fear is so real in fact there are
probably things that you’re afraid of
doing right now in your life and your
relationships at work and the fact that
you’re afraid that’s robbing you of all
of the experiences that you want to have
in your life I mean if you’re afraid to
fly that’s gonna limit your ability to
travel and see the world or go visit
friends if you’re afraid of public
speaking that’s gonna really limit your
ability to express yourself and share
your ideas if you if you’re afraid of
talking to your boss or asking for a
raise that directly impacts how much
money you make or what if you are
dreaming of starting a business or
you’ve already started a new business
but you’re afraid to talk to people and
you’re afraid to share your business
with people I mean fear is something
that stops us all fear is real you can’t
control the feelings that are gonna rise
up in your body when you’re on a plane
or when you’re talking to your boss or
when you see somebody that’s attractive
and you you really want to go over and
talk to that person but you can always
control what you think and you can
always make a decision about the actions
you’re gonna take but the thing that’s
so difficult for most of us is how when
you’re alone you push through the
excuses the habits the fears and actual
physical constraints that you have in
your life right now so that you can make
the pivot what do you do when you have
to get on a plane and you’re actually
terrified of flying what do you do if
you got to give a presentation and you
are afraid of public speaking here’s
what you’re gonna do
think about your brain as being in two
modes there’s autopilot we’ve all
experienced that well what is autopilot
autopilot is the interior part of your
brain you’ll hear neuroscientists and
psychologists talk about the basal
ganglia very important thing to
understand is that there’s a part of
your brain that it’s entire job is
basically to execute your habits habits
behaviors that you repeat without even
thinking about it when you pull your
pants on in the morning I guarantee you
you either put your left or your right
leg in first cuz that
havior is what researchers call a habit
loop it gets encoded as a closed-loop
system right here the problem for most
of us is that half of the day we’re on
autopilot and that’s not me making a
guess that’s what researchers that study
habits and study psychology say at half
of your day you’re basically kind of
checked out and you’re on autopilot and
when you’re checked out and you’re on
autopilot any behavior pattern that you
repeat can take over and guess what our
behavior patterns that we repeat
thinking patterns so self-doubt worried
across the nation overthinking analysis
paralysis fear those are all thinking
patterns that are habits one of the most
important things that I want people to
understand is that you’re actually not a
worrier you have a habit of worrying
you’re not a procrastinator you have a
habit of procrastinating big difference
and when you understand that any
behavior pattern whether it is a
thinking pattern like you doubt yourself
all the time or whether it’s a behavior
pattern like you drink too much or you
snap at your kids or you micromanage
your team every one of those behavior
patterns and thinking patterns can
actually be interrupted and replaced
using science now let’s talk about the
second part of the brain drive drive is
the mode where you’re in charge of your
thoughts it’s where you are fully awake
you are present and you are driving your
thoughts and actions when you’re doing
that
your prefrontal cortex is active the
prefrontal cortex is the part of the
brain that you need in order to learn
new behavior in order to do something
difficult in order to do something
uncertain in order to do strategic
thinking and now you got a decision to
make are you going to drift back into
the habits or are you going to awaken
your prefrontal cortex and drive forward
and focus and do something new you have
to act within five seconds are you going
to go on autopilot and get trapped in
your mind or are you going to five four
three two one and awaken your prefrontal
cortex and draw
for you think that you need to feel
confident or courageous in order to get
started you don’t you actually just have
to start and that’s the riddle of life
that lying in bed hoping that you wake
up some morning motivated to change
that’s not the answer you actually have
to learn how to push yourself you have
to learn how to how to leverage the
power of your decisions and you’ve got
to learn how to take action when you
don’t feel like it because every morning
when I woke up I did not feel confident
I felt like a loser I felt like the
world’s worst parent I felt like I had
failed at every single turn see this is
the knowledge action gap you can know
what you want you can know what you
should be doing but how do you make
yourself do it when the feelings and the
motivation isn’t there when all you got
is fear you cannot control what triggers
you and the fact that you may rise up
with anger you may rise up with
self-doubt you may have anxiety fill
your body but you can always control
what you think and how you behave and we
spend way too much time trying to focus
on manipulating how we feel about things
and not enough time practicing the
skills of controlling your behavior and
your thoughts we make decisions of
feelings 95% of our decisions are made
by how you feel in the moment and that
is the problem you need to take control
of the moment and leverage the power of
your decisions and make them up here
because when I was lying in bed
I wasn’t saying to myself I should get
up because that’s gonna help me start my
day right I was saying do I feel like
getting up do you feel like making that
cold call no you don’t do you feel like
doing that third set ups no you don’t do
you feel like having that hard
conversation no you don’t do you feel
like ending this relationship whether
it’s in business or in your life that is
sucking you dry no you don’t we make
decisions based on our feelings and that
is robbing you of joy and opportunity
and it is blinding you from the fact
that how you change your life is one
five second decision at a time one push
at a time and if you if you accept the
fact that you may never feel ready and
you may
ever feel motivated and you may never
feel confident you may never feel
courageous and that’s okay but you can
still push yourself forward what happens
over time is as you start to see
yourself becoming the person that takes
action that you start to see yourself
becoming the kind of person that speaks
even though your voice is shaking you’re
the kind of person that that that has a
bias toward moving instead of a bias
toward thinking guess what happens you
build the skill of confidence and
courage five years ago we thought the
brain stopped growing at the age of
twenty-five the answer now is never the
truth is your brains always growing and
expanding that’s why you can always
learn new things which is amazing
because it allows for what we call
behavioral flexibility meaning there’s
no reason for you to ever be stagnant
not in business not as a leader not as a
human being [Music]
