people ask me all the time if you really
want to get lasting change real results
that stick around what do you got to do
one of the most important things you
learned Tony in that area
I tell people the most common thing
people talk about is how they want to
make a change in their life but
everybody wants to change but nobody
wants to work out you know everybody
wants muscle but nobody wants to train
see one of the challenges that we have
in our lives is we don’t realize that
the process of training ourselves the
process of conditioning ourselves
actually feels incredible once you get
that initial momentum but most people
don’t why why do somebody people say
well I lost a hundred pounds you know
the same ten pounds ten times yeah or
they’ll tell me your arm I’m on my
fourth day without a cigarette man I’m
doing really good if you’re counting the
days it’s not lasting change you just
count the days you can tell people how
long you last it if you want lasting
change you’ve got to give up this idea
of trying something you get aside you’re
gonna commit to mastery I would like to
start this morning by showing you the
strategy for learning what is learning
so if we take a human being and this
will be a drawing of human being so you
can see that again I majored in art so
if we take even Bing and we want to be
able to have them learn something what
is learning well learning is the
creation of here’s the key word of a
relationship whenever you learn
something all you’re really doing is
creating a relationship between two
things so if I want to learn something
so now how do I learn this it’s not
figuring things out that’s how most of
us think of learning learning is not
figuring things out learning is the
creation of relationship between two
things something you already know the
known something you already know it’s in
your head already you understand it and
a relationship we known and what would
you ask the unknown because the minute
you link something you understand to
something you don’t understand you now
and
Stan what you didn’t understand so if
you want to learn something if you’re
not learning it’s not that you’re not
smart it’s not that you can’t figure it
out it’s that the person is explaining
it using references you don’t have so
I’ve learned things like quantum physics
I learned things like nuclear power from
physicists I’ll say okay explain to me
how that’s like an orange house that
leased like a solar system something I
understand and sure enough once they
make that linkage you got it you
understand the relationship you
understand what things are most of us
lower our standards why because who you
spend time with my friends is who you
become one of the biggest reasons I
started going to seminars when I was
like 17 is I had nobody around me is a
great role model I could read about
somebody but being around people being
in that environment was very different
finding way to go to work with someone
who lived that standard of life was very
different you get around people with low
standards and you compete with it you
don’t need to compete with it it’s like
okay I mean remember Jerry Springer I
know if he’s still in the air but you
know I remember used to get people on
the show tonight but where would he find
these people watch they watch these
people go my life so pretty darn good
come here that person look at them you
don’t have to change your life all you
have to do is find somebody with a lower
standard you’ll feel good about yourself
but if you feel that good feeling it’s
an illusion the only thing that’s gonna
make you happy my friend and this year
or any other is to step up it’s to raise
the standard it’s to discover what
you’re capable of and feel that
incredible power of pushing through
whatever is holding you back and get to
the other side of more of your true self
that’s what this game is all about
I believe you can think of something you
feel excited about right now right yeah
let me see use your hand say I well
you’re really excited about it what
about that excites you oh when you’re
really excited how do you feel how do
you speak what’s your life like by the
way when you’re excited does it tend to
touch other people yes or no absolutely
by the way do people have a tendency but
who feels different right now they’re
just even a couple moments ago ready and
say I why because focus is controlled by
questions
if you ask a different question
continuously that once continuously you
will get a different answer if you ask a
lousy question you get a lousy a certain
a lousy state so he said why does this
always happen to me it doesn’t always
happen to you but the brains like a
computer asking a question you don’t
have to come up with an answer because
you deserve it you idiot once you break
through then it just becomes a game the
people that are getting your products
have not yet broken through in most
cases the breakthrough happens by
conditioning your mind every day by
feeding it a role model or story it’s
putting yourself in a pink state when
you follow through by getting physically
strong it’s creating a little ritual of
doing a little bit each day and then you
get momentum but the most important
thing of all what we start out with why
absolutely why is it a must for you it
doesn’t have to be here against the wall
but it has to be something you’re hungry
for because the only difference in
people is hunger and if you’re not
hungry
get around people that are hungry and
something will hit you if you don’t like
the way your career is or your
businesses change it if you don’t like
your body change it you don’t like your
relationship change you first cuz if you
change it you’ll bring you to the next
one maybe it’s time to change it too but
change yourself first if you want to
change any of your life you have the
choice so there is no right or wrong I
just want to make you aware in this
breakthrough session that everything in
our life changes the moment we make a
decision I mean a real decision the
decision is when you cut off any other
possibility you commit to something with
everything you’ve got
and you take action but the big
decisions start with little decisions
like what am I gonna focus on
focus on you’re gonna feel you’re gonna
learn to drive a stick shift car and
your breathing newer driving a car
who can remember this experience and
wasn’t overwhelming yes or no
why because driving a car today for most
of you is one chunk of information I’m
gonna go drive that’s it because most of
what you’ve done you got cognitive
knowledge about you repeatedly enough
with enough emotion you did enough in
your body now all of those complex
things happen will you call it as just
driving but the first time you were
driving it was a lot of different
activities I can remember they called me
Speed Racer because I couldn’t figure
out how to get him in going I got in the
car you know ok celebrator brake got bat
watch the road let’s listen to this too
and watch the rearview mirror
no no this ain’t happening right because
it was overwhelming because what it was
was one chunk of you was figuring out
how to accelerate one part of you break
another part of he’s got to watch the
road another ones watching the rearview
mirror nothing’s gonna figure out the
timing of moving this in but after a
while it just became private and most of
you drive today literally on automatic
pilot cuz many of you how many have ever
done this you driving along and all of a
sudden your mind goes somewhere else
someone sudden you go who’s been driving
who’s had that experience for say ahh
well who’s been driving is your
subconscious mind the part of you that
makes your heart beat a hundred thousand
times a day without you having to think
about it even when you’re sleeping and
your subconscious absorbs way more when
you’re in a position of total absorption
like you are here immersion more than
your conscious mind does I’m very clear
that I believe that life is about
leadership and being truthful to
yourself and so I believe number one
that the mandate for any great
relationship a mandate for anybody to
lead their own life and not be a
followers you got to see things as they
are but not worse than they’ll cuz
that’s where most people go that’s where
they go on relationship that’s why they
start to tear it down that’s why the
relationship starts to break down
because people get scared when isn’t
working out and then they make it worse
than it is so they don’t have to try
because they don’t want to try again and
be disappointed they don’t want to feel
that sense of rejection they don’t want
to feel that sense of failure
so most people make it much worse than
it is
80% of success in life
80% of achievement in business 80% of
almost anything that matters in your
life is psychology and 20% of mechanics
and I’m here to tell you there’s two
things that control everything in your
life every thought every feeling every
emotion every action you have in your
life what you’re wearing today whether
you’re gonna turn this off within a few
minutes or whether you’re gonna stick
with me here for two or three minutes is
all controlled by two things your
beliefs and your values whatever you
believe if you think life is just a
waste of time doesn’t matter what you do
or you know you’re big-boned then
obviously you’re not gonna go for it
you’re not gonna try to lose weight
you’re not gonna go push for that next
level beliefs control us but so do our
values some people you know value just
kicking back some people value making it
happen some people value their family
the most some people value love but you
know what the real challenge is we have
values in conflict when you really want
to make a difference in the world or you
really want to do well for your family
or you really want to do well
financially but simultaneously you know
you don’t want upset anybody you want to
be totally honest you don’t want to make
everybody happy when we have conflicts
between what we want and what we think
we can have or you know you have a goal
of what you really want to make happen
but then you have this other belief
inside that says this damn stuff never
does work those inner conflicts or what
keep people from using all of their
energy it’s kind of like taking two
steps forward and three steps back so
often in life people don’t begin the
journey because they’re not quite sure
what to do or how to do it right or how
to do it perfect you want to change your
body get yourself moving don’t wait for
the perfect trainer just grow it up here
move put on your shoes and move and get
momentum
just remember progress equals happiness
if you can start to make progress and
you get yourself going it’s not perfect
if it doesn’t work you know what they do
just change your approach that doesn’t
work change your approach but if there’s
anything that shift your life it’ll get
you to thrive on a difficult situation
is take some massive action try
something else change it try it move it
I’m honored and I’m blown away even
though this is my 25th year plus doing
this I’ve been doing this for a quarter
of a century now which is quite amazing
form in the
thank you and I’ve had the privilege now
working with more than three million
people live and events from more than 80
countries around the world so at this
stage I got to tell you something I
could be an idiot and I would know that
there are certain patterns that cause
people to be fulfilled to be happy to
fit to be strong to feel alive
to be vibrant to have passion in their
life to do well financially but even
more importantly emotionally
psychologically spiritually in their
health and their relationships and there
are also patterns and make people
frustrated overwhelmed depressed sad
lonely cause them to be struggling
financially struggling with their bodies
struggling intimately and those patterns
they’re not because there’s something
wrong with somebody’s because of a
pattern that we’re doing and I spent a
quarter of a century of my life
basically studying the most successful
people in the world and the most
challenged and figure out what’s the
fastest way to create a change in
basically developing the one thing that
all people have in common to succeed
their leaders this is a leadership
program because I don’t care what what
style you are I don’t care if you’re a
mom if you’re a great mom you lead your
child you’re not led by your child or
great dad you’re great businessperson
you’re great salesperson you’re a great
negotiator you’re great anything you’re
great human being things this has been
my entire life’s obsession what makes
the difference in people’s lives
and that leadership component as I say
it doesn’t always mean somebody follows
you a leader somebody lives life on
their terms that you will never settle
for less than you can be or share or
give or create it’s not what we get that
makes us happy it’s who we become see
all the results in your life are coming
from your rituals they start with a
standard and then have rituals that
follow it up like for example if you are
where you want to be physically you have
very different rituals than if you’re
not where you want to be physically if
you’re overweight you and I both know
you got a different ritual than if
you’re physically fit completely
different you get up in the morning
what’s the first thing you do if you’re
fit your shoes are there you roll over
the minute how you feel you put on your
shoes you lace and you start walking or
whatever that ritual is if you’re
overweight you roll over and you have a
very different ritual you might roll
over several times to turn the alarm
clock off you go in and get your mocha
mocha or whatever you know special
coffee stop by
Starbucks over the case maybe you have
your nice sugar muffin you know it’s
supposed to be really nice for you
whatever you do it’s a different ritual
if you have a great passionate
relationship you have very different
rituals and how you come home than if
you have a lousy relationship we come
home and the first thing you do is
you’re tweeting somebody or you’re
emailing or flipping on the news or you
don’t even come home now what are the
rituals
whenever I study people that are
successful well I look for is what’s the
standard they hold himself to and then
what are all the little rituals that up
because think about it success and
failure are not giant events they don’t
just show up you don’t just suddenly
become successful or suddenly have this
cataclysmic event that makes you fail
may look that way but failure comes from
all the little things its failure to
make the call its failure to check the
books its failure to say I’m sorry
it’s failure to push yourself to do
things physically that you don’t want to
do and all those little failures day
after day come together until one day
some Cataclysm event happens you blame
that that event happen because you
missed all the little stuff I thought
you know years I figured out it our
whole life is shaped by decisions that’s
what we’ve talked about today right but
there’s three decisions you’re making
every moment you’re alive and the way
you make these three decisions shapes
your destiny first decision we’re all
making every moment is what are you
gonna focus on what are you gonna focus
on and I realized that my father’s life
and my wife ended up very different
because we made that day three decisions
very differently he decided to focus on
the fact that he has not fed his family
and the second question you gotta decide
every moment you’re alive including this
moment what are you to focus on second
question as you’re focusing on what does
this mean what does it mean
and the bottom line on meaning is if you
think about it
you get to make up the meaning and most
people pick the worst one don’t they
that day my father decided to focus on
Aki Adam fed his family and I know what
meaning he gave cuz he sent it out loud
over and over again but he was worthless
because he had not taken care of his
family and then the final most important
decision you make every moment you’re
alive what am I gonna do what am I gonna
do and I’ll tell you what decided to do
he decided to leave our family shortly
thereafter which at the time was it was
the worst experience of my life it was
the most crushing experience I’ve felt
it’s been so many years now I don’t have
the same feelings
part of it as three years ago he passed
away but at the time I knew no greater
pain my family did no greater pain I
couldn’t understand why I would leave I
loved him so much and my wife turned out
very different than him I was the only
one to go to his funeral no one else in
the family to go
nobody want to be part of it he died
alone of a disease called connective
tissue disorder and I can tell you right
before his death he got the lesson cuz
he looked at me he said son he said I
was a bastard I didn’t connect with
anybody and look what I’m died enough
believable change happens in a moment a
breakthrough happens in a moment what
does it breakthrough a breakthrough is
that moment in time where suddenly the
impossible becomes possible not just
intellectually but you do something
about it you know people all the time
will say it takes 10 years or it took me
20 years to make a change I always say
BS it took you a minute
the minute you finally said I quit or
it’s over or let’s begin or I love you
or I do change happens in a moment but
most of us have to go through a process
to get to that moment and what I’m I’m
dedicated to is having it to that moment
much quicker than a sort of five-point
plan anyone can follow to get over
stress and trauma in their lives totally
through it well I think first of all I
make one thing clear the quality of your
life is the quality of where you live
emotionally but we all have a home angry
people try and find a way to get angry
even if their life doesn’t they’d be
angry about we can always find it sad
people find what have you sad caring
people find a way to care for other
people
so one thing gonna identify is where are
you living what’s your home what’s your
habit and then the way to change it is
when I was homeless literally on my own
just getting started I didn’t have the
internet but I had decided I had to go
to a library and I had to feed my mind I
always tell people the first stage is
you know weeds grow automatically one of
my teachers taught me said everyday
stand guard at the door of your mind and
feed it something good because if your
worst enemy puts sugar in your coffee
here you’re fine if your best friend by
accident trying to help you put some
strychnine you’re dead so if you feed
your mind every day 30 minutes a day of
reading something hearing something
second you got to strengthen your body
and the reason Pierce is fear is
physical right so is stagnation
so is numbness so a sadness such as so
it’s rage and when you go in and change
your body by an intense workout or a run
or even intense walk and the Bloods
flowing through you science has shown it
instantly changes your biochemistry now
your mind by you’re working together
third thing all these people did in
common if you watch they found a mission
bigger than themselves
something that they want to aspire to
that was worth
more than their pain and then the fourth
thing is you gotta find a role model you
know you heard it in with Nick almost
anybody finds a role model that makes it
real I was with Warren Buffett and with
Sara Blakely the youngest billionaire we
did this roundtable about the future and
when you listen this woman and when
women meet her
they don’t just love Spanx or product
that made her a billionaire they love
this woman because she’s a role model
what’s possible yeah you get a role
model it becomes real to you if you get
a plan you get a gold plan and you take
massive action and the last step number
five there’s always somebody all or
something you are I don’t care what
you’ve done so if you can go help
somebody worse off you put your life in
perspective and it also reminds you
life’s not about me it’s about we I
always tell people the secret to a great
life the secret to living is giving and
there’s when you realize there’s
something you still to give even if you
lost your legs even if you’ve been
through a horrific financial situation
your life can improve but more
importantly you’ll have a meaningful
life because your life will contribute
to other people I tell people one thing
if you’re not happy in your intimate
relationship you’re not fucking happy
because I don’t give a shit how hard you
work I don’t care how much money you
make any troubles you get in the end if
you don’t have that aliveness and
passion a part of you is dead inside you
the more you can cultivate that sense of
wealth that sense of abundance in you
the more you can feel that sense of joy
the more easy it’s going to be for you
to do financially because you’re not
going to be in this scarce fearful mode
now that’s anonymous by itself you have
this great sense of abundance and do the
wrong mechanics and be a disaster true
or false but if I had a they have an
area to get you started with you want to
have the emotional psychological
strength because that’s going to carry
you through when the mechanics are
boring or frustrating or when things
aren’t working out your emotion your
psychologies won’t carry you it’ll get
you to keep doing it the best way to
deal with shame for people is to find
what you’re most proud of you can’t
you’re never gonna deal with shame you
have to overwhelm it with the good it’s
kind of like if every day of your life
you look around
let it happen news comes in and it’s
almost always these days something to
scare you if it bleeds it leads they say
in the newspaper business so something
to jar you if you’re gonna have your
life you have to my call snap the good
you have to flood yourself with the good
you have to say what am i proud of in my
life what am i grateful for and you got
to literally think of three or four or
five things people experiences it could
be as something little you’re proud of
when you’re a kid something today but if
you do what I call an emotional flood
you flood yourself with all the
beautiful proud things things you’re
grateful for in your life you’ll find
that’ll overwhelm that feeling of shame
and the shame feeling will disappear but
it won’t disappear by analyzing it then
you just get more and more and you do
this I can see you to this you’re a
person you look for the good you find
the good and you stack it and that’s
what gives you so much energy decide to
develop the habit right now the habit of
focusing on what’s right in your world
instead of what’s wrong the habit of
focusing on what you do have instead of
what you don’t have in a situation and
as basic as that is and as well as you
know it you’ve got to make it a habit
because those habits form the chain of
your ultimate character of who you
become and how you end up living your
life we’ve got to condition ourselves
because if we don’t we’ll go back to the
automatic state that most people live in
in today’s society the way to develop
the habit is to go on a mental diet I
did this several years ago as positive
as I was I was going through
unbelievable pain at the time I’d had
some major disappointments some
frustrations I felt like I’d given it
