when I was her age I was very to this I
don’t want to ask these questions and I
didn’t have the resources that you guys
have to decide in time I didn’t even
know TEDx existed until I was 19 years
old and you already know it this age so
you guys are weighted in so why am I
doing this well basically I see myself
and what are you guys and I really want
give back to the community so the most
important thing you guys are here what
would you get out of it simply you’ll
get my experience you’ll get 15 years
you can’t live another 15 years
experience what I have because I have
been through failure adventure successes
heartbreaks and joints so the first one
is basics you have to make friends but
negative my friends when I was in high
school
I made a lot of friends but these
friends enjoyed seeing me cry and they
would make me cry every day they would
say something really dumb they wouldn’t
solve me and they would make me cry for
the joinery and then they will use it as
a running joke that he’s a crybaby he’s
a mama’s boy I was and I cried not
because there wasn’t because I thought
they were friends the friends don’t know
so you know so make the right friends if
that person is a negative friend get rid
of the second one is sunny smart I’m a
scholar I won the homework scholarship
how do I get a scholarship I didn’t
memorize all the books and I didn’t read
everything what I did was studying smile
people like to study by memorizing stuff
that’s not gonna work
you have to learn how to study and how
to score there are things you can do
that can increase your chances of
getting a better grade if you memorize
and do well that’s great but when you
enter you misty I can tell you you’re
gonna fail
if we do that the third one is a not
others I’ve lived all my life thinking
that no one wanted to help me and I
thought we said cool but what I’m
supposed to be when I’m here is to help
others so that you guys and help others
as well please remember that when you
help others it’s a very good thing not
only for others but for yourself as well
14 spend more time with family when my
grandmother passed away when I was 13
years old be nice all gives my dad sight
you will I will ask my dad
well what do you learn from all this sin
how was your relationship with my
grandma he said he had a very enjoyable
childhood they will always spend time
with my grandma and my grandpa and I
learned something that day that my
parents are going over and I’m going as
well one day I won’t be seeing them
anymore
one day I can’t do it anymore one day I
can feel that touch many more I know
parents will get annoying sometimes but
they’re doing that because they love you
and when the day comes that you don’t
feel their love anymore you will feel
emptiness so as I go age spend more time
with your family rather than with your
friends because your friends will live
as long as you or your parents would
roll so long time I talked to miss a lot
of people a lot of other people they
asked the wrong questions of young
people a son what do you want to be next
time what so ambition then you’re forced
into thinking I want to be an engineer
I wanna be a doctor I wanna be a zombie
definitely dogs not whatever but that’s
the wrong question we should be asking
what is your long-term goal it has to be
something
simple it can be our to be happy I want
to help others my long-term goal is I
want to go home thinking that I have
done something significant for the human
race I want to do something that can be
remembered in history I don’t want to go
home and think that I did nothing with
my life you know that’s a very sad life
when I went to a local school and I
asked this Oh people what do you regret
was living a life that I didn’t choose
living a life that I chose wrong living
a life that I mean fake just to make a
fool of that’s wrong think about it this
way don’t have a concrete idea of what
you want to be think about it this way I
want to be happy I want to be joyful I
want to help others
that’s something simple then the short
term goes coming if you want to be happy
what do you do to make yourself happy do
those things that make you happy
the second thing is build interests a
lot of people think that interest comes
like that you spend time at school you
spend time on extracurricular activities
I’m interested in music and all that no
think about a time we didn’t have any
dishes you have to build it right you
don’t just like music because we’ve
never heard it it was like music because
it’s good enough for me
so the same goes when someone asks you
any kid what’s your actress I don’t know
when you say that it means to not spend
enough time fighting you know start
early the third one is habitat action is
very important if you do something
without actually you might as well not
do it at all because my grandfather told
me that if you want to do a job do it
well but you need passion to do it don’t
believe for a second that passion is not
enough for you actually separately if
you want to help others you have to be
passionate you don’t just know others to
get paid you won’t like it
fourth thing is how others electrical to
senses again and the fifth one is
continuing a very important
