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there’s one thing I teach and I want to
remind you of it it’s really simple
things getting things is not going to
make you happy that’s good news in a
tough economy it’s a good reminder you
know doesn’t matter what you get doesn’t
matter whether it be money or
opportunity all those things might
excite you for the moment you know even
a relationship as magnificent it may be
might be exciting for a while but if you
don’t keep growing that relationship
isn’t going to stay exciting so the
secret to real happiness is progress
progress equals happiness and if we can
make progress on a regular basis we feel
alive and that’s why at the beginning of
the year we get this thing like okay I
can have this fresh start I could really
do what my soul desires I could expand I
could grow I could improve I could
change or maybe better than change I
could progress see think about that
progress as an aliveness to a governor
you have to work at changing people say
all the time that allow I’m working on
changing don’t worry about it to work on
changing change is automatic your body
is going to change whether you want it
or not as the years go by but no matter
how hard you work there’s going to be
some changes going on there the economy
is going to change no matter what you
want it to do the weather is going to
change relationships are going to change
everything in life is always changing we
have to work on change change is
automatic but progress is not so if you
want to make real progress and you
really got to look at your life in a
different way you got to say I got to
take control of this process and not
just hope that’s going to work out like
people do who make a resolution because
really isn’t what they’re really doing
at the beginning of the year they’re
saying well here’s my resolutions for
the year and they really basically tell
you their wishes it’s their wish list
it’s what they hope it all comes
together and then they call it a
resolution but they don’t know what a
resolution is when you resolve something
to have a resolution is to resolve it
when you resolve this is how it’s going
to be that’s when you cut off any
possibility except the thing you’ve
committed to it’s like the old adage if
you want to take the island you burn the
boats because when you burn those boats
there’s no going back you’re going to
find a way to make things work and most
people they’re stating what they hope
will come together and if
happened and they’re disappointed but
they’re not too disappointed cuz they’re
not too vested what does it take to
successfully create a lasting change in
your life to not only have a new year’s
resolution you follow through on but
really have a lasting change well the
first step for lasting change is very
much like making a new year’s resolution
fundamentally it’s the same the first
step is you got to have a vision a
vision for what it is you really truly
want not what you think you want or what
you should have I mean what are most
people’s New Year’s resolutions I’m
going to stop eating sugar you know I’m
gonna stop smoking I’m going to lose 10
pounds problem with that is it’s not
very inspiring for most people you know
it’s not telling you what you’re going
to get it’s only what you’re not going
to do it’s kind of hard to have you move
forward with that a vision is about what
you’re here to create a vision that
really works is one that excites you if
you say well my you know my resolution
my goal my help come for this month this
week this year is to lose X number of
pounds that’s okay but it’s not very
compelling it has to be a compelling
vision that have something has the power
to pull you not something you have to
push yourself to do well they’re two
different kinds of motivation push
requires willpower and willpower never
lacks what will last is pull having
something so exciting so attractive so
something to desire so much that you
have a hard time going to sleep at night
you get so up early in the morning to a
rocket and take it to the next level
that’s what you’re looking to create
that isn’t easy to get but one of the
reasons we do seminars and events um
saying you know why do that why isn’t
why not just read a book or something is
because when you give it an environment
where you were people that are being
split in a peak state like when you’re
going to a sporting event if you watch
the sporting event at home it might have
a certain level of excitement but when
you’re in a stadium with 50,000 people
suddenly it has a whole different level
of intensity when we feel that in the
bottom line of our follow-through comes
down to our emotional intensity in a
different state of mind you’re going to
come up with a much better and more
exciting vision than if you’re sitting
the couch going okay one of my new
resolutions for this year and you’re
doing it the morning after the new year
started and you’re a little inebriated
and I put
games on the background probably not
going to have the power of focus they’re
probably not gonna have a power the
energy to create something that’s going
to pull you for this year and you got to
do that so it’s got to be a vision
that’s compelling something that you
know it’s going to be a gift to make
sure that it happens and also along with
that compelling vision you got to have
strong enough reasons that you’re going
to follow through when the going gets
tough that’s one of the biggest things
missing for most people they say this is
what I want to do not very exciting it’s
not very compelling but most importantly
they don’t have strong enough reasons to
push themselves through what’s going to
be necessary to get that dream to get
that goal when the inevitable challenges
come up when you’re starving hungry and
you’re trying to go on a diet right when
you got no time and you’re stressed out
you haven’t worked out still that’s what
you’re supposed to do when the economy
gets tight and what you thought you’re
going to do it doesn’t work and so you
give up on the goal instead of finding
another way to get there you don’t let
the fear take you over if you’ve got
strong enough reasons those reasons can
be positive or those reasons can also be
negative it can be if I don’t do this
it’s going to cost me and if I do to
this this is what I’m going to gain in
my life reasons come first answers come
second if you’ve got a compelling vision
and you got strong enough reasons that
will push you through the tough times
you’re going to do things other people
don’t do instead of collapsing even if
you get off target you won’t go oh I
blew it you’ll get right back on target
make the change make things happen and I
know you’ve done this in many areas your
life just think about it again I’m not
teaching you something really new here
today I just want to remind you what
your soul knows you got a change you got
to be proved and you’ve got to go
through a simple process fundamentally
to make that progress first step vision
is compelling second step make sure that
they’re strong enough fries with the
bottle trip third step you got to review
it and feel it every day I mean anything
if you ever have this happen in your
life has there been anything in your
life that you’ve ever wanted so badly
you were so desirous of it yet such a
hunger for it now you couldn’t stop
thinking about it could then a career
move could have been when you’re a kid a
car it could have been a relationship it
could have been anything but you were
obsessed you wanted to make this happen
you wanted to track this to your life
you want to you just
wanted something and you didn’t even
know how to get it but it was so
compelling to you kept thinking about it
every day and visioning imagining it
feeling it and then stuff happened and
suddenly you started attract people or
situations to your life and it just came
together like you didn’t even have a
total plan it was just that it was so
part of your focus with so much
intensity and emotion so often that it
sensitize you to notice anything that
could get you there there’s a part of
your brain called the reticular
activating system for short we call it
the RAS that part of your brain
determines what you notice in the world
and it’s really important because when
you set a goal when you get really clear
in a vision they’re strong enough
reasons and you review it enough it
becomes a part of you that part of your
brain says anything that relates to this
I need to notice why did you ever buy a
certain kind of car or maybe a certain
outfit and suddenly you see that car
everywhere those outfits everywhere you
know the cars were always around but why
do you see it now as your Ras no this is
important this was part of my world map
similarly when you really get clear and
it’s compelling and you’re reviewing it
every day that strong reasons you’re
viewing it every day and you’re feeling
it the brain becomes incredibly acute at
noticing anything to get you to move
forward and so that’s the power of this
so you know what do people do with New
Year’s resolution they come up with
something they kind of want it’s not a
compelling vision they don’t really have
strong enough reasons and they never
review it again until they notice that
they broke what they said they really
want to have make happen because they
didn’t really resolve you resolve you
got the vision it’s compelling review it
daily and you feel it you envision it
and you experience it simple as it
sounds now ultimately what is this
really about ultimately if you’re going
