just want to play the field for as long
as they can but recent research shows
otherwise single men for the most part
want to get married the best time to
approach men to get married well some
say between 21 and 24 and 50 and up also
studies are indicating that single women
they want to get married but only to do
so if it is improvement over their
independence archaeologist Helen Fisher
tells Time magazine women are much more
interested in their independence than
men are they value certain parts of
their single lives more than men do
women are likelier to want to have their
own bank accounts their own interests
their own personal space solo vacations
and even if they’re in a committed
relationship they also care more about
nights out with their friends
now sociologist mock Regenerist says
that women’s enthusiasm for marriage has
faded in the light of their growing
economic independence he says for them
more than men marriage has to be good or
it’s not worth trading their newfound
independence for it when it comes to
marriage in general statistics that
shows that there are now more than a
hundred million single people in the
United States with households headed by
married couples in the minority
archaeologist Helen Fisher says it’s
just maybe that single people like being
single she’s the states is still cutting
around the concept that single people
are the you know the people who believe
that single people are workaholics and
they’re desperate and they just can’t
get along with anyone but she say the
reality is that many of them just may be
choosing to be single I remember hearing
a disc jockey in New York years ago and
said it’s better to be alone than to
wish you were and maybe a lot of single
people like myself I’m thinking about
that so here’s the life lessons we want
to get today and we want to talk to two
to two groups I wanted to hear from
married people I want and we need you to
talk to the people that are single and
that they’re looking for that special
person here’s the question if you were
married here’s the question what do you
look for in a mate that you know that
solid these qualities these
characteristics that that allowed you to
find that the apple of your eye to find
your soulmate how did you know that the
person that you are now married to that
this was the guy or that she was the
woman how did you know what was it about
them what would you advise somebody that
single that’s looking for someone and
don’t want to put up with a lot of crap
and a lot of flaky behavior but you can
give them some coaching’s that if you
see these things this one is a keeper I
want you to call the number to call and
share your insights from your wisdom
from your making some good choices that
number is eight eight eight five three
nine to 98888
five three nine to nine eighty how did
you find the relationship the dream of
your life now here’s the other group I
want to talk to divorce people now
that’s my group I can speak up okay this
is what you want us to say okay I’m
ready okay okay here’s what we want you
always say less what is that the divorce
group we want to know what are the red
flags to look for in a relationship when
you see somebody and you you don’t need
to know this if you see these things now
you know it’s a red flag you knew you
need to run immediately in the opposite
direction okay good well it’s called the
you know just because they’re beautiful
don’t mean that they got good sits well
they can’t be crazy let me tell you do
you know there are some beautiful people
that are crazy I’m telling you and
handsome guys my daughter was dating a
guy this guy’s handsome and and he was a
former policeman not that’s when that
shishito ran then okay
I said let me tell you something
you don’t listen if my daughter even not
if you hit her but let me tell you
something listen to me
I am crazy do you understand I’m crazy
and you will not intimidate my daughter
you will not threaten my daughter she
will not feel any danger in your
presence understand me please you
looking at a crazy person I go to jail
for you I mean this guy’s and he was
crazy and handsome guy he looked like he
had good sense and you know judges they
really need to be school call a halo
effect do you know and when when you
take you take a beautiful person an
attractive person court for the same
crime that an ugly person commits they
will get probation the ugly person
you’re going to jail because you ugly I
can’t take no chances
but pretty people get away with murder
then get away with a lot of stuff
because they are pretty is called the
halo effect now here’s something else if
they are jealous if trust me on this you
cannot you I don’t care what you do I
don’t care how many loops or hoops you
flip through you cannot change a jealous
person they are crazy trust me they are
crazy run leave you can’t change him
here’s something else well well Holmen I
got guests I got people calling I don’t
need to take off side just because it’s
my show okay alright I’ll be good huh
you can tell I’m very passionate about
this topic today so we’re talking to two
groups we’re talking to married people
how did you know that was your soulmate
how did you know when you saw them you
became very spiritual and say the Lord
is my shepherd I see what I wore how did
you know that was the one we want you to
call and coach the single people that
are looking for the right one that
number to call this eight eight eight
five three nine two nine eighty and if
you are divorced like myself what what
are some of the things that if you you
but if you knew then what you know now
you would not have done that I can I got
some more don’t you go anywhere
I’m gonna help you out a call right now
the number to call this is where the
divorce people we got the same number
for you two eight eight eight five three
nine two died 80 I need some help I
don’t know they I told him before I came
here today I said are you sure I don’t
need my medication oh you’ll be just
fine whatever so so my name is les brown
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my name is les Brown I’m mrs. Mamie
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is a program that that we engage in
conversations on a variety of topics
dealing with life to give you some tools
to give you some insights and some
breakthroughs on how to deal with
relationships how to live your dreams
and how to take your life to the next
level and today we’re talking about
relationships and we want to hear from
two groups you would hear from married
people how did you know that person that
you decided to marry that that was the
one what are the three qualities that
you know if a person can get those going
for them then that they have a good
