January 15th is the cutoff
statistics show that 95% of the people
that actually made a New Year’s
resolution have already broken it by
today and that’s if you even made a
resolution now if you’re the exception
to that I’m thrilled for you and I
support you and I say keep rocking it
but if you’ve missed maybe I could drop
you a quick little message or two here
that can help you not only recover but
get way beyond just making some new
year’s resolution and make some real
lasting change in your life I mean think
about it most people don’t even make a
resolution anymore why because they’ve
made them from years and years and years
and they know they’re not gonna follow
through so after a while who wants to
disappoint yourself who wants to be
upset with yourself why even bother to
set a new standard for this year you
know it’s gonna be the same as last year
if you’re the kind of person watching
this right now and you’ve actually
opened this email and you haven’t shut
me off already then obviously that’s not
you so the question is you know what is
it that makes us even want to make a
resolution interesting question why is
it at the beginning of the year we have
this tradition but it goes beyond
tradition it’s something inside of us
that makes us want to make things better
and I think part of it is the calendar
gives us this idea that we could have a
fresh start that we can start from fresh
and have this great victory and it’s
really the calendar itself is quite
arbitrary it’s wonderful to use it but
if you didn’t use it effectively let’s
use the calendar to serve you today
let’s just see what does it really take
to make this thing happen because
there’s no denying that inside of you
the only thing that’s gonna make you
happy and the your head and the decades
ahead it’s gonna be having you of an
experience where on a regular basis you
feel like your life is making progress
if there’s one thing I teach and I wanna
remind you of it it’s really simple
things getting things is not gonna make
you happy that’s good news in a tough
economy it’s a good reminder you know it
doesn’t matter what you get doesn’t
matter whether it be money or
opportunity all those things might
excite you for the moment you know even
a relationship as magnificent it may be
might be exciting for a while but if you
don’t keep growing that relationship
isn’t gonna stay exciting so the secret
to real happiness is progress progress
equals happiness and if we can make
progress on a regular basis we feel
alive and that’s why at the beginning of
the year we get this thing like okay I
can have this fresh
I could really do what my soul desires I
could expand I can grow I can improve I
could change or maybe better than change
I could progress see think about that
progress isn’t aliveness to it doesn’t
it you don’t don’t work at changing
people say all the time that allow I’m
working on changing don’t worry about it
if the work on unchanging changes
automatic your body’s gonna change
whether you want it or not as the years
go by you no matter how hard you work
there’s gonna be some changes going on
there and the economy is gonna change no
matter what you want it to do the
weather is gonna change relationships
are gonna change everything in life is
always changing we’ll have to work on
change change is automatic but progress
is not so if you want to make real
progress then you really got to look at
your life in a different way you gotta
say I gotta take control of this process
and not just hope that’s gonna work out
like people do who make a resolution cuz
really isn’t that what they’re really
doing at the beginning of the year
they’re saying well here’s my
resolutions for the year and they really
basically tell you their wishes it’s
their wish list it’s what they hope it
all comes together and then they call it
a resolution but they don’t know what a
resolution is when you resolve something
to have a resolution is to resolve it
when you’ve resolved this is how it’s
gonna be that’s when you cut off any
possibility except the thing you’ve
committed to it’s like the old adage if
you want to take the island and you burn
the boats because when you burn those
boats there’s no going back you’re gonna
find a way to make things work and most
people they’re standing what they hope
will come together and if it doesn’t
happen then they’re disappointed but
they’re not too disappointed cuz they’re
not too vested what does it take to
successfully create a lasting change in
your life to not only have a new year’s
resolution you follow through on but
really have a lasting change well the
first step for lasting change is very
much like making a new year’s resolution
fundamentally it’s the same the first
step is you got to have a vision a
vision for what it is you really truly
want not what you think you want or what
you should have I mean one of most
people’s New Year’s resolutions I’m
gonna stop eating sugar you know I’m
gonna stop smoking I’m gonna lose 10
pounds table that is it’s not very
inspiring for most people you know it’s
not telling you what you’re gonna get
it’s only what you’re not gonna do it’s
kind of hard to have you move
with that a vision is about what you’re
here to create a vision that really
works as one that excites you if you say
well my you know my resolution my goal
my outcome for this month this week this
year is to lose X number of pounds
that’s okay but it’s not very compelling
it has to be a compelling vision it’s
gotta have something has the power to
pull you not something you have to push
yourself to do those are two different
kinds of motivation push requires
willpower and willpower never lasts what
will last is pull having something so
exciting so attractive so somebody who
desires so much that you have a hard
time going to sleep at night and gets so
up early in the morning to rock it and
take it to the next level that’s what
you’re looking at great and that wasn’t
easy to get but one of the reasons we do
seminars and events and be saying you
know why do that why isn’t why not just
read a book or something is because when
you give it an environment where you’re
with people that are being put in a peak
state like when you’re going to a
sporting event if you watch the sporting
event at home it might have a certain
level of excitement but when you’re in a
stadium with 50,000 people suddenly it
has a whole different level of intensity
when we feel that and the bottom line of
our follow-through comes down to our
emotional intensity in a different state
of mind you’re gonna come up with a much
better and more exciting vision than if
you’re sitting the couch gun okay what
am i new resolutions for this year and
you’re doing it the morning after the
new year started and you’re a little
inebriated and the football games on in
the background probably not gonna have
the power of focus they’re probably not
gonna have the power the energy to
create something that’s gonna pull you
for this year and you got to do that so
it’s got to be a vision that’s
compelling something that you know it’s
gonna be a gift to make sure that it
happens and also along with that
compelling vision you gotta have strong
enough reasons that you’re gonna follow
through and the going gets tough that’s
one of the biggest things missing for
most people they said this is what I
want to do it’s not very exciting it’s
not very compelling but most importantly
they don’t have strong enough reasons to
push themselves through what’s going to
be necessary to get that dream to get
that goal when the inevitable challenges
come up when you’re starving hungry and
you’re trying to go on a diet right when
you got no time you’re stressed out and
you haven’t worked out still that’s what
you’re supposed to do when the economy
gets tight
and what you thought you’re gonna do it
doesn’t work and so you give up on the
goal instead of finding another way to
get there you don’t let the fear take
you over if you got strong enough
reasons those reasons can be positive or
those reasons can also be negative they
can be if I don’t do this this it’s
gonna cost me and if I do to this this
is what I’m gonna gain in my life
reasons come first answers come second
if you get a compelling vision and you
got strong enough reasons that will push
you through the tough times you’re gonna
do things other people don’t do instead
of collapsing even if you get off target
you won’t go oh I blew it you’ll get
right back on target make the change
make things happen and I know you’ve
done this in many areas your life just
think about it again I’m not teaching
you something really new here today I
just want to remind you what your soul
knows you got a change you got to
improve and you’ve got to go through a
simple process fundamentally to make
that progress first step vision that’s
compelling second step make sure that
they’re strong enough reason to follow
through third step you got to review it