to have lasting change in anything
you’re really talking about just raising
your standards I mean I always tell
people if you want to know how to change
your life that give it to you in three
words boring as it sounds raise your
standards what does that mean corny as
it sounds raise your standards well
thank you for the breakthrough thought
Tony I’m glad I wasted my time watching
the little email with you but think
about it lasting change is different
than a goal you don’t always get your
goals but you always get your standards
maybe they’ll help you is to think about
it this way I try to explain standards
to people with a different set of words
think of it as everybody in life
they’re months they don’t get their
right think about it most people of a
list of ships don’t they don’t gentlest
of the shoulds things you should do you
should follow through on I I should lose
some weight I should work out more I
should make more calls I should respond
more rapidly to my email whatever you
know I should get into the office
earlier I should be you know more
confident whatever your should list is
people love to have their should list
Nanette but it’s kind of like New Year’s
resolutions if it does it’s really
exciting but if it doesn’t which is most
the time if a little disappointing but
you kind of know it’s not going to
happen but when you decide something as
a must for you an absolute must when you
cop any possible you say I’m going to
find a way I’m going to make the way
human beings when they resolve things
and they make a real resolution inside
themselves which is they raise the
standard they make it a must they find
the way think about in your own life
happens you had some area of your life
where you raise your standard your life
has never been the same maybe at one
time you like you use smoke cigarettes
or you did something and you did it for
years and you kept trying to change it
trying to change it and kept telling
yourself I should and then one day
something happened something just
clicked you over something took you over
that kind of tipping point and inside
yourself you said no more it was a very
very different experience wasn’t it
something excited you shifted and what
was a should became a must and you’ve
never gone back is there an area like
that in your life you could think of
again Jay ever smoked cigarettes did you
ever eat a certain way drink a certain
form of alcohol and then finally saying
no more and you just don’t go back and
notice this it doesn’t really take any
willpower no morning because somewhere
when we make this click we make
something a must we attach ourselves to
it it becomes part of our identity one
thing I’ve learned in the last gosh 33
years of working on people from now over
100 countries four million people is
human beings absolutely follow through
on who they believe
are and you say said to me well I’m
really going to work hard to stop
smoking but you know I’ve been a smoker
my whole life and I’m you know I am a
smoker I know your days are numbered
you’re going to be back smoking
cigarettes again because we all act
consistent with who we believe we are
I tell people the strongest force in the
whole human personality is this need to
stay consistent with how we define
ourselves
if you define yourself as somebody who
is really conservative you’re not going
to be crazy and act nuts unless you’re
really drunk or something and then you
can say it’s the alcohol when it really
does you finally getting permission to
be yourself the alcohol is your excuse
if you’re a really crazy person you act
crazy outrageous playful you don’t act
conservative because it’s not who you
are
very often people say well I can’t do
that I’m not that kind of person and I
always say to people really when did you
define yourself I mean really how many
years ago did you come up with what you
could and couldn’t do in your life how
many years ago most people if they
really look at how to live in your life
today it’s based on a set of standards a
set of beliefs that they made choices
about 10 20 30 or more years ago I mean
very often we made decisions in our
youth or very young about what to
believe about what we were capable of
about who we are as a person and that
becomes the glass ceiling if you will
that controls us there’s a according
metaphor but it’s true I remember one
time I was with my family at the circus
and there’s a person there and they had
this big giant elephant and you look at
this elephant and they take this little
rope put around that opens neck and they
dropped a stake into the ground and I
mean you look at this you know that
elephant could rip down the entire tent
with almost no effort and yet the
elephant doesn’t struggle doesn’t try
why could the elephants conditioned and
they take that elephant condition the
elephant when it’s a baby elephant
that’s how they trainable when it’s a
little bitty elephant it doesn’t have a
power yet they put a big rope around it
and they drive this huge stake in the
ground the elephant fights and fights
and fights and one day finally that open
decides I’m not capable pulling this out
and once that becomes the definition of
an identity of any one elephants in this
case they don’t even try anymore
it’s just who I
that’s how it is that’s just the way it
is in my life I’d like to ask you to
take a look at any place you’ve got a
limitation ask yourself when did I
decide to accept that limitation and you
may not even see it as a limitation you
might see there just that’s who I am but
so often our lives we’ve adapted to be a
certain way so that we don’t fail or so
that people will like us or respect us
but it’s not necessarily who we are joy
comes when you’re spontaneous it’s
really hard to be truly happy when
you’re not being yourself and most of us
have no clue who we are and so a big
part of my work you’ve ever been to an
event you know is to get people abusing
spontaneously without thinking because
that’s when the real you shows up that’s
when the energy comes alive and when you
do that when you start to connect your
true nature suddenly there’s energy
available for you to set a higher
standard for what you want in your life
that’s what this is really all about and
when I talk about standards when I talk
about you know shoulds versus must think
about your own life I know there have
been areas in your life where some point
in time you just shift it and you raise
the standard in your life change because
whatever people have their identity
attached to they live we live who we
believe we are that’s just how it works
it’s just kind of like I give an example
look at your physical body your physical
body today is an absolute reflection of
only one thing
not your goals not your desires but your
standards the identity you have for
yourself if your standard is you’re an
athlete then there’s a certain amount of
strength a muscle tone and energy that’s
available in your body on a regular
basis because that’s who you are if you
do whatever is necessary to maintain
that identity again the strongest force
and the human personality this need to
stay consistent with how we define
ourselves because if you don’t know who
you are you would not act once you lock
in on that identity your brain finds a
way to keep you that if you say you know
then I’m overweight I’ve always been
overweight I’m big-boned and that’s the
story
you’ve got and you’re going to always
find a way to get back there that’s
you’re settling point that’s your
identity that’s where things lock in if
you see somebody who’s a really great
shape
you ask him you work he’ll you know the
answer yes how often and okay three
times four times five times a week
whatever into seven our last people who
here works out at least five days a week
and I’m stand-up and you look around
that room and you know that they work
out five times a week as you can see
their body you don’t just get a result
without some kind of action without some
form of ritual ritual meaning actions
you do consistently now do you think it
those people that are out there working
out five days a week do they have more
time than you do or I have for anybody
else of course not is it a wife less
busy of course not it’s just a must for
them they must work out that way and
they’ve made that turn their life change
so I’m not saying you have to work
outside days a week I’m just saying
whatever you really want once don’t get
met consistently standards do whatever
you identify this is who I am and so
it’s not so much about changing your
identity as there’s expanding it you
know deciding that you know instead of
your goals to lose ten pounds which is
not compelling what if your vision was
to get back to my fighting weight you
know just this year this month this
makes 90 days I’m going to transform my
body I’m going to take on a new
challenge I’m going to find some
technique or strategy there’s a million
of them they can reframe myself where I
want to feel younger stronger more
vibrant than ever before here’s my
reasons because I want the energy to
really make my life work because it’s
tough out there and I want to be
stronger than I’ve ever been before
home I go in front of mirror if I’m
naked not you know want to laugh I will
look there and take a good look and go
yeah I’m proud of whatever I see there
whatever it takes something’s going to
make you laugh smile something’s going
to tease yourself but something’s going
to move you to another level if you
identify yourself in a new way and you
own that every day and that becomes the