chance of having a successful marriage
and having a good made a good match all
right the other one the divorce people
that’s my group and and we wouldn’t tell
you things to look for that these are
people to stay away from that you don’t
want to do that you if they have these
qualities you want to run as fast as you
can and I want to thank Xavier for
calling thank you Xavier from San
Bernardino where are you from Xavier my
apologies you know what I have my
glasses on but they’re not prescription
glasses these are the ones you just get
out of the drugstore thank you thank you
so much for calling
don’t tell me and are you married or
your divorce I’m married you’re married
okay so you you can speak for the people
that the people who are looking for that
mate what are three things that you saw
in your wife that you said this is the
one well first would you have to look at
list you have to see how your spouse
treats their parents oh yes right how
they treat their parents correct okay
they’re not treating their parents well
more likely we’re gonna have some
problems later on in that relationship
okay good okay what’s another one the
second is there has to be trust in their
relationship trust okay there has to be
trust in the relationship if your
fiancee is 13 are you at the
say what are you looking at and the only
thing you’re looking at if you’re
thinking about how much you’re spending
then there’s a big red flag there right
okay what’s every time you go to the
store
that’s right yes okay I’ve been through
that already Xavier you’re right you
know what you’re talking about you can
write a book on this and what’s number
three if you go to church doctor okay so
if you go to church you want to get
somebody that’s involved in churches
you know I am an associate pastor yes
you have to take to your leadership
because they may see a quality in that
person that maybe not be compatible to
you and there will be some danger in
that relationship and if you’ve been
called to ministry it could interfere in
your car with God hmm okay how long have
you been married over here okay listen I
want to ask you one question before we
go what’s the most difficult part of
being married that you have experience
you know the most difficult part is when
you first get married you need to know
one another it’s you know it’s really
nice when you’re dating and I try to
remind myself open the door
be kind buy some flowers you know when
you first start off in a relationship
you do those things when you’re dating
you go out and maybe you bring some
flowers or and you know you open the
door you open the restaurant door and it
seems like once you get married after a
few years you know you’re like state hey
listen and I it’s your turn to open the
door mm-hmm
and so there’s a period of time I
believe that the first five years of the
relationship are the most drastic years
you’re getting to know one another
you’re getting to know each other on the
things that you like and dislike more
intense than when you’re dating but
you’re also saying yes but but the other
thing that you’re saying are veeram
pardon me for interrupting you is that
that the same thing that it took to get
that woman it’s going to take the same
thing
to keep that woman to do the maintenance
on the relationship am i correct yes
listen I want to thank you so much for
listening and thank you for your input
and may you have many more years of
happiness and love and great health
together okay thank you very much I
appreciate you so much for listening
thank you
listen that’s some good advice what
would Xavier just left with us he said
first of all he said you got to watch
how they treat their parents that will
give you good indication and Trust is
very important and go to church with
them make sure they have some some level
of spirituality about them and get some
coaching and direction and insights from
your pastors this is the right person
Felicia hello thank you so much for
calling in from Los Angeles now are you
married are you divorced I’m married
you’re married how many years have you
been married Felicia okay you’ve been
married for six months and so you can
talk on both areas that being married
now for six months and divorce how long
were you married the first time you
remarried ten years okay now let’s be
gone you’re deciding the second time
around because you now you have a
greater level of maturity and you know
some things you did not know when you
got married the first time otherwise you
still be married to the same person so
so what what would you say what did you
look at and what did you see in the
person that you’re now married to that
you said I’m gonna do this again be
well-rounded what do you mean by be
well-rounded what do you mean by that
just his overall spirituality being
rooted having a true sense of self
I mean understanding and appreciation
for family how he treats his parents his
children and how he treats his his lover
his women that would be me yes okay
fantastic what is his name let me speak
to the bone yeah let me talk to the moan
this is leather hey de Mond is this your
first marriage or your second marriage
your second how long were you married
the first time 16 years 16 years and
you’ve been together now you’ve been
married for six months how did you know
that this was the woman that this you
know that you didn’t make it work the
first time but when you saw Felicia you
were looking for something and what were
those three qualities that you saw in
her I saw a sense of humor
okay she laughed at my jokes even if
they’re corny she laughs right what’s
number two number two was art we have a
saint clear concise communication mm-hmm
three C so we’re still clear concise and
communicating nothing has changed since
our dating phase in our marriage phase
good and that’s number three and number
three is our blending of our families
because we have a blended family so
mm-hmm all important that you know yes I
know I know that that’s a real tough
okay when you look at those both of you
can speak to the other side too
what is it that you learn from that
relationship you first were involved in
for 16 years that that you would say to
people who are looking for a mate but
here’s something that you want if you
want to be for somebody with somebody
because this time this is for life this
is it for you and Felicia there will not
be a third time that’s correct
very good all right none and we see that
for you we’re speaking for that okay
what is it that a person should avoid
and look and go the other way and
delayed enlightenment that you didn’t
see but you you saw and you’d live with
for a while and then do you finally said
I can’t do this anymore well first thing
