if you want to be the best if you want
to reach the pinnacle you must be
there’s no way around you have to be
obsessed with obtaining that greatness
in any field greatness cannot be
achieved without obsession everybody
wants to be a beast in terms time to do
what bees do if you don’t believe in
yourself
it won’t happen for you you can’t just
say you want it you can’t watch the
video and say I want it as bad as I want
to breathe its to to say it but when
it’s Showtime when the Sun comes up
sometimes your life will be in a slump I
suggest to you that if you are facing a
challenge
don’t stop stay busy work your plan
continue to do those things that you
know that work for you after you have
evaluated yourself in the situation
continue to move stay busy stay busy
stay busy when the Sun comes up you’ve
got all the books you’ve got all the
tapes you’ve got all the access now it’s
time to hunt and what separates you from
everybody else is that when it’s time to
hunt you radar hug it’s about winning
six-five everything you got today
no because you say this game is you did
everything you had to go up you gotta
give up you want to be the best at your
company you want to make more money than
you’ve ever made you want to travel the
world I don’t know you want to build
your second home I’m not sure what you
want but I need you to understand you
can’t stay where you are and go where
you trying to go and that’s the problem
many of you you love your comfort zone
too much you love it you love security
too much and I’m telling you you can
stay where you are you can but you can’t
stay where you are and try to go when
you go in it’s necessary to know that
everybody won’t see it that everybody
won’t join you that everybody won’t have
the vision it’s necessary to know that
that a lot of people like to complain
but they don’t want to do anything about
their situation that you are an uncommon
breed you know you have to know within
yourself that I can do this even if no
one else sees it for me I must see it
for myself that’s necessary it’s also
ladies and gentlemen necessary that you
be creative when you’re working on your
ideas that you understand the importance
of changing up of readjusting your
strategies many times we can have a
great idea but if you’re not advancing
it in the right way and things don’t
happen you become discouraged and think
the idea doesn’t work no that’s not true
you can’t activate life you can’t begin
to experience life in the way you want
to expand you can’t have it you can’t be
you can’t do it until you activate it
and yes it’s all in there all your gifts
all your talents all your everything you
need to do to be what you then call and
do but you’ve been birth to do you can’t
do until you activated until you
recognize you matter everything about
you is great what the problem is you
have consciously chosen to be average
there’s no denying that inside of you
the only thing that’s gonna make you
happy and the your head and the decades
ahead is gonna be having you have an
experience where on a regular basis you
feel like your life is making progress
if there’s one thing I teach and I want
to remind you of it it’s really simple
things getting things is not gonna make
you happy that’s good news in a tough
economy it’s a good reminder you know
doesn’t matter what you get doesn’t
matter whether it be money or
opportunity all those things might
excite you for the moment you know even
a relationship as magnificent it may be
might be exciting for a while but if you
don’t keep growing that relationship
isn’t gonna stay exciting so the secret
to real happiness is progress progress
equals happiness and if we can make
progress on a regular basis we feel
alive and that’s why at the beginning of
the year we get this thing like okay I
can have this fresh start I could really
do what my soul desires I could expand I
could grow I could improve I could
change or maybe better than change I
could progress see think about that
progress is an aliveness to it doesn’t
it you don’t have to work at changing
people say all the time that allow I’m
working on changing don’t worry about it
the work on changing changes automatic
your body’s gonna change whether you
want it or not as the years go by no
matter how hard you work there’s gonna
be some changes going on there and the
economy is gonna change no matter what
you want it to do the weather is gonna
change relationships are gonna change
everything in life is always changing we
have to work on change change is
automatic but progress is not so if you
want to make real progress then you
really got to look at your life in a
different way you gotta say I gotta take
control of this process and not just
hope that’s gonna work out like people
do who make a resolution cuz really
isn’t that what they’re really doing at
the beginning of the year they’re saying
well here’s my resolutions for the year
and they really basically tell you their
wishes it’s their wish list it’s what
they hope it all comes together and then
they call it a resolution but they don’t
know what a resolution is when you
resolve something to have a resolution
is to resolve it when you’ve resolved
this is how it’s gonna be that’s when
you cut off any possibility except the
thing you’ve committed to it’s like the
old adage if you want to take the island
you burn the boats because when you burn
those boats there’s no going back you’re
gonna find a way to make things work and
most people they’re stating what they
hope will come together and if it
doesn’t happen then they’re disappointed
but they’re not too disappointed because
they’re not too vested what does it take
to successfully create a lasting change
in your life to not only have a new
year’s resolution you follow through on
but really have a lasting change well
the first step for lasting change is
very much like making a new year’s
resolution fundamentally it’s the same
the first step is you’ve got to have a
vision a vision for what it is you
really truly want not what you think you
want or what you should have I mean what
are most people’s New Year’s resolutions
I’m gonna stop eating sugar you know I’m
gonna stop smoking I’m gonna lose 10
pounds problem with that is it’s not
very inspiring for most people you know
it’s not telling you what you’re gonna
get it’s only what you’re not gonna do
and it’s kind of hard to have you move
forward with that a vision is about what
you’re here to create a vision that
really works is one that excites you if
you say well my you know my resolution
my goal my how come for this month this
week this year is to lose X number of
pounds that’s okay but it’s not very
compelling it has to be a compelling
vision it’s gotta have something has the
power to pull you not something you have
to push yourself to do those are two
different kinds of motivation push
requires willpower and willpower never
last what will last is pull having
something so exciting so attractive so
somebody who desire so much that you
have a hard time going to sleep at night
you get so up early in the morning to a
rocket and take it to the next level
that’s what you’re looking at great and
that wasn’t easy to get but one of the
reasons we do seminars and events be
saying you know why do that why isn’t
why not just read a book or something is
because when you get an environment
where you were people that are being put
in a peak state like when you’re going
to a sporting event if you watch the
sporting event at home it might have a
certain level of excitement but when
you’re in a stadium with 50,000 people
suddenly it has a whole different level
of intensity when we feel that and the
bottom line of our follow-through comes
down to our emotional
intensity in a different state of mind
you’re gonna come up with a much better
and more exciting vision than if you’re
sitting the couch going okay what are my
new resolutions for this year and you’re
doing it the morning after the new year
is started and you’re a little
inebriated and the football games on in
the background
probably not gonna have the power of
focus they’re probably not gonna have a
power the energy to create something
that’s gonna pull you for this year and
you got to do that so it’s got to be a
vision that’s compelling something that
you know it’s gonna be a gift to make
sure that it happens and also along with
that compelling vision you gotta have
strong enough reasons that you’re gonna
follow through and the going gets tough
that’s one of the biggest things missing
for most people they said this is what I
want to do it’s not very exciting it’s
not very compelling but most importantly
they don’t have strong enough reasons to
push themselves through what’s gonna be
necessary to get that dream to get that
goal when the inevitable challenges come
up when you’re starving hungry and
you’re trying to go on a diet right when
you got no time when you’re stressed out
and you haven’t worked out still and
that’s what you’re supposed to do when
the economy gets tight and what you
thought you’re gonna do doesn’t work and
so you give up on the goal instead of
finding another way to get there you
don’t let the fear take you over if you
got strong enough reasons those reasons
can be positive or those reasons can
also be negative they can be if I don’t
do this this it’s gonna cost me and if I
do to this this is what I’m gonna gain
in my life
reasons come first answers come second
if you get a compelling vision and you
got strong enough reasons that will push
you through the tough times you’re gonna
do things other people don’t do instead
of collapsing even if you get off target
you won’t go oh I blew it you’ll get
right back on target make the change
make things happen and I know you’ve
done this in many areas your life just
think about it again and I’m not
teaching you something really new here
today I just want to remind you of what
your soul knows you got a change you got
to improve and you’ve got to go through
a simple process fundamentally to make
that progress first step vision that’s
compelling second step make sure that
they’re strong enough reasons to follow
through third step
you’ve got to review it and feel it
every day I mean anything have you ever
had this happen in your life has there
been anything in your life that you’ve
ever wanted so badly you were so