staredown you live you’ll find the way
to make that standard real money is the
same way think about it doesn’t matter
what’s happening quote-unquote in the
marketplace people that make money find
a way to make money no matter what don’t
they I mean most people’s standard is to
pay their bills so that’s what most
people find a way to do evil neck and
times get tough most people that’s their
absolute standard they find what some
people’s standard is pay their bills and
most of the time it’s the most the time
they do some people standard is not just
to pay their bills but to take care of
your family and maybe even some of their
friends and they find a way in fact you
know some people may be in a family
where they don’t have enough money you
barely have money pay their bills they
work for guts out and then somebody
their mother the father somebody else
their sister gets ill and there’s not
enough money to take care of it nobody
else has money the family they don’t
either but they find a way to get that
money to take care of their mother or
father don’t they and their bills they
never could do it before why the
situation made them raise their own
standard and not everybody does that
somebody else in the family might have
money and still not take care of their
mother it all comes down to the inner
game my friends changing your life is a
change in the inner game the outside
world you can’t control but you have
absolute control over this one if you
learn the dynamics of what shapes you an
identity is one of those simple clear
fundamental basics that if you start to
shift it everything else will shift in
your life as well some people by the way
have to have more than enough money to
do what they want when they want where
they want with whomever they want
contribute the way they want if that’s
their muscly find a way I know that
sounds overly simplistic but it’s true
now somebody once said you can take all
the money in the world out of the hands
of everybody out of all the wealthy
people in the world who are really
successful given to other people it
wouldn’t take you long those people will
have it back in their hands it’s not
because they’re manipular it’s because
they have a standard so I’m going into
it don’t get me wrong but they got a
standard of what they’re going to find a
way to make happen I’m just simply
saying to you take those three magic
words and live them raise your standard
if you really want to do it and I’ll
take the most important secret have you
ever done this have you ever told
yourself you’re raising your saying okay
I’m going to go make this happen I’m
going to go make this much money I’m
going to transform my kids I’m going to
create the ultimate relationship of my
life I’m going to transform my body
whatever it is and then you don’t have
strong enough reasons and you know a
little use it you don’t follow through
it’s because you didn’t back up your
standards with what makes those
standards real and that’s rituals
rituals are the power is whenever we do
our robbins results coaching and we did
Robbins equals results way we get
results with people it’s the same way if
you listen to my ultimate edge program
are back in the old days personal power
or if you went to one of my seminars you
know what I do is I take these huge
challenges you got and we break them
down into little bite-sized steps little
things you do each day that after you do
them you get so much momentum that it’s
easy to succeed you’re not overwhelmed
you have these victory day after day
after day and little things if you’d
want to ultimate edge I’m sure you learn
about the hour of power or the 15
minutes to be able to be fulfilled or 30
minutes to thrive where you literally
just condition your body and emotion
with a couple of the rituals so it
doesn’t matter what’s going on in your
world you feel that strength and it’s
not fake it’s not some pump up it’s
coming from inside you and it works
rituals define us see all the results in
your life are coming from your rituals
they start with a standard and then have
rituals that follow it up like for
example if you are where you want to be
physically you have very different
rituals and if you’re not where you want
to be physically you’re overweight you
and I both know you got a different
ritual than if you’re physically fit
completely different you get up in the
morning what’s the first thing you do if
you’re fit your shoes are there you roll
over the minute how you feel you put on
the shoes you lace and you start walking
or whatever that ritual is if you’re
overweight you roll over and you have a
very different ritual you might roll
over several times to turn the alarm
clock off you go in and get your mocha
mocha whatever you know special coffee
you stop by at Starbucks or in the case
maybe have your nice sugar muffin
they’re supposed to be really nice for
you whatever you do it’s a different
ritual if you have a great passionate
relationship you have very different
rituals and how you come home than if
you have a lousy relationship become
home and the first thing you do is
you’re tweeting somebody or you’re
emailing or flipping on the news or you
don’t even come home and what are the
rituals whenever I study people that are
successful while I look for is what’s
the standard they hold himself to and
then what are all those little ritual
that up because
think about it success and failure are
not giant events they don’t just show up
you don’t just suddenly become
successful or suddenly have this
cataclysmic event that makes you fail
they look that way but failure comes
from all the little things
it’s failure to make the call it’s stale
you’re to check the books
it’s failure to say I’m sorry if still
here to push yourself to do things
physically that you don’t want to do and
all those little failures day after day
come together until one day some
cataclysmic event happens you blame that
that event happened because you missed
all the little stuff Geary’s me and
success by the way is not some overnight
event it’s all these little things
success is having a vision success is
making it compelling success is really
seeing and feeling it every day it was
strong enough for reasons success he is
feeling the sense that I’m here to grow
and I’m here to give something to the
world more than just myself
success is caring about other people
success is calling and saying I love you
in the middle the day for no damn reason
or sending a note that will change your
relationship how to ritual of something
funny playful or a surprise you do how
many relationships are dead today
because they have no surprise rituals
anymore you need to have some rituals
and cool things you do that nobody else
does they give you a better life than
anybody else has all the little stuff
that’s where success comes from in
business it comes from delivering more
than anybody could imagine all those
little things that appeal to wow that’s
who I want to do business with it’s true
with any area of your life so if you
look at somebody’s really successful you
think wow I mean they’re so amazing
they’re such a genius you got to dig
underneath you got to remember something
people are rewarded in public for what
they’ve practiced for years in private
myself and my business people say how do
you get up and speaking of no notes and
you go for three days and nights and the
room is like it is wired it’s incredible
it’s like a rock concert how do you do
that how do you have that confidence
call and you know it’s not confident
that’s experienced now but I did so much
behind the scenes and I still do to make
things right I mean how many people
would know that since the time I was 17
years old before
a walk-on in stage school due to this
day wouldn’t need to do it but I still
do it I never walk out there without
being in an absolute peak state of mind
you know there days my back is hurting
my throat was hurting or I may have had
a challenger my father passed away and
I’ve still got to deliver for these
people because my standard is give my
all every time everything has to be
better talk to anybody has been to
events for five ten years some of our
trainers and I’ll say I don’t know he
does it he’s always find the way to make
it better that’s not an ego thing that’s
a standard in me I have to find the way
and my ritual though is I prepare I
think I gather new information I figure
out how to put something across better
what do people need I spend time with
our customers I see what’s going on and
before I get on stage each time and it’s
a ritual to put myself in a state of
mind and I did it starting like
seventeen years old I started doing it I
now command my subconscious mind and I
say this out loud several times this
little phrase data phrases as an
incantation to kind of condition my mind
and body and I say I now command my
subconscious mind to direct me and
helping as many people as possible today
I give me the strength and the emotion
and the humor and the brevity whatever
it takes to show this person helped this
person change their life now I started
that with a person when I work with
people one on one I would do that for 45
minutes driving in my Volkswagen to go
serve and coach somebody for the first
time now I don’t say that person I did
these people and I can go out in the
room of 10,000 people and deliver for 50
hours and I do it every time I come back
on stage it’s a ritual a ritual to go
into peak stay Peaks they don’t just
show up it’ll interrupt you great ideas
