[Music]
hi please take a journey with me today
inside of your mind to either start a
new way of thinking or to change a
pattern of thought that you already have
as psychologists we believe that the
greatest goal of humans is to connect
and one of the ways that we connect is
through building systems so please
imagine with me for a second that we all
live within systems starting with the
smallest system our families and growing
ever larger to include our schools work
communities our countries and even the
entire world this is one of the ways
that we interact with one another it’s
one of the ways that we connect the
system’s impact us and we impact the
systems within these systems we entry
influenced one another with our
individual power and with the collective
power of the institutions that help to
manage the systems the green arrows
represent the isms and bias that we each
experience pushing in on us the blue
arrows pushing out represent the
privileges and power that we each have
that push on each other and the systems
that we are a part of taking myself as
an example some of my blue arrows are my
privileges and power include that I am
white I am straight I am sis I’m
able-bodied I am middle-class and I am
educated one of the green arrows are
biased that I experience that pushes
down on me is that I am a woman in this
and many societies being a man has more
privileges and power than being a woman
here’s a twist we tend to only be able
to see the arrows that we ourselves
experience so for me when I see another
woman I can think I bet she experiences
bias because she’s a woman too wouldn’t
it be great if you could know more about
your own bias and privileged arrows
well as those of the people around you
that’s awareness a lot of people are
talking about unconscious bias awareness
and that is great it’s great to get
awareness however what we’re finding in
the research is that when people get
awareness sometimes they have no idea
what to do with it they begin to feel
guilt and shame guilt and shame lead to
denial when we have denial we shut down
when we shut down we cannot connect with
other people so I started thinking
wouldn’t it be great if we were aware
plus we had some tools that would help
us to better connect with other people
in all the areas of our life so I came
up with this idea we have awareness plus
we get education plus empathy and
together these three equal fluid EQ
fluid EQ is the ability to connect more
deeply and more meaningfully with all
the people in your life people like you
and not like you in the different
systems that you are a part of so let’s
think again about that awareness what is
awareness awareness is knowing more
about who you are in the world about
your power and your privileges as well
as the bias that you might experience
what’s bias well bias is important
because our brains have to sort through
millions of pieces of information minute
by minute bias is part of that function
and it is essential when we talk about
bias we generally focus on implicit bias
which comes from our unconscious minds
that’s unfortunate because the second
half of bias is explicit bias which
comes from our conscious Minds implicit
bias is formed in the brainstem the most
primary and basic parts of our brain the
brainstem is responsible for helping us
have initial reactions as well as basic
functions such as breathing on the
their hand explicit bias is formed in
your frontal cortex which is the most
advanced part of your brain and it’s
responsible for executive functioning
and planning you can manage your bias
all you have to do is have some
awareness engage your frontal cortex and
come up with new ways of thinking we can
either manage our bias or we can pretend
it isn’t there
if one way to manage that bias is to say
I accept that it’s there move past
denial and get shame and guilt out of
the way another way to manage bias is to
get educated remember the second piece
how do you get educated you get new
experiences you read and you start
listening to other people because you
have some awareness you realize that you
cannot assume another person’s
experience so you ask and you ask and
you ask awareness helps us to know who
we are and how we fit into the systems
of our life education helps us to have
shared knowledge understanding and
language and empathy helps us to begin
to see what another person’s experience
is without empathy you can have
awareness and hopefully some information
and education but it is unlikely that
you will be deeply connected with
another person or groups of people
empathy helps us to have openness to
specific aspects of empathy
self-awareness and mindfulness lead us
to be less defensive and when we are
less defensive we can move from a place
of disconnection to connection empathy
comes from genuineness and vulnerability
all of these things are learned empathy
is taught I will never become you
and you will never become me however if
we commit individually and collectively
to raise our fluid EQ we can control our
bias and we can all connect better and
when we connect better we can all be
better thank you
[Applause]
[Music]
you
hi please take a journey with me today
