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this is infinite waters diving deep once
again for another sexology episode the i
am not good enough syndrome low
self-esteem how does low self-esteem
connect to sexology i find it
fascinating how so many people in
relationships have issues with low
self-esteem one partner or the other
partner feels inadequate they always
feel that whatever they do no matter how
pretty they look how hard they try it’s
just never enough so where does this
come from
and how does this connect the sexology
this trying hard when we see the rise of
cosmetic surgery everyone wants to
appear more beautiful to the other
partner we’re always trying to make up
for something which is missing but at
the same time does it suffice does it
make any difference because
relationships are in turmoil when we
look at this modern day society there’s
been a great disconnection between the
masculine and the feminine so this whole
low self-esteem in my mind it’s not
going to be resolved by people making
themselves more beautiful because that’s
just a mask
that’s just covering up what’s really
deep inside it’s just covering up and
it’s the persona we invest so much money
and time in the persona men want to buy
big cars you want your Bentley you want
your Rolls Royce to appear more powerful
which is going to attract the woman but
at the same time there’s still a low
self-esteem issue and men still suffer
from the I’m not good enough syndrome
that’s why we have to spend so much time
in the gym we have to buy all of these
expensive cars and these expensive
accessories to appear more attractive so
this is the I am not good enough
syndrome just like women who spend hours
and hours doing their hair and makeup
and all of this these cosmetic surgeries
because this is the I am not good enough
syndrome so in this
low self-esteem issues where does this
come from and I think one of the places
that it comes from is because the
lifestyle that many of us are living the
lifestyles have really become
detrimental to our relationships how we
even form relationships a lot of people
are going to work 80% of their day is
spent in the presence of someone else
that really doesn’t care about the web
and then you come home to your partner
and you expect everything to be roses
you expect everything to be cookies
cookies and cream when in reality it’s
really not that because you only have a
small amount of time to really get to
know someone on an intimate level in
this modern day era so of course there’s
going to be low self-esteem issues
because really and truly men and women
these days haven’t taken the time to
really get to know each other on an
intimate level so when you haven’t done
that then of course you’re gonna feel
like you’re not good enough and I think
as well when we talk of intimacy a lot
of us we’re not intimate with each other
anymore so we go on a date you see
internet dating has its really boomed
all of these new ways of meaning men and
women are meeting each other have
accelerated because we haven’t really
got time during the day to meet each
other so we have to do it virtually and
I just find that when we talk of
intimacy once again we are not really
knowing each other on a high connection
everything is on a very superficial
level it’s almost like okay what what
job do you do you know you meet a woman
and you say what job do you do a woman
meets a man is there what job do you do
oh I work here and you expect the
relationship to blossom how can that be
because you’re only knowing each other
on a very superficial level and for me
the high connection where a low
self-esteem will actually be gotten rid
of is when men and women come together
on a very high connection and realize
that their outward appearance
is just
one side of themselves it’s just a
fraction of themselves and this is not
who they really are the title the name
the status its status anxiety that’s
what creates a low self-esteem its
status anxiety it’s always feeling that
you’re never quite there it’s you know
and I feel really this is one of the
biggest issues because this I am not
good enough syndrome is really like a
virus which is really infected so many
of us we spend and invest so much time
in this just to be accepted but at the
end of the day it’s not working that’s
why this has to go on and on and on but
I think when people actually surrender
when men and women when we can all
surrender and realize I’ll take you just
the way you are that’s what I have to
say to myself every day when I meet
different people because the more and
more we have too many expectations of
people you know we want we want we want
to create this fantasy of what other
people are when in essence everyone is
different everyone is unique so
essentially I feel that this whole low
self-esteem issue has to it will only go
when people actually begin to love
themselves first because no one it
doesn’t matter how beautiful how
intelligent they are is going to give
you what you want no one is going to
complete you without you being whole
first we have to become whole first and
meet other whole beings out there and
then that’s when we create the super
whole but essentially when we’re just
looking to someone for something we want
to be fulfilled it may not happen and I
think that’s what creates the low
self-esteem that’s what creates that I
am not good enough syndrome so really
and truly this is it this is the the
game of sexology and a lot of people say
well you deserve who you’re with and I
think that’s quite true to a large
extent this is the law of resonance and
every relationship we have is just a
teacher to us but another day infinite
waters diving deep as usual sex
oh gee I’ll take you just the way you are because you’re good enough peace
