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Girls’ education and giving: how to create a global community | Jordan Ashley | TEDxBaDinh


i jus survivor violence I know what it

feels to be the recipient of other

people’s pity to be looked at

differently judged scrutinized because

of something that had happened something

that I had no control over and it was

only in realizing that the greatest way

to heal myself was to challenge the very

idea of self and not the greatest way to

give back was well giving up on the idea

that my story was somehow different that

I was different one in three women

across the globe will experience

physical and/or sexual violence in her

lifetime and just like me these women

are more than a number and they’re more

than a statistic I wanted to connect

with them help them but have it so that

it would create a global community so I

thought to myself what is a way in which

I can do this well for one I didn’t want

to replicate the traditional power

structure of most donor and recipient

relationships I wanted to create

meaningful and sustainable relationships

between me and these other women

relationships that were built on

personal connection relationships that

were absent of hierarchy and absent of

pity but so often I think that we find

ourselves feeling very small and very

powerless the world is so big and we are

constantly bombarded by so many problems

be it local or global what can I

possibly do to make a difference well

when we do find causes that resonate

with us often we’re only given very

impersonal statistics such as these 66

million girls out of school globally 33

million fewer girls in primary school

than boys after hearing these numbers

these shocking statistics are you going

to give your money to support girls

education do you feel connected to these

millions of girls that you’ve never met

do you feel a sense of moral

responsibility and obligation to help

after hearing these numbers well

probably not you’ve never met them this

photo i took this when I was a

journalist in Cambodia it’s

heartbreaking this is this photo of Oak

any more empathy maybe a little bit but

these feelings will become fleeting

because once again you’ve never met her

you’ve never had that personal

one-on-one connection with her and

perhaps you will decide to send X amount

of money per month for the next year or

so but what happens when those original

feelings of compassion begin to

dissipate what happens to her after that

final donation but what if I told you

that you could meet her and girls like

her all over the world and then through

that you were able to make a connection

a bond share something that lights both

of you up maybe it’s soccer or painting

now how do you feel this was the very

idea when starting my nonprofit and that

I wanted to create sustainable and

meaningful relationships between the

donor and the recipient so what we do is

we raise money for girls education in

developing countries and in by doing so

well we’re able to help just a little

bit it becomes more than just a one-off

monetary donation with a valence of who

and where your money is actually going

to everyone has causes that resonate

with them and for me it was just that

girls education our aim is to transcend

the role of anonymous donor into active

participant by creating experiences in

which you can have between you and the

girls so for me

I had to find a cause or an experience

something that really lit me up

something that I wanted to share with

the rest of the world that was yoga yoga

has been an integral part in my healing

process it has allowed me to reconnect

with my body to find stillness

self-expression balance poise and peace

because it is when yoga is taken out of

the studio and into the world that the

greatest shift in consciousness occurs

because we end up realizing that we are

in fact all one it’s more than just

poses and breathing it’s this idea of

community our mission is based on the

word Savea which means selfless service

together with and it’s through this idea

of being able to give back to your self

while giving to others in which the

ship’s begins to occur so what we do is

we hold global yoga retreats between

local women and foreign women many of

whom who’ve undergone trauma and by

practicing side by side the healing

begins to start so in order to support

these local girls initiatives what we do

is we include and every retreat a

tax-deductible donation what this does

it continues to build dormitories pay

for housing education school supplies

you name it but it’s so much more than

that no matter how shocking the

statistic or heartbreaking the

photograph nothing can compare with eye

contact of that personal connection of

real face time to realize that well this

is a person in front of me it’s through

this in which you are able to continue

to build a global community one that

goes past our devices in our immediate

community we’re able to pull in what we

care about in order to pull out and

better serve the world around us to be

acknowledged to be respected and to be

loved are our universal human rights

about two months ago I had the privilege

of teaching yoga and a girl

dormitory in Cambodia now as I had

mentioned Cambodia is a place that is

very near and dear to my heart I

originally went there at 19 and did a

study abroad program and that is where

the first seed was planted for me to

create this idea of giving so what this

girl’s dorm does is it pulls the best

and the brightest students from the

outlying provinces girls who’d be denied

access to education otherwise now why

education is so vital and so important

is because it is something that cannot

be taken away undone or untaught it is a

personal asset that creates choices

opportunities and better quality of life

so if that being said I made a very

special connection and bond to one of

the girls her name is tawny and she’s 17

and just like most seventeen-year-olds

she loves music ice cream and is very

ambitious in her studies well maybe not

like most seventeen-year-olds I

certainly wasn’t like that but johnny is

unique tawny grew up in a very

tumultuous on environment she’s

originally from co cab it’s a village

about two and a half hours outside of

Siem Reap province and coca is the

epitome of systemic violence from rape

from the smallest child to marital

alcoholism domestic abuse an untreated

post-traumatic stress disorder or PTSD

this is not the place for a bright girl

of all the inclinations for academic

excellence to be nurtured and just like

me Johnny wants to be a journalist she

wants to give a voice for those lacking

and also like me johnny has anxiety so

it was after our first yoga class that

she took me aside and she said Jordan

can yoga help me with my breathing so

what we did is we placed a hand over the

heart and a hand over the belly and just

by allowing her to close her eyes and

reconnect her shoulders begin to drop

her face began to soften we took even

inhales and even exhales

lowing and smoothing down her breath

while I checked in with her a couple of

days later and she said that she’d been

practicing this breathing morning and

night she felt a lot better more alert

in her studies and more importantly her

and the girls had fun during our yoga

classes I will never fully know what

it’s like to walk in shawnee shoes nor

her in mine but just by sharing with her

a few yoga poses some breathing

techniques we were able to create a bond

a bond that I will continue to cherish

and nourish well yoga and girls

education maybe causes that resonate

with my heart it might not be that for

you it can be anything anything that

lights you up anything that makes you

want to reach out and say hi can I help

you because let’s face it giving back is

contagious it feels good to be able to

be helpful useful and it takes us out of

our internal dialogue about what’s wrong

and what can be better because at the

end of the day the question is who is

really giving and who is really

receiving as both parties end up gaining

so much more than what they had

originally expected it’s when we find

these causes that resonate close to our

heart it’s which is when we’re able to

finally begin to break down the wall

between what separates us from each

other it’s the start of a global

community the beginning of creating

unity not hierarchy that should be at

the forefront of any personal

relationship we are more than just

numbers statistics charts and images but

it’s through our personal connection and

which we’re able to come together and

truly see what the human spirit is

capable of achieving thank you [Applause]

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