[Music]
[Applause]
We are expecting a baby as we say
will be male will be female
we have some of the fears dreams
we will ask the real thing
skips a generation is not that then
It looks like your mother and and if a
female and my legs
but we have no such worries
we also take serious commitments
ourselves as future parents
among the things that we say we are
some we know not contradict mo
not one of these that our son or
our daughter
learn to play at least one instrument
yes because he or she will not happen
as happens to me every time I go to
a concert to feel embarrassment and
that shame for having abandoned the
saxophone if only I had my
obliged to continue it will then ae
sport
mens sana in corpore sano, and chipped it
environment and a healthy environment to grow
sound values to learn many
those things that serve and that the school
You can not give you and will know at least one
foreign language as a child because
We know that otherwise you can not take
the emphasis for real if you learn the
foreign language as big as it is
happened to me also take the
other commitments we say what we will not do
we will not be like our parents
we will be in Italy in this special
when a parent of 88
a few years after these
thoughts actually feels
define special but with a meaning
completely different will be a doctor
a child psychiatrist or one
psychologist to tell
She will tell him you are a special parent
you will be for life because your
Your son or daughter will have whole
lives of special needs
your son or daughter with autism
Working with people who have felt
give this kind of news I usually
It is told of a mother who after
his child’s year of life
her baby
starts to have bad feelings
has the impression that the language
regress is emerging that the game
that is emerging is not working as
it should
there is something wrong he does not know
explain and talk about it with someone
the said door is patience
6 anxious if he says with a pediatrician
easily be pointed at
her and the lady will be remembered
Boys talk after two years later
This mom is taking pills
for anxiety pills for depression
sleeping pills discovers that he
reason hear what they say but do not
listen
called shock and this mother did not
even the luxury you have others who
They have to give up a life plan
someone or something
the luxury of crossing those
call the stages of grief because
That same day, the day when the
Autism is told she will have to take
decisions
choose the doctor choose the
Therapy find the money to make
therapy three years ago I still remember
because I remember that I thought
cute they are beautiful events received
by Dr. remember these two
Parents who have come to my office
their daughter had been diagnosed
autism a year earlier
and I was on the twentieth of professional
which they bore having shot the entire
Italy between experts and centers having
studied everything that could
find on the internet and in bookstores
I asked them to tell their
everyday life and have described to me
one that is a little history of all or
many have told me that their
girl who spoke a little early
He had stopped talking to them not
looked into his eyes is called the
His name did not run even more
head
he was not playing with other children
always preferred to align the usual
Toy and reacted very badly
crying hysterically and hard way
to break if someone InfraMed
eva between her and her game
She is eating only one food and you could not
to give her nothing more to eat and
He woke up between 6 and 7 times every
Last night I had some questions on that
moment because I wondered if
They will be wrong, and they will be exaggerating
I inquired about how you
they organize themselves around a plan
to sleep about four hours each
every night I began to wonder
together with my research group not
only for them but also for all
others like them
how do these people stand on
walking
these nails in front of me as they
driven safely up to my studio
how they can tell a story with
a beginning and an end of a story that has
perfectly sense that it is a wire
logical as they do in those years was not
only my research group
yourself these questions but have come out
Early studies have actually measured
what kind of stress and subjected to
family of a person with autism
it is found that only one category of
Humans survived the amount
of stress to which the mother is subjected
of a child with autism and were the
soldiers at war
more something particular to say
the mothers of autistic
the eighties all over the world
It has spread a suggestive theory that
been fully below
invalidated by the study is that however
for the suggestion that resulted in
all over the world and still something you
hears
and yet something where someone believes
sometimes the parents themselves are talking about
refrigerator mothers it was believed that
parents were the culprits
autism children in the United States
They moved away children from parents
as therapy in Europe since the
80 years and for nearly two decades
The mothers of children with autism as
care for their children were sent
in psychoanalysis or psychotherapy
look within themselves the causes of that
primordial coldness of that rejection
unconscious who was the cause second
This theory of autism children
this habit to point the finger at
Parenting is something that thrives on
parent remains the same because he or
her an absurd question unasked
what I did maybe wrong
everything was fine and then walked no more
both me and you in me the
problem in my flesh in my
viscera this in my genes
for us researchers and generation
we have the joy and satisfaction
to participate in the revenge of
parents of people with autism because
we know that in the handful of years
where the diagnosis looking for
treatment study courses and books make
become experts of those who
call the living autonomy
in those years are like a course
accelerated parenting something
it is for everyone else is a
path so just not always a
entire life to achieve the same
awareness of a parent
person car with autism
few years reaches awareness
which usually can tell us
only the grandparents who life
they have already lived and all that
problems have seen them happen
sometimes and sometimes not resolved
here are five of awareness
parent of a child with autism who
today can teach all of us
The first is that your son is not your
product you thought was your
It belongs to himself and to the world
the second is that the person will not
It had not planned at the beginning
the third is that you can design
whatever the principles and
absolute decisions and the agreements that you had
made with yourself at the beginning since
conception
thou canst not follow them you will not
follow them you will have to change for the best
possible parent is the one who does not know
already what he would do but it is decided
observing the needs of her child
of her child and changing
its strategy while this grows
fourth of this awareness and
giving the same opportunity has two
the results including several children
different
we are the architects of life
of our children
Finally, it is true that a child grow
that is ours, but the best thing the
useful we can do since he
small and help it become self
because one day it will be just and life
It will be his
with this I am asking if you were
have concrete questions in the future
difficult to extend to someone
expert you will certainly come from
psychologists like me but you can also
ask the parent of a person with
autism
they know it and they know first of all
thank you
[Applause]
[Applause]
