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Privilege Means Just Having Two Good Choices | Xavier Ramey | TEDxChicago


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welcome to Chicago we have an incredible

skyline when you consider the

architectural advances that we’ve seen

in this country you’ll want to move here

to when you look at the bustling

downtown urban center the number one

place for relocation for for Millennials

in the entire country when you think

about all that happens when you have

people who are willing to commit to

improving the business infrastructure

such that we’ve we’ve actually recruited

42 corporate headquarters since 2011

alone to come to Chicago and make this

its their home when we think about what

community means in Chicago we’re often

put in a position where we have to say

my goodness I love my neighbor I want to

treat my neighbor better and I want to

move to a city that respects and

understands the power of neighborliness

that understands that good schools and a

quality education that the ability to to

to connect with someone over a shared

meal at a local restaurant is exactly

why you should come to Chicago because

it is the city of opportunity one of the

fastest growing segregated cities in the

entire country when we consider what

neighborhoods are what children should

have how they should play and where they

should be playing who their friends

should be who their classmates are and

what they’re going to learn from these

incredible diverse experiences that

they’re gonna get in the fastest-growing

segregated city in the country

I say you should move to Chicago I say

you should consider what it means to be

in a place where proximity means you

you see my family came to this city

through a typical story for black people

here in Chicago

my great-grandfather Cleon yes when he

found out that he was to have my

grandmother Eudora Ramey he decided no

heir of mine she’ll be born in the state

of Louisiana you see he was he was

trying to survive coming up from his his

parents being slaves and share

Hopper’s and he was trying to understand

how he could make a better life for his

family in this country as many people do

so he said I have to leave and he left

the south and he did what many African

Americans did at that time he became

part of what’s now known as the great

migration in 1923 he came to Chicago

moved to the west side of Chicago he had

this beautiful woman she was born your

daughter Amy and I love this woman to

death because she she gave me so much

she taught me so much about life about

proximity about being close to people

about being loved

she taught me what it meant to endure

and to be courageous

she taught me what twice as much for

half as much means she taught me what it

meant to be resilient and I’m so

thankful for that because the decisions

that she made led to her buying a home

in a community called North Lawndale and

if you’re not familiar with North

Lawndale it’s a community on the west

side of Chicago it originally was a

bohemian community when it was first

annexed by the city of Chicago back

before the the turn of the 20th century

eventually became one of the largest

Jewish neighborhoods in the entire

country and to this day you can still

see the churches the synagogue’s were at

that time with the Stars of David

hanging up there not like Baptist

churches because now it’s a

predominantly black neighborhood but it

didn’t just happen in any sort of way

you see Eudora Raimi played a role in

that she decided to buy a house that

this is a typical decision that

Americans make you want to buy a house

and in fact when we look at what wealth

accumulation means in the city of

Chicago or even in the country we know

that a house is the number one basis of

wealth accumulation in the country and

so this is a pivotal decision a decision

that she has to make where do I live

well she lived where she could because

at the time she couldn’t live everywhere

in Chicago because of course we had

redlining we didn’t get segregated

overnight we certainly didn’t get there

without strong policy to create it and

so what she did was she looked at her

available options and then she made a

decision to move to 746 South Kilbourn

and that’s where my wonderful wonderful

father was born now Paul Ramey was an

incredible guy he’s a veteran from the

Vietnam War he he grew up here in the

city of Chicago we went to von Stuben

high school he came back here and he had

this I think incredible incredible son

incredible son

and what are the decisions that he made

is a very important decision as well you

see he decided where I was going to go

to school but this is a typical decision

that many parents have to make but the

question is under what circumstances are

you making your decisions right and so

his decision that he was confronted with

because I happen to be a bit of a smart

kid growing up and he was confronted

with well my son got into nearly every

gifted center in the city and that’s a

great thing that’s what we want we want

kids were smart to get into these better

schools but the reality is is he decided

not to let me go now the school I was

going to is my mother would always say

not only didn’t teach algebra it refused

to teach algebra and my father was the

head of local school council now what do

you do with that why would you not allow

your child to have a better opportunity

if opportunity is presented and he is

literally living in a house where he is

boiling his bathwater because he’s

growing up without heat where he is

cooking bread toasting it in the oven

and scraping off the mold where he is

growing up knowing when dad is happy

because he’s smiling and the grocery

carts are full and now we have food why

would you not allow your child to go to

a better school because he understood

that he had the decision to make that

his child wasn’t born in this time it

was born in time you see this is how the

brain drain happens he decided to opt

out he said to keep me out of these

gifted centers and that had a profound

impact on my life the impact that

actually had was my student loans are

higher because I flunked business calc

one four times now I eventually went on

