No One Told You That Before | Understand this and You’ll Never Be the Same | Mel Robbins

if you understand what I’m fixed to tell
you this is gonna save you thousands and
thousands of agony hours of agony it’s
very very simple to get what you want
but it’s not easy well I want to talk to
those of you that are working toward
your dreams whatever it is that you’re
doing right now it’s leading to the
thing that you dream of doing and you’re
not going to progress until you get the
skills and the experience that you need
at the level that you’re at when you
become a teen nobody tells you that it’s
now gonna be your job to pair it
yourself and by parent yourself I mean
it’s your job to make yourself do the
crap you don’t want to do so you can be
everything that you’re supposed to be
and you’re so damn busy waiting to feel
like it and you’re never going to my son
never feels like getting off is DS
that’s my job
get off the damn TS as parents and you
were kid your parents make you do the
things you don’t feel like doing because
you won’t ever not now not then not ever
and even when you get good at something
you’ll figure out something else you
don’t want to do and then you’ll plateau
out and you’ll get bored and I hate this
dead boy but will you look for one out
you’ll just bitch about that one so if
you’re frustrated with where you are
right now because you’ve got these big
dreams and you think you’re really far
away here’s one way that you can
continue to be patient and you can milk
wherever you’re at to help you build the
skills and the experience that you need
as you climb toward the thing that you
want ask yourself what is it that I am
learning what’s the skill that I’m
honing by sitting here at this front
desk job or driving this uber or lyft
vehicle what am i learn
that I’m gonna take with me on my
journey to do that next big thing
because I guarantee you there’s
something in the minutiae of what you’re
doing right now that you are developing
an expertise and a skill around that
you’re gonna need as you launch yourself
towards the next thing what are you
going to do I don’t want you to get all
emotional from this message that I’m
leaving yeah yeah that’s that real shit
right there
ten minutes later ten days later you go
back to doing the same shit it’s ghost
season no one’s coming to push you no
one’s coming to tell you to turn the TV
off no one’s coming to tell you to get
out the door and exercise the bottom
line is no one’s coming no one you got a
problem with your life you got a problem
with your environment do something about
it
excuses sound best
– the person is making them up we all
face difficulties we all have tough
times but the right attitude is this
didn’t come to stay it came to pass it’s
only temporary and because you’re only
ever gonna do the things that you feel
like doing right now or that feel good
right now unless you understand that
you’ve got to parent yourself you got to
push yourself you’re not gonna make your
dreams come true
you’re just not we’re not wired that way
you weren’t born that way
you weren’t that way when you were
growing up and you’re certainly not that
way as an adult and there’s a tremendous
amount of liberation that comes when you
accept the fact that you’re always going
to need to give yourself a push if you
ever see me in a Rolls Royce a private
plane a six or seven star hotel living
my life to the fullest don’t hate on me
don’t get jealous of me because I worked
my ass off to get it everything about my
life and career I’ve earned that ain’t
nobody gave me shit nobody handed me nothing if you want it go get it