and feel it every day I mean anything
have you ever had this happen in your
life has there been anything in your
life that you’ve ever wanted so badly
you were so desirous of it yeah it’s
such a hunger for it that you couldn’t
stop thinking about it could been a
career move could have been when you’re
a kid a car it could have been a
relationship that could have been
anything but you were obsessed you
wanted to make this happen you wanted to
attract this to your life you wanna you
just wanted something and you didn’t
even know how to get it but it was so
compelling to you kept thinking about it
every day and visioning and imagining it
feeling it and then stuff happened and
suddenly you started attract people or
situations to your life and it just came
together like you didn’t even have a
total plan it was just that it was so a
part of your focus with so much
intensity and emotion so often that it
sensitize you to notice anything that
could get you there there’s a part of
your brain called the reticular
activating system for short we call it
the RAS that part of your brain
determines what you notice in the world
and it’s really important because when
you set a goal when you get really clear
in a vision they’re strong enough
reasons and you review it enough and it
becomes a part of you that part of your
brain says anything that relates to this
I need to notice
it’s like did you ever buy a certain
kind of car or maybe a certain outfit
and suddenly you see that car everywhere
those outfits everywhere you know the
cars were always around but why do you
see it now because your Ras knows this
is important this is part of my world
now
similarly when you really get clear and
it’s compelling and you’re reviewing it
every day got strong reasons you’re
viewing it every day and you’re feeling
it the brain becomes incredibly acute at
noticing anything to get you to move
forward and so that’s the power of this
so you know what do people do with a new
year’s resolution they come up with
something they kind of want it’s not a
compelling vision they don’t really have
strong enough reasons and they never
review it again and tell to notice that
they broke what they said they really
want to have make happen because they
didn’t really resolve if you resolve you
got the vision it’s compelling you
review it daily and you feel it you
envision it and you experience it simple
as it sounds now ultimately what is this
really about ultimately if you’re gonna
have lasting change in anything you’re
really talking about just raising your
standards I mean I always tell people if
you want to know how to change your life
and give it to you in three words boring
as it sounds raise your standards and
what does that mean corny as it sounds
raise your standards I’ll thank you for
the breakthrough thought Tony I mean
I’ve wasted my time watching this little
email with you but think about it
lasting change is different than a goal
you don’t always get your goals but you
always get your standards maybe it’ll
help you is to think about it this way I
try to explain standards to people with
a different set of words think of it as
everybody in life gets their must they
don’t get their right think about
it you must be above a list of shits no
they don’t you have a list of the
shoulds things you should do you should
follow through on I I should lose some
weight I should work out more I should
make more calls I should respond more
rapidly to my email whatever you know I
should get into the office earlier I
should be you know more confident
whatever your list is people love
to have their should list make me net
but it’s kind of like New Year’s
resolutions if it does it’s really
exciting but if it doesn’t which is most
the time it’s a little disappointing but
you kind of know it’s not gonna happen
but when you decide something as a must
for you an absolute must when you cut up
any possible you say I’m gonna find the
way I’m gonna make the
human beings when they resolve things
and they have make a real resolution
inside themselves which is they raised
the standard they make it a must they
find the way think about in your own
life happens you had some area of your
life where you raise your standard and
your life has never been the same maybe
at one time your life you use smoke
cigarettes or you did something and you
did it for years
and you kept trying to change it trying
to change it and kept telling yourself I
should and then one day something
happened something just clicked you over
something took you over that kind of
tipping point and inside yourself you
said no more it was a very very
different experience wasn’t it something
inside of you shifted and what was a
should became a must and you’ve never
gone back is there an area like that in
your life you could think of again I
ever smoked cigarettes did you ever eat
a certain way drink a certain form of
alcohol and then finally say no more and
you just don’t go back and notice this
it doesn’t really take any willpower
anymore because somewhere when we make
this click we make something a must we
attach ourselves to it it becomes part
of our identity the one thing I’ve
learned in the last gosh 33 years at
working with people from now over 100
countries four million people is human
beings absolutely follow through on who
they believe they are and you said said
to me well I’m really gonna work hard to
stop smoking but you know I’ve been a
smoker my whole life and I’m you know I
am a smoker I know your days are
numbered you gonna be back smoking
cigarettes again because we all act
consistent with who we believe we are
I tell people the strongest force in the
whole human personality is this need to
stay consistent with how we define
ourselves
if you define yourself as somebody who
is really conservative you’re not gonna
be crazy and act nuts unless you’re
really drunk or something and then you
can say it’s the alcohol when it really
does you finally getting permission to
be yourself the alcohol is your excuse
if you’re a really crazy person you act
crazy outrageous playful you don’t act
conservative because it’s not who you
are
burn often people say well I can’t do
that I’m not that kind of person and I
always say to people really
when did you define yourself I mean
really how many years ago did you come
up with what you could and couldn’t do
in your life how many years ago most
people if they really look at how
they’re living their life today it’s
based on a set of standards a set of
beliefs that they made choices about 10
20 30 or more years ago I mean very
often we made decisions in our youth or
very young about what to believe about
what we were capable of about who we are
as a person and that becomes the glass
ceiling a few well that controls us
there’s a corny metaphor but it’s true I
remember one time I was with my family
at the circus and there’s a person there
and they had this big giant elephant and
you look at this elephant and they take
this little rope put it around the
health and snack and they drive the
stake into the ground and I mean you
look at this you know that elephant
could rip down the entire tent with
almost no effort and yet the elephant
doesn’t struggle doesn’t try why cuz the
elephant’s conditioned and they take
that elephant conditioned the elephant
when it’s a baby elephant that’s how
they train them when it’s a little baby
elephant and it doesn’t have the power
yet they put a big rope around it and
they drive this huge stake in the ground
and your elephant fights and fights and
fights and one day finally that often
decides I’m not capable of pulling this
out and once that becomes the definition
of an identity of anyone and elephants
in this case they don’t even try anymore
it’s just who I am that’s how it is
that’s just the way it is in my life I’d
like to ask you to take a look at any
place you’ve got a limitation ask
yourself when did I decide to accept
that limitation and you may not even see
it as a limitation you might see there
just that’s who I am but so often our
lives we’ve adapted to be a certain way
so that we don’t fail or so that people
will like us or respect us but it’s not
necessarily who we are joy comes when
you’re spontaneous it’s really hard to
be truly happy when you’re not being
yourself and most of us have no clue who
we are and so a big part of my work if
you’ve ever been to an event you know is
to get people and do things
spontaneously without thinking because
that’s when the real you shows up that’s
when the energy comes alive and when you
do that when you start to connect your
true nature suddenly there’s energy
available for you to set a higher
standard for what you want in your life
that’s what this is really all about
and when I talk about standards when I
talk about you know shoulds versus muss
think about your own life I know there
have been areas in your life where some
point in time you just shift it and you
raise the standard in your life change