all but what turned me around is one day
I picked up this book called a seven-day
mental diet it was a little tiny little
booklet and all the book that really did
was for about 12 of the 14 pages it
challenged me to really see if I could
really truly for seven days live my life
without one negative thought and it kept
saying throughout the book and I don’t
just say yeah I can do it don’t just say
I’m gonna do it think for a while before
you commit to this don’t actually commit
unless you’re really gonna do it for
seven straight days no matter what it
doesn’t mean you don’t have a negative
thought it just means that if you have a
negative thought you don’t speak it you
set it aside you forget about it or you
replace it you say something negative
you go erase what I really mean is this
or you say that’s not what I mean here’s
what I mean is this and you immediately
focus on something good it’s not that
nothing negative ever comes out it’s
that you immediately do not allow
yourself to hold a negative feeling a
negative
for seven straight days day and night
even when it gets tough even when
somebody disappoints you even when you
get frustrated even when you give your
own and still turns up lousy listen if
all he did was rant rave on this tape
and you didn’t listen to anything else I
said but you took on the seven day
challenge you can’t believe what it’ll
do to your life today they don’t get
injured smashing into people playing
football anything else to get injured
typing you know picking up a pencil oh
oh that really oh that’s some people can
hurt today because we don’t use
everything anymore we live in the box
think about it think about our lives
today and how different it is then maybe
the way we are formed ooh you made to
run to hide to create to procreate to
raise our children to move to farm to do
all the things that made us use all of
our body today what do we do you wake up
and you have this box life you have a
box breakfast right you get your box car
you drive your box office you float up a
box elevator you don’t use the stairs of
course right you go to your box office
where you type on a box talking a box
right go into a box room for meetings
right sure enough got a little box you
can type on listen to this in a music
gun box have your box lunch drive your
box home or get in the train or subway
another box home get home to your box
and then turn on the Box type on a box
message another box I mean and maybe go
get a cylinder to change your state
maybe and most people’s idea of exercise
in our society today is fill the tub
pull the plug and fight the current
that’s the world we live in today and so
it’s not hard to figure out why we’re
getting fat and why we’re finally kind
of tired and why we’re building up acid
in our system consuming foods that have
nothing alive in them anymore I will do
something that I still do backstage and
have done for 23 years because I don’t
hope I’m gonna be in good state I demand
it so I do an incantation using my whole
body it’s a new command my subconscious
mind to direct me helping as many people
as possible life today to better their
lives they give me the strength the
emotion the persuasion the humor the
brevity whatever it takes
surely feeling get these people to
change their lives now I would do that
literally driving in my Volkswagen to a
meeting in LA on the freeway for 40
minutes people looking I’m screaming to
pop my lungs they’re going I know he’s a
serial killer I know he is but by the
time I entered that room when two people
meet if there’s report the person who’s
most certain I was totally certain and
they were trying to get revved up to
certainty do you agree with this yes or
no I do another one because I was poor I
changed my mindset I kept doing things
but I never got beyond it I’d say gods
wealth is circulating in my life as well
flows to me an avalanche is of abundance
all my needs desires and goals are met
instantaneously by infinite intelligence
I’m one with God and God is everything
and I would imagine the abundance of my
life and I would feel so grateful and a
year later I went for making 38 thousand
dollars a year to make a million dollars
a year in one year but successful people
do what failures won’t you follow me on
this you know if you get yourself in a
state of certainty that this is gonna
work I’m gonna find the way and if this
is work I will make the way then you tap
a lot more potential and when you’re
certain your potential you take massive
action when you take massive action you
really believe in something you get
great results when you get great results
your brain goes see I told you I was a
stud people tell me all the time oh I’m
skeptical or I’m pessimistic I said no
no you’re gutless
it takes no guts it takes no courage to
be a pessimist
to say it’s not gonna work to try to
find out what’s wrong what’s wrong
there’s always available
so what’s right so I’m not into positive
thinking but I am into intelligence and
intelligence says see it as it is don’t
make it worse than it is maybe of all
time say uh uh um my problem is I’m Big
Bone no you’re freaking fat tell the
truth you know what is this Big Bone
story you know the only way it gets
better as if you can see out it is don’t
make it worse than it is don’t try to
make it so it’s impossible to change
that’s not true
not true at all the second mandate I
think to changing editing your life to
bleed in your life is once you see it as
it is not worse it is then you got to
see it better than it does that
something’s missing for most
relationships there’s no vision
I mean without a vision and the Bible it
says people what parish and what a
relationship has no vision for greater
than where they are that relationship is
going downhill if not destroyed I
believe that every relationship every
part of life every part of a human being
needs a compelling future but the future
is not more compelling than today today
could be tough what are the futures
compelling we can get there so just to
remind you first thing you got to do is
be and strengthen that mind read listen
feed the mind take control of that focus
stand guard and what other people are
saying focus on what it is you’re here
to give what you can control what you
can make happen
number two feed and strengthen that body
remember fear uncertainty they’re
physical experiences so the best way to
deal with something physical is get
physical change that body go lift some
weights go for that run do something
that’s gonna get you in that state if
you’ve been to our seminars you know
exactly what to do but get that our
power going that 15 minutes to thrive if
you’re familiar with that to train your
body and mind to be strong again number
three make sure you put yourself in that
position where you find a role model
that’s gonna inspire you and show you
that way maybe it’s a contrasting role
model you think your life so tough find
somebody with tougher look who’s really
turned it around
or maybe it’s just somebody who’s really
succeeded but you can now see there is a
way there’s a way through there’s a way
to make this happen even in the toughest
times there’s always a way for make sure
you get yourself into action get a plan
take massive action and the number five
most importantly of all
feed your spirit feed and strengthen
your spirit and there’s only one way to
do that it’s to find what you’re
grateful for and to take time whether it
be prayer for you or just taking a
moment to think about what is it so
lucky in life there’s there’s a
rejuvenation in our spirit when we stop
taking things for granted and when most
importantly what feed your spirit is to
give to find a way to do something for
someone else who’s worse off than you
are because what is this all about
it’s about strength and it’s about
perspective it’s about action it’s about
emotion and it’s about heart and so many
people you know miss the opportunity to
feel like their life makes a difference
I’m a big believer that motive does
matter but why you do something people
can feel that people may be skeptical
they may have their judgments or their
fears because they mentor so much but
and my experience ultimately while
you’re doing something people feel if
you’re doing this because some part of
you knows that you’re here in life not
just to get but to give then there’s a
spark that happens of other people
because they feel the genuineness event
and there’s a spark that happens and you
cuz it reminds you what you’re made for
whatever you don’t learn it’s because
someone is trying to teach you in a
different way and the different way is I
was a good student in school I liked
learning until I got junior high school
high school where I liked all subjects
until I got to there when math became
algebra geometry and trigonometry
because when I got there I totally hated
it so I had no motivation to really
learn it and with no drive to learn
something you know who you spend time
with us who you become and getting
yourself in proximity with people that
are succeeding even if you have to work
for free for somebody again the
environment around it rubs off on you
you begin to think like they think you
begin to see what the opportunities are
one of the challenges in our country is
when people are really doing poorly we
put them together in an environment what
other people are doing poorly and we
wonder why they don’t get better no
amount of money will ever make you
wealthy because as soon as you get there
you will raise the game now here’s
what’s great about that to continue
growing in all areas of life if you
could grow emotionally should you yes or
no if you could give more should you yes
or no yeah if you grow intellectually
should you yeah if you get more love
should you if you could grow more
financially should you yes because
growth is life but having to grow in
order to feel significant enough means
you will always be poor it’s a game that
never ends let’s talk about money now
not wealth what does it take
mechanically to get this thing called
financial independence and what does
financial independence as opposed to
wealth wealth is a product of the mind
again no amount of money you ever
achieve will make you wealthy financial
dependent means you never have to work
again in order to live your life that
when you do work you’re doing it because
you really want to not because you have
to and how many committed and not only
being wealthy but also financially
independent say life will pay whatever
price you ask of it you know what’s
interesting you gotta ask intelligently
in the Bible it says ask and you shall
what pretty good formula you gotta look
into it
but you know what it’s just asking you
shall receive but I’m sure it meant ask
intelligently I’m sure that’s what God
meant I’m sure he didn’t mean bitch and
you will receive wine and you will
receive I don’t think that was the
instruction now if you’re gonna ask
intelligently there might be five
elements of that number one you’d have
to ask specifically wouldn’t you
wouldn’t ask in a general way people do
the last time I want more money fine
here’s a dollar get out of here very
often you’re getting what you’re asking
for you’re just not aware of how general
you’re asking clarity is power the more
clear you are about exactly what it is
you want the more your brain knows how
to get there your brain is a
servomechanism it’s like a bomb those
bombs those missiles they have a
servomechanism so if the target moves it
knows what the target is it follows it
your brain when you condition it knows
exactly what to go for it will find a
way to get there you ever buy a certain
outfit or a certain car and suddenly see