desirous of it yet such a hunger
right now you couldn’t stop thinking
about it could been a career move could
have been when you’re a kid a car it
could have been a relationship it could
have been anything but you were obsessed
you wanted to make this happen you
wanted to track this to your life you
wanna you just wanted something and you
didn’t even know how to get it but it
was so compelling team kept thinking
about it every day and visioning and
imagining it feeling it and then stuff
happened and suddenly you started
attract people or situations to your
life and it just came together like you
didn’t even have a total plan it was
just that it was so a part of your focus
with so much intensity and emotion so
often that it sensitized you to notice
anything that could get you there
there’s a part of your brain called the
reticular activating system for short we
call it the RAS that part of your brain
determines what you notice in the world
and it’s really important because when
you set a goal when you get really clear
in a vision they’re strong enough
reasons and you review it enough it
becomes a part of you that part of your
brain says anything that relates to this
I need to notice it’s like did you ever
buy a certain kind of car or maybe a
certain outfit and suddenly you see that
car everywhere are those outfits
everywhere well you know the cars were
always around but why do you see it now
because your Ras knows this is important
this was part of my world now similarly
when you really get clear and it’s
compelling and you’re reviewing it every
day got strong reasons you’re viewing it
every day and you’re feeling it the
brain becomes incredibly acute at
noticing anything to get you to move
forward and so that’s the power of this
so you know what do people do with New
Year’s resolution they come up with
something they kind of want it’s not a
compelling vision they don’t really have
strong enough reasons and they never
review it again and tell to notice that
they broke what they said they really
want to have make happen because they
didn’t really resolve if you resolve you
got the vision it’s compelling you
review it daily and you feel it you
envision it and you experience it simple
as it sounds now ultimately what is this
really about ultimately if you’re gonna
have lasting change in anything you’re
really talking about just raising your
standards I mean I always tell people if
you want to know how to change your life
and give it to you in three words boring
as it sounds raise yours
hindrance what does that mean corny as
it sounds raise your standards I’ll
thank you for the breakthrough thought
Tony I’m glad I wasted my time watching
this little email with you but think
about it lasting change is different
than a goal you don’t always get your
goals but you always get your standards
maybe it’ll help you is to think about
it this way I try to explain standards
to people with a different set of words
think of it as everybody in life gets
there must they don’t get their shoulds
right think about it you must be above a
list of shits nope they don’t have a
list of the shuds things you should do
you should follow through on I I should
lose some weight I should work out more
I should make more calls I should
respond more rapidly to my email
whatever you know I should get into the
office earlier I should be you know more
confident whatever your should list is
people love to have their should list
may be met but it’s kind of like New
Year’s resolutions if it does it’s
really exciting but if it doesn’t which
is most the time it’s a little
disappointing but you kind of know it’s
not gonna happen
but when you decide something as a must
for you an absolute must when you cut up
any possible you say I’m gonna find the
way I’m gonna make the way human beings
when they resolve things and they have
make a real resolution inside themself
which is they raise the standard they
make it a must they find the way think
about in your own life happens you had
some area of your life where you raise
your standard in your life has never
been the same maybe at one time you like
to use smoke cigarettes or you did
something and you did it for years and
you kept trying to change it trying to
change it and kept telling yourself I
should and then one day something
happened something just clicked you over
something took you over that kind of
tipping point and inside yourself you
said no more there was a very very
different experience wasn’t it something
inside of you shifted and what was a
should became a must and you’ve never
gotten back is there an area like that
in your life you could think of again do
you ever smoked cigarettes a jammer eat
a certain way drink a certain form of
alcohol and then finally saying no mourn
you just don’t go back and notice this
it doesn’t really take any willpower
anymore because somewhere when we make
this click we make something a must we
attach ourselves to it it becomes part
of our identity the one thing I’ve
learned in the last gosh 33 years
they’re working on people
now over 100 countries four million
people is human beings absolutely follow
through on who they believe they are if
you say said to me well I’m really gonna
work hard to stop smoking but you know
I’ve been a smoker my whole life and I’m
you know I am a smoker I know your days
are numbered you’re gonna be back
smoking cigarettes again because we all
act consistent with who we believe we
are
I tell people the strongest force in the
whole human personality is this need to
stay consistent with how we define
ourselves
if you define yourself as somebody who
is really conservative you’re not gonna
be crazy and act nuts unless you’re
really drunk or something and then you
can say it’s the alcohol when it really
does you finally getting permission to
be yourself
the alcohol is your excuse if you’re a
really crazy person you act crazy
outrageous playful you don’t act
conservative because that’s not who you
are very often people say well I can’t
do that I’m not that kind of person and
I always say to people really when did
you define yourself I mean really how
many years ago did you come up with what
you could and couldn’t do in your life
how many years ago most people if they
really look at how they’re living their
life today it’s based on a set of
standards a set of beliefs that they
made choices about 10 20 30 or more
years ago I mean very often we made
decisions in our youth or very young
about what to believe about what we were
capable of about who we are as a person
and that becomes the glass ceiling a few
will that controls us there’s a corny
metaphor but it’s true I remember one
time I was with my family at the circus
and there’s a person there and they had
this big giant elephant and you look at
this elephant and they take this little
rope put it around the elephant’s neck
and they drive the stake into the ground
and I mean you look at this you know
that elephant could rip down the entire
tent
with almost no effort and yet the
elephant doesn’t struggle doesn’t try
why because the elephant’s conditioned
and they take that elephant conditioned
the elephant when it’s a baby elephant
that’s how they trained them when it’s a
little baby elephant and it doesn’t have
the power yet they put a big rope around
it and they drive this huge stake in the
ground and the elephant fights and
fights and fights and one day finding
that often decides I’m not capable
Alling this out and once that becomes
the definition of an identity of anyone
in elephants in this case they don’t
even try anymore it’s just who I am
that’s how it is that’s just the way it
is in my life I’d like to ask you to
take a look at any place you’ve got a
limitation ask yourself when did I
decide to accept that limitation and you
may not even see it as a limitation you
might see there just that’s who I am but
so often our lives we’ve adapted to be a
certain way so that we don’t fail or so
that people will like us or respect us
but it’s not necessarily who we are joy
comes when you’re spontaneous it’s
really hard to be truly happy when
you’re not being yourself and most of us
have no clue we are and so a big part of
my work if you’ve ever been to an event
you know is to get people and do things
spontaneously without thinking because
that’s when the real you shows up that’s
when the energy comes alive and when you
do that when you start to connect your
true nature suddenly there’s energy
available for you to set a higher
standard for what you want in your life
that’s what this is really all about and
when I talk about standards when I talk
about you know shoulds versus must think
about your own life I know there have
been areas in your life where some point
in time you just shift it and you raise
the standard in your life change because
whatever people have their identity
attached to they live we live who we
believe we are that’s just how it works
it’s just kind of like I give an example
look at your physical body your physical
body today is an absolute reflection of
only one thing
not your goals not your desires but your
standards the identity you have for
yourself if your standard is you’re an
athlete then there’s a certain amount of
strength a muscle tone and energy that’s
available in your body on a regular
basis because that’s who you are and so
you do whatever is necessary to maintain
that identity
and the strongest force and the human
personalities this need to stay
consistent with how we define ourselves
because if you don’t know who you are
you would not act once you lock in on
that identity your brain finds a way to
keep you there if you say you know man
I’m overweight I’ve always been
overweight I’m big-boned and that’s the
story you’ve got and you’re gonna always
find a way to get back there that’s
you’re settling point that’s your
identity that’s where things lock in if
you see somebody who’s in really great
shape you ask him do you work out you
know the answer yes how often and
they’ll tell you three times four times
five times a week whatever in a seven
hour last people who here works out at
least five days a week and I’m stand-up
and you look around that room and you
know that they work out five times a
week cuz you can see their body you
don’t just get a result without some
kind of action without some form of
ritual ritual meaning actions you do
consistently now do you think you knows
people that are out there working out
five days a week do they have more time
than you do or I have for anybody else
of course not is that a wife less busy
of course not it’s just a must for them
they must work out that way and they’ve
made that turn their life changed so I’m
not saying you have to work out five
days a week I’m just saying whatever you
really want once don’t get met
consistently standards do whatever you
identify this is Who I am and so it’s
not so much about changing your identity
as there’s expanding it you know
deciding that you know instead of your
goals to lose ten pounds which is not
compelling what if your vision was to
get back to my fighting weight you know
just this year this month this next 90
days I’m gonna transform my body I’m
gonna take on a new challenge I’m gonna
find some technique or strategy there’s
a million of them that can reframe
myself where I want to feel younger
stronger more vibrant than ever before
here’s my reasons because I want the
energy to really make my life work
because it’s tough out there and I want
to be stronger than I’ve ever been
before I’m going front of the mirror and
if I’m naked not you know wanna laugh I
will look there and take a good look and
go yeah
I’m proud of whatever I see there
whatever it takes something’s gonna make
you laugh smile something that’s gonna
tease yourself but something’s gonna
move you to another level if you
identify yourself in a new way and you
own that every day and that becomes the
scared how you live you’ll find the way
to make that standard real money’s the
same way think about it doesn’t matter
what’s happening quote-unquote in the
marketplace people that make money find
a way to make money no matter what don’t
they I mean most people’s standard is to
pay their bills so that’s what most
people find a way to do even when
economic times get tough most people if
that’s their absolute standard they find
a way some people’s standard is pay
their bills and most of the time and so
most of the time they do some people’s
standard is not just to pay their bills
but to take care of their family and
maybe even some of their friends and
they find a way in fact you know if some
people may be in a family where they
don’t have enough money to barely have
money to pay their bills they work
through guts out and then somebody their
mother their father somebody else their
sister gets ill and there’s not enough
money to take care of it nobody else has
money family they don’t either but they
find a way to get that money to take
care of their mother or father don’t
they and they their bells they never
could do it before why the situation
made them raise their own standard and
not everybody does that somebody else in
the family might have money and still
don’t take care of their mother it all
comes down to the inner game my friends
changing your life is a change in the
inner game the outside world you can’t
control but you have absolute control of
this one if you learn that dynamics of
what shapes you and identity is one of
those simple clear fundamental basics
that if you start to shift it everything
else will shift in your life as well
some people by the way have to have more
than enough money to do what they want
when they want where they want with
whomever they want contribute the way
they want if that’s there must they find
a way I know that sounds overly
simplistic but it’s true now somebody
once said you can take all the money in
the world out of the hands of everybody
out of all the wealthy people in the
world who are really successful give it
other people it wouldn’t take too long
those people have it back in their hands
it’s not because they’re manipular it’s
because they have a standard some are
minute do it
get me wrong but they’ve got a standard
of what they’re gonna find a way to make
happen I’m just simply saying to you
take those three magic words and live
them raise your standard if you really
want to do it then I’ll tell you the
most important secret have you ever done
this have you ever told yourself you’re
raising your saying okay I’m gonna go
make this happen I’m gonna go make this
much money I’m gonna transform my kids
I’m gonna create the ultimate
relationship of my life I’m gonna
transfer my body whatever it is and then
you don’t have strong enough reasons and
you don’t lose use it you don’t follow
through it’s because you didn’t back up
your standards with what makes those
standards real and that’s rituals
rituals all of the power is whenever we
do our Robbins results coaching and we
did Robbins equals results late we get
results with people it’s the same way if
you listen to my ultimate edge program
are back in the old days personal power
or if you went to one of my seminars you
know what I do is I take these huge
challenges you got and we break them
down into little bite-sized steps little
things you do each day that after you do
them you get so much momentum that it’s
easy to succeed you’re not overwhelmed
you have these victory day after day
after day on little things if you’d want
to ultimate edge I’m sure you learn
about the hour of power or the 15
minutes to be able to be fulfilled or 30
minutes to thrive where you literally
just condition your body and emotion
with a couple little rituals so it
doesn’t matter what’s going on in your
world you feel that strength and it’s
not fake it’s not some pump up it’s
coming from inside you and it works
rituals define us see all the results in
your life are coming from your rituals
they start with a standard and then have
rituals that follow it up like for
example if you are where you want to be
physically you have very different
rituals than if you’re not where you
want to be physically if you’re
overweight you and I both know you got a
different ritual than if you’re
physically fit completely different you
get up in the morning what’s the first
thing you do if you’re fit your shoes
are there you roll over the minute you
feel you put on their shoes you lace and
you start walking or whatever that
ritual is if you’re overweight you roll
over and you have a very different
ritual you might roll over several times
the turn the alarm clock off
you go in and get your mocha mocha
whatever you know special coffee stop by
at Starbucks or over the case maybe you
have your nice sugar muffin you know
it’s supposed to be really nice for you
whatever you do it’s a different ritual
if you have a great passionate
relationship you have very different
rituals and how you come home than if
you have a lousy relationship you come
home and the first thing you do is
you’re tweeting somebody or you’re
emailing or flipping on the news or you
don’t even come home what are the
rituals
whenever I study people that are
successful well I look for is what’s the
standard they hold himself to and then
what are all those little rituals that
up because think about it
success and failure are not giant events
they don’t just show up you don’t just
suddenly become successful or suddenly
have this cataclysmic event that makes
you fail may look that way but failure
comes from all the little things
it’s failure to make the call it’s
failure to check the books its failure
to say I’m sorry
its failure to push yourself to do
things physically that you don’t want to
do and all those little failures day
after day come together until one day
some Cataclysm event happens you blame
Matt that event happened because you
missed all the little stuff do you agree
with me and success by the way is not
some overnight event it’s all these
little things success is having a vision
success is making it compelling success
is really seeing and feeling it every
day it was strong enough for reasons
success is feeling the sense that I’m
here to grow and I’m here to give
something to the world more than just
myself success is caring about other
people success is calling and saying I
love you in the middle of the day for no
damn reason or sending a note that will
change your relationship have a ritual
of something funny playful or a surprise
you do how many relationships are dead
today because they have no surprise
rituals anymore you need to have some
rituals some cool things you do that
nobody else does that gives you a better
life than anybody else has all the
little stuff that’s where success comes
from in
business it comes from delivering more
than anybody could imagine all those
little things add up people go wow
that’s who I want to do business with
it’s true in any area of your life so if
you look at somebody’s really successful
you think wow I mean they’re so amazing
there’s such a genius you gotta dig
underneath you gotta member something
people are rewarded in public from what
they’ve practiced for years in private
myself and my business people say how
are you get up and speaking of nono-chan
you go for three days and nights and the
room is like it he’s wired it’s
incredible it’s like a rock concert how
do you do that how do you have that
confidence of home and you know it’s not
confidence it’s experience now but I did
so much behind the scenes and I still do
to make things right I mean how many
people would know that since the time I
was 17 years old before I walked on
stage still do to this day wouldn’t need
to do it but I still do it
I never walk out there without being in
an absolute peak state of mind you know
there days my back is hurting my throat
was hurting or I may have a challenger
my father passed away and I’ve still got
to deliver for these people because my
standard is give my all every time
everything has to be better talk to
anybody who’s been to our events for
5-10 years some of our trainers and I’ll
say I don’t know he does it he’s always
finds a way to make it better that’s not
an ego thing that’s a standard in me I
have to find the way and my ritual
though is I prepare I think I gather new
information I figure out how to put
something across better what do people
need I spend time with our customers I
see what’s going on and before I get on
stage each time as a sort of ritual to
put myself in a state of mind and I did
it starting with like 17 years old I
started doing it say I now command my
subconscious mind and I say this out
loud several times this little phrase