because whatever people have their
identity attached to they live we live
who we believe we are that’s just how it
works it’s just kind of like I give an
example look at your physical body your
physical body today is an absolute
reflection of only one thing
not your goals not your desires but your
standards the identity you have for
yourself if your standard is you’re an
athlete
then there’s a certain amount of
strength a muscle tone and energy that’s
available in your body on a regular
basis because that’s who you are and so
you do whatever is necessary to maintain
that identity again the strongest force
and the human personality is this need
to stay consistent with how we define
ourselves because if you don’t know who
you are you would know how to act once
you lock in on that identity your brain
finds a way to keep you there if you say
you know man I’m overweight I’ve always
been overweight I’m big-boned and that’s
the story you’ve got then you’re gonna
always find a way to get back there
that’s you’re settling point that’s your
identity that’s where things lock in if
you see somebody who’s a really great
shape you ask him do you work out you
know the answer yes how often and
they’ll tell you three times four times
five times a week whatever in a seven
our last people who here works out at
least five days a week and I’m stand-up
and you look around that room and you
know that they work out five times a
week as you can see their body you don’t
just get a result without some kind of
action without some form of ritual
ritual meaning actions you do
consistently now do you think you knows
people that are out there working out
five days a week do they have more time
than you do or I have for anybody else
of course none is that a wife less busy
of course not it’s just a must for them
they must work out that way and they’ve
made that turn their life change so I’m
not saying you have to work out five
days a week I’m just saying whatever you
really want once don’t get met
consistently standards do whatever you
identify this is Who I am and so it’s
not so much about changing your identity
as theirs
standing it you know deciding that you
know instead of your goals to lose ten
pounds which is not compelling what if
your vision was to get back to my
fighting weight you know this this year
this month this next 90 days I’m gonna
transform my body I’m gonna take on a
new challenge I’m gonna find some
technique or strategy there’s a million
of them that can reframe myself or I’m
gonna feel a younger stronger more
vibrant than ever before here’s my
reasons because I want the energy to
really make my life work because it’s
tough out there and I want to be
stronger than I’ve ever been before I
don’t think Oh in front of mirror and if
I’m naked not you know want to laugh I
will look there and take a good look and
go yeah no basics that if you start to
shift it everything else will shift in
your life as well some people by the way
have to have more than enough money to
do what they want when they want where
they want with whomever they want
contribute the way they want if that’s
there must they find a way I know that
sounds overly simplistic but it’s true
now somebody once said you can take all
the money in the world out of the hands
of everybody out of all the wealthy
people in the world who are really
successful given other people it
wouldn’t take too long those people that
have it back in their hands it’s not
because they’re manipular it’s because
they have a standard some are manipulate
don’t get me wrong but they’ve got a
standard of what they’re gonna find a
way to make happen I’m just simply
saying to you take those three magic
words and live them raise your standard
if you really want to do it then I’ll
tell you the most important secret have
you ever done this have you ever told
yourself you’re raised you’re saying
okay I’m gonna go make this happen I’m
gonna go make this much money I’m gonna
transform my kids I’m gonna create the
ultimate relationship of my life I’m
gonna transform my body whatever it is
and then you don’t have strong enough
reasons and you don’t lose use it you
don’t follow through it’s because you
didn’t back up your standards with what
makes those standards real and that’s
rituals rituals all of the power is
whenever we do our Robbins results
coaching and we did Robbins equals
results late we get results with people
it’s the same way if you listen to my
ultimate edge programmer back in the old
days personal power or if you went to
one of my seminars you know what I do is
I take these huge challenges you got and
we break them down into little
bite-sized steps little things you do
each day that after you do them you get
so much momentum that it’s easy to
succeed you’re not overwhelmed
you have these victory day after day
after day on little things if you’d went
to ultimate edge I’m sure you learned
about the hour of power or to 15 minutes
to be able to be fulfilled or 30 minutes
to thrive where you literally just
conditioned your body and emotion with a
couple little rituals so it doesn’t
matter what’s going on in your world you
feel that strength and it’s not fake
it’s not some pump up it’s coming from
inside you and it works rituals define
us see all the results in your life are
coming from your rituals they start with
a standard and then have rituals that
follow it up like for example if you are
where you want to be physically you have
very different rituals than if you’re
not where you want to be physically if
you’re overweight you and I both know
you got a different ritual than if
you’re physically fit completely
different you get up in the morning
what’s the first thing you do if you’re
fit your shoes are there you roll over
the minute you feel you put on your
shoes you lace and you start walking or
whatever that ritual is if you’re
overweight you roll over and you have a
very different ritual you might roll
over several times to turn the alarm
clock off you go in and get your mocha
mocha whatever you know special coffee
you stop by at Starbucks or over the
case maybe you have your nice sugar
muffin you know it’s supposed to be
really nice for you whatever you do it’s
a different ritual if you have a great
passionate relationship you have very
different rituals and how you come home
than if you have a lousy relationship we
come home and the first thing you do is
you’re tweeting somebody or you’re
emailing or flipping on the news or you
don’t even come home and what are the
rituals whenever I study people that are
successful well I look for is what’s the
standard they hold himself to and then
what are all those little rituals that
up because think about it success and
failure are not giant events they don’t
just show up you don’t just suddenly
become successful or suddenly have this
cataclysmic event that makes you fail it
may look that way but failure comes from
all the little things
it’s failure to make the call its
failure to check the books its failure
to say I’m sorry
it’s failure to push yourself to do
things physically that you don’t want to
do and all those little failures day
after day come together until one day
some Cataclysm event happens you blame
that that event
happen because you missed all the little
stuff do you agree with me and success
by the way is not some overnight event
it’s all these little things success is
having a vision success is making it
compelling
success is really seeing it feeling it
every day was strong enough reasons
success is feeling the sense that I’m
here to grow I’m here to give something
to the world more than just myself
success is caring about other people
success is calling and saying I love you
in the middle of day for no damn reason
or sending a note that will change your
relationship how to ritual of something
funny playful or a surprise you do how
many relationships are dead today
because they have no surprise rituals
anymore you need to have some rituals
some cool things you do that nobody else
does that gives you a better life than
anybody else has all the little stuff
that’s where success comes from in
business it comes from delivering more
than anybody could imagine all those
little things add up people go wow
that’s who I want to do business with
it’s true in any area of your life so if
you look at somebody’s really successful
in you think wow I mean they’re so
amazing there’s such a genius you got to
dig underneath you got to remember
something people are rewarded in public
from what they’ve practiced for years in
private myself and my business people
say how are you get up and speaking of
nono-chan you go for three days and
nights and the room is like it’s wired
and it’s incredible if like a rock
concert how do you do that how do you
have that confidence at home and you
know it’s not confidence it’s experience
now but I did so much behind the scenes
and I still do to make things right I
mean how many people would know that
