this year I was given an incredible
opportunity to attend a fly-in for
college of Boston not only was it my
first time in Boston it was my first
time on a plane by myself I brought up
very close to my family we’ve done
almost everything together but this was
the first time I would be doing
something on my own and it was
terrifying so many things were gone that
day I went left when I was supposed to
go right which sent it back so much that
I was literally running to my date my
date I have asthma
so I was wheezing the entire winter only
to make it just in time to see the doors
close in my face it was awful when I
made it back the lady at the desk
actually a very important question she
said would you like me to book you a
ticket for our next flight up to Boston
mind you based on my previous experience
as to what just happened to me
my what I wanted to do was say no grab
my bags brought my parents and go home
but I didn’t I said yes and that changes
everything I remember making my way back
to my parents and thinking that I’d
somehow disappointed them because I
couldn’t do it on my own
I even managed to get lost on my way
back and wound up in the airport food
court by then I was done I was so I was
so set with myself that I broke down
crying in the food court everyone was
staring at me but I couldn’t stop my
tears
it was incredibly embarrassing even a
little boy stop inserting I just looked
at him with tear filled eyes that
screamed don’t judge
that day I face a lot of my fears my
fear of doing something on my own might
be of disappointing those I care about
my favorite disappointing myself and
most importantly my fear BS before this
year probably the most terrifying word
in the English language in my opinion
was yes yes made me vulnerable
yes made me susceptible to rejection
embarrassment failure and disappointment
which were four fears I’ve tried to
shield myself from for 18 years but this
year I decided to change the narrative
and face my fear he is merely merely
taking on the challenge itself was
terrifying but in a study conducted by
the Northwestern University Feinberg
School of Medicine they took adult or
terrified of spiders and made them touch
tarantulas mind you prior to the study
these adults were so terrified that they
wouldn’t even walk on grass in fear of
encountering life after this exercise
not only were they able to touch
tarantulas but six months later these
same adults were still able to touch
them
this exposure therapy dampened the
responsiveness of the parts of the brain
and so associated with fear response
this proved that the only way to
overcome my fear was to face it head-on
and that’s exactly what I decided to do
but I could invert this journey without
looking for some inspiration along the
way and along the way I found Michelle
Hoya Michelle took quad the ultimate
challenge and faced a hundred fears in a
hundred days to find out how Michelle
managed to take on this immense task I
decided to contact her and to my
surprise she answered me back with some
incredible words of wisdom she told me
rather than asking myself what was the
worst thing that
happen to ask myself what was the best
that can happen and try to see
opportunity behind every fear and that
was what my big idea was born for an
entire year I was going to say yes to
every single opportunity presented to me
and use this same exposure therapy to
help me overcome my fear gifts in doing
so I’ve opened myself up to a whole new
world of possibilities I never happened
if it weren’t for saying yes to becoming
a UIL coach I would have never realized
how much passion and joy it brings me to
teach students and to watch the succeed
if it weren’t for this I would have
never known that I wanted to become a
teacher if it weren’t for me saying yes
to impromptu singing for my mom and a
group of her friends I would have never
gotten the opportunity to sing at a
families friend a family friend’s
wedding this coming June before this
year I was led by fear I miss out on so
many opportunities because I was afraid
to try I led with no as it means in
protecting myself from something bad
happening but what I learned was not
only did I shield myself from something
bad happening I
I also shielded myself from the
potential of something amazing happened
a wise philosopher by the name of Winnie
the Pooh 170 we only regret the chance
you didn’t take so I challenge you to
say yes to try out for that sports team
to say yes to singing in public to say
yes to that promotion at work take
opportunity buy the reins and ride
because life is too short to live in
what is and I wish I would have and
although it is important to remain
cautious
Vegas to everything don’t be so quick to
say no because you can be missing out on
an amazing opportunity just waiting for
you to reach out and grab because if
you’re one for yes I wouldn’t be
standing here in front of you all today
thank you
