so my invitation to you is really simple
you can get free of suffering but in
order to do it you got to realize it’s
all your expectations that make you
suffer I’ll give you one quick example
I’m fortunate enough like mark I’ve my
own plane so I can fly you know anywhere
in the world and I travel this last year
to 16 countries so it’s a great
privilege to have a bed and go straight
to China a non-stop unbelievable but
most of my life I took commercial
aircraft and after a while I started
chartering in the US but going overseas
is too expensive so I didn’t do that I
so I found half my time I was on an
airplane about every four days that was
an airplane or on stage one of the two
pretty intense life so hypsi enough and
those days I go three times a year to
Australia I still do but those days
commercially and I get on Qantas
airlines on a flight here in San
Francisco or LA in those days and it’s a
14-hour flight and there’s just one
problem
31 companies those days it was like two
dozen companies or 15 companies I got
all these people are responsible for I’m
a committed guy and what how am I
connected 24/7 right we all know what it
is it’s all these tools that we develop
all this technology but I was used to
domestically you got connection to
either people while you’re flying but
you get on that 14-hour flight death no
technology no web that was like so
frustrated why do they do this
these 14 hours they can be so productive
oh my god who knows what I’m talking
about here I got a sense what I’m
talking about so what happens one day
after years are going through this
before I had my own plane I’m on I’m on
this flight and Qantas airlines
announces we’re about to take off guess
what
we can now probably tell you we now have
international internet and it was like
people cheered some people stood out in
the aisles and clap I didn’t but I felt
like doing it it was just like this is
incredible it’s like God to send it into
the building
we have internet we got Instagram we got
Facebook we got a email this is the most
amazing thing and then what do you think
happened within 15 minutes what do you
think happened tell me come on
it broke down and when do you think it
worked again never 14 hours without it
and people insist this
I can’t believe this crap I’m not
putting up 15 minutes earlier it was a
miracle now it’s already an expectation
write this down if you want to change
your life
trade your expectations for appreciation
and your whole life will change in that
moment trade your expectations for
appreciation and your whole life will
change in that moment if you are
suffering there’s only one reason things
aren’t meeting your expectations what
are the chances of everyone in your life
meeting your expectations for the rest
of your life what are they what are your
expectations that God or the universe
will meet your expectations every moment
see I’d like you are you married sir she
here oh she’s with your twins how
beautiful congratulations I would never
want to see you have any pain if I could
ever avoid if I could do anything about
but I’m not God so I could do something
different since I’m not God I can get
you to consider something that if you
did it would give you freedom it would
be an absolute commitment in yourself to
say life is too short to suffer God has
given me this creation and I’m gonna
love every moment I’m gonna find ecstasy
every moment of my children even when
they do crazy even when they’re
Rugrats I’m gonna have to look at my
wife even when she doesn’t seem to be
listening to me or my husband isn’t I’m
gonna do it even if she left me I can’t
control her leaving him but I can’t
control one thing you can make the
decision that you were gonna find beauty
and everything in life you learned from
everything in life and that is the only
way you’ll be out of suffering otherwise
you won’t matter how much money you make
and won’t matter how many people love
you does now me great kids you have are
there gonna be disasters and challenges
for all of us yes or no yes or no all of
us I don’t care which you are
financially I don’t care how smart you
are don’t have you have an IQ of a
genius I don’t care if you’ve got the
biggest company in the world every
person in the room is gonna experience
extreme stress in your future everyone
here will have something a robbery a
house that burns down an earthquake
somebody that cheats you somebody steals
money from you somebody you totally
trusted and then they screw you over
somebody that betrays you aren’t you
glad you came to this positive seminar
see you thought as mr. positive thinking
you’re so wrong see I’m a realist I
don’t believe I’m not stupid I don’t
think that everybody I know that most
people are not fit and healthy most
people around the world do not have a
relationship where they’re totally
passionate most people do not love their
work
true or false
but if you do I’m interesting the few
who do versus the many who talk I’m
interested in the few that lived the
beautiful States versus the masses that
suffer and I also know that anyone can
end that suffering in a moment if you
make the decision that says I have
decided this day forward I’m gonna find
beauty and everything might be in a
beautiful state and that means if you
start to suffer by the way you’re gonna
suffer we all do because this brain is
too many years old and it’s gonna keep
acting it’s gonna keep looking what’s
wrong but the difference is when it
comes in if you’ve made the decision
you’ll start to suffer and I created
invited myself a 90 second rule I got 90
seconds get this out of it and
those 90 seconds I figure out what it is
and I know how to stop suffer I’m
suffering cuz I’m having an expectation
that’s not being met and well I think
it’s life and death it’s just my
preference it’s my preference that you
guys had more energy than we started
it’s my preference that you’d have a
great time it’s my preference that my
kids would do everything I want them to
do it’s my preference and all my
employees across all these companies
will do all the right things every day
God will laugh at your preferences and
what I found is I have my preferences
which are wonderful but I’m just going
to live in a beautiful state because
life is precious
hey what if you were God and you come
down and you talked to one of your
creations and you say how does it doing
daddy how’s it going down here on earth
what do you think and a person that
you’re talking to you that you created
goes well dad I mean you could have done
a better job I mean come on why’d you
make it so freakin foggy here in San
Francisco
I couldn’t land my plane the other day
and why would you the planes they could
come through the fog I mean your God and
why did you make all these irritating
people you know I asked someone
irritating people they try to stop me
from doing things
and also it’s just like why didn’t just
make me wrench why do I have to work and
besides that you have these little ants
you little red ants they’re like this
small and they bite the out of me
why would you crate those for me did you
heard all this bitching and you were God
would you want to hang out with this
person if you’re a god you might you
know say no what if you go to somebody
else you go what do you think one of the
other creations and that person says god
you’re amazing this is the most