since the time I was 17 years old before
I walk on him stage still do to this day
wouldn’t need to do it but I still do it
I never walk out there without being in
an absolute peak state of mind you know
there are days my back is hurting my
throat was hurting or I made a have a
challenger my father passed away and
I’ve still got a deliver for these
people because my standard is give my
all every time everything has to be
better talk to anybody who’s been to our
events for 5-10 years some of our
trainers I don’t say I don’t know he
does it he’s always finds a way to make
it better that’s not an ego thing that’s
a standard in me I have to find the way
and my ritual though is I prepare I
think I gather new information I figure
out how to put something across better
wood
people need I spend time with our
customers I see what’s going on and
before I get on stage each time I have
this little ritual to put myself in a
state of mind and I did it starting like
17 years old I started doing that say I
now command my subconscious mind and I
say this out loud several times this
little phrase set of phrases as an
incantation to kind of condition my mind
and body and I’d say I now command my
subconscious mind to direct me and
helping as many people as possible today
by giving me the strength and the
emotion and the humor and the brevity
whatever it takes to show this person
and help this person change their life
now and I started that with a person
when I work with people one on one I
would do that for 45 minutes driving in
my Volkswagen to go serve and coach
somebody for the first time now I don’t
say that person I say these people and I
can go out in the room of 10,000 people
and deliver for 50 hours and I do it
every time I come back on stage
it’s a ritual a ritual to go into peak
stay Peaks they don’t just show up it’ll
interrupt you great ideas doing the
laughter you got to pursue them I talked
to Michael Jordan I’ll never forget dad
the peak of his career and got to watch
his final game saw him backstage and
spent some time with them and there’s
pretty exciting time his greatest
basketball player and I think that ever
lived and hazzard who lived and I asked
him I say you know what sets you apart
Michael you know what is it and is it
god-given talent ability skill what does
it need to tell me you know said I can
shoot you straight you know it’s not you
know me trying to act humble he goes I
have a lot of talent lot of god-given
talent lot of skill I worked really hard
but he said really it’s my standards he
said every day I demand more for myself
than anybody else could humanly expect
I’m not competing with somebody else I’m
competing with while I’m capable of hmm
magic formula because most of us lower
our standards why because who you spend
time with my friends is who you become
one of the biggest reasons I started
going to seminars when I was like 17 is
I had nobody around me is a great role
model I could read about somebody but
being around people being in that
environment was very different finding
way to go to work with someone who lived
that standard life was very different
you get around people at low standards
and you compete with it you don’t need
to compete with it it’s like okay I mean
number Jerry Springer I know if he’s
still in the air but you know I remember
used to get people on the show I thought
where would he
these people and why would people watch
off any what they watch they watch these
people go my life so pretty darn good
come here that person look at them you
don’t have to change your life all you
have to do is find somebody with a lower
standard you’ll feel good about yourself
but if you feel that good feeling it’s
an illusion the only thing that’s gonna
make you happy milliseconds hundredth of
a second he pushed himself just beyond
his competitor but you know how about
Michael Phelps what allow them be able
push beyond that moment is this rituals
go steady the guy most people who swim
have these unbelievable workouts he does
two and three of the workout sessions a
day all the other swimmers in the
beginning thought he was insane you can
over train you can’t do that it’s not
physically possible but he had a
standard and the rituals to back it up
so here’s my final message to you
because I’ve gotten carried away I was
gonna send you like a five-minute
message but you can see there’s no
script here it’s just me going a little
crazy with you but I want to really see
you get what you want this year don’t
let this year be like last and if last
year was great still don’t let it be
that way raise the standard if your life
is perfect and extraordinary you darn
well know you’re not gonna be happy
unless you keep making it better that’s
what makes us feel alive it’s not what
we get that make us happy it’s who we
become and what we’re able to give
because we’ve become more that sense of
contribution is what creates the deepest
meaning so here’s my assignment for if
you want one if you want to go from
conversation to some action your simple
thing to do
what’s an air your life right now that
you really want improve well it’s an
area that’s important to improve if your
body’s great how about your curve
careers great how about your
relationship intimate one especially or
your kids or your relationship with your
creative spiritual side of your life or
is it your finances figure an area that
really matters decide on that area
number one write down what your life is
like in that area right now specifically
as possible so you might say well I’m
13.5 pounds overweight you know whatever
the weight is whatever the situation is
or my body fat like this or wake up
exhausted in the morning and you write
the truth of where you are right now so
you’re real clear or I’m not in a
relationship I say I want a relationship
but I I’m not in one I don’t seem to
find them all the good ones seem to be
gone is my belief you know and I really
you want one but I don’t have it
whatever your definition I’m in a
relationship and god I wish I wasn’t in
a relationship I’m planning my escape
wherever you are or I have a wonderful
relationship we love each other but
there just isn’t enough passion just
like the truth of where you are the area
you want to change what right how it is
and then the second step is that’s where
you I’ll be really honest with yourself
what are the rituals that have put me
there
because whatever results you’re getting
even if you don’t like the results
there’s some rituals that are keeping
you in that place there’s some rituals
of what you eat or don’t eat how you
move or don’t move how you sleep or
don’t sleep there’s some rituals and the
lack of variety or spice or energy or
focus in an area there’s something
you’re doing and it’s usually not one
thing it’s a bunch of little things they
kind of do consistently whenever you
think about getting in a relationship
whenever you think about working out
whenever you think about money and get
yourself in a state of overwhelm you
start thinking about all the things you
can’t control just write down all the
rituals you have and then here’s the
third step what do you want what’s your
vision and be really specific I want to
be my fighting weight I want to be the
strongest I’ve ever felt I want to be
I’m gonna turn my whatever it is be
specific and then last step number four
what are the rituals that’ll get you
there what would you need to differently
each morning if you’re gonna be that
kind of energy that kind of strength how
would you have to happen would you work
out what days would you work out what
time a ritual is something you do
consistently usually at a specific time
so becomes automatic let me tell you
something willpower doesn’t last
but rituals can last a lifetime I bet
you have some rituals in your life right
now you’ve been doing for years even
though some of them don’t serve you I’m
just saying wake yourself up make if you
want a new year and a new life you don’t
need to start in January first start
today start with this little video and
just begin to see what happens and see
how easy it is to just do a few little
rituals don’t do them all just do two or
three new things and you know what
happens you’ll get momentum coz once you
discipline yourself in one area life you
feel yourself doing it other areas as
well I always say something that my
original teacher taught me I always
remind people there’s always two pains
in life there’s the pain of discipline
or is the pain of regret
and discipline weighs ounces is my
friend Jim Rohn taught me regret weighs
tons you don’t have regret so right now
what do you want to change what’s it
really like what are the rituals that
got you there that will take a little
homework if you’re not sure ask the
people around you they’ll tell you what
your rituals are what do I really want
in depth where the rituals they’ll get
me there and then get yourself to start
a few those actions and lock them in
place
