move on straight up move on forget them
they are lying and they are
untrustworthy
so move on now sometimes this can be
hard especially if they’ve somehow tied
themselves into your life especially
like for instance you get the kids
involved a divorce scenario you you
can’t move on but you have to mentally
move on you have to emotionally detach
from that human and that’s hard to do
because obviously they were someone that
you trusted me and the reason I know
that you trusted them is because they
got to a point where they were able to
betray your trust and destroy you so
they they it’s hard but the fact that
they trust that you trusted them the
fact that you had that relationship
that’s even more reason to walk away
it’s even more reason to move on you got
to see them for what they are and this
is an important piece right here this is
an important because this is somebody
you learned as a young lad out there in
the world that person is not who you
thought they were right they are not who
you thought they were the idea that this
person was a trustworthy faithful
companion is not true it is not true
that person does not exist they didn’t
exist and they don’t exist he was in
your head it was in your head that this
person was trustworthy and you they were
everything he wanted them to be and they
were faithful commanded that is a lie
they are not that person may have proved
it
they’ve proved it by their actions so
move on and at the risk of sounding
callous get over it get over it
do not dwell do not dwell on do not
dwell on what it was and don’t dwell on
what it could have been you who you and
guys go through bad breakups you know
it’s I just I thought well you’re gonna
it’s like no don’t dwell on that deal
with what it is right now what that
person is deal with reality accept
reality and be be thankful free Ally be
thankful that you were able to learn
before you invested more into this
person be thankful that you found out
when you did that this person was a liar
that this person was unfaithfuls
untrustworthy be be thankful that you
know it and you know it now instead of
later
and you know what else is gonna make it
a lot easier to get over these
situations is recognize that there’s
plenty of people out there in the world
that are trustworthy and there are
faithful good people there’s they’re out
there go find one of them but don’t
think that that person that you had was
the only one in the world they’re not
and you know what if that I’ve sometimes
sometimes people have a hard time making
that trust because they’re so caught up
and they they don’t want to meet someone
else right away that’s fine start with
yourself right rely on yourself trust
yourself because we when someone breaks
our trust
we we we question ourselves too like we
think aren’t my judgments bad I’m not a
good judge of human character cuz I
totally put my faith in this person and
look what they did to me so now we don’t
trust her so you got to build that trust
up you got to build that trust up back
again with yourself how do you do that
read write learn work out
the alone it’s okay to be alone people
get freaked out when they’re alone it’s
okay to be alone it’s okay it’s okay to
be alone there’s no big deal
enjoy it do something productive and
build that trust up in yourself you look
back at the situation learn from it we
do that somehow post operational debrief
oh you’ve put too much trust in somebody
cool they broke your heart all right
Roger that let’s see what were the steps
what should I have recognized how many
times did I say will you know they
didn’t call me but it’s probably just
because their phone was out of battery
no once your phone runs out of battery
once okay you don’t let it happen again
right so you start seeing those red
flags see you the mistakes that you made
and then look for them next time around
because you deal with people all the
time that they made mistakes the first
run they go back they make the same
mistakes the second run they go back and
make the same mistakes the third run
that’s when you gotta start blaming
yourself on your situation that’s why
that’s why I said you got to like build
a relationship with yourself you got to
learn yourself you got to trust you got
to learn to trust yourself
so spend some time doing that and then
when you go back and you start dealing
with people because that’s what that’s
what you got watch out for is that you
become a hardened criminal and don’t
trust anybody like you were talking
about cops you know
sometimes cops have a hard time because
they’re dealing with scumbags all day
long
and it builds up this this mistrust of
other people so you don’t want to have
that happen you want to be suspicious of
people but you want to be able to build
trust once they prove themselves so take
those small steps and start to build up
over time they’ll just jump in and give
for someone 100 percent trust out of the
gate you don’t know you don’t know you
know back in the day back in the day
when old hardcore bands used to have
this t-shirt that just said trust no one
I was like yeah that’s legit right you
don’t don’t go out of the gate with the
big trust on somebody with important
stuff yeah don’t do it but the good news
is like I said there’s plenty people out
there they’re good be
then you don’t give you give all your
trust to just take it slow brother yeah
and so crazy how you just explained that
so simple and it makes total sense when
you’re in the situation now the oceans
you know like you can’t just detach and
be like what are the red flags no you’re
too busy for missing the person or
whatever you’re a disaster
so looking at pictures that’s the word
yeah you get out the picture and stare
I’ve seen guys do that I’m like bro do
that let me fill this away for you
that’s not gonna help that person is
that others always to me was was
explaining like listen cuz guys would
use no no she wasn’t that is a lie that