We are expecting a baby as we say
will be male will be female
we have some of the fears dreams
we will ask the real thing
skips a generation is not that then
It looks like your mother and and if a
female and my legs
but we have no such worries
we also take serious commitments
ourselves as future parents
among the things that we say we are
some we know not contradict mo
not one of these that our son or
our daughter
learn to play at least one instrument
yes because he or she will not happen
as happens to me every time I go to
a concert to feel embarrassment and
that shame for having abandoned the
saxophone if only I had my
obliged to continue it will then ae
sport
mens sana in corpore sano, and chipped it
environment and a healthy environment to grow
sound values to learn many
those things that serve and that the school
You can not give you and will know at least one
foreign language as a child because
We know that otherwise you can not take
the emphasis for real if you learn the
foreign language as big as it is
happened to me also take the
other commitments we say what we will not do
we will not be like our parents
we will be in Italy in this special
when a parent of 88
a few years after these
thoughts actually feels
define special but with a meaning
completely different will be a doctor
a child psychiatrist or one
psychologist to tell
She will tell him you are a special parent
you will be for life because your
Your son or daughter will have whole
lives of special needs
your son or daughter with autism
Working with people who have felt
give this kind of news I usually
It is told of a mother who after
his child’s year of life
her baby
starts to have bad feelings
has the impression that the language
regress is emerging that the game
that is emerging is not working as
it should
there is something wrong he does not know
explain and talk about it with someone
the said door is patience
6 anxious if he says with a pediatrician
easily be pointed at
her and the lady will be remembered
Boys talk after two years later
This mom is taking pills
for anxiety pills for depression
sleeping pills discovers that he
reason hear what they say but do not
listen
called shock and this mother did not
even the luxury you have others who
They have to give up a life plan
someone or something
the luxury of crossing those
call the stages of grief because
That same day, the day when the
Autism is told she will have to take
decisions
choose the doctor choose the
Therapy find the money to make
therapy three years ago I still remember
because I remember that I thought
cute they are beautiful events received
by Dr. remember these two
Parents who have come to my office
their daughter had been diagnosed
autism a year earlier
and I was on the twentieth of professional
which they bore having shot the entire
Italy between experts and centers having
studied everything that could
find on the internet and in bookstores
I asked them to tell their
everyday life and have described to me
one that is a little history of all or
many have told me that their
girl who spoke a little early
He had stopped talking to them not
looked into his eyes is called the
His name did not run even more
head
he was not playing with other children
always preferred to align the usual
Toy and reacted very badly
crying hysterically and hard way
to break if someone InfraMed
eva between her and her game
She is eating only one food and you could not
to give her nothing more to eat and
He woke up between 6 and 7 times every
Last night I had some questions on that
moment because I wondered if
They will be wrong, and they will be exaggerating
I inquired about how you
they organize themselves around a plan
to sleep about four hours each
every night I began to wonder
together with my research group not
only for them but also for all
others like them
how do these people stand on
walking
these nails in front of me as they
driven safely up to my studio
how they can tell a story with
a beginning and an end of a story that has
perfectly sense that it is a wire
logical as they do in those years was not
only my research group
yourself these questions but have come out
Early studies have actually measured
what kind of stress and subjected to
family of a person with autism
it is found that only one category of
Humans survived the amount
of stress to which the mother is subjected
of a child with autism and were the
soldiers at war
more something particular to say
the mothers of autistic
the eighties all over the world
It has spread a suggestive theory that
been fully below
invalidated by the study is that however
for the suggestion that resulted in
all over the world and still something you
hears
and yet something where someone believes
sometimes the parents themselves are talking about
refrigerator mothers it was believed that
parents were the culprits
autism children in the United States
They moved away children from parents
as therapy in Europe since the
80 years and for nearly two decades
The mothers of children with autism as
care for their children were sent
in psychoanalysis or psychotherapy
look within themselves the causes of that
primordial coldness of that rejection
unconscious who was the cause second
This theory of autism children
this habit to point the finger at
Parenting is something that thrives on
parent remains the same because he or
her an absurd question unasked
what I did maybe wrong
everything was fine and then walked no more
both me and you in me the
problem in my flesh in my
viscera this in my genes
for us researchers and generation
we have the joy and satisfaction
to participate in the revenge of
parents of people with autism because
we know that in the handful of years
where the diagnosis looking for
treatment study courses and books make
become experts of those who
call the living autonomy
in those years are like a course
accelerated parenting something
it is for everyone else is a
path so just not always a
entire life to achieve the same
awareness of a parent
person car with autism
few years reaches awareness
which usually can tell us
only the grandparents who life
they have already lived and all that
problems have seen them happen
sometimes and sometimes not resolved
here are five of awareness
parent of a child with autism who
today can teach all of us
The first is that your son is not your
product you thought was your
It belongs to himself and to the world
the second is that the person will not
It had not planned at the beginning
the third is that you can design
whatever the principles and
absolute decisions and the agreements that you had
made with yourself at the beginning since
conception
thou canst not follow them you will not
follow them you will have to change for the best
possible parent is the one who does not know
already what he would do but it is decided
observing the needs of her child
of her child and changing
its strategy while this grows
fourth of this awareness and
giving the same opportunity has two
the results including several children
different
we are the architects of life
of our children
Finally, it is true that a child grow
that is ours, but the best thing the
useful we can do since he
small and help it become self
because one day it will be just and life
It will be his
with this I am asking if you were
have concrete questions in the future
difficult to extend to someone
expert you will certainly come from
psychologists like me but you can also
ask the parent of a person with
autism
they know it and they know first of all
thank you
[Applause]
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