I got a degree in economics from DePaul

University so you know I made it but the

reality is it had true cost there was

another man who moved in in North

Lawndale whose name was Michael trout

the Michael trout was a 20-something

year old and graduated from Wheaton

College and he and his wife got married

and terrible clothing it was the 90s

those the nine days you forgive people

for that but Michel trial with a full

head of hair decided I’m gonna move in

I’m gonna be a white man moving into a

black neighborhood not only a black

neighborhood I’m gonna move into a

neighborhood that has been called one of

the top 20 most dangerous communities in

the entire United States not only that

what I’m gonna do is I’m gonna move into

that neighborhood and then I’m gonna

start living there and I’m gonna bring

other people into it I’m gonna be in

proximate relationship with

african-american people in a drug

riddled gang riddled neighborhood for

him that was a risk for me that was just

life so it’s no risk to him the reality

of our decisions is that we’re

constantly evaluating our lives in the

terms of what’s presented to us not just

because we worked for it but because

history mandated that we be presented

with that opportunity and we alone

that’s how segregation works Chicago is

not just the fastest-growing city

because people are choosing a buy a

house and go somewhere and then and

build a nest egg it’s because they

insist on not moving into a neighborhood

and starting organizations like the

young men’s educational network where I

became a student because his wife became

my fifth grade teacher and then I met

him when he had a ponytail and and and

eventually I grew up to become a board

member in this organization and then the

the director development and Mike and I

we raised a couple million dollars we

opened up some facilities for

residential housing we created this big

sports court and then I left went to

Africa became a consultant came on back

got a great job as a program officer

managed couple million dollars in

philanthropic grants and then got my

butt kicked over to the University of

Chicago and I got to teach social

justice and in that I got in confronted

with the children of the elite and my

fear was how is it that they don’t

understand the relationships that they

have with me why am i waking them up to

what Chicago is why don’t they know the

stories that I know why don’t they know

about Lawndale and I realized then the

parents never told them they never told

them that when my grandmother bought a

house in Lawndale she bought it for

$25,000 which was twice what it costs

because the average home in Lawndale in

1947 was selling for about $12,000 but

this is 17 years before the Civil Rights

Act so she had no right to not have to

pay that and the people who sold the

house to her decided hey the law doesn’t

protect you and I won’t either

so this is now a market opportunity we

have to understand that when you come

from

imported people not an immigrant people

and imported people you always

understand life from the terms of the

commodity that you are and that’s a very

interesting way to experience America

and so for Chicago I think about all the

opportunities that we have I think about

the opportunities to form relationships

down the line through mentoring and

great programs and and investing in the

next generation I think about what it

means to grow old with somebody to know

somebody over time as as your gray hair

grows higher and their height does

alright I think about what it means when

we say I want to see the skyline – and I

don’t want the skyline to look like the

same skyline I don’t want the people

that come to my neighborhood to come

with badges I don’t want them to come

with guns I want them to come with

opportunities and a desire for for real

relationship I don’t want my workplace

the challenge of this is that the room

that you’re seeing right now is full of

Millennials think about it so when I

look at the future I say now how many of

them are going to go to bat for me how

many of them are going to go to bat for

my children to insist that the room be

different that when we demand a seat at

the table that you make space that if we

truly believe that the pie has to grow

higher that that means that some people

have to go a little lower

and that doesn’t mean in terms of their

opportunities it means that they submit

their privilege and that privilege has

to be extended and understood as it

relates through time not just in their

time you see privilege is just having

two good choices in a world we have to

fight for justice we have to indict the

fact that we don’t have to fight for

injustice it means that when you do

nothing you’re doing everything to be a

problem it means that that action is the

greatest thing you can do and the least

thing you can do is to say someone’s

life matters especially when it hasn’t

for centuries you see this is the best

time in American history

to be an african-american I’m still

afraid of the police with my mouth my

knowledge my intellect 100 years ago I’d

be hanging from a tree but now I’m the

CEO of my own company and that’s not to

say that that’s any thing that America

should be proud of because the blessings

that I have today I have to always

question I challenge you all to question

this as well this is what you have and

what we have because of you are in spite

of you we have to work together that

means we have to live together build

more proximate relationships with each

other

choose to live take on risk don’t just

share meals share risk say we matter

when you’re at work say we matter when

you’re at home say we matter in the

churches and the synagogues of the

country and then we will form a more

perfect union but for now we to me were

just a melting pot simmering with anger

and we have to bring these divides

together there are some incredible ways

to do that I challenge everyone to

consider how they can do that to

understand the privilege of two good

choices of what it means to double-down

and say the fact that I feel

uncomfortable is more important than the that you feel unsafe thank you

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