is that you know the big stuff and
marriages will take care of themselves
it’s it’s the little things that you
must work at follow I’m saying yes
houses cause all the material stuff all
the things in life the big stuff will
take care of cells
it’s the little stuff that you have to
pay attention to at your spouse let’s
give me an example of little things that
can kill a relationship if you don’t
attend to it the termites exactly the
termites little things is that if your
spouse likes flowers give or flowers if
your spouse likes little notes that
because women are emotional creatures
mm-hmm man or not yeah our motional okay
so we have to cater to that emotional
side yeah and then sort of forgive that
after so many years of marriage we sort
of forget that they’re emotional
creatures and we must cater to that left
we have to continue that all right let
me talk back to Felicia for a minute and
both of you so cooperative
Felicia yeah don’t go anywhere I’ve got
you a commercial I’ll be right back but
you guys are just great you making my
work very easy today hold it for just a
moment I’ll be right with you okay all
right thank you thank you for your
patience and listen we’re talking to two
groups I want to talk to people and
they’ve found their significant other
that found their the life made your
soulmate the person that you’ve married
and and what is it you saw in them and
the first people that are divorced like
myself what is it you need to run away
from if you see that we’ve been talking
about relationships but before I go
there listen I want you to listen very
closely don’t go anywhere because I have
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hour I have some great news for those of
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the top of the hour now we’ve been
talking with people that are married and
people that are divorced we want to some
advice from people that are married what
did you look for in a mate when you
found that person and people who have
divorced what are the things that you
need to avoid that when you see these
signs it’s a red flag and you need to
run and I’ve been very fortunate to talk
to a couple that both of them have been
married 110 years the other one four
four well how many years what Felicia
you were married the first time how many
years Felicia are you there
I’m the Missy Felicia they’ve been
married Felicia and and Devon have been
married for six months now and this
their second time around and the last
time and so they talked about some some
some good advice on on what to look for
in an m8 but also some things that you
need to avoid that if you see this it’s
a red flag that you don’t need to go up
in there you don’t need to have a
relationship with this person Felicia
are you there okay I pushed it and I got
enough Felicia hello Felicia okay yes
first of all thank you for your patience
now what is it that you would warn
people against if you see this you say
no that’s not the one there’s some some
red flags that you would warn people
about who are looking for a relationship
oh the main one for me and I think this
would be relevant for many women to see
how he treats his mother and if he
respects his mother and treats her the
way a woman should be treated that’s a
good sign and I would be different and
he has no respect for his mother then
it’d be hard for him to respect you as a
woman as his wife and the mother of his
children if you are a mom as kids or
even your kids okay well listen you and
Damone have six months behind you and
all of the future before you may you
have many years of love happiness and
good health and a great relationship in
marriage together okay thank you very
much
and thank you so much for listening to
the program okay you too you know it’s
really good to hear people to share this
kind of experience particularly these
newlyweds here they’ve been just up in
their six months but they’re veterans
they know what they’re looking for and
gave some solid advice hello Reggie how
are you Reggie thank you so much for
calling in and being a part of the
program
are you married Reggie or you divorce I
am married for 20 years 20 years
how did no what is your husband’s name
Robert Robert and hotness is your name
really Reggie yes it is okay now how did
you know Robert was the one year
different and so me and older I already
had that sort of motherly instinct in me
yes he was 22 years
and so you would think a 22 year old
would be sort of peerless in clumsy and
kind of carefree well Robert was a true
gentleman he’s funny and everything but
he was a true gentleman he was always
kind to me
and then on our date he made sure that
it’s not always him and me him and me
he would take me to his family he would
introduce me to his own calls mom dad
you can tell there’s so much love and
respect in that family and that was the
number-one bonus for me it was I know I
saw that he was sincere and I can trust
him because he’s not he’s not hiding
anything he’s not scared to introduce me
to his family he’s got you can tell it’s
not all about just you don’t really at
the time to introduce me to all his
relatives and when you got a chance to
see from whence he came then you said
okay this is a good fit for me because
there’s a lot of love here and he’s
being transparent and very open and
involving you with his family absolutely
and I don’t know now adays you seem like
farther away the guy is removed from his
family seem like it’s it’s better I mean
that is a red flag right there he
doesn’t want to introduce you to the
family he doesn’t want to fantastic
listen thank you for calling in and
sharing your story and thank you for
listening thank you I appreciate you
bye-bye okay I want to talk to Ed and
that thank you so much for calling in
and that you’re in Long Beach Oh lost
her all right sometimes that happens
when people on cell phones when you
think about that the people that call in
and and we got some good advice here one
of the things have said they look for if
you looking for that that right person
and Javier said hey man how she treats
her parents make sure the person that
you’re looking at you want to be around
then
and their family as Reggie talked about
and see how they treat their parents
that give you a very good indication how
they would treat you he also talked
about the fact that them being involved
in church and getting some counseling
and advice from the pastor is this a
good fit for the two of you and and he
said the most difficult thing about the
first years of marriage is getting to
know each other the first five years
Felicia and Damone who both uh she had
been married for 10 years and devoted in
marriage for 16 years
she said what I love about Damone he’s
