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tuturro gear this was not the first time
when my friends had approached me with a
decided opinion on my sexual orientation
however the difference between this
instance and the previous instances was
that while I would say hey hey gaba and
not care much about it earlier this time
I said are you who that guy is some
chhote so they explained to me and I
understood that their expert judgment
was based on my words and my gestures
things that are innate about me things
that define me but things that had not
concern me earlier my natural reaction
was born out of peer pressure I did not
want to be your fake it was imperative
that that I fit in among the men folk it
was important that I belonged so I
started trying to do things that I
perceived to be manly I started
listening to rap music and hard rock and
while I started lifting weights to
develop biceps and be a part of
masculine conversations I stopped
lifting my hands in gestures that used
to define me but when someone came up to
me and told me that I know I need to
stop smiling too much to become cooler
still I understood that this chain was
never going to end
I loved smiling who doesn’t I love being
the nerd more than chasing these elusive
standards of masculinity in fact
pretending to be a dude bro brought me
no peace and if this was what
straightness implied I wanted out so I
began to introspect again I had earlier
assumed that I knew every single thing
about my sexual identity but what if I
was wrong maybe my friends had it
straight all along so I started
researching about the LGBTQ community
started reading articles watching videos
of coming-out stories anything that
would lead me to conclude that I was gay
after all and in the process I
understood and realized that the LGBTQ
community is much more open and
accepting there are traditional
backgrounds in fact if I was a part of
this community
I could dislike loud music and obnoxious
language
and still be a part of the larger group
so this was the first time when I was
letting go of the barriers and it
earlier caged my identity I was choosing
happiness over conforming to existing
norms however I failed to see the
absence of real reflection in my
questioning process the LGBTQ community
had not judged me and so I thought that
I am a part of the community but my
journey of self-discovery kept spiraling
on at a program that studied gender
caste and sexuality through the
performing arts I came across the term
toxic masculinity toxic masculinity he
refers to the set of traditional or
cultural norms pertaining to masculinity
and its role in society these norms
being harmful for men women the society
overall and so I realized that building
biceps is just one way of saying that
men need to be seen as physically strong
you see this notion has passed down from
generation to generation and dumble by
dumble these men have laid the
foundations for a hyper masculine world
so saying that anyone who does not
conform to the image of a macho man is
gay is a poor attempt at saying that my
masculinity needs to be your masculinity
too however every individual has a
different definition of masculinity and
so I realized that I am NOT homosexual
but neither am i the typical dudebro I’m
heterosexual which means being straight
and at the same time my gender is an
intricate blend of perceived masculine
and feminine traits and there is no
shame in that so at the end of the
journey I realized that this entire
reinforcement of the set masculine norms
was not just inconsiderate commenting on
the part of my peers not just but it was
also a function of social constructions
that have been formed in and by our
society these ideas were formed in our
past but we make them sustainable by
using them in our daily interactions you
know the characteristic method was
moussaka Rivera Baraka like every day
but the question that needs to be asked
is is this massage costing us something
and the answer according to me is a big
yes because we are developing meanings
in coordination with others rather than
being individualistic rather than
forming our own opinions and it follows
that these labels through which we limit
the personalities of appears down to
small words labels are not limited to
just gender and sexuality labels are
pervasive ranging from a person’s
physical features to a person’s innate
beliefs and as our economic engines and
a thinking has evolved so have our
labels they’ve sort of progressed from
words such as dumbbell silly to world
such as feminazi and the these labels
come up because of the limited scope of
discussion on social media so in earlier
times where our primary interactions
would through the spoken word our labels
would come up based on people’s physical
features and their manner of speaking
and subsequently the labels were such as
dumb silly chota motor you know all that
stuff and stammering in fluent but in
today’s day and age when our primary
interactions are through social media we
see people on the basis of their
representations of themselves on media
such as Instagram and so our labels are
so indirect and I think that this is
what culminates into the prevalence of
labels such as feminazi feminazi is a
play on the words feminist and Nazi
because of the glaring similarities that
the people who use this term see in the
ideals of feminism and Nazism these
perceived similarities can be the extent
of censorship or the double standards
that are involved etc so feminism which
is the advocacy of women’s rights on the
grounds of the Equality of the sexes has
become a problematic label today because
of its perceived anonymity with feminazi
ISM additionally as a result of a large
number of cases where women have been
known to have cried wolf through cases
of abuse women are also liable to be
taken with a pinch of
Sault political correctness I believe
that the entire concept of political
correctness exists on social media
because of this not only are people
