on those Ed Sullivan shows I began to
on those Ed Sullivan shows I began to realize
not just there everywhere all these
not just there everywhere all these shows I didn’t fit and here’s what I was
shows I didn’t fit and here’s what I was
shows I didn’t fit and here’s what I was missing I was missing who I was I began
missing I was missing who I was I began
missing I was missing who I was I began with a dream of being Danny Kaye which
with a dream of being Danny Kaye which
with a dream of being Danny Kaye which is a very mainstream dream it’s very
is a very mainstream dream it’s very
is a very mainstream dream it’s very middle America it’s a people pleaser job
middle America it’s a people pleaser job
middle America it’s a people pleaser job and I dreamed a path that was
and I dreamed a path that was
and I dreamed a path that was traditional commedia a disc jockey
traditional commedia a disc jockey
traditional commedia a disc jockey comedian actor big success a mainstream
comedian actor big success a mainstream
comedian actor big success a mainstream dream meanwhile what I really was was an
dream meanwhile what I really was was an
dream meanwhile what I really was was an outlaw and a rebel because I had lived
outlaw and a rebel because I had lived
outlaw and a rebel because I had lived there that kind of life I got kicked out
there that kind of life I got kicked out
there that kind of life I got kicked out of three different schools I got kicked
of three different schools I got kicked
of three different schools I got kicked out of the Air Force I got kicked out of
out of the Air Force I got kicked out of
out of the Air Force I got kicked out of the choir I got kicked out of the altar
the choir I got kicked out of the altar
the choir I got kicked out of the altar boys and kicked out of summer camp I got
boys and kicked out of summer camp I got
boys and kicked out of summer camp I got kicked out of the Boy Scouts and I quit
kicked out of the Boy Scouts and I quit
kicked out of the Boy Scouts and I quit school at ninth grade I had great marks
school at ninth grade I had great marks
school at ninth grade I had great marks I was a smart kid
I was a smart kid
I was a smart kid but I didn’t care they didn’t want
but I didn’t care they didn’t want
but I didn’t care they didn’t want teaching what I want I didn’t give you
teaching what I want I didn’t give you
teaching what I want I didn’t give you it’s important in life if you don’t give
it’s important in life if you don’t give
it’s important in life if you don’t give it it can help you a lot so I didn’t
it it can help you a lot so I didn’t
it it can help you a lot so I didn’t give it and I was this kind of I was a
give it and I was this kind of I was a
give it and I was this kind of I was a pot smoker when I was 13 we broke the
pot smoker when I was 13 we broke the
pot smoker when I was 13 we broke the law we broke into cars we broke into
law we broke into cars we broke into
law we broke into cars we broke into offices we broke into Columbia
offices we broke into Columbia
offices we broke into Columbia University we broke into stores we did
University we broke into stores we did
University we broke into stores we did all sorts of unlawful things and I was
all sorts of unlawful things and I was
all sorts of unlawful things and I was that kind of person I was one who swam
that kind of person I was one who swam
that kind of person I was one who swam against the tide of what is expected and
against the tide of what is expected and
against the tide of what is expected and what is but the establishment wants from
what is but the establishment wants from
what is but the establishment wants from us but I didn’t know that about myself
us but I didn’t know that about myself
us but I didn’t know that about myself because this dream blinded me this dream
because this dream blinded me this dream
because this dream blinded me this dream was about America about the path then we
was about America about the path then we
was about America about the path then we all follow the middle of the road
all follow the middle of the road
all follow the middle of the road middle class America mainstream will
middle class America mainstream will
middle class America mainstream will dream and being Wayne while I’m sitting
dream and being Wayne while I’m sitting
dream and being Wayne while I’m sitting there like this you know those people
there like this you know those people
there like this you know those people that look at this stupid you know I
that look at this stupid you know I
that look at this stupid you know I don’t want to be in the Bunny number can
don’t want to be in the Bunny number can
don’t want to be in the Bunny number can I get out of the bunny number please I
I get out of the bunny number please I
I get out of the bunny number please I don’t want to put on the uniform you
don’t want to put on the uniform you
don’t want to put on the uniform you know and and and I didn’t know this
know and and and I didn’t know this
know and and and I didn’t know this dissonance was inside me and
dissonance was inside me and
dissonance was inside me and in the period this is happening all
in the period this is happening all
in the period this is happening all through the 60s the counterculture was
through the 60s the counterculture was
through the 60s the counterculture was forming the Free Speech Movement started
forming the Free Speech Movement started
forming the Free Speech Movement started in Berkeley the hippies were growing
in Berkeley the hippies were growing
in Berkeley the hippies were growing into a force and peace love power blow
into a force and peace love power blow
into a force and peace love power blow flower power
flower power
flower power pot smoke and anti-authority singing
pot smoke and anti-authority singing
pot smoke and anti-authority singing anti-authority throw over the
anti-authority throw over the
anti-authority throw over the establishment burned down the math
establishment burned down the math
establishment burned down the math building Wow ding ding ding ding ding
building Wow ding ding ding ding ding
building Wow ding ding ding ding ding ding ding
ding ding
ding ding so I gravitated toward that because I
so I gravitated toward that because I
so I gravitated toward that because I was that person really and and the
was that person really and and the
was that person really and and the people I hung around with were that way
people I hung around with were that way
people I hung around with were that way the musicians I knew in the late 50s had
the musicians I knew in the late 50s had
the musicians I knew in the late 50s had gone through that transition suddenly
gone through that transition suddenly
gone through that transition suddenly they looked different and their music
they looked different and their music
they looked different and their music changed and I’m listening to people like
changed and I’m listening to people like
changed and I’m listening to people like the Buffalo Springfield I listen to Bob
the Buffalo Springfield I listen to Bob
the Buffalo Springfield I listen to Bob Dylan let’s say these people in there I
Dylan let’s say these people in there I
Dylan let’s say these people in there I realized these artists are using their
realized these artists are using their
realized these artists are using their talent to project their feelings and
talent to project their feelings and
talent to project their feelings and ideas not just please people and I
ideas not just please people and I
ideas not just please people and I suddenly was able to see my place and to
suddenly was able to see my place and to
suddenly was able to see my place and to realize I was in the wrong place you see
realize I was in the wrong place you see
realize I was in the wrong place you see in 1967 the Summer of Love the peak of
in 1967 the Summer of Love the peak of
in 1967 the Summer of Love the peak of the hippie movement I was 30 I was
the hippie movement I was 30 I was
the hippie movement I was 30 I was entertaining people in nightclubs who
entertaining people in nightclubs who
entertaining people in nightclubs who were 40 and they were at war with their
were 40 and they were at war with their
were 40 and they were at war with their kids who were 20 there was a generation
kids who were 20 there was a generation
kids who were 20 there was a generation war I was in the middle of it I was 32
war I was in the middle of it I was 32
war I was in the middle of it I was 32 2040 and I’m doing over here these are
2040 and I’m doing over here these are
2040 and I’m doing over here these are the people that will at least understand
the people that will at least understand
the people that will at least understand me and give me a chance
me and give me a chance
me and give me a chance so it took two years I didn’t go to the
so it took two years I didn’t go to the
so it took two years I didn’t go to the mountain and come back different I
mountain and come back different I
mountain and come back different I didn’t do it Bobby down I didn’t do it
didn’t do it Bobby down I didn’t do it
didn’t do it Bobby down I didn’t do it whatever you’d both people who just go
whatever you’d both people who just go
whatever you’d both people who just go away and they’re back new suddenly I
away and they’re back new suddenly I
away and they’re back new suddenly I took two years to change and it happened
took two years to change and it happened
took two years to change and it happened on television so it was if I had I
on television so it was if I had I
on television so it was if I had I denied that part of myself and finally
denied that part of myself and finally
denied that part of myself and finally it came into full flower and I never
it came into full flower and I never
it came into full flower and I never became a really big success until that I
became a really big success until that I
became a really big success until that I probably had 200 television appearances
probably had 200 television appearances
probably had 200 television appearances by that time and I still wasn’t realized
by that time and I still wasn’t realized
by that time and I still wasn’t realized as a writer comedian as a comedian by
as a writer comedian as a comedian by
as a writer comedian as a comedian by that I mean I hadn’t let myself grow
that I mean I hadn’t let myself grow
that I mean I hadn’t let myself grow into that
into that
into that and and I found out later I a lot of you
and and I found out later I a lot of you
and and I found out later I a lot of you feel stuck because you’re waiting for
feel stuck because you’re waiting for
feel stuck because you’re waiting for some kind of external force to either
some kind of external force to either
some kind of external force to either push you and pressure you to change and
push you and pressure you to change and
push you and pressure you to change and be great and to be amazing or you’re
be great and to be amazing or you’re
be great and to be amazing or you’re waiting for somebody to give you
waiting for somebody to give you
waiting for somebody to give you permission you’re either sitting back
permission you’re either sitting back
permission you’re either sitting back because you need some sort of external
because you need some sort of external
because you need some sort of external motivation from somebody that’s gonna
motivation from somebody that’s gonna
motivation from somebody that’s gonna push you or praise you or pressure you
push you or praise you or pressure you
push you or praise you or pressure you in order to change or some life
in order to change or some life
in order to change or some life circumstance like maybe in your past
circumstance like maybe in your past
circumstance like maybe in your past you’ve you’ve experienced trauma or you
you’ve you’ve experienced trauma or you
you’ve you’ve experienced trauma or you face something really scary and that was
face something really scary and that was
face something really scary and that was the thing that made you change and then
the thing that made you change and then
the thing that made you change and then the second thing that people wait around
the second thing that people wait around
the second thing that people wait around for is permission
for is permission
for is permission look those may or may not come in your
look those may or may not come in your
look those may or may not come in your life if you are somebody that is sitting
life if you are somebody that is sitting
life if you are somebody that is sitting around waiting for some external force
around waiting for some external force
around waiting for some external force to come and do the work for you that is
to come and do the work for you that is
to come and do the work for you that is such a losing bet it’s unbelievable
such a losing bet it’s unbelievable
such a losing bet it’s unbelievable maybe you’ll get lucky maybe somebody
maybe you’ll get lucky maybe somebody
maybe you’ll get lucky maybe somebody will come but more than likely no one is
will come but more than likely no one is
will come but more than likely no one is coming
coming
coming the only kind of force that will truly
the only kind of force that will truly
the only kind of force that will truly create change in your life is you the
create change in your life is you the
create change in your life is you the internal kind of force I hate to say it
internal kind of force I hate to say it
internal kind of force I hate to say it but for those of you that feel really
but for those of you that feel really
but for those of you that feel really really stuck and you keep thinking that
really stuck and you keep thinking that
really stuck and you keep thinking that somebody’s got to pick me or somebody’s
somebody’s got to pick me or somebody’s
somebody’s got to pick me or somebody’s gonna discover me or somebody’s got to
gonna discover me or somebody’s got to
gonna discover me or somebody’s got to give me permission to write this book
give me permission to write this book
give me permission to write this book it’s it’s ridiculous this is external
it’s it’s ridiculous this is external
it’s it’s ridiculous this is external versus internal force and what you have
versus internal force and what you have
versus internal force and what you have to figure out if you’re stuck is are you
to figure out if you’re stuck is are you
to figure out if you’re stuck is are you the kind of person that is guilty of
the kind of person that is guilty of
the kind of person that is guilty of needing wanting and waiting for external
needing wanting and waiting for external
needing wanting and waiting for external forces people an event some outside
forces people an event some outside
forces people an event some outside force to kick you in the ass you’ll
force to kick you in the ass you’ll
force to kick you in the ass you’ll finally do the stuff that you’ve been
finally do the stuff that you’ve been
finally do the stuff that you’ve been dreaming about doing I want to tell you
dreaming about doing I want to tell you
dreaming about doing I want to tell you something no one’s coming no one the
something no one’s coming no one the
something no one’s coming no one the people in life that get what they want
people in life that get what they want
people in life that get what they want are the ones that aren’t waiting for an
are the ones that aren’t waiting for an
are the ones that aren’t waiting for an external force to validate their dreams
external force to validate their dreams
external force to validate their dreams to inspire them to give them permission
to inspire them to give them permission
to inspire them to give them permission it’s the people that realize that
it’s the people that realize that
it’s the people that realize that success but happiness that control it
success but happiness that control it
success but happiness that control it comes from the internal force and what
comes from the internal force and what
comes from the internal force and what is the internal force it’s you it’s you
is the internal force it’s you it’s you
is the internal force it’s you it’s you it’s you being able to realize that no
it’s you being able to realize that no
it’s you being able to realize that no one’s gonna do the work for you it’s you
one’s gonna do the work for you it’s you
one’s gonna do the work for you it’s you realizing that you’re never gonna feel
realizing that you’re never gonna feel
realizing that you’re never gonna feel ready in fact even as you start working
ready in fact even as you start working
ready in fact even as you start working toward the things that you really want
toward the things that you really want
toward the things that you really want to do you’re definitely not going to
to do you’re definitely not going to
to do you’re definitely not going to feel ready and you’re gonna feel outside
feel ready and you’re gonna feel outside
feel ready and you’re gonna feel outside your comfort zone and that’s normal when
your comfort zone and that’s normal when
your comfort zone and that’s normal when you start to feel like you’re stretching
you start to feel like you’re stretching
you start to feel like you’re stretching yourself and you’re sticking your
yourself and you’re sticking your
yourself and you’re sticking your scrawny neck out there and you’re taking
scrawny neck out there and you’re taking
scrawny neck out there and you’re taking some risks that’s so amazing because
some risks that’s so amazing because
some risks that’s so amazing because you’re growing you know we have been
you’re growing you know we have been
you’re growing you know we have been invented by turning events the
invented by turning events the
invented by turning events the difference where we were the first group
difference where we were the first group
difference where we were the first group of people that took that crusade to the
of people that took that crusade to the
of people that took that crusade to the American consumer out there you know and
American consumer out there you know and
American consumer out there you know and yes that’s why we’re number one I
yes that’s why we’re number one I
yes that’s why we’re number one I believe the first step to winning in
believe the first step to winning in
believe the first step to winning in business is you’ve got to do what’s
business is you’ve got to do what’s
business is you’ve got to do what’s right for the consumer out there I
right for the consumer out there I
right for the consumer out there I believe your reputations everything if
believe your reputations everything if
believe your reputations everything if you don’t do what’s right 100 percent of
you don’t do what’s right 100 percent of
you don’t do what’s right 100 percent of the time you might get by for one day
the time you might get by for one day
the time you might get by for one day one week one month one year but suddenly
one week one month one year but suddenly
one week one month one year but suddenly they’re gonna bail you out
they’re gonna bail you out
they’re gonna bail you out we’re broke the back term and invest the
we’re broke the back term and invest the
we’re broke the back term and invest the difference is right and we’ve stood the
difference is right and we’ve stood the
difference is right and we’ve stood the heat like you couldn’t believe and
heat like you couldn’t believe and
heat like you couldn’t believe and that’s why we’re number one I’m the kind
that’s why we’re number one I’m the kind
that’s why we’re number one I’m the kind of person that believes you should
of person that believes you should
of person that believes you should always make decisions with your heart
always make decisions with your heart
always make decisions with your heart with soul you can use your brain for
with soul you can use your brain for
with soul you can use your brain for math you can use your brain to look at
math you can use your brain to look at
math you can use your brain to look at the fine print in a contract but when it
the fine print in a contract but when it
the fine print in a contract but when it comes to the actual feel of the decision
comes to the actual feel of the decision
comes to the actual feel of the decision you always want to go inward and check
you always want to go inward and check
you always want to go inward and check it against your heart with soul how do
it against your heart with soul how do
it against your heart with soul how do you do that here’s the simple test does
you do that here’s the simple test does
you do that here’s the simple test does the decision that you’re about to make
the decision that you’re about to make
the decision that you’re about to make expand you expand your future or expand
expand you expand your future or expand
expand you expand your future or expand the possibilities of your life if the
the possibilities of your life if the
the possibilities of your life if the answer is yes then the decision is yes
answer is yes then the decision is yes
answer is yes then the decision is yes no matter how terrifying it is if you
no matter how terrifying it is if you
no matter how terrifying it is if you conversely look at the choice that you
conversely look at the choice that you