well-rounded and had a sense of
spirituality and a true sense of who he
was and and he’s fun to be with and he
and he laughs and she laughs at his
corny jokes but she didn’t say they were
corny ideas okay like that at her and he
said that was major the foundation of
the marriage the three C’s clear concise
communication clear concise
communication and blended families they
work at it those families blending and
working together as we’re getting advice
from people that are married
successfully and then telling us the
things that look for in a mate if you
want to buy it that you want to be with
for the rest of your life and divorce
people or giving you some advice of who
to stay away from and one of the things
that’s it at the top of the hour just
because somebody’s handsome or
somebody’s beautiful does not mean that
they are normal that beautiful people
can be crazy I have a friend who said
less he said let me tell you something
he said I was dating this woman she
would look like a supermodel she was 6:1
she said she was fine she was fine he
said I broke up with her and I used to
leave my door unlocked she came to the
house and she said if I can’t have you
can’t nobody have you and she pulled out
a big butcher knife I said what did you
do he said I caught myself he said I
just restrained myself and I said what
would your mother say about this and she
said oh and he said well number one he
now locked his doors AJ so she was super
model crazy there are some crazy people
who are very beautiful very attractive
and you would think come on ya crazy
people they come in all ways they come
in all kind of looks and shapes and and
that you
you know you I think you’ve got some
experience with that don’t judge a book
by it’s cover and that talked to us
about that what is your story well you
know most the men that I dated were
based on looks and then I would get to
know them later and find that they were
not compatible with me and you know at
one point I got pregnant at 25 and ended
up raising my daughter by myself because
that relationship didn’t work and I’d
based it all on on you know his good
looks and then I you know I kinda lost
faith in finding a maid and I thought I
was gonna be single for the rest of my
life and so my daughter is now 17 and
about a year ago I decided to sign up
for a harmony and I was on it for three
months and it wasn’t it wasn’t
successful for me and I wasn’t getting
you know the rate of return that I had
expected so I quit for a month and then
my daughter talked me into going back on
she could you gotta give it at least six
months mhk so I went back on and within
less than a month
I got matched with my husband and I
wasn’t really interested in his looks I
loved what he had to say in his profile
and we matched with everything our
belief systems and so I gave him a
chance and when I first met him I said
oh he’ll be a good friend I’m not really
interested in him he’s just hot you know
I wasn’t interested in his looks and so
we hung out for a little bit and as time
went on we you know we email
correspondence were after five weeks of
actually in-person dating we got married
Wow congratulations thank you thank you
all my friends thought it was crazy
yes well you know what at first of all I
want to thank you on behalf of all the
homely people you know because we
deserve to get married to it and I want
to just thank you in behalf of all of us
that that people should just look past
us because of look you know that it was
the temptations they had a song that
said beauty is only skin-deep you
remember that song years ago but maybe
you too young
remember that okay well thank you
congratulations on that yes and I
appreciate you calling in and what is
his name his name’s Jason and he’s the
best thing that ever happened to me next
to my daughter okay fantastic hey listen
Jason you got it going on hey man you
and I homies all right we got something
in common
thank you very kindly take care doubt
all right listen hear something by zsa
zsa gabor she said I’m an excellent
housekeeper every time I get a divorce I
keep the house oh boy we lost an icon
today Elizabeth Taylor’s Elizabeth
Taylor speaking on relationship she said
I’m a very committed wife and I should
be committed to for being married so
oh she was special she was a special
lady yes she was you know when we began
to look at things today in relationships
that but that some of the good advice
that we received from Felicia and Damone
but also from Reggie and Robert who’ve
been together for 20 years he was 22 she
was 28 but he was a gentleman she said
and he was funny and and he was a family
man and he took me around his family he
was very transparent and I felt I can
trust him he we want relationships with
people that we can trust in and people
that come out of a a good household in
terms of love and togetherness and and
also he treated her like she was a lady
in and I admire that quality in him that
she talked about but also the thing that
Damone talked about clear concise
communication that’s a keeper in a
relationship and things to stay away
from well just because a person is
attracted don’t mean that they’re a good
candidate to get married to beauty’s
only skin deep as the temptation set and
if they’re jealous and insecure don’t
try and fix them trust me on that it’s a
full-time job trying to fix yourself and
the other thing that you must look at is
that this person can you trust them can
you believe in them if you catch them in
a lie and they try and pretend that you
are blind that you didn’t see what you
saw trust me on this avoid them run in
the opposite direction
now I had mentioned earlier we have some
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talk about something I saw this online
it was online and it just it made me
sick to my stomach we talked about the
Good Samaritan not the fight that was
that was provoked and encouraged and
instigated by the mother of a teenager
and and and another young man you we’re
gonna give you some information on this
and and that’s what we’re gonna talk
about in the next hour and it’s a
conversation that we want you to be a
part of so don’t don’t go anywhere stay
right there I want to
to keep this mind here’s that here’s a
thought for today as you look at your
life look at your goals and look at your
dreams always ask audiences have you
done all you can do and most the time
they say no well yeah Williams said all
you can do is all you can do and all you
can do is enough but make sure you do
all you can do so in other words if you
got a drool gold got a dream you want to
achieve make sure you go all out don’t
leave nothing on the table take no prisoners and eat the wounded
