[Music]
good afternoon everybody today my topic
is stress so I would say I just like to
correct something I am working in this
field from more than 15 years it’s my
16th here in this profession as a
psychologist and I would like to share
that today my topic is stress –
happiness
maybe we all feel stressed always and
there is the stress word which needs no
introduction in our life when you talk
about stress I will say small amount of
stresses required or good for health
but beyond the I would say the minimal
beyond the expectations
it’s always bad for health and gives you
physical as well as psychological
problems when you talk about the
problems in life and just like to share
a small story of a very famous person
Christopher Columbus when he was very
successful because he went to discover
India and eventually he discovered
America so in his honor people threw a
party to give him the guest of honor
so the moment he entered the party
people mocked about him
what a great did think he did if
somebody offered us to sail we also sail
and discover something like this he felt
bad he went to the stage even people who
were sitting across to him
they also mocked about him that he has
no standards and no knowledge about what
he has did and then they give him the
guest of honor and after giving him the
honor
so they said say few water tanks then he
said I want an egg hey egg in my hand
he took the egg in his hand he told
everybody can you help me out to put
this egg straight on the table without
his support system you can lie down the
egg on a table without a support system
but you can’t straightly put the egg on
a table what he did nobody was able to
make that thing happen and then they
said please do this for us
so he slightly tap tag on from the tip
and he pleased that straightly on the
table everybody clapped then he said you
know what I did anybody can do that the
idea came into my head was that’s the
great so that’s why that’s my greatness
to make you the story listen I want to
tell you how much you do
life wherever you reach in your life
whether you are as a student topper
whatever you do even you became a
celebrity one day you feel you face
criticism in life whatever you do you
face criticism from your parents from
your friends even you compare yourself
with others you feel problems but at
that time what you have to do you have
to think about what is your achievement
and if you wanted to convert that
negativity into creativity that is in
your mind and that you have to focus on
how you can make others understand where
you are what you are when you talk about
the stress it comes or there are lots of
sources of stress it’s imposed sometimes
like sitting in the silence to be in
strict discipline it is also a source of
stress for lots of people when you talk
about assignment like particular time
period everybody belongs to us that
there is the 18 minutes or 60 minutes
times to all of us even you people have
the examination to clear in three hours
that is also assignment to impose of
stress on you choosen sometimes we have
some targets for ourselves we want to
accomplish certain marks or we have some
self required standards we put for
ourselves that is also the form of chews
and stress and then devised when there
is no stress but still we feel when you
go to operation theater or when you face
somewhere the stress is not there even
your friends also created certain
situation very where you feel stress now
that is called device stress to
understand stress and handle stress
people always have the problem while my
career of 15 years I counseled more than
3,100 cases independently in that I will
say comes with lots of people
individually one-to-one on numerous as I
spend with them face to face sessions I
realize one thing people have the
problem in handling the stress and what
is the module how we handle stress there
is a very famous module for handling
stresses ABCDEF models which we talk
about ABCDEF model it’s the simplest way
how you can deal with your stress what
is a it called it about activating
situation which is called it and
diversity when
something negative happen in our life
when we’re talking about today Revathy
sees life that has husband or there was
no money in his in her life so that was
the activating incident in in your life
when you have low grades what you
thought about you expected off you get
it that is also a diversity incident in
your life then what is about bee-bees
our belief system what we can do oh I
can’t achieve success I can’t get money
what how I will survive how much I get
the good marks whether I will get the
good marks or I will not get the good
marks or whether I will be successful in
life are not successful in life same way
if you have the activating event like
after completing my BTech or mtext I
will go to the University out of the
university whether I will be get
selected for the interview or not to be
so the belief system it may be the
previous experiences of us the belief
system may be whatever parents taught us
the belief system is what we think about
ourselves see consequences in belief
system that impacts of our personality
when you talk about consequences we
shattered feeling sad our heart
populations fear people had different
physical issues problems because of that
belief system somebody have the fear I
can’t do that I won’t be able to study
I started feeling anxious I started
feeling stressed out so this is all the
belief system have the consequences and
then the current term come D which is
called disputing when you talk about
disputing it is logical thinking how
your logical thinking is thinking that
is if this situation is right or wrong
if I am not getting the good marks so
maybe whether I am intelligent or not
