when they are scared
when they have the intention to run
because I had to stay alive somehow so
when they ran I just grabbed our mains
and went with them and when they grazed
I just laid back on their back and watch
the clouds at the same time I had to
stay connected with myself as well and
also stay present so at that time I
didn’t know that it was a very very
important skier that I was developing
then the teenage years came they were
fast and furious with a lot of ups and
downs mostly emotionally and when I was
18 I began to work as an assistant
makeup art
so I was washing brushes making coffee
and in my free time I was working on my
own creative project and as I started
individually very very in a very few
years I was nominated for the best
makeup artist in Hungary and I won this
prize
I was happy but at the same time I felt
the same kind of shame I felt like it’s
too early I’m too young I began to limit
myself and also I heard some negative
and Envy voices around me from the
people so at hard parts like this
luckily I had a great friend and he was
always there for me and he accepted me
the way I was and he opened my heart to
the non-judgmental feeling of love and
compassion towards myself and others he
had four legs and he is the same age as
me and we grew up together okay but how
could possibly horses do that let me
explain a little bit about this process
horses are prey animals and that means
that they are surrounding their
environment all the time when you are
with the horse you will see that the
colors are more vivid you can hear the
voices more clearly you can smell
different smells of the forest so it’s
kind of like a heightened awareness
which is very close to an altered state
of consciousness and also you will feel
that you are more connected to nature
and you are part of nature and that
apart from that also you will have to
pay very close attention to their body
language because if you are tensed then
the horse is going to be tense but you
have to see if it that comes from you
through your body language or the horse
is tense because he’s scared of the
strange noise coming from the bushes I’m
sure it’s gonna eat me I’m very very
afraid or maybe because he is in pain so
in this way this constant
call-and-response between the horse and
you will help you to separate your own
feelings from the feelings of others and
how through your body language you can
affect the
and the other can affect you so that was
a very important skill again that I was
developing with him and I remember one
day I felt like I am rushed by everyone
around me I had a lot of things to do I
felt like I don’t have enough time and I
always felt that somebody is behind me
chasing me and I have to go and do
things so I just wanted to have a break
out of it so I went out to the fields to
take a walk with my horse usually I
could go very close to him and I put the
leading rope around his neck and we went
out for a walk we were off to go but not
this time as soon as I got close to him
and was trying to touch him he just run
away to the other part of the forest so
I was like running up and down like
crazy trying to find him and I was
thinking like I don’t believe this I
came here for a moment I came here to
clear my mind and it’s happening and I’m
rushed again and finally I stopped and
realized that he was just mirroring how
I felt and how I was acting and he just
felt my chasing energy so I stopped and
I finally arrived where I was I began to
concentrate on my breathing and as I was
working on myself like this I found him
close to me and putting his head in my
hands it was a very very important
moment for me that by just being aware
what is going on around me
things can change these disturbing image
emotions went away and I felt like these
big problems in my head just shifted and
finally everything was in its right
place in the following years I was
working as a makeup artist I was working
every day with different cast and crew I
have to adapt very quickly to various
situations and also I had to create an
intimate and supporting atmosphere even
it was actresses or actors behind their
scene or singers stepping out on a stage
or models before going to a photo
shooting and they were trying to get
into the right
I had to pay attention to very small
details to enhance their beauty and not
to put the mask on them to see their
true colors and also I had to stay
connected to myself as well to do the
job at that time I didn’t know that I’d
learned these skills from the horses but
I didn’t have to know it to be able to
use them after a while I was very
successful my name was recognized in the
industry I made good money and I began
to feel lost and unhappy too how could
this possibly be I thought that I found
my true calling and all the people
around me said that nothing is enough
for you I would be very happy in your
shoes and I began to feel like this as
well but you know I couldn’t resist I
wasn’t happy something was missing so
somehow I was looking for a leader or a
guru or someone to help me out here and
as I was discussing my problems with my
partner he said that I always told him
that when I will be old I will be
working with horses and people maybe
children and he said hmm I think you
should start it now I think you should
go out to the forest and take a walk