their car outfit everywhere how many
have that experience say I how come that
car outfits everywhere it always was
everywhere but now you notice it and the
reason because there’s a part of your
brain called the reticular activating
system the RAS that part of your brain
determines what you notice and what you
don’t notice your brain spends most of
its time trying to make sure you don’t
notice because you’ll go crazy if you
notice everything but when you decide
what’s most important to you your brain
goes after it everyone I know who’s
successful have builds what I call an
RPM plan and rpm is built on the
metaphor that the way to get from where
you are to where do you want to go to
the fastest is you got to build power
like in a car RPMs and the R stands for
they know the result they’re after they
know what they want precisely if you
don’t know exactly what you want or you
let yourself get beyond that to
something general you’re not going to
achieve it we all have goals the problem
is I’ve said before in this program is
that we’re unconscious in the use of our
resources
most people’s goals are to quote pay the
lousy bills or to get by to survive or
get out of debt or make it through the
day make the relationship a little
better get a better job and short
they’re caught up in the trap of making
a living rather than designing a life
remember that our goals affect us
whatever they are if we don’t
consciously plant the seeds of what we
want in the gardens of our minds we’ll
end up with weeds if we want
discover the unlimited possibilities
within us we must find a goal big enough
and grand enough to challenge us to push
beyond our limits and discover our true
potential remember that your current
conditions do not reflect your ultimate
potential but rather the size and the
quality of the goals upon what you’re
currently focusing we all must discover
or create a magnificent obsession
whenever you look at someone you say why
are they more successful anybody else
it’s always because of step one they’ve
raised their standard if you go back
home and you want to change your life in
any way personally professionally or
your company is boring as it sounds as
stupid as animated sound you might say I
spent all this time this energy this
money and you’re gonna tell me to raise
my standards yes cuz even though that’s
not sexy it is the only thing that
creates lasting change you want to dye
it and you can lose weight but will that
person eventually do they’ll go away
back unless they raise their standard
now that sounds so trite and stupid and
positive thing key or old-school but the
truth is it’s the truth so maybe I can
language it away that’s more compelling
to you or more simple what does it mean
when we say raise our standards it means
you turn your shoulds in the muss the
difference in people is that they turn
their shoulds in the muss the things
that you used to say I should do you do
your sheds when it’s convenient when
it’s comfortable when it goes your way
but when something is a must not to
other people but a must to you do you
find the way to get it done yes or no so
the difference in people is what’s their
must or another word for that is Webster
stand this here’s what leaders really do
they maximize resources a leader can
come into an organization that’s totally
torn up in horrible shape take the same
resources take it to another level
your body your mind your emotion but you
can’t maximize it when you’re trying to
fit in and you can’t maximize it when
you live by everybody else’s rules I’m
not saying don’t be respectful I’m just
saying as a leader you got to decide
what you believe is
right and one thing I can tell you will
always feel right to never settle for
less than you can be do share or give
that’ll feel right as long as you
outside
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the greatest investors the greatest
financial success in history the first
man to become a billionaire by investing
alone is the man who’s a friend of mine
he died about four years ago named Sir
John Templeton Sir John Templeton
started out with nothing he wasn’t Sir
John he was a guy that Jason grew up in
this tiny little town with nothing to
his name he worked hard and he decided
to save his money and find a way to
invest but he had one cool secret he
realized when things are going well what
do people want for their property when
things are going really well a high
price or a low price which one high
price when things are going well do they
want a high price or a low price for
their shares which one high price when
things are going unhappy when things are
terrible things going well people think
it’s gonna go well forever when they
think it’s going bad I think it’s gonna
go bad for how long forever when the is
going really poor what does that guy
want for his shares or his home I’m a
high price or whatever he can get which
one whatever he can get so his mindset
was really simple I’m gonna take all my
money write this down during times of
maximum pessimism I’ll make all my money
during times of maximum pessimism if you
can when everybody else is freaking out
seeing it worse than it is you can see
how it really is not kid yourself not
just be positive but see it better than
it is and see where the advantage is and
you can do the third step I left out
which is once you see it better than it
is you’ve got to make it that way you
got to come up with a strategy and
action plan to make it that way if you
can do those three things you can take
advantage of if you want a great jump in
the quality of your life an
extraordinary jump on the quality of
your life you got to set yourself up to
win you got to set yourself up with a
process that allows you to consistently
grow consistently enjoy your life and
consistently produce the results that
you’re really after and I don’t care but
if you’ve got what you know that focus
the target and you got the toolbox and
you’re still not getting what you want
it’s because you got inner conflicts
that’s the third pillar you’ve got to
resolve your inner conflicts because
that as I try to explain to you 80% of
success in anything is your psychology
and 20% as the mechanic
so those inner conflicts are when you
take two steps forward you pull three
steps back right when you say boy I’m
fully committed this but you don’t
follow through this is my expertise the
y-guy part why why you keep saying you
want this you have crystal clarity you
have the tools and you’re still not
getting it there’s a conflict in you you
want to be totally successful but you’re
afraid at some level that if you will
are totally successful you will not be
loved
you’ll be rejected you want to be in a
position where you have total free time
and you want to build a billion dollar
enterprise these are conflicts you
really truly know you’ve got the tools
and talents to make this happen but a
part of you doesn’t think you deserve to
succeed because it’s something you did
at some point in your life or something
you made up or you think making money or
being successful economically is not
spiritual and you’re committed to being
spiritual and yet the other part of you
it’s the inner conflict between fighting
parts so what do we do in this third
pillar think of it as a vault we got
unlock think of it as unlock and unleash
that’s the third teller the way you
unlock and unleash is you identify the
conflicts you get clear what they are so
you may have total clarity even the
tools but how can you call the unleash
and commit when you’re being pulled in
two different directions
there’s only how do I solve that there
isn’t one way you’ve got to get clear
about what’s most important to you today
not what you think you should do based
on at all blueprint and all belief
system your parents society your friends
otherwise you’ll succeed then not be
fulfilled so once you identify the
conflicts now what you got to do is
align align your life with what you
really value align your life with what
is most important to you and then once
you are in a position where you’re
aligned guess what you’ll do take action
you won’t have to work at it when
everything’s in alignment there’s
nothing pulling you away boom you go for
it but when you say I want a
relationship but at the same time
simultaneously I want to be in a
position where you know I never have to
you know I only get what I want every
mode
or I never have to commit to anything
he’s gonna obviously you’re never gonna
get there that inner conflict must be
resolved once you align and you take
action because what’s gonna happen
you’re gonna achieve and once you
achieve you succeed when you succeed
I’ll tell you what you add to it
celebrate right and then contribute pay
it forward a few wills corny as that
sounds
remember the movie paid for don’t pay it
back take what you’ve got what you’ve
learned and bring it to someone else if
you bring it to someone else it
continues that cycle of fulfillment of
joy of meaning in your life everything
works
I just finished by reminding you what I
think everybody knows in their heart
nothing you get will ever make you happy
nothing doesn’t matter how many people
respect you how much money you have only
things you have we all know that but who
you become will make you very happy or
very sad and so ultimately there’s one
way to test your life and the busyness
of your life make sure you take just a
few minutes to give yourself the gift of
making progress every day because that’s
the one word that’ll make you happy
progress doesn’t matter what you
achieved feels good for how long you
know you’ve got it it’s wonderful it’s
exciting you appreciate it and then you
move on but if you’re still growing if
you’re not growing you’re dying if
you’re making progress and you’re not
where you want to be physically but all
of a sudden you took this book and you
started make some simple changes and you
started walk move exercise you make a
couple dietary changes you got some
energy now and you start feeling
everyday even if you’re not yet to the
thirty pounds you want to lose just the
momentum will make you happy if you’re
in a relationship where you’re settling
or you’re a relationship where you’re
not in a relationship and you’re
settling for being alone when something
inside of you craves more and this book
triggers you and gives you the plan on
how to finally connect and break through
your own fears and connect with people
and light them up the way you really
want to just even before you’re there
just the progress will light you up and
we all have to keep growing to feel that
alive so whether it be progress in your
business progress in your body progress
in your energy your relationship your
kids your finances your career I don’t
care what it is that’s what my life’s
about so my heartfelt wish for you in
this video becomes a trigger for more
progress and then out of that progress
you’ll have things that you enjoy in
your life that you’ll now be able to
give to other people too so please pass
along
stories love to hear pass along to other
people and let them know what this meant
to you and let’s see if we can’t through
this trigger of the social networks and
social media and email and everything
else that we have texting let’s see if
we can just spread this around and
really touch a lot of lives you’ll get
them the same joy I get which is people
coming up saying oh my god you changed
my life
I don’t change anybody’s life they do it
for themselves but I provide the
triggers and you can be my partner
providing the triggers so blessings to
you bullet from Fiji Live Strong live
with passion and God bless
you