person that you put put together in your
head that you’ve assembled in your mind
that person doesn’t exist
they don’t exist the person that you
dealt with was a liar was unfaithful as
a cheater that’s the person the person
wasn’t this person that you’re putting
forth in your mind that person doesn’t
exist so stop but but you don’t
understand the good time it’s a here’s
the trick okay so if okay that person a
liar that brothers a cheater and what I
kind of said there was look you don’t
understand a good time that’s a real
part of it that’s really it’s like sure
they did this sure she um flats my tires
when she gets my sure all that good
times we have are so good so it’s it’s
it’s proof that it it’s not about the
person it’s not about the person that
you can see all the red flags and how
they mistreat you from time to time or
they beat you it’s about yourself and
how you’re sad now because of all these
reasons but the trick comes with what
one of the tricks come with same thing I
said about drinking where it’s your
brain because it’s like chemicals when
you bond with someone in a certain in
certain ways and it’s different from you
know it varies from person to person but
it’s like I think it’s like oxytocin or
I don’t know something where it’s it’s
we go with you some yeah but you feel
this bond with this specific person
that’s why you have these feelings even
though this girl like lies to you you
see her lying text messages on your
phone right now you’re
you know meanwhile you still still miss
them it’s a trick because it’s saying
like that you’re emotional like
well-being is attached to this person
kind of thing right and all those if you
just kind of ignore so just like how the
same with drinking right y know
consciously like I’m gonna be hungover
tomorrow alright I won’t get anything
done all this stuff liquor why do I want
to drink so bad right now you know kind
of thing and it’s the same thing the
chemicals in your brain are telling you
like this girl is essential for you you
know for your well-being he’s not yeah
oh that’s a lot that’s a lot it’s a
trigger listen to the don’t listen your
brain listen to me that she’s not
essential that’s all I’m telling you but
that’s the logic right now those
chemicals are locking I have seen so
many situations where guys are just in
what’s horrible is I’m sitting here
saying this it’s you could be smacking
someone in the face telling a move on
move on in there knock unless that’s
that’s also you got to make that
decision yeah that’s that’s that’s it’s
hard and guys ruin their lives I mean
they always do to those and guys they
ruin their lives you know with over
somebody that is completely abusive
whether mentally or physically that just
completely abusive or they’ll ruin their
lives for this person that pert and you
see in my mind I think it’s because they
build a person they build a person on
the framework of reality they build a
fantasy and they’re in love with that
fantasy and they want to keep it going
right it’s a fantasy so stop and they
get away they ignore like all the
conifers red flags sure and there
remember the good times even if it’s
like like ten minutes yeah a week they
remember those good times they ignore
the the red flags because of that that
you know that trick that chemical trick
in their brain a so it reinforces that
thing that they built you know that
fantasy that they’d be like it’s true
this big the reality is this big and
look the fantasy and they just attach to
it yeah you ever see like a friend or
whatever because I’m assuming you’ve
never seen this situation like you ever
had a friend where they’re really into
it they’re almost ruining their lives
they’re in bad shape or whatever and
then whether it be all of a sudden or
years later whatever they’re thinking
back in their like
was I think yeah because the chemical
tricks so to speak wears off and then
they can see all that logic that you’re
talking about like oh my gosh man it’s
it’s almost like it’s almost like you
feel like you were a different person
when you recover your hand so I mean
just the fact that you can’t talk any
sense into people will know to that
situation is the trick you gotta try and
yeah it’s hard it’s hard but I think
knowing that that’s it it’s a chemical
in your brain that is tricking you and
it goes for a lot of stuff donuts like
all this that’s tricking you if you know
like a and you say I’m not gonna be
tricked I feel it I feel you listed I
feel the sadness I feel missing this
person but it’s a trick you know yeah
that helps it totally helps I like it so
move on and I know it’s hard trust us
speaking of moving on next question
unless we want to talk about this some
more no I think you need to move okay
exactly right let’s move on in what
circumstances do you recommend director
desk I will hold on oh we’re not moving
on you’re stuck on an elbow what’s
horrible is men people kill themselves
yeah
in these situations over a lie yeah
that’s that’s to me a trick the trick
but it’s a lie and in guys or girls get
so distraught over this fantasy that
doesn’t exist
and what’s really jacked up is if they
could just move on they’d find a reality
that was actually congruent with what
their desires are no it’s out there yeah
you can see people all over the world
they’re they’re they’re in relationships
I having fun from every level right yeah
there’s someone out there but you you
get caught up in this mental trap and in
obsessing over a fantasy it’s a fantasy
don’t don’t don’t obsess over the
fantasy man there’s you can you can get
over it and there’s plenty of other
human beings out there that are awesome
so go find one of them and in the
meantime hang out with your badass self
become a better person and working out
is a big one for huge for sure that’s it
that’s did 100%
just get in the gym and get after it
jiu-jitsu solves everything yes lifting solves every day