only interrupt you got to pursue them I
talked to Michael Jordan I’ll never
forget dad the peak of his career and
got to watch his final game so I’m
backstage and spend some time with them
and there’s pretty exciting time your
famous basketball player and I think
that ever lived and haven’t lived and I
asked them I said you know what sets you
apart Michael you know what is it and is
it god-given talent ability skill what
is it you tell me you know so I can
shoot you straight you know it’s not you
know me trying to act humble he goes I
have a lot of town a lot of god-given
talent lot of skill I’ve worked really
hard but he said really it’s my
standards is it every day I demand more
for myself than anybody
could humanly expect I’m not competing
with somebody up I’m competing with well
I’m capable of hmm magic formula because
most of us lower our standards why
because who you spend time with my
friends would even come one of the
biggest reasons I started go to seminars
when I’m 17 is I had nobody around me is
a great robot I can read about somebody
but being around people being in that
environment is very different finally
way to go to work with someone who lived
that standard life is very different get
around people with low standards and you
compete with it you don’t need to
compete with it it’s like okay I mean
number Jerry Springer I know if he’s
still in the air but I never used to get
people on the show I thought where would
he find these people and why would
people watch okay why they watch they
watch these people to my life so pretty
darn good career that person rid of them
you don’t have to change your life all
you have to do is find somebody with a
lower standard you’ll feel good about
yourself but if you feel that good
feeling it’s an illusion the only thing
that’s going to make you happy my friend
and this year any other is to step up
it’s to raise the standard is to
discover what you’re capable of and feel
that incredible power pushing through
whatever is holding you back and get to
the other side of more of your true self
that’s what this game is all about and
look at the best of the world anything
Tiger Woods what’s what’s his vision to
win golf tournaments no to be the best
that ever lived that’s his goal that’s
his it but here’s what’s interesting he
backs it up with rituals if you just
have a vision and you don’t know the
rituals stop lying to yourself his
rituals are you started doing things
nobody did before he was there lifting
weights golfers lifting weights no way
he went out and he changed his swing
when he was the best in the world
because he realized already be the best
that ever lived he took enough to change
a swing if you don’t think my golf you
don’t change your swing when you’re the
best and he went and retrained himself
because he has different rituals and
other golfers now many people are
modeling his rituals to get better it’s
amazing you know you look at somebody
like Michael Phelps 2008 swimmer 1 7
only 2 people I think in history if I
remember correctly that I’ve gotten
seven gold medals in one session and
here’s a guy he’s got number six centers
don’t he’s exhausted and he’s going in
for that final swim I’m
you remember and how does the guy win by
one hundredths of a second
do you think that was some massive skill
that got him over the top or was it a
standard that says this is who I am I am
the champion and no one is taking us
from me and somehow in those final
milliseconds hundredths of a second and
pushed himself just beyond this
competitor but you know how about
Michael Phelps what allowed him to be
able to push beyond that moment it just
rituals go steady the guy most people
who swim have these unbelievable
workouts he does two and three of those
workout sessions a day all the other
swimmers in the beginning thought he was
insane you’re over trained you can’t do
that it’s not physically possible but he
had a standard and the rituals to back
it up so here’s my final message to you
because I’ve gotten carried away I was
gonna send you like a five-minute
message but you can see there’s no
script here it’s just me all go crazy
with you but I want to really see you
get what you want this year don’t let
this year be like last and if last year
was great still don’t let it be that way
raise the standard your life is perfect
and extraordinary you darn well know
you’re not going to be happy unless you
keep making about it that’s what makes
us feel alive it’s not what we get to
make us happy it’s who we become and
what we’re able to give because we
become more that sense of contribution
is what creates our deepest meaning so
here’s my assignment for if you want one
if you want to go from conversation to
some action your simple thing to do what
scenario your life right now that you
really want improve what’s an area
that’s important to improve if your body
is great how about your career career is
great about your relationship implement
one especially or your kids or your
relationship with your Creator spiritual
side of your life or is it your finances
figure an area that really matters
decide on that area number one write
down what your life is like in that area
right now specifically as possible so
you might say well I’m thirteen point
five pounds overweight
you whatever the weight is whether the
situation is or my body snapped like
this or wake up exhausted in the morning
and you write the truth of where you are
right now
so you’re real clear or I’m not in a
relationship I say I want a relationship
but I I’m not in one I don’t seem to
find them all the good ones seem to be
gone is my Balu
you know and I really do want one but I
don’t have it whatever your definition
I’m in a relationship and god I wish I
wasn’t in a relationship I’m planning my
escape wherever you are or I have a
wonderful relationship we love each
other but there just isn’t enough
passion just like the truth of where you
are the area you want to change but
right how it is and then the second step
is is we are really honest with yourself
what are the rituals that have put me
there because whatever results you’re
getting even if you don’t like the
results there are some rituals that are
keeping you in that place there are some
rituals of what you eat or don’t eat how
you move or don’t move how you sleep
with hopefully there’s some rituals and
the lack of variety or spice or energy
or focus in an area there’s something
you’re doing and it’s usually not one
thing it’s a bunch of little things they
kind of do consistently whenever you
think about getting in a relationship
whatever you think about working out
whatever you think about money and get
yourself in a state of overwhelm you
start thinking all the things you can’t
control just write down all the rituals
you have and then here’s the third step
what do you want what’s your vision and
be really specific I want to be my
fighting weight I want to be the
strongest I’ve ever felt I want to be
I’m going to turn my whatever it is be
specific
and then last step number four what are
the rituals that’ll get you there what
would you need you differently into
mourning if you’re going to be that kind
of energy that kind of strength how
would you have to happen would you work
out what days would you work out what
time a ritual something you do
consistently usually at a specific time
so it becomes automatic let me tell you
something
willpower doesn’t last but rituals can
last a lifetime I bet you have some
rituals in your life right now you’ve
been doing for years even though some of
them don’t serve you
I’m just saying wake yourself up make if
you want a new year and a new life you
don’t need to start in January first
start today start with this little video
and just begin to see what happens and
see how easy it is to just do a few
little rituals don’t do them all just do
two or three new things and you know
what happens you’ll get momentum because
once you discipline yourself in one area
life you feel yourself doing in other
areas as well I always say something
that my original teacher taught me I
always remind people there’s always two
pains in life there’s at the pain of
discipline or as the pain of regret and
discipline weighs ounces as my friend
Jim Rohn taught me
regret weighs tons you don’t have regret
so right now what do you want to change
what’s it really like what are the
rituals that got you there that will
take a little homework if you’re not
sure ask the people around you they’ll
tell you what your rituals are what do I
really want in depth where the rituals
will get me there and then get yourself
to start a few those actions and lock
them in place but I can help you in any
way we’re here as a company to support
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starting with you if you make the change
in yourself you’re going to be proud
this year and no amount of money or
accolades from other people can mirror
the feeling of being proud of knowing
you taking back control of your life or
you taking a great life to another level
because once you do that you have
something you can give other people
would it be your kids or your friends or
your family and ultimate that’s why it’s
about so thanks for listening I know how
long I went to here but I hope this has
been helpful for you I just thought the
new year and I want people to be able to
truly create a new life and till I see
again probably substitute or get the
chance to meet you live strong and with
live with passion and of course god bless to you happy new you