probably things that you’re afraid of
doing right now in your life and your
relationships at work and the fact that
you’re afraid that’s robbing you of all
of the experiences that you want to have
in your life I mean if you’re afraid to
fly that’s gonna limit your ability to
travel and see the world or go visit
friends if you’re afraid of public
speaking that’s gonna really limit your
ability to express yourself and share
your ideas if you if you’re afraid of
talking to your boss or asking for a
raise that directly impacts how much
money you make or what if you are
dreaming of starting a business or
you’ve already started a new business
but you’re afraid to talk to people and
you’re afraid to share your business
with people I mean fear is something
that stops us all fear is real you can’t
control the feelings that are gonna rise
up in your body when you’re on a plane
or when you’re talking to your boss or
when you see somebody that’s attractive
and you you really want to go over and
talk to that person but you can always
control what you think and you can
always make a decision about the actions
you’re gonna take but the thing that’s
so difficult for most of us is how when
you’re alone you push through the
excuses the habits the fears and actual
physical constraints that you have in
your life right now so that you can make
the pivot what do you do when you have
to get on a plane and you’re actually
terrified of flying what do you do if
you got to give a presentation and you
are afraid of public speaking here’s
what you’re gonna do
think about your brain as being in two
modes there’s autopilot we’ve all
experienced that well what is autopilot
autopilot is the interior part of your
brain you’ll hear neuroscientists and
psychologists talk about the basal
ganglia very important thing to
understand is that there’s a part of
your brain that it’s entire job is
basically to execute your habits habits
behaviors that you repeat without even
thinking about it when you pull your
pants on in the morning I guarantee you
you either put your left or your right
leg in first cuz that
havior is what researchers call a habit
loop it gets encoded as a closed-loop
system right here the problem for most
of us is that half of the day we’re on
autopilot and that’s not me making a
guess that’s what researchers that study
habits and study psychology say at half
of your day you’re basically kind of
checked out and you’re on autopilot and
when you’re checked out and you’re on
autopilot any behavior pattern that you
repeat can take over and guess what our
behavior patterns that we repeat
thinking patterns so self-doubt worried
across the nation overthinking analysis
paralysis fear those are all thinking
patterns that are habits one of the most
important things that I want people to
understand is that you’re actually not a
worrier you have a habit of worrying
you’re not a procrastinator you have a
habit of procrastinating big difference
and when you understand that any
behavior pattern whether it is a
thinking pattern like you doubt yourself
all the time or whether it’s a behavior
pattern like you drink too much or you
snap at your kids or you micromanage
your team every one of those behavior
patterns and thinking patterns can
actually be interrupted and replaced
using science now let’s talk about the
second part of the brain drive drive is
the mode where you’re in charge of your
thoughts it’s where you are fully awake
you are present and you are driving your
thoughts and actions when you’re doing
that
your prefrontal cortex is active the
prefrontal cortex is the part of the
brain that you need in order to learn
new behavior in order to do something
difficult in order to do something
uncertain in order to do strategic
thinking and now you got a decision to
make are you going to drift back into
the habits or are you going to awaken
your prefrontal cortex and drive forward
and focus and do something new you have
to act within five seconds are you going
to go on autopilot and get trapped in
your mind or are you going to five four
three two one and awaken your prefrontal
cortex and draw
for you think that you need to feel
confident or courageous in order to get
started you don’t you actually just have
to start and that’s the riddle of life
that lying in bed hoping that you wake
up some morning motivated to change
that’s not the answer you actually have
to learn how to push yourself you have
to learn how to how to leverage the
power of your decisions and you’ve got
to learn how to take action when you
don’t feel like it because every morning
when I woke up I did not feel confident
I felt like a loser I felt like the
world’s worst parent I felt like I had
failed at every single turn see this is
the knowledge action gap you can know
what you want you can know what you
should be doing but how do you make
yourself do it when the feelings and the
motivation isn’t there when all you got
is fear you cannot control what triggers
you and the fact that you may rise up
with anger you may rise up with
self-doubt you may have anxiety fill
your body but you can always control
what you think and how you behave and we
spend way too much time trying to focus
on manipulating how we feel about things
and not enough time practicing the
skills of controlling your behavior and
your thoughts we make decisions of
feelings 95% of our decisions are made
by how you feel in the moment and that
is the problem you need to take control
of the moment and leverage the power of
your decisions and make them up here
because when I was lying in bed
I wasn’t saying to myself I should get
up because that’s gonna help me start my
day right I was saying do I feel like
getting up do you feel like making that
cold call no you don’t do you feel like
doing that third set ups no you don’t do
you feel like having that hard
conversation no you don’t do you feel
like ending this relationship whether
it’s in business or in your life that is
sucking you dry no you don’t we make
decisions based on our feelings and that
is robbing you of joy and opportunity
and it is blinding you from the fact
that how you change your life is one
five second decision at a time one push
at a time and if you if you accept the
fact that you may never feel ready and
you may
ever feel motivated and you may never
feel confident you may never feel
courageous and that’s okay but you can
still push yourself forward what happens
over time is as you start to see
yourself becoming the person that takes
action that you start to see yourself
becoming the kind of person that speaks
even though your voice is shaking you’re
the kind of person that that that has a
bias toward moving instead of a bias
toward thinking guess what happens you
build the skill of confidence and
courage five years ago we thought the
brain stopped growing at the age of
twenty-five the answer now is never the
truth is your brains always growing and
expanding that’s why you can always
learn new things which is amazing
because it allows for what we call
behavioral flexibility meaning there’s
no reason for you to ever be stagnant
not in business not as a leader not as a
human being [Music]
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