as they can but recent research shows
otherwise single men for the most part
want to get married the best time to
approach men to get married well some
say between 21 and 24 and 50 and up also
studies are indicating that single women
they want to get married but only to do
so if it is improvement over their
independence archaeologist Helen Fisher
tells Time magazine women are much more
interested in their independence than
men are they value certain parts of
their single lives more than men do
women are likelier to want to have their
own bank accounts their own interests
their own personal space solo vacations
and even if they’re in a committed
relationship they also care more about
nights out with their friends
now sociologist mock Regenerist says
that women’s enthusiasm for marriage has
faded in the light of their growing
economic independence he says for them
more than men marriage has to be good or
it’s not worth trading their newfound
independence for it when it comes to
marriage in general statistics that
shows that there are now more than a
hundred million single people in the
United States with households headed by
married couples in the minority
archaeologist Helen Fisher says it’s
just maybe that single people like being
single she’s the states is still cutting
around the concept that single people
are the you know the people who believe
that single people are workaholics and
they’re desperate and they just can’t
get along with anyone but she say the
reality is that many of them just may be
choosing to be single I remember hearing
a disc jockey in New York years ago and
said it’s better to be alone than to
wish you were and maybe a lot of single
people like myself I’m thinking about
that so here’s the life lessons we want
to get today and we want to talk to two
to two groups I wanted to hear from
married people I want and we need you to
talk to the people that are single and
that they’re looking for that special
person here’s the question if you were
married here’s the question what do you
look for in a mate that you know that
solid these qualities these
characteristics that that allowed you to
find that the apple of your eye to find
your soulmate how did you know that the
person that you are now married to that
this was the guy or that she was the
woman how did you know what was it about
them what would you advise somebody that
single that’s looking for someone and
don’t want to put up with a lot of crap
and a lot of flaky behavior but you can
give them some coaching’s that if you
see these things this one is a keeper I
want you to call the number to call and
share your insights from your wisdom
from your making some good choices that
number is eight eight eight five three
nine to 98888
five three nine to nine eighty how did
you find the relationship the dream of
your life now here’s the other group I
want to talk to divorce people now
that’s my group I can speak up okay this
is what you want us to say okay I’m
ready okay okay here’s what we want you
always say less what is that the divorce
group we want to know what are the red
flags to look for in a relationship when
you see somebody and you you don’t need
to know this if you see these things now
you know it’s a red flag you knew you
need to run immediately in the opposite
direction okay good well it’s called the
you know just because they’re beautiful
don’t mean that they got good sits well
they can’t be crazy let me tell you do
you know there are some beautiful people
that are crazy I’m telling you and
handsome guys my daughter was dating a
guy this guy’s handsome and and he was a
former policeman not that’s when that
shishito ran then okay
I said let me tell you something
you don’t listen if my daughter even not
if you hit her but let me tell you
something listen to me
I am crazy do you understand I’m crazy
and you will not intimidate my daughter
you will not threaten my daughter she
will not feel any danger in your
presence understand me please you
looking at a crazy person I go to jail
for you I mean this guy’s and he was
crazy and handsome guy he looked like he
had good sense and you know judges they
really need to be school call a halo
effect do you know and when when you
take you take a beautiful person an
attractive person court for the same
crime that an ugly person commits they
will get probation the ugly person
you’re going to jail because you ugly I
can’t take no chances
but pretty people get away with murder
then get away with a lot of stuff
because they are pretty is called the
halo effect now here’s something else if
they are jealous if trust me on this you
cannot you I don’t care what you do I
don’t care how many loops or hoops you
flip through you cannot change a jealous
person they are crazy trust me they are
crazy run leave you can’t change him
here’s something else well well Holmen I
got guests I got people calling I don’t
need to take off side just because it’s
my show okay alright I’ll be good huh
you can tell I’m very passionate about
this topic today so we’re talking to two
groups we’re talking to married people
how did you know that was your soulmate
how did you know when you saw them you
became very spiritual and say the Lord
is my shepherd I see what I wore how did
you know that was the one we want you to
call and coach the single people that
are looking for the right one that
number to call this eight eight eight
five three nine two nine eighty and if
you are divorced like myself what what
are some of the things that if you you
but if you knew then what you know now
you would not have done that I can I got
some more don’t you go anywhere
I’m gonna help you out a call right now
the number to call this is where the
divorce people we got the same number
for you two eight eight eight five three
nine two died 80 I need some help I
don’t know they I told him before I came
here today I said are you sure I don’t
need my medication oh you’ll be just
fine whatever so so my name is les brown
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my name is les Brown I’m mrs. Mamie
Brown’s baby boy and we want to thank
you so much for joining us and and this
is a program that that we engage in
conversations on a variety of topics
dealing with life to give you some tools
to give you some insights and some
breakthroughs on how to deal with
relationships how to live your dreams
and how to take your life to the next
level and today we’re talking about
relationships and we want to hear from
two groups you would hear from married
people how did you know that person that
you decided to marry that that was the
one what are the three qualities that
you know if a person can get those going
for them then that they have a good
