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I Was 18 Years Old When I Got Married…..

I got married I belong to a very
conservative family a Balochi family
we’re good daughters never say no to
their parents my father wanted me to get
married all I said was if that makes you
happy I’ll say yes and of course it was
never a happy marriage just after two
years of getting married about nine
years ago I met a car accident
somehow my husband fell asleep and the
car fell in the ditch he managed to jump
out saved himself I’m happy for him but
I stayed inside the car and I sustained
a lot of injuries list is a bit long
Vegas I love my right arm were fractured
the wrist was pictured shoulder bone and
collarbone were fractured my whole
ribcage got fractured but that mystery
that changed me and my life completely
was the spine injury many people came to
rescue they gave me CPR they dragged me
out of the car and while they were
dragging me out I got the complete
transection of my spinal cord it was two
and a half months in the hospital were
dreadful I was at the words of despair
one day doctor came to me and he said
well I heard that you wanted to be an
artist but you ended up being a
housewife I have a bad news for you you
won’t be able to paint again next day
doctor came to me and said your spine
injury is so bad you won’t be able to
walk again
I took a deep breath and it’s alright
next day doctor came to me and said
because of your spine injury and the
fixation that you have in your back you
won’t be able to give birth to a child
that day I was devastated I started to
question my existence why am I even
alive so what kept me going was one day
I asked my brother’s I know I have a
different hand but I’m tired of looking
at these white walls in the hospital and
wearing these white scrubs
bring me some colors bring me some small
canvas I want to paint so the very first
painting I made was on my deathbed where
I painted for the very first time
what an amazing therapy it was without I
print a single word I could paint my
heart out I could share my story people
used to come and say what lovely
painting so much color nobody could see
the grief in it only I could and that
day I decided that I’m going to live
life for myself I am NOT going to be
that perfect person for someone I am
just going to take this
make it perfect for myself but I’m going
to fight my fears so I wrote down one by
one all those fears and I decided that
I’m going to overcome these fears one at
a time you know what was my biggest fear
divorce but the day I decided that this
is nothing but my fear I liberated
myself by setting him free and I made
myself emotionally so strong that the
day I got the news that he is getting
married I sent him a text and I’m so
happy for you and I wish you all the
best and he knows that I pray for him
number two was I won’t be able to be a
mother again and that was quite
devastating for me but then I realized
there are so many children in the world
all they want is acceptance so there is
no point of crying just go and adopt one
and that’s what I did
I gave my name in different
organizations different whorfin angels
and I waited patiently two years later I
got this call from a very small city in
Pakistan I got a call and they said our
human even Missouri there is a baby boy
and would you like to adopt I could
literally feel the labor pains yes I am
coming and that day I was 2 years old
two days old and today he’s six you know
when you end up being on the wheelchair
what’s the most painful thing people
think that there will not be accepted by
the people because we in the world of
perfect people are imperfect so I
decided to appear more in public I
started to paint I’ve done a lot of
modeling campaigns I decided that I’m
going to join the national TV of
Pakistan as an anchorperson
I became the National goodwill
ambassador for UN Women Pakistan and now
I speak for the rights of women children
I was featured in BBC hundred women for
2015 30 and a 30 for 2016 so when you
accept yourself the way you are the
world recognizes you
it all starts from within we have this
amazing fantasy about life this is how
things should work this is my plan it
should go as per my plan if that doesn’t
happen I never wanted to be on the
never thought of a mortgage this life is
a test and a trial and tests are never
supposed to be easy so when you’re
expecting is from life and life gives
you lemons then you make the lemonade
and then do not blame life for that it
is okay to be scared
it is okay to cry everything is okay but
giving up should not be an option they
always say that failure is not an option
failure should be an option because when
you fail you get up and then you fail
and then you get up and that keeps you
embrace each and every breath that you
are taking celebrate your life live it
don’t die before your death real
happiness lies gratitude so be grateful
be alive and live every moment
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