want to get lasting change real results
that stick around what do you got to do
one of the most important things you
learned Tony in that area
I tell people the most common thing
people talk about is how they want to
make a change in their life but
everybody wants to change but nobody
wants to work out you know everybody
wants muscle but nobody wants to train
see one of the challenges that we have
in our lives is we don’t realize that
the process of training ourselves the
process of conditioning ourselves
actually feels incredible once you get
that initial momentum but most people
don’t why why do somebody people say
well I lost a hundred pounds you know
the same ten pounds ten times yeah or
they’ll tell me your arm I’m on my
fourth day without a cigarette man I’m
doing really good if you’re counting the
days it’s not lasting change you just
count the days you can tell people how
long you last it if you want lasting
change you’ve got to give up this idea
of trying something you get aside you’re
gonna commit to mastery I would like to
start this morning by showing you the
strategy for learning what is learning
so if we take a human being and this
will be a drawing of human being so you
can see that again I majored in art so
if we take even Bing and we want to be
able to have them learn something what
is learning well learning is the
creation of here’s the key word of a
relationship whenever you learn
something all you’re really doing is
creating a relationship between two
things so if I want to learn something
so now how do I learn this it’s not
figuring things out that’s how most of
us think of learning learning is not
figuring things out learning is the
creation of relationship between two
things something you already know the
known something you already know it’s in
your head already you understand it and
a relationship we known and what would
you ask the unknown because the minute
you link something you understand to
something you don’t understand you now
and
Stan what you didn’t understand so if
you want to learn something if you’re
not learning it’s not that you’re not
smart it’s not that you can’t figure it
out it’s that the person is explaining
it using references you don’t have so
I’ve learned things like quantum physics
I learned things like nuclear power from
physicists I’ll say okay explain to me
how that’s like an orange house that
leased like a solar system something I
understand and sure enough once they
make that linkage you got it you
understand the relationship you
understand what things are most of us
lower our standards why because who you
spend time with my friends is who you
become one of the biggest reasons I
started going to seminars when I was
like 17 is I had nobody around me is a
great role model I could read about
somebody but being around people being
in that environment was very different
finding way to go to work with someone
who lived that standard of life was very
different you get around people with low
standards and you compete with it you
don’t need to compete with it it’s like
okay I mean remember Jerry Springer I
know if he’s still in the air but you
know I remember used to get people on
the show tonight but where would he find
these people watch they watch these
people go my life so pretty darn good
come here that person look at them you
don’t have to change your life all you
have to do is find somebody with a lower
standard you’ll feel good about yourself
but if you feel that good feeling it’s
an illusion the only thing that’s gonna
make you happy my friend and this year
or any other is to step up it’s to raise
the standard it’s to discover what
you’re capable of and feel that
incredible power of pushing through
whatever is holding you back and get to
the other side of more of your true self
that’s what this game is all about
I believe you can think of something you
feel excited about right now right yeah
let me see use your hand say I well
you’re really excited about it what
about that excites you oh when you’re
really excited how do you feel how do
you speak what’s your life like by the
way when you’re excited does it tend to
touch other people yes or no absolutely
by the way do people have a tendency but
who feels different right now they’re
just even a couple moments ago ready and
say I why because focus is controlled by
questions
if you ask a different question
continuously that once continuously you
will get a different answer if you ask a
lousy question you get a lousy a certain
a lousy state so he said why does this
always happen to me it doesn’t always
happen to you but the brains like a
computer asking a question you don’t
have to come up with an answer because
you deserve it you idiot once you break
through then it just becomes a game the
people that are getting your products
have not yet broken through in most
cases the breakthrough happens by
conditioning your mind every day by
feeding it a role model or story it’s
putting yourself in a pink state when
you follow through by getting physically
strong it’s creating a little ritual of
doing a little bit each day and then you
get momentum but the most important
thing of all what we start out with why
absolutely why is it a must for you it
doesn’t have to be here against the wall
but it has to be something you’re hungry
for because the only difference in
people is hunger and if you’re not
hungry
get around people that are hungry and
something will hit you if you don’t like
the way your career is or your
businesses change it if you don’t like
your body change it you don’t like your
relationship change you first cuz if you
change it you’ll bring you to the next
one maybe it’s time to change it too but
change yourself first if you want to
change any of your life you have the
choice so there is no right or wrong I
just want to make you aware in this
breakthrough session that everything in
our life changes the moment we make a
decision I mean a real decision the
decision is when you cut off any other
possibility you commit to something with
everything you’ve got
and you take action but the big
decisions start with little decisions
like what am I gonna focus on
focus on you’re gonna feel you’re gonna
learn to drive a stick shift car and
your breathing newer driving a car
who can remember this experience and
wasn’t overwhelming yes or no
why because driving a car today for most
of you is one chunk of information I’m
gonna go drive that’s it because most of
what you’ve done you got cognitive
knowledge about you repeatedly enough
with enough emotion you did enough in
your body now all of those complex
things happen will you call it as just
driving but the first time you were
driving it was a lot of different
activities I can remember they called me
Speed Racer because I couldn’t figure
out how to get him in going I got in the
car you know ok celebrator brake got bat
watch the road let’s listen to this too
and watch the rearview mirror
no no this ain’t happening right because
it was overwhelming because what it was
was one chunk of you was figuring out
how to accelerate one part of you break
another part of he’s got to watch the
road another ones watching the rearview
mirror nothing’s gonna figure out the
timing of moving this in but after a
while it just became private and most of
you drive today literally on automatic
pilot cuz many of you how many have ever
done this you driving along and all of a
sudden your mind goes somewhere else
someone sudden you go who’s been driving
who’s had that experience for say ahh
well who’s been driving is your
subconscious mind the part of you that
makes your heart beat a hundred thousand
times a day without you having to think
about it even when you’re sleeping and
your subconscious absorbs way more when
you’re in a position of total absorption
like you are here immersion more than
your conscious mind does I’m very clear
that I believe that life is about
leadership and being truthful to
yourself and so I believe number one
that the mandate for any great
relationship a mandate for anybody to
lead their own life and not be a
followers you got to see things as they
are but not worse than they’ll cuz
that’s where most people go that’s where
they go on relationship that’s why they
start to tear it down that’s why the
relationship starts to break down
because people get scared when isn’t
working out and then they make it worse
than it is so they don’t have to try
because they don’t want to try again and
be disappointed they don’t want to feel
that sense of rejection they don’t want
to feel that sense of failure
so most people make it much worse than
it is
80% of success in life
80% of achievement in business 80% of
almost anything that matters in your
life is psychology and 20% of mechanics
and I’m here to tell you there’s two
things that control everything in your
life every thought every feeling every
emotion every action you have in your
life what you’re wearing today whether
you’re gonna turn this off within a few
minutes or whether you’re gonna stick
with me here for two or three minutes is
all controlled by two things your
beliefs and your values whatever you
believe if you think life is just a
waste of time doesn’t matter what you do
or you know you’re big-boned then
obviously you’re not gonna go for it
you’re not gonna try to lose weight
you’re not gonna go push for that next
level beliefs control us but so do our
values some people you know value just
kicking back some people value making it
happen some people value their family
the most some people value love but you
know what the real challenge is we have
values in conflict when you really want
to make a difference in the world or you
really want to do well for your family
or you really want to do well
financially but simultaneously you know
you don’t want upset anybody you want to
be totally honest you don’t want to make
everybody happy when we have conflicts
between what we want and what we think
we can have or you know you have a goal
of what you really want to make happen
but then you have this other belief
inside that says this damn stuff never
does work those inner conflicts or what
keep people from using all of their
energy it’s kind of like taking two
steps forward and three steps back so
often in life people don’t begin the
journey because they’re not quite sure
what to do or how to do it right or how
to do it perfect you want to change your
body get yourself moving don’t wait for
the perfect trainer just grow it up here
move put on your shoes and move and get
momentum
just remember progress equals happiness
if you can start to make progress and
you get yourself going it’s not perfect
if it doesn’t work you know what they do
just change your approach that doesn’t
work change your approach but if there’s
anything that shift your life it’ll get
you to thrive on a difficult situation
is take some massive action try
something else change it try it move it
I’m honored and I’m blown away even
though this is my 25th year plus doing
this I’ve been doing this for a quarter
of a century now which is quite amazing
form in the
thank you and I’ve had the privilege now
working with more than three million
people live and events from more than 80
countries around the world so at this
stage I got to tell you something I
could be an idiot and I would know that
there are certain patterns that cause
people to be fulfilled to be happy to
fit to be strong to feel alive
to be vibrant to have passion in their
life to do well financially but even
more importantly emotionally
psychologically spiritually in their
health and their relationships and there
are also patterns and make people