with your horse and with your friends
and just see what happens you shouldn’t
have any expectations about it to see so
I did and they enjoyed it and so did I
after a few interactions and very simple
exercises with the horses they felt more
centered more aware more connected to
themselves and also I felt very happy
about it so not so long later I was
crawling on social media very useful
sometimes and an ad came up it said
horse assisted self development wow what
is that this is what I want to do I
never knew that something like this
exists and I knew from that moment that
this is what I want to do this is what I
will do
and learn no matter what so from there
on a beautiful journey started for me
with the suck blood of sacrifices and a
lot of resistance and a lot of change
it’s hard to change sometimes you think
it’s easy but for me it was a constant
trial for a while first of all I had to
sell all my designer stuff I collected
in the 13 years working in a fashion
industry to pay for my tuition it sounds
funny but but for me it was a constant
in an inner monologue about what is
important and what is not as David tools
of my persona for such a long time
secondly I had to see what I have around
me and what I have inside me what I
should use and what I should get rid of
to adapt to a new lifestyle I wanted to
live I had to see the resources and also
the obstacles to reach my goal thirdly I
had to resist negative voices around me
saying you’re insane you build yourself
up you put so much in it and you want to
give up your career but horses helped
and I realized that this was that their
fear and their feeling of fear not mine
and also I realized that if I go on with
my plan maybe I can achieve it without
hearing or just being a little bit deaf
about what they are saying so one day a
woman came to the stables to have a
one-to-one session with me when I was
just working as a horse assisted trainer
it’s just starting it and she said I
have difficulties and when it’s time to
connect with someone because I had
previous traumas in my relationships and
I feel like that my past is somehow
affecting my present and I want to see
what’s happening I said okay so she came
to the stables on a day when it was very
windy and stormy and crowded cloudy and
the horse was acting like crazy running
up and down the arena kneeing for the
others
and just couldn’t stop for a minute
feeling panicked lost and terribly out
of trust so I just led the women to be
together with the horse that’s the first
exercise we do just to share the space
and I told the lady that this horse is
feeling lost terrified panic and
panicked and totally out of trust can
you relate to these feelings at all and
she said yes this is exactly how I’m
feeling so I just asked her to share the
space and stay together with these
feelings and with the horse and see what
happens
and as she just stay there and let the
running away part go the horse just
began to come to her and she was able
and managed to lead her around the arena
with a leading group and even picking up
her leg for horses picking up a horse’s
leg is a very very big thing because
they are prey animals and their legs are
the most important thing for them so
they don’t give it for anyone even only
if they are feeling really trust in the
other person so after the session she
told me that she can gain her self
esteem back and also that she learned
how to deal with this lost and panicked
and abandoned child inside her and how
she can manage to go on so this is who I
was his help so if you are coherent and
what you feel what you think and what
you do is in harmony then they stay
around if you smile but that’s fake they
simply go away from you but if you are
true and honest then they stay there
even that if it includes tears in your
eyes
so as Arnold Brasi a very famous
therapist said change occurs when one
becomes what he is not what he is trying
to become when he what he is not my the
feedback from my clients whether they
are leaders of big companies or
housewives or working women or working
man is always different but one thing is
always the same these animals bring them
closer to themselves
always so as I was looking for a guru or
a leader I found that horses are the
best gurus they helped me to follow my
intention to feel sense and hear what’s
around me I let myself affect these
things but also not to lose myself to
stay connected with my feelings even if
they are difficult feelings or hard
feelings because these have a lot of
very emotional important messages from
our true selves so next time if you are
looking for a guru or a leader then just
look for someone who accepts you fully
as you are who are non-judgmental and
helps you to stay honest and true thank you
way that you got into this tent was it
because this is the only place where
there is air conditioned and beanbag or
was it because a friend invited you to
come and he said that it’s going to be
interesting we’ll see or you don’t have
any idea at all how you got here I’m
going to talk about the way that I got
on this stage and my story is related
with horses and of course I didn’t come
on horseback to the island and I’m not
going to talk about horseback riding
either but I’m going to talk about the
relationship and the connection with
these amazing creatures and they how