so at this age I’m sure most of your bit
of gossip and a lot of you snag gossip
so opinions of others how do you handle
it
the first one is think about it this way
if you want the handle opinions don’t
think about it I will tell that’s the
wrong mentality when you say I won’t
care or care all the way to overcome
this is by tearing or the things
actually matter if someone says you’re
ugly
that’s an insult but if someone says
that in a way to help you for exact for
example they might not use it what ugly
but they use the word you’re not fit or
you’re not smart
you’re not this or not that thing about
it if it is true change yourself if it’s
false do number one okay other things
actually matter handling expectations
and failure I know that there are some
parents here we expect a lot from our
kids and I know that some day you guys
make fires – but don’t put this pressure
on your kids don’t expect too much let
them expect on their own have
expectations set them higher but not too
high you can’t be the president of the
United States more okay it doesn’t work
that way you have to set an expectation
where you can do they up at every stage
of life and then when it comes to it you
have achieved the second thing is
failure is a lesson I know this sounds
cliche but I take it from me I failed a
lot of times I failed in this
scholarship I felt going overseas I goes
you know it’s all a lesson you know it’s
life that’s what the beauty of life and
the everything was protract it will be
boring there’ll be no room for
imagination right if everything went
according to your plans supporting life
things must go over right and then
that’s fine you enjoy the highs and lows
the nexus success is a process a lot be
putting that success is a destination if
I get o is or if I get four to five or
forty five I be I’m a successful person
no matter you’re gonna fail success is a
process my friends it’s a long-term
thing when you’re 80 years old
and you look back that is success you
get 45 or 45 so what right you can’t go
to camp right or not so what what you
gonna do with that right it’s not
achieving things it’s in the process of
achieving things like this TEDx talk and
by the end of the day you finished it so
what the what was the thing that you
learn the process the friends you’ve
made all the things you’ve learned in
the process that’s what matters
okay start now I thought young people
thing are half years ahead of me I could
start later stop when I was your age I
was playing computer games all this time
and my parents told me a boy what are
you doing I feel my parents should have
said this we should improve yourself the
language you use for instance your child
your child will not listen but your
child will imitate if your parents do
something your child imitate you if you
tell them to do something they won’t do
it so the first one is learn languages I
think most of you guys know that I can’t
speak mentally I’m learning my first
language is not English
my first language is Cantonese and today
I can speak English like well and
speaking in front of you without any
worries but I know some of you in the
cockpit speak five six ten fifty but if
you have to charge if you have the
resources go and learn a new language go
over that Chinese girl in Spanish French
joke Talia pleasure whatever second
thing
learn skills cooking skills driving
skills swimming skills these things are
important
you guys are young your coordinates
train that fast you can play basketball
dude is it have learn how to talk to
people you can learn how to speak you
can even learn how to draw these things
are very important schools don’t
emphasizes enough adult one is self-love
I see a lot of memes on Facebook
nowadays and most of these about
depression for killing yourself guys
please don’t share these kind of moves
it’s very toxic love yourself do this
every morning when you wake up look in
the mirror on yourself
I am the best version of myself today no
one else I do my best if you tell
yourself this every morning like I have
your confidence will go up this high and
let me tell you something kids a lot of
people nowadays they’re not very
self-confident they look confident on
Instagram right take a nice picture by
the beach by car or bike shop
it’s all lies you know tell them are you
talking it yeah we go so you need
self-confidence build it today go in a
mirror look at yourself for what is bit
more
I wait to books every week and my
favorite book
despite the automatically how do we do
friends names people if you would read
one book in your life
I recommend that is no other books
compared to this book and if you can buy
his whole series and read it I’m not
really and the fifth one is exercise as
you can tell with it by you many years
ago I didn’t believe in exercise
exercise exercise but then I heard about
the many diseases that you get and to
I look at myself in the mirror like oh
my goodness I need changed myself go to
the gym exercise it’s very important for
mental health and for your own physical
health Alaska compete with yourself
don’t compete with others my friends you
always beat others that’s easy but to
beat your past self that’s difficult try
putting yourself try dynamic sir try
