hello everyone what do you think of when
I say freedom of choice maybe you think
of the freedom to choose which path to
take in your lifetime or what food is
chose to eat today
well basically the same thing well in my
head when I hear freedom of choice I
think of the freedom that is given to
every single one of us
it is a freedom that we take for granted
in such communities as ours we never
stop to think what it would be like
without that freedom so I’m here today
to talk about parents influence over
one’s freedom of choice one of the
factors parents influence is of their
children’s relationships most commonly
when it comes to forced marriages a
forced marriage is a marriage in which
one of the parties is married without
consent such a thing happened to Jasmine
there sang here 35 years ago in the UK
when she at the age of 8 was told her by
her parents that when she reached the
age of 18 she were to marry her arranged
husband of course as time flew by and
the day came she ran away
but the crossroads that she stood at it
was either freedom or honor that day she
chose freedom and has no regrets for it
since now she has three kids and still
lives in the UK she has also created an
organisation named Carmen Ivana
Carmen urbanism is an organization that
focuses on raising awareness about such
things as this it it gets help from
awards donors and I would at least
encourage checking out their website the
organization was made all the way back
in 1993 the motivation was a Jasmine her
sister whose name was Rubina and Robina
was driven to suicide after having to be
married to her arranged husband who was
way too abusive of her Jasmine Durr her
sister and many others are victims to
forced marriages but these are all
extreme cases in which one’s future is
affected by their parents what about
some of the more subtle ways which
parents affect one’s future which brings
me to my second point about education
sometimes parents oversee the fact that
their child has a mind of their own
sometimes parent so we see the fact that
their child has different interests in
them in those times the parent might
force the child to study a specific
field or his other skull like get a real
job now during the 1930s the world’s
perspective of what one can do was a lot
smaller everyone was a lot more
narrow-minded but during those times
people like Gillian Nene and Matt
Groening persevered
Gillian na was accused of having a
learning disorder at the age of eight
this was because she was very
disorganized and distracted in school
the school had immediately written to
her parents that she that they would
suggest that she would be sent to a
school for kids with such disorders but
before doing that her mother had taken
her to a psychologist we’re midway
through her the session of the
psychologist her mother and the
psychologist went outside to talk but
what really happened is they went
outside and peeked in through a hidden
window that would allow them to see
Gillian and she would not be able to see
them the psychologist would want to see
how they would be would react to music
and his music filled the room Gillian
started dancing gracefully it had turned
out that all she wanted to do is dance
and that’s why she was so distracted in
school later on her parents had sent her
to a music school and she grew up to be
the famous ballet dancer she is now
another example of a person who
persevered in 1930s was a Matt Groening
who by the way if you didn’t know
created the Simpsons now Matt Groening
was a very average boy at school he had
decent grades he was never really that
good at art but during his years of
school he started getting very bored of
it so during that free time that he had
when he was bored he decided to start
drawing he got so good at drawing to the
point where he would literally be able
to draw without even looking at the
paper just to ruse his teachers he
continued on drawing even after
graduation and everybody had grown up
except him his parents immediately took
notice of this and told him that he
cannot keep on drawing these silly
characters all day in his room so but
Matt never really saw himself in a suit
and
I going to work with some briefcase in
some office building so this sort of
mindset caused him to be able to create
such a show as The Simpsons but both of
these cases end with a happy ending what
about some of the cases that don’t end
like that let’s take for example more
personal example of mine of my cousin
let’s name him James
now James’s father had recently told him
that he has to inherit his dad’s company
which relies on a good architect like
his father to be successful but James
was never really that good of an
architect he was always an engineer type
of guy whilst growing up with James he
would always want to know how things
were manufactured how things worked how
things were made yet when college came
around he had to enlist in a college
that would allow him to study in the
field of architecture just because he
was following his father’s dreams
instead of his own the book called the
element is a novel written by Ken
Robeson that states that there is such a
thing called the element which is a
point in time where one is at maximum
peace with themselves this point in time
is achieved through doing the thing you
love and disregarding anyone that’s
telling me otherwise in this case what
is parents now there is one more factor
that I want to talk about that is a big
what-if compared to my other two which
were education and relationships it’s on
the topic of religion now to really
understand this topic we need to take a
step back and evaluate the beginning of
our lives where we add birth without the
choice inherit our parents religion so
should kids be able to choose their own
religion at anytime they want
this of course would only be possible if
the parent were to agree to give the kid
the right materials and knowledge of
each religion so that in the end the kid
can choose another one this doesn’t
necessarily mean another one the kid can
choose the same one as well let’s take
another personal example of my friend
let’s go home Joe now Joseph’s family
are Christians his father even a priest
yet he is an atheist the the family
hasn’t has nothing against them or his
belief this sort of mindset in my
opinion is the correct mindset to think
of yet there are other cases in which
our parents and families embed the
religion on to their kid not allowing
them to learn of any other one narrowing
their perspective of the whole world
so I kids responsible enough to choose
who they love our kids responsible
enough to choose what career they are
going to take our kids responsible
enough to choose what belief they’re
going to believe in in my opinion they
are but in yours that might not be the
case but of course I’m not saying that
one should never listen to their parents
or rebel one should probably listen to
them most of the time but when it comes
to one’s dreams don’t let anyone tell
you otherwise thank [Applause]