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Defining Crazy in a Good Way | Kristin Hartness | TEDxHobokenWomen


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these must have been trust buying kids
these must have been trust buying kids because no average person can pull out
because no average person can pull out
because no average person can pull out these accomplishments that was a comment
these accomplishments that was a comment
these accomplishments that was a comment that was left on an online article about
that was left on an online article about
that was left on an online article about us and a a couple months ago a viral
us and a a couple months ago a viral
us and a a couple months ago a viral video about our family called global
video about our family called global
video about our family called global attention and basically the storyline
attention and basically the storyline
attention and basically the storyline went like this
went like this
went like this this couple that lived down in the US
this couple that lived down in the US
this couple that lived down in the US Virgin Islands they chartered a private
Virgin Islands they chartered a private
Virgin Islands they chartered a private plane just to get their 300 pound pet
plane just to get their 300 pound pet
plane just to get their 300 pound pet pigs Iggy back to the mainland where
pigs Iggy back to the mainland where
pigs Iggy back to the mainland where they bought a Motorhome traveled the
they bought a Motorhome traveled the
they bought a Motorhome traveled the entire country and then after doing so
entire country and then after doing so
entire country and then after doing so they lost a huge fundraiser to buy a
they lost a huge fundraiser to buy a
they lost a huge fundraiser to buy a farm to save as many farm animals like
farm to save as many farm animals like
farm to save as many farm animals like Ziggy as possible at first I was a
Ziggy as possible at first I was a
Ziggy as possible at first I was a little upset with that statement that
little upset with that statement that
little upset with that statement that strong statement in those three words
strong statement in those three words
strong statement in those three words trust fund kids but then I thought about
trust fund kids but then I thought about
trust fund kids but then I thought about it a little bit more and I realized that
it a little bit more and I realized that
it a little bit more and I realized that we have done something that people truly
we have done something that people truly
we have done something that people truly think is unattainable Jay my other half
think is unattainable Jay my other half
think is unattainable Jay my other half he worked in construction and I was a
he worked in construction and I was a
he worked in construction and I was a bartender on st. John but our main goal
bartender on st. John but our main goal
bartender on st. John but our main goal in life was and always will be to
in life was and always will be to
in life was and always will be to provide Ziggy our son the greatest life
provide Ziggy our son the greatest life
provide Ziggy our son the greatest life ever because he deserves nothing less
ever because he deserves nothing less
ever because he deserves nothing less than any other child in the world
than any other child in the world
than any other child in the world our mission going forward is to not only
our mission going forward is to not only
our mission going forward is to not only offer that life to Ziggy
offer that life to Ziggy
offer that life to Ziggy but to rescue as many other Ziggy’s and
but to rescue as many other Ziggy’s and
but to rescue as many other Ziggy’s and be able to give them the same life no
be able to give them the same life no
be able to give them the same life no matter how much money we had in our
matter how much money we had in our
matter how much money we had in our pockets because it many times it wasn’t
pockets because it many times it wasn’t
pockets because it many times it wasn’t much we had to step up because we could
much we had to step up because we could
much we had to step up because we could never accept failure as an option the
never accept failure as an option the
never accept failure as an option the greatest part about our story is we’re
greatest part about our story is we’re
greatest part about our story is we’re not trust fund kids we’re far from it
not trust fund kids we’re far from it
not trust fund kids we’re far from it we weren’t financially supported by our
we weren’t financially supported by our
we weren’t financially supported by our families just the opposite actually when
families just the opposite actually when
families just the opposite actually when I graduated from the University of North
I graduated from the University of North
I graduated from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill I got a degree
Carolina at Chapel Hill I got a degree
Carolina at Chapel Hill I got a degree in Business Administration in my parents
in Business Administration in my parents
in Business Administration in my parents they were excited they’re like she’s
they were excited they’re like she’s
they were excited they’re like she’s gonna dominate in the corporate world
gonna dominate in the corporate world
gonna dominate in the corporate world bless their hearts little did they know
bless their hearts little did they know
bless their hearts little did they know that my heart had other plans
that my heart had other plans
that my heart had other plans well here’s your spoiler alert I truly
well here’s your spoiler alert I truly
well here’s your spoiler alert I truly believe that anyone can achieve anything
believe that anyone can achieve anything
believe that anyone can achieve anything and here’s just a couple points to
and here’s just a couple points to
and here’s just a couple points to remember while you’re on your way to
remember while you’re on your way to
remember while you’re on your way to dominating your dreams the greatest
dominating your dreams the greatest