chance of having a successful marriage
and having a good made a good match all
right the other one the divorce people
that’s my group and and we wouldn’t tell
you things to look for that these are
people to stay away from that you don’t
want to do that you if they have these
qualities you want to run as fast as you
can and I want to thank Xavier for
calling thank you Xavier from San
Bernardino where are you from Xavier my
apologies you know what I have my
glasses on but they’re not prescription
glasses these are the ones you just get
out of the drugstore thank you thank you
so much for calling
don’t tell me and are you married or
your divorce I’m married you’re married
okay so you you can speak for the people
that the people who are looking for that
mate what are three things that you saw
in your wife that you said this is the
one well first would you have to look at
list you have to see how your spouse
treats their parents oh yes right how
they treat their parents correct okay
they’re not treating their parents well
more likely we’re gonna have some
problems later on in that relationship
okay good okay what’s another one the
second is there has to be trust in their
relationship trust okay there has to be
trust in the relationship if your
fiancee is 13 are you at the
say what are you looking at and the only
thing you’re looking at if you’re
thinking about how much you’re spending
then there’s a big red flag there right
okay what’s every time you go to the
store
that’s right yes okay I’ve been through
that already Xavier you’re right you
know what you’re talking about you can
write a book on this and what’s number
three if you go to church doctor okay so
if you go to church you want to get
somebody that’s involved in churches
you know I am an associate pastor yes
you have to take to your leadership
because they may see a quality in that
person that maybe not be compatible to
you and there will be some danger in
that relationship and if you’ve been
called to ministry it could interfere in
your car with God hmm okay how long have
you been married over here okay listen I
want to ask you one question before we
go what’s the most difficult part of
being married that you have experience
you know the most difficult part is when
you first get married you need to know
one another it’s you know it’s really
nice when you’re dating and I try to
remind myself open the door
be kind buy some flowers you know when
you first start off in a relationship
you do those things when you’re dating
you go out and maybe you bring some
flowers or and you know you open the
door you open the restaurant door and it
seems like once you get married after a
few years you know you’re like state hey
listen and I it’s your turn to open the
door mm-hmm
and so there’s a period of time I
believe that the first five years of the
relationship are the most drastic years
you’re getting to know one another
you’re getting to know each other on the
things that you like and dislike more
intense than when you’re dating but
you’re also saying yes but but the other
thing that you’re saying are veeram
pardon me for interrupting you is that
that the same thing that it took to get
that woman it’s going to take the same
thing
to keep that woman to do the maintenance
on the relationship am i correct yes
listen I want to thank you so much for
listening and thank you for your input
and may you have many more years of
happiness and love and great health
together okay thank you very much I
appreciate you so much for listening
thank you
listen that’s some good advice what
would Xavier just left with us he said
first of all he said you got to watch
how they treat their parents that will
give you good indication and Trust is
very important and go to church with
them make sure they have some some level
of spirituality about them and get some
coaching and direction and insights from
your pastors this is the right person
Felicia hello thank you so much for
calling in from Los Angeles now are you
married are you divorced I’m married
you’re married how many years have you
been married Felicia okay you’ve been
married for six months and so you can
talk on both areas that being married
now for six months and divorce how long
were you married the first time you
remarried ten years okay now let’s be
gone you’re deciding the second time
around because you now you have a
greater level of maturity and you know
some things you did not know when you
got married the first time otherwise you
still be married to the same person so
so what what would you say what did you
look at and what did you see in the
person that you’re now married to that
you said I’m gonna do this again be
well-rounded what do you mean by be
well-rounded what do you mean by that
just his overall spirituality being
rooted having a true sense of self
I mean understanding and appreciation
for family how he treats his parents his
children and how he treats his his lover
his women that would be me yes okay
fantastic what is his name let me speak
to the bone yeah let me talk to the moan
this is leather hey de Mond is this your
first marriage or your second marriage
your second how long were you married
the first time 16 years 16 years and
you’ve been together now you’ve been
married for six months how did you know
that this was the woman that this you
know that you didn’t make it work the
first time but when you saw Felicia you
were looking for something and what were
those three qualities that you saw in
her I saw a sense of humor
okay she laughed at my jokes even if
they’re corny she laughs right what’s
number two number two was art we have a
saint clear concise communication mm-hmm
three C so we’re still clear concise and
communicating nothing has changed since
our dating phase in our marriage phase
good and that’s number three and number
three is our blending of our families
because we have a blended family so
mm-hmm all important that you know yes I
know I know that that’s a real tough
okay when you look at those both of you
can speak to the other side too
what is it that you learn from that
relationship you first were involved in
for 16 years that that you would say to
people who are looking for a mate but
here’s something that you want if you
want to be for somebody with somebody
because this time this is for life this
is it for you and Felicia there will not
be a third time that’s correct
very good all right none and we see that
for you we’re speaking for that okay
what is it that a person should avoid
and look and go the other way and
delayed enlightenment that you didn’t
see but you you saw and you’d live with
for a while and then do you finally said
I can’t do this anymore well first thing
is that you know the big stuff and
