I was just having a debate with a friend
of mine and we got stuck on the
difference between fault and
responsibility she kept talking about
how something was somebody’s fault
somebody’s fault and I was like it
really don’t matter whose fault it is
that something is broken if it’s your
responsibility to fix it not somebody’s
fault if their father was an abusive
alcoholic but it’s for damn sure their
responsibility to figure out how they’re
gonna do with those traumas and try to
make a life out of it it’s not your
fault if your partner cheated and ruined
your marriage but it is for damn sure
your responsibility to figure out how to
take that pain and how to overcome that
and build a happy life for yourself
fault and responsibility do not go
together it sucks but they don’t when
something is somebody’s fault we want
them to suffer we want them punished we
want them to pay and we want it to be
their responsibility to fix it but
that’s that’s not how it works
especially when it’s your heart your
heart your life your happiness is your
responsibility and your responsibility
alone as long as we’re pointing a finger
and and stuck in whose fault
something is we’re jammed and trapped
into victim mode when you’re in victim
oh you’re stuck in suffering the road to
power is in taking responsibility your
heart your life your happiness is your
responsibility and your responsibility
alone me a personal confrontation with
death made me see the value of time and
the fact that the only elixir is love
the the time that you spend has got to
be in preparing yourself and giving and
receiving the most amount of love you
can you know my mission is to improve
lives so I want to do things that put
positivity and positive energy and love
into the world you know I’ve always been
really product oriented you know it’s
like I want to win when I do something I
want to win I wanted to be number one
and I want to smash it you have a
daughter and I was over 15 year old
daughter and she really she got me and
shifted my focus from product to people
it took a couple of years but as soon as
I gotten knocked off of product and
started shifting to people the whole
world opened up for me again and acting
opened up in a whole new way to not go
into day one of a movie trying to figure
out what everybody has to do so we win
versus opening up and every person’s a
new it’s a whole new world generally
when I went into a product when I went
into a meeting with director my focus
was can this guy win can this girl win
the pathology that got broken for me a
couple of years ago and then releasing
that and just wanting to connect with
people and wanting to grow and wanted to
get new ideas and have new experiences
that don’t have to have an outcome they
just opened up a whole new world for me
and I fell in love and then I couldn’t
imagine what else I could do an acting
that could add so much to my life other
than acting difference between
depression and joy right and I think
it’s purpose when you wake up in the
morning and your life means something to
somebody other than you that you have a
purpose if you don’t go do the things
that you’re going to do people’s lives
will suffer to live in service not to
you but to live in service to humanity
to live in service to your family to
live in service to your church to your
city to your country to the world living
in service is that I feel like that is
the purest form of joy the taking
responsibility accepting responsibility
is not an admission
Guil you’re not admitting that your
fault
taking responsibility is a recognition
of the power that you cease when you
stop blaming people it’s not like you’re
letting somebody who wronged you off the
hook
like taking responsibility is an act of
emotional self-defense
taking responsibility is taking your
power back I look at the world through a
lens of comedy my natural reaction is
always no matter when something happens
and I can’t even help it it’s why is
that funny you know so even at a Funeral
I can’t help but think why that’s funny
extremely helpful for me just
psychologically that no matter what’s
going on I can’t keep my mind from
finding joke a beautiful way to stay
joyous and positive I live in complete
terror everything for me about this
business and a you know about what I’ve
been trying to build and what I’ve been
trying to do if my life keeps me in
terror I’m I am deeply motivated by fear
I’m trying to to develop a more
realistic perspective of what this
business is when I was 15 years old my
first girlfriend cheated on me oh and I
remember making a decision that nobody
would ever cheat on me again and the way
I was going to do that is by being the
biggest actor on earth ah right
so is there’s there’s been this weird
psychology that I’ve always felt like if
my movies are number one my life is
gonna work out great I’ve always been
the type of person who thought of I
thought of myself as resilient you know
that I could always make my way back
being stuck in the past is it makes it
extremely difficult to find your way out
and future thinking for me has always
been the way to get over difficult times
to be able to look over the darkness to
a potential time
of light very rarely do I look backwards
I’m always looking forward you know to
me showbiz is not separated from the
rules of the universe whether you’re in
show business or you know you’re selling
cars or you’re farming you know you’re
not you’re not separate from the laws of
the universe and all of the rules are
the same everywhere from my children the
most important thing is that they be
encouraged to fully and thoroughly be
themselves no matter what when you when
you have yourself and you’re thorough
and confident in who you are you can
survive anywhere
as a certain delusional quality that all
successful people have to have you have
to believe that something different than
what has happened for the last 50 years
of history you have to believe that
something different can happen it’s