there’s one thing I teach and I want to
remind you of it it’s really simple
things getting things is not going to
make you happy that’s good news in a
tough economy it’s a good reminder you
know doesn’t matter what you get doesn’t
matter whether it be money or
opportunity all those things might
excite you for the moment you know even
a relationship as magnificent it may be
might be exciting for a while but if you
don’t keep growing that relationship
isn’t going to stay exciting so the
secret to real happiness is progress
progress equals happiness and if we can
make progress on a regular basis we feel
alive and that’s why at the beginning of
the year we get this thing like okay I
can have this fresh start I could really
do what my soul desires I could expand I
could grow I could improve I could
change or maybe better than change I
could progress see think about that
progress as an aliveness to a governor
you have to work at changing people say
all the time that allow I’m working on
changing don’t worry about it to work on
changing change is automatic your body
is going to change whether you want it
or not as the years go by but no matter
how hard you work there’s going to be
some changes going on there the economy
is going to change no matter what you
want it to do the weather is going to
change relationships are going to change
everything in life is always changing we
have to work on change change is
automatic but progress is not so if you
want to make real progress and you
really got to look at your life in a
different way you got to say I got to
take control of this process and not
just hope that’s going to work out like
people do who make a resolution because
really isn’t what they’re really doing
at the beginning of the year they’re
saying well here’s my resolutions for
the year and they really basically tell
you their wishes it’s their wish list
it’s what they hope it all comes
together and then they call it a
resolution but they don’t know what a
resolution is when you resolve something
to have a resolution is to resolve it
when you resolve this is how it’s going
to be that’s when you cut off any
possibility except the thing you’ve
committed to it’s like the old adage if
you want to take the island you burn the
boats because when you burn those boats
there’s no going back you’re going to
find a way to make things work and most
people they’re stating what they hope
will come together and if
happened and they’re disappointed but
they’re not too disappointed cuz they’re
not too vested what does it take to
successfully create a lasting change in
your life to not only have a new year’s
resolution you follow through on but
really have a lasting change well the
first step for lasting change is very
much like making a new year’s resolution
fundamentally it’s the same the first
step is you got to have a vision a
vision for what it is you really truly
want not what you think you want or what
you should have I mean what are most
people’s New Year’s resolutions I’m
going to stop eating sugar you know I’m
gonna stop smoking I’m going to lose 10
pounds problem with that is it’s not
very inspiring for most people you know
it’s not telling you what you’re going
to get it’s only what you’re not going
to do it’s kind of hard to have you move
forward with that a vision is about what
you’re here to create a vision that
really works is one that excites you if
you say well my you know my resolution
my goal my help come for this month this
week this year is to lose X number of
pounds that’s okay but it’s not very
compelling it has to be a compelling
vision that have something has the power
to pull you not something you have to
push yourself to do well they’re two
different kinds of motivation push
requires willpower and willpower never
lacks what will last is pull having
something so exciting so attractive so
something to desire so much that you
have a hard time going to sleep at night
you get so up early in the morning to a
rocket and take it to the next level
that’s what you’re looking to create
that isn’t easy to get but one of the
reasons we do seminars and events um
saying you know why do that why isn’t
why not just read a book or something is
because when you give it an environment
where you were people that are being
split in a peak state like when you’re
going to a sporting event if you watch
the sporting event at home it might have
a certain level of excitement but when
you’re in a stadium with 50,000 people
suddenly it has a whole different level
of intensity when we feel that in the
bottom line of our follow-through comes
down to our emotional intensity in a
different state of mind you’re going to
come up with a much better and more
exciting vision than if you’re sitting
the couch going okay one of my new
resolutions for this year and you’re
doing it the morning after the new year
started and you’re a little inebriated
and I put
games on the background probably not
going to have the power of focus they’re
probably not gonna have a power the
energy to create something that’s going
to pull you for this year and you got to
do that so it’s got to be a vision
that’s compelling something that you
know it’s going to be a gift to make
sure that it happens and also along with
that compelling vision you got to have
strong enough reasons that you’re going
to follow through when the going gets
tough that’s one of the biggest things
missing for most people they say this is
what I want to do not very exciting it’s
not very compelling but most importantly
they don’t have strong enough reasons to
push themselves through what’s going to
be necessary to get that dream to get
that goal when the inevitable challenges
come up when you’re starving hungry and
you’re trying to go on a diet right when
you got no time and you’re stressed out
you haven’t worked out still that’s what
you’re supposed to do when the economy
gets tight and what you thought you’re
going to do it doesn’t work and so you
give up on the goal instead of finding
another way to get there you don’t let
the fear take you over if you’ve got
strong enough reasons those reasons can
be positive or those reasons can also be
negative it can be if I don’t do this
it’s going to cost me and if I do to
this this is what I’m going to gain in
my life reasons come first answers come
second if you’ve got a compelling vision
and you got strong enough reasons that
will push you through the tough times
you’re going to do things other people
don’t do instead of collapsing even if
you get off target you won’t go oh I
blew it you’ll get right back on target
make the change make things happen and I
know you’ve done this in many areas your
life just think about it again I’m not
teaching you something really new here
today I just want to remind you what
your soul knows you got a change you got
to be proved and you’ve got to go
through a simple process fundamentally
to make that progress first step vision
is compelling second step make sure that
they’re strong enough fries with the
bottle trip third step you got to review
it and feel it every day I mean anything
if you ever have this happen in your
life has there been anything in your
life that you’ve ever wanted so badly
you were so desirous of it yet such a
hunger for it now you couldn’t stop
thinking about it could then a career
move could have been when you’re a kid a
car it could have been a relationship it
could have been anything but you were
obsessed you wanted to make this happen
you wanted to track this to your life
you want to you just
wanted something and you didn’t even
know how to get it but it was so
compelling to you kept thinking about it
every day and visioning imagining it
feeling it and then stuff happened and
suddenly you started attract people or
situations to your life and it just came
together like you didn’t even have a
total plan it was just that it was so
part of your focus with so much
intensity and emotion so often that it
sensitize you to notice anything that
could get you there there’s a part of
your brain called the reticular
activating system for short we call it
the RAS that part of your brain
determines what you notice in the world
and it’s really important because when
you set a goal when you get really clear
in a vision they’re strong enough
reasons and you review it enough it
becomes a part of you that part of your
brain says anything that relates to this
I need to notice why did you ever buy a
certain kind of car or maybe a certain
outfit and suddenly you see that car
everywhere those outfits everywhere you
know the cars were always around but why
do you see it now as your Ras no this is
important this was part of my world map
similarly when you really get clear and
it’s compelling and you’re reviewing it
every day that strong reasons you’re
viewing it every day and you’re feeling
it the brain becomes incredibly acute at
noticing anything to get you to move
forward and so that’s the power of this
so you know what do people do with New
Year’s resolution they come up with
something they kind of want it’s not a
compelling vision they don’t really have
strong enough reasons and they never
review it again until they notice that
they broke what they said they really
want to have make happen because they
didn’t really resolve you resolve you
got the vision it’s compelling review it
daily and you feel it you envision it
and you experience it simple as it
sounds now ultimately what is this
really about ultimately if you’re going
to have lasting change in anything
you’re really talking about just raising
