think about your life along six
dimensions so that the goal is this
you’re gonna take care of yourself
you’re gonna have a life in three years
that justifies its suffering that’s the
goal so you can invent the damn life but
you have to think what you would be
satisfied with so you wouldn’t be all
bitter and resentful it’s like okay what
do you want from your family what do you
want from your friends how are you gonna
educate yourself what do you want for
your career how are you gonna use your
time outside of work how are you gonna
handle drugs and alcohol and other
temptations like that how are you gonna
keep yourself mentally and physically
healthy these are open questions like
you get to answer them
the idea is you can have whatever you
want but you have to figure out what it
is has to be realistic and you have to
figure out what it is it’s okay so now
develop a vision what’s your life going
to be like in three to five years so you
write it down your bad habits and your
resentment and your bitterness and all
of that your procrastination gets
completely out of hand and you auger
down and you’re in your own personal
version of hell in three to five years
what does that look like well everyone
knows that it’s like everyone can look
into the future and think well if I keep
going on this dark path this is where
I’ll end up well then you’ve got little
hell outline for yourself to run away
from you got a little heaven outline for
yourself to run towards and then you’re
motivated because sometimes you know
you’re just hopeful I would like a good
thing to happen it’s like yeah but you
know I’d like to drink half bottle of
whisky tonight too it’s like so which is
it gonna be well just being hopeful
about the future might not be enough but
then you think oh I see like there’s
that little hell thing that I outlined
it’s waiting for me and maybe I’m afraid
of taking the nips next step forward
because it’s demanding and challenging
it’s like yeah I’m afraid that but I’m
way more afraid of where I might end up
if I don’t get my act together and
people should be that’s why their
conceptions of hell in so many religions
it’s like hell is a real place whether
it’s eternal that’s a whole different
question whether it’s waiting for you in
the afterlife that’s a whole different
question but if you’ve never met anyone
in hell you haven’t lived very long
haven’t had your eyes open but most of
the time you should think where am i
falling short of the ideal my own ideal
doesn’t have to be one that someone puts
on you where am i less than I should be
where am i bitter where am I making the
world a worse place than it has to be
like you ask yourself those questions
you’ll be in for a big shock say well
what would happen if you stopped doing
that stop saying things that make you
weak stop telling lies that you know to
be lies stop doing things you know to be
useless and counterproductive aim high
dorp some responsibilities and then see
what the hell happens you want to lay
your life out so that it’s providing you
what you need to not be bitter and to
work for your best interests and for the
interests of everyone else that would be
lovely
and I think it’s attainable and one of
the things that I’ve also been telling
people informing people about is the
idea that life isn’t a game it’s a
series of games and the Wright ethic is
to be the winner of the series of games
and part of that means you all you have
learn how to be a good loser let’s say
that you could pick your left you can
pick your level of competition in life
to some degree okay so let’s say you
pick a level of competition where you’re
always winning it’s like well all that
means is you picked the wrong level of
competition us to be a winner you want
to be disciplined you want to know what
you’re doing and then you want to be on
the edge where your skills are being
developed and if you’re gonna be on the
edge where your skills are going to be
developed you’re you’re at a place where
where loss we’re losing is always a
possibility because otherwise you’re not
pushing yourself beyond your current
capacity one of the things that I’ve
outlined in 12 rules for life is is a
theory of meaning because meaning as far
as I’m concerned that sense of
meaningful engagement is the antidote to
malevolence and suffering essentially
because you want to have a life that’s
so engaging that you think despite the
fact that I’m limited and that we’re
mortal and that life is tragedy and
there’s evil in the world despite all
that this is worth doing
life is suffering and betrayal in in in
many senses of the world but you can
adopt a way of traversing through life
that is more powerful than the tragedy
in the malevolence get your act together
stand up forthrightly that’s rule 1
stand up straight with your shoulders
back there’s a vulnerable position right
because you’re open but it’s a powerful
position because it means that you’re
brave enough to take what’s coming and
it isn’t like what’s coming isn’t
dangerous it’s dangerous so but your
best bet is to be dancing on your feet
and ready for it to pay attention to be
awake [Music]
