hi good afternoon mr. chairman and mr.
principal thank you so much for calling
me and I would extend best wishes and
congratulations for your very first ed
TEDx talk you have done it and it’s an
extremely it’s an record for yourself
well about me
which has been just spoken about me
being as a criminal psychologist and and
a lawyer and a social activist and many
other things which I have been doing for
a pretty long time I’m so grateful that
God has been kind to give me this is
going to be my eighth TEDx talk with you
all and here today I would be putting
forward the topic I’m sharing with you
is finding me in me now what happened
where did I go last why do I need to
find me in me the topic the team alchemy
it is called as resilience it is called
as something which you want to redefine
yourself a paradox where you are lost
you find I found myself in 2007 being a
mother of two great kids married for 22
years and during this journey of mine I
found myself after 13 years of my
marriage that yes this is where I belong
I have to study I have to go further but
during this phase somewhere I got lost
why because there are questions
people ask you people want to know about
you people want to know what are you did
what you’re doing that how you look why
you of this color by you not why are you
waiting something like this while you’re
not wearing anything while you’re
waiting do why are you doing this and
you were lost somewhere giving answers
to each and everybody trying to please
when I was been diagnosed with the
pituitary adenomas that’s called the
rediscovered myself on that operation
table on that table where a lot of
people think that they will not come
back I was born that day
at my age of 35 I could not know that
life was so beautiful I did not know
that I will be standing one day in front
of so many people becoming as a role
model not for them but for me I have
forgotten that me I don’t know where to
find it but that table that operation
table told me that you need to start
living for yourself now and what does
your self means means becoming selfish
no it is not about you become selfish it
is about you start loving yourself give
five minutes of your time to yourself it
can be a green tea for women can be a
parlor for men it can be cricket their
own area of space but the people who do
not give those five minutes to
themselves they do not define themselves
because they cannot love in another
person because you cannot love yourself
you’re away you’re away from you if
somebody questions you what you are it
is not that what I heard just now when
the introduction was there I’m that no I
am inertia and anuja knows a new job it
is not that I know what I am known for
it is known what I know myself inside me
and this is where I belong when I could
start loving myself I started loving the
society I came out and open I started
doing things which I never even
understood before that operation table
never ever understood the life what I’m
a kids to me what are you all to me what
I have to do
how much time I’ve left not today I have
a to-do list
today I know what I want today I know
that my skin color my hair color
I’m fatter I am and lean have I done so
much in life or not will not matter
because one day what I will matter is I
was there I made a difference I stood
here I actually moved out of the box I
could listen to the heartbeats of each
one of you I could put my eyes in your
eyes I could love you I could listen you
but how many people think how many of us
which is running we just want to buy
today this – today I want to buy one bag
today I want to buy a car today I want
to be on the top somewhere on the line
we are stressing ourselves from way the
stress is coming the stress is coming
because we are bringing that stress to
us we are living for others yes it is
not wrong but first who are you even you
are belonging to someone other did you
live for yourself why in planes we say
that you need to put your mask first on
you and then to anybody else to know
what life is live your life first
understand it love it
respect it because we don’t respect that
is why we are head bound in taking the
lives in taking the dignity in taking
the respect of others
what’s happening you’ve seen crime what
we talk about Psychopaths would you talk
about sociopaths how much a normal
person knows about it how much a
psychopath and a sociopath knows about
it it just knows about that is in your
space you will take you even more dear
but it is on you that do you want to be
bended enough for them my journey and
the journey of you all is starting
somewhere in your life
what is this earth this earth is a
shopping mall you talk you went you were
there in above with God and you said I
want to have this human body why oh I
don’t want to become any of these
animals
I want to become this human body ok what
do you want to pick it you want to have
a human body so that I can do what I
want to do I would have come down what
two days I’m going to do that I will
bring this thing I’ll bring that said
right I want to go and buy that
particular thing which I never bought
when last time you send me today I will
go and I’ll do that
ok God sends you now but he erases that
memory now you are here in the shopping
mall what you doing you are picking
every damn thing
everything you’re picking up but you
forget that you have promised something
and you forget that you are going into
this mall you’re picking up things but
you forget what you have promised that
you are born for what understand that
you born for a reason you’re not born to
just to get married to have babies and
it’s just not here to born for just to
work you born for a particular reason
each every one of you and what
the day comes imagine the day comes God
brings back the memory I don’t want to
go I don’t want to go said I’m sorry
time is up I had to still buy the thing
which I told you I will buy the God says
no time’s up
what did you learn to love said no did
you’d learn to sacrifice said no did you
learn to respect no do you have dignity
no what did you do I just I just I just
you did what I just went down and I just
moved around like this
I just took everything but I could not
keep it in my heart nothing which I can
cherish nothing which I can remember and
this is what happened this is what
happened you are moving away in a way
from what you were born for you were
born to love you were born to give but
somewhere in line we forget that you
were born to please yourself also you’re
born to know you first this is what you
became here honored to understand you
first because the minute you understand
you you respect yourself the minute you
give your introduction that is the time
you tell what you exactly are not what
you have learned is what you exactly are
what is it that makes me what I am today
in front of you thank you so much [Applause]