this is infinite waters diving deep once
again for another sexology episode the i
am not good enough syndrome low
self-esteem how does low self-esteem
connect to sexology i find it
fascinating how so many people in
relationships have issues with low
self-esteem one partner or the other
partner feels inadequate they always
feel that whatever they do no matter how
pretty they look how hard they try it’s
just never enough so where does this
come from
and how does this connect the sexology
this trying hard when we see the rise of
cosmetic surgery everyone wants to
appear more beautiful to the other
partner we’re always trying to make up
for something which is missing but at
the same time does it suffice does it
make any difference because
relationships are in turmoil when we
look at this modern day society there’s
been a great disconnection between the
masculine and the feminine so this whole
low self-esteem in my mind it’s not
going to be resolved by people making
themselves more beautiful because that’s
just a mask
that’s just covering up what’s really
deep inside it’s just covering up and
it’s the persona we invest so much money
and time in the persona men want to buy
big cars you want your Bentley you want
your Rolls Royce to appear more powerful
which is going to attract the woman but
at the same time there’s still a low
self-esteem issue and men still suffer
from the I’m not good enough syndrome
that’s why we have to spend so much time
in the gym we have to buy all of these
expensive cars and these expensive
accessories to appear more attractive so
this is the I am not good enough
syndrome just like women who spend hours
and hours doing their hair and makeup
and all of this these cosmetic surgeries
because this is the I am not good enough
syndrome so in this
low self-esteem issues where does this
come from and I think one of the places
that it comes from is because the
lifestyle that many of us are living the
lifestyles have really become
detrimental to our relationships how we
even form relationships a lot of people
are going to work 80% of their day is
spent in the presence of someone else
that really doesn’t care about the web
and then you come home to your partner
and you expect everything to be roses
you expect everything to be cookies
cookies and cream when in reality it’s
really not that because you only have a
small amount of time to really get to
know someone on an intimate level in
this modern day era so of course there’s
going to be low self-esteem issues
because really and truly men and women
these days haven’t taken the time to
really get to know each other on an
intimate level so when you haven’t done
that then of course you’re gonna feel
like you’re not good enough and I think
as well when we talk of intimacy a lot
of us we’re not intimate with each other
anymore so we go on a date you see
internet dating has its really boomed
all of these new ways of meaning men and
women are meeting each other have
accelerated because we haven’t really
got time during the day to meet each
other so we have to do it virtually and
I just find that when we talk of
intimacy once again we are not really
knowing each other on a high connection
everything is on a very superficial
level it’s almost like okay what what
job do you do you know you meet a woman
and you say what job do you do a woman
meets a man is there what job do you do
oh I work here and you expect the
relationship to blossom how can that be
because you’re only knowing each other
on a very superficial level and for me
the high connection where a low
self-esteem will actually be gotten rid
of is when men and women come together
on a very high connection and realize
that their outward appearance
is just
one side of themselves it’s just a
fraction of themselves and this is not
who they really are the title the name
the status its status anxiety that’s
what creates a low self-esteem its
status anxiety it’s always feeling that
you’re never quite there it’s you know
and I feel really this is one of the
biggest issues because this I am not
good enough syndrome is really like a
virus which is really infected so many
of us we spend and invest so much time
in this just to be accepted but at the
end of the day it’s not working that’s
why this has to go on and on and on but
I think when people actually surrender
when men and women when we can all
surrender and realize I’ll take you just
the way you are that’s what I have to
say to myself every day when I meet
different people because the more and
more we have too many expectations of
people you know we want we want we want
to create this fantasy of what other
people are when in essence everyone is
different everyone is unique so
essentially I feel that this whole low
self-esteem issue has to it will only go
when people actually begin to love
themselves first because no one it
doesn’t matter how beautiful how
intelligent they are is going to give
you what you want no one is going to
complete you without you being whole
first we have to become whole first and
meet other whole beings out there and
then that’s when we create the super
whole but essentially when we’re just
looking to someone for something we want
to be fulfilled it may not happen and I
think that’s what creates the low
self-esteem that’s what creates that I
am not good enough syndrome so really
and truly this is it this is the the
game of sexology and a lot of people say
well you deserve who you’re with and I
think that’s quite true to a large
extent this is the law of resonance and
every relationship we have is just a
teacher to us but another day infinite
waters diving deep as usual sex
oh gee I’ll take you just the way you are because you’re good enough peace
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