well as a little boy I was fascinated by
people who were able to function well
under difficult circumstances so Rambo
and diehard weren’t really the stories I
could relate to they wore the stories of
real people like the story of Viktor
Frankl he was a survivor of the horrors
of the concentration camps in World War
two
and he lost his father his mother and
his wife in there but despite all this
he came to the conclusion that
situations can be Amane inhumane painful
so if I look at the future that and what
it hasn’t hold for us I’m pretty
convinced that we have beautiful things
ahead but also some pretty challenging
things like if I look at I say the
technology that the environmental the
geopolitical challenges that we face the
way we live on this earth will change
dramatically in the next couple of here
so my question is are we resilient
enough to face the future because people
like Viktor Frankl or people like
friends would mind a little but a little
bit earlier this year two friends of
mine had a spinal cord injuries but they
now fully embracing life again but also
the story that we heard today of Hina
and Mariela I mean those are stories of
people that have one thing in common in
this resilience and my question is are
we resilient enough to face the future
because if I look at the enormous
increase of people that suffer from
stress burnout and depressions and the
staggering amount of medication we take
for that I’m having serious doubts and
my idea is let’s make resilience the new
drug that will help us to become more
future-proof without the risk of an OD
and the nice thing is that you can work
on your resilience very easily I mean
the only thing you have to do is work on
acceptance self-worth self-reliance
building a network of friends making
sure you develop your talents but
doesn’t this sound a little bit simple
and maybe a little bit naive and cliche
to you I mean we know all these things
but sometimes we’re a little bit a hard
time of putting it into practice it’s
almost as if every now and then we need
to experience a devastating struggle in
life to really grasp this well here’s my
struggle it began on the day that my
lovely wife Jacqueline went on a day
shopping with my beautiful daughter 20
year-old daughter Sona and during the
day I got all kinds of text messages
saying how much fun they had and how
much clothes how much clothes they
bought and in one case that one of the
sales persons in the store said you have
the same size so they were like having
loads of fun and later that day I got a
few text messages saying that okay we
first grab a bite in the city enough to
which we come home so it was a Friday
night I had dinner with together with my
son and after that he went off to his
friends so it was a Friday night I was
in my favorite chair I had to remote
control my right hand I had a glass of
wine in my left hand family was happy I
mean life was like a sunny day then
around 9:30 the front doorbell rang and
I found it a little bit strange because
I expected the girls home but they would
come round back so I went to the front
door and I opened it and I saw two
female police officers standing down and
their faces didn’t bode well so one of
the masks are you dish out the hope I
said yeah it’s your wife’s name
chuckling and do you have a daughter
named sana I said yeah well sir
unfortunately we have to tell you that
your wife and your daughter just have
had a car accident and your wife’s with
a severe trauma in the hospital and your
daughter did not survive I was like if I
just hold my hand
if I just close my eyes then this
nightmare will be gone but when I open
them again it continued and
apathetically I started walking through
my house and I was overwhelmed by a
tsunami of terrible thoughts and emotion
and at some point I don’t know what I
found myself back in the living room and
so one of the police officers standing
there she opened their arms he said I’ll
come over here and the only reason I
share this story with you is that after
we lost our lovely daughter my wife my
son and I we work very hard on our
resilience and I can tell you that with
ups and downs we fully embraced life
again you can’t see it but I’m wearing a
huge scar over here because I was
slashed open I was twisted inside out I
was stitched up again but I got proud of
this car because it has stitches that
are made of friendship love and optimism
and I found out that all the cliches and
simplicity about resilience is ever so
true so you don’t have to you don’t have
to experience that again it is true
especially one of the quotes of Viktor
Frankl is also very true when he says if
we’re no longer able to change which is
a situation we are challenged to change
ourselves so the more I worked on my
resilience the more I came to the
conclusion that resilience can be the
new drug for us that will help us to
become more future proof because if you
work on your resilience it gives you the
power to be yourself and adapt adapt to
this ever so fast changing world we live
in but still be able to stay true to
yourself because there’s a generation we
will need to change in a dance and as
human beings we are if we have this
basic needs to adapt to each other we
are very social friendly beings and if
you don’t believe me just take a look at
see we are friendly social beings we
start laughing to each other and we are
because we know on our own we are very
very vulnerable especially in the
beginning of life we are absolutely very
vulnerable and I remember well I was