marriages will take care of themselves
it’s it’s the little things that you
must work at follow I’m saying yes
houses cause all the material stuff all
the things in life the big stuff will
take care of cells
it’s the little stuff that you have to
pay attention to at your spouse let’s
give me an example of little things that
can kill a relationship if you don’t
attend to it the termites exactly the
termites little things is that if your
spouse likes flowers give or flowers if
your spouse likes little notes that
because women are emotional creatures
mm-hmm man or not yeah our motional okay
so we have to cater to that emotional
side yeah and then sort of forgive that
after so many years of marriage we sort
of forget that they’re emotional
creatures and we must cater to that left
we have to continue that all right let
me talk back to Felicia for a minute and
both of you so cooperative
Felicia yeah don’t go anywhere I’ve got
you a commercial I’ll be right back but
you guys are just great you making my
work very easy today hold it for just a
moment I’ll be right with you okay all
right thank you thank you for your
patience and listen we’re talking to two
groups I want to talk to people and
they’ve found their significant other
that found their the life made your
soulmate the person that you’ve married
and and what is it you saw in them and
the first people that are divorced like
myself what is it you need to run away
from if you see that we’ve been talking
about relationships but before I go
there listen I want you to listen very
closely don’t go anywhere because I have
a special announcement at the top of the
hour I have some great news for those of
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the top of the hour now we’ve been
talking with people that are married and
people that are divorced we want to some
advice from people that are married what
did you look for in a mate when you
found that person and people who have
divorced what are the things that you
need to avoid that when you see these
signs it’s a red flag and you need to
run and I’ve been very fortunate to talk
to a couple that both of them have been
married 110 years the other one four
four well how many years what Felicia
you were married the first time how many
years Felicia are you there
I’m the Missy Felicia they’ve been
married Felicia and and Devon have been
married for six months now and this
their second time around and the last
time and so they talked about some some
some good advice on on what to look for
in an m8 but also some things that you
need to avoid that if you see this it’s
a red flag that you don’t need to go up
in there you don’t need to have a
relationship with this person Felicia
are you there okay I pushed it and I got
enough Felicia hello Felicia okay yes
first of all thank you for your patience
now what is it that you would warn
people against if you see this you say
no that’s not the one there’s some some
red flags that you would warn people
about who are looking for a relationship
oh the main one for me and I think this
would be relevant for many women to see
how he treats his mother and if he
respects his mother and treats her the
way a woman should be treated that’s a
good sign and I would be different and
he has no respect for his mother then
it’d be hard for him to respect you as a
woman as his wife and the mother of his
children if you are a mom as kids or
even your kids okay well listen you and
Damone have six months behind you and
all of the future before you may you
have many years of love happiness and
good health and a great relationship in
marriage together okay thank you very
much
and thank you so much for listening to
the program okay you too you know it’s
really good to hear people to share this
kind of experience particularly these
newlyweds here they’ve been just up in
their six months but they’re veterans
they know what they’re looking for and
gave some solid advice hello Reggie how
are you Reggie thank you so much for
calling in and being a part of the
program
are you married Reggie or you divorce I
am married for 20 years 20 years
how did no what is your husband’s name
Robert Robert and hotness is your name
really Reggie yes it is okay now how did
you know Robert was the one year
different and so me and older I already
had that sort of motherly instinct in me
yes he was 22 years
and so you would think a 22 year old
would be sort of peerless in clumsy and
kind of carefree well Robert was a true
gentleman he’s funny and everything but
he was a true gentleman he was always
kind to me
and then on our date he made sure that
it’s not always him and me him and me
he would take me to his family he would
introduce me to his own calls mom dad
you can tell there’s so much love and
respect in that family and that was the
number-one bonus for me it was I know I
saw that he was sincere and I can trust
him because he’s not he’s not hiding
anything he’s not scared to introduce me
to his family he’s got you can tell it’s
not all about just you don’t really at
the time to introduce me to all his
relatives and when you got a chance to
see from whence he came then you said
okay this is a good fit for me because
there’s a lot of love here and he’s
being transparent and very open and
involving you with his family absolutely
and I don’t know now adays you seem like
farther away the guy is removed from his
family seem like it’s it’s better I mean
that is a red flag right there he
doesn’t want to introduce you to the
family he doesn’t want to fantastic
listen thank you for calling in and
sharing your story and thank you for
listening thank you I appreciate you
bye-bye okay I want to talk to Ed and
that thank you so much for calling in
and that you’re in Long Beach Oh lost
her all right sometimes that happens
when people on cell phones when you
think about that the people that call in
and and we got some good advice here one
of the things have said they look for if
you looking for that that right person
and Javier said hey man how she treats
her parents make sure the person that
you’re looking at you want to be around
then
and their family as Reggie talked about
and see how they treat their parents
that give you a very good indication how
they would treat you he also talked
about the fact that them being involved
in church and getting some counseling
and advice from the pastor is this a
good fit for the two of you and and he
said the most difficult thing about the
first years of marriage is getting to
know each other the first five years
Felicia and Damone who both uh she had
been married for 10 years and devoted in
marriage for 16 years
she said what I love about Damone he’s
well-rounded and had a sense of