statistics show that 95% of the people
that actually made a New Year’s
resolution have already broken it by
today and that’s if you even made a
resolution now if you’re the exception
to that I’m thrilled for you and I
support you and I say keep rocking it
but if you’ve missed maybe I could drop
you a quick little message or two here
that can help you not only recover but
get way beyond just making some new
year’s resolution and make some real
lasting change in your life I mean think
about it most people don’t even make a
resolution anymore why because they’ve
made them from years and years and years
and they know they’re not gonna follow
through so after a while who wants to
disappoint yourself who wants to be
upset with yourself why even bother to
set a new standard for this year you
know it’s gonna be the same as last year
if you’re the kind of person watching
this right now and you’ve actually
opened this email and you haven’t shut
me off already then obviously that’s not
you so the question is you know what is
it that makes us even want to make a
resolution interesting question why is
it at the beginning of the year we have
this tradition but it goes beyond
tradition it’s something inside of us
that makes us want to make things better
and I think part of it is the calendar
gives us this idea that we could have a
fresh start that we can start from fresh
and have this great victory and it’s
really the calendar itself is quite
arbitrary it’s wonderful to use it but
if you didn’t use it effectively let’s
use the calendar to serve you today
let’s just see what does it really take
to make this thing happen because
there’s no denying that inside of you
the only thing that’s gonna make you
happy and the your head and the decades
ahead it’s gonna be having you of an
experience where on a regular basis you
feel like your life is making progress
if there’s one thing I teach and I wanna
remind you of it it’s really simple
things getting things is not gonna make
you happy that’s good news in a tough
economy it’s a good reminder you know it
doesn’t matter what you get doesn’t
matter whether it be money or
opportunity all those things might
excite you for the moment you know even
a relationship as magnificent it may be
might be exciting for a while but if you
don’t keep growing that relationship
isn’t gonna stay exciting so the secret
to real happiness is progress progress
equals happiness and if we can make
progress on a regular basis we feel
alive and that’s why at the beginning of
the year we get this thing like okay I
can have this fresh
I could really do what my soul desires I
could expand I can grow I can improve I
could change or maybe better than change
I could progress see think about that
progress isn’t aliveness to it doesn’t
it you don’t don’t work at changing
people say all the time that allow I’m
working on changing don’t worry about it
if the work on unchanging changes
automatic your body’s gonna change
whether you want it or not as the years
go by you no matter how hard you work
there’s gonna be some changes going on
there and the economy is gonna change no
matter what you want it to do the
weather is gonna change relationships
are gonna change everything in life is
always changing we’ll have to work on
change change is automatic but progress
is not so if you want to make real
progress then you really got to look at
your life in a different way you gotta
say I gotta take control of this process
and not just hope that’s gonna work out
like people do who make a resolution cuz
really isn’t that what they’re really
doing at the beginning of the year
they’re saying well here’s my
resolutions for the year and they really
basically tell you their wishes it’s
their wish list it’s what they hope it
all comes together and then they call it
a resolution but they don’t know what a
resolution is when you resolve something
to have a resolution is to resolve it
when you’ve resolved this is how it’s
gonna be that’s when you cut off any
possibility except the thing you’ve
committed to it’s like the old adage if
you want to take the island and you burn
the boats because when you burn those
boats there’s no going back you’re gonna
find a way to make things work and most
people they’re standing what they hope
will come together and if it doesn’t
happen then they’re disappointed but
they’re not too disappointed cuz they’re
not too vested what does it take to
successfully create a lasting change in
your life to not only have a new year’s
resolution you follow through on but
really have a lasting change well the
first step for lasting change is very
much like making a new year’s resolution
fundamentally it’s the same the first
step is you got to have a vision a
vision for what it is you really truly
want not what you think you want or what
you should have I mean one of most
people’s New Year’s resolutions I’m
gonna stop eating sugar you know I’m
gonna stop smoking I’m gonna lose 10
pounds table that is it’s not very
inspiring for most people you know it’s
not telling you what you’re gonna get
it’s only what you’re not gonna do it’s
kind of hard to have you move
with that a vision is about what you’re
here to create a vision that really
works as one that excites you if you say
well my you know my resolution my goal
my outcome for this month this week this
year is to lose X number of pounds
that’s okay but it’s not very compelling
it has to be a compelling vision it’s
gotta have something has the power to
pull you not something you have to push
yourself to do those are two different
kinds of motivation push requires
willpower and willpower never lasts what
will last is pull having something so
exciting so attractive so somebody who
desires so much that you have a hard
time going to sleep at night and gets so
up early in the morning to rock it and
take it to the next level that’s what
you’re looking at great and that wasn’t
easy to get but one of the reasons we do
seminars and events and be saying you
know why do that why isn’t why not just
read a book or something is because when
you give it an environment where you’re
with people that are being put in a peak
state like when you’re going to a
sporting event if you watch the sporting
event at home it might have a certain
level of excitement but when you’re in a
stadium with 50,000 people suddenly it
has a whole different level of intensity
when we feel that and the bottom line of
our follow-through comes down to our
emotional intensity in a different state
of mind you’re gonna come up with a much
better and more exciting vision than if
you’re sitting the couch gun okay what
am i new resolutions for this year and
you’re doing it the morning after the
new year started and you’re a little
inebriated and the football games on in
the background probably not gonna have
the power of focus they’re probably not
gonna have the power the energy to
create something that’s gonna pull you
for this year and you got to do that so
it’s got to be a vision that’s
compelling something that you know it’s
gonna be a gift to make sure that it
happens and also along with that
compelling vision you gotta have strong
enough reasons that you’re gonna follow
through and the going gets tough that’s
one of the biggest things missing for
most people they said this is what I
want to do it’s not very exciting it’s
not very compelling but most importantly
they don’t have strong enough reasons to
push themselves through what’s going to
be necessary to get that dream to get
that goal when the inevitable challenges
come up when you’re starving hungry and
you’re trying to go on a diet right when
you got no time you’re stressed out and
you haven’t worked out still that’s what
you’re supposed to do when the economy
gets tight
and what you thought you’re gonna do it
doesn’t work and so you give up on the
goal instead of finding another way to
get there you don’t let the fear take
you over if you got strong enough
reasons those reasons can be positive or
those reasons can also be negative they
can be if I don’t do this this it’s
gonna cost me and if I do to this this
is what I’m gonna gain in my life
reasons come first answers come second
if you get a compelling vision and you
got strong enough reasons that will push
you through the tough times you’re gonna
do things other people don’t do instead
of collapsing even if you get off target
you won’t go oh I blew it you’ll get
right back on target make the change
make things happen and I know you’ve
done this in many areas your life just
think about it again I’m not teaching
you something really new here today I
just want to remind you what your soul
knows you got a change you got to
improve and you’ve got to go through a
simple process fundamentally to make
that progress first step vision that’s
compelling second step make sure that
they’re strong enough reason to follow
through third step you got to review it
and feel it every day I mean anything
have you ever had this happen in your
