[Applause]
daily guidance people between the
78 years and they play around with three big ones
ask who am I what can I do what do I want
and how do I take that to people playing around
this because they are stuck in one
relationship or because they are a serious accident
have had because of his war history
have or simply an accumulation
of facts that are not processed that
that point stands still for a moment
how then repackage yourself to his trauma
Professor quite well van der kolk
states that with talking and medication alone
you do not come out and follow
brain researcher erik scherder
steps people in a major trauma
unaware of their feelings
our emotion core simply turns off
our brain grams at the same time full
to
we step into paralysis or into it
action but away from this science
has real life in how to repack
yourself then after such a loyal how do you come
you will recover from the action side dish
feel free to reinvent yourself
find
to feel what you feel rather than
do not cope but continue again
is not the fine how long is the
fine 6 is fetch right after
falling
may I give an example give fictitious
case
but the example of hein you take
happy to participate in his story
we have been back in the same way for half a year
time
November 14, 2016
in a few weeks we will go ice climbing
the open have beautiful because in mind
but beautiful frozen waterfalls that we
going to climb
just after a night of train in the hall
I am my record and I hurry to me
I therefore see my climate
further down he is with his partner tab
seite
I hasten to add that in the meantime to
um me in my belt and we chat
cozy with a few suits of language
to make a start
just look at the wall and I’m in it
starts to climb five meters 10 meters 15
meter
about 6 floors high , I have to go through one
everywhere is pretty technical
I get through it, but I also notice it
15 meters I hit some sour so I
wanted to relax in the language for the
last meters they group down and
what follows is the icy yellow
instead and suddenly I come into a whole
different world
I am standing on the edge of a rock and on
that rock is a piece of rope and that
is lying very slowly
a few meters away again at one
rock and then my wife and children
he my dad everybody here and the
look man totally down and I see
in a very deep ravine
like a yawning mine the death deep in the
looking at eyes
she tries to step totally and to the
come across but that starts
I would miss it
try again and again
countless times to live that life
come
but that does not seem to work
to get there
and I really do not have to do anything at all
to come down to that death
I just have to let go of him
until I get the clarity to not over
want to walk the rope but drop it
lie down and as a soldier in cat
of strip going over
and so I come across that
yawning mel and I climb on that rock and
moment it does
I close my wife my children mine
arms and I will become the youngest
daughter and what me daddy
you live but you look very crazy
from
and I want to say goodbye to my wife
doctor
good morning doctor i believe that they do that
said 6 times in a room full of
doctors and I heard men’s voice say
good morning we are glad that you are there
I’m not expecting you to be honest
just added after you have a very
seriously climbed accident of 15
meters on a concrete floor is folded
you have been in a coma for five weeks and
there is just it added and in
those five weeks we already have very
a lot of hours is then operating
your right foot was shattered your knee
broken open pot breaks in the left
leg you have broken in the shoulder you
elbows shattered your wrists we
now have your crown to your jaw
completely have to reconstruct what you whole
face was up to two and a half
inched away
you have lost your scent and now you are
lost and they can now be included
start carefully with yours
recovery and that means for me on that
lie in bed
with all game room arms legs
snakes in my nose and in my neck
My eyes open and this completely German
look and see if they have enough time
and give training and you do not have to
think of months but of years then
you will not be able to breathe again yourself
via a hose through you if you can again
self
going to eat instead of a snake
through your home
you will soon be able to sit up straight again
when you stand upright at that moment
putting but I fell I just mattsson
week that no body tension at all
more
and they will even be possible later on
to resist
I managed to stand here for you
he also said what he will never again
do is pick up your life hoo idea you
You will spend the rest of your life with your stick
you have to find your way and so long
but I went to realize that
I meant the work I did
but fun and always what I do
had gone
sports hobbies
doing things independently
I started to realize that I was my own
woman would never see me again
children would never grow up and I would
noted that through it in my head
grind that thought that me
paralyzed and negative it made me
also noticed that being able to realize
new goals no matter what small me
that energy case of joy
and I drove like that one night
my son and remain dormant
hospital max
it was until people made it like me
I had to go to the bathroom with such a bed
he has shared the bed well I felt
me just free willy terrible and
then and we together quietly that night
practiced that I myself clamber out of bed
