not understanding or accepting history
dooms you to repeat it never is that
more true than in love hi I’m Rebecca
Brayton and welcome to watchmojo.com and
today we’re speaking with author JM
Kern’s who’s wishing you better love
next time just so we can give our
viewers a bit of context why don’t you
tell us the premise of better luck next
time it’s for all those people out there
who are walking around perhaps feeling
damaged by a past relationship they’re
kind of afraid that the next
relationship might be too much like the
past like the past just going to keep
repeating it so I wanted to take on the
whole heartache and pain and kind of
sort it all out so that you can move on
what would you say are some of the
typical hurdles someone has to overcome
after a breakup the very first hurdle is
trying to get the person who just broke
your heart to to give you comfort
turning to them and trying to make them
be the good guy and the bad guy at the
same time another thing that goes wrong
for many people is they jump into a new
relationship and they’re really not over
the last relationship yet and they see
everything through the filter of the
previous relationship and they can’t
even see the new person the new person
has no chance another thing people do
that that’s kind of like in the grip of
rebound logic especially if they’ve been
cheated on they try to find some kind of
guarantee in the next relationship that
the person will not cheat on them or
stray in any way the real key to
faithfulness is how much they have in
common when two people have enough in
common for one thing they’re going to
grow to love each other so much that
they couldn’t stand the thought of
deliberately hurting the other person
but for another thing they they have no
reason something you touched on is the
difference between a broken heart and a
broken ego do you want to just expand on
that a bit definitely said things about
a relationship ending when you love
somebody but that’s not the same as
feelings if your dignity has been
wounded and now you know you have to
avoid at all costs any kind of risks
that could ever lead you to the
humiliation again when the heart is on
the ropes the ego will sometimes make a
power play and take over the whole
psyche and then a person can end up so
well defended that they really can’t
love anybody
dooms you to repeat it never is that
more true than in love hi I’m Rebecca
Brayton and welcome to watchmojo.com and
today we’re speaking with author JM
Kern’s who’s wishing you better love
next time just so we can give our
viewers a bit of context why don’t you
tell us the premise of better luck next
time it’s for all those people out there
who are walking around perhaps feeling
damaged by a past relationship they’re
kind of afraid that the next
relationship might be too much like the
past like the past just going to keep
repeating it so I wanted to take on the
whole heartache and pain and kind of
sort it all out so that you can move on
what would you say are some of the
typical hurdles someone has to overcome
after a breakup the very first hurdle is
trying to get the person who just broke
your heart to to give you comfort
turning to them and trying to make them
be the good guy and the bad guy at the
same time another thing that goes wrong
for many people is they jump into a new
relationship and they’re really not over
the last relationship yet and they see
everything through the filter of the
previous relationship and they can’t
even see the new person the new person
has no chance another thing people do
that that’s kind of like in the grip of
rebound logic especially if they’ve been
cheated on they try to find some kind of
guarantee in the next relationship that
the person will not cheat on them or
stray in any way the real key to
faithfulness is how much they have in
common when two people have enough in
common for one thing they’re going to
grow to love each other so much that
they couldn’t stand the thought of
deliberately hurting the other person
but for another thing they they have no
reason something you touched on is the
difference between a broken heart and a
broken ego do you want to just expand on
that a bit definitely said things about
a relationship ending when you love
somebody but that’s not the same as
feelings if your dignity has been
wounded and now you know you have to
avoid at all costs any kind of risks
that could ever lead you to the
humiliation again when the heart is on
the ropes the ego will sometimes make a
power play and take over the whole
psyche and then a person can end up so
well defended that they really can’t
love anybody
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