inside of your mind to either start a
new way of thinking or to change a
pattern of thought that you already have
as psychologists we believe that the
greatest goal of humans is to connect
and one of the ways that we connect is
through building systems so please
imagine with me for a second that we all
live within systems starting with the
smallest system our families and growing
ever larger to include our schools work
communities our countries and even the
entire world this is one of the ways
that we interact with one another it’s
one of the ways that we connect the
system’s impact us and we impact the
systems within these systems we entry
influenced one another with our
individual power and with the collective
power of the institutions that help to
manage the systems the green arrows
represent the isms and bias that we each
experience pushing in on us the blue
arrows pushing out represent the
privileges and power that we each have
that push on each other and the systems
that we are a part of taking myself as
an example some of my blue arrows are my
privileges and power include that I am
white I am straight I am sis I’m
able-bodied I am middle-class and I am
educated one of the green arrows are
biased that I experience that pushes
down on me is that I am a woman in this
and many societies being a man has more
privileges and power than being a woman
here’s a twist we tend to only be able
to see the arrows that we ourselves
experience so for me when I see another
woman I can think I bet she experiences
bias because she’s a woman too wouldn’t
it be great if you could know more about
your own bias and privileged arrows
well as those of the people around you
that’s awareness a lot of people are
talking about unconscious bias awareness
and that is great it’s great to get
awareness however what we’re finding in
the research is that when people get
awareness sometimes they have no idea
what to do with it they begin to feel
guilt and shame guilt and shame lead to
denial when we have denial we shut down
when we shut down we cannot connect with
other people so I started thinking
wouldn’t it be great if we were aware
plus we had some tools that would help
us to better connect with other people
in all the areas of our life so I came
up with this idea we have awareness plus
we get education plus empathy and
together these three equal fluid EQ
fluid EQ is the ability to connect more
deeply and more meaningfully with all
the people in your life people like you
and not like you in the different
systems that you are a part of so let’s
think again about that awareness what is
awareness awareness is knowing more
about who you are in the world about
your power and your privileges as well
as the bias that you might experience
what’s bias well bias is important
because our brains have to sort through
millions of pieces of information minute
by minute bias is part of that function
and it is essential when we talk about
bias we generally focus on implicit bias
which comes from our unconscious minds
that’s unfortunate because the second
half of bias is explicit bias which
comes from our conscious Minds implicit
bias is formed in the brainstem the most
primary and basic parts of our brain the
brainstem is responsible for helping us
have initial reactions as well as basic
functions such as breathing on the
their hand explicit bias is formed in
your frontal cortex which is the most
advanced part of your brain and it’s
responsible for executive functioning
and planning you can manage your bias
all you have to do is have some
awareness engage your frontal cortex and
come up with new ways of thinking we can
either manage our bias or we can pretend
it isn’t there
if one way to manage that bias is to say
I accept that it’s there move past
denial and get shame and guilt out of
the way another way to manage bias is to
get educated remember the second piece
how do you get educated you get new
experiences you read and you start
listening to other people because you
have some awareness you realize that you
cannot assume another person’s
experience so you ask and you ask and
you ask awareness helps us to know who
we are and how we fit into the systems
of our life education helps us to have
shared knowledge understanding and
language and empathy helps us to begin
to see what another person’s experience
is without empathy you can have
awareness and hopefully some information
and education but it is unlikely that
you will be deeply connected with
another person or groups of people
empathy helps us to have openness to
specific aspects of empathy
self-awareness and mindfulness lead us
to be less defensive and when we are
less defensive we can move from a place
of disconnection to connection empathy
comes from genuineness and vulnerability
all of these things are learned empathy
is taught I will never become you
and you will never become me however if
we commit individually and collectively
to raise our fluid EQ we can control our
bias and we can all connect better and
when we connect better we can all be
better thank you
[Applause]
[Music]
you
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