and as miss they are going to catch me
and tried a few times just and
being quiet is then cheering
and shortly thereafter
I just come for a day and I come in
my wheelchair from the toilet and then without
a nurse at my room
chat and I are with what the blue
for boys just on the side I go
walk away
I was euro and laughed at and that
felt like bales
except a nurse ron who
stay with me and go
we are going to give it a try he picked up my
mobile
cd player you put one of my favorite
CD’s hero’s of davy-boy on booth 10
volume and together we shuffled like that
Carefully two rounds around the bed and
I can still remember that I am in
tears Madam called I can walk again
can walk again and keep it alive
of that memory of those successes
now in this life I also do that consciously and
this is how I stand here for you and of course
I am also sometimes stuck
and I know that very deliberately
the moment to go and enjoy
sometimes just the cat on my lap or me
the exercises and not that it then
everything is easier but it is allowed
that I got moving and in
keep moving
and i realize doubler is this morning
action today
Well a special detail what this
situation totally different for me
I was not involved here as
re-integration expert but he is mine
man
my partner and buddy in life
so November 14 I am our daughter to
bed crawl for a moment at borders the day
rumored
my phone is deciding in the kitchen
to ignore him goes once again an app
follows a text message
tricking trays something shows the climate
to be my husband
I immediately know bad news my husband
shows name to really fall forward
lying on the ground in a big puddle
blood
very critical and slipped income and
like a madman
I drive to the hospital and indeed
no tears maxi family am one
call friends and after three and a half hours
comes the neurosurgeon
I have only one wish that is towards him
to go
I have to be with him twice
ask the neurosurgeon whether I am sure
know that I want to go inside I recognized
my husband on his left shoulder
the rest was completely in ruins
I had pain instructed all his yet
take time but also return
to come on earth because in this body
he was not at that moment that we later
also confirmed
he can die any time and despite
these are my heart continuously
this is he he comes out what it is
starting point is from there we go
build and without the help of incredibly
many friends and family I had not
can be strong
our daughter was taken care of bags with
There were clicks on the door at the door
were put out and all that
so that I
pair are just and next to that hour
his bed had an incredible amount
be arranged
anyone who smells like that through eg on non-active
and how to meet the mortgage
it really was to be a director
be my own man on his
to determine what helped me was that me
My practice was largely
to turn
a place that was unchanged wherever I was
direction
while the rest was messed up after 5 weeks
he woke up and he was released
a no plant
because that which could also have been me
told his longer term completely
intact
he is short very far to seek it
period of hallucinations and the winch
followed between restorative sleep schedule
on we stayed with him all against
protocols
after the IC followed the rehabilitation and here
he would be more than a year
internally in the tight training jacket
being hoisted
Well , the doctors were incredible
expertly, however, she vostra carpets
to come to laws and patient pro and
blind
lying in the room totally unknown
for him he did not come to rest
I had to find a new way
so here too
We did not allow the rehabilitation
permanent procedures
it stayed with him that had to
then the management will be added
we also took him outside
the rules in one for the sole purpose he
make him feel alive
after only 2 months he came home
want to take care of the floor
18 kilos lighter is in a wheelchair
and excels
trainers therapists
blind institute
adepts neck train is home we go
build and so at home he struggled with one
some major questions who am I own
team as a partner and as a father what is possible
I actually do how to pot to
what do I want in this new life and how
we tackle it than
now there is no fine steam
schematic my faithful
so we have largely intuitive
took our steps and what helped us
if we were stuck to old expectations
let go and step into the moment and
from there open to new ones
opportunities
we keep talking a lot
crying and laughing there will be of the
Kolk went out of our heads and went into it
our body
doing his healing meditate we are
listen to music and find out what
work for yourself but put your own
to step
apart from everyone there to find
woman needs time what I knew as
professional
that has been confirmed personally again
this is what I would bring every colleague
want to give
do not think you’re a professional
know that you have to be in a tight one
he can not contact them
fir with each other order they ask
listen
and if you do then
as experts, you go to the other
connect with all your knowledge tools and
experience then emerged unprecedented
possibilities and not previously conceived
solutions and that is how each route becomes
the close and personal
and now there are two possible reactions
when spring is the first
face and fitting and the second
face and direction
there wise we chose what tomorrow
is that curl today
so guests
[Applause]
daily guidance people between the