dominating your dreams the greatest pleasure in life is doing what people
pleasure in life is doing what people
pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do let negativity help be
say you cannot do let negativity help be
say you cannot do let negativity help be your drive you see what I got Ziggy I
your drive you see what I got Ziggy I
your drive you see what I got Ziggy I receive just as much criticism as I did
receive just as much criticism as I did
receive just as much criticism as I did support and it’s followed with every
support and it’s followed with every
support and it’s followed with every hurdle I’ve had to overcome you see my
hurdle I’ve had to overcome you see my
hurdle I’ve had to overcome you see my so-called teacup pick didn’t exactly
so-called teacup pick didn’t exactly
so-called teacup pick didn’t exactly become a teacup size he grew up to be a
become a teacup size he grew up to be a
become a teacup size he grew up to be a 300-pound soul full of love so what does
300-pound soul full of love so what does
300-pound soul full of love so what does a woman to do I took those crazy moves
a woman to do I took those crazy moves
a woman to do I took those crazy moves and we did charter a plane to get Ziggy
and we did charter a plane to get Ziggy
and we did charter a plane to get Ziggy and us to a better life during that time
and us to a better life during that time
and us to a better life during that time the criticism came from those people who
the criticism came from those people who
the criticism came from those people who were closest to us though it hurt like
were closest to us though it hurt like
were closest to us though it hurt like hell I love being able to show people
hell I love being able to show people
hell I love being able to show people that our unrealistic dreams can come
that our unrealistic dreams can come
that our unrealistic dreams can come true because so far they have the people
true because so far they have the people
true because so far they have the people who are crazy enough to think they can
who are crazy enough to think they can
who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones that do
change the world are the ones that do
change the world are the ones that do thank you Steve Jobs people tell me all
thank you Steve Jobs people tell me all
thank you Steve Jobs people tell me all the time that I’m crazy I’m sure there’s
the time that I’m crazy I’m sure there’s
the time that I’m crazy I’m sure there’s some TED Xers out there that feel the
some TED Xers out there that feel the
some TED Xers out there that feel the same way does anybody else ever feel
same way does anybody else ever feel
same way does anybody else ever feel misunderstood well crazy has led me to
misunderstood well crazy has led me to
misunderstood well crazy has led me to the greatest life ever
the greatest life ever
the greatest life ever I didn’t follow a comfortable or
I didn’t follow a comfortable or
I didn’t follow a comfortable or traditional mold I just follow my desire
traditional mold I just follow my desire
traditional mold I just follow my desire to change the world you must have 100%
to change the world you must have 100%
to change the world you must have 100% confidence and what you’re trying to
confidence and what you’re trying to
confidence and what you’re trying to accomplish and never let negative people
accomplish and never let negative people
accomplish and never let negative people mess up your vision and it in the thing
mess up your vision and it in the thing
mess up your vision and it in the thing is it’s not the fact that these people
is it’s not the fact that these people
is it’s not the fact that these people don’t want to see you succeed it’s the
don’t want to see you succeed it’s the
don’t want to see you succeed it’s the fact that they just don’t understand
fact that they just don’t understand
fact that they just don’t understand your way of thinking but there is a
your way of thinking but there is a
your way of thinking but there is a beautiful part about this breaking
beautiful part about this breaking
beautiful part about this breaking traditional and comfortable molds and
traditional and comfortable molds and
traditional and comfortable molds and thinking crazy is how to bring about
thinking crazy is how to bring about
thinking crazy is how to bring about innovation in areas that have never been
innovation in areas that have never been
innovation in areas that have never been explored before now I’m not gonna tell
explored before now I’m not gonna tell
explored before now I’m not gonna tell you that my strategy is easy actually
you that my strategy is easy actually
you that my strategy is easy actually it’s crazy difficult you see we have
it’s crazy difficult you see we have
it’s crazy difficult you see we have goals on the macro level such as
goals on the macro level such as
goals on the macro level such as changing the way the world views animals
changing the way the world views animals
changing the way the world views animals but we also have goals on the micro
but we also have goals on the micro
but we also have goals on the micro level like walking into the life of a
level like walking into the life of a
level like walking into the life of a special-needs animal that has a
special-needs animal that has a
special-needs animal that has a disability that no vet on earth has ever
disability that no vet on earth has ever
disability that no vet on earth has ever dealt with before here’s where I want to
dealt with before here’s where I want to
dealt with before here’s where I want to introduce you and tell you about our
introduce you and tell you about our
introduce you and tell you about our turkey baby Toby that unfortunately we
turkey baby Toby that unfortunately we
turkey baby Toby that unfortunately we lost this past year we rescue Toby when
lost this past year we rescue Toby when
lost this past year we rescue Toby when he was several years old he had been
he was several years old he had been
he was several years old he had been bouncing around from rescue to rescue
bouncing around from rescue to rescue
bouncing around from rescue to rescue but when Jay and I met him he just
but when Jay and I met him he just
but when Jay and I met him he just rocked our world he was hilarious he
rocked our world he was hilarious he
rocked our world he was hilarious he would talk to you all day long and you
would talk to you all day long and you
would talk to you all day long and you know what he told he he would give you
know what he told he he would give you
know what he told he he would give you the correct answer every time and and it
the correct answer every time and and it
the correct answer every time and and it sounded a little bit like this
sounded a little bit like this
sounded a little bit like this peel peel how could that not be the
peel peel how could that not be the
peel peel how could that not be the right answer
right answer
right answer he’d follow you around all day long but
he’d follow you around all day long but
he’d follow you around all day long but very slowly when we officially adopted
very slowly when we officially adopted
very slowly when we officially adopted Toby we took him to a bird specialist to
Toby we took him to a bird specialist to
Toby we took him to a bird specialist to find out that he had infections in both
find out that he had infections in both
find out that he had infections in both Hawks which are the knees and the
Hawks which are the knees and the
Hawks which are the knees and the bottoms of both feet now you must
bottoms of both feet now you must
bottoms of both feet now you must understand in Birds
understand in Birds
understand in Birds infections they’re not something that
infections they’re not something that
infections they’re not something that you can just lance drain and treat with
you can just lance drain and treat with
you can just lance drain and treat with antibiotics it’s actually solid mass and
antibiotics it’s actually solid mass and
antibiotics it’s actually solid mass and when it gets to a certain point it must
when it gets to a certain point it must
when it gets to a certain point it must be surgically removed unfortunately
be surgically removed unfortunately
be surgically removed unfortunately tobey’s infections were life-threatening
tobey’s infections were life-threatening
tobey’s infections were life-threatening and moving forward with the surgery you
and moving forward with the surgery you
and moving forward with the surgery you know the the bird specialist said I just
know the the bird specialist said I just
know the the bird specialist said I just want to let you know that you know after
want to let you know that you know after
want to let you know that you know after these surgeries Toby’s gonna have to
these surgeries Toby’s gonna have to
these surgeries Toby’s gonna have to spend some time and he won’t be able to
spend some time and he won’t be able to
spend some time and he won’t be able to put pressure on either leg so first
put pressure on either leg so first
put pressure on either leg so first we’re like okay Toby’s a big boy toby is
we’re like okay Toby’s a big boy toby is
we’re like okay Toby’s a big boy toby is a 65 pound turkey so what do you do when
a 65 pound turkey so what do you do when
a 65 pound turkey so what do you do when this when you have a 65 pound turkey
this when you have a 65 pound turkey
this when you have a 65 pound turkey that’s going through surgery that won’t
that’s going through surgery that won’t
that’s going through surgery that won’t be able to put pressure on either leg
be able to put pressure on either leg
be able to put pressure on either leg well I have Jay here who after several
well I have Jay here who after several
well I have Jay here who after several attempts made Toby a perfect turkey
attempts made Toby a perfect turkey
attempts made Toby a perfect turkey wheelchair and then you know a couple of
wheelchair and then you know a couple of
wheelchair and then you know a couple of weeks went by and we began to see slow
weeks went by and we began to see slow
weeks went by and we began to see slow healing but unfortunately with that slow
healing but unfortunately with that slow
healing but unfortunately with that slow healing we started noticing that Toby
healing we started noticing that Toby
healing we started noticing that Toby was getting bed sores so we took Toby
was getting bed sores so we took Toby
was getting bed sores so we took Toby back to the vet and he said guys I hate
back to the vet and he said guys I hate
back to the vet and he said guys I hate to tell you this but Toby’s not gonna be
to tell you this but Toby’s not gonna be
to tell you this but Toby’s not gonna be able to use that wheelchair anymore and
able to use that wheelchair anymore and
able to use that wheelchair anymore and he’s still not gonna be able to put
he’s still not gonna be able to put
he’s still not gonna be able to put pressure on those legs so what do you do
pressure on those legs so what do you do
pressure on those legs so what do you do when you can’t put a turkey in a
when you can’t put a turkey in a
when you can’t put a turkey in a wheelchair and you can’t put any
wheelchair and you can’t put any
wheelchair and you can’t put any pressure on either leg there’s there’s
pressure on either leg there’s there’s
pressure on either leg there’s there’s no other options right well that’s what
no other options right well that’s what
no other options right well that’s what crazy comes in I said excuse me mr. vet
crazy comes in I said excuse me mr. vet
crazy comes in I said excuse me mr. vet I got the solution
I got the solution
I got the solution he said yes Kristin yes’m I’m gonna flip
he said yes Kristin yes’m I’m gonna flip
he said yes Kristin yes’m I’m gonna flip him on his back in a reclining position
him on his back in a reclining position
him on his back in a reclining position there you go 65 pound bird he looked at
there you go 65 pound bird he looked at
there you go 65 pound bird he looked at me and like he laughed he said good luck
me and like he laughed he said good luck
me and like he laughed he said good luck that bird will never let you do that I
