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The Expense of a Cry for Help | Paria Maghsoudi | TEDxVCU


fake it till you make it how many of you

have heard of this sort of cliche

statement before okay a good amount of

you I’d say we often tell ourselves

these things in order to prepare

ourselves for whatever life throws at us

our challenges our weaknesses and

sometimes even preparing ourselves to

speak in front of everyone for the first

time when I think about this statement I

think about the brave from the selfless

the men and women in uniform the

protectors of our communities those who

cannot show certain emotions during

certain times in order to protect our

own life you see we live in a world

where society places this image that we

have to show our best selves on our

worse that in order to succeed in life

you should show that you are stronger

and never show your weaknesses that

those who show emotions are considered

I’m about to talk about something that

might be a little bit sensitive a topic

that not too many people often want to

hear some of the information that I’m

going to share may be a little bit

triggering and so therefore viewer

discretion is advised however I do

believe that this is an important topic

because this is something that happens

in our world and it happens around us

all the time some of the images that I’m

going to share are from the courtesy of

a current firefighter and paramedic the

name of danielson Hall who has created

these images from his own interpretation

of the line of duty I want you all to

think about someone who you know who is

a first responder this person can be a

friend a family member of

a friend or it could just be a stranger

that you’ve seen responding to an

emergency I want you to think about that

person throughout the entirety of the

segment post-traumatic stress disorder a

condition where a person encounters

difficulty recovering after experiencing

or witnessing a terrifying event this

formulates itself into certain symptoms

such as nightmares anxiety mistrust and

flashbacks

although the adrenaline and the

excitement of being a first responder is

always something that catches the eye of

many people first responders are twice

as likely to develop post-traumatic

stress disorder more than the average

person a cross-sectional study unveiled

that 1/4 of firefighters worldwide will

have PTSD and one-third of paramedics

will have the same that’s pretty

staggering a single study of 250

firefighters and paramedics designed to

assess the work trauma that these

individuals were going through and they

did it before and after study and before

the exposure of the traumatic incidents

that they were going through only 1% of

them stated that they have some sort of

a mental health related stress due to

on-site trauma and then after the

exposure has occurred 8.4 percent of

these individuals developed

alcohol-related problems 16.3% went on

work cleave and 6.8% had to take

psychiatric medication that is something

that not too many people know about and

that’s something that a lot of people

consider to be taboo it’s very

interesting to see that there was an

overall 30 percent change in a person’s

behavior

based on those traumatic incidents this

also plays a part in to a person’s

relationship and personal life

divorce rates are also very high within

first responders as is ten percent

higher than the national average of

fifty percent seventy two percent of all

first responders are sleep deprived he

thought being a college student was was

bad suicide rates are also something

that is a common factor within first

responders a recent report has shown

that in 2008 over a hundred and forty

one law enforcement officials have lost

her live from suicide and in 2016 it was

reduced to only 108 although there was a

reduction this still was and still is an

issue that we are encountering more and

more first responders died from suicide

then impacts of the incidents that they

deal with in the line of duty a young

and passionate newly recruited

goes into work the first day and is

really excited he just turned 21 and

this is his first day you know when his

call he wants to prove that he is

different from all of the law

enforcement officials that the society

portrays the negative way until he is

faced with a chilling call of a murder

scene in impoverished area how will he

respond I was really curious to know

more about this and I really wanted to

see and feel what it might be like to be

a law enforcement official and see the

complexities and difficulties that they

face since many of them are shown in a

negative way that the media represents

so I went and I spoke to a captain of a

Fire Academy I’m sorry the police

academy and he told me to do this

police simulation training I thought to

myself like how does this simulation

training going to really help me

understand what it’s going to be like to

be

a lot of Firstman official on-site

because it’s just a simulator I was

wrong I went into this room and it was a

dark room and there was this huge screen

similar to how what you see right now

and I was put into a scenario of a

school shooting upon my arrival of going

into the hallways the physical impact of

the environment and the fear of losing

my own life start to get the best of me

as I kept seeing these realistic

elements of people dying right in front

of my face and seeing people getting

shot and all of a sudden my hands start

shaking my heart starts being really

fast and everything starts getting into

tunnel vision and I just try to find the

suspect knife open fired what would you

have done I guess probably the same

thing I was very nervous at that point

and that’s the only thing that I thought

about and then I thought to myself I

said I wonder how the situation would

have played out if a law enforcement

official who was dealing with symptoms

of post-traumatic stress was also forced

to make a split-second decision in a

high-risk environment is reported that

many first responders often don’t like

to talk about these things because they

lose respect and it’s just not something

that they do and it’s not just law

enforcement officials who have this

macho protective role of you know trying

to save the communities and not let

their reputation get the best of them

it’s also all of us and the rest of the

first responders you see there’s a

commonality between mental health of

first responders and the impact the

public safety in the communities that

they serve when certain feelings and

emotions are being compartmentalized

and pushed aside when certain traumatic

stressors are not being acknowledged it

shows itself in other ways in the long

term this then becomes a microcosm to a

widespread issue from the stigma our

public safety officials view on the

concept of mental health so how can we

solve this ongoing issue

you see we often think that regardless

of one’s profession in the end we’re all

human human beings have a basic need of

being loved and supported by others

here are some key components that I have

come up with personally that I believe

can bridge the gaps between public

safety workers and the citizens of our

communities

the first key element is acceptance to

be accepted in such a way that with or

without having a personal defect will

not only stabilize a person’s

self-esteem but it will increase the

likelihood for them to ask for help when

needed and not feel as though it is a

bad thing to do so without the negative

criticism for judgment the second thing

is empathy having the ability to

understand someone is one thing but

being able to put yourself in that

person’s shoes not only enables that

person to know that there’s someone that

truly understands them but also gives

them a relief that to know that there’s

someone who genuinely cares for them and

is willing to see things in their way

which also increases the likelihood for

asking for help last but not least

compassion compassion is one of those

emotions that we all crave and it’s also

a motion that we take the most for

granted it’s a powerful thing you see

it’s not the people that save lives it’s

the

act of kindness studies have shown that

by practicing altruism and compassion

not only does it decrease the stigma of

mental health but it also increases a

person’s overall life expectancy by

implementing these three components of

compassion empathy and acceptance not

only can we create a catalyst for social

change but we can alter the way we

perceive others and the way others can

perceive us so I’m going to end with

this quote we cannot help everyone but

everyone can help someone so let us all

start with a simple act of kindness

thank you [Applause]

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