principal thank you so much for calling
me and I would extend best wishes and
congratulations for your very first ed
TEDx talk you have done it and it’s an
extremely it’s an record for yourself
well about me
which has been just spoken about me
being as a criminal psychologist and and
a lawyer and a social activist and many
other things which I have been doing for
a pretty long time I’m so grateful that
God has been kind to give me this is
going to be my eighth TEDx talk with you
all and here today I would be putting
forward the topic I’m sharing with you
is finding me in me now what happened
where did I go last why do I need to
find me in me the topic the team alchemy
it is called as resilience it is called
as something which you want to redefine
yourself a paradox where you are lost
you find I found myself in 2007 being a
mother of two great kids married for 22
years and during this journey of mine I
found myself after 13 years of my
marriage that yes this is where I belong
I have to study I have to go further but
during this phase somewhere I got lost
why because there are questions
people ask you people want to know about
you people want to know what are you did
what you’re doing that how you look why
you of this color by you not why are you
waiting something like this while you’re
not wearing anything while you’re
waiting do why are you doing this and
you were lost somewhere giving answers
to each and everybody trying to please
when I was been diagnosed with the
pituitary adenomas that’s called the
rediscovered myself on that operation
table on that table where a lot of
people think that they will not come
back I was born that day
at my age of 35 I could not know that
life was so beautiful I did not know
that I will be standing one day in front
of so many people becoming as a role
model not for them but for me I have
forgotten that me I don’t know where to
find it but that table that operation
table told me that you need to start
living for yourself now and what does
your self means means becoming selfish
no it is not about you become selfish it
is about you start loving yourself give
five minutes of your time to yourself it
can be a green tea for women can be a
parlor for men it can be cricket their
own area of space but the people who do
not give those five minutes to
themselves they do not define themselves
because they cannot love in another
person because you cannot love yourself
you’re away you’re away from you if
somebody questions you what you are it
is not that what I heard just now when
the introduction was there I’m that no I
am inertia and anuja knows a new job it
is not that I know what I am known for
it is known what I know myself inside me
and this is where I belong when I could
start loving myself I started loving the
society I came out and open I started
doing things which I never even
understood before that operation table
never ever understood the life what I’m
a kids to me what are you all to me what
I have to do
how much time I’ve left not today I have
a to-do list
today I know what I want today I know
that my skin color my hair color
I’m fatter I am and lean have I done so
much in life or not will not matter
because one day what I will matter is I
was there I made a difference I stood
here I actually moved out of the box I
could listen to the heartbeats of each
one of you I could put my eyes in your
eyes I could love you I could listen you
but how many people think how many of us
which is running we just want to buy
today this – today I want to buy one bag
today I want to buy a car today I want
to be on the top somewhere on the line
we are stressing ourselves from way the
stress is coming the stress is coming
because we are bringing that stress to
us we are living for others yes it is
not wrong but first who are you even you
are belonging to someone other did you
live for yourself why in planes we say
that you need to put your mask first on
you and then to anybody else to know
what life is live your life first
understand it love it
respect it because we don’t respect that
is why we are head bound in taking the
lives in taking the dignity in taking
the respect of others
what’s happening you’ve seen crime what
we talk about Psychopaths would you talk
about sociopaths how much a normal
person knows about it how much a
psychopath and a sociopath knows about
it it just knows about that is in your
space you will take you even more dear
but it is on you that do you want to be
bended enough for them my journey and
the journey of you all is starting
somewhere in your life
what is this earth this earth is a
shopping mall you talk you went you were
there in above with God and you said I
want to have this human body why oh I
don’t want to become any of these
animals
I want to become this human body ok what
do you want to pick it you want to have
a human body so that I can do what I
want to do I would have come down what
two days I’m going to do that I will
bring this thing I’ll bring that said
right I want to go and buy that
particular thing which I never bought
when last time you send me today I will
go and I’ll do that
ok God sends you now but he erases that
memory now you are here in the shopping
mall what you doing you are picking
every damn thing
everything you’re picking up but you
forget that you have promised something
and you forget that you are going into
this mall you’re picking up things but
you forget what you have promised that
you are born for what understand that
you born for a reason you’re not born to
just to get married to have babies and
it’s just not here to born for just to
work you born for a particular reason
each every one of you and what
the day comes imagine the day comes God
brings back the memory I don’t want to
go I don’t want to go said I’m sorry
time is up I had to still buy the thing
which I told you I will buy the God says
no time’s up
what did you learn to love said no did
you’d learn to sacrifice said no did you
learn to respect no do you have dignity
no what did you do I just I just I just
you did what I just went down and I just
moved around like this
I just took everything but I could not
keep it in my heart nothing which I can
cherish nothing which I can remember and
this is what happened this is what
happened you are moving away in a way
from what you were born for you were
born to love you were born to give but
somewhere in line we forget that you
were born to please yourself also you’re
born to know you first this is what you
became here honored to understand you
first because the minute you understand
you you respect yourself the minute you
give your introduction that is the time
you tell what you exactly are not what
you have learned is what you exactly are
what is it that makes me what I am today
in front of you thank you so much [Applause]
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