intelligent we started doubting on our
own selves is it true is it not true
whether what I have read in my life it’s
your logical system start activating and
you deciding about what is right and
wrong and then comes to be II into
limelight where the effective new
feelings your new belief system started
coming okay I can do this in Rev these
case she decided about I can do this
maybe her family also support
for that but activating new feelings I
can do that I can be clear in the exam I
can get the good marks I studied have
enough in my life and I can do all those
things what I thought of about my life I
will be successful I will get selected
in the interview all those things are
there and then is feelings the feelings
of happiness contentment will
automatically come so when all these
things about stress management comes
it’s all about beliefs which even
Swamiji talked about there is a need to
change or challenge the belief system
which is from our childhood which we
called out from temperament inherited
God through genes from parents or either
we have the past experiences because
whenever any incident happen in our life
what we started thinking we are not
worth it
or even we have lot of even achievements
in our life we always thought of we will
never get to achieve that particular
thing but now we thought of or either we
are not particular stage where we are so
handle the stress there is simple
formula we made it long term back that’s
about the word itself six alphabet s TR
e double s thus word s indicates I
always suggest everybody who are into
stress go and get involve yourself in
sports and physical activity forty
minutes per day any physical activity
helps us our physical fitness also a
mind calms down because there are
sometimes because of a mechanical
routine even as the students you have
lot of projects to complete it you have
lots of things to do maybe you have lots
of aspirations ambitions to achieve
something in life there are lots of
ideas because of those ideas sometimes
people don’t get the sleep also so at
that time I always suggest them there is
a need to be getting more into physical
activity which is very essential part of
our health also and definitely it
activates our brain to set allow T trips
most of the time due to your schedules
you don’t take a time out time out to
have holiday either with the group or as
a solo either with friends or family
which is very much required for
me when you are even having the exams
people don’t take a break in exams I
always suggest students to at least take
a timeout when he will you are studying
if you want timeout doesn’t mean you
have to take a holiday it is just keep
the phone aside keep the books aside
even whatever the work you are doing it
put yourself into silence for the time
being ah recreational activity I always
suggest to get involve yourself into
humor watching comedy because humor is
also a way how you can ventilate your
negative energies in the practical way
because life is full of problems
and stress is also the part of that life
it is not going to I will say remove at
any cost because you have the courage to
face those problems in life for that you
have to be strong enough and humor is
one of the way to release the negative
energy e eating healthy diet that is
very important and when you have a
healthy right because most of the time
when we are stressed we stopped eating
drinking there are lots of students
during the exams times they forget about
to eat have a food having proper water
intake even do to rial people who are
doing certain things in our life we
forget about to have the proper diet we
run about the money and all over the
routines but it’s like proper diet is
essential for the health because in the
car there is a requirement enough fuel
same way in body the requirement of
water in food is equivalent important so
having three times meal especially the
for the students I always suggest on the
people the breakfast is very much
required and it should be bit of heavier
as compared to the lunch or a dinner
because you have the numerous hours
after the dinner till break first and
then is another world called s sharing
and listening we are in the habit of not
to share our thoughts
some people are introvert don’t go and
share their thoughts with others some
people share a lot and don’t listen so
sharing and listening is equivalent
important if we don’t share go to a
professional go and share with your
friends who understand you if somebody
has that nor not have that option I
always suggest write down your thoughts
which actually disturbs your
mind write it down on a computer laptop
mobile iPad wherever you feel even on a
piece of paper but don’t read it it’s
like when the antivirus you scan in your
computer what you do you don’t open the
antivirus again because once you open it
again it will again spoil the other
files and folders of your mind of your
computer
same way in life also when you are
sharing your thoughts or writing your
negative thoughts don’t keep it up with
you if you’ll keep it it’s against spoil
your system because negativity or
garbage where well you put it will stink
today tomorrow or later so I would
request you if you share out your
thoughts that’s the best way if you
don’t have friends family at least write
it down on a piece of people don’t save
it don’t read it just delete it or tear
it off and then listening some people
are in the habit of sharing but not in
the habit of listening listening is the
equivalent important as well as of
sharing and that’s where the challenge
comes because it is the way how you have
to change yourself and it’s very
difficult for some people to listen
others so but it is the necessity of
life to lead a stressful stress-free