your standards I mean I always tell
people if you want to know how to change
your life that give it to you in three
words boring as it sounds raise your
standards what does that mean corny as
it sounds raise your standards well
thank you for the breakthrough thought
Tony I’m glad I wasted my time watching
the little email with you but think
about it lasting change is different
than a goal you don’t always get your
goals but you always get your standards
maybe they’ll help you is to think about
it this way I try to explain standards
to people with a different set of words
think of it as everybody in life
they’re months they don’t get their
right think about it most people of a
list of ships don’t they don’t gentlest
of the shoulds things you should do you
should follow through on I I should lose
some weight I should work out more I
should make more calls I should respond
more rapidly to my email whatever you
know I should get into the office
earlier I should be you know more
confident whatever your should list is
people love to have their should list
Nanette but it’s kind of like New Year’s
resolutions if it does it’s really
exciting but if it doesn’t which is most
the time if a little disappointing but
you kind of know it’s not going to
happen but when you decide something as
a must for you an absolute must when you
cop any possible you say I’m going to
find a way I’m going to make the way
human beings when they resolve things
and they make a real resolution inside
themselves which is they raise the
standard they make it a must they find
the way think about in your own life
happens you had some area of your life
where you raise your standard your life
has never been the same maybe at one
time you like you use smoke cigarettes
or you did something and you did it for
years and you kept trying to change it
trying to change it and kept telling
yourself I should and then one day
something happened something just
clicked you over something took you over
that kind of tipping point and inside
yourself you said no more it was a very
very different experience wasn’t it
something excited you shifted and what
was a should became a must and you’ve
never gone back is there an area like
that in your life you could think of
again Jay ever smoked cigarettes did you
ever eat a certain way drink a certain
form of alcohol and then finally saying
no more and you just don’t go back and
notice this it doesn’t really take any
willpower no morning because somewhere
when we make this click we make
something a must we attach ourselves to
it it becomes part of our identity one
thing I’ve learned in the last gosh 33
years of working on people from now over
100 countries four million people is
human beings absolutely follow through
on who they believe
are and you say said to me well I’m
really going to work hard to stop
smoking but you know I’ve been a smoker
my whole life and I’m you know I am a
smoker I know your days are numbered
you’re going to be back smoking
cigarettes again because we all act
consistent with who we believe we are
I tell people the strongest force in the
whole human personality is this need to
stay consistent with how we define
ourselves
if you define yourself as somebody who
is really conservative you’re not going
to be crazy and act nuts unless you’re
really drunk or something and then you
can say it’s the alcohol when it really
does you finally getting permission to
be yourself the alcohol is your excuse
if you’re a really crazy person you act
crazy outrageous playful you don’t act
conservative because it’s not who you
are
very often people say well I can’t do
that I’m not that kind of person and I
always say to people really when did you
define yourself I mean really how many
years ago did you come up with what you
could and couldn’t do in your life how
many years ago most people if they
really look at how to live in your life
today it’s based on a set of standards a
set of beliefs that they made choices
about 10 20 30 or more years ago I mean
very often we made decisions in our
youth or very young about what to
believe about what we were capable of
about who we are as a person and that
becomes the glass ceiling if you will
that controls us there’s a according
metaphor but it’s true I remember one
time I was with my family at the circus
and there’s a person there and they had
this big giant elephant and you look at
this elephant and they take this little
rope put around that opens neck and they
dropped a stake into the ground and I
mean you look at this you know that
elephant could rip down the entire tent
with almost no effort and yet the
elephant doesn’t struggle doesn’t try
why could the elephants conditioned and
they take that elephant condition the
elephant when it’s a baby elephant
that’s how they trainable when it’s a
little bitty elephant it doesn’t have a
power yet they put a big rope around it
and they drive this huge stake in the
ground the elephant fights and fights
and fights and one day finally that open
decides I’m not capable pulling this out
and once that becomes the definition of
an identity of any one elephants in this
case they don’t even try anymore
it’s just who I
that’s how it is that’s just the way it
is in my life I’d like to ask you to
take a look at any place you’ve got a
limitation ask yourself when did I
decide to accept that limitation and you
may not even see it as a limitation you
might see there just that’s who I am but
so often our lives we’ve adapted to be a
certain way so that we don’t fail or so
that people will like us or respect us
but it’s not necessarily who we are joy
comes when you’re spontaneous it’s
really hard to be truly happy when
you’re not being yourself and most of us
have no clue who we are and so a big
part of my work you’ve ever been to an
event you know is to get people abusing
spontaneously without thinking because
that’s when the real you shows up that’s
when the energy comes alive and when you
do that when you start to connect your
true nature suddenly there’s energy
available for you to set a higher
standard for what you want in your life
that’s what this is really all about and
when I talk about standards when I talk
about you know shoulds versus must think
about your own life I know there have
been areas in your life where some point
in time you just shift it and you raise
the standard in your life change because
whatever people have their identity
attached to they live we live who we
believe we are that’s just how it works
it’s just kind of like I give an example
look at your physical body your physical
body today is an absolute reflection of
only one thing
not your goals not your desires but your
standards the identity you have for
yourself if your standard is you’re an
athlete then there’s a certain amount of
strength a muscle tone and energy that’s
available in your body on a regular
basis because that’s who you are if you
do whatever is necessary to maintain
that identity again the strongest force
and the human personality this need to
stay consistent with how we define
ourselves because if you don’t know who
you are you would not act once you lock
in on that identity your brain finds a
way to keep you that if you say you know
then I’m overweight I’ve always been
overweight I’m big-boned and that’s the
story
you’ve got and you’re going to always
find a way to get back there that’s
you’re settling point that’s your
identity that’s where things lock in if
you see somebody who’s a really great
shape
you ask him you work he’ll you know the
answer yes how often and okay three
times four times five times a week
whatever into seven our last people who
here works out at least five days a week
and I’m stand-up and you look around
that room and you know that they work
out five times a week as you can see
their body you don’t just get a result
without some kind of action without some
form of ritual ritual meaning actions
you do consistently now do you think it
those people that are out there working
out five days a week do they have more
time than you do or I have for anybody
else of course not is it a wife less
busy of course not it’s just a must for
them they must work out that way and
they’ve made that turn their life change
so I’m not saying you have to work
outside days a week I’m just saying
whatever you really want once don’t get
met consistently standards do whatever
you identify this is who I am and so
it’s not so much about changing your
identity as there’s expanding it you
know deciding that you know instead of
your goals to lose ten pounds which is
not compelling what if your vision was
to get back to my fighting weight you
know just this year this month this
makes 90 days I’m going to transform my
body I’m going to take on a new
challenge I’m going to find some
technique or strategy there’s a million
of them they can reframe myself where I
want to feel younger stronger more
vibrant than ever before here’s my
reasons because I want the energy to
really make my life work because it’s
tough out there and I want to be
stronger than I’ve ever been before
home I go in front of mirror if I’m
naked not you know want to laugh I will
look there and take a good look and go
yeah I’m proud of whatever I see there
whatever it takes something’s going to
make you laugh smile something’s going
to tease yourself but something’s going
to move you to another level if you
identify yourself in a new way and you
own that every day and that becomes the
staredown you live you’ll find the way
to make that standard real money is the
same way think about it doesn’t matter
what’s happening quote-unquote in the
marketplace people that make money find
a way to make money no matter what don’t
they I mean most people’s standard is to
pay their bills so that’s what most
people find a way to do evil neck and
times get tough most people that’s their
absolute standard they find what some
people’s standard is pay their bills and
most of the time it’s the most the time
they do some people standard is not just
to pay their bills but to take care of
your family and maybe even some of their
friends and they find a way in fact you
know some people may be in a family
where they don’t have enough money you
barely have money pay their bills they
work for guts out and then somebody
their mother the father somebody else
their sister gets ill and there’s not
enough money to take care of it nobody
else has money the family they don’t
either but they find a way to get that
money to take care of their mother or
father don’t they and their bills they
never could do it before why the
situation made them raise their own
standard and not everybody does that
somebody else in the family might have
money and still not take care of their
mother it all comes down to the inner
game my friends changing your life is a
change in the inner game the outside
world you can’t control but you have
absolute control over this one if you
learn the dynamics of what shapes you an
identity is one of those simple clear
fundamental basics that if you start to
shift it everything else will shift in
your life as well some people by the way
have to have more than enough money to
do what they want when they want where
they want with whomever they want
contribute the way they want if that’s
their muscly find a way I know that
sounds overly simplistic but it’s true
now somebody once said you can take all
the money in the world out of the hands
of everybody out of all the wealthy
people in the world who are really
successful given to other people it
wouldn’t take you long those people will
have it back in their hands it’s not
because they’re manipular it’s because
they have a standard so I’m going into
it don’t get me wrong but they got a
standard of what they’re going to find a
way to make happen I’m just simply
saying to you take those three magic
words and live them raise your standard
if you really want to do it and I’ll
take the most important secret have you
ever done this have you ever told
yourself you’re raising your saying okay
I’m going to go make this happen I’m
going to go make this much money I’m
going to transform my kids I’m going to
create the ultimate relationship of my
life I’m going to transform my body
whatever it is and then you don’t have
strong enough reasons and you know a
little use it you don’t follow through
it’s because you didn’t back up your
standards with what makes those
standards real and that’s rituals
rituals are the power is whenever we do
our robbins results coaching and we did
Robbins equals results way we get
results with people it’s the same way if
you listen to my ultimate edge program
are back in the old days personal power
or if you went to one of my seminars you
know what I do is I take these huge
challenges you got and we break them
down into little bite-sized steps little
things you do each day that after you do
them you get so much momentum that it’s
easy to succeed you’re not overwhelmed
you have these victory day after day
after day and little things if you’d
want to ultimate edge I’m sure you learn
about the hour of power or the 15
minutes to be able to be fulfilled or 30
minutes to thrive where you literally
just condition your body and emotion
with a couple of the rituals so it
doesn’t matter what’s going on in your
world you feel that strength and it’s
not fake it’s not some pump up it’s
coming from inside you and it works
rituals define us see all the results in
your life are coming from your rituals
they start with a standard and then have
rituals that follow it up like for
example if you are where you want to be
physically you have very different
rituals and if you’re not where you want
to be physically you’re overweight you
and I both know you got a different
ritual than if you’re physically fit
completely different you get up in the
morning what’s the first thing you do if
you’re fit your shoes are there you roll
over the minute how you feel you put on
the shoes you lace and you start walking
or whatever that ritual is if you’re
overweight you roll over and you have a
very different ritual you might roll
over several times to turn the alarm
clock off you go in and get your mocha
mocha whatever you know special coffee
you stop by at Starbucks or in the case
maybe have your nice sugar muffin
they’re supposed to be really nice for
you whatever you do it’s a different
ritual if you have a great passionate
relationship you have very different
rituals and how you come home than if
you have a lousy relationship become
home and the first thing you do is
you’re tweeting somebody or you’re
emailing or flipping on the news or you
don’t even come home and what are the
rituals whenever I study people that are
successful while I look for is what’s
the standard they hold himself to and
then what are all those little ritual
that up because
think about it success and failure are
not giant events they don’t just show up
you don’t just suddenly become
successful or suddenly have this
cataclysmic event that makes you fail
they look that way but failure comes
from all the little things
it’s failure to make the call it’s stale
you’re to check the books
it’s failure to say I’m sorry if still
here to push yourself to do things
physically that you don’t want to do and
all those little failures day after day
come together until one day some
cataclysmic event happens you blame that
that event happened because you missed
all the little stuff Geary’s me and
success by the way is not some overnight
event it’s all these little things
success is having a vision success is
making it compelling success is really
seeing and feeling it every day it was
strong enough for reasons success he is
feeling the sense that I’m here to grow
and I’m here to give something to the
world more than just myself
success is caring about other people
success is calling and saying I love you
in the middle the day for no damn reason
or sending a note that will change your
relationship how to ritual of something
funny playful or a surprise you do how
many relationships are dead today
because they have no surprise rituals
anymore you need to have some rituals
and cool things you do that nobody else
does they give you a better life than
anybody else has all the little stuff
that’s where success comes from in
business it comes from delivering more
than anybody could imagine all those
little things that appeal to wow that’s
who I want to do business with it’s true
with any area of your life so if you
look at somebody’s really successful you
think wow I mean they’re so amazing
they’re such a genius you got to dig
underneath you got to remember something
people are rewarded in public for what
they’ve practiced for years in private
myself and my business people say how do
you get up and speaking of no notes and
you go for three days and nights and the
room is like it is wired it’s incredible
it’s like a rock concert how do you do
that how do you have that confidence
call and you know it’s not confident
that’s experienced now but I did so much
behind the scenes and I still do to make
things right I mean how many people
would know that since the time I was 17
years old before
a walk-on in stage school due to this
day wouldn’t need to do it but I still
do it I never walk out there without
being in an absolute peak state of mind
you know there days my back is hurting
my throat was hurting or I may have had
a challenger my father passed away and
I’ve still got to deliver for these
people because my standard is give my
all every time everything has to be
better talk to anybody has been to
events for five ten years some of our
trainers and I’ll say I don’t know he
does it he’s always find the way to make
it better that’s not an ego thing that’s
a standard in me I have to find the way
and my ritual though is I prepare I
think I gather new information I figure
out how to put something across better
what do people need I spend time with
our customers I see what’s going on and
before I get on stage each time and it’s
a ritual to put myself in a state of
mind and I did it starting like
seventeen years old I started doing it I
now command my subconscious mind and I
say this out loud several times this
little phrase data phrases as an
incantation to kind of condition my mind
and body and I say I now command my
subconscious mind to direct me and
helping as many people as possible today
I give me the strength and the emotion
and the humor and the brevity whatever
it takes to show this person helped this
person change their life now I started
that with a person when I work with
people one on one I would do that for 45
minutes driving in my Volkswagen to go
serve and coach somebody for the first
time now I don’t say that person I did
these people and I can go out in the
room of 10,000 people and deliver for 50
hours and I do it every time I come back
on stage it’s a ritual a ritual to go
into peak stay Peaks they don’t just
show up it’ll interrupt you great ideas
only interrupt you got to pursue them I
talked to Michael Jordan I’ll never