conversely look at the choice that you have to make and the decision will
have to make and the decision will
have to make and the decision will shrink you will silence you will inhibit
shrink you will silence you will inhibit
shrink you will silence you will inhibit you in some way then the answer is no no
you in some way then the answer is no no
you in some way then the answer is no no matter how easy the decision is no
matter how easy the decision is no
matter how easy the decision is no matter how safe the decision is the
matter how safe the decision is the
matter how safe the decision is the answer is no now one of the things I
answer is no now one of the things I
answer is no now one of the things I want to point out that when you start to
want to point out that when you start to
want to point out that when you start to use this does it expand or does it
use this does it expand or does it
use this does it expand or does it shrink me does it open possibilities or
shrink me does it open possibilities or
shrink me does it open possibilities or does it keep things closed does it raise
does it keep things closed does it raise
does it keep things closed does it raise my voice or does it silence me right is
my voice or does it silence me right is
my voice or does it silence me right is that there’s always a short-term and a
that there’s always a short-term and a
that there’s always a short-term and a long-term impact to the decision the
long-term impact to the decision the
long-term impact to the decision the short-term impact to making an expansive
short-term impact to making an expansive
short-term impact to making an expansive decision a decision that’s based in your
decision a decision that’s based in your
decision a decision that’s based in your heart your soul sometimes it’s
heart your soul sometimes it’s
heart your soul sometimes it’s terrifying because sometimes it means
terrifying because sometimes it means
terrifying because sometimes it means moving or it means changing a job or
moving or it means changing a job or
moving or it means changing a job or changing a relationship or having a
changing a relationship or having a
changing a relationship or having a difficult conversation
difficult conversation
difficult conversation or starting something new and those
or starting something new and those
or starting something new and those sorts of things are always uncomfortable
sorts of things are always uncomfortable
sorts of things are always uncomfortable so brace for impact put the force fields
so brace for impact put the force fields
so brace for impact put the force fields up but make the decision anyway because
up but make the decision anyway because
up but make the decision anyway because the long-term impact of making a
the long-term impact of making a
the long-term impact of making a decision from your heart and soul that
decision from your heart and soul that
decision from your heart and soul that is where the best life comes from
is where the best life comes from
is where the best life comes from because you’re living for what’s true
because you’re living for what’s true
because you’re living for what’s true for you not what’s safe in the moment I
for you not what’s safe in the moment I
for you not what’s safe in the moment I go into the emergency room and I was
go into the emergency room and I was
go into the emergency room and I was like Donald Smith and they’re like I’m
like Donald Smith and they’re like I’m
like Donald Smith and they’re like I’m sorry he passed and they took me into
sorry he passed and they took me into
sorry he passed and they took me into the room there’s my father laying on a
the room there’s my father laying on a
the room there’s my father laying on a gurney just dead
gurney just dead
gurney just dead it still has a tube sticking out of him
it still has a tube sticking out of him
it still has a tube sticking out of him and they’re trying to intubate him or
and they’re trying to intubate him or
and they’re trying to intubate him or something like that but just motionless
something like that but just motionless
something like that but just motionless quiet
quiet
quiet no breathing whatsoever and it was weird
no breathing whatsoever and it was weird
no breathing whatsoever and it was weird it was it mean to say the least you
it was it mean to say the least you
it was it mean to say the least you always know eventually your parents
always know eventually your parents
always know eventually your parents gonna go but I wasn’t ready I wasn’t
gonna go but I wasn’t ready I wasn’t
gonna go but I wasn’t ready I wasn’t ready for that moment and then I walked
ready for that moment and then I walked
ready for that moment and then I walked out and I went outside not a cigarette I
out and I went outside not a cigarette I
out and I went outside not a cigarette I still cigarette smoker in those days and
still cigarette smoker in those days and
still cigarette smoker in those days and I was just thinking about being half an
I was just thinking about being half an
I was just thinking about being half an orphan or halfway to being an orphan or
orphan or halfway to being an orphan or
orphan or halfway to being an orphan or something like that my brother comes out
something like that my brother comes out
something like that my brother comes out and I was like I can’t believe it right
and I was like I can’t believe it right
and I was like I can’t believe it right he goes yeah it’s pretty tough and I
he goes yeah it’s pretty tough and I
he goes yeah it’s pretty tough and I said how was it because my brother was
said how was it because my brother was
said how was it because my brother was there he was staying with my parents and
there he was staying with my parents and
there he was staying with my parents and Donald without missing a beat my brother
Donald without missing a beat my brother
Donald without missing a beat my brother goes dad died screaming and I was like
goes dad died screaming and I was like
goes dad died screaming and I was like what and he goes dad died screaming I
what and he goes dad died screaming I
what and he goes dad died screaming I said what do you mean it’s like well he
said what do you mean it’s like well he
said what do you mean it’s like well he woke up and he was kicking the sheets
woke up and he was kicking the sheets
woke up and he was kicking the sheets off and screaming about being on fire
off and screaming about being on fire
off and screaming about being on fire and he was so hot and so hot and get him
and he was so hot and so hot and get him
and he was so hot and so hot and get him water and screaming the screaming got
water and screaming the screaming got
water and screaming the screaming got louder and louder and it reached a fever
louder and louder and it reached a fever
louder and louder and it reached a fever pitch and he died and I don’t know how
pitch and he died and I don’t know how
pitch and he died and I don’t know how else to say it but dad died screaming
else to say it but dad died screaming
else to say it but dad died screaming and that hit me like a Mack truck and I
and that hit me like a Mack truck and I
and that hit me like a Mack truck and I remember thinking oh my god in this
remember thinking oh my god in this
remember thinking oh my god in this world or even a good man like my old man
world or even a good man like my old man
world or even a good man like my old man is gonna die screaming there’s no point
is gonna die screaming there’s no point
is gonna die screaming there’s no point and not trying to achieve every dream
and not trying to achieve every dream
and not trying to achieve every dream that I have this is my eventual end one
that I have this is my eventual end one
that I have this is my eventual end one day that’s it
day that’s it
day that’s it and and I really felt like man that’s
and and I really felt like man that’s
and and I really felt like man that’s like this I can’t this is my future
like this I can’t this is my future
like this I can’t this is my future we’re all probably gonna go out
we’re all probably gonna go out
we’re all probably gonna go out screaming so the best thing to do
screaming so the best thing to do
screaming so the best thing to do prior to that is to try to pack that
prior to that is to try to pack that
prior to that is to try to pack that life with as much wonderfulness fun
life with as much wonderfulness fun
life with as much wonderfulness fun productivity surround yourself with
productivity surround yourself with
productivity surround yourself with people that are gonna help you do that
people that are gonna help you do that
people that are gonna help you do that you know cuz in this world there’s not a
you know cuz in this world there’s not a
you know cuz in this world there’s not a lot of support a lot of negativity
lot of support a lot of negativity
lot of support a lot of negativity there’s a lot of cynicism even as I sit
there’s a lot of cynicism even as I sit
there’s a lot of cynicism even as I sit here and tell that story about my father
here and tell that story about my father
here and tell that story about my father dying I guarantee there’s a cynical head
dying I guarantee there’s a cynical head
dying I guarantee there’s a cynical head in this house maybe more sitting there
in this house maybe more sitting there
in this house maybe more sitting there going who cares move on tell a joke the
going who cares move on tell a joke the
going who cares move on tell a joke the world is full of why man you tell people
world is full of why man you tell people
world is full of why man you tell people something they’ll tell you why throw a
something they’ll tell you why throw a
something they’ll tell you why throw a rock and you’ll hit somebody with why
rock and you’ll hit somebody with why
rock and you’ll hit somebody with why like hey man I want to make a movie why
like hey man I want to make a movie why
like hey man I want to make a movie why why do you think you could do that why
why do you think you could do that why
why do you think you could do that why why nobody else is doing it why are you
why nobody else is doing it why are you
why nobody else is doing it why are you doing it there’s so much why you go out
doing it there’s so much why you go out
doing it there’s so much why you go out and you find why not you surround
and you find why not you surround
and you find why not you surround yourself with why not people are just
yourself with why not people are just
yourself with why not people are just like why not we’re you’re like hey man
like why not we’re you’re like hey man
like why not we’re you’re like hey man I’m gonna try something like why not
I’m gonna try something like why not
I’m gonna try something like why not let’s give it a shot people who try to
let’s give it a shot people who try to
let’s give it a shot people who try to help you do your dreams make your dreams
help you do your dreams make your dreams
help you do your dreams make your dreams come true and you do the same for them
come true and you do the same for them
come true and you do the same for them we’re all in this together and it costs
we’re all in this together and it costs
we’re all in this together and it costs nothing to encourage an artist that’s
nothing to encourage an artist that’s
nothing to encourage an artist that’s why I get up here for almost 20 years
why I get up here for almost 20 years
why I get up here for almost 20 years now after the movie man I mean a lot of
now after the movie man I mean a lot of
now after the movie man I mean a lot of filmmakers get up after the movie and
filmmakers get up after the movie and
filmmakers get up after the movie and spend more time than the movie itself
spend more time than the movie itself
spend more time than the movie itself talking but I’ve been trying to impart
talking but I’ve been trying to impart
talking but I’ve been trying to impart one simple lesson for nearly 20 years
one simple lesson for nearly 20 years
one simple lesson for nearly 20 years anybody can do this you know what I’m
anybody can do this you know what I’m
anybody can do this you know what I’m saying like I wasn’t born into a
saying like I wasn’t born into a
saying like I wasn’t born into a business or the film business or born
business or the film business or born
business or the film business or born with a mic in my hands I have no
with a mic in my hands I have no
with a mic in my hands I have no discernible talent whatsoever man I have
discernible talent whatsoever man I have
discernible talent whatsoever man I have no connections to the business we’re
no connections to the business we’re
no connections to the business we’re from New Jersey and stuff I got lucky
from New Jersey and stuff I got lucky
from New Jersey and stuff I got lucky somebody picked up the movie and boom I
somebody picked up the movie and boom I
somebody picked up the movie and boom I was off and running and part of that
was off and running and part of that
was off and running and part of that manifest when you’re in brought into the
manifest when you’re in brought into the
manifest when you’re in brought into the indie film community part of your your
indie film community part of your your
indie film community part of your your your job part of your honor part of your
your job part of your honor part of your
your job part of your honor part of your privilege is to make sure that keeps
privilege is to make sure that keeps
privilege is to make sure that keeps going to encourage other people you know
going to encourage other people you know
going to encourage other people you know to tell people it’s worth the shot just
to tell people it’s worth the shot just
to tell people it’s worth the shot just like Wayne Gretzky said like you miss a
like Wayne Gretzky said like you miss a
like Wayne Gretzky said like you miss a hundred percent of the shots you never
hundred percent of the shots you never
hundred percent of the shots you never take it’s always worth the shot now if
take it’s always worth the shot now if
take it’s always worth the shot now if you’re talking about leg if what you’re
you’re talking about leg if what you’re
you’re talking about leg if what you’re shot is usually like I’ve always wanted
shot is usually like I’ve always wanted
shot is usually like I’ve always wanted to kill 12 children Kevin don’t take
to kill 12 children Kevin don’t take
to kill 12 children Kevin don’t take that shot at all I’m not talking about
that shot at all I’m not talking about
that shot at all I’m not talking about that you know I’m
that you know I’m
that you know I’m talking about artsy you know writing a
talking about artsy you know writing a
talking about artsy you know writing a blog and making some music making a
blog and making some music making a
blog and making some music making a movie making a cupcake store the
movie making a cupcake store the
movie making a cupcake store the Knitting store putting together of a
Knitting store putting together of a
Knitting store putting together of a YouTube clip just anything that’s just
YouTube clip just anything that’s just
YouTube clip just anything that’s just not all we must do this because it’s a
not all we must do this because it’s a
not all we must do this because it’s a part of my job or this will get money
part of my job or this will get money
part of my job or this will get money some you just do just to see if it could
some you just do just to see if it could
some you just do just to see if it could be done live a why not life man because
be done live a why not life man because
be done live a why not life man because we’re all gonna die screaming so make
we’re all gonna die screaming so make
we’re all gonna die screaming so make sure when you die screaming you’re
sure when you die screaming you’re
sure when you die screaming you’re totally fulfilled you like I took all
totally fulfilled you like I took all
totally fulfilled you like I took all the shots I did it I did I went after
the shots I did it I did I went after
the shots I did it I did I went after everything I wanted to or at least tried
everything I wanted to or at least tried
everything I wanted to or at least tried take the shot the shot is always worth
take the shot the shot is always worth
take the shot the shot is always worth taking whether it’s a dopey thing like
taking whether it’s a dopey thing like
taking whether it’s a dopey thing like podcasting or writing a book or writing
podcasting or writing a book or writing
podcasting or writing a book or writing a blog think about the encouragement you
a blog think about the encouragement you
a blog think about the encouragement you get when you encourage an artist think
get when you encourage an artist think
get when you encourage an artist think about the potential that comes out of it
about the potential that comes out of it
about the potential that comes out of it you tell dude good job man that person
you tell dude good job man that person
you tell dude good job man that person maybe one day writes that blog that you
maybe one day writes that blog that you
maybe one day writes that blog that you mean out to the entire world because it
mean out to the entire world because it
mean out to the entire world because it says exactly what you always wanted to
says exactly what you always wanted to
says exactly what you always wanted to say but couldn’t yourself or they write
say but couldn’t yourself or they write
say but couldn’t yourself or they write that song that you play over and over
that song that you play over and over
that song that you play over and over after a loved one dies because it means
after a loved one dies because it means
after a loved one dies because it means the world to you they they make that
the world to you they they make that
the world to you they they make that movie that is the one you cling to and
movie that is the one you cling to and
movie that is the one you cling to and everything is going wrong in life all
everything is going wrong in life all
everything is going wrong in life all you pop that in and things aren’t bad
you pop that in and things aren’t bad
you pop that in and things aren’t bad for two hours all that comes from
for two hours all that comes from
for two hours all that comes from encouraging an artist nothing good comes
encouraging an artist nothing good comes
encouraging an artist nothing good comes from discouraging an artist so for 20
from discouraging an artist so for 20
from discouraging an artist so for 20 years I keep coming up here and going go
years I keep coming up here and going go
years I keep coming up here and going go out and do it why the fuck aren’t you
out and do it why the fuck aren’t you
out and do it why the fuck aren’t you doing this it’s so fun you should do it
doing this it’s so fun you should do it
doing this it’s so fun you should do it take your shot I took my shot and it’s
take your shot I took my shot and it’s
take your shot I took my shot and it’s nothing but pussy and no nuts you know
nothing but pussy and no nuts you know
nothing but pussy and no nuts you know just so I’m here to tell you man give it
just so I’m here to tell you man give it
just so I’m here to tell you man give it a shot go out and try this is something
a shot go out and try this is something
a shot go out and try this is something that we see over and over and over again
that we see over and over and over again
that we see over and over and over again and it’s this idea that you don’t ever
and it’s this idea that you don’t ever
and it’s this idea that you don’t ever start you stay trapped in your head and
start you stay trapped in your head and
start you stay trapped in your head and if you feel paralyzed if you’ve been
if you feel paralyzed if you’ve been
if you feel paralyzed if you’ve been spinning the same ideas over and over
spinning the same ideas over and over
spinning the same ideas over and over and over again then you know what I’m
and over again then you know what I’m
and over again then you know what I’m talking about you see many of you are
talking about you see many of you are
talking about you see many of you are thinking way too Vic you’re attaching
thinking way too Vic you’re attaching
thinking way too Vic you’re attaching way too much pressure on the things that
way too much pressure on the things that
way too much pressure on the things that you’re interested in until you start
you’re interested in until you start
you’re interested in until you start blogging about fashion you won’t even
blogging about fashion you won’t even
blogging about fashion you won’t even know if you like it so thinking that you
know if you like it so thinking that you
know if you like it so thinking that you have a dream about doing it and thinking
have a dream about doing it and thinking
have a dream about doing it and thinking that you have this grand plan
that you have this grand plan
that you have this grand plan that you’re gonna do it full-time it is
that you’re gonna do it full-time it is
that you’re gonna do it full-time it is a complete and utter waste of your time
a complete and utter waste of your time
a complete and utter waste of your time to be dreaming that big and let me tell
to be dreaming that big and let me tell
