do you know the number of times I’ve
seen a man cry seven and six of them
were actors in tragic movies who only
allowed to have manly tears you know
what I mean
that single drop of water that slides
down the actors face cuz god forbid the
actor look anything other than the
perfect representation of masculinity
add in the hero and sob fest for
compassion doctors the filmmakers make
sure we don’t mistake that for anything
other than manly the remaining one time
was also coincidentally in a movie hall
where it’s dark and I didn’t technically
see the guy cry but rather heard him I
couldn’t see his face until after the
lights came back on until then he was
mad enough to hide any evidence of his
crimes but I was on to him crying is an
important function of the human body
there’s a reason chord or evolution
created tear ducts I mean they’re not
that just to be useless and invisible
crying helps relieve stress and tension
and we in a bit half of a population
every time you use the phrase boys don’t
cry I remember me laughing at my best
friend when I was around 8 years old for
crying after falling over a porcupine an
animal that has needles all over its
body and the truth is if I was the one
who fell and gave a tantrum no one would
have blinked twice what he good when I’m
pious looks from his mother telling you
to behave himself sad I know but even
then I knew that crying for men was a
some argue that maybe it’s been DNA that
maybe men were born to cry less and
surprisingly they might be slightly true
a publication by why we cry by Laura
Collier talks about the hormone
prolactin which is found in which is
found in you have higher mountain woman
as compared to men and it is related to
crying however if that was the main
reason I studied a cross-cultural study
done in 2011 about those effect of
social factors in both men and women
were not have found that countries which
had greater freedom of expression had
only slightly different crime rates in
both genders
moreover the biochemist will image free
found that men cry an average of one
point three times a month which may seem
like a lot of manful tears but compared
to women crying an average of five point
three times a month they might just be
touching the tip of the emotional
iceberg so guys this is a genuine
problem I mean men deserve to know how
great ice cream tastes like when crying
they should be allowed to cry over a bad
breakup
without having to worry about the
friends making fun of them or future
dating prospects being put off by the
crying expression of emotion is also a
kind of freedom all human beings deserve
in India we have a face that is used
mouth could die new utha which
translates to men do not feel pain I’m
sorry to tell all the men and boys in
this room if that were true then you are
not men because all men yes because all
men are human and no one is incapable of
feeling emotion and feeling emotion
because that is what makes us alive do
you know what happens to men who try to
suppress their motion drugs and alcohol
that’s right a man’s go-to solution for
dealing with
pressure which is often caused by
suppression of emotion is – getting
drunk but don’t take my word for it
dick Langlois and storm sharks who
conducted a study in 2000 and found that
men often deal with depression through
substance abuse
this needs to stop this is to end but
for this to end we need to realize why
it happens why don’t men feel the need
to conform to the ideals of the macho
man let me tell you why
pee all our people we trust people who
are important to us
may they be family or friends when you
give someone that position your life you
give them the pie to make or break you
because they have expectations we have
expectations and we have the power to
enforce those expectations because we
are the society we are the majority all
of us have experienced this and certain
moments in our life to be expected or
achieves on things to be a certain way
and that might not necessarily be
harmful but that might not necessarily
be helpful either because when those
expectations differ from who you are
within the truth can leave you alienated
because everyone’s waiting for you to
break everyone is waiting for you to
make a mistake you don’t want someone to
look down upon you do you well men don’t
want that to happen to them either some
men might enjoy conforming to what
society deems as the ideal man and if
that is what they are within that’s
great I mean of other being fit is a
good thing not that I would know
anything about it but some men aren’t
and they don’t feel they can be who they
want to be because of our expectations
this is why I stand here this is my
stance do not demand emotional
vulnerability from men
but to give them a chance a genuine
chance to be who they want to be rather
than do what they’re supposed to be to
be something other than the macho man
you all know why this was important to
you you’ve heard this a thousand times
affirm you’re the future of the nation
you have the power to correct every
mistake made in this world that is a lot
of pressure to put on the shoulder of
someone whose biggest goal this week is
to please pass the test I just gave
that’s all right that’s not what I asked
of you
but more than that beyond that this is
important to you as humans as
individuals because spreading this
message along will certainly help the
people you reach out to but this message
is primarily for you because only by
changing your expectations can you be
expected to change the world but why
listen to me a girl preaching about
being a boy what do I know about being a
boy be completely different but Abbey
Rowley we both have two lungs one brain
one heart this I have it in me to be
mentally tough do you not have it in you
to be a little bit more emotional you
are allowed to space ID you are allowed
to feel you are allowed to be who you
want to be thank you [Applause]
