as ernest hemingway noted the world
breaks everyone and afterward many are
stronger in the broken places but my
question is why is in everyone to me it
comes down to the strategies that you
use there really isn’t anything
objectively good or bad there isn’t
anything that happens to you that can’t
be overcome there isn’t anything that
could happen to you
anything that when you turn inward you
can’t find a reason to overcome you
can’t find a way to put those pieces
back together and that becomes your job
it becomes literally up to you whether
you’re going to sit and wallow and woe
is me because what happened happened and
there’s no way to take it back but how
you respond what do you bring to that
table whether you need fire wood fire
whether you meet that adversity with
falling apart becoming weaker in the
areas that broke or you bind them and
mend them and it becomes like a well
that literally makes you stronger is a
choice and it’s a choice only you get to
make but as Stephen Hawking said when
you complain nobody wants to help you
there are many things in your life every
reason to complain about you have every
reason to be upset by the things that
have happened to you the most sinister
thing about excuses is they’re valid
there’s a million reasons why you should
be able to give up there’s a million
reasons why you shouldn’t need to try
that thing that broke you you should be
allowed to just sit on the ground and
here’s the thing that’s your right
you’ve every reason to do it and maybe
people won’t even think less of you
but here’s the truth why they become
weaker or stronger in the places that
broke and that’s a choice of how you
react to moving forward the great news
is the best thing that you could do to
become stronger is love yourself and as
Kamal Ravi Kahn said loving yourself is
attractive people think that it’s
something that’s going to feel right
that it’s going to feel natural that
you’re just going to turn inward and
there it is the spark of love and joy
for yourself inside yourself and the
truth is that’s just not the human
experience that’s not the way that it
works there’s going to be a voice inside
your head and it’s going to blame you
it’s going to say that it’s your fault
and no matter how many times people on
the outside tell you that that is not
true that this thing happened to you
that it isn’t you it doesn’t define you
there will be a voice that’s going to
tell you that it does and that’s where
you have to fall back on process that’s
where you have to realize that you
literally have to practice loving
yourself and that it’s okay that no
matter what happened there is absolutely
nothing that invalidates that you’re
worthy of your own love but you’ve got
to practice it you’ve got to be willing
to do it you’ve got to be willing to put
in the reps you’ve got to know that it’s
not going to feel right but you’ve got
to know on the other side of that is a
vision of your life where you actually
do love yourself because you took the
time to say it you took the time to
practice it you took the time to sit
there and feel stupid and say that you
love yourself and sometimes just putting
in the work is what you need to do to
get strong so put in the work
[Music]
many of you as I have been as I am are
where you are in your life based upon
what you believe and it’s not just what
you think you believe on the surface
it’s also your shadow beliefs that are
holding you back from moving into the
life that you believe you deserve what I
know is if you’re not looking at the
shadows you’re not looking at what is
subconsciously running through the tape
in your mind telling yourself you’re not
good enough you’re not worthy enough
you’re not smart enough you are not
enough which is a tape that’s playing
for a lot of people if you’re not
conscious of that then you end up acting
out of that belief system and not out of
what you know to be the truth or want to
be the truest yourself you are where you
are today in part because of what you’ve
been saying about yourself words are
like these when you speak something out
you give life to what you’re saying if
you continue to say eventually that can
become a reality you are planting seeds
when you talk at some point you’re going
to eat that fruit my challenge is make
sure you’re planning the right kind of
seeds if you want apples you have to sow
apple seeds if you want oranges you
can’t plant cactus seeds poison ivy
seeds mushroom seeds you’re going to
read through from the exact seed that
you’ve been selling it in other words
you can’t talk negative and expect to
live a positive life
you can’t talk to feet and expect to
have victory you can’t talk lack not
enough can’t afford it never get ahead
and expect to have abundance if you have
a poor mouth you’re going to have a poor
life
[Music]
this is great when we’re saying things
like I’m blessed I’m strong I will
accomplish my dream I’m coming out of
there that’s not just being positive
you are prophesying victory proper sign
success prophesy new levels your life
will move in the direction of your words
but too many people go around prophesy
on just the opposite I never get any
good brain I’ll never get back in shape
business is slow
I’ll probably get laid off flu season is
here I always get it they don’t realize
they are prophesying defeat it’s just
like they’re calling in bad breaks
mediocrity lack you don’t become what
you want because so much of wanting is
about living in the space of what you
don’t have that’s why Jim Carrey’s story
is so powerful because he started to act