life you have to listen also and the
last is sound sleep and smile always use
your bed just for sleeping time not for
watching TV having dinner or doing other
activities always says go to the bed at
that time when you are feeling that you
are sleeping you are about to sleep
especially when you are sharing in the
habit or writing in the thoughts then at
least you have to do that activity in
the night time that would be the best
thing and the smile smile is the way how
you can I would serve in the hearts of
people and it costs nothing whether you
have anything in your life in anything
in your hand
it definitely activates your system and
to having a balanced and stress-free
life there is a particular module how a
human life should work which is the idle
pinnate form I will say the car has four
wheels same way life has also three
wheels which required courier second
your individual self and third is
relationship the
and life is required every aspect has
equivalent important I versus we is
equivalent important and definitely
courier is equally important when you
talk about career career is not about
earning money only it is about whether
you are content what you are doing and
what you are not doing so there is one
aspect of life but it is not your whole
life
same way relationships relationships are
equivalent part of life but again they
are the part of life and when you talk
about relationship at your parents it’s
your children it’s your life partner for
the students they are girlfriends and
along with that your relatives neighbors
your colleagues business associates they
all are the important part of life but
again not your life one of the part so
keep them the part and the most
important part is I would say individual
self and most of the time to lead a
stress-free life or to lead a happy life
we forget about our own self and that’s
very important when you say that that’s
very important we have to take care of a
physical health because eyes equally
important as well as V eyes thinking
about your own self and sometimes we
forget about our own self and think
about our aims ambitions expectations
whether it is parental expectations
whether our self created expectations
whether we thought of our self standards
of our moral standards are very high
some people are self predicts in such a
situations I always suggest people talk
about I love myself when they talk about
I love myself I have the other other
questions too always them what you do
for yourself taking care of your
physical health and physical health is
also a form of lots of things
appearance exercise and diet which is
equivalent important to take care of
your own self second intellectual growth
whatever is happening all around the
world are you aware about that may be
news politics bollywood hollywood sports
everything a person should be how much
it should be I would say you can’t think
of that anything or everything you can
do other thing we talked about emotional
growth which is I talking about sharing
is equivalent important and most of the
time we forget about the emotional
growth of our own cells
which is important then a spiritual
growth involved yourself into
spirituality it’s nothing his like some
people don’t believe in God I will just
say thanks for what you have at least
once in a day whether it is the supreme
power you call it a la la hey guru you
Karthik Lord Krishna
or Jesus whoever you believe there is
some supreme power who handle all of us
and say thanks to and ask for what you
want in life it will naturally give
because it says natural law of life is
that then is about interest and hobbies
people forget about while focusing on
the goals in life what are their
interests and hobbies whenever you get
time get involved in those hobbies it
may be sketching painting dancing
singing cooking I would say guitar piano
whatever you like to do involve yourself
in those activities and then definitely
always talk about your liking and
disliking most of the time people don’t
know about what they like and what they
don’t like that’s very important to know
the person and definitely in line
talking about dreams dreams as a self
not as the kids not as as a son of
somebody as a husband or somebody not as
a social person also your own dreams
what you want to do where you want to
see yourself because kids even we as an
individual with the passage of time we
forget about what are our dreams Sofie
should think about I versus V because
that we forget most of the time and then
is about happiness we all talk about
today’s happiness so I believe in
happiness start with H a double P again
the five L bovitz
who op on your own self on your own self
definitely I versus V on others even
life partner in the people in our
surroundings everybody
then a appreciation most of the time of
longer to appreciate ourselves and
people who are in to appreciation their
own self they have to learn to
appreciate others also others include
everybody friends family siblings spouse
and then pampering we forget to pamper
ourselves starts with you and then with
others and then the last I would say
pursuing goals sometimes we perceive
goals to further life for the people for
the family we forget about what we want
to pursue in our life and wise yourself
as well as others so we are equally
important for ourselves and others so my
request is if you want to be happy in
life first be happy with your own self
once you are happy then only you can
make others happy because if you are
happy you can make others happy up to
certain extent you can’t make others
happy or everybody happy in your whole
life
because balance life is more important
or happy and contented life is more
important as compared to everything else
thank you
[Applause]