putting yourself you know how difficult
it is opportunity knocks and not young
people they play their phones nowadays
they go in the water my opportunity is
everywhere your parents are here you can
listen to them you can ask them what did
they did opportunities everywhere the
Internet yeah you guys heard of youth
opportunity calm going to search that
website use your phone there’s so many
opportunities that you guys have to try
out new activities Model United Nations
that’s what I do
we don’t all the United Nations I
wouldn’t be standing here confidently
speaking with you guys but nothing in my
head and if I told you guys the
Toastmasters debate public speaking are
all very key things that will put the
resume whooping on happiness is a
passive thing right mostly putting that
you don’t just be happy all the time I
mean if you’re happy all the time you
need to be sad you need to get angry
happy there are times when I was young I
thought ma I’m gonna be happy all this
time and my mom say that you’re crazy
now what be crazy now no guys it’s my
mom and dad there will hit at that time
and they say this it is not a passive
state it’s an active one you can choose
to be happy or you can choose to be sad
or it can just be you it’s all and
always talk about ideas I have a friend
it was very popular I can in high school
you will always gossip about people
this girl’s ugly this girl has this
disgust at that guy it’s nice car he
that guy has girlfriend but does it
matter
always test yourself of this when you’re
talking to someone always have to stop
this will it matter in 10 years time if
the answer is yes continue if the answer
is no forget about it it’s a very simple
metric someone said you are stupid in
tennis time
no young people like to complicate
things
you know when I was speaking a young guy
what do you want to be next time when I
was thank you for this before you see
it’s all so innocent we can learn from
them they don’t care
now they care about the future whatever
happens then
is there so you guys must ask yourself
this and someone say something about you
is it – doesn’t matter in 10 days time
it does this know that forget it do
something and then the third one you
matter most to you so this is a hard
truth no one else would care about you
more than yourself
like with your parents because they have
to care for themselves as well learn to
take care of yourself learn to normal
pay your bills learn how to do this
learning that – know your skills okay my
type is also me so yes I just want to
leave this by saying thank you very much for listening and I hope you guys
don’t want to ask these questions and I
didn’t have the resources that you guys
have to decide in time I didn’t even
know TEDx existed until I was 19 years
old and you already know it this age so
you guys are weighted in so why am I
doing this well basically I see myself
and what are you guys and I really want
give back to the community so the most
important thing you guys are here what
would you get out of it simply you’ll
get my experience you’ll get 15 years
you can’t live another 15 years
experience what I have because I have
been through failure adventure successes
heartbreaks and joints so the first one
is basics you have to make friends but
negative my friends when I was in high
school
I made a lot of friends but these
friends enjoyed seeing me cry and they
would make me cry every day they would
say something really dumb they wouldn’t
solve me and they would make me cry for
the joinery and then they will use it as
a running joke that he’s a crybaby he’s
a mama’s boy I was and I cried not
because there wasn’t because I thought
they were friends the friends don’t know
so you know so make the right friends if
that person is a negative friend get rid
of the second one is sunny smart I’m a
scholar I won the homework scholarship
how do I get a scholarship I didn’t
memorize all the books and I didn’t read
everything what I did was studying smile
people like to study by memorizing stuff
that’s not gonna work
you have to learn how to study and how
to score there are things you can do
that can increase your chances of
getting a better grade if you memorize
and do well that’s great but when you
enter you misty I can tell you you’re
gonna fail
if we do that the third one is a not
others I’ve lived all my life thinking
that no one wanted to help me and I
thought we said cool but what I’m
supposed to be when I’m here is to help
others so that you guys and help others
as well please remember that when you
help others it’s a very good thing not
only for others but for yourself as well
14 spend more time with family when my
grandmother passed away when I was 13
years old be nice all gives my dad sight
you will I will ask my dad
well what do you learn from all this sin
how was your relationship with my
grandma he said he had a very enjoyable
childhood they will always spend time
with my grandma and my grandpa and I
learned something that day that my
parents are going over and I’m going as
well one day I won’t be seeing them
anymore
one day I can’t do it anymore one day I
can feel that touch many more I know
parents will get annoying sometimes but
they’re doing that because they love you