frustrated overwhelmed depressed sad
lonely cause them to be struggling
financially struggling with their bodies
struggling intimately and those patterns
they’re not because there’s something
wrong with somebody’s because of a
pattern that we’re doing and I spent a
quarter of a century of my life
basically studying the most successful
people in the world and the most
challenged and figure out what’s the
fastest way to create a change in
basically developing the one thing that
all people have in common to succeed
their leaders this is a leadership
program because I don’t care what what
style you are I don’t care if you’re a
mom if you’re a great mom you lead your
child you’re not led by your child or
great dad you’re great businessperson
you’re great salesperson you’re a great
negotiator you’re great anything you’re
great human being things this has been
my entire life’s obsession what makes
the difference in people’s lives
and that leadership component as I say
it doesn’t always mean somebody follows
you a leader somebody lives life on
their terms that you will never settle
for less than you can be or share or
give or create it’s not what we get that
makes us happy it’s who we become see
all the results in your life are coming
from your rituals they start with a
standard and then have rituals that
follow it up like for example if you are
where you want to be physically you have
very different rituals than if you’re
not where you want to be physically if
you’re overweight you and I both know
you got a different ritual than if
you’re physically fit completely
different you get up in the morning
what’s the first thing you do if you’re
fit your shoes are there you roll over
the minute how you feel you put on your
shoes you lace and you start walking or
whatever that ritual is if you’re
overweight you roll over and you have a
very different ritual you might roll
over several times to turn the alarm
clock off you go in and get your mocha
mocha or whatever you know special
coffee stop by
Starbucks over the case maybe you have
your nice sugar muffin you know it’s
supposed to be really nice for you
whatever you do it’s a different ritual
if you have a great passionate
relationship you have very different
rituals and how you come home than if
you have a lousy relationship we come
home and the first thing you do is
you’re tweeting somebody or you’re
emailing or flipping on the news or you
don’t even come home now what are the
rituals
whenever I study people that are
successful well I look for is what’s the
standard they hold himself to and then
what are all the little rituals that up
because think about it success and
failure are not giant events they don’t
just show up you don’t just suddenly
become successful or suddenly have this
cataclysmic event that makes you fail
may look that way but failure comes from
all the little things its failure to
make the call its failure to check the
books its failure to say I’m sorry
it’s failure to push yourself to do
things physically that you don’t want to
do and all those little failures day
after day come together until one day
some Cataclysm event happens you blame
that that event happen because you
missed all the little stuff I thought
you know years I figured out it our
whole life is shaped by decisions that’s
what we’ve talked about today right but
there’s three decisions you’re making
every moment you’re alive and the way
you make these three decisions shapes
your destiny first decision we’re all
making every moment is what are you
gonna focus on what are you gonna focus
on and I realized that my father’s life
and my wife ended up very different
because we made that day three decisions
very differently he decided to focus on
the fact that he has not fed his family
and the second question you gotta decide
every moment you’re alive including this
moment what are you to focus on second
question as you’re focusing on what does
this mean what does it mean
and the bottom line on meaning is if you
think about it
you get to make up the meaning and most
people pick the worst one don’t they
that day my father decided to focus on
Aki Adam fed his family and I know what
meaning he gave cuz he sent it out loud
over and over again but he was worthless
because he had not taken care of his
family and then the final most important
decision you make every moment you’re
alive what am I gonna do what am I gonna
do and I’ll tell you what decided to do
he decided to leave our family shortly
thereafter which at the time was it was
the worst experience of my life it was
the most crushing experience I’ve felt
it’s been so many years now I don’t have
the same feelings
part of it as three years ago he passed
away but at the time I knew no greater
pain my family did no greater pain I
couldn’t understand why I would leave I
loved him so much and my wife turned out
very different than him I was the only
one to go to his funeral no one else in
the family to go
nobody want to be part of it he died
alone of a disease called connective
tissue disorder and I can tell you right
before his death he got the lesson cuz
he looked at me he said son he said I
was a bastard I didn’t connect with
anybody and look what I’m died enough
believable change happens in a moment a
breakthrough happens in a moment what
does it breakthrough a breakthrough is
that moment in time where suddenly the
impossible becomes possible not just
intellectually but you do something
about it you know people all the time
will say it takes 10 years or it took me
20 years to make a change I always say
BS it took you a minute
the minute you finally said I quit or
it’s over or let’s begin or I love you
or I do change happens in a moment but
most of us have to go through a process
to get to that moment and what I’m I’m
dedicated to is having it to that moment
much quicker than a sort of five-point
plan anyone can follow to get over
stress and trauma in their lives totally
through it well I think first of all I
make one thing clear the quality of your
life is the quality of where you live
emotionally but we all have a home angry
people try and find a way to get angry
even if their life doesn’t they’d be
angry about we can always find it sad
people find what have you sad caring
people find a way to care for other
people
so one thing gonna identify is where are
you living what’s your home what’s your
habit and then the way to change it is
when I was homeless literally on my own
just getting started I didn’t have the
internet but I had decided I had to go
to a library and I had to feed my mind I
always tell people the first stage is
you know weeds grow automatically one of
my teachers taught me said everyday
stand guard at the door of your mind and
feed it something good because if your
worst enemy puts sugar in your coffee
here you’re fine if your best friend by
accident trying to help you put some
strychnine you’re dead so if you feed
your mind every day 30 minutes a day of
reading something hearing something
second you got to strengthen your body
and the reason Pierce is fear is
physical right so is stagnation
so is numbness so a sadness such as so
it’s rage and when you go in and change
your body by an intense workout or a run
or even intense walk and the Bloods
flowing through you science has shown it
instantly changes your biochemistry now
your mind by you’re working together
third thing all these people did in
common if you watch they found a mission
bigger than themselves
something that they want to aspire to
that was worth
more than their pain and then the fourth
thing is you gotta find a role model you
know you heard it in with Nick almost
anybody finds a role model that makes it
real I was with Warren Buffett and with
Sara Blakely the youngest billionaire we
did this roundtable about the future and
when you listen this woman and when
women meet her
they don’t just love Spanx or product
that made her a billionaire they love
this woman because she’s a role model
what’s possible yeah you get a role
model it becomes real to you if you get
a plan you get a gold plan and you take
massive action and the last step number
five there’s always somebody all or
something you are I don’t care what
you’ve done so if you can go help
somebody worse off you put your life in
perspective and it also reminds you
life’s not about me it’s about we I
always tell people the secret to a great
life the secret to living is giving and
there’s when you realize there’s
something you still to give even if you
lost your legs even if you’ve been
through a horrific financial situation
your life can improve but more
importantly you’ll have a meaningful
life because your life will contribute
to other people I tell people one thing
if you’re not happy in your intimate
relationship you’re not fucking happy
because I don’t give a shit how hard you
work I don’t care how much money you
make any troubles you get in the end if
you don’t have that aliveness and
passion a part of you is dead inside you
the more you can cultivate that sense of
wealth that sense of abundance in you
the more you can feel that sense of joy
the more easy it’s going to be for you
to do financially because you’re not
going to be in this scarce fearful mode
now that’s anonymous by itself you have
this great sense of abundance and do the
wrong mechanics and be a disaster true
or false but if I had a they have an
area to get you started with you want to
have the emotional psychological
strength because that’s going to carry
you through when the mechanics are
boring or frustrating or when things
aren’t working out your emotion your
psychologies won’t carry you it’ll get
you to keep doing it the best way to
deal with shame for people is to find
what you’re most proud of you can’t
you’re never gonna deal with shame you
have to overwhelm it with the good it’s
kind of like if every day of your life
you look around
let it happen news comes in and it’s
almost always these days something to
scare you if it bleeds it leads they say
in the newspaper business so something
to jar you if you’re gonna have your
life you have to my call snap the good
you have to flood yourself with the good
you have to say what am i proud of in my
life what am i grateful for and you got
to literally think of three or four or
five things people experiences it could
be as something little you’re proud of
when you’re a kid something today but if
you do what I call an emotional flood
you flood yourself with all the
beautiful proud things things you’re
grateful for in your life you’ll find
that’ll overwhelm that feeling of shame
and the shame feeling will disappear but
it won’t disappear by analyzing it then
you just get more and more and you do
this I can see you to this you’re a
person you look for the good you find
the good and you stack it and that’s
what gives you so much energy decide to
develop the habit right now the habit of
focusing on what’s right in your world
instead of what’s wrong the habit of
focusing on what you do have instead of
what you don’t have in a situation and
as basic as that is and as well as you
know it you’ve got to make it a habit
because those habits form the chain of
your ultimate character of who you
become and how you end up living your
life we’ve got to condition ourselves
because if we don’t we’ll go back to the
automatic state that most people live in
in today’s society the way to develop
the habit is to go on a mental diet I
did this several years ago as positive
as I was I was going through
unbelievable pain at the time I’d had
some major disappointments some
frustrations I felt like I’d given it
all but what turned me around is one day
