Press "Enter" to skip to content

Sexe : ceci n’est pas du porn | Nora Gaspard | TEDxUNamur


1
m
Good evening internet and news
technologies are in the process of
revolutionize our relationship to sex and
to desire
it is urgent that we speak about it I am
will have gaspard tweeter blogger
photographer I have to my credit
thousands of tweets hundreds of
texts and nude pictures all these
projects or in common a humanism
hard and a lot of sex
so sex let’s talk about it
what is more than 2.0 a report
sexual
everything everything everything canals
information are solicited for
feed the exchange
so before even exchanging a word
you see that his body is receptive
you see the lips parting you
see the red cheeks the view you
gives a lot of indications on this
that you are going to live
then when you get closer the
distance made intimate you can
perceive the smell of your partner
its perfume its sweat
these candy pheromones caresses your cheek
touch comes into play and taste
when you finally kiss at
full mouth that your partner is
voluble August and had your ear
will perceive the signals of the excitation
gasping breath sweet words
the raw words the whispers where the
grunts as many signals that you
informs about the degree of pleasure of your
partner well beyond 2.0
we can even say that sexual intercourse
is an exchange 3.0 and more
complex
1.0 give you information to
your partner 2.0 he reacts to it in
blushing while whispering 3.0 you adapt
your own behavior and your
physiological reactions to reactions
of your partner but these signals these
information that captures your ears and
your eyes your your taste are they coded
are they instinctive accompany his
partner in the pleasure towards the
enjoyment is what it teaches yes
of course yes if you are from my
generation or a little older a little
Younger there are big chances
however that desire and pleasure
you did not learn that at school
if your parents were not all to
made comfortable to talk about the
sexuality
bet that your sex education is
limit to what one learns during
third year in biology
contraceptive reproduction and diseases
it does not tell me much about pleasure
is not it so if you are against
the internet generation
bet your first contact with
sex is on the web that you have it
and yes when the little juice passes the stage
girls it’s silly to point to it
is very pretty the little manon of the course
of maths when the little manon of the course
of maths stops hiding the eyes
when a couple kiss at the
television or that she herself
falls in love with a singer not for his
fantastic songs but because he has
so precious and good that the
issues related to sexuality do not
are more far away
and when one is a digital native and
we’re looking for information on a
subject to what friends do we call
google
and yes you typed sex in google
recently
no me yes the results are
eloquent
when looking for sex in google
all the results that the other or that
we find it’s pornography
so our young people declare in a
survey that dates from 2008 2008
I quote you and before we offer
tablets to children after having
succeeded their sixth primary it’s
before the generalization of the smartphone
of course and so in 2008
when asked about the age at which
they watched their first
17% porn videos declare before 13
years and yes percent declare before
eleven years old today in 2015
another study tells us that age
way of the first pornographic film
for teens his 12 years 11 years for the
boys and 13 years old for girls
it was not also gives another
information that is relatively
challenging for 68% of young people
questioned the difference between the
porn video and the reality is very
clear 68%
that means that for 32% of them
one in three the difference is not
clear then they go on youporn so I
went on youporn I did not get you by
image year by cons I would like
that we linger for a moment on
categories that are implemented in
youporn there are two kinds
I leave aside the gay categories
it’s a choice either youporn offers you
a category classify according to the act
represented and we are talking here about sodomy
double penetration ejaculation
facial is youporn offers you a
category classify according to the physique and
the only fat female physique
asian college girls
and yes ladies no categories
youporn for women
we do not find that hairless or
nice gluteus male against it
still exists it’s true a
romantic porn category but I you
promise that even romantic porn
does not have much to do with
the experience that I presented to you
beginning
this is not a problem with the fact
that your band make categories
I do not have a problem with what lives
the fact that an adult consenting to and
get informed entertain themselves stimulate themselves on
internet but to 12 year olds who
search for information about sex
what image of the body gives or not
what a picture of pleasure and this our
sex education message
another revolution related to
modern technologies and which is us a
little bit more favorable to us
women has been going on for some
years to us the sexes service we have
right to toys whose colorful vibrating
who promises us an orgasm in 30
seconds
brands like lots I play fun
factory have developed products that
transforms the bed into a real bathroom
games and there too there is still
small negative sides because for
those gentlemen
doubt has sometimes settled but
yes the human has no button
extreme vibrations but rest assured
gentlemen you have arms or we
love to snuggle you have hands
who make us caresses that puts us
in all our states and mouths and
languages that make us things
that no machine will ever make us ah
yes really because we said we were
announces the sex robot for this
year and before that China and Japan
have developed an industry
flourishing
around her of dole away from the dolls
inflatable other times they have the
soft skin silky hair
they have everything from a woman
alas to answer and a moment in
road
we have not forgotten anything or is
past
the human sweat the pheromones its
accessories that were designed to
entertain us accompany us in
our sexuality help us overcome
a difficulty or the other take the
not on the essential the pleasure that one
gives the pleasure that we receive the
shares the 2.0
I think it is urgent that rather than
a pornographic pornographer we
handing beauty in the name in
living in our sexuality
it is urgent to put back desire in
our lives of beauty in sex and
pleasure in the human to our young
who want concrete information
on how is it going first
time how I put on a hood this is
that I’m going to hurt him how I
know if he has fun
give access to information
actually educational as per
example this video
this series of videos of the ace
Norwegian television which is
available on youtube I invite you to
to go see who presents the
young people’s sexuality with realism and
concrete and we parents educators
give them a happy vision
flourishing of sexuality speaking
the hour of pleasure do not tell the
details of our first time I
think our children would be very bad
comfortable with that but
remember the joy the importance of
sensations
the importance of the first time of
take your time to cost each
moment every pleasure and if we
let’s live eroticism like a ray of
sun on the shoulder from where as a
kiss if we feed the desire to
fantasies but of sensuality and
complicity of play if we murmur there
have salacious cravings certainly but
generous taste the flesh caress the
velvet and if rather than the fast food
of sex we were tasting a
delicate light gastronomy
of respectful pictures of the body of one
other fun generators that
would stimulate our imagination much more
that mechanics
we want porn but
choose erika the oust rather than
portneuf and taste the videos of
historical literature project
we want images exploring the
Tamil hours these crimes this
importance and accessories nothing
important terminals for ladies found
on screen these little human nothings that
awakens the emotion the sensation them
month that’s what I tried to do
by photographing naked men
many dozens of men still
imperfect fallible frail men
sublime men and explore the
power of words and I do not speak to you
of 50 shades of gray agree in a
american prudish and conservative that’s
a revolution but you deserve better
that it read anais ninin read some
novels blogs the news them and
sarah waters discovered victor victoria
will be to the bow will not have gaspard
his sisters will have less image but
you can invent the body that you
please you could move in
sets that inspires you because it’s
there our greatest strength as
that human is the imagination
we can live a thousand adventures we
can feel a thousand things we
can remember the loved sex
to feel in the hollow of the kidneys the thrill
we have this strength there let’s use the
let’s use it to beautify the world and
why not start with sex
that’s what I invite you to do
from tonight I thank you
[Music]
1
Please follow and like us: