Translator: Karim Rashad Checker: Riyad Almubarak
Above all, we humans are animals.
By nature, we are a social class.
Of course we can live alone, but we thrive together.
We have gathered in groups since the beginning of time.
It is interesting
That our brains are programmed to seek to exist in a group.
A few around us trigger an instinctive reaction
As stimulated by lack of food, water and lack of shelter.
However, we are more united than ever before.
We live in big cities and all in his small world.
It makes sense to assume that we are better at socializing
With all existing social media
But that is not true.
We are alone
The unit has already become an epidemic in America.
Statistics have risen over the decades
And to what degree did it get worse? To a very bad degree.
According to the age group taken into account
Unit rates may reach 70%.
In other words
Thirds of this room will often feel lonely.
Even if you think the problem does not concern you
That you have a lot of friends
After all, you pay the price.
Because unity has become a public health problem
It costs money and lives.
There is a major link between loneliness and depression
It also increases the risk of many health problems
And many diseases
There is already a statistical correlation
Between loneliness and increased risk of death.
You can literally die because of loneliness.
To what degree is this destructive ?!
If we have the need to communicate
We have the tools to do so
There is no shortage of people anywhere
Why are we alone?
The truth is that we live in a competitive society
Since childhood
We adapted to the exploitation of our communities for our personal benefit
And abandon them when we do not need them.
Everyone wants to become stronger, healthier, richer
Even being nice has become a competition.
Lovers of good will only compete to see who gives more
It’s simply not fun to be nice.
Competition itself is not a problem
Competition actually exists to bring out the best of us
You can not blame anyone for wanting to reach their maximum potential
But the problem arises when the value of the individual in a society
Specific to the achievements of the individual,
And when the idea of winning at any price prevails.
Here specifically
Divide your community into two groups;
Winners and Losers,
In the end, everyone leaves this community.
The weak people in the back of society
They will eventually leave the community that does not support them
And even if this contradicts our instincts
By seeking to exist in a group,
But they do so on the basis of a very logical decision.
Remember we are animals,
And in the wilderness, if you are not welcome in the congregation
It makes this clear,
Either it hurts or kills.
Because our instinct is to protect ourselves
Stronger than our desire to form or maintain friendships
If you want to be unique,
To be a talented member of the group,
You will also leave in the end,
Because your achievements will be determined
Depending on how much support you receive from your community.
Of course you will always be welcome in a larger and better group,
But if you continue in that session
Of the use and departure of the communities to which they are a part
The result will be one,
Will become very lonely in the foreground.
Here we are in a constant conflict between our desire to reach our maximum potential
And our desire to help others.
So focus on yourself
You can go far but alone
In contrast, focus on your community
You may end up feeling annoyed in your head
You have not reached your full potential
Because you did not focus on yourself enough.
What I am trying to say is that you do not have to choose.
Because you need both.
But how can we organize ourselves in society in a way that benefits society and the individual from being together?
This is not a dream,
This is not a plan, this is realistic.
Competition is precisely the source of my experience.
I am a martial arts coach. I know people how to fight.
To put things in perspective,
To have an idea of how competitive this is.
Sports is already on top of the competition scale,
The fighting is highlighted for a number of reasons.
First,
The outcome of one match is a zero-sum game.
In order to win I, you must lose.
There is no other way.
Second
I have a natural motivation to win,
Because loss is physically painful.
To offer land is not something fun.
It ends with more than just grilling.
Finally, I am single.
It is an individual sport.
This photo was taken in the final of an international competition.
Although I had my team fully supported,
Only when I was on the ring
I did not have a team to help me win or to be blamed if I lost.
So, as is clear,
There is no collective play at all.
Here, of all possibilities, we cooperate.
I’m lucky enough to train with a very variety of people
Which meet on a daily basis
To help each other to become better fighters.
And what we do; the art of fighting we have chosen
The Brazilian Gujitsu is called.
It is also called art slave because we do not knock or kick each other.
Therefore, in order to win, my opponent should try to suffocate or break my arm.
But we do it nicely.
(Laughter)
Here lies the idea,
How better than myself?
There is a key way to improve,
She is my partner in training.
I can not read a book
Or watch an online course or video on YouTube,
Not even spend time training in your boxing bag.
I need a live training partner to make me better.
I can only improve
If the challenge I face increases.
Of course I want to win
In each round,
This is my need. I want to improve.
But today’s profit is not enough.
I look far ahead; I have bigger goals.
I want to defeat you tomorrow, an improved version of you.
So at the end of each round,
We sit down and talk
I will help you to beat me better.
I help you stop my attacks,
Because the next time I attack
Will become stronger.
This will be useful to me in order to become better.
This way I meet my needs as an individual,
But I also meet the needs of my community,
Because all people have to improve together.
The community does not rely on altruistic ideals
For a very small number to grow.
No one has the option not to cooperate.
So, what about you?
I’m sure most of you are not fighters
So how can you apply any of this to your daily life, right?
If I can carry a variety of people who are literally trying to throttle some of them
Every day to cooperate,
I’m sure you can do it too.
no excuses.
What you need is one thing:
This sense of belonging to a society
Supports but also supports by its members.
Of course you can do all this yourself,
But first, this is not entertaining; second, the workload never becomes lighter.
If you are a team made up of one person you will be in competition all the time
You will not have anyone to collaborate with.
It really does not require you much to be your community.
If you have one partner
Can indeed benefit from this feedback loop;
Helping your competitors get better
This assistance comes back ten times.
You do not have to seek a society to become part of it.
I trust that you are already part of several communities.
You have a family, right?
The community that you have no choice to be part of,
You are stuck together.
This is your team.
So instead of trying to win every debate
And compete with each other,
It will be in your best interest
To help your team members,
Your family in this case, to become better.
Even if you do not have a family you live somewhere
So there are people around you all the time
So the idea of observing a group that you are part of as a community,
Is your choice.
But sometimes
You may feel frustrated by being good-willed
We have members of your group
Do not share the same ideas.
You should not be frustrated.
Because remember that you are helping people to your personal advantage,
Because you want better people around you.
So if someone in your community does not do the same
It is his loss.
The problem is his problem.
It does not benefit from the group’s potential
As much as he can.
In the end, you can not control this anyway.
So focus on what you can do, which is your attitude.
Be positive
The way your members should behave.
And also,
The thing to remember is that you do not help others
Just because it is the right thing to do,
You do not cooperate just because this makes you nice,
Or it gives you a good feeling.
You do it because it is in your best interest to be part of a better team
There is no point in being the best sailor aboard a sinking ship.
So if you want to reach your best potential,
You must accept competition
When your goals become higher
You will need a larger community to achieve them.
Then you’ll find more reasons to cooperate
And more people to cooperate with.
If you are ambitious and your goal is really great
As if to leave an impact in this world
Would not it be good for everyone on this planet to be part of your team?
Surely this will make things much easier.
Whether you like it or not, we are in this together.
So what I want you to do is put your trivial matters and your simple everyday problems aside
And raise your standards for what you are competing for
Because competition is only healthy when you make everyone better.
There is no need to succeed at the expense of others.
thank you.
(clap)
Above all, we humans are animals.
By nature, we are a social class.
Of course we can live alone, but we thrive together.
We have gathered in groups since the beginning of time.
It is interesting
That our brains are programmed to seek to exist in a group.
A few around us trigger an instinctive reaction
As stimulated by lack of food, water and lack of shelter.
However, we are more united than ever before.
We live in big cities and all in his small world.
It makes sense to assume that we are better at socializing
With all existing social media
But that is not true.
We are alone
The unit has already become an epidemic in America.
Statistics have risen over the decades
And to what degree did it get worse? To a very bad degree.
According to the age group taken into account
Unit rates may reach 70%.
In other words
Thirds of this room will often feel lonely.
Even if you think the problem does not concern you
That you have a lot of friends
After all, you pay the price.
Because unity has become a public health problem
It costs money and lives.
There is a major link between loneliness and depression
It also increases the risk of many health problems
And many diseases
There is already a statistical correlation
Between loneliness and increased risk of death.
You can literally die because of loneliness.
To what degree is this destructive ?!
If we have the need to communicate
We have the tools to do so
There is no shortage of people anywhere
Why are we alone?
The truth is that we live in a competitive society
Since childhood
We adapted to the exploitation of our communities for our personal benefit
And abandon them when we do not need them.
Everyone wants to become stronger, healthier, richer
Even being nice has become a competition.
Lovers of good will only compete to see who gives more
It’s simply not fun to be nice.
Competition itself is not a problem
Competition actually exists to bring out the best of us
You can not blame anyone for wanting to reach their maximum potential
But the problem arises when the value of the individual in a society
Specific to the achievements of the individual,
And when the idea of winning at any price prevails.
Here specifically
Divide your community into two groups;
Winners and Losers,
In the end, everyone leaves this community.
The weak people in the back of society
They will eventually leave the community that does not support them
And even if this contradicts our instincts
By seeking to exist in a group,
But they do so on the basis of a very logical decision.
Remember we are animals,
And in the wilderness, if you are not welcome in the congregation
It makes this clear,
Either it hurts or kills.
Because our instinct is to protect ourselves
Stronger than our desire to form or maintain friendships
If you want to be unique,
To be a talented member of the group,
You will also leave in the end,
Because your achievements will be determined
Depending on how much support you receive from your community.
Of course you will always be welcome in a larger and better group,
But if you continue in that session
Of the use and departure of the communities to which they are a part
The result will be one,
Will become very lonely in the foreground.
Here we are in a constant conflict between our desire to reach our maximum potential
And our desire to help others.
So focus on yourself
You can go far but alone
In contrast, focus on your community
You may end up feeling annoyed in your head
You have not reached your full potential
Because you did not focus on yourself enough.
What I am trying to say is that you do not have to choose.
Because you need both.
But how can we organize ourselves in society in a way that benefits society and the individual from being together?
This is not a dream,
This is not a plan, this is realistic.
Competition is precisely the source of my experience.
I am a martial arts coach. I know people how to fight.
To put things in perspective,
To have an idea of how competitive this is.
Sports is already on top of the competition scale,
The fighting is highlighted for a number of reasons.
First,
The outcome of one match is a zero-sum game.
In order to win I, you must lose.
There is no other way.
Second
I have a natural motivation to win,
Because loss is physically painful.
To offer land is not something fun.
It ends with more than just grilling.
Finally, I am single.
It is an individual sport.
This photo was taken in the final of an international competition.
Although I had my team fully supported,
Only when I was on the ring
I did not have a team to help me win or to be blamed if I lost.
So, as is clear,
There is no collective play at all.
Here, of all possibilities, we cooperate.
I’m lucky enough to train with a very variety of people
Which meet on a daily basis
To help each other to become better fighters.
And what we do; the art of fighting we have chosen
The Brazilian Gujitsu is called.
It is also called art slave because we do not knock or kick each other.
Therefore, in order to win, my opponent should try to suffocate or break my arm.
But we do it nicely.
(Laughter)
Here lies the idea,
How better than myself?
There is a key way to improve,
She is my partner in training.
I can not read a book
Or watch an online course or video on YouTube,
Not even spend time training in your boxing bag.
I need a live training partner to make me better.
I can only improve
If the challenge I face increases.
Of course I want to win
In each round,
This is my need. I want to improve.
But today’s profit is not enough.
I look far ahead; I have bigger goals.
I want to defeat you tomorrow, an improved version of you.
So at the end of each round,
We sit down and talk
I will help you to beat me better.
I help you stop my attacks,
Because the next time I attack
Will become stronger.
This will be useful to me in order to become better.
This way I meet my needs as an individual,
But I also meet the needs of my community,
Because all people have to improve together.
The community does not rely on altruistic ideals
For a very small number to grow.
No one has the option not to cooperate.
So, what about you?
I’m sure most of you are not fighters
So how can you apply any of this to your daily life, right?
If I can carry a variety of people who are literally trying to throttle some of them
Every day to cooperate,
I’m sure you can do it too.
no excuses.
What you need is one thing:
This sense of belonging to a society
Supports but also supports by its members.
Of course you can do all this yourself,
But first, this is not entertaining; second, the workload never becomes lighter.
If you are a team made up of one person you will be in competition all the time
You will not have anyone to collaborate with.
It really does not require you much to be your community.
If you have one partner
Can indeed benefit from this feedback loop;
Helping your competitors get better
This assistance comes back ten times.
You do not have to seek a society to become part of it.
I trust that you are already part of several communities.
You have a family, right?
The community that you have no choice to be part of,
You are stuck together.
This is your team.
So instead of trying to win every debate
And compete with each other,
It will be in your best interest
To help your team members,
Your family in this case, to become better.
Even if you do not have a family you live somewhere
So there are people around you all the time
So the idea of observing a group that you are part of as a community,
Is your choice.
But sometimes
You may feel frustrated by being good-willed
We have members of your group
Do not share the same ideas.
You should not be frustrated.
Because remember that you are helping people to your personal advantage,
Because you want better people around you.
So if someone in your community does not do the same
It is his loss.
The problem is his problem.
It does not benefit from the group’s potential
As much as he can.
In the end, you can not control this anyway.
So focus on what you can do, which is your attitude.
Be positive
The way your members should behave.
And also,
The thing to remember is that you do not help others
Just because it is the right thing to do,
You do not cooperate just because this makes you nice,
Or it gives you a good feeling.
You do it because it is in your best interest to be part of a better team
There is no point in being the best sailor aboard a sinking ship.
So if you want to reach your best potential,
You must accept competition
When your goals become higher
You will need a larger community to achieve them.
Then you’ll find more reasons to cooperate
And more people to cooperate with.
If you are ambitious and your goal is really great
As if to leave an impact in this world
Would not it be good for everyone on this planet to be part of your team?
Surely this will make things much easier.
Whether you like it or not, we are in this together.
So what I want you to do is put your trivial matters and your simple everyday problems aside
And raise your standards for what you are competing for
Because competition is only healthy when you make everyone better.
There is no need to succeed at the expense of others.
thank you.
(clap)
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