I picked up this book called a seven-day
mental diet it was a little tiny little
booklet and all the book that really did
was for about 12 of the 14 pages it
challenged me to really see if I could
really truly for seven days live my life
without one negative thought and it kept
saying throughout the book and I don’t
just say yeah I can do it don’t just say
I’m gonna do it think for a while before
you commit to this don’t actually commit
unless you’re really gonna do it for
seven straight days no matter what it
doesn’t mean you don’t have a negative
thought it just means that if you have a
negative thought you don’t speak it you
set it aside you forget about it or you
replace it you say something negative
you go erase what I really mean is this
or you say that’s not what I mean here’s
what I mean is this and you immediately
focus on something good it’s not that
nothing negative ever comes out it’s
that you immediately do not allow
yourself to hold a negative feeling a
negative
for seven straight days day and night
even when it gets tough even when
somebody disappoints you even when you
get frustrated even when you give your
own and still turns up lousy listen if
all he did was rant rave on this tape
and you didn’t listen to anything else I
said but you took on the seven day
challenge you can’t believe what it’ll
do to your life today they don’t get
injured smashing into people playing
football anything else to get injured
typing you know picking up a pencil oh
oh that really oh that’s some people can
hurt today because we don’t use
everything anymore we live in the box
think about it think about our lives
today and how different it is then maybe
the way we are formed ooh you made to
run to hide to create to procreate to
raise our children to move to farm to do
all the things that made us use all of
our body today what do we do you wake up
and you have this box life you have a
box breakfast right you get your box car
you drive your box office you float up a
box elevator you don’t use the stairs of
course right you go to your box office
where you type on a box talking a box
right go into a box room for meetings
right sure enough got a little box you
can type on listen to this in a music
gun box have your box lunch drive your
box home or get in the train or subway
another box home get home to your box
and then turn on the Box type on a box
message another box I mean and maybe go
get a cylinder to change your state
maybe and most people’s idea of exercise
in our society today is fill the tub
pull the plug and fight the current
that’s the world we live in today and so
it’s not hard to figure out why we’re
getting fat and why we’re finally kind
of tired and why we’re building up acid
in our system consuming foods that have
nothing alive in them anymore I will do
something that I still do backstage and
have done for 23 years because I don’t
hope I’m gonna be in good state I demand
it so I do an incantation using my whole
body it’s a new command my subconscious
mind to direct me helping as many people
as possible life today to better their
lives they give me the strength the
emotion the persuasion the humor the
brevity whatever it takes
surely feeling get these people to
change their lives now I would do that
literally driving in my Volkswagen to a
meeting in LA on the freeway for 40
minutes people looking I’m screaming to
pop my lungs they’re going I know he’s a
serial killer I know he is but by the
time I entered that room when two people
meet if there’s report the person who’s
most certain I was totally certain and
they were trying to get revved up to
certainty do you agree with this yes or
no I do another one because I was poor I
changed my mindset I kept doing things
but I never got beyond it I’d say gods
wealth is circulating in my life as well
flows to me an avalanche is of abundance
all my needs desires and goals are met
instantaneously by infinite intelligence
I’m one with God and God is everything
and I would imagine the abundance of my
life and I would feel so grateful and a
year later I went for making 38 thousand
dollars a year to make a million dollars
a year in one year but successful people
do what failures won’t you follow me on
this you know if you get yourself in a
state of certainty that this is gonna
work I’m gonna find the way and if this
is work I will make the way then you tap
a lot more potential and when you’re
certain your potential you take massive
action when you take massive action you
really believe in something you get
great results when you get great results
your brain goes see I told you I was a
stud people tell me all the time oh I’m
skeptical or I’m pessimistic I said no
no you’re gutless
it takes no guts it takes no courage to
be a pessimist
to say it’s not gonna work to try to
find out what’s wrong what’s wrong
there’s always available
so what’s right so I’m not into positive
thinking but I am into intelligence and
intelligence says see it as it is don’t
make it worse than it is maybe of all
time say uh uh um my problem is I’m Big
Bone no you’re freaking fat tell the
truth you know what is this Big Bone
story you know the only way it gets
better as if you can see out it is don’t
make it worse than it is don’t try to
make it so it’s impossible to change
that’s not true
not true at all the second mandate I
think to changing editing your life to
bleed in your life is once you see it as
it is not worse it is then you got to
see it better than it does that
something’s missing for most
relationships there’s no vision
I mean without a vision and the Bible it
says people what parish and what a
relationship has no vision for greater
than where they are that relationship is
going downhill if not destroyed I
believe that every relationship every
part of life every part of a human being
needs a compelling future but the future
is not more compelling than today today
could be tough what are the futures
compelling we can get there so just to
remind you first thing you got to do is
be and strengthen that mind read listen
feed the mind take control of that focus
stand guard and what other people are
saying focus on what it is you’re here
to give what you can control what you
can make happen
number two feed and strengthen that body
remember fear uncertainty they’re
physical experiences so the best way to
deal with something physical is get
physical change that body go lift some
weights go for that run do something
that’s gonna get you in that state if
you’ve been to our seminars you know
exactly what to do but get that our
power going that 15 minutes to thrive if
you’re familiar with that to train your
body and mind to be strong again number
three make sure you put yourself in that
position where you find a role model
that’s gonna inspire you and show you
that way maybe it’s a contrasting role
model you think your life so tough find
somebody with tougher look who’s really
turned it around
or maybe it’s just somebody who’s really
succeeded but you can now see there is a
way there’s a way through there’s a way
to make this happen even in the toughest
times there’s always a way for make sure
you get yourself into action get a plan
take massive action and the number five
most importantly of all
feed your spirit feed and strengthen
your spirit and there’s only one way to
do that it’s to find what you’re
grateful for and to take time whether it
be prayer for you or just taking a
moment to think about what is it so
lucky in life there’s there’s a
rejuvenation in our spirit when we stop
taking things for granted and when most
importantly what feed your spirit is to
give to find a way to do something for
someone else who’s worse off than you
are because what is this all about
it’s about strength and it’s about
perspective it’s about action it’s about
emotion and it’s about heart and so many
people you know miss the opportunity to
feel like their life makes a difference
I’m a big believer that motive does
matter but why you do something people
can feel that people may be skeptical
they may have their judgments or their
fears because they mentor so much but
and my experience ultimately while
you’re doing something people feel if
you’re doing this because some part of
you knows that you’re here in life not
just to get but to give then there’s a
spark that happens of other people
because they feel the genuineness event
and there’s a spark that happens and you
cuz it reminds you what you’re made for
whatever you don’t learn it’s because
someone is trying to teach you in a
different way and the different way is I
was a good student in school I liked
learning until I got junior high school
high school where I liked all subjects
until I got to there when math became
algebra geometry and trigonometry
because when I got there I totally hated
it so I had no motivation to really
learn it and with no drive to learn
something you know who you spend time
with us who you become and getting
yourself in proximity with people that
are succeeding even if you have to work
for free for somebody again the
environment around it rubs off on you
you begin to think like they think you
begin to see what the opportunities are
one of the challenges in our country is
when people are really doing poorly we
put them together in an environment what
other people are doing poorly and we
wonder why they don’t get better no
amount of money will ever make you
wealthy because as soon as you get there
you will raise the game now here’s
what’s great about that to continue
growing in all areas of life if you
could grow emotionally should you yes or
no if you could give more should you yes
or no yeah if you grow intellectually
should you yeah if you get more love
should you if you could grow more
financially should you yes because
growth is life but having to grow in
order to feel significant enough means
you will always be poor it’s a game that
never ends let’s talk about money now
not wealth what does it take
mechanically to get this thing called
financial independence and what does
financial independence as opposed to
wealth wealth is a product of the mind
again no amount of money you ever
achieve will make you wealthy financial
dependent means you never have to work
again in order to live your life that
when you do work you’re doing it because
you really want to not because you have
to and how many committed and not only
being wealthy but also financially
independent say life will pay whatever
price you ask of it you know what’s
interesting you gotta ask intelligently
in the Bible it says ask and you shall
what pretty good formula you gotta look
into it
but you know what it’s just asking you
shall receive but I’m sure it meant ask
intelligently I’m sure that’s what God
meant I’m sure he didn’t mean bitch and
you will receive wine and you will
receive I don’t think that was the
instruction now if you’re gonna ask
intelligently there might be five
elements of that number one you’d have
to ask specifically wouldn’t you
wouldn’t ask in a general way people do
the last time I want more money fine
here’s a dollar get out of here very
often you’re getting what you’re asking
for you’re just not aware of how general
you’re asking clarity is power the more
clear you are about exactly what it is
you want the more your brain knows how
to get there your brain is a
servomechanism it’s like a bomb those
bombs those missiles they have a
servomechanism so if the target moves it
knows what the target is it follows it
your brain when you condition it knows
exactly what to go for it will find a
way to get there you ever buy a certain
outfit or a certain car and suddenly see
their car outfit everywhere how many