almost a kind of innocence absolutely no
in other words if you knew how difficult
it was right you have never gone down
that path absolutely no a foul is
somebody said to Olli no one can beat
this guy he’s this much stronger is this
much bigger he’s got that much bigger
punch than you do and he believed that
he would have said never you gotta have
an innocent just somehow absolutely no
and I think they dead that’s a huge part
of me because and I say to my friends
all the time and we laugh about it I
truly honestly as I sit here before you
right now as honestly as I can say to
you I truly believe that I could be the
president if I wanted to and as bizarre
as that may sound to people that have
traveled the path before me and to
people who actually know how difficult
it is foolish Will Smith honestly
believes it’s in
I feel very strongly that we are who we
choose to be consider myself an
alchemist an alchemist is basically a
mystical chemist and one of the great
feats that alchemists used to do is they
would take lead
just take a chunk of lead and they could
turn lead into gold being able to turn
lead into gold you know my grandmother
used to say you know life get your lemon
you go ahead and make lemonade to me
that’s that’s alchemy that’s that that’s
the same concept behind the the
alchemists
you don’t set out to build a wall you
don’t say I’m gonna bake this build the
biggest baddest greatest wall that’s
ever been built you don’t start there
you say I’m gonna lay this brick as
perfectly as a brick can be laid there
will not be one brick on the face of the
earth that’s gonna be laid better than
this brick that I’m gonna lay in this
next ten minutes and you do that every
single day and so you have a soon you
have a walk it’s difficult to take the
first step when you look how big yeah
the task is the task is never huge to me
it’s always one brick I don’t want to be
an icon I realized that when you to have
the level of success that I want to have
it’s difficult to spread it out and do
multiple things you know it’s in order
to to be world-class and I made a
decision I want to be world-class and it
just it takes such a desperate obsessive
focus to to excel on assert honor on the
level that I want to make movies you
know I was a Star Wars when I was young
i sat in the movie theater and watched
Star Wars and I just couldn’t believe
that that movie made me feel like that
just floored and just stunned by the
creativity and just I’m realizing that
in order to move people in that way in
order to touch people in that way
you’ve really got to focus with all of
your fiber and all your heart and all
your creativity
you didn’t grow up with the sense that
where we were was where we were going to
be you know we grew up with the sense
that where we were almost didn’t matter
because we were becoming we were
becoming something greater
as a child my parents always told me you
could be whatever you want to be you
could do whatever you want to do it was
something I heard my parents saying it
but I didn’t totally believe it yet I
went out in the world and I carried
myself and I held my head high and I
stood there and I look people in their
eyes and I talked to people as if I was
deserving of everything that this planet
has to offer
confucius said one time he who says he
can and he who says he can’t are both
usually right so i want to stand here
before you and as I hold this award I
want to give love to my wife and I want
you to keep in your heart just know that
you can road to success is through
commitment and through the strength to
drive through that commitment when it
gets hard and it is gonna get hard and
you’re gonna want to quit sometimes but
it’ll be colored by who you are and more
who you want to be I definitely found
that wanting to be an actor stems from
wanting to be somebody separation of
talent and skill is one of the the the
greatest misunderstood concepts for
people who are trying to excel who have
dreams that want to do things talent you
have naturally skill is only developed
by hours and hours and hours of beating
on your craft for me it it has been the
to be that guy that does what people say
can’t be done you know and I think it
started with trying to please my mother
and trying to please my grandmother and
they always wanted higher for me they
always wanted more for me and it got to
the point that I wanted to be something
I wanted to be somebody
and it it made me choose certain roles
it made me turn down certain roles there
is more than an image that I want to
project I want to be the person that is
the first person there and the last
person to leave never really view myself
as particularly talented where I excel
is ridiculous sickening work ethic you
know while the other guys sleeping I’m
working what other guys eaten I’m
working
anytime you inject extremes into the
universe you can expect extremes to to
come back I think that you know one of
the best pieces of advice I ever got was
don’t let your successes go to your head
and don’t let your failures go to your
heart do you follow that
I try it’s absolutely a difficult even
more so now with my my wife and my
children expanding into it the the scope
of it is actually becoming more
difficult to manage the things that
almost in a spiritual sense the things
that you attract to yourself and also if
you think about it in terms of altitude
the higher you go the harder it is to
breathe there’s less oxygen and I think
within that phrase what I get from that
with marlon brando but what happens is
if you think about it in terms of
mountain climbing mountain climbing the
higher and the higher you get the less
oxygen there is the harder it is to
breathe as you get to this successful
space and the first thing people want to
do is get down and what you do by
getting down is self-destructive and i’m
just working hard to make sure that i
don’t allow the lack of oxygen
to dull my appreciation for the gifts I’ve been given