good afternoon everybody today my topic
is stress so I would say I just like to
correct something I am working in this
field from more than 15 years it’s my
16th here in this profession as a
psychologist and I would like to share
that today my topic is stress –
happiness
maybe we all feel stressed always and
there is the stress word which needs no
introduction in our life when you talk
about stress I will say small amount of
stresses required or good for health
but beyond the I would say the minimal
beyond the expectations
it’s always bad for health and gives you
physical as well as psychological
problems when you talk about the
problems in life and just like to share
a small story of a very famous person
Christopher Columbus when he was very
successful because he went to discover
India and eventually he discovered
America so in his honor people threw a
party to give him the guest of honor
so the moment he entered the party
people mocked about him
what a great did think he did if
somebody offered us to sail we also sail
and discover something like this he felt
bad he went to the stage even people who
were sitting across to him
they also mocked about him that he has
no standards and no knowledge about what
he has did and then they give him the
guest of honor and after giving him the
honor
so they said say few water tanks then he
said I want an egg hey egg in my hand
he took the egg in his hand he told
everybody can you help me out to put
this egg straight on the table without
his support system you can lie down the
egg on a table without a support system
but you can’t straightly put the egg on
a table what he did nobody was able to
make that thing happen and then they
said please do this for us
so he slightly tap tag on from the tip
and he pleased that straightly on the
table everybody clapped then he said you
know what I did anybody can do that the
idea came into my head was that’s the
great so that’s why that’s my greatness
to make you the story listen I want to
tell you how much you do
life wherever you reach in your life
whether you are as a student topper
whatever you do even you became a
celebrity one day you feel you face
criticism in life whatever you do you
face criticism from your parents from
your friends even you compare yourself
with others you feel problems but at
that time what you have to do you have
to think about what is your achievement
and if you wanted to convert that
negativity into creativity that is in
your mind and that you have to focus on
how you can make others understand where
you are what you are when you talk about
the stress it comes or there are lots of
sources of stress it’s imposed sometimes
like sitting in the silence to be in
strict discipline it is also a source of
stress for lots of people when you talk
about assignment like particular time
period everybody belongs to us that
there is the 18 minutes or 60 minutes
times to all of us even you people have
the examination to clear in three hours
that is also assignment to impose of
stress on you choosen sometimes we have
some targets for ourselves we want to
accomplish certain marks or we have some
self required standards we put for
ourselves that is also the form of chews
and stress and then devised when there
is no stress but still we feel when you
go to operation theater or when you face
somewhere the stress is not there even
your friends also created certain
situation very where you feel stress now
that is called device stress to
understand stress and handle stress
people always have the problem while my
career of 15 years I counseled more than
3,100 cases independently in that I will
say comes with lots of people
individually one-to-one on numerous as I
spend with them face to face sessions I
realize one thing people have the
problem in handling the stress and what
is the module how we handle stress there
is a very famous module for handling
stresses ABCDEF models which we talk
about ABCDEF model it’s the simplest way
how you can deal with your stress what
is a it called it about activating
situation which is called it and
diversity when
something negative happen in our life
when we’re talking about today Revathy
sees life that has husband or there was
no money in his in her life so that was
the activating incident in in your life
when you have low grades what you
thought about you expected off you get
it that is also a diversity incident in
your life then what is about bee-bees
our belief system what we can do oh I
can’t achieve success I can’t get money
what how I will survive how much I get
the good marks whether I will get the
good marks or I will not get the good
marks or whether I will be successful in
life are not successful in life same way
if you have the activating event like
after completing my BTech or mtext I
will go to the University out of the
university whether I will be get
selected for the interview or not to be
so the belief system it may be the
previous experiences of us the belief
system may be whatever parents taught us
the belief system is what we think about
ourselves see consequences in belief
system that impacts of our personality
when you talk about consequences we
shattered feeling sad our heart
populations fear people had different
physical issues problems because of that
belief system somebody have the fear I
can’t do that I won’t be able to study
I started feeling anxious I started
feeling stressed out so this is all the
belief system have the consequences and
then the current term come D which is
called disputing when you talk about
disputing it is logical thinking how
your logical thinking is thinking that
is if this situation is right or wrong
if I am not getting the good marks so
maybe whether I am intelligent or not
intelligent we started doubting on our