life has there been anything in your
life that you’ve ever wanted so badly
you were so desirous of it yeah it’s
such a hunger for it that you couldn’t
stop thinking about it could been a
career move could have been when you’re
a kid a car it could have been a
relationship that could have been
anything but you were obsessed you
wanted to make this happen you wanted to
attract this to your life you wanna you
just wanted something and you didn’t
even know how to get it but it was so
compelling to you kept thinking about it
every day and visioning and imagining it
feeling it and then stuff happened and
suddenly you started attract people or
situations to your life and it just came
together like you didn’t even have a
total plan it was just that it was so a
part of your focus with so much
intensity and emotion so often that it
sensitize you to notice anything that
could get you there there’s a part of
your brain called the reticular
activating system for short we call it
the RAS that part of your brain
determines what you notice in the world
and it’s really important because when
you set a goal when you get really clear
in a vision they’re strong enough
reasons and you review it enough and it
becomes a part of you that part of your
brain says anything that relates to this
I need to notice
it’s like did you ever buy a certain
kind of car or maybe a certain outfit
and suddenly you see that car everywhere
those outfits everywhere you know the
cars were always around but why do you
see it now because your Ras knows this
is important this is part of my world
now
similarly when you really get clear and
it’s compelling and you’re reviewing it
every day got strong reasons you’re
viewing it every day and you’re feeling
it the brain becomes incredibly acute at
noticing anything to get you to move
forward and so that’s the power of this
so you know what do people do with a new
year’s resolution they come up with
something they kind of want it’s not a
compelling vision they don’t really have
strong enough reasons and they never
review it again and tell to notice that
they broke what they said they really
want to have make happen because they
didn’t really resolve if you resolve you
got the vision it’s compelling you
review it daily and you feel it you
envision it and you experience it simple
as it sounds now ultimately what is this
really about ultimately if you’re gonna
have lasting change in anything you’re
really talking about just raising your
standards I mean I always tell people if
you want to know how to change your life
and give it to you in three words boring
as it sounds raise your standards and
what does that mean corny as it sounds
raise your standards I’ll thank you for
the breakthrough thought Tony I mean
I’ve wasted my time watching this little
email with you but think about it
lasting change is different than a goal
you don’t always get your goals but you
always get your standards maybe it’ll
help you is to think about it this way I
try to explain standards to people with
a different set of words think of it as
everybody in life gets their must they
don’t get their right think about
it you must be above a list of shits no
they don’t you have a list of the
shoulds things you should do you should
follow through on I I should lose some
weight I should work out more I should
make more calls I should respond more
rapidly to my email whatever you know I
should get into the office earlier I
should be you know more confident
whatever your list is people love
to have their should list make me net
but it’s kind of like New Year’s
resolutions if it does it’s really
exciting but if it doesn’t which is most
the time it’s a little disappointing but
you kind of know it’s not gonna happen
but when you decide something as a must
for you an absolute must when you cut up
any possible you say I’m gonna find the
way I’m gonna make the
human beings when they resolve things
and they have make a real resolution
inside themselves which is they raised
the standard they make it a must they
find the way think about in your own
life happens you had some area of your
life where you raise your standard and
your life has never been the same maybe
at one time your life you use smoke
cigarettes or you did something and you
did it for years
and you kept trying to change it trying
to change it and kept telling yourself I
should and then one day something
happened something just clicked you over
something took you over that kind of
tipping point and inside yourself you
said no more it was a very very
different experience wasn’t it something
inside of you shifted and what was a
should became a must and you’ve never
gone back is there an area like that in
your life you could think of again I
ever smoked cigarettes did you ever eat
a certain way drink a certain form of
alcohol and then finally say no more and
you just don’t go back and notice this
it doesn’t really take any willpower
anymore because somewhere when we make
this click we make something a must we
attach ourselves to it it becomes part
of our identity the one thing I’ve
learned in the last gosh 33 years at
working with people from now over 100
countries four million people is human
beings absolutely follow through on who
they believe they are and you said said
to me well I’m really gonna work hard to
stop smoking but you know I’ve been a
smoker my whole life and I’m you know I
am a smoker I know your days are
numbered you gonna be back smoking
cigarettes again because we all act
consistent with who we believe we are
I tell people the strongest force in the
whole human personality is this need to
stay consistent with how we define
ourselves
if you define yourself as somebody who
is really conservative you’re not gonna
be crazy and act nuts unless you’re
really drunk or something and then you
can say it’s the alcohol when it really
does you finally getting permission to
be yourself the alcohol is your excuse
if you’re a really crazy person you act
crazy outrageous playful you don’t act
conservative because it’s not who you
are
burn often people say well I can’t do
that I’m not that kind of person and I
always say to people really
when did you define yourself I mean
really how many years ago did you come
up with what you could and couldn’t do
in your life how many years ago most
people if they really look at how
they’re living their life today it’s
based on a set of standards a set of
beliefs that they made choices about 10
20 30 or more years ago I mean very
often we made decisions in our youth or
very young about what to believe about
what we were capable of about who we are
as a person and that becomes the glass
ceiling a few well that controls us
there’s a corny metaphor but it’s true I
remember one time I was with my family
at the circus and there’s a person there
and they had this big giant elephant and
you look at this elephant and they take
this little rope put it around the
health and snack and they drive the
stake into the ground and I mean you
look at this you know that elephant
could rip down the entire tent with
almost no effort and yet the elephant
doesn’t struggle doesn’t try why cuz the
elephant’s conditioned and they take
that elephant conditioned the elephant
when it’s a baby elephant that’s how
they train them when it’s a little baby
elephant and it doesn’t have the power
yet they put a big rope around it and
they drive this huge stake in the ground
and your elephant fights and fights and
fights and one day finally that often
decides I’m not capable of pulling this
out and once that becomes the definition
of an identity of anyone and elephants
in this case they don’t even try anymore
it’s just who I am that’s how it is
that’s just the way it is in my life I’d
like to ask you to take a look at any
place you’ve got a limitation ask
yourself when did I decide to accept
that limitation and you may not even see
it as a limitation you might see there
just that’s who I am but so often our
lives we’ve adapted to be a certain way
so that we don’t fail or so that people
will like us or respect us but it’s not
necessarily who we are joy comes when
you’re spontaneous it’s really hard to
be truly happy when you’re not being
yourself and most of us have no clue who
we are and so a big part of my work if
you’ve ever been to an event you know is
to get people and do things
spontaneously without thinking because
that’s when the real you shows up that’s
when the energy comes alive and when you
do that when you start to connect your
true nature suddenly there’s energy
available for you to set a higher
standard for what you want in your life
that’s what this is really all about
and when I talk about standards when I
talk about you know shoulds versus muss
think about your own life I know there
have been areas in your life where some
point in time you just shift it and you
raise the standard in your life change
because whatever people have their