they helped me to find my way and how I
helped others to find their way with
their help ever since I was conscious I
there were always horses around me I
remember that every day in school I was
waiting for the moment where I could go
to the fields behind our hard house
where my horses were and as you can see
there is no equipment on the horses no
saddle no bit nothing so I had to wait
and look for the opportunity when they
let us on their back I had to pay a very
good attention to their body language
and I had to see when they are scared
when they have the intention to run
because I had to stay alive somehow so
when they ran I just grabbed our mains
and went with them and when they grazed
I just laid back on their back and watch
the clouds at the same time I had to
stay connected with myself as well and
also stay present so at that time I
didn’t know that it was a very very
important skier that I was developing
then the teenage years came they were
fast and furious with a lot of ups and
downs mostly emotionally and when I was
18 I began to work as an assistant
makeup art
so I was washing brushes making coffee
and in my free time I was working on my
own creative project and as I started
individually very very in a very few
years I was nominated for the best
makeup artist in Hungary and I won this
prize
I was happy but at the same time I felt
the same kind of shame I felt like it’s
too early I’m too young I began to limit
myself and also I heard some negative
and Envy voices around me from the
people so at hard parts like this
luckily I had a great friend and he was
always there for me and he accepted me
the way I was and he opened my heart to
the non-judgmental feeling of love and
compassion towards myself and others he
had four legs and he is the same age as
me and we grew up together okay but how
could possibly horses do that let me
explain a little bit about this process
horses are prey animals and that means
that they are surrounding their
environment all the time when you are
with the horse you will see that the
colors are more vivid you can hear the
voices more clearly you can smell
different smells of the forest so it’s
kind of like a heightened awareness
which is very close to an altered state
of consciousness and also you will feel
that you are more connected to nature
and you are part of nature and that
apart from that also you will have to
pay very close attention to their body
language because if you are tensed then
the horse is going to be tense but you
have to see if it that comes from you
through your body language or the horse
is tense because he’s scared of the
strange noise coming from the bushes I’m
sure it’s gonna eat me I’m very very
afraid or maybe because he is in pain so
in this way this constant
call-and-response between the horse and
you will help you to separate your own
feelings from the feelings of others and
how through your body language you can
affect the
and the other can affect you so that was
a very important skill again that I was
developing with him and I remember one
day I felt like I am rushed by everyone
around me I had a lot of things to do I
felt like I don’t have enough time and I
always felt that somebody is behind me
chasing me and I have to go and do
things so I just wanted to have a break
out of it so I went out to the fields to
take a walk with my horse usually I
could go very close to him and I put the
leading rope around his neck and we went
out for a walk we were off to go but not
this time as soon as I got close to him
and was trying to touch him he just run
away to the other part of the forest so
I was like running up and down like
crazy trying to find him and I was
thinking like I don’t believe this I
came here for a moment I came here to
clear my mind and it’s happening and I’m
rushed again and finally I stopped and
realized that he was just mirroring how
I felt and how I was acting and he just
felt my chasing energy so I stopped and
I finally arrived where I was I began to
concentrate on my breathing and as I was
working on myself like this I found him
close to me and putting his head in my
hands it was a very very important
moment for me that by just being aware
what is going on around me
things can change these disturbing image
emotions went away and I felt like these
big problems in my head just shifted and
finally everything was in its right
place in the following years I was
working as a makeup artist I was working
every day with different cast and crew I
have to adapt very quickly to various
situations and also I had to create an
intimate and supporting atmosphere even
it was actresses or actors behind their
scene or singers stepping out on a stage
or models before going to a photo
shooting and they were trying to get
into the right
I had to pay attention to very small
details to enhance their beauty and not
to put the mask on them to see their
true colors and also I had to stay
connected to myself as well to do the
job at that time I didn’t know that I’d
learned these skills from the horses but
I didn’t have to know it to be able to
use them after a while I was very
successful my name was recognized in the
industry I made good money and I began
to feel lost and unhappy too how could
this possibly be I thought that I found
my true calling and all the people