own selves is it true is it not true
whether what I have read in my life it’s
your logical system start activating and
you deciding about what is right and
wrong and then comes to be II into
limelight where the effective new
feelings your new belief system started
coming okay I can do this in Rev these
case she decided about I can do this
maybe her family also support
for that but activating new feelings I
can do that I can be clear in the exam I
can get the good marks I studied have
enough in my life and I can do all those
things what I thought of about my life I
will be successful I will get selected
in the interview all those things are
there and then is feelings the feelings
of happiness contentment will
automatically come so when all these
things about stress management comes
it’s all about beliefs which even
Swamiji talked about there is a need to
change or challenge the belief system
which is from our childhood which we
called out from temperament inherited
God through genes from parents or either
we have the past experiences because
whenever any incident happen in our life
what we started thinking we are not
worth it
or even we have lot of even achievements
in our life we always thought of we will
never get to achieve that particular
thing but now we thought of or either we
are not particular stage where we are so
handle the stress there is simple
formula we made it long term back that’s
about the word itself six alphabet s TR
e double s thus word s indicates I
always suggest everybody who are into
stress go and get involve yourself in
sports and physical activity forty
minutes per day any physical activity
helps us our physical fitness also a
mind calms down because there are
sometimes because of a mechanical
routine even as the students you have
lot of projects to complete it you have
lots of things to do maybe you have lots
of aspirations ambitions to achieve
something in life there are lots of
ideas because of those ideas sometimes
people don’t get the sleep also so at
that time I always suggest them there is
a need to be getting more into physical
activity which is very essential part of
our health also and definitely it
activates our brain to set allow T trips
most of the time due to your schedules
you don’t take a time out time out to
have holiday either with the group or as
a solo either with friends or family
which is very much required for
me when you are even having the exams
people don’t take a break in exams I
always suggest students to at least take
a timeout when he will you are studying
if you want timeout doesn’t mean you
have to take a holiday it is just keep
the phone aside keep the books aside
even whatever the work you are doing it
put yourself into silence for the time
being ah recreational activity I always
suggest to get involve yourself into
humor watching comedy because humor is
also a way how you can ventilate your
negative energies in the practical way
because life is full of problems
and stress is also the part of that life
it is not going to I will say remove at
any cost because you have the courage to
face those problems in life for that you
have to be strong enough and humor is
one of the way to release the negative
energy e eating healthy diet that is
very important and when you have a
healthy right because most of the time
when we are stressed we stopped eating
drinking there are lots of students
during the exams times they forget about
to eat have a food having proper water
intake even do to rial people who are
doing certain things in our life we
forget about to have the proper diet we
run about the money and all over the
routines but it’s like proper diet is
essential for the health because in the
car there is a requirement enough fuel
same way in body the requirement of
water in food is equivalent important so
having three times meal especially the
for the students I always suggest on the
people the breakfast is very much
required and it should be bit of heavier
as compared to the lunch or a dinner
because you have the numerous hours
after the dinner till break first and
then is another world called s sharing
and listening we are in the habit of not
to share our thoughts
some people are introvert don’t go and
share their thoughts with others some
people share a lot and don’t listen so
sharing and listening is equivalent
important if we don’t share go to a
professional go and share with your
friends who understand you if somebody
has that nor not have that option I
always suggest write down your thoughts
which actually disturbs your
mind write it down on a computer laptop
mobile iPad wherever you feel even on a
piece of paper but don’t read it it’s
like when the antivirus you scan in your
computer what you do you don’t open the
antivirus again because once you open it
again it will again spoil the other
files and folders of your mind of your
computer
same way in life also when you are
sharing your thoughts or writing your
negative thoughts don’t keep it up with
you if you’ll keep it it’s against spoil
your system because negativity or
garbage where well you put it will stink
today tomorrow or later so I would
request you if you share out your
thoughts that’s the best way if you
don’t have friends family at least write
it down on a piece of people don’t save
it don’t read it just delete it or tear
it off and then listening some people
are in the habit of sharing but not in
the habit of listening listening is the
equivalent important as well as of
sharing and that’s where the challenge
comes because it is the way how you have
to change yourself and it’s very
difficult for some people to listen
others so but it is the necessity of
life to lead a stressful stress-free
life you have to listen also and the