as though he already had it we’d go up
to Mulholland Drive you would drive away
things thinking I already have those
things I just haven’t accessed them as
yet I believe those things are going to
come to me I’m going to act like they
are so I’m going to move forward in my
life in order to draw that to myself in
such a way that my actions are in
alignment with what I say I believe so
if you start to think about that really
why are you where you are in your life
the choices that you have made have been
because of what you believe to be true
for yourself
the time is now the time is out to
express and for people to believe in
themselves the time is now for it to be
okay to be great people in this world
shutting people for being great for
being a bright color to stand and out
but the time is now to be okay to be the
greatest you you can talk yourself out
of your destiny
negative words can keep you from
becoming who you were created to be
don’t fall into that trap quit calling
in defeat quit talking about how it’s
not going to happen you should write
down your goal write down what you want
to see happen in life any area that
you’re struggling in where you need to
improve write it down like it’s already
done and then every day declares that
decree read over it a couple of times
out loud it’s not enough to just think
it something happens when we speak you
have to prophesize your teaching those
words will get down on the inside of you
they’ll not only change your outlook but
they will change who you are your words
will become your reality everyone takes
the limits of their own vision for the
limits of the world
Arthur Chopin our there is all around
you right now the reflections of your
world beliefs they’re so ever-present
that you don’t even see them all the
assumption that you’ve made about the
world the things that are possible what
you’re capable of who you are the very
definition of what it means to be alive
all of it is completely invisible and
you’re mistaken what you have for what
could be and once you break free of that
once you understand that right now
you’re a moment in time and that you
have latent potential and that latent
potential can be expressed in the form
of skills that you can get good at
things that you can develop yourself in
any direction that brain plasticity
alone is one of the greatest weapons
that you’re not using but you have to
move beyond what you can perceive today
you have to begin to look beyond that
and see that which doesn’t yet exist and
you have to remember that many of the
things that are holding you down or
rules that you don’t even realize are
rules and as General Douglas MacArthur
said you’re remembered for the rules you
break and right now you’re following
rules that you don’t even realize exist
and some of those rules are simply what
is okay to dream but I’m here to tell
you the power is in recognizing that you
can do it the power is in having the
arrogance of belief the power is an
understanding that you yes you are going
to be capable of something simply
because you are willing to believe in
yourself and that’s the thing it’s a
willingness to believe in yourself no
one’s going to give it to you even the
people that love you they’re not going
to give you that they’re incapable of
giving it to you people cannot be past
their limitations and they take them for
truth people actually believe the things
that have stopped them will forever not
only stop them but they will stop other
people how can they hope to give you
anything but limitation
so if you know that if you know that
even the people that love you what their
handling was limitation with the best of
fucking intentions with all the love in
the world how are you going to break out
of that how are you going to break past
those rules how are you going to fight
the anxiety that inevitably comes your
way when you think about going against
the grain but my friends until you can
do that you can never get beyond the
bullshit that limits you if people said
gravity is what it is we never would
have reached the skate velocity and yet
as a species we have been able to hurl a
fucking rocket into space get it outside
of gravity take us to other planets that
is real only because somebody said I
refuse to be held down by the most
obvious rule that we have the one that
everybody says is beyond reproach and
that is gravity
but even gravity will break under the
weight of a superior will so recognizes
epictetus said if you want to improve be
content to be thought foolish and stupid
can you be content to be thought foolish
and stupid or do you allow yourself to
be caged to be hemmed in by what other
people think and look I get it I
understand the sting of contempt I
understand how much it sucks and someone
you respect doesn’t respect you but you
cannot be anything more than their
captive if you think about what they
think about you if you let yourself be
defined by what other people perceive of
as you then you will forever be limited
by what they give you permission to do
and I don’t know about you but when I
was a kid I said when I’m an adult I
will never fucking be told what to do
again I will never be held back by
somebody else I will define myself I
will figure out what I need to do and I
will do it and at the end of the day
that is it my goals Drive my behavior I
am NOT held back by what other people
think about me no matter how fucking
intoxicating it is to be loved you have
to decide what you want more do you want
to be you or do you want to be someone
else’s reflect
you
[Music]
[Music]