they are lying and they are
untrustworthy
so move on now sometimes this can be
hard especially if they’ve somehow tied
themselves into your life especially
like for instance you get the kids
involved a divorce scenario you you
can’t move on but you have to mentally
move on you have to emotionally detach
from that human and that’s hard to do
because obviously they were someone that
you trusted me and the reason I know
that you trusted them is because they
got to a point where they were able to
betray your trust and destroy you so
they they it’s hard but the fact that
they trust that you trusted them the
fact that you had that relationship
that’s even more reason to walk away
it’s even more reason to move on you got
to see them for what they are and this
is an important piece right here this is
an important because this is somebody
you learned as a young lad out there in
the world that person is not who you
thought they were right they are not who
you thought they were the idea that this
person was a trustworthy faithful
companion is not true it is not true
that person does not exist they didn’t
exist and they don’t exist he was in
your head it was in your head that this
person was trustworthy and you they were
everything he wanted them to be and they
were faithful commanded that is a lie
they are not that person may have proved
it
they’ve proved it by their actions so
move on and at the risk of sounding
callous get over it get over it
do not dwell do not dwell on do not
dwell on what it was and don’t dwell on
what it could have been you who you and
guys go through bad breakups you know
it’s I just I thought well you’re gonna
it’s like no don’t dwell on that deal
with what it is right now what that
person is deal with reality accept
reality and be be thankful free Ally be
thankful that you were able to learn
before you invested more into this
person be thankful that you found out
when you did that this person was a liar
that this person was unfaithfuls
untrustworthy be be thankful that you
know it and you know it now instead of
later
and you know what else is gonna make it
a lot easier to get over these
situations is recognize that there’s
plenty of people out there in the world
that are trustworthy and there are
faithful good people there’s they’re out
there go find one of them but don’t
think that that person that you had was
the only one in the world they’re not
and you know what if that I’ve sometimes
sometimes people have a hard time making
that trust because they’re so caught up
and they they don’t want to meet someone
else right away that’s fine start with
yourself right rely on yourself trust
yourself because we when someone breaks
our trust
we we we question ourselves too like we
think aren’t my judgments bad I’m not a
good judge of human character cuz I
totally put my faith in this person and
look what they did to me so now we don’t
trust her so you got to build that trust
up you got to build that trust up back
again with yourself how do you do that
read write learn work out
the alone it’s okay to be alone people
get freaked out when they’re alone it’s
okay to be alone it’s okay it’s okay to
be alone there’s no big deal
enjoy it do something productive and
build that trust up in yourself you look
back at the situation learn from it we
do that somehow post operational debrief
oh you’ve put too much trust in somebody
cool they broke your heart all right
Roger that let’s see what were the steps
what should I have recognized how many
times did I say will you know they
didn’t call me but it’s probably just
because their phone was out of battery
no once your phone runs out of battery
once okay you don’t let it happen again
right so you start seeing those red
flags see you the mistakes that you made
and then look for them next time around
because you deal with people all the
time that they made mistakes the first
run they go back they make the same
mistakes the second run they go back and
make the same mistakes the third run
that’s when you gotta start blaming
yourself on your situation that’s why
that’s why I said you got to like build
a relationship with yourself you got to
learn yourself you got to trust you got
to learn to trust yourself
so spend some time doing that and then
when you go back and you start dealing
with people because that’s what that’s
what you got watch out for is that you
become a hardened criminal and don’t
trust anybody like you were talking
about cops you know
sometimes cops have a hard time because
they’re dealing with scumbags all day
long
and it builds up this this mistrust of
other people so you don’t want to have
that happen you want to be suspicious of
people but you want to be able to build
trust once they prove themselves so take
those small steps and start to build up
over time they’ll just jump in and give
for someone 100 percent trust out of the
gate you don’t know you don’t know you
know back in the day back in the day
when old hardcore bands used to have
this t-shirt that just said trust no one
I was like yeah that’s legit right you
don’t don’t go out of the gate with the
big trust on somebody with important
stuff yeah don’t do it but the good news
is like I said there’s plenty people out
there they’re good be
then you don’t give you give all your
trust to just take it slow brother yeah
and so crazy how you just explained that
so simple and it makes total sense when
you’re in the situation now the oceans
you know like you can’t just detach and
be like what are the red flags no you’re
too busy for missing the person or
whatever you’re a disaster
so looking at pictures that’s the word
yeah you get out the picture and stare
I’ve seen guys do that I’m like bro do
that let me fill this away for you
that’s not gonna help that person is
that others always to me was was
explaining like listen cuz guys would
use no no she wasn’t that is a lie that
person that you put put together in your
