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Why ‘love’ is a useless word – and three alternatives


Love is our highest value, which is what we all yearn for and what we believe to make us a foundation
But also a major concern. Mainly, we are concerned about whether we ..
Totally natural because of our feeling over and over again that we do not live love as we should
To live it. Society is very binding and careful in this respect. He points out that in order to become a person
Acceptable, we must all be in sexual relationships and moreover, we are within these relationships ..
We must “love” in a very specific way: we must be constantly engaged in the presence of a partner
Life, we have to yearn to see them after every absence, and to thirst to join them
In our arms, accept them and accept – and most of all – that we want to practice love
With them every day or so. In other words, we have to follow the scenario of romantic ecstasy throughout
Our life. This is theoretically beautiful and very harsh punishment. If we will
To define love in this way and then define the idea of ​​what is normal accordingly, then most of us
That admits to himself (much embarrassment) that we do not know much about
Love – and therefore we are not qualified to be decent, healthy, or normal people. We have created
A doctrine of love far from our true experiences and our relations.
Here comes the role of the ancient Greeks to help. They realized early on that there were so many
Species of love, each of which has its own merits and seasons – and that it is a good society
It is necessary for us to add correct vocabulary to reflect the different conditions of the heart
Each of which is legitimate during this process. The Greeks unleashed strong sensual feelings
Which we often experience at the beginning of a relationship is the word Eros. But..
They knew that love does not necessarily end when sexual attraction decreases, which is almost
Always less after a year or so in the relationship. Our feelings can then evolve into
Another type of love was the word “vila” which is usually translated into “friendship”
The Greek word, however, is much warmer, more faithful and more emotional than its counterpart in English;
A person may sacrifice his life for the sake of “Philia”. Aristotle suggested that we beat the Eros ..
In youth, and then established our relations – especially marriage – on philosophy
The elephant. This word adds an important difference to our understanding of a sustainable engagement.
It allows us to see that we can continue to love even if we reach a stage where our own vocabulary fails,
Unilateral in giving it value. The Greeks have a third word about love: “Agape”.
The best way to translate it is charity love. It is what we are likely to feel towards a person
Behaved somewhat poorly or failed due to defects in personality – but to a person
We still feel sympathy for him. It is what a god can feel towards his / her people, or
What an audience can feel about a tragic character in a play. It is the kind of love that is
We live in connection with the weakness of a particular person rather than his strength. He reminds us
That love is not only admiration of the advantages, it is also sympathy and good-natured
The direction of what is crisp and deficient within us. Having these three words – Eros,
Vilia and Agaby – strongly expands our sense of love. The Ancients
The Greeks were wise in dividing the luminous columns of love into their original parts.
Under their tutelage, we can see that we probably have much more love in our lives than you can
Our current vocabulary is to distinguish it.
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