breaks everyone and afterward many are
stronger in the broken places but my
question is why is in everyone to me it
comes down to the strategies that you
use there really isn’t anything
objectively good or bad there isn’t
anything that happens to you that can’t
be overcome there isn’t anything that
could happen to you
anything that when you turn inward you
can’t find a reason to overcome you
can’t find a way to put those pieces
back together and that becomes your job
it becomes literally up to you whether
you’re going to sit and wallow and woe
is me because what happened happened and
there’s no way to take it back but how
you respond what do you bring to that
table whether you need fire wood fire
whether you meet that adversity with
falling apart becoming weaker in the
areas that broke or you bind them and
mend them and it becomes like a well
that literally makes you stronger is a
choice and it’s a choice only you get to
make but as Stephen Hawking said when
you complain nobody wants to help you
there are many things in your life every
reason to complain about you have every
reason to be upset by the things that
have happened to you the most sinister
thing about excuses is they’re valid
there’s a million reasons why you should
be able to give up there’s a million
reasons why you shouldn’t need to try
that thing that broke you you should be
allowed to just sit on the ground and
here’s the thing that’s your right
you’ve every reason to do it and maybe
people won’t even think less of you
but here’s the truth why they become
weaker or stronger in the places that
broke and that’s a choice of how you
react to moving forward the great news
is the best thing that you could do to
become stronger is love yourself and as
Kamal Ravi Kahn said loving yourself is
attractive people think that it’s
something that’s going to feel right
that it’s going to feel natural that
you’re just going to turn inward and
there it is the spark of love and joy
for yourself inside yourself and the
truth is that’s just not the human
experience that’s not the way that it
works there’s going to be a voice inside
your head and it’s going to blame you
it’s going to say that it’s your fault
and no matter how many times people on
the outside tell you that that is not
true that this thing happened to you
that it isn’t you it doesn’t define you
there will be a voice that’s going to
tell you that it does and that’s where
you have to fall back on process that’s
where you have to realize that you
literally have to practice loving
yourself and that it’s okay that no
matter what happened there is absolutely
nothing that invalidates that you’re
worthy of your own love but you’ve got
to practice it you’ve got to be willing
to do it you’ve got to be willing to put
in the reps you’ve got to know that it’s
not going to feel right but you’ve got
to know on the other side of that is a
vision of your life where you actually
do love yourself because you took the
time to say it you took the time to
practice it you took the time to sit
there and feel stupid and say that you
love yourself and sometimes just putting
in the work is what you need to do to
get strong so put in the work
[Music]
many of you as I have been as I am are
where you are in your life based upon
what you believe and it’s not just what
you think you believe on the surface
it’s also your shadow beliefs that are
holding you back from moving into the
life that you believe you deserve what I
know is if you’re not looking at the
shadows you’re not looking at what is
subconsciously running through the tape
in your mind telling yourself you’re not
good enough you’re not worthy enough
you’re not smart enough you are not
enough which is a tape that’s playing
for a lot of people if you’re not
conscious of that then you end up acting
out of that belief system and not out of
what you know to be the truth or want to
be the truest yourself you are where you
are today in part because of what you’ve
been saying about yourself words are
like these when you speak something out
you give life to what you’re saying if
you continue to say eventually that can
become a reality you are planting seeds
when you talk at some point you’re going
to eat that fruit my challenge is make
sure you’re planning the right kind of
seeds if you want apples you have to sow
apple seeds if you want oranges you
can’t plant cactus seeds poison ivy
seeds mushroom seeds you’re going to
read through from the exact seed that
you’ve been selling it in other words
you can’t talk negative and expect to
live a positive life
you can’t talk to feet and expect to
have victory you can’t talk lack not
enough can’t afford it never get ahead
and expect to have abundance if you have
a poor mouth you’re going to have a poor
life
[Music]
this is great when we’re saying things
like I’m blessed I’m strong I will
accomplish my dream I’m coming out of
there that’s not just being positive
you are prophesying victory proper sign
success prophesy new levels your life
will move in the direction of your words
but too many people go around prophesy
on just the opposite I never get any
good brain I’ll never get back in shape
business is slow
I’ll probably get laid off flu season is
here I always get it they don’t realize
they are prophesying defeat it’s just
like they’re calling in bad breaks
mediocrity lack you don’t become what
you want because so much of wanting is
about living in the space of what you
don’t have that’s why Jim Carrey’s story
is so powerful because he started to act
as though he already had it we’d go up