set of phrases as an incantation to kind
of condition my mind and body and I’d
say I now command my subconscious mind
to direct me and helping as many people
as possible today by giving me the
strength and the emotion and the humor
and the brevity whatever it takes to
show this person helped this person
change their life now and I started that
with a person when I work with people
one-on-one and I would do that for 45
minutes driving in my Volkswagen to go
serve and coach somebody for the first
time now I don’t say that person I say
these people and I can go out in the
room of 10,000 people and deliver for 50
hours and I do it
every time I come back on stage it’s a
ritual a ritual they going to Peaks they
Peaks they don’t just show up it’ll
interrupt you great ideas doing the
laughter you got to pursue them I talked
to Michael Jordan I’ll never forget dad
the peak of his career and got to watch
his final game saw him backstage and
spent some time with him and there’s
pretty exciting time there’s great
basketball players I think that ever
lived and has ever lived and I asked
them I said you know what sets you apart
Michael you know what is it and is it
god-given talent ability skill what does
it need to tell me you know he said I
can shoot you straight you know it’s not
you know me trying to act humble he goes
I have a lot of town a lot of god-given
town a lot of skill I’ve worked really
hard but he said really it’s my
standards he said every day I demand
more for myself than anybody else could
humanly expect I’m not competing with
somebody else I’m competing with well
I’m capable of hmm magic formula because
most of us lower our standards why
because who you spend time with my
friends is who you become one of the
biggest reasons I started going to
seminars when I was like 17 is I had
nobody around me is a great role model I
can read about somebody but being around
people being in that environment was
very different finding way to go to work
with someone who lived that standard of
life was very different you get around
people with low standards and you
compete with it you don’t need to
compete with it it’s like okay I mean
remember Jerry Springer I know if he’s
still in the air but you know I remember
used to get people on the show my
thought where would he find these people
watch these people go my wife so pretty
darn good come here that person look at
them you don’t have to change your life
all you have to do is find somebody with
a lower standard you’ll feel good about
yourself but if you feel that good
feeling it’s an illusion the only thing
that’s gonna make you happy my friend
and this year or any other is to step up
it’s to raise the standard it’s to
discover what you’re capable of and feel
that incredible power of pushing through
whatever’s holding you back and get to
the other side of more of your true self
that’s what this game is all about and
look at the best of the world than
anything
Tiger Woods what’s what’s his vision to
win golf tournaments no to be the best
that ever lived
that’s his goal that’s his vision but
here’s what’s interesting he backs it up
with rituals if you just have a vision
and you know if the rituals stop lying
to yourself his rituals are he started
doing things nobody did before he went
started lifting weights golfers lifting
weights no way he went out and he
changed his swing when he was the best
in the world because he realized already
be the best that ever lived he’s gonna
have to change his swing is you know
think about golf you don’t change your
swing when you’re the best and he went
and retrained himself because he has
different rituals than other golfers now
many people are modeling as rituals to
get better it’s amazing you know you
look at somebody like Michael Phelps the
2008 swimmer won seven
you know only two people I think in
history if I remember correctly that
have gotten seven gold medals in one
session and here’s a guy he’s got number
six centers belt he’s exhausted and he’s
going in for that final swim I’m sure
you remember and how does the guy win by
one hundredths of a second
do you think that was some massive skill
that got him over the top or was it a
standard that says this is Who I am I am
the champion and no one is taking this
from me and somehow in those finals
milliseconds hundredths of a second he
pushed himself just beyond his
competitor but you know how about
Michael Phelps what allowed him to be
able to push beyond that moment is this
rituals go steady the guy most people
who swim have these unbelievable
workouts he does two and three of the
workout sessions a day all the other
swimmers in the beginning thought he was
insane you can over train you can’t do
that it’s not physically possible but he
had a standard and the rituals to back
it up so here’s my final message to you
because I’ve gotten carried away if I
was gonna send you like a five-minute
message but you can see there’s no
script here it’s just me going a little
crazy with you but I want to really see
you get what you want this year don’t
let this year be like last and if last
year was great still don’t let it be
that way raise the standard your life is
perfect an extraordinary you darn well
know you’re not gonna be happy unless
you keep making it better that’s what
makes us feel alive it’s not what we get
to make us happy it’s who we become and
what we’re able to give because we’ve
become more that sense of contribution
is what creates the deepest meaning so
here’s
my assignment for if you want one if you
want to go from conversation to some
action your simple thing to do
what’s an area your life right now that
you really want improve what’s an area
that’s important to improve it’s your
body’s great how about your career if
career is great how about your
relationship intimate one especially or
your kids or your relationship with your
Creator spiritual side of your life or
is it your finances figure an area that
really matters decide on that area
number one write down what your life is
like in that area right now specifically
as possible so you might say well I’m
13.5 pounds overweight you know whatever
the way it is whatever the situation is
or my body fats like this or wake up
exhausted in the morning and you write
the truth of where you are right now so
you’re real clear or I’m not in a
relationship I say I want a relationship
but I I’m not in one I don’t seem to
find them all the good ones seem to be
gone is my belief you know I really
don’t have it whatever your definition
I’m in a relationship and god I wish I
wasn’t in a relationship I’m planning my
escape wherever you are or I have a
wonderful relationship we’d love each
other but there just isn’t enough
passion just right the truth of where
you are the area you want to change what
right how it is and then the second step
is that’s where you got to be really
honest with yourself what are the
rituals that have put me there because
whatever results you’re getting even if
you don’t like the results there’s some
rituals that are keeping you in that
place there’s some rituals of what you
eat or don’t eat how you move or don’t
move how you sleep or don’t sleep
there’s some rituals and the lack of
variety or spice or energy or focus in
an area there’s something you’re doing
and it’s usually not one thing it’s a
bunch of little things they kind of do
consistently whatever you think about
getting in a relationship whatever you
think about working out whenever you
think about money you get yourself in a
state of overwhelm you start thinking
about all the things you can’t control
just write down all the rituals you have
and then here’s the third step what do
you want what’s your vision and be
really specific I want to be my fighting
weight I want to be the strongest I’ve
ever felt I want to be I’m gonna turn my
act whatever it is be specific and then
last step number four what are the
rituals that will get you there what
would you need it differently each
morning if you’re going to be that kind
of energy that kind of strength
how would you
after how often would you work out what
days would you work out what time a
ritual is something you do consistently
usually at a specific time so becomes
automatic let me tell you something
willpower doesn’t last but rituals can
last a lifetime I bet you have some
rituals in your life right now you’ve
been doing for years even though some of
them don’t serve you
I’m just saying wake yourself up make if
you want a new year and a new life you
don’t need to start in January first
start today start with this little video
and just begin to see what happens and
see how easy it is to just do a few
little rituals don’t do them all just do
two or three new things and you know
what happens you’ll get momentum because
once you discipline yourself in one area
life you feel yourself doing in other
areas as well I always say something
that my original teacher taught me I
always remind people there’s always two
pains in life there’s the pain of
discipline or is the pain of regret and
discipline weighs ounces as my friend
Jim Rohn taught me regret weighs tons
you don’t have regret so right now what
do you want to change what’s it really
like one of the rituals that got you
there that will take a little homework
if you’re not sure ask the people around
you they’ll tell you what your rituals
are what do I really want in depth one
of the rituals that’ll get me there and
then get yourself to start a few those
actions and lock them in place so I can
help you in any way we’re here as a
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you
if you make the change in yourself
you’re gonna be proud this year and no
amount of money or accolades other
people can mirror the feeling of being
proud of knowing you’ve taken back
control of your life or you’ve taken a
great life to another level because once
you do that you have something you can
give other people whether it be your
kids or your friends or your family and
ultimate that’s why it’s about some
thanks for listening I know how long I
went to here but I hope this has been
helpful for you I just thought it’s a
new year and I want people to be able to
truly create a new life and till I see
again hopefully something soon or gets a
chance to meet you
live strong and live with passion and of course got bus to you happy new year