spirituality and a true sense of who he
was and and he’s fun to be with and he
and he laughs and she laughs at his
corny jokes but she didn’t say they were
corny ideas okay like that at her and he
said that was major the foundation of
the marriage the three C’s clear concise
communication clear concise
communication and blended families they
work at it those families blending and
working together as we’re getting advice
from people that are married
successfully and then telling us the
things that look for in a mate if you
want to buy it that you want to be with
for the rest of your life and divorce
people or giving you some advice of who
to stay away from and one of the things
that’s it at the top of the hour just
because somebody’s handsome or
somebody’s beautiful does not mean that
they are normal that beautiful people
can be crazy I have a friend who said
less he said let me tell you something
he said I was dating this woman she
would look like a supermodel she was 6:1
she said she was fine she was fine he
said I broke up with her and I used to
leave my door unlocked she came to the
house and she said if I can’t have you
can’t nobody have you and she pulled out
a big butcher knife I said what did you
do he said I caught myself he said I
just restrained myself and I said what
would your mother say about this and she
said oh and he said well number one he
now locked his doors AJ so she was super
model crazy there are some crazy people
who are very beautiful very attractive
and you would think come on ya crazy
people they come in all ways they come
in all kind of looks and shapes and and
that you
you know you I think you’ve got some
experience with that don’t judge a book
by it’s cover and that talked to us
about that what is your story well you
know most the men that I dated were
based on looks and then I would get to
know them later and find that they were
not compatible with me and you know at
one point I got pregnant at 25 and ended
up raising my daughter by myself because
that relationship didn’t work and I’d
based it all on on you know his good
looks and then I you know I kinda lost
faith in finding a maid and I thought I
was gonna be single for the rest of my
life and so my daughter is now 17 and
about a year ago I decided to sign up
for a harmony and I was on it for three
months and it wasn’t it wasn’t
successful for me and I wasn’t getting
you know the rate of return that I had
expected so I quit for a month and then
my daughter talked me into going back on
she could you gotta give it at least six
months mhk so I went back on and within
less than a month
I got matched with my husband and I
wasn’t really interested in his looks I
loved what he had to say in his profile
and we matched with everything our
belief systems and so I gave him a
chance and when I first met him I said
oh he’ll be a good friend I’m not really
interested in him he’s just hot you know
I wasn’t interested in his looks and so
we hung out for a little bit and as time
went on we you know we email
correspondence were after five weeks of
actually in-person dating we got married
Wow congratulations thank you thank you
all my friends thought it was crazy
yes well you know what at first of all I
want to thank you on behalf of all the
homely people you know because we
deserve to get married to it and I want
to just thank you in behalf of all of us
that that people should just look past
us because of look you know that it was
the temptations they had a song that
said beauty is only skin-deep you
remember that song years ago but maybe
you too young
remember that okay well thank you
congratulations on that yes and I
appreciate you calling in and what is
his name his name’s Jason and he’s the
best thing that ever happened to me next
to my daughter okay fantastic hey listen
Jason you got it going on hey man you
and I homies all right we got something
in common
thank you very kindly take care doubt
all right listen hear something by zsa
zsa gabor she said I’m an excellent
housekeeper every time I get a divorce I
keep the house oh boy we lost an icon
today Elizabeth Taylor’s Elizabeth
Taylor speaking on relationship she said
I’m a very committed wife and I should
be committed to for being married so
oh she was special she was a special
lady yes she was you know when we began
to look at things today in relationships
that but that some of the good advice
that we received from Felicia and Damone
but also from Reggie and Robert who’ve
been together for 20 years he was 22 she
was 28 but he was a gentleman she said
and he was funny and and he was a family
man and he took me around his family he
was very transparent and I felt I can
trust him he we want relationships with
people that we can trust in and people
that come out of a a good household in
terms of love and togetherness and and
also he treated her like she was a lady
in and I admire that quality in him that
she talked about but also the thing that
Damone talked about clear concise
communication that’s a keeper in a
relationship and things to stay away
from well just because a person is
attracted don’t mean that they’re a good
candidate to get married to beauty’s
only skin deep as the temptation set and
if they’re jealous and insecure don’t
try and fix them trust me on that it’s a
full-time job trying to fix yourself and
the other thing that you must look at is
that this person can you trust them can
you believe in them if you catch them in
a lie and they try and pretend that you
are blind that you didn’t see what you
saw trust me on this avoid them run in
the opposite direction
now I had mentioned earlier we have some
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talk about something I saw this online
it was online and it just it made me
sick to my stomach we talked about the
Good Samaritan not the fight that was
that was provoked and encouraged and
instigated by the mother of a teenager
and and and another young man you we’re
gonna give you some information on this
and and that’s what we’re gonna talk
about in the next hour and it’s a
conversation that we want you to be a
part of so don’t don’t go anywhere stay
right there I want to
to keep this mind here’s that here’s a
thought for today as you look at your
life look at your goals and look at your
dreams always ask audiences have you
done all you can do and most the time
they say no well yeah Williams said all
you can do is all you can do and all you
can do is enough but make sure you do
all you can do so in other words if you
got a drool gold got a dream you want to
achieve make sure you go all out don’t
leave nothing on the table take no prisoners and eat the wounded
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