identity attached to they live we live
who we believe we are that’s just how it
works it’s just kind of like I give an
example look at your physical body your
physical body today is an absolute
reflection of only one thing
not your goals not your desires but your
standards the identity you have for
yourself if your standard is you’re an
athlete
then there’s a certain amount of
strength a muscle tone and energy that’s
available in your body on a regular
basis because that’s who you are and so
you do whatever is necessary to maintain
that identity again the strongest force
and the human personality is this need
to stay consistent with how we define
ourselves because if you don’t know who
you are you would know how to act once
you lock in on that identity your brain
finds a way to keep you there if you say
you know man I’m overweight I’ve always
been overweight I’m big-boned and that’s
the story you’ve got then you’re gonna
always find a way to get back there
that’s you’re settling point that’s your
identity that’s where things lock in if
you see somebody who’s a really great
shape you ask him do you work out you
know the answer yes how often and
they’ll tell you three times four times
five times a week whatever in a seven
our last people who here works out at
least five days a week and I’m stand-up
and you look around that room and you
know that they work out five times a
week as you can see their body you don’t
just get a result without some kind of
action without some form of ritual
ritual meaning actions you do
consistently now do you think you knows
people that are out there working out
five days a week do they have more time
than you do or I have for anybody else
of course none is that a wife less busy
of course not it’s just a must for them
they must work out that way and they’ve
made that turn their life change so I’m
not saying you have to work out five
days a week I’m just saying whatever you
really want once don’t get met
consistently standards do whatever you
identify this is Who I am and so it’s
not so much about changing your identity
as theirs
standing it you know deciding that you
know instead of your goals to lose ten
pounds which is not compelling what if
your vision was to get back to my
fighting weight you know this this year
this month this next 90 days I’m gonna
transform my body I’m gonna take on a
new challenge I’m gonna find some
technique or strategy there’s a million
of them that can reframe myself or I’m
gonna feel a younger stronger more
vibrant than ever before here’s my
reasons because I want the energy to
really make my life work because it’s
tough out there and I want to be
stronger than I’ve ever been before I
don’t think Oh in front of mirror and if
I’m naked not you know want to laugh I
will look there and take a good look and
go yeah no basics that if you start to
shift it everything else will shift in
your life as well some people by the way
have to have more than enough money to
do what they want when they want where
they want with whomever they want
contribute the way they want if that’s
there must they find a way I know that
sounds overly simplistic but it’s true
now somebody once said you can take all
the money in the world out of the hands
of everybody out of all the wealthy
people in the world who are really
successful given other people it
wouldn’t take too long those people that
have it back in their hands it’s not
because they’re manipular it’s because
they have a standard some are manipulate
don’t get me wrong but they’ve got a
standard of what they’re gonna find a
way to make happen I’m just simply
saying to you take those three magic
words and live them raise your standard
if you really want to do it then I’ll
tell you the most important secret have
you ever done this have you ever told
yourself you’re raised you’re saying
okay I’m gonna go make this happen I’m
gonna go make this much money I’m gonna
transform my kids I’m gonna create the
ultimate relationship of my life I’m
gonna transform my body whatever it is
and then you don’t have strong enough
reasons and you don’t lose use it you
don’t follow through it’s because you
didn’t back up your standards with what
makes those standards real and that’s
rituals rituals all of the power is
whenever we do our Robbins results
coaching and we did Robbins equals
results late we get results with people
it’s the same way if you listen to my
ultimate edge programmer back in the old
days personal power or if you went to
one of my seminars you know what I do is
I take these huge challenges you got and
we break them down into little
bite-sized steps little things you do
each day that after you do them you get
so much momentum that it’s easy to
succeed you’re not overwhelmed
you have these victory day after day
after day on little things if you’d went
to ultimate edge I’m sure you learned
about the hour of power or to 15 minutes
to be able to be fulfilled or 30 minutes
to thrive where you literally just
conditioned your body and emotion with a
couple little rituals so it doesn’t
matter what’s going on in your world you
feel that strength and it’s not fake
it’s not some pump up it’s coming from
inside you and it works rituals define
us see all the results in your life are
coming from your rituals they start with
a standard and then have rituals that
follow it up like for example if you are
where you want to be physically you have
very different rituals than if you’re
not where you want to be physically if
you’re overweight you and I both know
you got a different ritual than if
you’re physically fit completely
different you get up in the morning
what’s the first thing you do if you’re
fit your shoes are there you roll over
the minute you feel you put on your
shoes you lace and you start walking or
whatever that ritual is if you’re
overweight you roll over and you have a
very different ritual you might roll
over several times to turn the alarm
clock off you go in and get your mocha
mocha whatever you know special coffee
you stop by at Starbucks or over the
case maybe you have your nice sugar
muffin you know it’s supposed to be
really nice for you whatever you do it’s
a different ritual if you have a great
passionate relationship you have very
different rituals and how you come home
than if you have a lousy relationship we
come home and the first thing you do is
you’re tweeting somebody or you’re
emailing or flipping on the news or you
don’t even come home and what are the
rituals whenever I study people that are
successful well I look for is what’s the
standard they hold himself to and then
what are all those little rituals that
up because think about it success and
failure are not giant events they don’t
just show up you don’t just suddenly
become successful or suddenly have this
cataclysmic event that makes you fail it
may look that way but failure comes from
all the little things
it’s failure to make the call its
failure to check the books its failure
to say I’m sorry
it’s failure to push yourself to do
things physically that you don’t want to
do and all those little failures day
after day come together until one day
some Cataclysm event happens you blame
that that event
happen because you missed all the little
stuff do you agree with me and success
by the way is not some overnight event
it’s all these little things success is
having a vision success is making it
compelling
success is really seeing it feeling it
every day was strong enough reasons
success is feeling the sense that I’m
here to grow I’m here to give something
to the world more than just myself
success is caring about other people
success is calling and saying I love you
in the middle of day for no damn reason
or sending a note that will change your
relationship how to ritual of something
funny playful or a surprise you do how
many relationships are dead today
because they have no surprise rituals
anymore you need to have some rituals
some cool things you do that nobody else
does that gives you a better life than
anybody else has all the little stuff
that’s where success comes from in
business it comes from delivering more
than anybody could imagine all those
little things add up people go wow
that’s who I want to do business with
it’s true in any area of your life so if
you look at somebody’s really successful
in you think wow I mean they’re so
amazing there’s such a genius you got to
dig underneath you got to remember
something people are rewarded in public
from what they’ve practiced for years in
private myself and my business people
say how are you get up and speaking of
nono-chan you go for three days and
nights and the room is like it’s wired
and it’s incredible if like a rock
concert how do you do that how do you
have that confidence at home and you
know it’s not confidence it’s experience
now but I did so much behind the scenes
and I still do to make things right I
mean how many people would know that
since the time I was 17 years old before