to reach the pinnacle you must be
there’s no way around you have to be
obsessed with obtaining that greatness
in any field greatness cannot be
achieved without obsession everybody
wants to be a beast in terms time to do
what bees do if you don’t believe in
yourself
it won’t happen for you you can’t just
say you want it you can’t watch the
video and say I want it as bad as I want
to breathe its to to say it but when
it’s Showtime when the Sun comes up
sometimes your life will be in a slump I
suggest to you that if you are facing a
challenge
don’t stop stay busy work your plan
continue to do those things that you
know that work for you after you have
evaluated yourself in the situation
continue to move stay busy stay busy
stay busy when the Sun comes up you’ve
got all the books you’ve got all the
tapes you’ve got all the access now it’s
time to hunt and what separates you from
everybody else is that when it’s time to
hunt you radar hug it’s about winning
six-five everything you got today
no because you say this game is you did
everything you had to go up you gotta
give up you want to be the best at your
company you want to make more money than
you’ve ever made you want to travel the
world I don’t know you want to build
your second home I’m not sure what you
want but I need you to understand you
can’t stay where you are and go where
you trying to go and that’s the problem
many of you you love your comfort zone
too much you love it you love security
too much and I’m telling you you can
stay where you are you can but you can’t
stay where you are and try to go when
you go in it’s necessary to know that
everybody won’t see it that everybody
won’t join you that everybody won’t have
the vision it’s necessary to know that
that a lot of people like to complain
but they don’t want to do anything about
their situation that you are an uncommon
breed you know you have to know within
yourself that I can do this even if no
one else sees it for me I must see it
for myself that’s necessary it’s also
ladies and gentlemen necessary that you
be creative when you’re working on your
ideas that you understand the importance
of changing up of readjusting your
strategies many times we can have a
great idea but if you’re not advancing
it in the right way and things don’t
happen you become discouraged and think
the idea doesn’t work no that’s not true
you can’t activate life you can’t begin
to experience life in the way you want
to expand you can’t have it you can’t be
you can’t do it until you activate it
and yes it’s all in there all your gifts
all your talents all your everything you
need to do to be what you then call and
do but you’ve been birth to do you can’t
do until you activated until you
recognize you matter everything about
you is great what the problem is you
have consciously chosen to be average
there’s no denying that inside of you
the only thing that’s gonna make you
happy and the your head and the decades
ahead is gonna be having you have an
experience where on a regular basis you
feel like your life is making progress
if there’s one thing I teach and I want
to remind you of it it’s really simple
things getting things is not gonna make
you happy that’s good news in a tough
economy it’s a good reminder you know
doesn’t matter what you get doesn’t
matter whether it be money or
opportunity all those things might
excite you for the moment you know even
a relationship as magnificent it may be
might be exciting for a while but if you
don’t keep growing that relationship
isn’t gonna stay exciting so the secret
to real happiness is progress progress
equals happiness and if we can make
progress on a regular basis we feel
alive and that’s why at the beginning of
the year we get this thing like okay I
can have this fresh start I could really
do what my soul desires I could expand I
could grow I could improve I could
change or maybe better than change I
could progress see think about that
progress is an aliveness to it doesn’t
it you don’t have to work at changing
people say all the time that allow I’m
working on changing don’t worry about it
the work on changing changes automatic
your body’s gonna change whether you
want it or not as the years go by no
matter how hard you work there’s gonna
be some changes going on there and the
economy is gonna change no matter what
you want it to do the weather is gonna
change relationships are gonna change
everything in life is always changing we
have to work on change change is
automatic but progress is not so if you
want to make real progress then you
really got to look at your life in a
different way you gotta say I gotta take
control of this process and not just
hope that’s gonna work out like people
do who make a resolution cuz really
isn’t that what they’re really doing at
the beginning of the year they’re saying
well here’s my resolutions for the year
and they really basically tell you their
wishes it’s their wish list it’s what
they hope it all comes together and then
they call it a resolution but they don’t
know what a resolution is when you
resolve something to have a resolution
is to resolve it when you’ve resolved
this is how it’s gonna be that’s when
you cut off any possibility except the
thing you’ve committed to it’s like the
old adage if you want to take the island
you burn the boats because when you burn
those boats there’s no going back you’re
gonna find a way to make things work and
most people they’re stating what they
hope will come together and if it
doesn’t happen then they’re disappointed
but they’re not too disappointed because
they’re not too vested what does it take
to successfully create a lasting change
in your life to not only have a new
year’s resolution you follow through on
but really have a lasting change well
the first step for lasting change is
very much like making a new year’s
resolution fundamentally it’s the same
the first step is you’ve got to have a
vision a vision for what it is you
really truly want not what you think you
want or what you should have I mean what
are most people’s New Year’s resolutions
I’m gonna stop eating sugar you know I’m
gonna stop smoking I’m gonna lose 10
pounds problem with that is it’s not
very inspiring for most people you know
it’s not telling you what you’re gonna
get it’s only what you’re not gonna do
and it’s kind of hard to have you move
forward with that a vision is about what
you’re here to create a vision that
really works is one that excites you if
you say well my you know my resolution
my goal my how come for this month this
week this year is to lose X number of
pounds that’s okay but it’s not very
compelling it has to be a compelling
vision it’s gotta have something has the
power to pull you not something you have
to push yourself to do those are two
different kinds of motivation push
requires willpower and willpower never
last what will last is pull having
something so exciting so attractive so
somebody who desire so much that you
have a hard time going to sleep at night
you get so up early in the morning to a
rocket and take it to the next level
that’s what you’re looking at great and
that wasn’t easy to get but one of the
reasons we do seminars and events be
saying you know why do that why isn’t
why not just read a book or something is
because when you get an environment
where you were people that are being put
in a peak state like when you’re going
to a sporting event if you watch the
sporting event at home it might have a
certain level of excitement but when
you’re in a stadium with 50,000 people
suddenly it has a whole different level
of intensity when we feel that and the
bottom line of our follow-through comes
down to our emotional
intensity in a different state of mind
you’re gonna come up with a much better
and more exciting vision than if you’re
sitting the couch going okay what are my
new resolutions for this year and you’re
doing it the morning after the new year
is started and you’re a little
inebriated and the football games on in
the background
probably not gonna have the power of
focus they’re probably not gonna have a
power the energy to create something
that’s gonna pull you for this year and
you got to do that so it’s got to be a
vision that’s compelling something that
you know it’s gonna be a gift to make
sure that it happens and also along with
that compelling vision you gotta have
strong enough reasons that you’re gonna
follow through and the going gets tough
that’s one of the biggest things missing
for most people they said this is what I
want to do it’s not very exciting it’s
not very compelling but most importantly
they don’t have strong enough reasons to
push themselves through what’s gonna be
necessary to get that dream to get that
goal when the inevitable challenges come
up when you’re starving hungry and
you’re trying to go on a diet right when
you got no time when you’re stressed out
and you haven’t worked out still and
that’s what you’re supposed to do when
the economy gets tight and what you
thought you’re gonna do doesn’t work and
so you give up on the goal instead of
finding another way to get there you
don’t let the fear take you over if you
got strong enough reasons those reasons
can be positive or those reasons can
also be negative they can be if I don’t
do this this it’s gonna cost me and if I
do to this this is what I’m gonna gain
in my life
reasons come first answers come second
if you get a compelling vision and you
got strong enough reasons that will push
you through the tough times you’re gonna
do things other people don’t do instead
of collapsing even if you get off target
you won’t go oh I blew it you’ll get
right back on target make the change
make things happen and I know you’ve
done this in many areas your life just
think about it again and I’m not
teaching you something really new here
today I just want to remind you of what
your soul knows you got a change you got
to improve and you’ve got to go through
a simple process fundamentally to make
that progress first step vision that’s
compelling second step make sure that
they’re strong enough reasons to follow
through third step
you’ve got to review it and feel it
every day I mean anything have you ever
had this happen in your life has there
been anything in your life that you’ve
ever wanted so badly you were so
desirous of it yet such a hunger