beautiful place on earth is heaven this
is extraordinary I mean there’s so many
different kinds of people they
challenged me in so many different ways
I have to grow to understand them and
understand myself and and you make the
fog and you make the Sun and it’s always
changing so I’m never bored and you make
these little red ants damn they’re
courageous though I’m ten thousand times
your size they’ll bite my ass that’s
pretty cool who would you want to spend
time with the first person of the second
one if you were God which one so if
you’re not experiencing God perhaps
you’re bitching too much perhaps it’s
not God perhaps it’s you and your
whining and your suffering so I want to
finish with this if you want to stop
suffering first you got to know how
you’re suffering recognize and be honest
second you can’t tolerate we all get
what we tolerate so you have to make the
decision I’m gonna be in a beautiful
state the rest of my life doesn’t have
to be happy it could be determined it
could be curious it could be committed
it could be energized it could be
grateful it could be loving it could be
happy it could be any of these but I am
going to be that every day because I’m
capable and I’ve shown you early you are
because how fast can you change your
state my friends how fast come on guys
how fast if you stop using your mind and
you use your body and your heart your
spirit that’s what will put you there
the mind won’t keep you there I might be
there from when things go your way your
mind will feel happy but what happens
when they don’t let’s talking man the
other day he was telling me all about
his company and he lost the company
built it up it was a billion dollar
company and then you know the venture
capitalist guys voted him out of his own
company I said welcome to Steve Jobs his
world
and they told me this new companies
creating but he doesn’t want to put in –
he’s afraid of getting hurt again
I said you lost that company for a
reason perhaps it so you can build this
company which is going to save people’s
health what if you and I
we stopped the suffering by having one
new belief here’s what I believe in my
soul life is always happening for us
never to us we think it’s happening to
us because of our minds but it’s all
happening for us even the pain even the
disappointment even the problems if my
mother had been the mother I’d wanted I
would not be here today I would not say
if I father are not left I would not
feed a billion people much less not a
million that’s just a thousand maybe
life isn’t always about getting your
preferences maybe life is about you
becoming more and when you do you feel
more alive and you have more to give and
that’s the purpose of life because when
we’re giving we’re outside of herself
there’s no suffering when we’re giving
in fact when you’re most happy and
excited about something with the first
thing you want to do how many of you the
minute something great happens you want
to share it with somebody you love raise
your hand if that’s what you want to do
say aye
why coz will you share it there’s only
so much you can feel inside even if you
have sex or rock and roll love drugs
whatever you think is gonna make float
your boat money you really feel so much
but when you share it it multiplies so
here’s the f note suffering identify of
your favorite flavor make the decision
that says I will not suffer I’m gonna
live in a beautiful state no matter no
matter what if it rains on your parade
what if your best friend screws you over
what if somebody yells at you what if
you get humiliated what if you go broke
what if you lose your job could you
still be happy yes or no other people
lost arms legs been blinded lost their
family and they’re still loving and
happy and beautiful yes or no and they
aren’t just mother Teresa they’re not
just Nelson Mandela there any human
being that decides to live worth not
about themselves sisters I love you so
much well the reason I want to support
you the reason we made those prayers
that I decided I was going to fulfill
those for you is because you don’t just
feed people you love people people that
no one else people forgotten and you’re
there every day you ask for nothing and
I know that’s why you’re fulfilled I
honor you both I love you the best way
to end suffering has killed a monster
while it’s little don’t wait till it’s
Godzilla eating your whole city in life
if you turn yourself and train yourself
to do it
and by the way I did this year and a
half ago and to give you an idea and
what happened was I felt the most joy
I’ve ever felt in my life and then I had
three incidents and you understand how I
entered the room I’ve been onstage for
39 years working with 50 million people
I give my all every day this is easy
this is three hours my average seminar
is 50 hours my stress here is three
hours because I don’t like to talk I
like to go deep as you might gather and
I like to condition it when we get up
and do things there’s only so much fun
and those 50 hours I go full tilt I’ve
been doing that for 39 years if I clap
like a crazy man I jump much more
intensely in here because I’m putting it
down for you guys because you think I’m
crazy when I first come in especially
were you guys started with your energy I
look like a maniac but what I found when
that time is doing that hammering like
that could damage the nerves of my arms
and so all of a sudden I couldn’t sleep
on my side which I’ve done my whole
life’s no big deal I’ll sleep on my back
it’s painful who cares I manage pain
every great athlete does that a good
person does that but then my wife is
freaking out saying honey you’re choking
you’re not breathing and I was exhausted
and I went and did a sleep study if I
had sleep apnea but it was extreme in 17
minutes I stopped breathing 18 times
that doesn’t make for a very much rest
that doesn’t make for her health
so now I have this really sexy device
it’s called a sleep out you stick it on
your face it’s a mask and it pours
oxygen you will get girls with this
I promise you but they’ll be in the
hospital the girls that you’ll get right
and so I’m like I can’t believe this I’m
breathing through this breather now
because these nerves and then I’m kind
of crazy I’m snowboarding and I ripped
three rotator cuffs
not a problem it’s painful I’ll get it
worked but then the pain won’t go away
and the pain becomes nerve pain that’s
shooting so bad I know how to deal with
pain but on a zero to ten nine point
nine and it’s so severe I can’t sleep
I’m in so much pain and I don’t want to
do surgery and the surgeon says well
it’s in your spine he comes in and tells
me it’s not just your rotator cuff so
you have something called spinal
stenosis where it’s tightening around
your spine and crushing the Nerds and
there really isn’t a solution we get a
surgery but it’s no guarantee and
they’re side effects and the guy got
away first tells me all I’ve been to
your business mastery program I’m making
a million two more a year and I went to
Sutter praise tell me you changed my
life because I gotta tell you I’m your
doctor I’m gonna show you something your
life is over
that was his bedside manner I had not
trained him obviously in these
communication tools ain’t oh I can’t
snowboard I can’t play racquetball
squash I can’t you know I can’t jump
around I can’t do this stuff but I don’t
accept that I was told that a tumor in