I walk on him stage still do to this day
wouldn’t need to do it but I still do it
I never walk out there without being in
an absolute peak state of mind you know
there are days my back is hurting my
throat was hurting or I made a have a
challenger my father passed away and
I’ve still got a deliver for these
people because my standard is give my
all every time everything has to be
better talk to anybody who’s been to our
events for 5-10 years some of our
trainers I don’t say I don’t know he
does it he’s always finds a way to make
it better that’s not an ego thing that’s
a standard in me I have to find the way
and my ritual though is I prepare I
think I gather new information I figure
out how to put something across better
wood
people need I spend time with our
customers I see what’s going on and
before I get on stage each time I have
this little ritual to put myself in a
state of mind and I did it starting like
17 years old I started doing that say I
now command my subconscious mind and I
say this out loud several times this
little phrase set of phrases as an
incantation to kind of condition my mind
and body and I’d say I now command my
subconscious mind to direct me and
helping as many people as possible today
by giving me the strength and the
emotion and the humor and the brevity
whatever it takes to show this person
and help this person change their life
now and I started that with a person
when I work with people one on one I
would do that for 45 minutes driving in
my Volkswagen to go serve and coach
somebody for the first time now I don’t
say that person I say these people and I
can go out in the room of 10,000 people
and deliver for 50 hours and I do it
every time I come back on stage
it’s a ritual a ritual to go into peak
stay Peaks they don’t just show up it’ll
interrupt you great ideas doing the
laughter you got to pursue them I talked
to Michael Jordan I’ll never forget dad
the peak of his career and got to watch
his final game saw him backstage and
spent some time with them and there’s
pretty exciting time his greatest
basketball player and I think that ever
lived and hazzard who lived and I asked
him I say you know what sets you apart
Michael you know what is it and is it
god-given talent ability skill what does
it need to tell me you know said I can
shoot you straight you know it’s not you
know me trying to act humble he goes I
have a lot of talent lot of god-given
talent lot of skill I worked really hard
but he said really it’s my standards he
said every day I demand more for myself
than anybody else could humanly expect
I’m not competing with somebody else I’m
competing with while I’m capable of hmm
magic formula because most of us lower
our standards why because who you spend
time with my friends is who you become
one of the biggest reasons I started
going to seminars when I was like 17 is
I had nobody around me is a great role
model I could read about somebody but
being around people being in that
environment was very different finding
way to go to work with someone who lived
that standard life was very different
you get around people at low standards
and you compete with it you don’t need
to compete with it it’s like okay I mean
number Jerry Springer I know if he’s
still in the air but you know I remember
used to get people on the show I thought
where would he
these people and why would people watch
off any what they watch they watch these
people go my life so pretty darn good
come here that person look at them you
don’t have to change your life all you
have to do is find somebody with a lower
standard you’ll feel good about yourself
but if you feel that good feeling it’s
an illusion the only thing that’s gonna
make you happy milliseconds hundredth of
a second he pushed himself just beyond
his competitor but you know how about
Michael Phelps what allow them be able
push beyond that moment is this rituals
go steady the guy most people who swim
have these unbelievable workouts he does
two and three of the workout sessions a
day all the other swimmers in the
beginning thought he was insane you can
over train you can’t do that it’s not
physically possible but he had a
standard and the rituals to back it up
so here’s my final message to you
because I’ve gotten carried away I was
gonna send you like a five-minute
message but you can see there’s no
script here it’s just me going a little
crazy with you but I want to really see
you get what you want this year don’t
let this year be like last and if last
year was great still don’t let it be
that way raise the standard if your life
is perfect and extraordinary you darn
well know you’re not gonna be happy
unless you keep making it better that’s
what makes us feel alive it’s not what
we get that make us happy it’s who we
become and what we’re able to give
because we’ve become more that sense of
contribution is what creates the deepest
meaning so here’s my assignment for if
you want one if you want to go from
conversation to some action your simple
thing to do
what’s an air your life right now that
you really want improve well it’s an
area that’s important to improve if your
body’s great how about your curve
careers great how about your
relationship intimate one especially or
your kids or your relationship with your
creative spiritual side of your life or
is it your finances figure an area that
really matters decide on that area
number one write down what your life is
like in that area right now specifically
as possible so you might say well I’m
13.5 pounds overweight you know whatever
the weight is whatever the situation is
or my body fat like this or wake up
exhausted in the morning and you write
the truth of where you are right now so
you’re real clear or I’m not in a
relationship I say I want a relationship
but I I’m not in one I don’t seem to
find them all the good ones seem to be
gone is my belief you know and I really
you want one but I don’t have it
whatever your definition I’m in a
relationship and god I wish I wasn’t in
a relationship I’m planning my escape
wherever you are or I have a wonderful
relationship we love each other but
there just isn’t enough passion just
like the truth of where you are the area
you want to change what right how it is
and then the second step is that’s where
you I’ll be really honest with yourself
what are the rituals that have put me
there
because whatever results you’re getting
even if you don’t like the results
there’s some rituals that are keeping
you in that place there’s some rituals
of what you eat or don’t eat how you
move or don’t move how you sleep or
don’t sleep there’s some rituals and the
lack of variety or spice or energy or
focus in an area there’s something
you’re doing and it’s usually not one
thing it’s a bunch of little things they
kind of do consistently whenever you
think about getting in a relationship
whenever you think about working out
whenever you think about money and get
yourself in a state of overwhelm you
start thinking about all the things you
can’t control just write down all the
rituals you have and then here’s the
third step what do you want what’s your
vision and be really specific I want to
be my fighting weight I want to be the
strongest I’ve ever felt I want to be
I’m gonna turn my whatever it is be
specific and then last step number four
what are the rituals that’ll get you
there what would you need to differently
each morning if you’re gonna be that
kind of energy that kind of strength how
would you have to happen would you work
out what days would you work out what
time a ritual is something you do
consistently usually at a specific time
so becomes automatic let me tell you
something willpower doesn’t last
but rituals can last a lifetime I bet
you have some rituals in your life right
now you’ve been doing for years even
though some of them don’t serve you I’m
just saying wake yourself up make if you
want a new year and a new life you don’t
need to start in January first start
today start with this little video and
just begin to see what happens and see
how easy it is to just do a few little
rituals don’t do them all just do two or
three new things and you know what
happens you’ll get momentum coz once you
discipline yourself in one area life you
feel yourself doing it other areas as
well I always say something that my
original teacher taught me I always
remind people there’s always two pains
in life there’s the pain of discipline
or is the pain of regret
and discipline weighs ounces is my
friend Jim Rohn taught me regret weighs
tons you don’t have regret so right now
what do you want to change what’s it
really like what are the rituals that
got you there that will take a little
homework if you’re not sure ask the
people around you they’ll tell you what
your rituals are what do I really want
in depth where the rituals they’ll get
me there and then get yourself to start
a few those actions and lock them in
place
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