opportunity to attend a fly-in for
college of Boston not only was it my
first time in Boston it was my first
time on a plane by myself I brought up
very close to my family we’ve done
almost everything together but this was
the first time I would be doing
something on my own and it was
terrifying so many things were gone that
day I went left when I was supposed to
go right which sent it back so much that
I was literally running to my date my
date I have asthma
so I was wheezing the entire winter only
to make it just in time to see the doors
close in my face it was awful when I
made it back the lady at the desk
actually a very important question she
said would you like me to book you a
ticket for our next flight up to Boston
mind you based on my previous experience
as to what just happened to me
my what I wanted to do was say no grab
my bags brought my parents and go home
but I didn’t I said yes and that changes
everything I remember making my way back
to my parents and thinking that I’d
somehow disappointed them because I
couldn’t do it on my own
I even managed to get lost on my way
back and wound up in the airport food
court by then I was done I was so I was
so set with myself that I broke down
crying in the food court everyone was
staring at me but I couldn’t stop my
tears
it was incredibly embarrassing even a
little boy stop inserting I just looked
at him with tear filled eyes that
screamed don’t judge
that day I face a lot of my fears my
fear of doing something on my own might
be of disappointing those I care about
my favorite disappointing myself and
most importantly my fear BS before this
year probably the most terrifying word
in the English language in my opinion
was yes yes made me vulnerable
yes made me susceptible to rejection
embarrassment failure and disappointment
which were four fears I’ve tried to
shield myself from for 18 years but this
year I decided to change the narrative
and face my fear he is merely merely
taking on the challenge itself was
terrifying but in a study conducted by
the Northwestern University Feinberg
School of Medicine they took adult or
terrified of spiders and made them touch
tarantulas mind you prior to the study
these adults were so terrified that they
wouldn’t even walk on grass in fear of
encountering life after this exercise
not only were they able to touch
tarantulas but six months later these
same adults were still able to touch
them
this exposure therapy dampened the
responsiveness of the parts of the brain
and so associated with fear response
this proved that the only way to
overcome my fear was to face it head-on
and that’s exactly what I decided to do
but I could invert this journey without
looking for some inspiration along the
way and along the way I found Michelle
Hoya Michelle took quad the ultimate
challenge and faced a hundred fears in a
hundred days to find out how Michelle
managed to take on this immense task I
decided to contact her and to my
surprise she answered me back with some
incredible words of wisdom she told me
rather than asking myself what was the
worst thing that
happen to ask myself what was the best
that can happen and try to see
opportunity behind every fear and that
was what my big idea was born for an
entire year I was going to say yes to
every single opportunity presented to me
and use this same exposure therapy to
help me overcome my fear gifts in doing
so I’ve opened myself up to a whole new
world of possibilities I never happened
if it weren’t for saying yes to becoming
a UIL coach I would have never realized
how much passion and joy it brings me to
teach students and to watch the succeed
if it weren’t for this I would have
never known that I wanted to become a
teacher if it weren’t for me saying yes
to impromptu singing for my mom and a
group of her friends I would have never
gotten the opportunity to sing at a
families friend a family friend’s
wedding this coming June before this
year I was led by fear I miss out on so
many opportunities because I was afraid
to try I led with no as it means in
protecting myself from something bad
happening but what I learned was not
only did I shield myself from something
bad happening I
I also shielded myself from the
potential of something amazing happened
a wise philosopher by the name of Winnie
the Pooh 170 we only regret the chance
you didn’t take so I challenge you to
say yes to try out for that sports team
to say yes to singing in public to say
yes to that promotion at work take
opportunity buy the reins and ride
because life is too short to live in
what is and I wish I would have and
although it is important to remain
cautious
Vegas to everything don’t be so quick to
say no because you can be missing out on
an amazing opportunity just waiting for
you to reach out and grab because if
you’re one for yes I wouldn’t be
standing here in front of you all today
thank you
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