to be dreaming that big and let me tell you why because often times if you’re
you why because often times if you’re
you why because often times if you’re the kind of person like Vickie that’s
the kind of person like Vickie that’s
the kind of person like Vickie that’s getting trapped up here the bigness of
getting trapped up here the bigness of
getting trapped up here the bigness of what you’re thinking about is what’s
what you’re thinking about is what’s
what you’re thinking about is what’s stopping you what I want you to do if
stopping you what I want you to do if
stopping you what I want you to do if you’re in Vickie’s situation is I want
you’re in Vickie’s situation is I want
you’re in Vickie’s situation is I want you to stop dreaming and I want you to
you to stop dreaming and I want you to
you to stop dreaming and I want you to just start doing small things I want you
just start doing small things I want you
just start doing small things I want you to go back to curiosity and less into
to go back to curiosity and less into
to go back to curiosity and less into crushing your big goals you think about
crushing your big goals you think about
crushing your big goals you think about life and business and success is that
life and business and success is that
life and business and success is that you have to be willing to start and for
you have to be willing to start and for
you have to be willing to start and for people that procrastinate starting is
people that procrastinate starting is
people that procrastinate starting is the hardest part for people that worry
the hardest part for people that worry
the hardest part for people that worry for people that think too big starting
for people that think too big starting
for people that think too big starting is the hardest part folks that study
is the hardest part folks that study
is the hardest part folks that study procrastination talk about the fact that
procrastination talk about the fact that
procrastination talk about the fact that the only way to beat procrastination is
the only way to beat procrastination is
the only way to beat procrastination is to create what they call a starting
to create what they call a starting
to create what they call a starting ritual which is a way to push yourself
ritual which is a way to push yourself
ritual which is a way to push yourself to get started because all the research
to get started because all the research
to get started because all the research shows that if we can push you to get
shows that if we can push you to get
shows that if we can push you to get started on something you’ll likely keep
started on something you’ll likely keep
started on something you’ll likely keep going I called up Bill Hewlett when I
going I called up Bill Hewlett when I
going I called up Bill Hewlett when I was 12 years old and he lived in Palo
was 12 years old and he lived in Palo
was 12 years old and he lived in Palo Alto his number was still in a phone
Alto his number was still in a phone
Alto his number was still in a phone book and he answered the phone himself
book and he answered the phone himself
book and he answered the phone himself did not yes hi I’m Steve Jobs I’m 12
did not yes hi I’m Steve Jobs I’m 12
did not yes hi I’m Steve Jobs I’m 12 years old I’m a student in high school
years old I’m a student in high school
years old I’m a student in high school and I want to build a frequency counter
and I want to build a frequency counter
and I want to build a frequency counter and I was wondering if you had any spare
and I was wondering if you had any spare
and I was wondering if you had any spare parts I could have and he laughed and he
parts I could have and he laughed and he
parts I could have and he laughed and he gave me the spare parts to build his
gave me the spare parts to build his
gave me the spare parts to build his frequency counter and he gave me a job
frequency counter and he gave me a job
frequency counter and he gave me a job that summer in Hewlett Packard working
that summer in Hewlett Packard working
that summer in Hewlett Packard working on the assembly line putting nuts and
on the assembly line putting nuts and
on the assembly line putting nuts and bolts together on frequency counters he
bolts together on frequency counters he
bolts together on frequency counters he got me a job in the place that built
got me a job in the place that built
got me a job in the place that built them and I was in heaven
them and I was in heaven
them and I was in heaven and I’ve never found anyone who said no
and I’ve never found anyone who said no
and I’ve never found anyone who said no or hung up the phone when I called I
or hung up the phone when I called I
or hung up the phone when I called I just asked and when people ask me I try
just asked and when people ask me I try
just asked and when people ask me I try to be as responsive to pay that that
to be as responsive to pay that that
to be as responsive to pay that that debt of gratitude back
debt of gratitude back
debt of gratitude back most people never pick up the phone and
most people never pick up the phone and
most people never pick up the phone and call most people never ask and that’s
call most people never ask and that’s
call most people never ask and that’s what separates sometimes the people that
what separates sometimes the people that
what separates sometimes the people that do things from the people that just
do things from the people that just
do things from the people that just dream about them got it you got it act
dream about them got it you got it act
dream about them got it you got it act and you’ve got to be willing to fail
and you’ve got to be willing to fail
and you’ve got to be willing to fail you’ve got to be willing to crash and
you’ve got to be willing to crash and
you’ve got to be willing to crash and burn you know with people on the phone
burn you know with people on the phone
burn you know with people on the phone with starting a company with whatever if
with starting a company with whatever if
with starting a company with whatever if you’re afraid of failing you won’t get
you’re afraid of failing you won’t get
you’re afraid of failing you won’t get very far and a lot of time talking about
very far and a lot of time talking about
very far and a lot of time talking about mindset from the standpoint of think
mindset from the standpoint of think
mindset from the standpoint of think positive so positive things happen and I
positive so positive things happen and I
positive so positive things happen and I do believe in having a positive mindset
do believe in having a positive mindset
do believe in having a positive mindset obviously I think that the actions that
obviously I think that the actions that
obviously I think that the actions that you take are way more important in terms
you take are way more important in terms
you take are way more important in terms of developing that mindset but we don’t
of developing that mindset but we don’t
of developing that mindset but we don’t spend enough time on what you were just
spend enough time on what you were just
spend enough time on what you were just talking about which is understanding how
talking about which is understanding how
talking about which is understanding how the automatic nature of worrying about
the automatic nature of worrying about
the automatic nature of worrying about stuff all day long how that is making
stuff all day long how that is making
stuff all day long how that is making you less money how it is making you less
you less money how it is making you less
you less money how it is making you less happy how it is disconnecting you from
happy how it is disconnecting you from
happy how it is disconnecting you from your spouse how it is keeping you
your spouse how it is keeping you
your spouse how it is keeping you unhealthy and how it is a habit that
unhealthy and how it is a habit that
unhealthy and how it is a habit that robs you of joy and opportunity and
robs you of joy and opportunity and
robs you of joy and opportunity and power and it is one of the easiest
power and it is one of the easiest
power and it is one of the easiest habits to break number one your life
habits to break number one your life
habits to break number one your life happens in five-second windows number
happens in five-second windows number
happens in five-second windows number two in five seconds you can control what
two in five seconds you can control what
two in five seconds you can control what you think you can decide what you’re
you think you can decide what you’re
you think you can decide what you’re going to do and you can change
going to do and you can change
going to do and you can change absolutely anything which changes
absolutely anything which changes
absolutely anything which changes absolutely everything and so the
absolutely everything and so the
absolutely everything and so the five-second rule is a mind trick that’s
five-second rule is a mind trick that’s
five-second rule is a mind trick that’s all that it is a fancy way to call it as
all that it is a fancy way to call it as
all that it is a fancy way to call it as a you know it’s a form of metacognition
a you know it’s a form of metacognition
a you know it’s a form of metacognition but it’s basically a hack it’s a cheat
but it’s basically a hack it’s a cheat
but it’s basically a hack it’s a cheat code okay and the way that it works and
code okay and the way that it works and
code okay and the way that it works and this is the challenge with getting it
this is the challenge with getting it
this is the challenge with getting it out there is that it sounds so
out there is that it sounds so
out there is that it sounds so profoundly stupid like a gimmick that it
profoundly stupid like a gimmick that it
profoundly stupid like a gimmick that it took a while for people to actually take
took a while for people to actually take
took a while for people to actually take it seriously I get that and to really
it seriously I get that and to really
it seriously I get that and to really stack up the science to make you know
stack up the science to make you know
stack up the science to make you know anybody that interacts with it go holy
anybody that interacts with it go holy
anybody that interacts with it go holy shit like this actually works yeah so
shit like this actually works yeah so
shit like this actually works yeah so here’s what it is basically the moment
here’s what it is basically the moment
here’s what it is basically the moment you catch yourself hesitating or
you catch yourself hesitating or
you catch yourself hesitating or doubting or starting to worry or about
doubting or starting to worry or about
doubting or starting to worry or about to chicken out or shrink or shut up or
to chicken out or shrink or shut up or
to chicken out or shrink or shut up or whatever it is that you’re about to do
whatever it is that you’re about to do
whatever it is that you’re about to do that is shrinking your power you just go
that is shrinking your power you just go
that is shrinking your power you just go 5 4 3 2 1 you count backwards 5 4 3 2 1
5 4 3 2 1 you count backwards 5 4 3 2 1
5 4 3 2 1 you count backwards 5 4 3 2 1 what happens when you do that don’t do
what happens when you do that don’t do
what happens when you do that don’t do it out loud because it’ll scare somebody
it out loud because it’ll scare somebody
it out loud because it’ll scare somebody it’s like you know we say it’s it’s so
it’s like you know we say it’s it’s so
it’s like you know we say it’s it’s so simple that people live skip in the
simple that people live skip in the
simple that people live skip in the making because that means I’ve really
making because that means I’ve really
making because that means I’ve really made it through your kids will use it on
made it through your kids will use it on
made it through your kids will use it on you so my kids will use it on me so if I
you so my kids will use it on me so if I
you so my kids will use it on me so if I have a certain tone that comes out I’ll
have a certain tone that comes out I’ll
have a certain tone that comes out I’ll hear my childhood go 5 4 3 watch that
hear my childhood go 5 4 3 watch that
hear my childhood go 5 4 3 watch that tone mom you know just for Mom 5 4 3 2 1
tone mom you know just for Mom 5 4 3 2 1
tone mom you know just for Mom 5 4 3 2 1 I thought you’re gonna go to the gym yes
I thought you’re gonna go to the gym yes
I thought you’re gonna go to the gym yes so by counting backwards the the kind of
so by counting backwards the the kind of
so by counting backwards the the kind of cheat codes that you’re doing in your
cheat codes that you’re doing in your
cheat codes that you’re doing in your mind is you are interrupting what are
mind is you are interrupting what are
mind is you are interrupting what are called habit loops that get encoded in
called habit loops that get encoded in
called habit loops that get encoded in the central part of your brain and you
the central part of your brain and you
the central part of your brain and you are starting up the prefrontal cortex
are starting up the prefrontal cortex
are starting up the prefrontal cortex it’s a little trick that causes focus
it’s a little trick that causes focus
it’s a little trick that causes focus and it’s it’s a lot like having a mantra
and it’s it’s a lot like having a mantra
and it’s it’s a lot like having a mantra because you’re shifting gears but the
because you’re shifting gears but the
because you’re shifting gears but the thing about having a mantra is and I
thing about having a mantra is and I
thing about having a mantra is and I suppose that as you count backwards more
suppose that as you count backwards more
suppose that as you count backwards more and more and more
and more and more
and more and more you become used to it but it becomes a
you become used to it but it becomes a
you become used to it but it becomes a habit that triggers action so what you
habit that triggers action so what you
habit that triggers action so what you do is go 5 4 3 2 1
do is go 5 4 3 2 1
do is go 5 4 3 2 1 cut off this part of the brain awaken
cut off this part of the brain awaken
cut off this part of the brain awaken this part of the brain and then move and
this part of the brain and then move and
this part of the brain and then move and what happens with the counting backwards
what happens with the counting backwards
what happens with the counting backwards is there’s nowhere to go after 1 and
is there’s nowhere to go after 1 and
is there’s nowhere to go after 1 and your mind is socialized in a countdown
your mind is socialized in a countdown
your mind is socialized in a countdown situation to go and so counting up won’t
situation to go and so counting up won’t
situation to go and so counting up won’t work because you can keep it forever
work because you can keep it forever
work because you can keep it forever and you do it in many aspects of your
and you do it in many aspects of your
and you do it in many aspects of your life so it’s actually not something that
life so it’s actually not something that
life so it’s actually not something that requires any focus we try to hire really
requires any focus we try to hire really
requires any focus we try to hire really smart people but we have a very simple
smart people but we have a very simple
smart people but we have a very simple organization and we try to focus and do
organization and we try to focus and do
organization and we try to focus and do very few things well and focusing is
very few things well and focusing is
very few things well and focusing is hard because focusing doesn’t mean
hard because focusing doesn’t mean
hard because focusing doesn’t mean saying yes it means saying no so we say
saying yes it means saying no so we say
saying yes it means saying no so we say we decide not to do a lot of things so
we decide not to do a lot of things so
we decide not to do a lot of things so we can focus on a few handfuls of things
we can focus on a few handfuls of things
we can focus on a few handfuls of things and do them well and I think you know
and do them well and I think you know
and do them well and I think you know everybody working the company wants to
everybody working the company wants to
everybody working the company wants to do something great they want to be
do something great they want to be
do something great they want to be excited about what they’re working on
excited about what they’re working on
excited about what they’re working on and and they want to be recognized for
and and they want to be recognized for
and and they want to be recognized for it when if they do a really great job so
it when if they do a really great job so
it when if they do a really great job so we just try to allow people to do the
we just try to allow people to do the
we just try to allow people to do the best work of their lives at Apple and
best work of their lives at Apple and
best work of their lives at Apple and get it out to 25 million customers that
get it out to 25 million customers that
get it out to 25 million customers that we have and that’s very exciting when
we have and that’s very exciting when
we have and that’s very exciting when you’re working on something and you know
you’re working on something and you know
you’re working on something and you know this works out up to 25 million people
this works out up to 25 million people
this works out up to 25 million people are going to use this it’s very
are going to use this it’s very
are going to use this it’s very motivating hmm and it’s not just 25
motivating hmm and it’s not just 25
motivating hmm and it’s not just 25 million of our customers but other
million of our customers but other
million of our customers but other companies tend to follow us you know it
companies tend to follow us you know it
companies tend to follow us you know it takes them a few years but other
takes them a few years but other
takes them a few years but other companies tend to copy what we do if it
companies tend to copy what we do if it
companies tend to copy what we do if it works
works
works and and so we can influence the whole
and and so we can influence the whole
and and so we can influence the whole industry
industry
industry you will fail at some point in your life
you will fail at some point in your life
you will fail at some point in your life accept it you will lose you will
accept it you will lose you will
accept it you will lose you will embarrass yourself you will suck at
embarrass yourself you will suck at
embarrass yourself you will suck at something there’s no doubt about it and
something there’s no doubt about it and
something there’s no doubt about it and I know that’s probably not a traditional
I know that’s probably not a traditional
I know that’s probably not a traditional message for a graduation ceremony but
message for a graduation ceremony but
message for a graduation ceremony but hey I’m telling you embrace it because
hey I’m telling you embrace it because
hey I’m telling you embrace it because it’s inevitable and I should know in the
it’s inevitable and I should know in the
it’s inevitable and I should know in the acting business you fail all the time
acting business you fail all the time
acting business you fail all the time early on in my career I auditioned for a
early on in my career I auditioned for a
early on in my career I auditioned for a part in a Broadway musical perfect role
part in a Broadway musical perfect role
part in a Broadway musical perfect role for me I thought except for the fact
for me I thought except for the fact
for me I thought except for the fact that I can’t sing so I’m in the wings
that I can’t sing so I’m in the wings
that I can’t sing so I’m in the wings I’m about to go onstage but the guy in
I’m about to go onstage but the guy in
I’m about to go onstage but the guy in front of me he’s singing like like like
front of me he’s singing like like like
front of me he’s singing like like like Pavarotti he’s just going on and on and
Pavarotti he’s just going on and on and
Pavarotti he’s just going on and on and on and I’m just shrinking I’m getting
on and I’m just shrinking I’m getting
on and I’m just shrinking I’m getting smaller and smaller so they say oh thank
smaller and smaller so they say oh thank
smaller and smaller so they say oh thank you very much thank you very much and
you very much thank you very much and
you very much thank you very much and you will you’ll be hearing from us so I
you will you’ll be hearing from us so I
you will you’ll be hearing from us so I come out with my little music and it was
come out with my little music and it was
come out with my little music and it was it was a just my imagination by the
it was a just my imagination by the
it was a just my imagination by the temptations that’s what I came up with
temptations that’s what I came up with
temptations that’s what I came up with so I hand it to the the the accompany us
so I hand it to the the the accompany us
so I hand it to the the the accompany us and she looks at it and looks at me and
and she looks at it and looks at me and
and she looks at it and looks at me and excited the director and it’s like all