head that you’ve assembled in your mind
that person doesn’t exist
they don’t exist the person that you
dealt with was a liar was unfaithful as
a cheater that’s the person the person
wasn’t this person that you’re putting
forth in your mind that person doesn’t
exist so stop but but you don’t
understand the good time it’s a here’s
the trick okay so if okay that person a
liar that brothers a cheater and what I
kind of said there was look you don’t
understand a good time that’s a real
part of it that’s really it’s like sure
they did this sure she um flats my tires
when she gets my sure all that good
times we have are so good so it’s it’s
it’s proof that it it’s not about the
person it’s not about the person that
you can see all the red flags and how
they mistreat you from time to time or
they beat you it’s about yourself and
how you’re sad now because of all these
reasons but the trick comes with what
one of the tricks come with same thing I
said about drinking where it’s your
brain because it’s like chemicals when
you bond with someone in a certain in
certain ways and it’s different from you
know it varies from person to person but
it’s like I think it’s like oxytocin or
I don’t know something where it’s it’s
we go with you some yeah but you feel
this bond with this specific person
that’s why you have these feelings even
though this girl like lies to you you
see her lying text messages on your
phone right now you’re
you know meanwhile you still still miss
them it’s a trick because it’s saying
like that you’re emotional like
well-being is attached to this person
kind of thing right and all those if you
just kind of ignore so just like how the
same with drinking right y know
consciously like I’m gonna be hungover
tomorrow alright I won’t get anything
done all this stuff liquor why do I want
to drink so bad right now you know kind
of thing and it’s the same thing the
chemicals in your brain are telling you
like this girl is essential for you you
know for your well-being he’s not yeah
oh that’s a lot that’s a lot it’s a
trigger listen to the don’t listen your
brain listen to me that she’s not
essential that’s all I’m telling you but
that’s the logic right now those
chemicals are locking I have seen so
many situations where guys are just in
what’s horrible is I’m sitting here
saying this it’s you could be smacking
someone in the face telling a move on
move on in there knock unless that’s
that’s also you got to make that
decision yeah that’s that’s that’s it’s
hard and guys ruin their lives I mean
they always do to those and guys they
ruin their lives you know with over
somebody that is completely abusive
whether mentally or physically that just
completely abusive or they’ll ruin their
lives for this person that pert and you
see in my mind I think it’s because they
build a person they build a person on
the framework of reality they build a
fantasy and they’re in love with that
fantasy and they want to keep it going
right it’s a fantasy so stop and they
get away they ignore like all the
conifers red flags sure and there
remember the good times even if it’s
like like ten minutes yeah a week they
remember those good times they ignore
the the red flags because of that that
you know that trick that chemical trick
in their brain a so it reinforces that
thing that they built you know that
fantasy that they’d be like it’s true
this big the reality is this big and
look the fantasy and they just attach to
it yeah you ever see like a friend or
whatever because I’m assuming you’ve
never seen this situation like you ever
had a friend where they’re really into
it they’re almost ruining their lives
they’re in bad shape or whatever and
then whether it be all of a sudden or
years later whatever they’re thinking
back in their like
was I think yeah because the chemical
tricks so to speak wears off and then
they can see all that logic that you’re
talking about like oh my gosh man it’s
it’s almost like it’s almost like you
feel like you were a different person
when you recover your hand so I mean
just the fact that you can’t talk any
sense into people will know to that
situation is the trick you gotta try and
yeah it’s hard it’s hard but I think
knowing that that’s it it’s a chemical
in your brain that is tricking you and
it goes for a lot of stuff donuts like
all this that’s tricking you if you know
like a and you say I’m not gonna be
tricked I feel it I feel you listed I
feel the sadness I feel missing this
person but it’s a trick you know yeah
that helps it totally helps I like it so
move on and I know it’s hard trust us
speaking of moving on next question
unless we want to talk about this some
more no I think you need to move okay
exactly right let’s move on in what
circumstances do you recommend director
desk I will hold on oh we’re not moving
on you’re stuck on an elbow what’s
horrible is men people kill themselves
yeah
in these situations over a lie yeah
that’s that’s to me a trick the trick
but it’s a lie and in guys or girls get
so distraught over this fantasy that
doesn’t exist
and what’s really jacked up is if they
could just move on they’d find a reality
that was actually congruent with what
their desires are no it’s out there yeah
you can see people all over the world
they’re they’re they’re in relationships
I having fun from every level right yeah
there’s someone out there but you you
get caught up in this mental trap and in
obsessing over a fantasy it’s a fantasy
don’t don’t don’t obsess over the
fantasy man there’s you can you can get
over it and there’s plenty of other
human beings out there that are awesome
so go find one of them and in the
meantime hang out with your badass self
become a better person and working out
is a big one for huge for sure that’s it
that’s did 100%
just get in the gym and get after it
jiu-jitsu solves everything yes lifting solves every day
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