like one week old I was chilling in my
crib I just came from my mama’s breast
and then I heard this song written by
Benny King in 1961 and I can say it
saved my life when he sung when the
night has come and the land is dark and
I won’t be afraid no I
I won’t be your friend just as long as
won’t you stand by won’t you stand by
[Music]
yeah because when Benny king is singing
when the night has come and the land is
dark in my opinion is singing about the
dark times we all face times when things
don’t go your way but we all react
differently to and it’s the art of
coping and adapting to these difficult
situations by learning to handle our
emotions such as fear sadness
frustration and disgust and transform
them transform them into more
compassionate and constructive actions
and if we do we can move mountains
together and no I won’t be afraid just
as long as you stand by me we are
friendly by Nature we just forget about
it sometime the second thing that we can
develop from resilience is be yourself
and this is quite challenging especially
in our times when it is fashionable and
cool to have no time at all then is why
the biggest promise made by technology
by the way they don’t deliver is that we
build apps we will against motion and
and algorithms that will save you time
right so question who here in the room
has loads of free time chatter okay yes
you clean your day yeah okay no no
because if we look at ourselves from
from a little distance we can see we can
clearly see that we’ve created it for
society where there’s a focus on making
money appearance in status rather than
on building communities and and close
relationships and this is exactly the
conclusion of a study led by Jean Twenge
from the San Diego State University on
the increase of the pressed feelings
among young people television
commercials florals bloggers insta snap
book is telling you to deny real world
step into this virtual reality where
money making being beautiful stardom and
doing
only epic stuff is the new standard wait
did you see Will Smith bungee jump from
his plane as a gift for his 99th
birthday while traveling around the
world I mean for us mortals not being
increases the Presta feelings and we
shifted the last decades we shifted the
balance from intrinsic to extrinsic
goals intrinsic goals relate to
self-development extrinsic goals relate
to the focus on or making money on
comparison and eventually the judgment
of others and we have much less control
over these extrinsic goals I mean you
can work hard but it doesn’t mean you
get a good salary the people that look
after our money get paid far more than
the people that look after our children
that teach our children that take care
of our sick and elderly so it’s the
intrinsic goals that helps you to work
on acceptance on self-reliance on
building a network on the ability of
solving problems of developing your
talents it can make us more resilient it
made me more resilient it will make you
more resilient and it can make us as a
generation more resilient and only way
we’ll all get scars let’s stitch them up
with friendship with love and optimism
and like Frick so Frankel said we’re no
longer able to change the situation
we’re challenged to change ourselves to
together we create a bright future for
everyone this will never happen in our
society the largest organizations in
this world beside what will happen do
you really think that decisiveness comes
when we dare to look through the eyes of
our children I don’t think so
only when we buy more stuff things will
get better and those who benefit from it
tell us digitization and robotics are
far more important than sustainability
and care for our planet
this is more than just the line we will
tell the only truth the so called
powers-that-be keep telling us over and
over you will show resilience you will
take care of each other while the
opposite is true everyone sticks to
their own opinions and possessions and
pessimists who know better are shouting
out nothing will change because people
are selfish you have to be very naive to
believe in each individual each step can
help create a world liveable for all of
us and this is a truth in a lot of Minds
it’s also only one side of the story
because we’re we’re able to change these
things around because we are working on
our resilience would that make a
difference if we work on acceptance if
we work on sharing things together
is it still time to reverse it and if
you reverse it if we turn it around
shouldn’t make it different could we
write another story while each
individual each step can help create a
world liveable for all of us you have to
be very naive to believe that nothing
will change because people are selfish
pessimists move shouting out I say that
everyone sticks to their own opinions
and possessions while the opposite is
true you will show resilience you will
take care of each other and the so
called powers that we keep telling us
over and over we tell the only truth
this is more than just the lion
sustainability and care for our planet
are far more important than digitization
and robotics those who benefit from a
tell us that only when we buy more stuff
things will get better I don’t think so
decisiveness comes when we dare to look
through the eyes of our children do you
really think that the largest
organization in this will decide what
will happen I don’t think so this will
never happen in our society together we
can make a bright future for everyone
and this is another side of the story
and this is my truth
you [Applause]