78 years and they play around with three big ones
ask who am I what can I do what do I want
and how do I take that to people playing around
this because they are stuck in one
relationship or because they are a serious accident
have had because of his war history
have or simply an accumulation
of facts that are not processed that
that point stands still for a moment
how then repackage yourself to his trauma
Professor quite well van der kolk
states that with talking and medication alone
you do not come out and follow
brain researcher erik scherder
steps people in a major trauma
unaware of their feelings
our emotion core simply turns off
our brain grams at the same time full
to
we step into paralysis or into it
action but away from this science
has real life in how to repack
yourself then after such a loyal how do you come
you will recover from the action side dish
feel free to reinvent yourself
find
to feel what you feel rather than
do not cope but continue again
is not the fine how long is the
fine 6 is fetch right after
falling
may I give an example give fictitious
case
but the example of hein you take
happy to participate in his story
we have been back in the same way for half a year
time
November 14, 2016
in a few weeks we will go ice climbing
the open have beautiful because in mind
but beautiful frozen waterfalls that we
going to climb
just after a night of train in the hall
I am my record and I hurry to me
I therefore see my climate
further down he is with his partner tab
seite
I hasten to add that in the meantime to
um me in my belt and we chat
cozy with a few suits of language
to make a start
just look at the wall and I’m in it
starts to climb five meters 10 meters 15
meter
about 6 floors high , I have to go through one
everywhere is pretty technical
I get through it, but I also notice it
15 meters I hit some sour so I
wanted to relax in the language for the
last meters they group down and
what follows is the icy yellow
instead and suddenly I come into a whole
different world
I am standing on the edge of a rock and on
that rock is a piece of rope and that
is lying very slowly
a few meters away again at one
rock and then my wife and children
he my dad everybody here and the
look man totally down and I see
in a very deep ravine
like a yawning mine the death deep in the
looking at eyes
she tries to step totally and to the
come across but that starts
I would miss it
try again and again
countless times to live that life
come
but that does not seem to work
to get there
and I really do not have to do anything at all
to come down to that death
I just have to let go of him
until I get the clarity to not over
want to walk the rope but drop it
lie down and as a soldier in cat
of strip going over
and so I come across that
yawning mel and I climb on that rock and
moment it does
I close my wife my children mine
arms and I will become the youngest
daughter and what me daddy
you live but you look very crazy
from
and I want to say goodbye to my wife
doctor
good morning doctor i believe that they do that
said 6 times in a room full of
doctors and I heard men’s voice say
good morning we are glad that you are there
I’m not expecting you to be honest
just added after you have a very
seriously climbed accident of 15
meters on a concrete floor is folded
you have been in a coma for five weeks and
there is just it added and in
those five weeks we already have very
a lot of hours is then operating
your right foot was shattered your knee
broken open pot breaks in the left
leg you have broken in the shoulder you
elbows shattered your wrists we
now have your crown to your jaw
completely have to reconstruct what you whole
face was up to two and a half
inched away
you have lost your scent and now you are
lost and they can now be included
start carefully with yours
recovery and that means for me on that
lie in bed
with all game room arms legs
snakes in my nose and in my neck
My eyes open and this completely German
look and see if they have enough time
and give training and you do not have to
think of months but of years then
you will not be able to breathe again yourself
via a hose through you if you can again
self
going to eat instead of a snake
through your home
you will soon be able to sit up straight again
when you stand upright at that moment
putting but I fell I just mattsson
week that no body tension at all
more
and they will even be possible later on
to resist
I managed to stand here for you
he also said what he will never again
do is pick up your life hoo idea you
You will spend the rest of your life with your stick
you have to find your way and so long
but I went to realize that
I meant the work I did
but fun and always what I do
had gone
sports hobbies
doing things independently
I started to realize that I was my own
woman would never see me again
children would never grow up and I would
noted that through it in my head
grind that thought that me
paralyzed and negative it made me
also noticed that being able to realize
new goals no matter what small me
that energy case of joy
and I drove like that one night
my son and remain dormant
hospital max
it was until people made it like me
I had to go to the bathroom with such a bed
he has shared the bed well I felt
me just free willy terrible and
then and we together quietly that night
practiced that I myself clamber out of bed
and as miss they are going to catch me