of mine and we got stuck on the
difference between fault and
responsibility she kept talking about
how something was somebody’s fault
somebody’s fault and I was like it
really don’t matter whose fault it is
that something is broken if it’s your
responsibility to fix it not somebody’s
fault if their father was an abusive
alcoholic but it’s for damn sure their
responsibility to figure out how they’re
gonna do with those traumas and try to
make a life out of it it’s not your
fault if your partner cheated and ruined
your marriage but it is for damn sure
your responsibility to figure out how to
take that pain and how to overcome that
and build a happy life for yourself
fault and responsibility do not go
together it sucks but they don’t when
something is somebody’s fault we want
them to suffer we want them punished we
want them to pay and we want it to be
their responsibility to fix it but
that’s that’s not how it works
especially when it’s your heart your
heart your life your happiness is your
responsibility and your responsibility
alone as long as we’re pointing a finger
and and stuck in whose fault
something is we’re jammed and trapped
into victim mode when you’re in victim
oh you’re stuck in suffering the road to
power is in taking responsibility your
heart your life your happiness is your
responsibility and your responsibility
alone me a personal confrontation with
death made me see the value of time and
the fact that the only elixir is love
the the time that you spend has got to
be in preparing yourself and giving and
receiving the most amount of love you
can you know my mission is to improve
lives so I want to do things that put
positivity and positive energy and love
into the world you know I’ve always been
really product oriented you know it’s
like I want to win when I do something I
want to win I wanted to be number one
and I want to smash it you have a
daughter and I was over 15 year old
daughter and she really she got me and
shifted my focus from product to people
it took a couple of years but as soon as
I gotten knocked off of product and
started shifting to people the whole
world opened up for me again and acting
opened up in a whole new way to not go
into day one of a movie trying to figure
out what everybody has to do so we win
versus opening up and every person’s a
new it’s a whole new world generally
when I went into a product when I went
into a meeting with director my focus
was can this guy win can this girl win
the pathology that got broken for me a
couple of years ago and then releasing
that and just wanting to connect with
people and wanting to grow and wanted to
get new ideas and have new experiences
that don’t have to have an outcome they
just opened up a whole new world for me
and I fell in love and then I couldn’t
imagine what else I could do an acting
that could add so much to my life other
than acting difference between
depression and joy right and I think
it’s purpose when you wake up in the
morning and your life means something to
somebody other than you that you have a
purpose if you don’t go do the things
that you’re going to do people’s lives
will suffer to live in service not to
you but to live in service to humanity
to live in service to your family to
live in service to your church to your
city to your country to the world living
in service is that I feel like that is
the purest form of joy the taking
responsibility accepting responsibility
is not an admission
Guil you’re not admitting that your
fault
taking responsibility is a recognition
of the power that you cease when you
stop blaming people it’s not like you’re
letting somebody who wronged you off the
hook
like taking responsibility is an act of
emotional self-defense
taking responsibility is taking your
power back I look at the world through a
lens of comedy my natural reaction is
always no matter when something happens
and I can’t even help it it’s why is
that funny you know so even at a Funeral
I can’t help but think why that’s funny
extremely helpful for me just
psychologically that no matter what’s
going on I can’t keep my mind from
finding joke a beautiful way to stay
joyous and positive I live in complete
terror everything for me about this
business and a you know about what I’ve
been trying to build and what I’ve been
trying to do if my life keeps me in
terror I’m I am deeply motivated by fear
I’m trying to to develop a more
realistic perspective of what this
business is when I was 15 years old my
first girlfriend cheated on me oh and I
remember making a decision that nobody
would ever cheat on me again and the way
I was going to do that is by being the
biggest actor on earth ah right
so is there’s there’s been this weird
psychology that I’ve always felt like if
my movies are number one my life is
gonna work out great I’ve always been
the type of person who thought of I
thought of myself as resilient you know
that I could always make my way back
being stuck in the past is it makes it
extremely difficult to find your way out
and future thinking for me has always
been the way to get over difficult times
to be able to look over the darkness to
a potential time
of light very rarely do I look backwards
I’m always looking forward you know to
me showbiz is not separated from the
rules of the universe whether you’re in
show business or you know you’re selling
cars or you’re farming you know you’re
not you’re not separate from the laws of
the universe and all of the rules are
the same everywhere from my children the
most important thing is that they be
encouraged to fully and thoroughly be
themselves no matter what when you when
you have yourself and you’re thorough
and confident in who you are you can
survive anywhere
as a certain delusional quality that all
successful people have to have you have
to believe that something different than
what has happened for the last 50 years
of history you have to believe that
something different can happen it’s
almost a kind of innocence absolutely no