people who were able to function well
under difficult circumstances so Rambo
and diehard weren’t really the stories I
could relate to they wore the stories of
real people like the story of Viktor
Frankl he was a survivor of the horrors
of the concentration camps in World War
two
and he lost his father his mother and
his wife in there but despite all this
he came to the conclusion that
situations can be Amane inhumane painful
so if I look at the future that and what
it hasn’t hold for us I’m pretty
convinced that we have beautiful things
ahead but also some pretty challenging
things like if I look at I say the
technology that the environmental the
geopolitical challenges that we face the
way we live on this earth will change
dramatically in the next couple of here
so my question is are we resilient
enough to face the future because people
like Viktor Frankl or people like
friends would mind a little but a little
bit earlier this year two friends of
mine had a spinal cord injuries but they
now fully embracing life again but also
the story that we heard today of Hina
and Mariela I mean those are stories of
people that have one thing in common in
this resilience and my question is are
we resilient enough to face the future
because if I look at the enormous
increase of people that suffer from
stress burnout and depressions and the
staggering amount of medication we take
for that I’m having serious doubts and
my idea is let’s make resilience the new
drug that will help us to become more
future-proof without the risk of an OD
and the nice thing is that you can work
on your resilience very easily I mean
the only thing you have to do is work on
acceptance self-worth self-reliance
building a network of friends making
sure you develop your talents but
doesn’t this sound a little bit simple
and maybe a little bit naive and cliche
to you I mean we know all these things
but sometimes we’re a little bit a hard
time of putting it into practice it’s
almost as if every now and then we need
to experience a devastating struggle in
life to really grasp this well here’s my
struggle it began on the day that my
lovely wife Jacqueline went on a day
shopping with my beautiful daughter 20
year-old daughter Sona and during the
day I got all kinds of text messages
saying how much fun they had and how
much clothes how much clothes they
bought and in one case that one of the
sales persons in the store said you have
the same size so they were like having
loads of fun and later that day I got a
few text messages saying that okay we
first grab a bite in the city enough to
which we come home so it was a Friday
night I had dinner with together with my
son and after that he went off to his
friends so it was a Friday night I was
in my favorite chair I had to remote
control my right hand I had a glass of
wine in my left hand family was happy I
mean life was like a sunny day then
around 9:30 the front doorbell rang and
I found it a little bit strange because
I expected the girls home but they would
come round back so I went to the front
door and I opened it and I saw two
female police officers standing down and
their faces didn’t bode well so one of
the masks are you dish out the hope I
said yeah it’s your wife’s name
chuckling and do you have a daughter
named sana I said yeah well sir
unfortunately we have to tell you that
your wife and your daughter just have
had a car accident and your wife’s with
a severe trauma in the hospital and your
daughter did not survive I was like if I
just hold my hand
if I just close my eyes then this
nightmare will be gone but when I open
them again it continued and
apathetically I started walking through
my house and I was overwhelmed by a
tsunami of terrible thoughts and emotion
and at some point I don’t know what I
found myself back in the living room and
so one of the police officers standing
there she opened their arms he said I’ll
come over here and the only reason I
share this story with you is that after
we lost our lovely daughter my wife my
son and I we work very hard on our
resilience and I can tell you that with
ups and downs we fully embraced life
again you can’t see it but I’m wearing a
huge scar over here because I was
slashed open I was twisted inside out I
was stitched up again but I got proud of
this car because it has stitches that
are made of friendship love and optimism
and I found out that all the cliches and
simplicity about resilience is ever so
true so you don’t have to you don’t have
to experience that again it is true
especially one of the quotes of Viktor
Frankl is also very true when he says if
we’re no longer able to change which is
a situation we are challenged to change
ourselves so the more I worked on my
resilience the more I came to the
conclusion that resilience can be the
new drug for us that will help us to
become more future proof because if you
work on your resilience it gives you the
power to be yourself and adapt adapt to
this ever so fast changing world we live
in but still be able to stay true to
yourself because there’s a generation we
will need to change in a dance and as
human beings we are if we have this
basic needs to adapt to each other we
are very social friendly beings and if
you don’t believe me just take a look at
see we are friendly social beings we
start laughing to each other and we are
because we know on our own we are very
very vulnerable especially in the
beginning of life we are absolutely very
vulnerable and I remember well I was
like one week old I was chilling in my
crib I just came from my mama’s breast