excited the director and it’s like all
excited the director and it’s like all right so I start you know that I’m gonna
right so I start you know that I’m gonna
right so I start you know that I’m gonna sing I’m like
again kind of eating away with me and
again kind of eating away with me and I’m not saying anything so I’m thinking
I’m not saying anything so I’m thinking
I’m not saying anything so I’m thinking I’m getting better I start getting into
I’m getting better I start getting into
I’m getting better I start getting into it running this hour yeah yeah thank you
it running this hour yeah yeah thank you
it running this hour yeah yeah thank you thank you thank you thank you very much
thank you thank you thank you very much
thank you thank you thank you very much mr. Washington thank you so I assumed I
mr. Washington thank you so I assumed I
mr. Washington thank you so I assumed I didn’t get the job but the next part of
didn’t get the job but the next part of
didn’t get the job but the next part of the audition he called me back the next
the audition he called me back the next
the audition he called me back the next part of the audition is the acting part
part of the audition is the acting part
part of the audition is the acting part of the audition no I’m like hey okay
of the audition no I’m like hey okay
of the audition no I’m like hey okay maybe I can’t sing but I know I can act
maybe I can’t sing but I know I can act
maybe I can’t sing but I know I can act so they pair me with this guy and again
so they pair me with this guy and again
so they pair me with this guy and again I didn’t know about musical theater and
I didn’t know about musical theater and
I didn’t know about musical theater and musical theater is big so they could
musical theater is big so they could
musical theater is big so they could reach everyone all the way in the back
reach everyone all the way in the back
reach everyone all the way in the back of the stadium and I’m more from a
of the stadium and I’m more from a
of the stadium and I’m more from a realistic naturalistic kind of acting
realistic naturalistic kind of acting
realistic naturalistic kind of acting where you you know you actually talk to
where you you know you actually talk to
where you you know you actually talk to the person next to me so I don’t know
the person next to me so I don’t know
the person next to me so I don’t know what my line was my line was will hand
what my line was my line was will hand
what my line was my line was will hand me the cut and his line was well I will
me the cut and his line was well I will
me the cut and his line was well I will hand you the cup my dear the cup would
hand you the cup my dear the cup would
hand you the cup my dear the cup would be there to be handed to you as I say
be there to be handed to you as I say
be there to be handed to you as I say okay well should I give you the cup back
okay well should I give you the cup back
okay well should I give you the cup back oh yes you should give it back to me
oh yes you should give it back to me
oh yes you should give it back to me because you know that is my cup and it
because you know that is my cup and it
because you know that is my cup and it should be given back to me I didn’t get
should be given back to me I didn’t get
should be given back to me I didn’t get the job
but here’s the thing I didn’t quit I
but here’s the thing I didn’t quit I didn’t fall back I walked out of there
didn’t fall back I walked out of there
didn’t fall back I walked out of there to prepare for the next audition and the
to prepare for the next audition and the
to prepare for the next audition and the next audition and the next audition I
next audition and the next audition I
next audition and the next audition I pray I pray and I pray
but I continue to fail and fail and fail
but I continue to fail and fail and fail but it didn’t matter because you know
but it didn’t matter because you know
but it didn’t matter because you know what there’s an old saying you hang
what there’s an old saying you hang
what there’s an old saying you hang around the barbershop long enough sooner
around the barbershop long enough sooner
around the barbershop long enough sooner or later you’re going to get a haircut
so you will catch a break and I did
so you will catch a break and I did catch a break last year I did a play
catch a break last year I did a play
catch a break last year I did a play called fences on Broadway if someone
called fences on Broadway if someone
called fences on Broadway if someone talked about won the Tony Award and I
talked about won the Tony Award and I
talked about won the Tony Award and I didn’t have to sing by the way but
didn’t have to sing by the way but
didn’t have to sing by the way but here’s the kicker
here’s the kicker
here’s the kicker it was at the Court Theatre
it was at the Court Theatre
it was at the Court Theatre it was at the same theater that I failed
it was at the same theater that I failed
it was at the same theater that I failed that first audition 30 years prior
[Music]
[Music] [Applause]
[Applause]
[Applause] the point is and I’ll pick up the pace
the point is and I’ll pick up the pace
the point is and I’ll pick up the pace the point is every graduate here today
the point is every graduate here today
the point is every graduate here today has the training and the talent to
has the training and the talent to
has the training and the talent to succeed but do you have the guts to fail
everybody has fear all wrong people have
everybody has fear all wrong people have so many theories about fear they talk
so many theories about fear they talk
so many theories about fear they talk about oh I’m afraid of success now I’m
about oh I’m afraid of success now I’m
about oh I’m afraid of success now I’m afraid of failure I’m afraid of intimacy
afraid of failure I’m afraid of intimacy
afraid of failure I’m afraid of intimacy I’m afraid of heights I’m afraid of this
I’m afraid of heights I’m afraid of this
I’m afraid of heights I’m afraid of this I’m afraid of that I’m afraid of the
I’m afraid of that I’m afraid of the
I’m afraid of that I’m afraid of the other thing there’s actually only two
other thing there’s actually only two
other thing there’s actually only two fears only two and if you’re in sales
fears only two and if you’re in sales
fears only two and if you’re in sales which you are or even if you’re not
which you are or even if you’re not
which you are or even if you’re not life is about persuading people life is
life is about persuading people life is
life is about persuading people life is about influencing people and fear is the
about influencing people and fear is the
about influencing people and fear is the invisible force that will make you
invisible force that will make you
invisible force that will make you ineffective at that it will stop you now
ineffective at that it will stop you now
ineffective at that it will stop you now I love JK Rollins as an example I mean
I love JK Rollins as an example I mean
I love JK Rollins as an example I mean we all know the Harry Potter series but
we all know the Harry Potter series but
we all know the Harry Potter series but what a lot of people don’t know about
what a lot of people don’t know about
what a lot of people don’t know about her she talks a lot about fear she
her she talks a lot about fear she
her she talks a lot about fear she struggled with major depression do you
struggled with major depression do you
struggled with major depression do you know she was unemployed and she wrote
know she was unemployed and she wrote
know she was unemployed and she wrote the original idea for Harry Potter on a
the original idea for Harry Potter on a
the original idea for Harry Potter on a napkin while she was on state benefits
napkin while she was on state benefits
napkin while she was on state benefits she was then rejected by 12 publishing
she was then rejected by 12 publishing
she was then rejected by 12 publishing houses and this by the way was after she
houses and this by the way was after she
houses and this by the way was after she was divorced bankrupt and a single mom
was divorced bankrupt and a single mom
was divorced bankrupt and a single mom of a kid pushed herself pushed herself
of a kid pushed herself pushed herself
of a kid pushed herself pushed herself pushed herself she talks a lot about
pushed herself she talks a lot about
pushed herself she talks a lot about fear and about failure well you know we
fear and about failure well you know we
fear and about failure well you know we know the moral of the story she just
know the moral of the story she just
know the moral of the story she just kept going of course she was afraid but
kept going of course she was afraid but
kept going of course she was afraid but she had the good kind of fear not the
she had the good kind of fear not the
she had the good kind of fear not the bad kind of fear a lot of people kind of
bad kind of fear a lot of people kind of
bad kind of fear a lot of people kind of mean they say well I want to be an
mean they say well I want to be an
mean they say well I want to be an entrepreneur and I go that’s great
entrepreneur and I go that’s great
entrepreneur and I go that’s great what’s your idea and they go well I
what’s your idea and they go well I
what’s your idea and they go well I don’t have one yet and I say well I
don’t have one yet and I say well I
don’t have one yet and I say well I think you should go get a job as a
think you should go get a job as a
think you should go get a job as a busboy or something until you find
busboy or something until you find
busboy or something until you find something you’re really passionate about
something you’re really passionate about
something you’re really passionate about because it’s a lot of work and I’m
because it’s a lot of work and I’m
because it’s a lot of work and I’m convinced that about half of what
convinced that about half of what
convinced that about half of what separates the successful entrepreneurs
separates the successful entrepreneurs
separates the successful entrepreneurs from the non successful ones is pure
from the non successful ones is pure
from the non successful ones is pure perseverance it is so hard you pour so
perseverance it is so hard you pour so
perseverance it is so hard you pour so much your life into this thing there are
much your life into this thing there are
much your life into this thing there are such rough moments in time that most
such rough moments in time that most
such rough moments in time that most people give up I don’t blame them it’s
people give up I don’t blame them it’s
people give up I don’t blame them it’s really tough and it consumes your life I
really tough and it consumes your life I
really tough and it consumes your life I mean if you’re if you’ve got a family
mean if you’re if you’ve got a family
mean if you’re if you’ve got a family and you’re in the early days of a
and you’re in the early days of a
and you’re in the early days of a company it’s I can
company it’s I can
company it’s I can imagine how one could do it I’m sure
imagine how one could do it I’m sure
imagine how one could do it I’m sure it’s been done but it’s rough I mean
it’s been done but it’s rough I mean
it’s been done but it’s rough I mean because it’s a pretty much a you know a
because it’s a pretty much a you know a
because it’s a pretty much a you know a 18 hour day job seven days a week for a
18 hour day job seven days a week for a
18 hour day job seven days a week for a while so unless you have a lot of
while so unless you have a lot of
while so unless you have a lot of passion about this you’re gonna not
passion about this you’re gonna not
passion about this you’re gonna not survive you’re gonna give it up so
survive you’re gonna give it up so
survive you’re gonna give it up so you’ve got to have an idea or a problem
you’ve got to have an idea or a problem
you’ve got to have an idea or a problem or a wrong that you want to write that
or a wrong that you want to write that
or a wrong that you want to write that you’re passionate about otherwise you’re
you’re passionate about otherwise you’re
you’re passionate about otherwise you’re not going to have the perseverance to
not going to have the perseverance to
not going to have the perseverance to stick it through and I think that’s half
stick it through and I think that’s half
stick it through and I think that’s half the battle right there it’s hard to
the battle right there it’s hard to
the battle right there it’s hard to remember how bad it was you know in
remember how bad it was you know in
remember how bad it was you know in 1980s with IBM taking over the world
1980s with IBM taking over the world
1980s with IBM taking over the world with the PC with Doss out there it was
with the PC with Doss out there it was
with the PC with Doss out there it was it was far worse than the Apple – they
it was far worse than the Apple – they
it was far worse than the Apple – they tried to copy the Apple – and they’ve
tried to copy the Apple – and they’ve
tried to copy the Apple – and they’ve done a pretty bad job and you needed to
done a pretty bad job and you needed to
done a pretty bad job and you needed to know a lot and so things were kind of
know a lot and so things were kind of
know a lot and so things were kind of slipping backwards and Macintosh was you
slipping backwards and Macintosh was you
slipping backwards and Macintosh was you saw the 1984 commercial put that I hope
saw the 1984 commercial put that I hope
saw the 1984 commercial put that I hope you have that in your archives
you have that in your archives
you have that in your archives you know Macintosh was basically this
you know Macintosh was basically this
you know Macintosh was basically this this relatively small company you know
this relatively small company you know
this relatively small company you know in Cupertino California taking on the
in Cupertino California taking on the
in Cupertino California taking on the Goliath the IBM and saying wait a minute
Goliath the IBM and saying wait a minute
Goliath the IBM and saying wait a minute your way is wrong this is not the way we
your way is wrong this is not the way we
your way is wrong this is not the way we want computers to go this is not the
want computers to go this is not the
want computers to go this is not the legacy we want to leave this is not what
legacy we want to leave this is not what
legacy we want to leave this is not what we want our kids to be learning this is
we want our kids to be learning this is
we want our kids to be learning this is wrong and we are going to show you the
wrong and we are going to show you the
wrong and we are going to show you the right way to do it and here it is it’s
right way to do it and here it is it’s
right way to do it and here it is it’s called Macintosh and this is so much
called Macintosh and this is so much
called Macintosh and this is so much better than its gonna beat you and we
better than its gonna beat you and we
better than its gonna beat you and we are gonna do it and that’s what Apple
are gonna do it and that’s what Apple
are gonna do it and that’s what Apple stood for its fascinates me about human
stood for its fascinates me about human
stood for its fascinates me about human beings and it fascinates me about myself
beings and it fascinates me about myself
beings and it fascinates me about myself is that we have such a high tolerance
is that we have such a high tolerance
is that we have such a high tolerance for suckiness isn’t it crazy as long as
for suckiness isn’t it crazy as long as
for suckiness isn’t it crazy as long as the suckiness as a routine but the
the suckiness as a routine but the
the suckiness as a routine but the second you get thrown out of your
second you get thrown out of your
second you get thrown out of your routine or the second that whether it’s
routine or the second that whether it’s
routine or the second that whether it’s because you lose a job or somebody moves
because you lose a job or somebody moves
because you lose a job or somebody moves or somebody dies or somebody breaks up
or somebody dies or somebody breaks up
or somebody dies or somebody breaks up with you or you break like all of a
with you or you break like all of a
with you or you break like all of a sudden that awakens the courage and you
sudden that awakens the courage and you
sudden that awakens the courage and you to make a change because you you know
to make a change because you you know
to make a change because you you know either you have no choice or now you got
either you have no choice or now you got
either you have no choice or now you got a problem to solve but fighting that a
a problem to solve but fighting that a
a problem to solve but fighting that a nurse
nurse
nurse of life is the most difficult thing in
of life is the most difficult thing in
of life is the most difficult thing in the world I ended up getting a job with
the world I ended up getting a job with
the world I ended up getting a job with a law firm because it was the path of
a law firm because it was the path of
a law firm because it was the path of least resistance in Boston in Boston I
least resistance in Boston in Boston I
least resistance in Boston in Boston I hated it because I went from being in
hated it because I went from being in
hated it because I went from being in the courtroom to writing briefs all day
the courtroom to writing briefs all day
the courtroom to writing briefs all day and luckily I got pregnant with our
and luckily I got pregnant with our
and luckily I got pregnant with our first daughter who just is starting
first daughter who just is starting
first daughter who just is starting college which makes me feel so ancient I
college which makes me feel so ancient I
college which makes me feel so ancient I just want to like punch myself in the
just want to like punch myself in the
just want to like punch myself in the face if I have a 18 year olds freshman
face if I have a 18 year olds freshman
face if I have a 18 year olds freshman in college um thank you but I got
in college um thank you but I got
in college um thank you but I got pregnant with her and when she was born
pregnant with her and when she was born
pregnant with her and when she was born I had horrific postpartum depression Wow
I had horrific postpartum depression Wow
I had horrific postpartum depression Wow I mean the really scary kind where you
I mean the really scary kind where you
I mean the really scary kind where you can’t be alone with the baby you’re on
can’t be alone with the baby you’re on
can’t be alone with the baby you’re on crazy meds that turn you at like not the
crazy meds that turn you at like not the
crazy meds that turn you at like not the kind you take recreationally these are
kind you take recreationally these are
kind you take recreationally these are the kind that like turn you into a
the kind that like turn you into a
the kind that like turn you into a zombie and it was a really scary thing
zombie and it was a really scary thing
zombie and it was a really scary thing and I I when I kind of came out of the
and I I when I kind of came out of the
and I I when I kind of came out of the eight-week trance of that I looked up at
eight-week trance of that I looked up at
eight-week trance of that I looked up at Chris and said I’ve made a decision and
Chris and said I’ve made a decision and
Chris and said I’ve made a decision and he said okay what would that be and I
he said okay what would that be and I
he said okay what would that be and I said I don’t ever want to answer the
said I don’t ever want to answer the
said I don’t ever want to answer the question what do you do for a living
question what do you do for a living
question what do you do for a living with the response I’m a lawyer and he
with the response I’m a lawyer and he
with the response I’m a lawyer and he said okay you realize we’ve just bought
said okay you realize we’ve just bought
said okay you realize we’ve just bought this house and we have a kid and we have
this house and we have a kid and we have
this house and we have a kid and we have organs to pay and he said so here’s the
organs to pay and he said so here’s the
organs to pay and he said so here’s the deal you’ve got exactly four weeks
deal you’ve got exactly four weeks
deal you’ve got exactly four weeks before your maternity leave is over
before your maternity leave is over
before your maternity leave is over you need to make $60,000 I don’t care
you need to make $60,000 I don’t care
you need to make $60,000 I don’t care what you do for a living
what you do for a living
what you do for a living that’s your problem go solve it and the
that’s your problem go solve it and the
that’s your problem go solve it and the night before I was supposed to read so I
night before I was supposed to read so I
night before I was supposed to read so I networked like a crazy person because
networked like a crazy person because
networked like a crazy person because again if you’re a human being with the
again if you’re a human being with the
again if you’re a human being with the problem you’ll solve it and so if it
problem you’ll solve it and so if it
problem you’ll solve it and so if it matters enough to you
on those Ed Sullivan shows I began to realize
not just there everywhere all these
not just there everywhere all these shows I didn’t fit and here’s what I was
shows I didn’t fit and here’s what I was
shows I didn’t fit and here’s what I was missing I was missing who I was I began
missing I was missing who I was I began
missing I was missing who I was I began with a dream of being Danny Kaye which
with a dream of being Danny Kaye which
with a dream of being Danny Kaye which is a very mainstream dream it’s very
is a very mainstream dream it’s very
is a very mainstream dream it’s very middle America it’s a people pleaser job
middle America it’s a people pleaser job
middle America it’s a people pleaser job and I dreamed a path that was
and I dreamed a path that was
and I dreamed a path that was traditional commedia a disc jockey
traditional commedia a disc jockey
traditional commedia a disc jockey comedian actor big success a mainstream
comedian actor big success a mainstream
comedian actor big success a mainstream dream meanwhile what I really was was an
dream meanwhile what I really was was an
dream meanwhile what I really was was an outlaw and a rebel because I had lived
outlaw and a rebel because I had lived
outlaw and a rebel because I had lived there that kind of life I got kicked out
there that kind of life I got kicked out
there that kind of life I got kicked out of three different schools I got kicked
of three different schools I got kicked
of three different schools I got kicked out of the Air Force I got kicked out of
out of the Air Force I got kicked out of
out of the Air Force I got kicked out of the choir I got kicked out of the altar
the choir I got kicked out of the altar
the choir I got kicked out of the altar boys and kicked out of summer camp I got
boys and kicked out of summer camp I got
boys and kicked out of summer camp I got kicked out of the Boy Scouts and I quit
kicked out of the Boy Scouts and I quit
kicked out of the Boy Scouts and I quit school at ninth grade I had great marks
school at ninth grade I had great marks
school at ninth grade I had great marks I was a smart kid
I was a smart kid
I was a smart kid but I didn’t care they didn’t want
but I didn’t care they didn’t want
but I didn’t care they didn’t want teaching what I want I didn’t give you
teaching what I want I didn’t give you
teaching what I want I didn’t give you it’s important in life if you don’t give
it’s important in life if you don’t give
it’s important in life if you don’t give it it can help you a lot so I didn’t
it it can help you a lot so I didn’t
it it can help you a lot so I didn’t give it and I was this kind of I was a
give it and I was this kind of I was a
give it and I was this kind of I was a pot smoker when I was 13 we broke the
pot smoker when I was 13 we broke the
pot smoker when I was 13 we broke the law we broke into cars we broke into
law we broke into cars we broke into
law we broke into cars we broke into offices we broke into Columbia
offices we broke into Columbia
offices we broke into Columbia University we broke into stores we did
University we broke into stores we did
University we broke into stores we did all sorts of unlawful things and I was
all sorts of unlawful things and I was
all sorts of unlawful things and I was that kind of person I was one who swam
that kind of person I was one who swam
that kind of person I was one who swam against the tide of what is expected and
against the tide of what is expected and
against the tide of what is expected and what is but the establishment wants from
what is but the establishment wants from
what is but the establishment wants from us but I didn’t know that about myself
us but I didn’t know that about myself
us but I didn’t know that about myself because this dream blinded me this dream
because this dream blinded me this dream
because this dream blinded me this dream was about America about the path then we
was about America about the path then we
was about America about the path then we all follow the middle of the road
all follow the middle of the road
all follow the middle of the road middle class America mainstream will
middle class America mainstream will
middle class America mainstream will dream and being Wayne while I’m sitting
dream and being Wayne while I’m sitting
dream and being Wayne while I’m sitting there like this you know those people
there like this you know those people
there like this you know those people that look at this stupid you know I
that look at this stupid you know I
that look at this stupid you know I don’t want to be in the Bunny number can
don’t want to be in the Bunny number can
don’t want to be in the Bunny number can I get out of the bunny number please I
I get out of the bunny number please I
I get out of the bunny number please I don’t want to put on the uniform you
don’t want to put on the uniform you
don’t want to put on the uniform you know and and and I didn’t know this
know and and and I didn’t know this
know and and and I didn’t know this dissonance was inside me and
dissonance was inside me and
dissonance was inside me and in the period this is happening all
in the period this is happening all
in the period this is happening all through the 60s the counterculture was
through the 60s the counterculture was
through the 60s the counterculture was forming the Free Speech Movement started
forming the Free Speech Movement started
forming the Free Speech Movement started in Berkeley the hippies were growing
in Berkeley the hippies were growing
in Berkeley the hippies were growing into a force and peace love power blow
into a force and peace love power blow
into a force and peace love power blow flower power
flower power
flower power pot smoke and anti-authority singing
pot smoke and anti-authority singing
pot smoke and anti-authority singing anti-authority throw over the
anti-authority throw over the
anti-authority throw over the establishment burned down the math
establishment burned down the math
establishment burned down the math building Wow ding ding ding ding ding
building Wow ding ding ding ding ding
building Wow ding ding ding ding ding ding ding
ding ding
ding ding so I gravitated toward that because I
so I gravitated toward that because I
so I gravitated toward that because I was that person really and and the
was that person really and and the
was that person really and and the people I hung around with were that way
people I hung around with were that way
people I hung around with were that way the musicians I knew in the late 50s had
the musicians I knew in the late 50s had
the musicians I knew in the late 50s had gone through that transition suddenly
gone through that transition suddenly
gone through that transition suddenly they looked different and their music
they looked different and their music
they looked different and their music changed and I’m listening to people like
changed and I’m listening to people like
changed and I’m listening to people like the Buffalo Springfield I listen to Bob
the Buffalo Springfield I listen to Bob
the Buffalo Springfield I listen to Bob Dylan let’s say these people in there I
Dylan let’s say these people in there I
Dylan let’s say these people in there I realized these artists are using their
realized these artists are using their
realized these artists are using their talent to project their feelings and
talent to project their feelings and
talent to project their feelings and ideas not just please people and I
ideas not just please people and I
ideas not just please people and I suddenly was able to see my place and to
suddenly was able to see my place and to
suddenly was able to see my place and to realize I was in the wrong place you see
realize I was in the wrong place you see
realize I was in the wrong place you see in 1967 the Summer of Love the peak of
in 1967 the Summer of Love the peak of
in 1967 the Summer of Love the peak of the hippie movement I was 30 I was
the hippie movement I was 30 I was
the hippie movement I was 30 I was entertaining people in nightclubs who
entertaining people in nightclubs who
entertaining people in nightclubs who were 40 and they were at war with their
were 40 and they were at war with their
were 40 and they were at war with their kids who were 20 there was a generation
kids who were 20 there was a generation
kids who were 20 there was a generation war I was in the middle of it I was 32
war I was in the middle of it I was 32
war I was in the middle of it I was 32 2040 and I’m doing over here these are
2040 and I’m doing over here these are
2040 and I’m doing over here these are the people that will at least understand
the people that will at least understand
the people that will at least understand me and give me a chance
me and give me a chance
me and give me a chance so it took two years I didn’t go to the
so it took two years I didn’t go to the
so it took two years I didn’t go to the mountain and come back different I
mountain and come back different I
mountain and come back different I didn’t do it Bobby down I didn’t do it
didn’t do it Bobby down I didn’t do it
didn’t do it Bobby down I didn’t do it whatever you’d both people who just go
whatever you’d both people who just go
whatever you’d both people who just go away and they’re back new suddenly I
away and they’re back new suddenly I
away and they’re back new suddenly I took two years to change and it happened
took two years to change and it happened
took two years to change and it happened on television so it was if I had I
on television so it was if I had I
on television so it was if I had I denied that part of myself and finally
denied that part of myself and finally
denied that part of myself and finally it came into full flower and I never
it came into full flower and I never
it came into full flower and I never became a really big success until that I
became a really big success until that I
became a really big success until that I probably had 200 television appearances
probably had 200 television appearances
probably had 200 television appearances by that time and I still wasn’t realized
by that time and I still wasn’t realized
by that time and I still wasn’t realized as a writer comedian as a comedian by
as a writer comedian as a comedian by
as a writer comedian as a comedian by that I mean I hadn’t let myself grow
that I mean I hadn’t let myself grow
that I mean I hadn’t let myself grow into that
into that
into that and and I found out later I a lot of you
and and I found out later I a lot of you
and and I found out later I a lot of you feel stuck because you’re waiting for
feel stuck because you’re waiting for
feel stuck because you’re waiting for some kind of external force to either
some kind of external force to either
some kind of external force to either push you and pressure you to change and
push you and pressure you to change and
push you and pressure you to change and be great and to be amazing or you’re
be great and to be amazing or you’re
be great and to be amazing or you’re waiting for somebody to give you
waiting for somebody to give you
waiting for somebody to give you permission you’re either sitting back
permission you’re either sitting back
permission you’re either sitting back because you need some sort of external
because you need some sort of external
because you need some sort of external motivation from somebody that’s gonna
motivation from somebody that’s gonna
motivation from somebody that’s gonna push you or praise you or pressure you
push you or praise you or pressure you
push you or praise you or pressure you in order to change or some life
in order to change or some life
in order to change or some life circumstance like maybe in your past
circumstance like maybe in your past
circumstance like maybe in your past you’ve you’ve experienced trauma or you
you’ve you’ve experienced trauma or you
you’ve you’ve experienced trauma or you face something really scary and that was
face something really scary and that was
face something really scary and that was the thing that made you change and then
the thing that made you change and then
the thing that made you change and then the second thing that people wait around
the second thing that people wait around
the second thing that people wait around for is permission
for is permission
for is permission look those may or may not come in your
look those may or may not come in your
look those may or may not come in your life if you are somebody that is sitting
life if you are somebody that is sitting
life if you are somebody that is sitting around waiting for some external force
around waiting for some external force
around waiting for some external force to come and do the work for you that is
to come and do the work for you that is
to come and do the work for you that is such a losing bet it’s unbelievable
such a losing bet it’s unbelievable
such a losing bet it’s unbelievable maybe you’ll get lucky maybe somebody
maybe you’ll get lucky maybe somebody
maybe you’ll get lucky maybe somebody will come but more than likely no one is
will come but more than likely no one is
will come but more than likely no one is coming
coming
coming the only kind of force that will truly
the only kind of force that will truly
the only kind of force that will truly create change in your life is you the
create change in your life is you the
create change in your life is you the internal kind of force I hate to say it
internal kind of force I hate to say it
internal kind of force I hate to say it but for those of you that feel really
but for those of you that feel really
but for those of you that feel really really stuck and you keep thinking that
really stuck and you keep thinking that
really stuck and you keep thinking that somebody’s got to pick me or somebody’s
somebody’s got to pick me or somebody’s
somebody’s got to pick me or somebody’s gonna discover me or somebody’s got to
gonna discover me or somebody’s got to
gonna discover me or somebody’s got to give me permission to write this book
give me permission to write this book
give me permission to write this book it’s it’s ridiculous this is external
it’s it’s ridiculous this is external
it’s it’s ridiculous this is external versus internal force and what you have
versus internal force and what you have
versus internal force and what you have to figure out if you’re stuck is are you
to figure out if you’re stuck is are you
to figure out if you’re stuck is are you the kind of person that is guilty of
the kind of person that is guilty of
the kind of person that is guilty of needing wanting and waiting for external
needing wanting and waiting for external
needing wanting and waiting for external forces people an event some outside
forces people an event some outside
forces people an event some outside force to kick you in the ass you’ll
force to kick you in the ass you’ll
force to kick you in the ass you’ll finally do the stuff that you’ve been
finally do the stuff that you’ve been
finally do the stuff that you’ve been dreaming about doing I want to tell you
dreaming about doing I want to tell you
dreaming about doing I want to tell you something no one’s coming no one the
something no one’s coming no one the
something no one’s coming no one the people in life that get what they want
people in life that get what they want
people in life that get what they want are the ones that aren’t waiting for an
are the ones that aren’t waiting for an
are the ones that aren’t waiting for an external force to validate their dreams
external force to validate their dreams
external force to validate their dreams to inspire them to give them permission
to inspire them to give them permission
to inspire them to give them permission it’s the people that realize that
it’s the people that realize that
it’s the people that realize that success but happiness that control it
success but happiness that control it
success but happiness that control it comes from the internal force and what
comes from the internal force and what
comes from the internal force and what is the internal force it’s you it’s you
is the internal force it’s you it’s you
is the internal force it’s you it’s you it’s you being able to realize that no
it’s you being able to realize that no
it’s you being able to realize that no one’s gonna do the work for you it’s you
one’s gonna do the work for you it’s you
one’s gonna do the work for you it’s you realizing that you’re never gonna feel
realizing that you’re never gonna feel
realizing that you’re never gonna feel ready in fact even as you start working
ready in fact even as you start working
ready in fact even as you start working toward the things that you really want
toward the things that you really want
toward the things that you really want to do you’re definitely not going to
to do you’re definitely not going to
to do you’re definitely not going to feel ready and you’re gonna feel outside
feel ready and you’re gonna feel outside
feel ready and you’re gonna feel outside your comfort zone and that’s normal when
your comfort zone and that’s normal when
your comfort zone and that’s normal when you start to feel like you’re stretching
you start to feel like you’re stretching
you start to feel like you’re stretching yourself and you’re sticking your
yourself and you’re sticking your
yourself and you’re sticking your scrawny neck out there and you’re taking
scrawny neck out there and you’re taking
scrawny neck out there and you’re taking some risks that’s so amazing because
some risks that’s so amazing because
some risks that’s so amazing because you’re growing you know we have been
you’re growing you know we have been
you’re growing you know we have been invented by turning events the
invented by turning events the
invented by turning events the difference where we were the first group
difference where we were the first group
difference where we were the first group of people that took that crusade to the
of people that took that crusade to the
of people that took that crusade to the American consumer out there you know and
American consumer out there you know and
American consumer out there you know and yes that’s why we’re number one I
yes that’s why we’re number one I
yes that’s why we’re number one I believe the first step to winning in
believe the first step to winning in
believe the first step to winning in business is you’ve got to do what’s
business is you’ve got to do what’s
business is you’ve got to do what’s right for the consumer out there I
right for the consumer out there I
right for the consumer out there I believe your reputations everything if
believe your reputations everything if
believe your reputations everything if you don’t do what’s right 100 percent of
you don’t do what’s right 100 percent of
you don’t do what’s right 100 percent of the time you might get by for one day
the time you might get by for one day
the time you might get by for one day one week one month one year but suddenly
one week one month one year but suddenly
one week one month one year but suddenly they’re gonna bail you out
they’re gonna bail you out
they’re gonna bail you out we’re broke the back term and invest the
we’re broke the back term and invest the
we’re broke the back term and invest the difference is right and we’ve stood the
difference is right and we’ve stood the
difference is right and we’ve stood the heat like you couldn’t believe and
heat like you couldn’t believe and
heat like you couldn’t believe and that’s why we’re number one I’m the kind
that’s why we’re number one I’m the kind
that’s why we’re number one I’m the kind of person that believes you should
of person that believes you should
of person that believes you should always make decisions with your heart
always make decisions with your heart
always make decisions with your heart with soul you can use your brain for
with soul you can use your brain for
with soul you can use your brain for math you can use your brain to look at
math you can use your brain to look at
math you can use your brain to look at the fine print in a contract but when it
the fine print in a contract but when it
the fine print in a contract but when it comes to the actual feel of the decision
comes to the actual feel of the decision
comes to the actual feel of the decision you always want to go inward and check
you always want to go inward and check
you always want to go inward and check it against your heart with soul how do
it against your heart with soul how do
it against your heart with soul how do you do that here’s the simple test does
you do that here’s the simple test does
you do that here’s the simple test does the decision that you’re about to make
the decision that you’re about to make
the decision that you’re about to make expand you expand your future or expand
expand you expand your future or expand
expand you expand your future or expand the possibilities of your life if the
the possibilities of your life if the
the possibilities of your life if the answer is yes then the decision is yes
answer is yes then the decision is yes
answer is yes then the decision is yes no matter how terrifying it is if you
no matter how terrifying it is if you
no matter how terrifying it is if you conversely look at the choice that you
conversely look at the choice that you
conversely look at the choice that you have to make and the decision will
have to make and the decision will
have to make and the decision will shrink you will silence you will inhibit
shrink you will silence you will inhibit
shrink you will silence you will inhibit you in some way then the answer is no no
you in some way then the answer is no no
you in some way then the answer is no no matter how easy the decision is no
matter how easy the decision is no
matter how easy the decision is no matter how safe the decision is the
matter how safe the decision is the
matter how safe the decision is the answer is no now one of the things I
answer is no now one of the things I
answer is no now one of the things I want to point out that when you start to
want to point out that when you start to
want to point out that when you start to use this does it expand or does it
use this does it expand or does it
use this does it expand or does it shrink me does it open possibilities or
shrink me does it open possibilities or
shrink me does it open possibilities or does it keep things closed does it raise
does it keep things closed does it raise
does it keep things closed does it raise my voice or does it silence me right is
my voice or does it silence me right is
my voice or does it silence me right is that there’s always a short-term and a
that there’s always a short-term and a
that there’s always a short-term and a long-term impact to the decision the
long-term impact to the decision the
long-term impact to the decision the short-term impact to making an expansive
short-term impact to making an expansive
short-term impact to making an expansive decision a decision that’s based in your
decision a decision that’s based in your
decision a decision that’s based in your heart your soul sometimes it’s
heart your soul sometimes it’s
heart your soul sometimes it’s terrifying because sometimes it means
terrifying because sometimes it means
terrifying because sometimes it means moving or it means changing a job or
moving or it means changing a job or
moving or it means changing a job or changing a relationship or having a
changing a relationship or having a
changing a relationship or having a difficult conversation
difficult conversation
difficult conversation or starting something new and those
or starting something new and those
or starting something new and those sorts of things are always uncomfortable
sorts of things are always uncomfortable
sorts of things are always uncomfortable so brace for impact put the force fields
so brace for impact put the force fields
so brace for impact put the force fields up but make the decision anyway because
up but make the decision anyway because
up but make the decision anyway because the long-term impact of making a
the long-term impact of making a
the long-term impact of making a decision from your heart and soul that
decision from your heart and soul that
decision from your heart and soul that is where the best life comes from
is where the best life comes from
is where the best life comes from because you’re living for what’s true
because you’re living for what’s true
because you’re living for what’s true for you not what’s safe in the moment I
for you not what’s safe in the moment I
for you not what’s safe in the moment I go into the emergency room and I was
go into the emergency room and I was
go into the emergency room and I was like Donald Smith and they’re like I’m
like Donald Smith and they’re like I’m
like Donald Smith and they’re like I’m sorry he passed and they took me into
sorry he passed and they took me into
sorry he passed and they took me into the room there’s my father laying on a
the room there’s my father laying on a
the room there’s my father laying on a gurney just dead
gurney just dead
gurney just dead it still has a tube sticking out of him
it still has a tube sticking out of him
it still has a tube sticking out of him and they’re trying to intubate him or
and they’re trying to intubate him or
and they’re trying to intubate him or something like that but just motionless
something like that but just motionless
something like that but just motionless quiet
quiet
quiet no breathing whatsoever and it was weird
no breathing whatsoever and it was weird
no breathing whatsoever and it was weird it was it mean to say the least you
it was it mean to say the least you
it was it mean to say the least you always know eventually your parents
always know eventually your parents
always know eventually your parents gonna go but I wasn’t ready I wasn’t
gonna go but I wasn’t ready I wasn’t
gonna go but I wasn’t ready I wasn’t ready for that moment and then I walked
ready for that moment and then I walked
ready for that moment and then I walked out and I went outside not a cigarette I
out and I went outside not a cigarette I
out and I went outside not a cigarette I still cigarette smoker in those days and
still cigarette smoker in those days and
still cigarette smoker in those days and I was just thinking about being half an
I was just thinking about being half an
I was just thinking about being half an orphan or halfway to being an orphan or
orphan or halfway to being an orphan or
orphan or halfway to being an orphan or something like that my brother comes out
something like that my brother comes out
something like that my brother comes out and I was like I can’t believe it right
and I was like I can’t believe it right
and I was like I can’t believe it right he goes yeah it’s pretty tough and I
he goes yeah it’s pretty tough and I
he goes yeah it’s pretty tough and I said how was it because my brother was
said how was it because my brother was
said how was it because my brother was there he was staying with my parents and
there he was staying with my parents and
there he was staying with my parents and Donald without missing a beat my brother
Donald without missing a beat my brother
Donald without missing a beat my brother goes dad died screaming and I was like
goes dad died screaming and I was like
goes dad died screaming and I was like what and he goes dad died screaming I
what and he goes dad died screaming I
what and he goes dad died screaming I said what do you mean it’s like well he
said what do you mean it’s like well he
said what do you mean it’s like well he woke up and he was kicking the sheets
woke up and he was kicking the sheets
woke up and he was kicking the sheets off and screaming about being on fire
off and screaming about being on fire
off and screaming about being on fire and he was so hot and so hot and get him
and he was so hot and so hot and get him
and he was so hot and so hot and get him water and screaming the screaming got
water and screaming the screaming got
water and screaming the screaming got louder and louder and it reached a fever
louder and louder and it reached a fever
louder and louder and it reached a fever pitch and he died and I don’t know how
pitch and he died and I don’t know how
pitch and he died and I don’t know how else to say it but dad died screaming
else to say it but dad died screaming
else to say it but dad died screaming and that hit me like a Mack truck and I
and that hit me like a Mack truck and I
and that hit me like a Mack truck and I remember thinking oh my god in this
remember thinking oh my god in this
remember thinking oh my god in this world or even a good man like my old man
world or even a good man like my old man
world or even a good man like my old man is gonna die screaming there’s no point
is gonna die screaming there’s no point
is gonna die screaming there’s no point and not trying to achieve every dream
and not trying to achieve every dream
and not trying to achieve every dream that I have this is my eventual end one
that I have this is my eventual end one
that I have this is my eventual end one day that’s it
day that’s it
day that’s it and and I really felt like man that’s
and and I really felt like man that’s
and and I really felt like man that’s like this I can’t this is my future
like this I can’t this is my future
like this I can’t this is my future we’re all probably gonna go out
we’re all probably gonna go out
we’re all probably gonna go out screaming so the best thing to do
screaming so the best thing to do
screaming so the best thing to do prior to that is to try to pack that
prior to that is to try to pack that
prior to that is to try to pack that life with as much wonderfulness fun
life with as much wonderfulness fun
life with as much wonderfulness fun productivity surround yourself with
productivity surround yourself with
productivity surround yourself with people that are gonna help you do that
people that are gonna help you do that
people that are gonna help you do that you know cuz in this world there’s not a
you know cuz in this world there’s not a
you know cuz in this world there’s not a lot of support a lot of negativity
lot of support a lot of negativity
lot of support a lot of negativity there’s a lot of cynicism even as I sit
there’s a lot of cynicism even as I sit
there’s a lot of cynicism even as I sit here and tell that story about my father
here and tell that story about my father
here and tell that story about my father dying I guarantee there’s a cynical head
dying I guarantee there’s a cynical head
dying I guarantee there’s a cynical head in this house maybe more sitting there
in this house maybe more sitting there
in this house maybe more sitting there going who cares move on tell a joke the
going who cares move on tell a joke the
going who cares move on tell a joke the world is full of why man you tell people
world is full of why man you tell people
world is full of why man you tell people something they’ll tell you why throw a
something they’ll tell you why throw a
something they’ll tell you why throw a rock and you’ll hit somebody with why
rock and you’ll hit somebody with why
rock and you’ll hit somebody with why like hey man I want to make a movie why
like hey man I want to make a movie why
like hey man I want to make a movie why why do you think you could do that why
why do you think you could do that why
why do you think you could do that why why nobody else is doing it why are you
why nobody else is doing it why are you
why nobody else is doing it why are you doing it there’s so much why you go out
doing it there’s so much why you go out
doing it there’s so much why you go out and you find why not you surround
and you find why not you surround
and you find why not you surround yourself with why not people are just
yourself with why not people are just
yourself with why not people are just like why not we’re you’re like hey man
like why not we’re you’re like hey man
like why not we’re you’re like hey man I’m gonna try something like why not
I’m gonna try something like why not
I’m gonna try something like why not let’s give it a shot people who try to
let’s give it a shot people who try to
let’s give it a shot people who try to help you do your dreams make your dreams
help you do your dreams make your dreams
help you do your dreams make your dreams come true and you do the same for them
come true and you do the same for them
come true and you do the same for them we’re all in this together and it costs
we’re all in this together and it costs
we’re all in this together and it costs nothing to encourage an artist that’s
nothing to encourage an artist that’s
nothing to encourage an artist that’s why I get up here for almost 20 years
why I get up here for almost 20 years
why I get up here for almost 20 years now after the movie man I mean a lot of
now after the movie man I mean a lot of
now after the movie man I mean a lot of filmmakers get up after the movie and
filmmakers get up after the movie and
filmmakers get up after the movie and spend more time than the movie itself
spend more time than the movie itself
spend more time than the movie itself talking but I’ve been trying to impart
talking but I’ve been trying to impart
talking but I’ve been trying to impart one simple lesson for nearly 20 years
one simple lesson for nearly 20 years
one simple lesson for nearly 20 years anybody can do this you know what I’m
anybody can do this you know what I’m
anybody can do this you know what I’m saying like I wasn’t born into a
saying like I wasn’t born into a
saying like I wasn’t born into a business or the film business or born
business or the film business or born
business or the film business or born with a mic in my hands I have no
with a mic in my hands I have no
with a mic in my hands I have no discernible talent whatsoever man I have
discernible talent whatsoever man I have
discernible talent whatsoever man I have no connections to the business we’re
no connections to the business we’re
no connections to the business we’re from New Jersey and stuff I got lucky
from New Jersey and stuff I got lucky
from New Jersey and stuff I got lucky somebody picked up the movie and boom I
somebody picked up the movie and boom I
somebody picked up the movie and boom I was off and running and part of that
was off and running and part of that
was off and running and part of that manifest when you’re in brought into the
manifest when you’re in brought into the
manifest when you’re in brought into the indie film community part of your your
indie film community part of your your
indie film community part of your your your job part of your honor part of your
your job part of your honor part of your
your job part of your honor part of your privilege is to make sure that keeps
privilege is to make sure that keeps
privilege is to make sure that keeps going to encourage other people you know
going to encourage other people you know
going to encourage other people you know to tell people it’s worth the shot just
to tell people it’s worth the shot just
to tell people it’s worth the shot just like Wayne Gretzky said like you miss a
like Wayne Gretzky said like you miss a
like Wayne Gretzky said like you miss a hundred percent of the shots you never
hundred percent of the shots you never
hundred percent of the shots you never take it’s always worth the shot now if
take it’s always worth the shot now if
take it’s always worth the shot now if you’re talking about leg if what you’re
you’re talking about leg if what you’re
you’re talking about leg if what you’re shot is usually like I’ve always wanted
shot is usually like I’ve always wanted
shot is usually like I’ve always wanted to kill 12 children Kevin don’t take
to kill 12 children Kevin don’t take
to kill 12 children Kevin don’t take that shot at all I’m not talking about
that shot at all I’m not talking about
that shot at all I’m not talking about that you know I’m
that you know I’m
that you know I’m talking about artsy you know writing a
talking about artsy you know writing a
talking about artsy you know writing a blog and making some music making a
blog and making some music making a
blog and making some music making a movie making a cupcake store the
movie making a cupcake store the
movie making a cupcake store the Knitting store putting together of a
Knitting store putting together of a
Knitting store putting together of a YouTube clip just anything that’s just
YouTube clip just anything that’s just
YouTube clip just anything that’s just not all we must do this because it’s a
not all we must do this because it’s a
not all we must do this because it’s a part of my job or this will get money
part of my job or this will get money
part of my job or this will get money some you just do just to see if it could
some you just do just to see if it could
some you just do just to see if it could be done live a why not life man because
be done live a why not life man because
be done live a why not life man because we’re all gonna die screaming so make
we’re all gonna die screaming so make
we’re all gonna die screaming so make sure when you die screaming you’re
sure when you die screaming you’re
sure when you die screaming you’re totally fulfilled you like I took all
totally fulfilled you like I took all
totally fulfilled you like I took all the shots I did it I did I went after
the shots I did it I did I went after
the shots I did it I did I went after everything I wanted to or at least tried
everything I wanted to or at least tried
everything I wanted to or at least tried take the shot the shot is always worth
take the shot the shot is always worth
take the shot the shot is always worth taking whether it’s a dopey thing like
taking whether it’s a dopey thing like
taking whether it’s a dopey thing like podcasting or writing a book or writing
podcasting or writing a book or writing
podcasting or writing a book or writing a blog think about the encouragement you
a blog think about the encouragement you
a blog think about the encouragement you get when you encourage an artist think
get when you encourage an artist think
get when you encourage an artist think about the potential that comes out of it
about the potential that comes out of it
about the potential that comes out of it you tell dude good job man that person
you tell dude good job man that person
you tell dude good job man that person maybe one day writes that blog that you
maybe one day writes that blog that you
maybe one day writes that blog that you mean out to the entire world because it
mean out to the entire world because it
mean out to the entire world because it says exactly what you always wanted to
says exactly what you always wanted to
says exactly what you always wanted to say but couldn’t yourself or they write
say but couldn’t yourself or they write
say but couldn’t yourself or they write that song that you play over and over
that song that you play over and over
that song that you play over and over after a loved one dies because it means
after a loved one dies because it means
after a loved one dies because it means the world to you they they make that
the world to you they they make that
the world to you they they make that movie that is the one you cling to and
movie that is the one you cling to and
movie that is the one you cling to and everything is going wrong in life all
everything is going wrong in life all
everything is going wrong in life all you pop that in and things aren’t bad
you pop that in and things aren’t bad
you pop that in and things aren’t bad for two hours all that comes from
for two hours all that comes from
for two hours all that comes from encouraging an artist nothing good comes
encouraging an artist nothing good comes
encouraging an artist nothing good comes from discouraging an artist so for 20
from discouraging an artist so for 20
from discouraging an artist so for 20 years I keep coming up here and going go
years I keep coming up here and going go
years I keep coming up here and going go out and do it why the fuck aren’t you
out and do it why the fuck aren’t you
out and do it why the fuck aren’t you doing this it’s so fun you should do it
doing this it’s so fun you should do it
doing this it’s so fun you should do it take your shot I took my shot and it’s
take your shot I took my shot and it’s
take your shot I took my shot and it’s nothing but pussy and no nuts you know
nothing but pussy and no nuts you know
nothing but pussy and no nuts you know just so I’m here to tell you man give it
just so I’m here to tell you man give it
just so I’m here to tell you man give it a shot go out and try this is something
a shot go out and try this is something
a shot go out and try this is something that we see over and over and over again
that we see over and over and over again
that we see over and over and over again and it’s this idea that you don’t ever
and it’s this idea that you don’t ever
and it’s this idea that you don’t ever start you stay trapped in your head and
start you stay trapped in your head and
start you stay trapped in your head and if you feel paralyzed if you’ve been
if you feel paralyzed if you’ve been
if you feel paralyzed if you’ve been spinning the same ideas over and over
spinning the same ideas over and over
spinning the same ideas over and over and over again then you know what I’m
and over again then you know what I’m
and over again then you know what I’m talking about you see many of you are
talking about you see many of you are
talking about you see many of you are thinking way too Vic you’re attaching
thinking way too Vic you’re attaching
thinking way too Vic you’re attaching way too much pressure on the things that
way too much pressure on the things that
way too much pressure on the things that you’re interested in until you start
you’re interested in until you start
you’re interested in until you start blogging about fashion you won’t even
blogging about fashion you won’t even
blogging about fashion you won’t even know if you like it so thinking that you
know if you like it so thinking that you
know if you like it so thinking that you have a dream about doing it and thinking
have a dream about doing it and thinking
have a dream about doing it and thinking that you have this grand plan
that you have this grand plan
that you have this grand plan that you’re gonna do it full-time it is
that you’re gonna do it full-time it is
that you’re gonna do it full-time it is a complete and utter waste of your time
a complete and utter waste of your time
a complete and utter waste of your time to be dreaming that big and let me tell
to be dreaming that big and let me tell
to be dreaming that big and let me tell you why because often times if you’re
you why because often times if you’re
you why because often times if you’re the kind of person like Vickie that’s
the kind of person like Vickie that’s
the kind of person like Vickie that’s getting trapped up here the bigness of
getting trapped up here the bigness of
getting trapped up here the bigness of what you’re thinking about is what’s
what you’re thinking about is what’s
what you’re thinking about is what’s stopping you what I want you to do if
stopping you what I want you to do if
stopping you what I want you to do if you’re in Vickie’s situation is I want
you’re in Vickie’s situation is I want
you’re in Vickie’s situation is I want you to stop dreaming and I want you to
you to stop dreaming and I want you to
you to stop dreaming and I want you to just start doing small things I want you
just start doing small things I want you
just start doing small things I want you to go back to curiosity and less into
to go back to curiosity and less into
to go back to curiosity and less into crushing your big goals you think about
crushing your big goals you think about
crushing your big goals you think about life and business and success is that
life and business and success is that
life and business and success is that you have to be willing to start and for
you have to be willing to start and for
you have to be willing to start and for people that procrastinate starting is
people that procrastinate starting is
people that procrastinate starting is the hardest part for people that worry
the hardest part for people that worry
the hardest part for people that worry for people that think too big starting
for people that think too big starting
for people that think too big starting is the hardest part folks that study
is the hardest part folks that study
is the hardest part folks that study procrastination talk about the fact that
procrastination talk about the fact that
procrastination talk about the fact that the only way to beat procrastination is
the only way to beat procrastination is
the only way to beat procrastination is to create what they call a starting
to create what they call a starting
to create what they call a starting ritual which is a way to push yourself
ritual which is a way to push yourself
ritual which is a way to push yourself to get started because all the research
to get started because all the research
to get started because all the research shows that if we can push you to get
shows that if we can push you to get
shows that if we can push you to get started on something you’ll likely keep
started on something you’ll likely keep
started on something you’ll likely keep going I called up Bill Hewlett when I
going I called up Bill Hewlett when I
going I called up Bill Hewlett when I was 12 years old and he lived in Palo
was 12 years old and he lived in Palo
was 12 years old and he lived in Palo Alto his number was still in a phone
Alto his number was still in a phone
Alto his number was still in a phone book and he answered the phone himself
book and he answered the phone himself
book and he answered the phone himself did not yes hi I’m Steve Jobs I’m 12
did not yes hi I’m Steve Jobs I’m 12
did not yes hi I’m Steve Jobs I’m 12 years old I’m a student in high school
years old I’m a student in high school
years old I’m a student in high school and I want to build a frequency counter
and I want to build a frequency counter
and I want to build a frequency counter and I was wondering if you had any spare
and I was wondering if you had any spare
and I was wondering if you had any spare parts I could have and he laughed and he
parts I could have and he laughed and he
parts I could have and he laughed and he gave me the spare parts to build his
gave me the spare parts to build his
gave me the spare parts to build his frequency counter and he gave me a job
frequency counter and he gave me a job
frequency counter and he gave me a job that summer in Hewlett Packard working
that summer in Hewlett Packard working
that summer in Hewlett Packard working on the assembly line putting nuts and
on the assembly line putting nuts and
on the assembly line putting nuts and bolts together on frequency counters he
bolts together on frequency counters he
bolts together on frequency counters he got me a job in the place that built
got me a job in the place that built
got me a job in the place that built them and I was in heaven
them and I was in heaven
them and I was in heaven and I’ve never found anyone who said no
and I’ve never found anyone who said no
and I’ve never found anyone who said no or hung up the phone when I called I
or hung up the phone when I called I
or hung up the phone when I called I just asked and when people ask me I try
just asked and when people ask me I try
just asked and when people ask me I try to be as responsive to pay that that
to be as responsive to pay that that
to be as responsive to pay that that debt of gratitude back
debt of gratitude back
debt of gratitude back most people never pick up the phone and
most people never pick up the phone and
most people never pick up the phone and call most people never ask and that’s
call most people never ask and that’s
call most people never ask and that’s what separates sometimes the people that
what separates sometimes the people that
what separates sometimes the people that do things from the people that just
do things from the people that just
do things from the people that just dream about them got it you got it act
dream about them got it you got it act
dream about them got it you got it act and you’ve got to be willing to fail
and you’ve got to be willing to fail
and you’ve got to be willing to fail you’ve got to be willing to crash and
you’ve got to be willing to crash and
you’ve got to be willing to crash and burn you know with people on the phone
burn you know with people on the phone
burn you know with people on the phone with starting a company with whatever if
with starting a company with whatever if
with starting a company with whatever if you’re afraid of failing you won’t get
you’re afraid of failing you won’t get
you’re afraid of failing you won’t get very far and a lot of time talking about
very far and a lot of time talking about
very far and a lot of time talking about mindset from the standpoint of think
mindset from the standpoint of think
mindset from the standpoint of think positive so positive things happen and I
positive so positive things happen and I
positive so positive things happen and I do believe in having a positive mindset
do believe in having a positive mindset
do believe in having a positive mindset obviously I think that the actions that
obviously I think that the actions that
obviously I think that the actions that you take are way more important in terms
you take are way more important in terms
you take are way more important in terms of developing that mindset but we don’t
of developing that mindset but we don’t
of developing that mindset but we don’t spend enough time on what you were just
spend enough time on what you were just
spend enough time on what you were just talking about which is understanding how
talking about which is understanding how
talking about which is understanding how the automatic nature of worrying about
the automatic nature of worrying about
the automatic nature of worrying about stuff all day long how that is making
stuff all day long how that is making
stuff all day long how that is making you less money how it is making you less
you less money how it is making you less
you less money how it is making you less happy how it is disconnecting you from
happy how it is disconnecting you from
happy how it is disconnecting you from your spouse how it is keeping you
your spouse how it is keeping you
your spouse how it is keeping you unhealthy and how it is a habit that
unhealthy and how it is a habit that
unhealthy and how it is a habit that robs you of joy and opportunity and
robs you of joy and opportunity and
robs you of joy and opportunity and power and it is one of the easiest
power and it is one of the easiest
power and it is one of the easiest habits to break number one your life
habits to break number one your life
habits to break number one your life happens in five-second windows number
happens in five-second windows number
happens in five-second windows number two in five seconds you can control what
two in five seconds you can control what
two in five seconds you can control what you think you can decide what you’re
you think you can decide what you’re
you think you can decide what you’re going to do and you can change
going to do and you can change
going to do and you can change absolutely anything which changes
absolutely anything which changes
absolutely anything which changes absolutely everything and so the
absolutely everything and so the
absolutely everything and so the five-second rule is a mind trick that’s
five-second rule is a mind trick that’s
five-second rule is a mind trick that’s all that it is a fancy way to call it as
all that it is a fancy way to call it as
all that it is a fancy way to call it as a you know it’s a form of metacognition
a you know it’s a form of metacognition
a you know it’s a form of metacognition but it’s basically a hack it’s a cheat
but it’s basically a hack it’s a cheat
but it’s basically a hack it’s a cheat code okay and the way that it works and
code okay and the way that it works and
code okay and the way that it works and this is the challenge with getting it
this is the challenge with getting it
this is the challenge with getting it out there is that it sounds so
out there is that it sounds so
out there is that it sounds so profoundly stupid like a gimmick that it
profoundly stupid like a gimmick that it
profoundly stupid like a gimmick that it took a while for people to actually take
took a while for people to actually take
took a while for people to actually take it seriously I get that and to really
it seriously I get that and to really
it seriously I get that and to really stack up the science to make you know
stack up the science to make you know
stack up the science to make you know anybody that interacts with it go holy
anybody that interacts with it go holy
anybody that interacts with it go holy shit like this actually works yeah so
shit like this actually works yeah so
shit like this actually works yeah so here’s what it is basically the moment
here’s what it is basically the moment
here’s what it is basically the moment you catch yourself hesitating or
you catch yourself hesitating or
you catch yourself hesitating or doubting or starting to worry or about
doubting or starting to worry or about
doubting or starting to worry or about to chicken out or shrink or shut up or
to chicken out or shrink or shut up or
to chicken out or shrink or shut up or whatever it is that you’re about to do
whatever it is that you’re about to do
whatever it is that you’re about to do that is shrinking your power you just go
that is shrinking your power you just go
that is shrinking your power you just go 5 4 3 2 1 you count backwards 5 4 3 2 1
5 4 3 2 1 you count backwards 5 4 3 2 1
5 4 3 2 1 you count backwards 5 4 3 2 1 what happens when you do that don’t do
what happens when you do that don’t do
what happens when you do that don’t do it out loud because it’ll scare somebody
it out loud because it’ll scare somebody
it out loud because it’ll scare somebody it’s like you know we say it’s it’s so
it’s like you know we say it’s it’s so
it’s like you know we say it’s it’s so simple that people live skip in the
simple that people live skip in the
simple that people live skip in the making because that means I’ve really
making because that means I’ve really
making because that means I’ve really made it through your kids will use it on
made it through your kids will use it on
made it through your kids will use it on you so my kids will use it on me so if I
you so my kids will use it on me so if I
you so my kids will use it on me so if I have a certain tone that comes out I’ll
have a certain tone that comes out I’ll
have a certain tone that comes out I’ll hear my childhood go 5 4 3 watch that
hear my childhood go 5 4 3 watch that
hear my childhood go 5 4 3 watch that tone mom you know just for Mom 5 4 3 2 1
tone mom you know just for Mom 5 4 3 2 1
tone mom you know just for Mom 5 4 3 2 1 I thought you’re gonna go to the gym yes
I thought you’re gonna go to the gym yes
I thought you’re gonna go to the gym yes so by counting backwards the the kind of
so by counting backwards the the kind of
so by counting backwards the the kind of cheat codes that you’re doing in your
cheat codes that you’re doing in your
cheat codes that you’re doing in your mind is you are interrupting what are
mind is you are interrupting what are
mind is you are interrupting what are called habit loops that get encoded in
called habit loops that get encoded in
called habit loops that get encoded in the central part of your brain and you
the central part of your brain and you
the central part of your brain and you are starting up the prefrontal cortex
are starting up the prefrontal cortex
are starting up the prefrontal cortex it’s a little trick that causes focus
it’s a little trick that causes focus
it’s a little trick that causes focus and it’s it’s a lot like having a mantra
and it’s it’s a lot like having a mantra
and it’s it’s a lot like having a mantra because you’re shifting gears but the
because you’re shifting gears but the
because you’re shifting gears but the thing about having a mantra is and I
thing about having a mantra is and I
thing about having a mantra is and I suppose that as you count backwards more
suppose that as you count backwards more
suppose that as you count backwards more and more and more
and more and more
and more and more you become used to it but it becomes a
you become used to it but it becomes a
you become used to it but it becomes a habit that triggers action so what you
habit that triggers action so what you
habit that triggers action so what you do is go 5 4 3 2 1
do is go 5 4 3 2 1
do is go 5 4 3 2 1 cut off this part of the brain awaken
cut off this part of the brain awaken
cut off this part of the brain awaken this part of the brain and then move and
this part of the brain and then move and
this part of the brain and then move and what happens with the counting backwards
what happens with the counting backwards
what happens with the counting backwards is there’s nowhere to go after 1 and
is there’s nowhere to go after 1 and
is there’s nowhere to go after 1 and your mind is socialized in a countdown
your mind is socialized in a countdown
your mind is socialized in a countdown situation to go and so counting up won’t
situation to go and so counting up won’t
situation to go and so counting up won’t work because you can keep it forever
work because you can keep it forever
work because you can keep it forever and you do it in many aspects of your
and you do it in many aspects of your
and you do it in many aspects of your life so it’s actually not something that
life so it’s actually not something that
life so it’s actually not something that requires any focus we try to hire really
requires any focus we try to hire really
requires any focus we try to hire really smart people but we have a very simple
smart people but we have a very simple
smart people but we have a very simple organization and we try to focus and do
organization and we try to focus and do
organization and we try to focus and do very few things well and focusing is
very few things well and focusing is
very few things well and focusing is hard because focusing doesn’t mean
hard because focusing doesn’t mean
hard because focusing doesn’t mean saying yes it means saying no so we say
saying yes it means saying no so we say
saying yes it means saying no so we say we decide not to do a lot of things so
we decide not to do a lot of things so
we decide not to do a lot of things so we can focus on a few handfuls of things
we can focus on a few handfuls of things
we can focus on a few handfuls of things and do them well and I think you know
and do them well and I think you know
and do them well and I think you know everybody working the company wants to
everybody working the company wants to
everybody working the company wants to do something great they want to be
do something great they want to be
do something great they want to be excited about what they’re working on
excited about what they’re working on
excited about what they’re working on and and they want to be recognized for
and and they want to be recognized for
and and they want to be recognized for it when if they do a really great job so
it when if they do a really great job so
it when if they do a really great job so we just try to allow people to do the
we just try to allow people to do the
we just try to allow people to do the best work of their lives at Apple and
best work of their lives at Apple and
best work of their lives at Apple and get it out to 25 million customers that
get it out to 25 million customers that
get it out to 25 million customers that we have and that’s very exciting when
we have and that’s very exciting when
we have and that’s very exciting when you’re working on something and you know
you’re working on something and you know
you’re working on something and you know this works out up to 25 million people
this works out up to 25 million people
this works out up to 25 million people are going to use this it’s very
are going to use this it’s very
are going to use this it’s very motivating hmm and it’s not just 25
motivating hmm and it’s not just 25
motivating hmm and it’s not just 25 million of our customers but other
million of our customers but other
million of our customers but other companies tend to follow us you know it
companies tend to follow us you know it
companies tend to follow us you know it takes them a few years but other
takes them a few years but other
takes them a few years but other companies tend to copy what we do if it
companies tend to copy what we do if it
companies tend to copy what we do if it works
works
works and and so we can influence the whole
and and so we can influence the whole
and and so we can influence the whole industry
industry
industry you will fail at some point in your life
you will fail at some point in your life
you will fail at some point in your life accept it you will lose you will
accept it you will lose you will
accept it you will lose you will embarrass yourself you will suck at
embarrass yourself you will suck at
embarrass yourself you will suck at something there’s no doubt about it and
something there’s no doubt about it and
something there’s no doubt about it and I know that’s probably not a traditional
I know that’s probably not a traditional
I know that’s probably not a traditional message for a graduation ceremony but
message for a graduation ceremony but
message for a graduation ceremony but hey I’m telling you embrace it because
hey I’m telling you embrace it because
hey I’m telling you embrace it because it’s inevitable and I should know in the
it’s inevitable and I should know in the
it’s inevitable and I should know in the acting business you fail all the time
acting business you fail all the time
acting business you fail all the time early on in my career I auditioned for a
early on in my career I auditioned for a
early on in my career I auditioned for a part in a Broadway musical perfect role
part in a Broadway musical perfect role
part in a Broadway musical perfect role for me I thought except for the fact
for me I thought except for the fact
for me I thought except for the fact that I can’t sing so I’m in the wings
that I can’t sing so I’m in the wings
that I can’t sing so I’m in the wings I’m about to go onstage but the guy in
I’m about to go onstage but the guy in
I’m about to go onstage but the guy in front of me he’s singing like like like
front of me he’s singing like like like
front of me he’s singing like like like Pavarotti he’s just going on and on and
Pavarotti he’s just going on and on and
Pavarotti he’s just going on and on and on and I’m just shrinking I’m getting
on and I’m just shrinking I’m getting
on and I’m just shrinking I’m getting smaller and smaller so they say oh thank
smaller and smaller so they say oh thank
smaller and smaller so they say oh thank you very much thank you very much and
you very much thank you very much and
you very much thank you very much and you will you’ll be hearing from us so I
you will you’ll be hearing from us so I
you will you’ll be hearing from us so I come out with my little music and it was
come out with my little music and it was
come out with my little music and it was it was a just my imagination by the
it was a just my imagination by the
it was a just my imagination by the temptations that’s what I came up with
temptations that’s what I came up with
temptations that’s what I came up with so I hand it to the the the accompany us
so I hand it to the the the accompany us
so I hand it to the the the accompany us and she looks at it and looks at me and
and she looks at it and looks at me and
and she looks at it and looks at me and excited the director and it’s like all
excited the director and it’s like all