my brain when I was 32 it’s still there
and I’m fine I didn’t treat it I’m fine
it gave me massive growth I was 5-1 in
high school I’m sick seven I tell people
the difference is personal growth I had
growth hormone that exploded me up I
still the tumor to grow so I didn’t
accept this diagnosis I didn’t say it
wasn’t there I just said I won’t accept
there’s nothing could be done and the
world ran today you can find answers and
slice I push that I know so those best
doctors around the world and I found a
doctor in Australia said to me Tony we
can do this you sent me MRIs the people
with similar situations in the way they
solve it is with a hundred hours of
hyperbaric oxygen will you go inside a
coffin and they make it so pressure
about 65 pounds bull or 65 feet below
the ocean pressure and they fill you of
oxygen and it releases the eight hundred
percent more stem cells and it starts to
heal and he says to me though before you
come all the way to Australia which is
where he is go do these blood tests so I
can see what’s happened to your blood
how much inflammation yet what’s going
on and I said okay and I went did it
when I was there the guy he was doing
the blood said you want to do a meadows
test I seen like mercury I said I had my
amalgams out 25 years ago he goes what
we do lead and we do aluminum I said all
right let’s do it
and then the doctor calls me two weeks
later every single day and I’m busy so I
said send me the report because I must
speak to you on message so I call him up
and he said you should be in the
hospital right now
so what he said you have a highest level
of mercury we’ve ever measured here in
the United States we measure on 0 to 5
scale if you’re 3 or above your body’s
so toxic you can die you can have a
heart attack you kind of a stroke you
are 123
he said the highest I’ve ever measured
is 76
I said that’s impossible how could that
be he said we can tell what type of
mercury that’s fish and I was like oh my
god I’m so and
in my life that I made my diet really
simple it’s salad veggies and fish and
the two fish I always had and I’m
telling you this is swordfish which I
loved and tuna they are 75 year old
living fish and they eat all the smaller
fish they have a thousand times more
mercury today but no one tells you this
because the fishing industry would be
ended if he knew it so and two of the
doctors looked at it and when the off
doctor said how long’s he been in the
hospital I just got off stage in a 50
hour seminar 5-0 Oh over four days and I
was like no wonder I’m exhausted
it destroys your mitochondria which
creates ATP which creates energy I’m
thinking I’m just exhausted as I’m
working so hard and then I was also
losing my memory and then I’ve always
sweat but sweat like I did when I first
ran on stage here because if I start
running all of a sudden my body has to
work so hard
it just it’s pushing to keep going I
would be dead today if I had not torn my
rotator cuffs if I not hurt my spine if
I’d not been in a position where I hurt
my arm so bad I can’t sleep on my slide
how to put a sleep app on life is always
happening for us not to us even when it
doesn’t look that way it’s our job to
find the benefit I’m telling you this
now for another reason which is please
go get your metals test because the
world were in today is so toxic that out
of 12 of my friends that I told this in
the first few weeks six of them all had
poisoning and they thought they were
just exhausted or tired of frustrating
lots of people get diagnosed with
dementia I found myself on stage it’s
happened once or twice here hopefully
you didn’t notice but I can tell you now
where I fought where the hell am I and
I’ve never had that in my life I do
fifty hours without missing a beat and
it’s changing I don’t have a script I’m
looking at you I’m feeling I’m
responding but I go like why am I
telling the story but all that will come
back when it’s gone down to eighteen
from 123 has taken me nine months to do
it I’m not there yet but I’m almost
there thank you very much
if you’re watching somewhere else in the
world in here go get a metals test and
if you do and you you got this in your
body get it out there’s a man named dr.
Shane is one of the best
metals guys in the world he can find him
on the web he’s made a giant difference
for me and I’m gonna get those things
back but I wouldn’t got him back unless
all these horrible things has happened I
just give it to you as a metaphor for
what you think is your worst day could
be your best day but it’ll carve some
faith faith that there’s a
purpose and everything happens our lives
and making ourselves look for it so I
want to finish by showing you how to end
suffering in two minutes there are many
ways they don’t have any more time I’m
out of time you’ve been so gracious I
hope this has been touching for you I
hope it’s made you think who here has
decided in your gut suffering ends here
tonight I’m curious you’re not all
you’re gonna do it who really is gonna
do the say I then I want to ask you to
two things I want you to ask you to send
me a note and you can send the note too
and what I have my team put it up
there’s an e-mail don’t throw it up I
don’t know what the name of it is quite
honestly I would love to hear your
commitment and why and I’d love to have
you copy that to two people you respect
to people you love because if you do
that they’re gonna know why you’re gonna
do this why you want to live this
beautiful state every day why you’ll do
it no matter what even if it doesn’t
that ends suffering now tony robbins
calm and i would love to hear your story
of what you’re gonna do that’s why I
came by here I’ll be inspired by it but
more importantly you’ll be making a
commitment on nobody but if you commit
by telling me and a couple other people
that matter you might also inspire them
to consider the possibility I wish I
could go deeper on the subject but what
I want to give you as a tool because if
you make the decision then you’re gonna
come up with suffering how do you end it
by the way when I say 90 second rule and
the beginning it should have been a four
hour rule maybe a few years ago
should’ve been a for a weak rule like
but now once I’ve done it over and over
again just like getting in state it
becomes a habit and now you can do it so
easily and the freedom you’ll feel be
amazing but let’s finish by showing you
how to do it and I’ll do it with a real
experience for you stand up shake your
body out before we do anything else
let’s crank the energy so high level to
do this I want you to face a party go
[Applause]
I want you to outdo their energy for
twenty seconds and I want you to zero to
ten to go to level twenty so ten feels
like it will be relaxing let’s clap and
before we leave let me make two
announcements enough this will go we’ll
do our own suffering if you like to help
someone else and suffering join me spend
ten bucks let me double it or hundred
let me double it whatever good you do
all double up to five million feeding
America North America quorum you can do
it or how many found tonight to be
profound you’d like to continue this
kind of feeling say if you want to get
something that’ll support you long term
I have a digital product it’s called the
ultimate edge probably saw it years ago
it’s an updated it’s three hundred
dollars you want to get it two hundred
dollars if you do it now about I’ll
doing a hundred percent of the profits
to another organization that I’d love to
make a difference with and it’s an
organization that frees people that are
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extraordinary
I’ll give every penny that you invest in
yourself those two hundred dollars do do
don’t think about eighteen of you to
free one child what would it be like
I’ve feed two hundred in the last two
weeks I love the free another 100 in
partnership with you while you change
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can go to show them the text where they
go slip it up there real fast and take a
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there it is so if you text dream force
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you’ll get to the benefit of changing
your life and the last thing is if you’d
like to come to a real seminar instead
of three hours and an environment where
where everybody is primed for this kind
of experience I’m coming here to San
Francisco coming up here in November
10th through the 12th and if you also
text or go to my organization there
they’ll give you hundred dollars off if
you want to go I’m on feed a million
people in San Francisco by the way that
week here in November that’s going to be
my gift out of that event as well so
it’s something we can all do together if
you’d like just reach out do it those
are ways you can continue the journey if
you want to I’ve given you a book I hope
it’s helpful for you on the financial
side if you want a second opinion or a
second opinion calm that’s it let me
route through the final piece shake your
body out here’s what I want you to do
think of a place where you have suffered
frustration overall anger sadness
feeling not enough something and what if
there was a quick way to end it here’s
how that can be done in a matter of
moments first you only suffer because of
what you focus on and you’re focusing on
one of three things three words you want
to remember going forward loss less or
never if you’re suffering it’s because
your brain believes because you did
something to me or the government did or
the company did or the other employee
did or I did something or because you
didn’t do something or I didn’t do
something I have lost something loss
love lost time lost energy lost respect
while significance lost anything the
illusion of loss makes us suffer all
you’ve lost was your expectations
weren’t met because there’s no guarantee
in life could we walk across the street
get by a car of course we can that’s
loss everything else is an illusion it
just means your preferences weren’t met
the second thing I’ll let you suffer is
if you think something you did or didn’t
do or something someone else did or
didn’t do cause you have less of
something you value less love less joy
less time less energy less
acknowledgement if you feel like you
have less you will suffer and the third
one and the worst one is if your brain
starts believing that you failed to do
something I fail to do something or you
did something or I did something that
means I will never have that love have
that joy have that says success have
that acknowledgement have that freedom
when our brain believes we’ve lost or we
have less or whenever we suffer and all
those are illusions the way you get out
of it is really simple you’re never
gonna go from suffering to joy it’s to
pick a jump so you go from suffering to
appreciating something how many of you
no matter how bad your life is there’s
something you can appreciate your health
your children your life the country let
how many got something you can
appreciate say hi is there something you
can appreciate in every moment even in
the worst moment you’ve been in yes or
no yes or no and if you’re so smart
which I know you are you should be
easily find those things all it is as
you decide I’m not going to suffer so
when I feel it within 90 seconds I
figured out what it is
I don’t live there I find something to
appreciate I find something next to
enjoy second step once you appreciate
enjoy I want to learn for this what can
I learn what I can’t grow if in the
middle of that problem you learn from
that relationship then it’s not about
ending a relationship anymore if you
grow from it you’re gonna feel a lot in
thirdly third step after appreciate
really learn and grow throw it up if you
do anything loving if you give anything
if you’re grateful your suffering will
end are there people that have been
concentration camps that were able to
end suffering even though there is
physical pain yes or no what I learned
through all this pain in my body was
there’s pain there suffering one other
difference pain is that shock feeling or
pressure and tension running up my spine
suffering is why did this happen to me
will I ever be able to do this again can
I ever get back on stage what am i how
long will this will this will this last
the story is the suffering it’s easy to
deal with pain if the suffering that
makes it so hard raise your hand if you
fall what I’m talking about here say I
so I’m gonna give you one technique
right now we’ll do it really fast you
don’t work shake your body out in fact
right now develop a quick pattern I want
you to make a move that if you made that
move you feel strong again so we just
try so make a strong move us I’m sorry
make a move make a move make a move make
a sound we just shut the word yes when
you make people make the move say yes
say yes say yes here’s what you do how
many of you have a situation either at
home or in your work environment where
there’s some unfinished business where
there’s a situation with a person or a
situation that you need to handle and
it’s stressful inside when you think
about it so you trying to have to think
about it and do other stuff but it’s got
to be handled and you’ve not handled it
how many got an area where there’s some
suffering like that raise your hand nice
and high let me see virtually everybody
good think of that situation that really
bugs you and really think about how it
really feels if you really let yourself
focus on
and feel what that suffering can be like
and I want you to pick something then on
a scale from zero to ten where ten is
total suffer and zero is no suffering at
all that’s in the 8 or above range at
least 7 8 9 10
don’t pick a little one because you
won’t notice in this quick moment enough
for you to feel I want you to feel a
difference how many got something that
needs to be handled
you’ve not resolved it either pissed off
or you feel hurt or you feel worried or
you’re concerned and you’ve not handled
it you put it off and it needs to be
handled your head if you got and the
pain of it isn’t if you focus on it is 7
8 9 or 10 let me see your hands
awesome here’s I want to show you a
group of scientists discovered something
about 20 years ago that’s amazing if I
measure your brain waves and your heart
waves your EEG and EKG you’ve probably
seen them on you know on medical pieces
they look very jagged when you’re
stressed they don’t look anything alike
your brain waves in your heart waves but
if all you do is put both your hands on
your heart try it now and you physically
feel your heart see the example I’m
giving you so this is frustration you
can see they look nothing like each other
you can get free of suffering but in
order to do it you got to realize it’s
all your expectations that make you
suffer I’ll give you one quick example
I’m fortunate enough like mark I’ve my
own plane so I can fly you know anywhere
in the world and I travel this last year
to 16 countries so it’s a great
privilege to have a bed and go straight
to China a non-stop unbelievable but
most of my life I took commercial
aircraft and after a while I started
chartering in the US but going overseas
is too expensive so I didn’t do that I
so I found half my time I was on an
airplane about every four days that was
an airplane or on stage one of the two
pretty intense life so hypsi enough and
those days I go three times a year to
Australia I still do but those days
commercially and I get on Qantas
airlines on a flight here in San
Francisco or LA in those days and it’s a
14-hour flight and there’s just one
problem
31 companies those days it was like two
dozen companies or 15 companies I got
all these people are responsible for I’m
a committed guy and what how am I
connected 24/7 right we all know what it
is it’s all these tools that we develop
all this technology but I was used to
domestically you got connection to
either people while you’re flying but
you get on that 14-hour flight death no
technology no web that was like so
frustrated why do they do this
these 14 hours they can be so productive
oh my god who knows what I’m talking
about here I got a sense what I’m
talking about so what happens one day
after years are going through this
before I had my own plane I’m on I’m on
this flight and Qantas airlines
announces we’re about to take off guess
what
we can now probably tell you we now have
international internet and it was like
people cheered some people stood out in
the aisles and clap I didn’t but I felt
like doing it it was just like this is
incredible it’s like God to send it into
the building
we have internet we got Instagram we got
Facebook we got a email this is the most
amazing thing and then what do you think
happened within 15 minutes what do you
think happened tell me come on
it broke down and when do you think it
worked again never 14 hours without it
and people insist this
I can’t believe this crap I’m not
putting up 15 minutes earlier it was a
miracle now it’s already an expectation
write this down if you want to change
your life
trade your expectations for appreciation
and your whole life will change in that
moment trade your expectations for
appreciation and your whole life will
change in that moment if you are
suffering there’s only one reason things
aren’t meeting your expectations what
are the chances of everyone in your life
meeting your expectations for the rest
of your life what are they what are your
expectations that God or the universe
will meet your expectations every moment
see I’d like you are you married sir she
here oh she’s with your twins how
beautiful congratulations I would never
want to see you have any pain if I could
ever avoid if I could do anything about
but I’m not God so I could do something
different since I’m not God I can get
you to consider something that if you
did it would give you freedom it would
be an absolute commitment in yourself to
say life is too short to suffer God has
given me this creation and I’m gonna
love every moment I’m gonna find ecstasy
every moment of my children even when
they do crazy even when they’re
Rugrats I’m gonna have to look at my
wife even when she doesn’t seem to be
listening to me or my husband isn’t I’m
gonna do it even if she left me I can’t
control her leaving him but I can’t
control one thing you can make the
decision that you were gonna find beauty
and everything in life you learned from
everything in life and that is the only
way you’ll be out of suffering otherwise
you won’t matter how much money you make
and won’t matter how many people love
you does now me great kids you have are
there gonna be disasters and challenges
for all of us yes or no yes or no all of
us I don’t care which you are
financially I don’t care how smart you
are don’t have you have an IQ of a
genius I don’t care if you’ve got the
biggest company in the world every
person in the room is gonna experience
extreme stress in your future everyone
here will have something a robbery a
house that burns down an earthquake
somebody that cheats you somebody steals
money from you somebody you totally
trusted and then they screw you over
somebody that betrays you aren’t you
glad you came to this positive seminar
see you thought as mr. positive thinking
you’re so wrong see I’m a realist I
don’t believe I’m not stupid I don’t
think that everybody I know that most
people are not fit and healthy most
people around the world do not have a
relationship where they’re totally
passionate most people do not love their
work
true or false
but if you do I’m interesting the few
who do versus the many who talk I’m
interested in the few that lived the
beautiful States versus the masses that
suffer and I also know that anyone can
end that suffering in a moment if you
make the decision that says I have
decided this day forward I’m gonna find
beauty and everything might be in a
beautiful state and that means if you
start to suffer by the way you’re gonna
suffer we all do because this brain is
too many years old and it’s gonna keep
acting it’s gonna keep looking what’s
wrong but the difference is when it
comes in if you’ve made the decision
you’ll start to suffer and I created
invited myself a 90 second rule I got 90
seconds get this out of it and
those 90 seconds I figure out what it is
and I know how to stop suffer I’m
suffering cuz I’m having an expectation
that’s not being met and well I think
it’s life and death it’s just my
preference it’s my preference that you
guys had more energy than we started
it’s my preference that you’d have a
great time it’s my preference that my
kids would do everything I want them to
do it’s my preference and all my
employees across all these companies
will do all the right things every day
God will laugh at your preferences and
what I found is I have my preferences
which are wonderful but I’m just going
to live in a beautiful state because
life is precious
hey what if you were God and you come
down and you talked to one of your
creations and you say how does it doing
daddy how’s it going down here on earth
what do you think and a person that
you’re talking to you that you created
goes well dad I mean you could have done
a better job I mean come on why’d you
make it so freakin foggy here in San
Francisco
I couldn’t land my plane the other day
and why would you the planes they could
come through the fog I mean your God and
why did you make all these irritating
people you know I asked someone
irritating people they try to stop me
from doing things
and also it’s just like why didn’t just
make me wrench why do I have to work and
besides that you have these little ants
you little red ants they’re like this
small and they bite the out of me
why would you crate those for me did you
heard all this bitching and you were God
would you want to hang out with this
person if you’re a god you might you
know say no what if you go to somebody
else you go what do you think one of the
other creations and that person says god
you’re amazing this is the most
beautiful place on earth is heaven this
is extraordinary I mean there’s so many
different kinds of people they
challenged me in so many different ways
I have to grow to understand them and
understand myself and and you make the
fog and you make the Sun and it’s always
changing so I’m never bored and you make
these little red ants damn they’re
courageous though I’m ten thousand times
your size they’ll bite my ass that’s
pretty cool who would you want to spend
time with the first person of the second
one if you were God which one so if
you’re not experiencing God perhaps
you’re bitching too much perhaps it’s
not God perhaps it’s you and your
whining and your suffering so I want to
finish with this if you want to stop
suffering first you got to know how
you’re suffering recognize and be honest
second you can’t tolerate we all get
what we tolerate so you have to make the
decision I’m gonna be in a beautiful
state the rest of my life doesn’t have
to be happy it could be determined it
could be curious it could be committed
it could be energized it could be
grateful it could be loving it could be
happy it could be any of these but I am
going to be that every day because I’m
capable and I’ve shown you early you are
because how fast can you change your
state my friends how fast come on guys
how fast if you stop using your mind and
you use your body and your heart your
spirit that’s what will put you there
the mind won’t keep you there I might be
there from when things go your way your
mind will feel happy but what happens
when they don’t let’s talking man the
other day he was telling me all about
his company and he lost the company
built it up it was a billion dollar
company and then you know the venture
capitalist guys voted him out of his own
company I said welcome to Steve Jobs his
world
and they told me this new companies
creating but he doesn’t want to put in –
he’s afraid of getting hurt again
I said you lost that company for a
reason perhaps it so you can build this
company which is going to save people’s
health what if you and I
we stopped the suffering by having one
new belief here’s what I believe in my
soul life is always happening for us
never to us we think it’s happening to
us because of our minds but it’s all
happening for us even the pain even the
disappointment even the problems if my
mother had been the mother I’d wanted I
would not be here today I would not say
if I father are not left I would not
feed a billion people much less not a
million that’s just a thousand maybe
life isn’t always about getting your
preferences maybe life is about you
becoming more and when you do you feel
more alive and you have more to give and
that’s the purpose of life because when
we’re giving we’re outside of herself
there’s no suffering when we’re giving
in fact when you’re most happy and
excited about something with the first
thing you want to do how many of you the
minute something great happens you want
to share it with somebody you love raise
your hand if that’s what you want to do
say aye
why coz will you share it there’s only
so much you can feel inside even if you
have sex or rock and roll love drugs
whatever you think is gonna make float
your boat money you really feel so much
but when you share it it multiplies so
here’s the f note suffering identify of
your favorite flavor make the decision
that says I will not suffer I’m gonna
live in a beautiful state no matter no
matter what if it rains on your parade
what if your best friend screws you over
what if somebody yells at you what if
you get humiliated what if you go broke
what if you lose your job could you
still be happy yes or no other people
lost arms legs been blinded lost their
family and they’re still loving and
happy and beautiful yes or no and they
aren’t just mother Teresa they’re not
just Nelson Mandela there any human
being that decides to live worth not
about themselves sisters I love you so
much well the reason I want to support
you the reason we made those prayers
that I decided I was going to fulfill
those for you is because you don’t just
feed people you love people people that
no one else people forgotten and you’re
there every day you ask for nothing and
I know that’s why you’re fulfilled I
honor you both I love you the best way
to end suffering has killed a monster
while it’s little don’t wait till it’s
Godzilla eating your whole city in life
if you turn yourself and train yourself
to do it
and by the way I did this year and a
half ago and to give you an idea and
what happened was I felt the most joy
I’ve ever felt in my life and then I had
three incidents and you understand how I
entered the room I’ve been onstage for
39 years working with 50 million people
I give my all every day this is easy
this is three hours my average seminar
is 50 hours my stress here is three
hours because I don’t like to talk I
like to go deep as you might gather and
I like to condition it when we get up
and do things there’s only so much fun
and those 50 hours I go full tilt I’ve
been doing that for 39 years if I clap
like a crazy man I jump much more
intensely in here because I’m putting it
down for you guys because you think I’m
crazy when I first come in especially
were you guys started with your energy I
look like a maniac but what I found when
that time is doing that hammering like
that could damage the nerves of my arms
and so all of a sudden I couldn’t sleep
on my side which I’ve done my whole
life’s no big deal I’ll sleep on my back
it’s painful who cares I manage pain
every great athlete does that a good
person does that but then my wife is
freaking out saying honey you’re choking
you’re not breathing and I was exhausted
and I went and did a sleep study if I
had sleep apnea but it was extreme in 17
minutes I stopped breathing 18 times
that doesn’t make for a very much rest
that doesn’t make for her health
so now I have this really sexy device
it’s called a sleep out you stick it on
your face it’s a mask and it pours
oxygen you will get girls with this
I promise you but they’ll be in the
hospital the girls that you’ll get right
and so I’m like I can’t believe this I’m
breathing through this breather now
because these nerves and then I’m kind
of crazy I’m snowboarding and I ripped
three rotator cuffs
not a problem it’s painful I’ll get it
worked but then the pain won’t go away
and the pain becomes nerve pain that’s
shooting so bad I know how to deal with
pain but on a zero to ten nine point
nine and it’s so severe I can’t sleep
I’m in so much pain and I don’t want to
do surgery and the surgeon says well
it’s in your spine he comes in and tells
me it’s not just your rotator cuff so
you have something called spinal
stenosis where it’s tightening around
your spine and crushing the Nerds and
there really isn’t a solution we get a
surgery but it’s no guarantee and
they’re side effects and the guy got
away first tells me all I’ve been to
your business mastery program I’m making
a million two more a year and I went to
Sutter praise tell me you changed my
life because I gotta tell you I’m your
doctor I’m gonna show you something your
life is over
that was his bedside manner I had not
trained him obviously in these
communication tools ain’t oh I can’t
snowboard I can’t play racquetball
squash I can’t you know I can’t jump
around I can’t do this stuff but I don’t
accept that I was told that a tumor in
my brain when I was 32 it’s still there
and I’m fine I didn’t treat it I’m fine