and then I heard this song written by
Benny King in 1961 and I can say it
saved my life when he sung when the
night has come and the land is dark and
I won’t be afraid no I
I won’t be your friend just as long as
won’t you stand by won’t you stand by
[Music]
yeah because when Benny king is singing
when the night has come and the land is
dark in my opinion is singing about the
dark times we all face times when things
don’t go your way but we all react
differently to and it’s the art of
coping and adapting to these difficult
situations by learning to handle our
emotions such as fear sadness
frustration and disgust and transform
them transform them into more
compassionate and constructive actions
and if we do we can move mountains
together and no I won’t be afraid just
as long as you stand by me we are
friendly by Nature we just forget about
it sometime the second thing that we can
develop from resilience is be yourself
and this is quite challenging especially
in our times when it is fashionable and
cool to have no time at all then is why
the biggest promise made by technology
by the way they don’t deliver is that we
build apps we will against motion and
and algorithms that will save you time
right so question who here in the room
has loads of free time chatter okay yes
you clean your day yeah okay no no
because if we look at ourselves from
from a little distance we can see we can
clearly see that we’ve created it for
society where there’s a focus on making
money appearance in status rather than
on building communities and and close
relationships and this is exactly the
conclusion of a study led by Jean Twenge
from the San Diego State University on
the increase of the pressed feelings
among young people television
commercials florals bloggers insta snap
book is telling you to deny real world
step into this virtual reality where
money making being beautiful stardom and
doing
only epic stuff is the new standard wait
did you see Will Smith bungee jump from
his plane as a gift for his 99th
birthday while traveling around the
world I mean for us mortals not being
increases the Presta feelings and we
shifted the last decades we shifted the
balance from intrinsic to extrinsic
goals intrinsic goals relate to
self-development extrinsic goals relate
to the focus on or making money on
comparison and eventually the judgment
of others and we have much less control
over these extrinsic goals I mean you
can work hard but it doesn’t mean you
get a good salary the people that look
after our money get paid far more than
the people that look after our children
that teach our children that take care
of our sick and elderly so it’s the
intrinsic goals that helps you to work
on acceptance on self-reliance on
building a network on the ability of
solving problems of developing your
talents it can make us more resilient it
made me more resilient it will make you
more resilient and it can make us as a
generation more resilient and only way
we’ll all get scars let’s stitch them up
with friendship with love and optimism
and like Frick so Frankel said we’re no
longer able to change the situation
we’re challenged to change ourselves to
together we create a bright future for
everyone this will never happen in our
society the largest organizations in
this world beside what will happen do
you really think that decisiveness comes
when we dare to look through the eyes of
our children I don’t think so
only when we buy more stuff things will
get better and those who benefit from it
tell us digitization and robotics are
far more important than sustainability
and care for our planet
this is more than just the line we will
tell the only truth the so called
powers-that-be keep telling us over and
over you will show resilience you will
take care of each other while the
opposite is true everyone sticks to
their own opinions and possessions and
pessimists who know better are shouting
out nothing will change because people
are selfish you have to be very naive to
believe in each individual each step can
help create a world liveable for all of
us and this is a truth in a lot of Minds
it’s also only one side of the story
because we’re we’re able to change these
things around because we are working on
our resilience would that make a
difference if we work on acceptance if
we work on sharing things together
is it still time to reverse it and if
you reverse it if we turn it around
shouldn’t make it different could we
write another story while each
individual each step can help create a
world liveable for all of us you have to
be very naive to believe that nothing
will change because people are selfish
pessimists move shouting out I say that
everyone sticks to their own opinions
and possessions while the opposite is
true you will show resilience you will
take care of each other and the so
called powers that we keep telling us
over and over we tell the only truth
this is more than just the lion
sustainability and care for our planet
are far more important than digitization
and robotics those who benefit from a
tell us that only when we buy more stuff
things will get better I don’t think so
decisiveness comes when we dare to look
through the eyes of our children do you
really think that the largest
organization in this will decide what
will happen I don’t think so this will
never happen in our society together we
can make a bright future for everyone
and this is another side of the story
and this is my truth
you [Applause]
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