last is sound sleep and smile always use
your bed just for sleeping time not for
watching TV having dinner or doing other
activities always says go to the bed at
that time when you are feeling that you
are sleeping you are about to sleep
especially when you are sharing in the
habit or writing in the thoughts then at
least you have to do that activity in
the night time that would be the best
thing and the smile smile is the way how
you can I would serve in the hearts of
people and it costs nothing whether you
have anything in your life in anything
in your hand
it definitely activates your system and
to having a balanced and stress-free
life there is a particular module how a
human life should work which is the idle
pinnate form I will say the car has four
wheels same way life has also three
wheels which required courier second
your individual self and third is
relationship the
and life is required every aspect has
equivalent important I versus we is
equivalent important and definitely
courier is equally important when you
talk about career career is not about
earning money only it is about whether
you are content what you are doing and
what you are not doing so there is one
aspect of life but it is not your whole
life
same way relationships relationships are
equivalent part of life but again they
are the part of life and when you talk
about relationship at your parents it’s
your children it’s your life partner for
the students they are girlfriends and
along with that your relatives neighbors
your colleagues business associates they
all are the important part of life but
again not your life one of the part so
keep them the part and the most
important part is I would say individual
self and most of the time to lead a
stress-free life or to lead a happy life
we forget about our own self and that’s
very important when you say that that’s
very important we have to take care of a
physical health because eyes equally
important as well as V eyes thinking
about your own self and sometimes we
forget about our own self and think
about our aims ambitions expectations
whether it is parental expectations
whether our self created expectations
whether we thought of our self standards
of our moral standards are very high
some people are self predicts in such a
situations I always suggest people talk
about I love myself when they talk about
I love myself I have the other other
questions too always them what you do
for yourself taking care of your
physical health and physical health is
also a form of lots of things
appearance exercise and diet which is
equivalent important to take care of
your own self second intellectual growth
whatever is happening all around the
world are you aware about that may be
news politics bollywood hollywood sports
everything a person should be how much
it should be I would say you can’t think
of that anything or everything you can
do other thing we talked about emotional
growth which is I talking about sharing
is equivalent important and most of the
time we forget about the emotional
growth of our own cells
which is important then a spiritual
growth involved yourself into
spirituality it’s nothing his like some
people don’t believe in God I will just
say thanks for what you have at least
once in a day whether it is the supreme
power you call it a la la hey guru you
Karthik Lord Krishna
or Jesus whoever you believe there is
some supreme power who handle all of us
and say thanks to and ask for what you
want in life it will naturally give
because it says natural law of life is
that then is about interest and hobbies
people forget about while focusing on
the goals in life what are their
interests and hobbies whenever you get
time get involved in those hobbies it
may be sketching painting dancing
singing cooking I would say guitar piano
whatever you like to do involve yourself
in those activities and then definitely
always talk about your liking and
disliking most of the time people don’t
know about what they like and what they
don’t like that’s very important to know
the person and definitely in line
talking about dreams dreams as a self
not as the kids not as as a son of
somebody as a husband or somebody not as
a social person also your own dreams
what you want to do where you want to
see yourself because kids even we as an
individual with the passage of time we
forget about what are our dreams Sofie
should think about I versus V because
that we forget most of the time and then
is about happiness we all talk about
today’s happiness so I believe in
happiness start with H a double P again
the five L bovitz
who op on your own self on your own self
definitely I versus V on others even
life partner in the people in our
surroundings everybody
then a appreciation most of the time of
longer to appreciate ourselves and
people who are in to appreciation their
own self they have to learn to
appreciate others also others include
everybody friends family siblings spouse
and then pampering we forget to pamper
ourselves starts with you and then with
others and then the last I would say
pursuing goals sometimes we perceive
goals to further life for the people for
the family we forget about what we want
to pursue in our life and wise yourself
as well as others so we are equally
important for ourselves and others so my
request is if you want to be happy in
life first be happy with your own self
once you are happy then only you can
make others happy because if you are
happy you can make others happy up to
certain extent you can’t make others
happy or everybody happy in your whole
life
because balance life is more important
or happy and contented life is more
important as compared to everything else
thank you
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