right now you couldn’t stop thinking
about it could been a career move could
have been when you’re a kid a car it
could have been a relationship it could
have been anything but you were obsessed
you wanted to make this happen you
wanted to track this to your life you
wanna you just wanted something and you
didn’t even know how to get it but it
was so compelling team kept thinking
about it every day and visioning and
imagining it feeling it and then stuff
happened and suddenly you started
attract people or situations to your
life and it just came together like you
didn’t even have a total plan it was
just that it was so a part of your focus
with so much intensity and emotion so
often that it sensitized you to notice
anything that could get you there
there’s a part of your brain called the
reticular activating system for short we
call it the RAS that part of your brain
determines what you notice in the world
and it’s really important because when
you set a goal when you get really clear
in a vision they’re strong enough
reasons and you review it enough it
becomes a part of you that part of your
brain says anything that relates to this
I need to notice it’s like did you ever
buy a certain kind of car or maybe a
certain outfit and suddenly you see that
car everywhere are those outfits
everywhere well you know the cars were
always around but why do you see it now
because your Ras knows this is important
this was part of my world now similarly
when you really get clear and it’s
compelling and you’re reviewing it every
day got strong reasons you’re viewing it
every day and you’re feeling it the
brain becomes incredibly acute at
noticing anything to get you to move
forward and so that’s the power of this
so you know what do people do with New
Year’s resolution they come up with
something they kind of want it’s not a
compelling vision they don’t really have
strong enough reasons and they never
review it again and tell to notice that
they broke what they said they really
want to have make happen because they
didn’t really resolve if you resolve you
got the vision it’s compelling you
review it daily and you feel it you
envision it and you experience it simple
as it sounds now ultimately what is this
really about ultimately if you’re gonna
have lasting change in anything you’re
really talking about just raising your
standards I mean I always tell people if
you want to know how to change your life
and give it to you in three words boring
as it sounds raise yours
hindrance what does that mean corny as
it sounds raise your standards I’ll
thank you for the breakthrough thought
Tony I’m glad I wasted my time watching
this little email with you but think
about it lasting change is different
than a goal you don’t always get your
goals but you always get your standards
maybe it’ll help you is to think about
it this way I try to explain standards
to people with a different set of words
think of it as everybody in life gets
there must they don’t get their shoulds
right think about it you must be above a
list of shits nope they don’t have a
list of the shuds things you should do
you should follow through on I I should
lose some weight I should work out more
I should make more calls I should
respond more rapidly to my email
whatever you know I should get into the
office earlier I should be you know more
confident whatever your should list is
people love to have their should list
may be met but it’s kind of like New
Year’s resolutions if it does it’s
really exciting but if it doesn’t which
is most the time it’s a little
disappointing but you kind of know it’s
not gonna happen
but when you decide something as a must
for you an absolute must when you cut up
any possible you say I’m gonna find the
way I’m gonna make the way human beings
when they resolve things and they have
make a real resolution inside themself
which is they raise the standard they
make it a must they find the way think
about in your own life happens you had
some area of your life where you raise
your standard in your life has never
been the same maybe at one time you like
to use smoke cigarettes or you did
something and you did it for years and
you kept trying to change it trying to
change it and kept telling yourself I
should and then one day something
happened something just clicked you over
something took you over that kind of
tipping point and inside yourself you
said no more there was a very very
different experience wasn’t it something
inside of you shifted and what was a
should became a must and you’ve never
gotten back is there an area like that
in your life you could think of again do
you ever smoked cigarettes a jammer eat
a certain way drink a certain form of
alcohol and then finally saying no mourn
you just don’t go back and notice this
it doesn’t really take any willpower
anymore because somewhere when we make
this click we make something a must we
attach ourselves to it it becomes part
of our identity the one thing I’ve
learned in the last gosh 33 years
they’re working on people
now over 100 countries four million
people is human beings absolutely follow
through on who they believe they are if
you say said to me well I’m really gonna
work hard to stop smoking but you know
I’ve been a smoker my whole life and I’m
you know I am a smoker I know your days
are numbered you’re gonna be back
smoking cigarettes again because we all
act consistent with who we believe we
are
I tell people the strongest force in the
whole human personality is this need to
stay consistent with how we define
ourselves
if you define yourself as somebody who
is really conservative you’re not gonna
be crazy and act nuts unless you’re
really drunk or something and then you
can say it’s the alcohol when it really
does you finally getting permission to
be yourself
the alcohol is your excuse if you’re a
really crazy person you act crazy
outrageous playful you don’t act
conservative because that’s not who you
are very often people say well I can’t
do that I’m not that kind of person and
I always say to people really when did
you define yourself I mean really how
many years ago did you come up with what
you could and couldn’t do in your life
how many years ago most people if they
really look at how they’re living their
life today it’s based on a set of
standards a set of beliefs that they
made choices about 10 20 30 or more
years ago I mean very often we made
decisions in our youth or very young
about what to believe about what we were
capable of about who we are as a person
and that becomes the glass ceiling a few
will that controls us there’s a corny
metaphor but it’s true I remember one
time I was with my family at the circus
and there’s a person there and they had
this big giant elephant and you look at
this elephant and they take this little
rope put it around the elephant’s neck
and they drive the stake into the ground
and I mean you look at this you know
that elephant could rip down the entire
tent
with almost no effort and yet the
elephant doesn’t struggle doesn’t try
why because the elephant’s conditioned
and they take that elephant conditioned
the elephant when it’s a baby elephant
that’s how they trained them when it’s a
little baby elephant and it doesn’t have
the power yet they put a big rope around
it and they drive this huge stake in the
ground and the elephant fights and
fights and fights and one day finding
that often decides I’m not capable
Alling this out and once that becomes
the definition of an identity of anyone
in elephants in this case they don’t
even try anymore it’s just who I am
that’s how it is that’s just the way it
is in my life I’d like to ask you to
take a look at any place you’ve got a
limitation ask yourself when did I
decide to accept that limitation and you
may not even see it as a limitation you
might see there just that’s who I am but
so often our lives we’ve adapted to be a
certain way so that we don’t fail or so
that people will like us or respect us
but it’s not necessarily who we are joy
comes when you’re spontaneous it’s
really hard to be truly happy when
you’re not being yourself and most of us
have no clue we are and so a big part of
my work if you’ve ever been to an event
you know is to get people and do things
spontaneously without thinking because
that’s when the real you shows up that’s
when the energy comes alive and when you
do that when you start to connect your
true nature suddenly there’s energy
available for you to set a higher
standard for what you want in your life
that’s what this is really all about and
when I talk about standards when I talk
about you know shoulds versus must think
about your own life I know there have
been areas in your life where some point
in time you just shift it and you raise
the standard in your life change because
whatever people have their identity
attached to they live we live who we
believe we are that’s just how it works
it’s just kind of like I give an example
look at your physical body your physical
body today is an absolute reflection of
only one thing
not your goals not your desires but your
standards the identity you have for
yourself if your standard is you’re an
athlete then there’s a certain amount of
strength a muscle tone and energy that’s
available in your body on a regular
basis because that’s who you are and so
you do whatever is necessary to maintain
that identity
and the strongest force and the human
personalities this need to stay
consistent with how we define ourselves
because if you don’t know who you are
you would not act once you lock in on
that identity your brain finds a way to
keep you there if you say you know man
I’m overweight I’ve always been
overweight I’m big-boned and that’s the
story you’ve got and you’re gonna always
find a way to get back there that’s
you’re settling point that’s your
identity that’s where things lock in if
you see somebody who’s in really great
shape you ask him do you work out you
know the answer yes how often and
they’ll tell you three times four times
five times a week whatever in a seven
hour last people who here works out at
least five days a week and I’m stand-up
and you look around that room and you
know that they work out five times a
week cuz you can see their body you
don’t just get a result without some
kind of action without some form of
ritual ritual meaning actions you do
consistently now do you think you knows