it gave me massive growth I was 5-1 in
high school I’m sick seven I tell people
the difference is personal growth I had
growth hormone that exploded me up I
still the tumor to grow so I didn’t
accept this diagnosis I didn’t say it
wasn’t there I just said I won’t accept
there’s nothing could be done and the
world ran today you can find answers and
slice I push that I know so those best
doctors around the world and I found a
doctor in Australia said to me Tony we
can do this you sent me MRIs the people
with similar situations in the way they
solve it is with a hundred hours of
hyperbaric oxygen will you go inside a
coffin and they make it so pressure
about 65 pounds bull or 65 feet below
the ocean pressure and they fill you of
oxygen and it releases the eight hundred
percent more stem cells and it starts to
heal and he says to me though before you
come all the way to Australia which is
where he is go do these blood tests so I
can see what’s happened to your blood
how much inflammation yet what’s going
on and I said okay and I went did it
when I was there the guy he was doing
the blood said you want to do a meadows
test I seen like mercury I said I had my
amalgams out 25 years ago he goes what
we do lead and we do aluminum I said all
right let’s do it
and then the doctor calls me two weeks
later every single day and I’m busy so I
said send me the report because I must
speak to you on message so I call him up
and he said you should be in the
hospital right now
so what he said you have a highest level
of mercury we’ve ever measured here in
the United States we measure on 0 to 5
scale if you’re 3 or above your body’s
so toxic you can die you can have a
heart attack you kind of a stroke you
are 123
he said the highest I’ve ever measured
is 76
I said that’s impossible how could that
be he said we can tell what type of
mercury that’s fish and I was like oh my
god I’m so and
in my life that I made my diet really
simple it’s salad veggies and fish and
the two fish I always had and I’m
telling you this is swordfish which I
loved and tuna they are 75 year old
living fish and they eat all the smaller
fish they have a thousand times more
mercury today but no one tells you this
because the fishing industry would be
ended if he knew it so and two of the
doctors looked at it and when the off
doctor said how long’s he been in the
hospital I just got off stage in a 50
hour seminar 5-0 Oh over four days and I
was like no wonder I’m exhausted
it destroys your mitochondria which
creates ATP which creates energy I’m
thinking I’m just exhausted as I’m
working so hard and then I was also
losing my memory and then I’ve always
sweat but sweat like I did when I first
ran on stage here because if I start
running all of a sudden my body has to
work so hard
it just it’s pushing to keep going I
would be dead today if I had not torn my
rotator cuffs if I not hurt my spine if
I’d not been in a position where I hurt
my arm so bad I can’t sleep on my slide
how to put a sleep app on life is always
happening for us not to us even when it
doesn’t look that way it’s our job to
find the benefit I’m telling you this
now for another reason which is please
go get your metals test because the
world were in today is so toxic that out
of 12 of my friends that I told this in
the first few weeks six of them all had
poisoning and they thought they were
just exhausted or tired of frustrating
lots of people get diagnosed with
dementia I found myself on stage it’s
happened once or twice here hopefully
you didn’t notice but I can tell you now
where I fought where the hell am I and
I’ve never had that in my life I do
fifty hours without missing a beat and
it’s changing I don’t have a script I’m
looking at you I’m feeling I’m
responding but I go like why am I
telling the story but all that will come
back when it’s gone down to eighteen
from 123 has taken me nine months to do
it I’m not there yet but I’m almost
there thank you very much
if you’re watching somewhere else in the
world in here go get a metals test and
if you do and you you got this in your
body get it out there’s a man named dr.
Shane is one of the best
metals guys in the world he can find him
on the web he’s made a giant difference
for me and I’m gonna get those things
back but I wouldn’t got him back unless
all these horrible things has happened I
just give it to you as a metaphor for
what you think is your worst day could
be your best day but it’ll carve some
faith faith that there’s a
purpose and everything happens our lives
and making ourselves look for it so I
want to finish by showing you how to end
suffering in two minutes there are many
ways they don’t have any more time I’m
out of time you’ve been so gracious I
hope this has been touching for you I
hope it’s made you think who here has
decided in your gut suffering ends here
tonight I’m curious you’re not all
you’re gonna do it who really is gonna
do the say I then I want to ask you to
two things I want you to ask you to send
me a note and you can send the note too
and what I have my team put it up
there’s an e-mail don’t throw it up I
don’t know what the name of it is quite
honestly I would love to hear your
commitment and why and I’d love to have
you copy that to two people you respect
to people you love because if you do
that they’re gonna know why you’re gonna
do this why you want to live this
beautiful state every day why you’ll do
it no matter what even if it doesn’t
that ends suffering now tony robbins
calm and i would love to hear your story
of what you’re gonna do that’s why I
came by here I’ll be inspired by it but
more importantly you’ll be making a
commitment on nobody but if you commit
by telling me and a couple other people
that matter you might also inspire them
to consider the possibility I wish I
could go deeper on the subject but what
I want to give you as a tool because if
you make the decision then you’re gonna
come up with suffering how do you end it
by the way when I say 90 second rule and
the beginning it should have been a four
hour rule maybe a few years ago
should’ve been a for a weak rule like
but now once I’ve done it over and over
again just like getting in state it
becomes a habit and now you can do it so
easily and the freedom you’ll feel be
amazing but let’s finish by showing you
how to do it and I’ll do it with a real
experience for you stand up shake your
body out before we do anything else
let’s crank the energy so high level to
do this I want you to face a party go
[Applause]
I want you to outdo their energy for
twenty seconds and I want you to zero to
ten to go to level twenty so ten feels
like it will be relaxing let’s clap and
before we leave let me make two
announcements enough this will go we’ll
do our own suffering if you like to help
someone else and suffering join me spend
ten bucks let me double it or hundred
let me double it whatever good you do
all double up to five million feeding
America North America quorum you can do
it or how many found tonight to be
profound you’d like to continue this
kind of feeling say if you want to get
something that’ll support you long term
I have a digital product it’s called the
ultimate edge probably saw it years ago
it’s an updated it’s three hundred
dollars you want to get it two hundred
dollars if you do it now about I’ll
doing a hundred percent of the profits
to another organization that I’d love to
make a difference with and it’s an
organization that frees people that are
trafficked it’s specifically the young
boys and young girls are in sexual
slavery and the organization is called
the Underground Railroad they’re
extraordinary
I’ll give every penny that you invest in
yourself those two hundred dollars do do
don’t think about eighteen of you to
free one child what would it be like
I’ve feed two hundred in the last two
weeks I love the free another 100 in
partnership with you while you change
your life so if you want to do that you
can go to show them the text where they
go slip it up there real fast and take a
picture that would be a good time hello
there it is so if you text dream force
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you’ll get to the benefit of changing
your life and the last thing is if you’d
like to come to a real seminar instead
of three hours and an environment where
where everybody is primed for this kind
of experience I’m coming here to San
Francisco coming up here in November
10th through the 12th and if you also
text or go to my organization there
they’ll give you hundred dollars off if
you want to go I’m on feed a million
people in San Francisco by the way that
week here in November that’s going to be
my gift out of that event as well so
it’s something we can all do together if
you’d like just reach out do it those
are ways you can continue the journey if
you want to I’ve given you a book I hope
it’s helpful for you on the financial
side if you want a second opinion or a
second opinion calm that’s it let me
route through the final piece shake your
body out here’s what I want you to do
think of a place where you have suffered
frustration overall anger sadness
feeling not enough something and what if
there was a quick way to end it here’s
how that can be done in a matter of
moments first you only suffer because of
what you focus on and you’re focusing on
one of three things three words you want
to remember going forward loss less or
never if you’re suffering it’s because
your brain believes because you did
something to me or the government did or
the company did or the other employee
did or I did something or because you
didn’t do something or I didn’t do
something I have lost something loss
love lost time lost energy lost respect
while significance lost anything the
illusion of loss makes us suffer all
you’ve lost was your expectations
weren’t met because there’s no guarantee
in life could we walk across the street
get by a car of course we can that’s
loss everything else is an illusion it
just means your preferences weren’t met
the second thing I’ll let you suffer is
if you think something you did or didn’t
do or something someone else did or
didn’t do cause you have less of
something you value less love less joy
less time less energy less
acknowledgement if you feel like you
have less you will suffer and the third
one and the worst one is if your brain
starts believing that you failed to do
something I fail to do something or you
did something or I did something that
means I will never have that love have
that joy have that says success have
that acknowledgement have that freedom
when our brain believes we’ve lost or we
have less or whenever we suffer and all
those are illusions the way you get out
of it is really simple you’re never
gonna go from suffering to joy it’s to
pick a jump so you go from suffering to
appreciating something how many of you
no matter how bad your life is there’s
something you can appreciate your health
your children your life the country let
how many got something you can
appreciate say hi is there something you
can appreciate in every moment even in
the worst moment you’ve been in yes or
no yes or no and if you’re so smart
which I know you are you should be
easily find those things all it is as
you decide I’m not going to suffer so
when I feel it within 90 seconds I
figured out what it is
I don’t live there I find something to
appreciate I find something next to
enjoy second step once you appreciate
enjoy I want to learn for this what can
I learn what I can’t grow if in the
middle of that problem you learn from
that relationship then it’s not about
ending a relationship anymore if you
grow from it you’re gonna feel a lot in
thirdly third step after appreciate
really learn and grow throw it up if you
do anything loving if you give anything
if you’re grateful your suffering will
end are there people that have been
concentration camps that were able to
end suffering even though there is
physical pain yes or no what I learned
through all this pain in my body was
there’s pain there suffering one other
difference pain is that shock feeling or
pressure and tension running up my spine
suffering is why did this happen to me
will I ever be able to do this again can
I ever get back on stage what am i how
long will this will this will this last
the story is the suffering it’s easy to
deal with pain if the suffering that
makes it so hard raise your hand if you
fall what I’m talking about here say I
so I’m gonna give you one technique
right now we’ll do it really fast you
don’t work shake your body out in fact
right now develop a quick pattern I want
you to make a move that if you made that
move you feel strong again so we just
try so make a strong move us I’m sorry
make a move make a move make a move make
a sound we just shut the word yes when
you make people make the move say yes
say yes say yes here’s what you do how
many of you have a situation either at
home or in your work environment where
there’s some unfinished business where
there’s a situation with a person or a
situation that you need to handle and
it’s stressful inside when you think
about it so you trying to have to think
about it and do other stuff but it’s got
to be handled and you’ve not handled it
how many got an area where there’s some
suffering like that raise your hand nice
and high let me see virtually everybody
good think of that situation that really
bugs you and really think about how it
really feels if you really let yourself
focus on
and feel what that suffering can be like
and I want you to pick something then on
a scale from zero to ten where ten is
total suffer and zero is no suffering at
all that’s in the 8 or above range at
least 7 8 9 10
don’t pick a little one because you
won’t notice in this quick moment enough
for you to feel I want you to feel a
difference how many got something that
needs to be handled
you’ve not resolved it either pissed off
or you feel hurt or you feel worried or
you’re concerned and you’ve not handled
it you put it off and it needs to be
handled your head if you got and the
pain of it isn’t if you focus on it is 7
8 9 or 10 let me see your hands
awesome here’s I want to show you a
group of scientists discovered something
about 20 years ago that’s amazing if I
measure your brain waves and your heart
waves your EEG and EKG you’ve probably
seen them on you know on medical pieces
they look very jagged when you’re
stressed they don’t look anything alike
your brain waves in your heart waves but
if all you do is put both your hands on
your heart try it now and you physically
feel your heart see the example I’m
giving you so this is frustration you
can see they look nothing like each other
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