have that experience say I how come that
car outfits everywhere it always was
everywhere but now you notice it and the
reason because there’s a part of your
brain called the reticular activating
system the RAS that part of your brain
determines what you notice and what you
don’t notice your brain spends most of
its time trying to make sure you don’t
notice because you’ll go crazy if you
notice everything but when you decide
what’s most important to you your brain
goes after it everyone I know who’s
successful have builds what I call an
RPM plan and rpm is built on the
metaphor that the way to get from where
you are to where do you want to go to
the fastest is you got to build power
like in a car RPMs and the R stands for
they know the result they’re after they
know what they want precisely if you
don’t know exactly what you want or you
let yourself get beyond that to
something general you’re not going to
achieve it we all have goals the problem
is I’ve said before in this program is
that we’re unconscious in the use of our
resources
most people’s goals are to quote pay the
lousy bills or to get by to survive or
get out of debt or make it through the
day make the relationship a little
better get a better job and short
they’re caught up in the trap of making
a living rather than designing a life
remember that our goals affect us
whatever they are if we don’t
consciously plant the seeds of what we
want in the gardens of our minds we’ll
end up with weeds if we want
discover the unlimited possibilities
within us we must find a goal big enough
and grand enough to challenge us to push
beyond our limits and discover our true
potential remember that your current
conditions do not reflect your ultimate
potential but rather the size and the
quality of the goals upon what you’re
currently focusing we all must discover
or create a magnificent obsession
whenever you look at someone you say why
are they more successful anybody else
it’s always because of step one they’ve
raised their standard if you go back
home and you want to change your life in
any way personally professionally or
your company is boring as it sounds as
stupid as animated sound you might say I
spent all this time this energy this
money and you’re gonna tell me to raise
my standards yes cuz even though that’s
not sexy it is the only thing that
creates lasting change you want to dye
it and you can lose weight but will that
person eventually do they’ll go away
back unless they raise their standard
now that sounds so trite and stupid and
positive thing key or old-school but the
truth is it’s the truth so maybe I can
language it away that’s more compelling
to you or more simple what does it mean
when we say raise our standards it means
you turn your shoulds in the muss the
difference in people is that they turn
their shoulds in the muss the things
that you used to say I should do you do
your sheds when it’s convenient when
it’s comfortable when it goes your way
but when something is a must not to
other people but a must to you do you
find the way to get it done yes or no so
the difference in people is what’s their
must or another word for that is Webster
stand this here’s what leaders really do
they maximize resources a leader can
come into an organization that’s totally
torn up in horrible shape take the same
resources take it to another level
your body your mind your emotion but you
can’t maximize it when you’re trying to
fit in and you can’t maximize it when
you live by everybody else’s rules I’m
not saying don’t be respectful I’m just
saying as a leader you got to decide
what you believe is
right and one thing I can tell you will
always feel right to never settle for
less than you can be do share or give
that’ll feel right as long as you
outside
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the greatest investors the greatest
financial success in history the first
man to become a billionaire by investing
alone is the man who’s a friend of mine
he died about four years ago named Sir
John Templeton Sir John Templeton
started out with nothing he wasn’t Sir
John he was a guy that Jason grew up in
this tiny little town with nothing to
his name he worked hard and he decided
to save his money and find a way to
invest but he had one cool secret he
realized when things are going well what
do people want for their property when
things are going really well a high
price or a low price which one high
price when things are going well do they
want a high price or a low price for
their shares which one high price when
things are going unhappy when things are
terrible things going well people think
it’s gonna go well forever when they
think it’s going bad I think it’s gonna
go bad for how long forever when the is
going really poor what does that guy
want for his shares or his home I’m a
high price or whatever he can get which
one whatever he can get so his mindset
was really simple I’m gonna take all my
money write this down during times of
maximum pessimism I’ll make all my money
during times of maximum pessimism if you
can when everybody else is freaking out
seeing it worse than it is you can see
how it really is not kid yourself not
just be positive but see it better than
it is and see where the advantage is and
you can do the third step I left out
which is once you see it better than it
is you’ve got to make it that way you
got to come up with a strategy and
action plan to make it that way if you
can do those three things you can take
advantage of if you want a great jump in
the quality of your life an
extraordinary jump on the quality of
your life you got to set yourself up to
win you got to set yourself up with a
process that allows you to consistently
grow consistently enjoy your life and
consistently produce the results that
you’re really after and I don’t care but
if you’ve got what you know that focus
the target and you got the toolbox and
you’re still not getting what you want
it’s because you got inner conflicts
that’s the third pillar you’ve got to
resolve your inner conflicts because
that as I try to explain to you 80% of
success in anything is your psychology
and 20% as the mechanic
so those inner conflicts are when you
take two steps forward you pull three
steps back right when you say boy I’m
fully committed this but you don’t
follow through this is my expertise the
y-guy part why why you keep saying you
want this you have crystal clarity you
have the tools and you’re still not
getting it there’s a conflict in you you
want to be totally successful but you’re
afraid at some level that if you will
are totally successful you will not be
loved
you’ll be rejected you want to be in a
position where you have total free time
and you want to build a billion dollar
enterprise these are conflicts you
really truly know you’ve got the tools
and talents to make this happen but a
part of you doesn’t think you deserve to
succeed because it’s something you did
at some point in your life or something
you made up or you think making money or
being successful economically is not
spiritual and you’re committed to being
spiritual and yet the other part of you
it’s the inner conflict between fighting
parts so what do we do in this third
pillar think of it as a vault we got
unlock think of it as unlock and unleash
that’s the third teller the way you
unlock and unleash is you identify the
conflicts you get clear what they are so
you may have total clarity even the
tools but how can you call the unleash
and commit when you’re being pulled in
two different directions
there’s only how do I solve that there
isn’t one way you’ve got to get clear
about what’s most important to you today
not what you think you should do based
on at all blueprint and all belief
system your parents society your friends
otherwise you’ll succeed then not be
fulfilled so once you identify the
conflicts now what you got to do is
align align your life with what you
really value align your life with what
is most important to you and then once
you are in a position where you’re
aligned guess what you’ll do take action
you won’t have to work at it when
everything’s in alignment there’s
nothing pulling you away boom you go for
it but when you say I want a
relationship but at the same time
simultaneously I want to be in a
position where you know I never have to
you know I only get what I want every
mode
or I never have to commit to anything
he’s gonna obviously you’re never gonna
get there that inner conflict must be
resolved once you align and you take
action because what’s gonna happen
you’re gonna achieve and once you
achieve you succeed when you succeed
I’ll tell you what you add to it
celebrate right and then contribute pay
it forward a few wills corny as that
sounds
remember the movie paid for don’t pay it
back take what you’ve got what you’ve
learned and bring it to someone else if
you bring it to someone else it
continues that cycle of fulfillment of
joy of meaning in your life everything
works
I just finished by reminding you what I
think everybody knows in their heart
nothing you get will ever make you happy
nothing doesn’t matter how many people
respect you how much money you have only
things you have we all know that but who
you become will make you very happy or
very sad and so ultimately there’s one
way to test your life and the busyness
of your life make sure you take just a
few minutes to give yourself the gift of
making progress every day because that’s
the one word that’ll make you happy
progress doesn’t matter what you
achieved feels good for how long you
know you’ve got it it’s wonderful it’s
exciting you appreciate it and then you
move on but if you’re still growing if
you’re not growing you’re dying if
you’re making progress and you’re not
where you want to be physically but all
of a sudden you took this book and you
started make some simple changes and you
started walk move exercise you make a
couple dietary changes you got some
energy now and you start feeling
everyday even if you’re not yet to the
thirty pounds you want to lose just the
momentum will make you happy if you’re
in a relationship where you’re settling
or you’re a relationship where you’re
not in a relationship and you’re
settling for being alone when something
inside of you craves more and this book
triggers you and gives you the plan on
how to finally connect and break through
your own fears and connect with people
and light them up the way you really
want to just even before you’re there
just the progress will light you up and
we all have to keep growing to feel that
alive so whether it be progress in your
business progress in your body progress
in your energy your relationship your
kids your finances your career I don’t
care what it is that’s what my life’s
about so my heartfelt wish for you in
this video becomes a trigger for more
progress and then out of that progress
you’ll have things that you enjoy in
your life that you’ll now be able to
give to other people too so please pass
along
stories love to hear pass along to other
people and let them know what this meant
to you and let’s see if we can’t through
this trigger of the social networks and
social media and email and everything
else that we have texting let’s see if
we can just spread this around and
really touch a lot of lives you’ll get
them the same joy I get which is people
coming up saying oh my god you changed
my life
I don’t change anybody’s life they do it
for themselves but I provide the
triggers and you can be my partner
providing the triggers so blessings to
you bullet from Fiji Live Strong live
with passion and God bless
you
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