and tried a few times just and
being quiet is then cheering
and shortly thereafter
I just come for a day and I come in
my wheelchair from the toilet and then without
a nurse at my room
chat and I are with what the blue
for boys just on the side I go
walk away
I was euro and laughed at and that
felt like bales
except a nurse ron who
stay with me and go
we are going to give it a try he picked up my
mobile
cd player you put one of my favorite
CD’s hero’s of davy-boy on booth 10
volume and together we shuffled like that
Carefully two rounds around the bed and
I can still remember that I am in
tears Madam called I can walk again
can walk again and keep it alive
of that memory of those successes
now in this life I also do that consciously and
this is how I stand here for you and of course
I am also sometimes stuck
and I know that very deliberately
the moment to go and enjoy
sometimes just the cat on my lap or me
the exercises and not that it then
everything is easier but it is allowed
that I got moving and in
keep moving
and i realize doubler is this morning
action today
Well a special detail what this
situation totally different for me
I was not involved here as
re-integration expert but he is mine
man
my partner and buddy in life
so November 14 I am our daughter to
bed crawl for a moment at borders the day
rumored
my phone is deciding in the kitchen
to ignore him goes once again an app
follows a text message
tricking trays something shows the climate
to be my husband
I immediately know bad news my husband
shows name to really fall forward
lying on the ground in a big puddle
blood
very critical and slipped income and
like a madman
I drive to the hospital and indeed
no tears maxi family am one
call friends and after three and a half hours
comes the neurosurgeon
I have only one wish that is towards him
to go
I have to be with him twice
ask the neurosurgeon whether I am sure
know that I want to go inside I recognized
my husband on his left shoulder
the rest was completely in ruins
I had pain instructed all his yet
take time but also return
to come on earth because in this body
he was not at that moment that we later
also confirmed
he can die any time and despite
these are my heart continuously
this is he he comes out what it is
starting point is from there we go
build and without the help of incredibly
many friends and family I had not
can be strong
our daughter was taken care of bags with
There were clicks on the door at the door
were put out and all that
so that I
pair are just and next to that hour
his bed had an incredible amount
be arranged
anyone who smells like that through eg on non-active
and how to meet the mortgage
it really was to be a director
be my own man on his
to determine what helped me was that me
My practice was largely
to turn
a place that was unchanged wherever I was
direction
while the rest was messed up after 5 weeks
he woke up and he was released
a no plant
because that which could also have been me
told his longer term completely
intact
he is short very far to seek it
period of hallucinations and the winch
followed between restorative sleep schedule
on we stayed with him all against
protocols
after the IC followed the rehabilitation and here
he would be more than a year
internally in the tight training jacket
being hoisted
Well , the doctors were incredible
expertly, however, she vostra carpets
to come to laws and patient pro and
blind
lying in the room totally unknown
for him he did not come to rest
I had to find a new way
so here too
We did not allow the rehabilitation
permanent procedures
it stayed with him that had to
then the management will be added
we also took him outside
the rules in one for the sole purpose he
make him feel alive
after only 2 months he came home
want to take care of the floor
18 kilos lighter is in a wheelchair
and excels
trainers therapists
blind institute
adepts neck train is home we go
build and so at home he struggled with one
some major questions who am I own
team as a partner and as a father what is possible
I actually do how to pot to
what do I want in this new life and how
we tackle it than
now there is no fine steam
schematic my faithful
so we have largely intuitive
took our steps and what helped us
if we were stuck to old expectations
let go and step into the moment and
from there open to new ones
opportunities
we keep talking a lot
crying and laughing there will be of the
Kolk went out of our heads and went into it
our body
doing his healing meditate we are
listen to music and find out what
work for yourself but put your own
to step
apart from everyone there to find
woman needs time what I knew as
professional
that has been confirmed personally again
this is what I would bring every colleague
want to give
do not think you’re a professional
know that you have to be in a tight one
he can not contact them
fir with each other order they ask
listen
and if you do then
as experts, you go to the other
connect with all your knowledge tools and
experience then emerged unprecedented
possibilities and not previously conceived
solutions and that is how each route becomes
the close and personal
and now there are two possible reactions
when spring is the first
face and fitting and the second
face and direction
there wise we chose what tomorrow
is that curl today
so guests
[Applause]
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