that bird will never let you do that I
that bird will never let you do that I said okay so I get home I sit down on
said okay so I get home I sit down on
said okay so I get home I sit down on the floor in the living room I have my
the floor in the living room I have my
the floor in the living room I have my back up against the couch and I said
back up against the couch and I said
back up against the couch and I said alright Jay I’m ready
alright Jay I’m ready
alright Jay I’m ready so wheats that we call it the turkey
so wheats that we call it the turkey
so wheats that we call it the turkey baby position so Jay goes and he picks
baby position so Jay goes and he picks
baby position so Jay goes and he picks it up Toby and he has him like this toby
it up Toby and he has him like this toby
it up Toby and he has him like this toby is kicking those wings are just a
is kicking those wings are just a
is kicking those wings are just a flapping and Here I am I’m like bring it
flapping and Here I am I’m like bring it
flapping and Here I am I’m like bring it on baby well he puts Toby Toby’s back up
on baby well he puts Toby Toby’s back up
on baby well he puts Toby Toby’s back up is up against my chest
is up against my chest
is up against my chest his little fear up in the air and it
his little fear up in the air and it
his little fear up in the air and it took about 30 seconds before Toby calmed
took about 30 seconds before Toby calmed
took about 30 seconds before Toby calmed down and we could see contentment across
down and we could see contentment across
down and we could see contentment across his face and body believe it or not this
his face and body believe it or not this
his face and body believe it or not this crazy idea worked unfortunately our boy
crazy idea worked unfortunately our boy
crazy idea worked unfortunately our boy he died several months later when he
he died several months later when he
he died several months later when he contracted mersa but during those times
contracted mersa but during those times
contracted mersa but during those times we had some great great experiences
we had some great great experiences
we had some great great experiences because in this new position we were
because in this new position we were
because in this new position we were able to put Toby in a stroller so we
able to put Toby in a stroller so we
able to put Toby in a stroller so we would take Toby on all the farm tours he
would take Toby on all the farm tours he
would take Toby on all the farm tours he joined us at every family meal at the
joined us at every family meal at the
joined us at every family meal at the dining room table even during the winter
dining room table even during the winter
dining room table even during the winter months when it was so cold we were able
months when it was so cold we were able
months when it was so cold we were able to take him shopping with us just to get
to take him shopping with us just to get
to take him shopping with us just to get him out of the house Dovie loved every
him out of the house Dovie loved every
him out of the house Dovie loved every second and we missed that boy immensely
second and we missed that boy immensely
second and we missed that boy immensely this toby story is just one example of
this toby story is just one example of
this toby story is just one example of how we can never accept failure as an
how we can never accept failure as an
how we can never accept failure as an option and how crazy is a better way to
option and how crazy is a better way to
option and how crazy is a better way to live when every door closes as an option
live when every door closes as an option
live when every door closes as an option we have to create more doors to be open
are you ready to be a true example in
are you ready to be a true example in your life are you ready to show up and
your life are you ready to show up and
your life are you ready to show up and be crazy I love being an example of
be crazy I love being an example of
be crazy I love being an example of defeating the odds and to be able to use
defeating the odds and to be able to use
defeating the odds and to be able to use my personal story to encourage other
my personal story to encourage other
my personal story to encourage other people out there and you Ted Xers who
people out there and you Ted Xers who
people out there and you Ted Xers who may have always felt the way I have but
may have always felt the way I have but
may have always felt the way I have but did not have the self-confidence to say
did not have the self-confidence to say
did not have the self-confidence to say screw you I’m doing this I
to think kristen chartered a plane to
to think kristen chartered a plane to get a 300-pound pig out at the US Virgin
get a 300-pound pig out at the US Virgin
get a 300-pound pig out at the US Virgin Islands and now she is living her dream
Islands and now she is living her dream
Islands and now she is living her dream working constantly on her farm cleaning
working constantly on her farm cleaning
working constantly on her farm cleaning stalls taking care of 60 special needs
stalls taking care of 60 special needs
stalls taking care of 60 special needs rescued farm animals in loving every
rescued farm animals in loving every
rescued farm animals in loving every minute that’s awesome your dream may not
minute that’s awesome your dream may not
minute that’s awesome your dream may not be to work on a farm but I’m gonna leave
be to work on a farm but I’m gonna leave
be to work on a farm but I’m gonna leave you with this
you with this
you with this what’s your gigantic pig on the plains
what’s your gigantic pig on the plains
what’s your gigantic pig on the plains story go out there and do it but don’t
story go out there and do it but don’t
story go out there and do it but don’t forget to give Ziggy a big thumbs up
forget to give Ziggy a big thumbs up
forget to give Ziggy a big thumbs up when you do it thank you
when you do it thank you
when you do it thank you [Applause]
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