Motivation is Garbage

I think it’s garbage because at some
point we all bought into this lie that
you’ve got to feel ready in order to
change we bought into this this complete
falsehood that at some point you’re
going to have the courage at some point
you’re going to have the confidence and
it’s total bull frankly I don’t realize
I swear it out okay it’s it’s complete
garbage
and so there are so many people in the
world and and you know you may be
watching this right now
and you have these incredible ideas and
what you think is missing is motivation
and that’s not true because the way that
our minds are wired and the fact about
human beings is that we are not designed
to do things that are uncomfortable or
scary or difficult our brains are
designed to protect us from those things
because our brains are trying to keep us
alive and in order to change in order to
build a business in order to be the best
parents of a spouse to do all those
things that you know you want to do with
your life with your work with your
dreams you’re going to have to do things
that are difficult uncertain or scary
which sets up this problem for all of us
you’re not going to feel like it
motivations garbage you only feel
motivated to do the things that are easy
right what do you think that is oh I
know exactly why that is because I’ve
studied this so much because for me one
of the hardest things to figure out was
why is it so hard to do the little
things that would improve my life and
what I’ve come to realize and what we’ll
talk a lot about today is that the way
that our minds are designed is our minds
are designed to stop you at all costs
from doing anything that might hurt you
and the way that that that that this all
happens is it all starts with something
super subtle that none of us ever catch
and that is with this habit that all of
us have that nobody’s talking about we
all have a habit of hesitating
we have an idea you’re sitting in a
meeting you have this incredible idea
and instead of just you know saying it
you stop and you hesitate now what none
of us realize is that when you hesitate
to spent moment that micro moment that
small hesitation it sends a stress
signal to your brain it wakes your brain
up and your brain all of a sudden goes
oh wait a minute
why is he hesitating he didn’t hesitate
when he put on his killer spiky sneakers
he didn’t hesitate with the really cool
track pants he didn’t hesitate with the
NASA tee shirt now he’s hesitating to
talk that must be up so then your brain
goes to work to protect you it has a
million different ways to protect you
one of them is called the spotlight
effect it’s a known phenomenon where
your brain magnifies risk Y to pull you
away from something that it perceives to
be a problem and so you can truly trace
every single problem or complaint in
your life to silence and hesitation
those are decisions and what I do and
what’s changed my life is waking up and
realizing that motivations garbage I’m
never going to feel like doing the
things that are tough or difficult or
uncertain or scary or new so I need to
stop waiting until I feel like it and
number two I am one decision away from a
totally different marriage a totally
different life a totally different job a
totally different income a totally
different relationship with my kids
not like one decision I’m divorcing you
in in the marriage example but one
decision on you know you could be having
a conversation with your spouse and you
feel your emotions rise up and within a
tiny window those emotions can take over
and can impact how your marriage goes or
you can learn how to take control of
that micro moment and make a decision to
act in a way that actually shifts your
marriage your life comes down to your
decisions and if you change your
decisions you will change everything