seen a man cry seven and six of them
were actors in tragic movies who only
allowed to have manly tears you know
what I mean
that single drop of water that slides
down the actors face cuz god forbid the
actor look anything other than the
perfect representation of masculinity
add in the hero and sob fest for
compassion doctors the filmmakers make
sure we don’t mistake that for anything
other than manly the remaining one time
was also coincidentally in a movie hall
where it’s dark and I didn’t technically
see the guy cry but rather heard him I
couldn’t see his face until after the
lights came back on until then he was
mad enough to hide any evidence of his
crimes but I was on to him crying is an
important function of the human body
there’s a reason chord or evolution
created tear ducts I mean they’re not
that just to be useless and invisible
crying helps relieve stress and tension
and we in a bit half of a population
every time you use the phrase boys don’t
cry I remember me laughing at my best
friend when I was around 8 years old for
crying after falling over a porcupine an
animal that has needles all over its
body and the truth is if I was the one
who fell and gave a tantrum no one would
have blinked twice what he good when I’m
pious looks from his mother telling you
to behave himself sad I know but even
then I knew that crying for men was a
some argue that maybe it’s been DNA that
maybe men were born to cry less and
surprisingly they might be slightly true
a publication by why we cry by Laura
Collier talks about the hormone
prolactin which is found in which is
found in you have higher mountain woman
as compared to men and it is related to
crying however if that was the main
reason I studied a cross-cultural study
done in 2011 about those effect of
social factors in both men and women
were not have found that countries which
had greater freedom of expression had
only slightly different crime rates in
both genders
moreover the biochemist will image free
found that men cry an average of one
point three times a month which may seem
like a lot of manful tears but compared
to women crying an average of five point
three times a month they might just be
touching the tip of the emotional
iceberg so guys this is a genuine
problem I mean men deserve to know how
great ice cream tastes like when crying
they should be allowed to cry over a bad
breakup
without having to worry about the
friends making fun of them or future
dating prospects being put off by the
crying expression of emotion is also a
kind of freedom all human beings deserve
in India we have a face that is used
mouth could die new utha which
translates to men do not feel pain I’m
sorry to tell all the men and boys in
this room if that were true then you are
not men because all men yes because all
men are human and no one is incapable of
feeling emotion and feeling emotion
because that is what makes us alive do
you know what happens to men who try to
suppress their motion drugs and alcohol
that’s right a man’s go-to solution for
dealing with
pressure which is often caused by
suppression of emotion is – getting
drunk but don’t take my word for it
dick Langlois and storm sharks who
conducted a study in 2000 and found that
men often deal with depression through
substance abuse
this needs to stop this is to end but
for this to end we need to realize why
it happens why don’t men feel the need
to conform to the ideals of the macho
man let me tell you why
pee all our people we trust people who
are important to us
may they be family or friends when you
give someone that position your life you
give them the pie to make or break you
because they have expectations we have
expectations and we have the power to
enforce those expectations because we
are the society we are the majority all
of us have experienced this and certain
moments in our life to be expected or
achieves on things to be a certain way
and that might not necessarily be
harmful but that might not necessarily
be helpful either because when those
expectations differ from who you are
within the truth can leave you alienated
because everyone’s waiting for you to
break everyone is waiting for you to
make a mistake you don’t want someone to
look down upon you do you well men don’t
want that to happen to them either some
men might enjoy conforming to what
society deems as the ideal man and if
that is what they are within that’s
great I mean of other being fit is a
good thing not that I would know
anything about it but some men aren’t
and they don’t feel they can be who they
want to be because of our expectations
this is why I stand here this is my
stance do not demand emotional
vulnerability from men
but to give them a chance a genuine
chance to be who they want to be rather
than do what they’re supposed to be to
be something other than the macho man
you all know why this was important to
you you’ve heard this a thousand times
affirm you’re the future of the nation
you have the power to correct every
mistake made in this world that is a lot
of pressure to put on the shoulder of
someone whose biggest goal this week is
to please pass the test I just gave
that’s all right that’s not what I asked
of you
but more than that beyond that this is
important to you as humans as
individuals because spreading this
message along will certainly help the
people you reach out to but this message
is primarily for you because only by
changing your expectations can you be
expected to change the world but why
listen to me a girl preaching about
being a boy what do I know about being a
boy be completely different but Abbey
Rowley we both have two lungs one brain
one heart this I have it in me to be
mentally tough do you not have it in you
to be a little bit more emotional you
are allowed to space ID you are allowed
to feel you are allowed to be who you
want to be thank you [Applause]
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