excited the director and it’s like all right so I start you know that I’m gonna
right so I start you know that I’m gonna
right so I start you know that I’m gonna sing I’m like
again kind of eating away with me and
again kind of eating away with me and I’m not saying anything so I’m thinking
I’m not saying anything so I’m thinking
I’m not saying anything so I’m thinking I’m getting better I start getting into
I’m getting better I start getting into
I’m getting better I start getting into it running this hour yeah yeah thank you
it running this hour yeah yeah thank you
it running this hour yeah yeah thank you thank you thank you thank you very much
thank you thank you thank you very much
thank you thank you thank you very much mr. Washington thank you so I assumed I
mr. Washington thank you so I assumed I
mr. Washington thank you so I assumed I didn’t get the job but the next part of
didn’t get the job but the next part of
didn’t get the job but the next part of the audition he called me back the next
the audition he called me back the next
the audition he called me back the next part of the audition is the acting part
part of the audition is the acting part
part of the audition is the acting part of the audition no I’m like hey okay
of the audition no I’m like hey okay
of the audition no I’m like hey okay maybe I can’t sing but I know I can act
maybe I can’t sing but I know I can act
maybe I can’t sing but I know I can act so they pair me with this guy and again
so they pair me with this guy and again
so they pair me with this guy and again I didn’t know about musical theater and
I didn’t know about musical theater and
I didn’t know about musical theater and musical theater is big so they could
musical theater is big so they could
musical theater is big so they could reach everyone all the way in the back
reach everyone all the way in the back
reach everyone all the way in the back of the stadium and I’m more from a
of the stadium and I’m more from a
of the stadium and I’m more from a realistic naturalistic kind of acting
realistic naturalistic kind of acting
realistic naturalistic kind of acting where you you know you actually talk to
where you you know you actually talk to
where you you know you actually talk to the person next to me so I don’t know
the person next to me so I don’t know
the person next to me so I don’t know what my line was my line was will hand
what my line was my line was will hand
what my line was my line was will hand me the cut and his line was well I will
me the cut and his line was well I will
me the cut and his line was well I will hand you the cup my dear the cup would
hand you the cup my dear the cup would
hand you the cup my dear the cup would be there to be handed to you as I say
be there to be handed to you as I say
be there to be handed to you as I say okay well should I give you the cup back
okay well should I give you the cup back
okay well should I give you the cup back oh yes you should give it back to me
oh yes you should give it back to me
oh yes you should give it back to me because you know that is my cup and it
because you know that is my cup and it
because you know that is my cup and it should be given back to me I didn’t get
should be given back to me I didn’t get
should be given back to me I didn’t get the job
but here’s the thing I didn’t quit I
but here’s the thing I didn’t quit I didn’t fall back I walked out of there
didn’t fall back I walked out of there
didn’t fall back I walked out of there to prepare for the next audition and the
to prepare for the next audition and the
to prepare for the next audition and the next audition and the next audition I
next audition and the next audition I
next audition and the next audition I pray I pray and I pray
but I continue to fail and fail and fail
but I continue to fail and fail and fail but it didn’t matter because you know
but it didn’t matter because you know
but it didn’t matter because you know what there’s an old saying you hang
what there’s an old saying you hang
what there’s an old saying you hang around the barbershop long enough sooner
around the barbershop long enough sooner
around the barbershop long enough sooner or later you’re going to get a haircut
so you will catch a break and I did
so you will catch a break and I did catch a break last year I did a play
catch a break last year I did a play
catch a break last year I did a play called fences on Broadway if someone
called fences on Broadway if someone
called fences on Broadway if someone talked about won the Tony Award and I
talked about won the Tony Award and I
talked about won the Tony Award and I didn’t have to sing by the way but
didn’t have to sing by the way but
didn’t have to sing by the way but here’s the kicker
here’s the kicker
here’s the kicker it was at the Court Theatre
it was at the Court Theatre
it was at the Court Theatre it was at the same theater that I failed
it was at the same theater that I failed
it was at the same theater that I failed that first audition 30 years prior
[Music]
[Music] [Applause]
[Applause]
[Applause] the point is and I’ll pick up the pace
the point is and I’ll pick up the pace
the point is and I’ll pick up the pace the point is every graduate here today
the point is every graduate here today
the point is every graduate here today has the training and the talent to
has the training and the talent to
has the training and the talent to succeed but do you have the guts to fail
everybody has fear all wrong people have
everybody has fear all wrong people have so many theories about fear they talk
so many theories about fear they talk
so many theories about fear they talk about oh I’m afraid of success now I’m
about oh I’m afraid of success now I’m
about oh I’m afraid of success now I’m afraid of failure I’m afraid of intimacy
afraid of failure I’m afraid of intimacy
afraid of failure I’m afraid of intimacy I’m afraid of heights I’m afraid of this
I’m afraid of heights I’m afraid of this
I’m afraid of heights I’m afraid of this I’m afraid of that I’m afraid of the
I’m afraid of that I’m afraid of the
I’m afraid of that I’m afraid of the other thing there’s actually only two
other thing there’s actually only two
other thing there’s actually only two fears only two and if you’re in sales
fears only two and if you’re in sales
fears only two and if you’re in sales which you are or even if you’re not
which you are or even if you’re not
which you are or even if you’re not life is about persuading people life is
life is about persuading people life is
life is about persuading people life is about influencing people and fear is the
about influencing people and fear is the
about influencing people and fear is the invisible force that will make you
invisible force that will make you
invisible force that will make you ineffective at that it will stop you now
ineffective at that it will stop you now
ineffective at that it will stop you now I love JK Rollins as an example I mean
I love JK Rollins as an example I mean
I love JK Rollins as an example I mean we all know the Harry Potter series but
we all know the Harry Potter series but
we all know the Harry Potter series but what a lot of people don’t know about
what a lot of people don’t know about
what a lot of people don’t know about her she talks a lot about fear she
her she talks a lot about fear she
her she talks a lot about fear she struggled with major depression do you
struggled with major depression do you
struggled with major depression do you know she was unemployed and she wrote
know she was unemployed and she wrote
know she was unemployed and she wrote the original idea for Harry Potter on a
the original idea for Harry Potter on a
the original idea for Harry Potter on a napkin while she was on state benefits
napkin while she was on state benefits
napkin while she was on state benefits she was then rejected by 12 publishing
she was then rejected by 12 publishing
she was then rejected by 12 publishing houses and this by the way was after she
houses and this by the way was after she
houses and this by the way was after she was divorced bankrupt and a single mom
was divorced bankrupt and a single mom
was divorced bankrupt and a single mom of a kid pushed herself pushed herself
of a kid pushed herself pushed herself
of a kid pushed herself pushed herself pushed herself she talks a lot about
pushed herself she talks a lot about
pushed herself she talks a lot about fear and about failure well you know we
fear and about failure well you know we
fear and about failure well you know we know the moral of the story she just
know the moral of the story she just
know the moral of the story she just kept going of course she was afraid but
kept going of course she was afraid but
kept going of course she was afraid but she had the good kind of fear not the
she had the good kind of fear not the
she had the good kind of fear not the bad kind of fear a lot of people kind of
bad kind of fear a lot of people kind of
bad kind of fear a lot of people kind of mean they say well I want to be an
mean they say well I want to be an
mean they say well I want to be an entrepreneur and I go that’s great
entrepreneur and I go that’s great
entrepreneur and I go that’s great what’s your idea and they go well I
what’s your idea and they go well I
what’s your idea and they go well I don’t have one yet and I say well I
don’t have one yet and I say well I
don’t have one yet and I say well I think you should go get a job as a
think you should go get a job as a
think you should go get a job as a busboy or something until you find
busboy or something until you find
busboy or something until you find something you’re really passionate about
something you’re really passionate about
something you’re really passionate about because it’s a lot of work and I’m
because it’s a lot of work and I’m
because it’s a lot of work and I’m convinced that about half of what
convinced that about half of what
convinced that about half of what separates the successful entrepreneurs
separates the successful entrepreneurs
separates the successful entrepreneurs from the non successful ones is pure
from the non successful ones is pure
from the non successful ones is pure perseverance it is so hard you pour so
perseverance it is so hard you pour so
perseverance it is so hard you pour so much your life into this thing there are
much your life into this thing there are
much your life into this thing there are such rough moments in time that most
such rough moments in time that most
such rough moments in time that most people give up I don’t blame them it’s
people give up I don’t blame them it’s
people give up I don’t blame them it’s really tough and it consumes your life I
really tough and it consumes your life I
really tough and it consumes your life I mean if you’re if you’ve got a family
mean if you’re if you’ve got a family
mean if you’re if you’ve got a family and you’re in the early days of a
and you’re in the early days of a
and you’re in the early days of a company it’s I can
company it’s I can
company it’s I can imagine how one could do it I’m sure
imagine how one could do it I’m sure
imagine how one could do it I’m sure it’s been done but it’s rough I mean
it’s been done but it’s rough I mean
it’s been done but it’s rough I mean because it’s a pretty much a you know a
because it’s a pretty much a you know a
because it’s a pretty much a you know a 18 hour day job seven days a week for a
18 hour day job seven days a week for a
18 hour day job seven days a week for a while so unless you have a lot of
while so unless you have a lot of
while so unless you have a lot of passion about this you’re gonna not
passion about this you’re gonna not
passion about this you’re gonna not survive you’re gonna give it up so
survive you’re gonna give it up so
survive you’re gonna give it up so you’ve got to have an idea or a problem
you’ve got to have an idea or a problem
you’ve got to have an idea or a problem or a wrong that you want to write that
or a wrong that you want to write that
or a wrong that you want to write that you’re passionate about otherwise you’re
you’re passionate about otherwise you’re
you’re passionate about otherwise you’re not going to have the perseverance to
not going to have the perseverance to
not going to have the perseverance to stick it through and I think that’s half
stick it through and I think that’s half
stick it through and I think that’s half the battle right there it’s hard to
the battle right there it’s hard to
the battle right there it’s hard to remember how bad it was you know in
remember how bad it was you know in
remember how bad it was you know in 1980s with IBM taking over the world
1980s with IBM taking over the world
1980s with IBM taking over the world with the PC with Doss out there it was
with the PC with Doss out there it was
with the PC with Doss out there it was it was far worse than the Apple – they
it was far worse than the Apple – they
it was far worse than the Apple – they tried to copy the Apple – and they’ve
tried to copy the Apple – and they’ve
tried to copy the Apple – and they’ve done a pretty bad job and you needed to
done a pretty bad job and you needed to
done a pretty bad job and you needed to know a lot and so things were kind of
know a lot and so things were kind of
know a lot and so things were kind of slipping backwards and Macintosh was you
slipping backwards and Macintosh was you
slipping backwards and Macintosh was you saw the 1984 commercial put that I hope
saw the 1984 commercial put that I hope
saw the 1984 commercial put that I hope you have that in your archives
you have that in your archives
you have that in your archives you know Macintosh was basically this
you know Macintosh was basically this
you know Macintosh was basically this this relatively small company you know
this relatively small company you know
this relatively small company you know in Cupertino California taking on the
in Cupertino California taking on the
in Cupertino California taking on the Goliath the IBM and saying wait a minute
Goliath the IBM and saying wait a minute
Goliath the IBM and saying wait a minute your way is wrong this is not the way we
your way is wrong this is not the way we
your way is wrong this is not the way we want computers to go this is not the
want computers to go this is not the
want computers to go this is not the legacy we want to leave this is not what
legacy we want to leave this is not what
legacy we want to leave this is not what we want our kids to be learning this is
we want our kids to be learning this is
we want our kids to be learning this is wrong and we are going to show you the
wrong and we are going to show you the
wrong and we are going to show you the right way to do it and here it is it’s
right way to do it and here it is it’s
right way to do it and here it is it’s called Macintosh and this is so much
called Macintosh and this is so much
called Macintosh and this is so much better than its gonna beat you and we
better than its gonna beat you and we
better than its gonna beat you and we are gonna do it and that’s what Apple
are gonna do it and that’s what Apple
are gonna do it and that’s what Apple stood for its fascinates me about human
stood for its fascinates me about human
stood for its fascinates me about human beings and it fascinates me about myself
beings and it fascinates me about myself
beings and it fascinates me about myself is that we have such a high tolerance
is that we have such a high tolerance
is that we have such a high tolerance for suckiness isn’t it crazy as long as
for suckiness isn’t it crazy as long as
for suckiness isn’t it crazy as long as the suckiness as a routine but the
the suckiness as a routine but the
the suckiness as a routine but the second you get thrown out of your
second you get thrown out of your
second you get thrown out of your routine or the second that whether it’s
routine or the second that whether it’s
routine or the second that whether it’s because you lose a job or somebody moves
because you lose a job or somebody moves
because you lose a job or somebody moves or somebody dies or somebody breaks up
or somebody dies or somebody breaks up
or somebody dies or somebody breaks up with you or you break like all of a
with you or you break like all of a
with you or you break like all of a sudden that awakens the courage and you
sudden that awakens the courage and you
sudden that awakens the courage and you to make a change because you you know
to make a change because you you know
to make a change because you you know either you have no choice or now you got
either you have no choice or now you got
either you have no choice or now you got a problem to solve but fighting that a
a problem to solve but fighting that a
a problem to solve but fighting that a nurse
nurse
nurse of life is the most difficult thing in
of life is the most difficult thing in
of life is the most difficult thing in the world I ended up getting a job with
the world I ended up getting a job with
the world I ended up getting a job with a law firm because it was the path of
a law firm because it was the path of
a law firm because it was the path of least resistance in Boston in Boston I
least resistance in Boston in Boston I
least resistance in Boston in Boston I hated it because I went from being in
hated it because I went from being in
hated it because I went from being in the courtroom to writing briefs all day
the courtroom to writing briefs all day
the courtroom to writing briefs all day and luckily I got pregnant with our
and luckily I got pregnant with our
and luckily I got pregnant with our first daughter who just is starting
first daughter who just is starting
first daughter who just is starting college which makes me feel so ancient I
college which makes me feel so ancient I
college which makes me feel so ancient I just want to like punch myself in the
just want to like punch myself in the
just want to like punch myself in the face if I have a 18 year olds freshman
face if I have a 18 year olds freshman
face if I have a 18 year olds freshman in college um thank you but I got
in college um thank you but I got
in college um thank you but I got pregnant with her and when she was born
pregnant with her and when she was born
pregnant with her and when she was born I had horrific postpartum depression Wow
I had horrific postpartum depression Wow
I had horrific postpartum depression Wow I mean the really scary kind where you
I mean the really scary kind where you
I mean the really scary kind where you can’t be alone with the baby you’re on
can’t be alone with the baby you’re on
can’t be alone with the baby you’re on crazy meds that turn you at like not the
crazy meds that turn you at like not the
crazy meds that turn you at like not the kind you take recreationally these are
kind you take recreationally these are
kind you take recreationally these are the kind that like turn you into a
the kind that like turn you into a
the kind that like turn you into a zombie and it was a really scary thing
zombie and it was a really scary thing
zombie and it was a really scary thing and I I when I kind of came out of the
and I I when I kind of came out of the
and I I when I kind of came out of the eight-week trance of that I looked up at
eight-week trance of that I looked up at
eight-week trance of that I looked up at Chris and said I’ve made a decision and
Chris and said I’ve made a decision and
Chris and said I’ve made a decision and he said okay what would that be and I
he said okay what would that be and I
he said okay what would that be and I said I don’t ever want to answer the
said I don’t ever want to answer the
said I don’t ever want to answer the question what do you do for a living
question what do you do for a living
question what do you do for a living with the response I’m a lawyer and he
with the response I’m a lawyer and he
with the response I’m a lawyer and he said okay you realize we’ve just bought
said okay you realize we’ve just bought
said okay you realize we’ve just bought this house and we have a kid and we have
this house and we have a kid and we have
this house and we have a kid and we have organs to pay and he said so here’s the
organs to pay and he said so here’s the
organs to pay and he said so here’s the deal you’ve got exactly four weeks
deal you’ve got exactly four weeks
deal you’ve got exactly four weeks before your maternity leave is over
before your maternity leave is over
before your maternity leave is over you need to make $60,000 I don’t care
you need to make $60,000 I don’t care
you need to make $60,000 I don’t care what you do for a living
what you do for a living
what you do for a living that’s your problem go solve it and the
that’s your problem go solve it and the
that’s your problem go solve it and the night before I was supposed to read so I
night before I was supposed to read so I
night before I was supposed to read so I networked like a crazy person because
networked like a crazy person because
networked like a crazy person because again if you’re a human being with the
again if you’re a human being with the
again if you’re a human being with the problem you’ll solve it and so if it
problem you’ll solve it and so if it
problem you’ll solve it and so if it matters enough to you
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