subject to incompletely representative
tags but they are also unable to explain
their opinions they’re unable to discuss
why they believe in what they believe in
and while one person’s political
correctness seems to be another person’s
symbol of progress one always feels the
need to limit the extent to which they
can publicize their opinion but these
are still the more openly visible
harmful effects of labels there are many
more underlying effects as well for one
whenever someone is tagged or labeled
there is a false distinction that is
created between either belonging to one
type or being a person that is
completely different from this type but
amidst all the contexts and
complications this almost always leads
to inaccurate conclusions for example
let’s say you’re discussing with your
friend about films and you bring up a
movie such as Masson let’s say Masson is
a sort of a Nazi film and you’re talking
about how you loved it but your friend
doesn’t like such films and he says oh
you’re so boring mate but the what is
this statement imply the statement
implies that your friend would not
relate with most of the things that you
find interesting but that’s obviously
not the case both of you obviously love
check the India both of you hate
calculus and both of you think that to
be honest goal based quality is going
down a bit so the thing is that
categorizing people into different types
and then finding the differences between
these types is a huge barrier for art
combined and personal growth and this
entire culture of saying that one type
always has to be above another type
always has to be better the hierarchy
that has to be maintained is inherently
poor because it leads to us internally
labeling ourselves the essence of the
idea which is that someone is always
better makes you label yourself as a
certain normative being because you
think that what you like should resonate
with what everyone else wants you to
like and as a result increased
self-awareness or
so becomes a problem because of these
labels for example there was a stage in
my own journey of self-discovery when my
increased self-awareness about my
gestures and my words made me consider
the possibility that I am also gay so if
everything was so simple and
sophisticated everything categorized and
arranged to the dot how would we
discover create and evolve it has to be
complicated and it is okay to be
complicated with all those layers and
those textures because these layers and
textures are what chiefly constitute our
personalities and what are people
without that characteristic jerk of the
head those sweeping hand gestures that
relentless pacing those egregious typos
or that whatever man to be different is
to be human and to be human is the only
label we all unanimously belong under
imagine living in a world where one is
forced to classify colors under the
banners of black and white yellow and
red and pale orange and vivid violet are
all colors and they need to be there how else would we have a rainbow thank you
tuturro gear this was not the first time
when my friends had approached me with a
decided opinion on my sexual orientation
however the difference between this
instance and the previous instances was
that while I would say hey hey gaba and
not care much about it earlier this time
I said are you who that guy is some
chhote so they explained to me and I
understood that their expert judgment
was based on my words and my gestures
things that are innate about me things
that define me but things that had not
concern me earlier my natural reaction
was born out of peer pressure I did not
want to be your fake it was imperative
that that I fit in among the men folk it
was important that I belonged so I
started trying to do things that I
perceived to be manly I started
listening to rap music and hard rock and
while I started lifting weights to
develop biceps and be a part of
masculine conversations I stopped
lifting my hands in gestures that used
to define me but when someone came up to
me and told me that I know I need to
stop smiling too much to become cooler
still I understood that this chain was
never going to end
I loved smiling who doesn’t I love being
the nerd more than chasing these elusive
standards of masculinity in fact
pretending to be a dude bro brought me
no peace and if this was what
straightness implied I wanted out so I
began to introspect again I had earlier
assumed that I knew every single thing
about my sexual identity but what if I
was wrong maybe my friends had it
straight all along so I started
researching about the LGBTQ community
started reading articles watching videos
of coming-out stories anything that
would lead me to conclude that I was gay
after all and in the process I
understood and realized that the LGBTQ
community is much more open and
accepting there are traditional
backgrounds in fact if I was a part of
this community
I could dislike loud music and obnoxious
language
and still be a part of the larger group
so this was the first time when I was
letting go of the barriers and it
earlier caged my identity I was choosing
happiness over conforming to existing
norms however I failed to see the
absence of real reflection in my
questioning process the LGBTQ community
had not judged me and so I thought that
I am a part of the community but my
journey of self-discovery kept spiraling
on at a program that studied gender
caste and sexuality through the
performing arts I came across the term
toxic masculinity toxic masculinity he
refers to the set of traditional or
cultural norms pertaining to masculinity
and its role in society these norms
being harmful for men women the society
overall and so I realized that building
biceps is just one way of saying that
men need to be seen as physically strong
you see this notion has passed down from
generation to generation and dumble by
dumble these men have laid the
foundations for a hyper masculine world
so saying that anyone who does not
conform to the image of a macho man is
gay is a poor attempt at saying that my
