kaleidoscope
it contains different patterns of colors
and shapes on the outside but on the
inside there are even more patterns this
makes me think more about people how we
are so easily irritated with someone
based on the way they behave and
represent themselves in public as people
we go through so many different things
in our lives and we are all different so
no matter how close and attached you’re
with someone we will never know that
person completely so when we make a
quick assumption on that person we tend
to think and do the wrong thing since we
don’t even try to think and stand on
their shoes my name is sue and I’m going
to prove to you that most of your
perceptions about others are wrong so I
want to start off with me and my brother
this is me and my brother as kids so we
were very close back then however as we
grew up we had a lot of different values
and personalities that we just couldn’t
talk to each other that much he’s the
type of person who prefer to say to stay
at home and he rarely knows how to
initiate a conversation with anyone well
I like to talk to others and go outside
as much as I can I think many of us have
this personality like me the extroverted
personality or at least one soon because
in a world with a growing population
sometimes in order to get more attention
from businesses you need to be bold and
you need to have good communication
skills sometimes in order to gain more
attention from friends you need to be
loud and energetic and I used to think
this way and I have this misconception
however after I watch a video and read a
book about introverts I changed my mind
I think the idea of valuing extroverts
over introverts is an ingrained
perception and it is so unfair for
introverts so I started reflecting about
my brother he has a lot of good traits
that I just didn’t think about it before
he listened deeply before he speaks
he is very disciplined in a lot of areas
and he is very smart and if you know him
personally he helps you whenever you
need him so as you can see in this
picture him and mr. John it looks like
he’s a very calm guy right so I don’t
think he only introverts out there that
has these good traits
just think about all the famous
introverts for a second people like Mark
Zuckerberg Bill Gates some of the most
famous artists and designers out there
or are the introverts that you know like
some of your friends well extroverts
have the ability to bring and connect
everyone together introverts have blab
and in spoken thoughts and ideas inside
their minds because when you actually
look beyond the surface you can see that
both personalities are so spectacular so
why should we value one type of
personality over my talk is not just
about introverts because not only did I
have misconceptions for my brother I
also have misconceptions towards the way
my parents treat me only on the public
surface so I had admitted that growing
up with them I had a lot of grudge I
felt tired of being compared to others I
felt hopeless that no matter how well I
did something they always have some
complaints for me
and I felt a little angry that they kept
wanting me to show more love for them so
I felt very lucky back then and I even
wanted other parents parents who I could
talk to and who I could be completely
comfortable with
however after going through many
conflicts with them and after finishing
a book called being a happy team by
Andrew Mackey
I should totally read this book I
finally had more understanding and
empathy for my parents and I really
respected them so I started thinking
about their anxieties the things they
have to worry about every single day the
boots while they’re the electronic bills
taxes they have to pay a school solution
the conference’s they have to attend to
and the different people they have to
meet with every single day so every day
it’s just so exhausting for them so I
realized that you can’t always be fun
and happy around me because I have
nothing to worry about I also thought
about the values and knowledge they
learn back then how it is so different
from my generation so it’s ok we don’t
agree on every perspective because at
the end of the day you’re still my
parents and I am still a child so I also
want to make a confession that I know
that I heard it my parents a few times
in the past and they are here today so I
just want just the sake of time to say
sorry
and yeah I’m doing my best to become
there are other types of people out
there too you think that men’s life is
perfect because he has all the money and
he can do whatever he wants in this
world perhaps he’s not happy with the
relationships around him you think the
person who bullies deserves even more
punishment there has what they need is
more help and more understanding from
others you think your joke was funny to
someone perhaps to you but not to that
person don’t just think about your own
perspective and have a fixed mindset try
to observe others around you and look on
a deeper level look beyond the surface
get out of your comfort zone talk to
someone who you don’t even talk much to
because you’ll be so surprised at how
much you learn about that person because
as humans we are so interesting and
diverse in our backgrounds connections
experiences and personalities and no
matter how different we are at the end
of the day we are all the same very
beautiful and vulnerable inside so for
the next time if you think that you know
someone thinks by [Applause]