and when the day comes that you don’t
feel their love anymore you will feel
emptiness so as I go age spend more time
with your family rather than with your
friends because your friends will live
as long as you or your parents would
roll so long time I talked to miss a lot
of people a lot of other people they
asked the wrong questions of young
people a son what do you want to be next
time what so ambition then you’re forced
into thinking I want to be an engineer
I wanna be a doctor I wanna be a zombie
definitely dogs not whatever but that’s
the wrong question we should be asking
what is your long-term goal it has to be
something
simple it can be our to be happy I want
to help others my long-term goal is I
want to go home thinking that I have
done something significant for the human
race I want to do something that can be
remembered in history I don’t want to go
home and think that I did nothing with
my life you know that’s a very sad life
when I went to a local school and I
asked this Oh people what do you regret
was living a life that I didn’t choose
living a life that I chose wrong living
a life that I mean fake just to make a
fool of that’s wrong think about it this
way don’t have a concrete idea of what
you want to be think about it this way I
want to be happy I want to be joyful I
want to help others
that’s something simple then the short
term goes coming if you want to be happy
what do you do to make yourself happy do
those things that make you happy
the second thing is build interests a
lot of people think that interest comes
like that you spend time at school you
spend time on extracurricular activities
I’m interested in music and all that no
think about a time we didn’t have any
dishes you have to build it right you
don’t just like music because we’ve
never heard it it was like music because
it’s good enough for me
so the same goes when someone asks you
any kid what’s your actress I don’t know
when you say that it means to not spend
enough time fighting you know start
early the third one is habitat action is
very important if you do something
without actually you might as well not
do it at all because my grandfather told
me that if you want to do a job do it
well but you need passion to do it don’t
believe for a second that passion is not
enough for you actually separately if
you want to help others you have to be
passionate you don’t just know others to
get paid you won’t like it
fourth thing is how others electrical to
senses again and the fifth one is
continuing a very important
so at this age I’m sure most of your bit
of gossip and a lot of you snag gossip
so opinions of others how do you handle
it
the first one is think about it this way
if you want the handle opinions don’t
think about it I will tell that’s the
wrong mentality when you say I won’t
care or care all the way to overcome
this is by tearing or the things
actually matter if someone says you’re
ugly
that’s an insult but if someone says
that in a way to help you for exact for
example they might not use it what ugly
but they use the word you’re not fit or
you’re not smart
you’re not this or not that thing about
it if it is true change yourself if it’s
false do number one okay other things
actually matter handling expectations
and failure I know that there are some
parents here we expect a lot from our
kids and I know that some day you guys
make fires – but don’t put this pressure
on your kids don’t expect too much let
them expect on their own have
expectations set them higher but not too
high you can’t be the president of the
United States more okay it doesn’t work
that way you have to set an expectation
where you can do they up at every stage
of life and then when it comes to it you
have achieved the second thing is
failure is a lesson I know this sounds
cliche but I take it from me I failed a
lot of times I failed in this
scholarship I felt going overseas I goes
you know it’s all a lesson you know it’s
life that’s what the beauty of life and
the everything was protract it will be
boring there’ll be no room for
imagination right if everything went
according to your plans supporting life
things must go over right and then
that’s fine you enjoy the highs and lows
the nexus success is a process a lot be
putting that success is a destination if
I get o is or if I get four to five or
forty five I be I’m a successful person
no matter you’re gonna fail success is a
process my friends it’s a long-term
thing when you’re 80 years old
and you look back that is success you
get 45 or 45 so what right you can’t go
to camp right or not so what what you
gonna do with that right it’s not
achieving things it’s in the process of
achieving things like this TEDx talk and
by the end of the day you finished it so
what the what was the thing that you
learn the process the friends you’ve
made all the things you’ve learned in
the process that’s what matters
okay start now I thought young people
thing are half years ahead of me I could
start later stop when I was your age I
was playing computer games all this time
and my parents told me a boy what are
you doing I feel my parents should have
said this we should improve yourself the
language you use for instance your child