masculinity needs to be your masculinity
too however every individual has a
different definition of masculinity and
so I realized that I am NOT homosexual
but neither am i the typical dudebro I’m
heterosexual which means being straight
and at the same time my gender is an
intricate blend of perceived masculine
and feminine traits and there is no
shame in that so at the end of the
journey I realized that this entire
reinforcement of the set masculine norms
was not just inconsiderate commenting on
the part of my peers not just but it was
also a function of social constructions
that have been formed in and by our
society these ideas were formed in our
past but we make them sustainable by
using them in our daily interactions you
know the characteristic method was
moussaka Rivera Baraka like every day
but the question that needs to be asked
is is this massage costing us something
and the answer according to me is a big
yes because we are developing meanings
in coordination with others rather than
being individualistic rather than
forming our own opinions and it follows
that these labels through which we limit
the personalities of appears down to
small words labels are not limited to
just gender and sexuality labels are
pervasive ranging from a person’s
physical features to a person’s innate
beliefs and as our economic engines and
a thinking has evolved so have our
labels they’ve sort of progressed from
words such as dumbbell silly to world
such as feminazi and the these labels
come up because of the limited scope of
discussion on social media so in earlier
times where our primary interactions
would through the spoken word our labels
would come up based on people’s physical
features and their manner of speaking
and subsequently the labels were such as
dumb silly chota motor you know all that
stuff and stammering in fluent but in
today’s day and age when our primary
interactions are through social media we
see people on the basis of their
representations of themselves on media
such as Instagram and so our labels are
so indirect and I think that this is
what culminates into the prevalence of
labels such as feminazi feminazi is a
play on the words feminist and Nazi
because of the glaring similarities that
the people who use this term see in the
ideals of feminism and Nazism these
perceived similarities can be the extent
of censorship or the double standards
that are involved etc so feminism which
is the advocacy of women’s rights on the
grounds of the Equality of the sexes has
become a problematic label today because
of its perceived anonymity with feminazi
ISM additionally as a result of a large
number of cases where women have been
known to have cried wolf through cases
of abuse women are also liable to be
taken with a pinch of
Sault political correctness I believe
that the entire concept of political
correctness exists on social media
because of this not only are people
subject to incompletely representative
tags but they are also unable to explain
their opinions they’re unable to discuss
why they believe in what they believe in
and while one person’s political
correctness seems to be another person’s
symbol of progress one always feels the
need to limit the extent to which they
can publicize their opinion but these
are still the more openly visible
harmful effects of labels there are many
more underlying effects as well for one
whenever someone is tagged or labeled
there is a false distinction that is
created between either belonging to one
type or being a person that is
completely different from this type but
amidst all the contexts and
complications this almost always leads
to inaccurate conclusions for example
let’s say you’re discussing with your
friend about films and you bring up a
movie such as Masson let’s say Masson is
a sort of a Nazi film and you’re talking
about how you loved it but your friend
doesn’t like such films and he says oh
you’re so boring mate but the what is
this statement imply the statement
implies that your friend would not
relate with most of the things that you
find interesting but that’s obviously
not the case both of you obviously love
check the India both of you hate
calculus and both of you think that to
be honest goal based quality is going
down a bit so the thing is that
categorizing people into different types
and then finding the differences between
these types is a huge barrier for art
combined and personal growth and this
entire culture of saying that one type
always has to be above another type
always has to be better the hierarchy
that has to be maintained is inherently
poor because it leads to us internally
labeling ourselves the essence of the
idea which is that someone is always
better makes you label yourself as a
certain normative being because you
think that what you like should resonate
with what everyone else wants you to
like and as a result increased
self-awareness or
so becomes a problem because of these
labels for example there was a stage in
my own journey of self-discovery when my
increased self-awareness about my
gestures and my words made me consider
the possibility that I am also gay so if
everything was so simple and
sophisticated everything categorized and
arranged to the dot how would we
discover create and evolve it has to be
complicated and it is okay to be
complicated with all those layers and
those textures because these layers and
textures are what chiefly constitute our
personalities and what are people
without that characteristic jerk of the
head those sweeping hand gestures that
relentless pacing those egregious typos
or that whatever man to be different is
to be human and to be human is the only
label we all unanimously belong under
imagine living in a world where one is
forced to classify colors under the
banners of black and white yellow and
red and pale orange and vivid violet are
all colors and they need to be there how else would we have a rainbow thank you
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