in other words if you knew how difficult
it was right you have never gone down
that path absolutely no a foul is
somebody said to Olli no one can beat
this guy he’s this much stronger is this
much bigger he’s got that much bigger
punch than you do and he believed that
he would have said never you gotta have
an innocent just somehow absolutely no
and I think they dead that’s a huge part
of me because and I say to my friends
all the time and we laugh about it I
truly honestly as I sit here before you
right now as honestly as I can say to
you I truly believe that I could be the
president if I wanted to and as bizarre
as that may sound to people that have
traveled the path before me and to
people who actually know how difficult
it is foolish Will Smith honestly
believes it’s in
I feel very strongly that we are who we
choose to be consider myself an
alchemist an alchemist is basically a
mystical chemist and one of the great
feats that alchemists used to do is they
would take lead
just take a chunk of lead and they could
turn lead into gold being able to turn
lead into gold you know my grandmother
used to say you know life get your lemon
you go ahead and make lemonade to me
that’s that’s alchemy that’s that that’s
the same concept behind the the
alchemists
you don’t set out to build a wall you
don’t say I’m gonna bake this build the
biggest baddest greatest wall that’s
ever been built you don’t start there
you say I’m gonna lay this brick as
perfectly as a brick can be laid there
will not be one brick on the face of the
earth that’s gonna be laid better than
this brick that I’m gonna lay in this
next ten minutes and you do that every
single day and so you have a soon you
have a walk it’s difficult to take the
first step when you look how big yeah
the task is the task is never huge to me
it’s always one brick I don’t want to be
an icon I realized that when you to have
the level of success that I want to have
it’s difficult to spread it out and do
multiple things you know it’s in order
to to be world-class and I made a
decision I want to be world-class and it
just it takes such a desperate obsessive
focus to to excel on assert honor on the
level that I want to make movies you
know I was a Star Wars when I was young
i sat in the movie theater and watched
Star Wars and I just couldn’t believe
that that movie made me feel like that
just floored and just stunned by the
creativity and just I’m realizing that
in order to move people in that way in
order to touch people in that way
you’ve really got to focus with all of
your fiber and all your heart and all
your creativity
you didn’t grow up with the sense that
where we were was where we were going to
be you know we grew up with the sense
that where we were almost didn’t matter
because we were becoming we were
becoming something greater
as a child my parents always told me you
could be whatever you want to be you
could do whatever you want to do it was
something I heard my parents saying it
but I didn’t totally believe it yet I
went out in the world and I carried
myself and I held my head high and I
stood there and I look people in their
eyes and I talked to people as if I was
deserving of everything that this planet
has to offer
confucius said one time he who says he
can and he who says he can’t are both
usually right so i want to stand here
before you and as I hold this award I
want to give love to my wife and I want
you to keep in your heart just know that
you can road to success is through
commitment and through the strength to
drive through that commitment when it
gets hard and it is gonna get hard and
you’re gonna want to quit sometimes but
it’ll be colored by who you are and more
who you want to be I definitely found
that wanting to be an actor stems from
wanting to be somebody separation of
talent and skill is one of the the the
greatest misunderstood concepts for
people who are trying to excel who have
dreams that want to do things talent you
have naturally skill is only developed
by hours and hours and hours of beating
on your craft for me it it has been the
to be that guy that does what people say
can’t be done you know and I think it
started with trying to please my mother
and trying to please my grandmother and
they always wanted higher for me they
always wanted more for me and it got to
the point that I wanted to be something
I wanted to be somebody
and it it made me choose certain roles
it made me turn down certain roles there
is more than an image that I want to
project I want to be the person that is
the first person there and the last
person to leave never really view myself
as particularly talented where I excel
is ridiculous sickening work ethic you
know while the other guys sleeping I’m
working what other guys eaten I’m
working
anytime you inject extremes into the
universe you can expect extremes to to
come back I think that you know one of
the best pieces of advice I ever got was
don’t let your successes go to your head
and don’t let your failures go to your
heart do you follow that
I try it’s absolutely a difficult even
more so now with my my wife and my
children expanding into it the the scope
of it is actually becoming more
difficult to manage the things that
almost in a spiritual sense the things
that you attract to yourself and also if
you think about it in terms of altitude
the higher you go the harder it is to
breathe there’s less oxygen and I think
within that phrase what I get from that
with marlon brando but what happens is
if you think about it in terms of
mountain climbing mountain climbing the
higher and the higher you get the less
oxygen there is the harder it is to
breathe as you get to this successful
space and the first thing people want to
do is get down and what you do by
getting down is self-destructive and i’m
just working hard to make sure that i
don’t allow the lack of oxygen
to dull my appreciation for the gifts I’ve been given
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