people that are out there working out
five days a week do they have more time
than you do or I have for anybody else
of course not is that a wife less busy
of course not it’s just a must for them
they must work out that way and they’ve
made that turn their life changed so I’m
not saying you have to work out five
days a week I’m just saying whatever you
really want once don’t get met
consistently standards do whatever you
identify this is Who I am and so it’s
not so much about changing your identity
as there’s expanding it you know
deciding that you know instead of your
goals to lose ten pounds which is not
compelling what if your vision was to
get back to my fighting weight you know
just this year this month this next 90
days I’m gonna transform my body I’m
gonna take on a new challenge I’m gonna
find some technique or strategy there’s
a million of them that can reframe
myself where I want to feel younger
stronger more vibrant than ever before
here’s my reasons because I want the
energy to really make my life work
because it’s tough out there and I want
to be stronger than I’ve ever been
before I’m going front of the mirror and
if I’m naked not you know wanna laugh I
will look there and take a good look and
go yeah
I’m proud of whatever I see there
whatever it takes something’s gonna make
you laugh smile something that’s gonna
tease yourself but something’s gonna
move you to another level if you
identify yourself in a new way and you
own that every day and that becomes the
scared how you live you’ll find the way
to make that standard real money’s the
same way think about it doesn’t matter
what’s happening quote-unquote in the
marketplace people that make money find
a way to make money no matter what don’t
they I mean most people’s standard is to
pay their bills so that’s what most
people find a way to do even when
economic times get tough most people if
that’s their absolute standard they find
a way some people’s standard is pay
their bills and most of the time and so
most of the time they do some people’s
standard is not just to pay their bills
but to take care of their family and
maybe even some of their friends and
they find a way in fact you know if some
people may be in a family where they
don’t have enough money to barely have
money to pay their bills they work
through guts out and then somebody their
mother their father somebody else their
sister gets ill and there’s not enough
money to take care of it nobody else has
money family they don’t either but they
find a way to get that money to take
care of their mother or father don’t
they and they their bells they never
could do it before why the situation
made them raise their own standard and
not everybody does that somebody else in
the family might have money and still
don’t take care of their mother it all
comes down to the inner game my friends
changing your life is a change in the
inner game the outside world you can’t
control but you have absolute control of
this one if you learn that dynamics of
what shapes you and identity is one of
those simple clear fundamental basics
that if you start to shift it everything
else will shift in your life as well
some people by the way have to have more
than enough money to do what they want
when they want where they want with
whomever they want contribute the way
they want if that’s there must they find
a way I know that sounds overly
simplistic but it’s true now somebody
once said you can take all the money in
the world out of the hands of everybody
out of all the wealthy people in the
world who are really successful give it
other people it wouldn’t take too long
those people have it back in their hands
it’s not because they’re manipular it’s
because they have a standard some are
minute do it
get me wrong but they’ve got a standard
of what they’re gonna find a way to make
happen I’m just simply saying to you
take those three magic words and live
them raise your standard if you really
want to do it then I’ll tell you the
most important secret have you ever done
this have you ever told yourself you’re
raising your saying okay I’m gonna go
make this happen I’m gonna go make this
much money I’m gonna transform my kids
I’m gonna create the ultimate
relationship of my life I’m gonna
transfer my body whatever it is and then
you don’t have strong enough reasons and
you don’t lose use it you don’t follow
through it’s because you didn’t back up
your standards with what makes those
standards real and that’s rituals
rituals all of the power is whenever we
do our Robbins results coaching and we
did Robbins equals results late we get
results with people it’s the same way if
you listen to my ultimate edge program
are back in the old days personal power
or if you went to one of my seminars you
know what I do is I take these huge
challenges you got and we break them
down into little bite-sized steps little
things you do each day that after you do
them you get so much momentum that it’s
easy to succeed you’re not overwhelmed
you have these victory day after day
after day on little things if you’d want
to ultimate edge I’m sure you learn
about the hour of power or the 15
minutes to be able to be fulfilled or 30
minutes to thrive where you literally
just condition your body and emotion
with a couple little rituals so it
doesn’t matter what’s going on in your
world you feel that strength and it’s
not fake it’s not some pump up it’s
coming from inside you and it works
rituals define us see all the results in
your life are coming from your rituals
they start with a standard and then have
rituals that follow it up like for
example if you are where you want to be
physically you have very different
rituals than if you’re not where you
want to be physically if you’re
overweight you and I both know you got a
different ritual than if you’re
physically fit completely different you
get up in the morning what’s the first
thing you do if you’re fit your shoes
are there you roll over the minute you
feel you put on their shoes you lace and
you start walking or whatever that
ritual is if you’re overweight you roll
over and you have a very different
ritual you might roll over several times
the turn the alarm clock off
you go in and get your mocha mocha
whatever you know special coffee stop by
at Starbucks or over the case maybe you
have your nice sugar muffin you know
it’s supposed to be really nice for you
whatever you do it’s a different ritual
if you have a great passionate
relationship you have very different
rituals and how you come home than if
you have a lousy relationship you come
home and the first thing you do is
you’re tweeting somebody or you’re
emailing or flipping on the news or you
don’t even come home what are the
rituals
whenever I study people that are
successful well I look for is what’s the
standard they hold himself to and then
what are all those little rituals that
up because think about it
success and failure are not giant events
they don’t just show up you don’t just
suddenly become successful or suddenly
have this cataclysmic event that makes
you fail may look that way but failure
comes from all the little things
it’s failure to make the call it’s
failure to check the books its failure
to say I’m sorry
its failure to push yourself to do
things physically that you don’t want to
do and all those little failures day
after day come together until one day
some Cataclysm event happens you blame
Matt that event happened because you
missed all the little stuff do you agree
with me and success by the way is not
some overnight event it’s all these
little things success is having a vision
success is making it compelling success
is really seeing and feeling it every
day it was strong enough for reasons
success is feeling the sense that I’m
here to grow and I’m here to give
something to the world more than just
myself success is caring about other
people success is calling and saying I
love you in the middle of the day for no
damn reason or sending a note that will
change your relationship have a ritual
of something funny playful or a surprise
you do how many relationships are dead
today because they have no surprise
rituals anymore you need to have some
rituals some cool things you do that
nobody else does that gives you a better
life than anybody else has all the
little stuff that’s where success comes
from in
business it comes from delivering more
than anybody could imagine all those
little things add up people go wow
that’s who I want to do business with
it’s true in any area of your life so if
you look at somebody’s really successful
you think wow I mean they’re so amazing
there’s such a genius you gotta dig
underneath you gotta member something
people are rewarded in public from what
they’ve practiced for years in private
myself and my business people say how
are you get up and speaking of nono-chan
you go for three days and nights and the
room is like it he’s wired it’s
incredible it’s like a rock concert how
do you do that how do you have that
confidence of home and you know it’s not
confidence it’s experience now but I did
so much behind the scenes and I still do
to make things right I mean how many
people would know that since the time I
was 17 years old before I walked on
stage still do to this day wouldn’t need
to do it but I still do it
I never walk out there without being in
an absolute peak state of mind you know
there days my back is hurting my throat
was hurting or I may have a challenger
my father passed away and I’ve still got
to deliver for these people because my
standard is give my all every time
everything has to be better talk to
anybody who’s been to our events for
5-10 years some of our trainers and I’ll
say I don’t know he does it he’s always
finds a way to make it better that’s not
an ego thing that’s a standard in me I
have to find the way and my ritual
though is I prepare I think I gather new
information I figure out how to put
something across better what do people
need I spend time with our customers I
see what’s going on and before I get on
stage each time as a sort of ritual to
put myself in a state of mind and I did
it starting with like 17 years old I
started doing it say I now command my
subconscious mind and I say this out
loud several times this little phrase
set of phrases as an incantation to kind
of condition my mind and body and I’d
