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Sin miedo, sin límites | Rafael Reyes Velasco | TEDxCancún


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all right
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I have a friend named Benjamín Jordan
he has a guinness record for having been
the first person to cross Canada from
Orient to the west by flying in a
motorized paragliding
one day he proposed to me to make a film
about the paraglider he said rafa you have
to fly in this movie
I told him do not wait benjamin you’re
crazy I can not fly I’m afraid of
Heights
I’ve always thought that the closer
the soil is better that’s why I do not have
legs
but he told me that this project was
to raise funds and help children
He also explained that paragliding is what
closest to how birds fly
which is used in air currents
hot to rise and the rest is
plan
I also explain that morelia where
we were going to fly
it was the safest and most stable point
climatologically speaking
Morelia had statistics of zero in
accidents
the truth is that I do not know how to leave me
convince but I agreed
then we arrived at morelia 20 am and I
I present the look to what the boy is
with which I was going to fly
when we reached the takeoff point
benjamin tells me look rafa there is the
emergency landing strip I saw
a terrible terrible thing in a jungle
with scrub grown maize so
very high I scared I chose that
they explained that he was in those
poor maintenance conditions because
it had never been used
I said
so
when they were putting all the equipment
of the paraglider
I realized that since I agreed
until that moment I was dead of
fear
but inside I made myself
do it for the children do it for the children
so we take off
I felt a very satisfying moment
great because I was accomplishing it was
flying the goal was being fulfilled
the experts say
that as a whole the fears
they affect 5% of the world population
that is to say that of every 10 people average
person has a fear for years
math does not fail
or we can see it as one in 20
people suffer from some type of phobia
Fear is a psychological condition
that in normal situations
generates physiological responses as
accelerates the rate of metabolism increases
blood pressure
the adrenaline glucose the tension
muscle and dilation of the pupils
but it can reach very high levels
and you had the vast majority of
following symptoms you have to have
Be careful when you reach high levels
You can get numb in
the hands pain in the chest
hyperventilation terror out of control
and breathing problems
If that has happened to you, your level of fear is
very high and you need to go to a
specialist to give you a
treatment
in a study that was done in the USA it
showed that only 8% of the
people of the patients
go for psychological treatment and
psychiatric
you have to be careful it’s very little that
statistic but good and
clarified the previous thing that what I
I will speak is in normal conditions
now I ask you
what is your fear are you afraid of
failure you are afraid of the dark
you are afraid of loneliness
you are afraid of death
as we discussed a few moments ago
fear is a defense system in
our mind that avoids us at all costs
hurting us to feel pain
the fears we can learn them through
of the experience of what we are
teaches sometimes we have fears that neither
they are not even our
and as all life fear has a
positive side and a negative side
the downside is that fear can
prevent you from doing things that you know that
can you do
because fear paralyzes you on your side
positive the fear can arise in
a reality
you can say that if you want to beat yourself
of an airplane at 10,000 feet so you need
otherwise special equipment
you will die fear can save our lives
imagine fear as a snake
It has two tail and head ends if you
you grab the snake by the tail this one
It can come back to you and bite you
but if you grab him by the head you can
have control of the snake like this
with our fears if we take them from the
right side we can control ourselves and the
steps to control fear are the
next step number 1 know the origin
of your fear
as we had said fear is a
system
that avoids pain
there are two types of pain physical pain and
the emotional pain
for example the acrophobia that occupies the
place number 8 of the 10 most phobias
common
is the fear of falling and hurting you or that in
that fall die painfully that is to say
it’s a fear of physical pain
or for example there is the glosó phobia that is
the fear of speaking in public
and we suffer 95% of the population
here is to be afraid of making a fool of yourself
to look bad to judge you
therefore pity in your ego and it is a
emotional pain
so it’s good to know the origin of your
fear of what pain if it is emotional or is
physical because if we know what
tool to use is like for example
know the difference between a nail and a
screw for each one is used a
different tool step 2
is to stop you to stay calm and think
the best known as counting to 10
with this
we avoid the impulse
we remain calm and avoid that
our emotional mind act
because otherwise the emotional mind
awakens your survival instinct and
then we can start acting like
animals we can paralyze ourselves and to be
dead as the opossum acts
in the face of danger
that’s why it’s necessary to calm down and leave
that our rational mind act and
analyze the situation
which is actually step number 3
analyze and decide how to act before each
situation there are many things to do
one of them is that we can look for a
motivation to help us follow
Despite the fear in my case I was saying
do it for the children
another help is
inform you the information helps you what
you can stop thinking about the dangers
potentials and then realize you
that there is no danger or those
dangers are minimal
in this way is how they control the
fears but what happens
If your fear becomes reality in full
flight what Rafa tells me we are
having problems I do not find a
hot air stream that we
come back up and we are going down
little by little and we are already very close to the
treetop’ll have to
emergency landing
with his expertise we managed to land in
the clear emergency trail that by the
poor maintenance we had a very poor fall
Bold I went flying by one side
luque on the other
fortunately I did not have any blow
strong nothing else I had a scratch
at that time I was scared to death
and they said rafa we still do not finish
the movie you have to fly again
[Laughs]
giving things that
then I told them they are not crazy I
I will not do again went up and
I spent some time left him alone spent
a while and after gaulle uca and me
Rafa said I do not want you to stay with
this bad impression of the paraglider dale
a second chance and you’re going to
enjoy
I started thinking that the worst was already
past
and that if I gave him a second chance
the worst that could happen was to pass it to me
all right
and I really took courage
we started the flight again and enjoy
the most beautiful sunset of my life
when a fear has not come true
it’s like a wooden fence that you can
jump whenever you want using the
tools noted above but when
your fear becomes a reality becomes
in the very berlin wall but
remember that that wall also fell and
to tear down that wall there are three
steps the first step is us is acceptance
that is, yes
Sometimes things can come out very
wrong
that the law of murphy is true
and that if something can go wrong, it will go wrong
that’s why you have to be careful to take
account for all the risks
and the second step is resilience
know that behind that huge wall
there is the possibility
to enjoy life to be happy
to learn from the mistakes of cleaning yourself
the tears
to take flight again and
Enjoy a wonderful sunset
as birds do flying
we can give ourselves the opportunity to be
brave people
and that is a brave person
is the one that despite his fear
enjoy your wonderful life
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Thank you
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