your child will not listen but your
child will imitate if your parents do
something your child imitate you if you
tell them to do something they won’t do
it so the first one is learn languages I
think most of you guys know that I can’t
speak mentally I’m learning my first
language is not English
my first language is Cantonese and today
I can speak English like well and
speaking in front of you without any
worries but I know some of you in the
cockpit speak five six ten fifty but if
you have to charge if you have the
resources go and learn a new language go
over that Chinese girl in Spanish French
joke Talia pleasure whatever second
thing
learn skills cooking skills driving
skills swimming skills these things are
important
you guys are young your coordinates
train that fast you can play basketball
dude is it have learn how to talk to
people you can learn how to speak you
can even learn how to draw these things
are very important schools don’t
emphasizes enough adult one is self-love
I see a lot of memes on Facebook
nowadays and most of these about
depression for killing yourself guys
please don’t share these kind of moves
it’s very toxic love yourself do this
every morning when you wake up look in
the mirror on yourself
I am the best version of myself today no
one else I do my best if you tell
yourself this every morning like I have
your confidence will go up this high and
let me tell you something kids a lot of
people nowadays they’re not very
self-confident they look confident on
Instagram right take a nice picture by
the beach by car or bike shop
it’s all lies you know tell them are you
talking it yeah we go so you need
self-confidence build it today go in a
mirror look at yourself for what is bit
more
I wait to books every week and my
favorite book
despite the automatically how do we do
friends names people if you would read
one book in your life
I recommend that is no other books
compared to this book and if you can buy
his whole series and read it I’m not
really and the fifth one is exercise as
you can tell with it by you many years
ago I didn’t believe in exercise
exercise exercise but then I heard about
the many diseases that you get and to
I look at myself in the mirror like oh
my goodness I need changed myself go to
the gym exercise it’s very important for
mental health and for your own physical
health Alaska compete with yourself
don’t compete with others my friends you
always beat others that’s easy but to
beat your past self that’s difficult try
putting yourself try dynamic sir try
putting yourself you know how difficult
it is opportunity knocks and not young
people they play their phones nowadays
they go in the water my opportunity is
everywhere your parents are here you can
listen to them you can ask them what did
they did opportunities everywhere the
Internet yeah you guys heard of youth
opportunity calm going to search that
website use your phone there’s so many
opportunities that you guys have to try
out new activities Model United Nations
that’s what I do
we don’t all the United Nations I
wouldn’t be standing here confidently
speaking with you guys but nothing in my
head and if I told you guys the
Toastmasters debate public speaking are
all very key things that will put the
resume whooping on happiness is a
passive thing right mostly putting that
you don’t just be happy all the time I
mean if you’re happy all the time you
need to be sad you need to get angry
happy there are times when I was young I
thought ma I’m gonna be happy all this
time and my mom say that you’re crazy
now what be crazy now no guys it’s my
mom and dad there will hit at that time
and they say this it is not a passive
state it’s an active one you can choose
to be happy or you can choose to be sad
or it can just be you it’s all and
always talk about ideas I have a friend
it was very popular I can in high school
you will always gossip about people
this girl’s ugly this girl has this
disgust at that guy it’s nice car he
that guy has girlfriend but does it
matter
always test yourself of this when you’re
talking to someone always have to stop
this will it matter in 10 years time if
the answer is yes continue if the answer
is no forget about it it’s a very simple
metric someone said you are stupid in
tennis time
no young people like to complicate
things
you know when I was speaking a young guy
what do you want to be next time when I
was thank you for this before you see
it’s all so innocent we can learn from
them they don’t care
now they care about the future whatever
happens then
is there so you guys must ask yourself
this and someone say something about you
is it – doesn’t matter in 10 days time
it does this know that forget it do
something and then the third one you
matter most to you so this is a hard
truth no one else would care about you
more than yourself
like with your parents because they have
to care for themselves as well learn to
take care of yourself learn to normal
pay your bills learn how to do this
learning that – know your skills okay my
type is also me so yes I just want to
leave this by saying thank you very much for listening and I hope you guys
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