to Mulholland Drive you would drive away
things thinking I already have those
things I just haven’t accessed them as
yet I believe those things are going to
come to me I’m going to act like they
are so I’m going to move forward in my
life in order to draw that to myself in
such a way that my actions are in
alignment with what I say I believe so
if you start to think about that really
why are you where you are in your life
the choices that you have made have been
because of what you believe to be true
for yourself
the time is now the time is out to
express and for people to believe in
themselves the time is now for it to be
okay to be great people in this world
shutting people for being great for
being a bright color to stand and out
but the time is now to be okay to be the
greatest you you can talk yourself out
of your destiny
negative words can keep you from
becoming who you were created to be
don’t fall into that trap quit calling
in defeat quit talking about how it’s
not going to happen you should write
down your goal write down what you want
to see happen in life any area that
you’re struggling in where you need to
improve write it down like it’s already
done and then every day declares that
decree read over it a couple of times
out loud it’s not enough to just think
it something happens when we speak you
have to prophesize your teaching those
words will get down on the inside of you
they’ll not only change your outlook but
they will change who you are your words
will become your reality everyone takes
the limits of their own vision for the
limits of the world
Arthur Chopin our there is all around
you right now the reflections of your
world beliefs they’re so ever-present
that you don’t even see them all the
assumption that you’ve made about the
world the things that are possible what
you’re capable of who you are the very
definition of what it means to be alive
all of it is completely invisible and
you’re mistaken what you have for what
could be and once you break free of that
once you understand that right now
you’re a moment in time and that you
have latent potential and that latent
potential can be expressed in the form
of skills that you can get good at
things that you can develop yourself in
any direction that brain plasticity
alone is one of the greatest weapons
that you’re not using but you have to
move beyond what you can perceive today
you have to begin to look beyond that
and see that which doesn’t yet exist and
you have to remember that many of the
things that are holding you down or
rules that you don’t even realize are
rules and as General Douglas MacArthur
said you’re remembered for the rules you
break and right now you’re following
rules that you don’t even realize exist
and some of those rules are simply what
is okay to dream but I’m here to tell
you the power is in recognizing that you
can do it the power is in having the
arrogance of belief the power is an
understanding that you yes you are going
to be capable of something simply
because you are willing to believe in
yourself and that’s the thing it’s a
willingness to believe in yourself no
one’s going to give it to you even the
people that love you they’re not going
to give you that they’re incapable of
giving it to you people cannot be past
their limitations and they take them for
truth people actually believe the things
that have stopped them will forever not
only stop them but they will stop other
people how can they hope to give you
anything but limitation
so if you know that if you know that
even the people that love you what their
handling was limitation with the best of
fucking intentions with all the love in
the world how are you going to break out
of that how are you going to break past
those rules how are you going to fight
the anxiety that inevitably comes your
way when you think about going against
the grain but my friends until you can
do that you can never get beyond the
bullshit that limits you if people said
gravity is what it is we never would
have reached the skate velocity and yet
as a species we have been able to hurl a
fucking rocket into space get it outside
of gravity take us to other planets that
is real only because somebody said I
refuse to be held down by the most
obvious rule that we have the one that
everybody says is beyond reproach and
that is gravity
but even gravity will break under the
weight of a superior will so recognizes
epictetus said if you want to improve be
content to be thought foolish and stupid
can you be content to be thought foolish
and stupid or do you allow yourself to
be caged to be hemmed in by what other
people think and look I get it I
understand the sting of contempt I
understand how much it sucks and someone
you respect doesn’t respect you but you
cannot be anything more than their
captive if you think about what they
think about you if you let yourself be
defined by what other people perceive of
as you then you will forever be limited
by what they give you permission to do
and I don’t know about you but when I
was a kid I said when I’m an adult I
will never fucking be told what to do
again I will never be held back by
somebody else I will define myself I
will figure out what I need to do and I
will do it and at the end of the day
that is it my goals Drive my behavior I
am NOT held back by what other people
think about me no matter how fucking
intoxicating it is to be loved you have
to decide what you want more do you want
to be you or do you want to be someone
else’s reflect
you
[Music]
[Music]
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