dimensions so that the goal is this
you’re gonna take care of yourself
you’re gonna have a life in three years
that justifies its suffering that’s the
goal so you can invent the damn life but
you have to think what you would be
satisfied with so you wouldn’t be all
bitter and resentful it’s like okay what
do you want from your family what do you
want from your friends how are you gonna
educate yourself what do you want for
your career how are you gonna use your
time outside of work how are you gonna
handle drugs and alcohol and other
temptations like that how are you gonna
keep yourself mentally and physically
healthy these are open questions like
you get to answer them
the idea is you can have whatever you
want but you have to figure out what it
is has to be realistic and you have to
figure out what it is it’s okay so now
develop a vision what’s your life going
to be like in three to five years so you
write it down your bad habits and your
resentment and your bitterness and all
of that your procrastination gets
completely out of hand and you auger
down and you’re in your own personal
version of hell in three to five years
what does that look like well everyone
knows that it’s like everyone can look
into the future and think well if I keep
going on this dark path this is where
I’ll end up well then you’ve got little
hell outline for yourself to run away
from you got a little heaven outline for
yourself to run towards and then you’re
motivated because sometimes you know
you’re just hopeful I would like a good
thing to happen it’s like yeah but you
know I’d like to drink half bottle of
whisky tonight too it’s like so which is
it gonna be well just being hopeful
about the future might not be enough but
then you think oh I see like there’s
that little hell thing that I outlined
it’s waiting for me and maybe I’m afraid
of taking the nips next step forward
because it’s demanding and challenging
it’s like yeah I’m afraid that but I’m
way more afraid of where I might end up
if I don’t get my act together and
people should be that’s why their
conceptions of hell in so many religions
it’s like hell is a real place whether
it’s eternal that’s a whole different
question whether it’s waiting for you in
the afterlife that’s a whole different
question but if you’ve never met anyone
in hell you haven’t lived very long
haven’t had your eyes open but most of
the time you should think where am i
falling short of the ideal my own ideal
doesn’t have to be one that someone puts
on you where am i less than I should be
where am i bitter where am I making the
world a worse place than it has to be
like you ask yourself those questions
you’ll be in for a big shock say well
what would happen if you stopped doing
that stop saying things that make you
weak stop telling lies that you know to
be lies stop doing things you know to be
useless and counterproductive aim high
dorp some responsibilities and then see
what the hell happens you want to lay
your life out so that it’s providing you
what you need to not be bitter and to
work for your best interests and for the
interests of everyone else that would be
lovely
and I think it’s attainable and one of
the things that I’ve also been telling
people informing people about is the
idea that life isn’t a game it’s a
series of games and the Wright ethic is
to be the winner of the series of games
and part of that means you all you have
learn how to be a good loser let’s say
that you could pick your left you can
pick your level of competition in life
to some degree okay so let’s say you
pick a level of competition where you’re
always winning it’s like well all that
means is you picked the wrong level of
competition us to be a winner you want
to be disciplined you want to know what
you’re doing and then you want to be on
the edge where your skills are being
developed and if you’re gonna be on the
edge where your skills are going to be
developed you’re you’re at a place where
where loss we’re losing is always a
possibility because otherwise you’re not
pushing yourself beyond your current
capacity one of the things that I’ve
outlined in 12 rules for life is is a
theory of meaning because meaning as far
as I’m concerned that sense of
meaningful engagement is the antidote to
malevolence and suffering essentially
because you want to have a life that’s
so engaging that you think despite the
fact that I’m limited and that we’re
mortal and that life is tragedy and
there’s evil in the world despite all
that this is worth doing
life is suffering and betrayal in in in
many senses of the world but you can
adopt a way of traversing through life
that is more powerful than the tragedy
in the malevolence get your act together
stand up forthrightly that’s rule 1
stand up straight with your shoulders
back there’s a vulnerable position right
because you’re open but it’s a powerful
position because it means that you’re
brave enough to take what’s coming and
it isn’t like what’s coming isn’t
dangerous it’s dangerous so but your
best bet is to be dancing on your feet
and ready for it to pay attention to be
awake [Music]
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