around me said that nothing is enough
for you I would be very happy in your
shoes and I began to feel like this as
well but you know I couldn’t resist I
wasn’t happy something was missing so
somehow I was looking for a leader or a
guru or someone to help me out here and
as I was discussing my problems with my
partner he said that I always told him
that when I will be old I will be
working with horses and people maybe
children and he said hmm I think you
should start it now I think you should
go out to the forest and take a walk
with your horse and with your friends
and just see what happens you shouldn’t
have any expectations about it to see so
I did and they enjoyed it and so did I
after a few interactions and very simple
exercises with the horses they felt more
centered more aware more connected to
themselves and also I felt very happy
about it so not so long later I was
crawling on social media very useful
sometimes and an ad came up it said
horse assisted self development wow what
is that this is what I want to do I
never knew that something like this
exists and I knew from that moment that
this is what I want to do this is what I
will do
and learn no matter what so from there
on a beautiful journey started for me
with the suck blood of sacrifices and a
lot of resistance and a lot of change
it’s hard to change sometimes you think
it’s easy but for me it was a constant
trial for a while first of all I had to
sell all my designer stuff I collected
in the 13 years working in a fashion
industry to pay for my tuition it sounds
funny but but for me it was a constant
in an inner monologue about what is
important and what is not as David tools
of my persona for such a long time
secondly I had to see what I have around
me and what I have inside me what I
should use and what I should get rid of
to adapt to a new lifestyle I wanted to
live I had to see the resources and also
the obstacles to reach my goal thirdly I
had to resist negative voices around me
saying you’re insane you build yourself
up you put so much in it and you want to
give up your career but horses helped
and I realized that this was that their
fear and their feeling of fear not mine
and also I realized that if I go on with
my plan maybe I can achieve it without
hearing or just being a little bit deaf
about what they are saying so one day a
woman came to the stables to have a
one-to-one session with me when I was
just working as a horse assisted trainer
it’s just starting it and she said I
have difficulties and when it’s time to
connect with someone because I had
previous traumas in my relationships and
I feel like that my past is somehow
affecting my present and I want to see
what’s happening I said okay so she came
to the stables on a day when it was very
windy and stormy and crowded cloudy and
the horse was acting like crazy running
up and down the arena kneeing for the
others
and just couldn’t stop for a minute
feeling panicked lost and terribly out
of trust so I just led the women to be
together with the horse that’s the first
exercise we do just to share the space
and I told the lady that this horse is
feeling lost terrified panic and
panicked and totally out of trust can
you relate to these feelings at all and
she said yes this is exactly how I’m
feeling so I just asked her to share the
space and stay together with these
feelings and with the horse and see what
happens
and as she just stay there and let the
running away part go the horse just
began to come to her and she was able
and managed to lead her around the arena
with a leading group and even picking up
her leg for horses picking up a horse’s
leg is a very very big thing because
they are prey animals and their legs are
the most important thing for them so
they don’t give it for anyone even only
if they are feeling really trust in the
other person so after the session she
told me that she can gain her self
esteem back and also that she learned
how to deal with this lost and panicked
and abandoned child inside her and how
she can manage to go on so this is who I
was his help so if you are coherent and
what you feel what you think and what
you do is in harmony then they stay
around if you smile but that’s fake they
simply go away from you but if you are
true and honest then they stay there
even that if it includes tears in your
eyes
so as Arnold Brasi a very famous
therapist said change occurs when one
becomes what he is not what he is trying
to become when he what he is not my the
feedback from my clients whether they
are leaders of big companies or
housewives or working women or working
man is always different but one thing is
always the same these animals bring them
closer to themselves
always so as I was looking for a guru or
a leader I found that horses are the
best gurus they helped me to follow my
intention to feel sense and hear what’s
around me I let myself affect these
things but also not to lose myself to
stay connected with my feelings even if
they are difficult feelings or hard
feelings because these have a lot of
very emotional important messages from
our true selves so next time if you are
looking for a guru or a leader then just
look for someone who accepts you fully
as you are who are non-judgmental and
helps you to stay honest and true thank you
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