forget dad the peak of his career and
got to watch his final game so I’m
backstage and spend some time with them
and there’s pretty exciting time your
famous basketball player and I think
that ever lived and haven’t lived and I
asked them I said you know what sets you
apart Michael you know what is it and is
it god-given talent ability skill what
is it you tell me you know so I can
shoot you straight you know it’s not you
know me trying to act humble he goes I
have a lot of town a lot of god-given
talent lot of skill I’ve worked really
hard but he said really it’s my
standards is it every day I demand more
for myself than anybody
could humanly expect I’m not competing
with somebody up I’m competing with well
I’m capable of hmm magic formula because
most of us lower our standards why
because who you spend time with my
friends would even come one of the
biggest reasons I started go to seminars
when I’m 17 is I had nobody around me is
a great robot I can read about somebody
but being around people being in that
environment is very different finally
way to go to work with someone who lived
that standard life is very different get
around people with low standards and you
compete with it you don’t need to
compete with it it’s like okay I mean
number Jerry Springer I know if he’s
still in the air but I never used to get
people on the show I thought where would
he find these people and why would
people watch okay why they watch they
watch these people to my life so pretty
darn good career that person rid of them
you don’t have to change your life all
you have to do is find somebody with a
lower standard you’ll feel good about
yourself but if you feel that good
feeling it’s an illusion the only thing
that’s going to make you happy my friend
and this year any other is to step up
it’s to raise the standard is to
discover what you’re capable of and feel
that incredible power pushing through
whatever is holding you back and get to
the other side of more of your true self
that’s what this game is all about and
look at the best of the world anything
Tiger Woods what’s what’s his vision to
win golf tournaments no to be the best
that ever lived that’s his goal that’s
his it but here’s what’s interesting he
backs it up with rituals if you just
have a vision and you don’t know the
rituals stop lying to yourself his
rituals are you started doing things
nobody did before he was there lifting
weights golfers lifting weights no way
he went out and he changed his swing
when he was the best in the world
because he realized already be the best
that ever lived he took enough to change
a swing if you don’t think my golf you
don’t change your swing when you’re the
best and he went and retrained himself
because he has different rituals and
other golfers now many people are
modeling his rituals to get better it’s
amazing you know you look at somebody
like Michael Phelps 2008 swimmer 1 7
only 2 people I think in history if I
remember correctly that I’ve gotten
seven gold medals in one session and
here’s a guy he’s got number six centers
don’t he’s exhausted and he’s going in
for that final swim I’m
you remember and how does the guy win by
one hundredths of a second
do you think that was some massive skill
that got him over the top or was it a
standard that says this is who I am I am
the champion and no one is taking us
from me and somehow in those final
milliseconds hundredths of a second and
pushed himself just beyond this
competitor but you know how about
Michael Phelps what allowed him to be
able to push beyond that moment it just
rituals go steady the guy most people
who swim have these unbelievable
workouts he does two and three of those
workout sessions a day all the other
swimmers in the beginning thought he was
insane you’re over trained you can’t do
that it’s not physically possible but he
had a standard and the rituals to back
it up so here’s my final message to you
because I’ve gotten carried away I was
gonna send you like a five-minute
message but you can see there’s no
script here it’s just me all go crazy
with you but I want to really see you
get what you want this year don’t let
this year be like last and if last year
was great still don’t let it be that way
raise the standard your life is perfect
and extraordinary you darn well know
you’re not going to be happy unless you
keep making about it that’s what makes
us feel alive it’s not what we get to
make us happy it’s who we become and
what we’re able to give because we
become more that sense of contribution
is what creates our deepest meaning so
here’s my assignment for if you want one
if you want to go from conversation to
some action your simple thing to do what
scenario your life right now that you
really want improve what’s an area
that’s important to improve if your body
is great how about your career career is
great about your relationship implement
one especially or your kids or your
relationship with your Creator spiritual
side of your life or is it your finances
figure an area that really matters
decide on that area number one write
down what your life is like in that area
right now specifically as possible so
you might say well I’m thirteen point
five pounds overweight
you whatever the weight is whether the
situation is or my body snapped like
this or wake up exhausted in the morning
and you write the truth of where you are
right now
so you’re real clear or I’m not in a
relationship I say I want a relationship
but I I’m not in one I don’t seem to
find them all the good ones seem to be
gone is my Balu
you know and I really do want one but I
don’t have it whatever your definition
I’m in a relationship and god I wish I
wasn’t in a relationship I’m planning my
escape wherever you are or I have a
wonderful relationship we love each
other but there just isn’t enough
passion just like the truth of where you
are the area you want to change but
right how it is and then the second step
is is we are really honest with yourself
what are the rituals that have put me
there because whatever results you’re
getting even if you don’t like the
results there are some rituals that are
keeping you in that place there are some
rituals of what you eat or don’t eat how
you move or don’t move how you sleep
with hopefully there’s some rituals and
the lack of variety or spice or energy
or focus in an area there’s something
you’re doing and it’s usually not one
thing it’s a bunch of little things they
kind of do consistently whenever you
think about getting in a relationship
whatever you think about working out
whatever you think about money and get
yourself in a state of overwhelm you
start thinking all the things you can’t
control just write down all the rituals
you have and then here’s the third step
what do you want what’s your vision and
be really specific I want to be my
fighting weight I want to be the
strongest I’ve ever felt I want to be
I’m going to turn my whatever it is be
specific
and then last step number four what are
the rituals that’ll get you there what
would you need you differently into
mourning if you’re going to be that kind
of energy that kind of strength how
would you have to happen would you work
out what days would you work out what
time a ritual something you do
consistently usually at a specific time
so it becomes automatic let me tell you
something
willpower doesn’t last but rituals can
last a lifetime I bet you have some
rituals in your life right now you’ve
been doing for years even though some of
them don’t serve you
I’m just saying wake yourself up make if
you want a new year and a new life you
don’t need to start in January first
start today start with this little video
and just begin to see what happens and
see how easy it is to just do a few
little rituals don’t do them all just do
two or three new things and you know
what happens you’ll get momentum because
once you discipline yourself in one area
life you feel yourself doing in other
areas as well I always say something
that my original teacher taught me I
always remind people there’s always two
pains in life there’s at the pain of
discipline or as the pain of regret and
discipline weighs ounces as my friend
Jim Rohn taught me
regret weighs tons you don’t have regret
so right now what do you want to change
what’s it really like what are the
rituals that got you there that will
take a little homework if you’re not
sure ask the people around you they’ll
tell you what your rituals are what do I
really want in depth where the rituals
will get me there and then get yourself
to start a few those actions and lock
them in place but I can help you in any
way we’re here as a company to support
you come and have an event with us come
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starting with you if you make the change
in yourself you’re going to be proud
this year and no amount of money or
accolades from other people can mirror
the feeling of being proud of knowing
you taking back control of your life or
you taking a great life to another level
because once you do that you have
something you can give other people
would it be your kids or your friends or
your family and ultimate that’s why it’s
about so thanks for listening I know how
long I went to here but I hope this has
been helpful for you I just thought the
new year and I want people to be able to
truly create a new life and till I see
again probably substitute or get the
chance to meet you live strong and with
live with passion and of course god bless to you happy new you
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