say I now command my subconscious mind
to direct me and helping as many people
as possible today by giving me the
strength and the emotion and the humor
and the brevity whatever it takes to
show this person helped this person
change their life now and I started that
with a person when I work with people
one-on-one and I would do that for 45
minutes driving in my Volkswagen to go
serve and coach somebody for the first
time now I don’t say that person I say
these people and I can go out in the
room of 10,000 people and deliver for 50
hours and I do it
every time I come back on stage it’s a
ritual a ritual they going to Peaks they
Peaks they don’t just show up it’ll
interrupt you great ideas doing the
laughter you got to pursue them I talked
to Michael Jordan I’ll never forget dad
the peak of his career and got to watch
his final game saw him backstage and
spent some time with him and there’s
pretty exciting time there’s great
basketball players I think that ever
lived and has ever lived and I asked
them I said you know what sets you apart
Michael you know what is it and is it
god-given talent ability skill what does
it need to tell me you know he said I
can shoot you straight you know it’s not
you know me trying to act humble he goes
I have a lot of town a lot of god-given
town a lot of skill I’ve worked really
hard but he said really it’s my
standards he said every day I demand
more for myself than anybody else could
humanly expect I’m not competing with
somebody else I’m competing with well
I’m capable of hmm magic formula because
most of us lower our standards why
because who you spend time with my
friends is who you become one of the
biggest reasons I started going to
seminars when I was like 17 is I had
nobody around me is a great role model I
can read about somebody but being around
people being in that environment was
very different finding way to go to work
with someone who lived that standard of
life was very different you get around
people with low standards and you
compete with it you don’t need to
compete with it it’s like okay I mean
remember Jerry Springer I know if he’s
still in the air but you know I remember
used to get people on the show my
thought where would he find these people
watch these people go my wife so pretty
darn good come here that person look at
them you don’t have to change your life
all you have to do is find somebody with
a lower standard you’ll feel good about
yourself but if you feel that good
feeling it’s an illusion the only thing
that’s gonna make you happy my friend
and this year or any other is to step up
it’s to raise the standard it’s to
discover what you’re capable of and feel
that incredible power of pushing through
whatever’s holding you back and get to
the other side of more of your true self
that’s what this game is all about and
look at the best of the world than
anything
Tiger Woods what’s what’s his vision to
win golf tournaments no to be the best
that ever lived
that’s his goal that’s his vision but
here’s what’s interesting he backs it up
with rituals if you just have a vision
and you know if the rituals stop lying
to yourself his rituals are he started
doing things nobody did before he went
started lifting weights golfers lifting
weights no way he went out and he
changed his swing when he was the best
in the world because he realized already
be the best that ever lived he’s gonna
have to change his swing is you know
think about golf you don’t change your
swing when you’re the best and he went
and retrained himself because he has
different rituals than other golfers now
many people are modeling as rituals to
get better it’s amazing you know you
look at somebody like Michael Phelps the
2008 swimmer won seven
you know only two people I think in
history if I remember correctly that
have gotten seven gold medals in one
session and here’s a guy he’s got number
six centers belt he’s exhausted and he’s
going in for that final swim I’m sure
you remember and how does the guy win by
one hundredths of a second
do you think that was some massive skill
that got him over the top or was it a
standard that says this is Who I am I am
the champion and no one is taking this
from me and somehow in those finals
milliseconds hundredths of a second he
pushed himself just beyond his
competitor but you know how about
Michael Phelps what allowed him to be
able to push beyond that moment is this
rituals go steady the guy most people
who swim have these unbelievable
workouts he does two and three of the
workout sessions a day all the other
swimmers in the beginning thought he was
insane you can over train you can’t do
that it’s not physically possible but he
had a standard and the rituals to back
it up so here’s my final message to you
because I’ve gotten carried away if I
was gonna send you like a five-minute
message but you can see there’s no
script here it’s just me going a little
crazy with you but I want to really see
you get what you want this year don’t
let this year be like last and if last
year was great still don’t let it be
that way raise the standard your life is
perfect an extraordinary you darn well
know you’re not gonna be happy unless
you keep making it better that’s what
makes us feel alive it’s not what we get
to make us happy it’s who we become and
what we’re able to give because we’ve
become more that sense of contribution
is what creates the deepest meaning so
here’s
my assignment for if you want one if you
want to go from conversation to some
action your simple thing to do
what’s an area your life right now that
you really want improve what’s an area
that’s important to improve it’s your
body’s great how about your career if
career is great how about your
relationship intimate one especially or
your kids or your relationship with your
Creator spiritual side of your life or
is it your finances figure an area that
really matters decide on that area
number one write down what your life is
like in that area right now specifically
as possible so you might say well I’m
13.5 pounds overweight you know whatever
the way it is whatever the situation is
or my body fats like this or wake up
exhausted in the morning and you write
the truth of where you are right now so
you’re real clear or I’m not in a
relationship I say I want a relationship
but I I’m not in one I don’t seem to
find them all the good ones seem to be
gone is my belief you know I really
don’t have it whatever your definition
I’m in a relationship and god I wish I
wasn’t in a relationship I’m planning my
escape wherever you are or I have a
wonderful relationship we’d love each
other but there just isn’t enough
passion just right the truth of where
you are the area you want to change what
right how it is and then the second step
is that’s where you got to be really
honest with yourself what are the
rituals that have put me there because
whatever results you’re getting even if
you don’t like the results there’s some
rituals that are keeping you in that
place there’s some rituals of what you
eat or don’t eat how you move or don’t
move how you sleep or don’t sleep
there’s some rituals and the lack of
variety or spice or energy or focus in
an area there’s something you’re doing
and it’s usually not one thing it’s a
bunch of little things they kind of do
consistently whatever you think about
getting in a relationship whatever you
think about working out whenever you
think about money you get yourself in a
state of overwhelm you start thinking
about all the things you can’t control
just write down all the rituals you have
and then here’s the third step what do
you want what’s your vision and be
really specific I want to be my fighting
weight I want to be the strongest I’ve
ever felt I want to be I’m gonna turn my
act whatever it is be specific and then
last step number four what are the
rituals that will get you there what
would you need it differently each
morning if you’re going to be that kind
of energy that kind of strength
how would you
after how often would you work out what
days would you work out what time a
ritual is something you do consistently
usually at a specific time so becomes
automatic let me tell you something
willpower doesn’t last but rituals can
last a lifetime I bet you have some
rituals in your life right now you’ve
been doing for years even though some of
them don’t serve you
I’m just saying wake yourself up make if
you want a new year and a new life you
don’t need to start in January first
start today start with this little video
and just begin to see what happens and
see how easy it is to just do a few
little rituals don’t do them all just do
two or three new things and you know
what happens you’ll get momentum because
once you discipline yourself in one area
life you feel yourself doing in other
areas as well I always say something
that my original teacher taught me I
always remind people there’s always two
pains in life there’s the pain of
discipline or is the pain of regret and
discipline weighs ounces as my friend
Jim Rohn taught me regret weighs tons
you don’t have regret so right now what
do you want to change what’s it really
like one of the rituals that got you
there that will take a little homework
if you’re not sure ask the people around
you they’ll tell you what your rituals
are what do I really want in depth one
of the rituals that’ll get me there and
then get yourself to start a few those
actions and lock them in place so I can
help you in any way we’re here as a
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if you make the change in yourself
you’re gonna be proud this year and no
amount of money or accolades other
people can mirror the feeling of being
proud of knowing you’ve taken back
control of your life or you’ve taken a
great life to another level because once
you do that you have something you can
give other people whether it be your
kids or your friends or your family and
ultimate that’s why it’s about some
thanks for listening I know how long I
went to here but I hope this has been
helpful for you I just thought it’s a
new year and I want people to be able to
truly create a new life and till I see
again hopefully something soon or gets a
chance to meet you
live strong and live with passion and of course got bus to you happy new year
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