peace and finna waters diving deep once
again we are out here
we’re in nature breathing in that good
ass Prada baby how to handle awkward
social interactions for examples I want
to invite you to a gathering you don’t
know what to do so you sit all alone in
the corner don’t do that can I get a
Hello you may be an introvert a shy
person and alien I don’t know let me
share with you what’s helped me along my
journey that’s the question that came in
you got a question
Instagram us I infinite waters go to the
website rough smart calm as a
psychologist I meet a lot of introverts
but guess what I’ve also been a very
quiet person I’m a Pisces what happens
when the phone rings hey we’re having an
event come along
we’re having a gathering come along
we’re having a party come along and all
that’s going through your mind is please
no please no please no I don’t want to
go you want to go but you don’t want to
go you want to go but you feel nervous
you feel shy but you go and you get
there and you walk into the door and you
see a sea of people staring at you cuz
you’ve arrived late making it harder for
yourself can I get a Hello yeah you trip
up and you didn’t have time to get
yourself ready and you say hi just like
you got a coat okay how can we change
what if I told you that every single
person at that gathering is as nervous
as you are right yes they are
it’s just that they got there a bit
earlier than you so if you have a social
interaction you got to get there early
real early but so early check this out
you got a practice before you actually
get to the gathering to become
comfortable within yourself can I get a
hello there you see all anxiety is born
from the desire to escape the present
moment let me repeat that all anxiety is
born from the desire to escape the
present moment so when you are in a
gathering and event and you are feeling
very uncomfortable what you want to do
you want to run away which makes you
feel even more anxious so what about
actually staying in the present moment
in the here and now and then asking
yourself why do I feel so anxious right
talk to a stranger
right that’s what I always tell people
I’m doing sessions with I do it from
time to time and it’s scary but
liberating and the more you do it
actually it’s not scary anymore it’s
actually quite fun can I get a hello
there so go out into the streets into
your local town and if you see someone
walking along and you’ve got this
intuition to say hi say hi right and the
more you do that you are gonna have so
much confidence you see confidence means
you got to trust yourself that you won’t
make a complete idiot of yourself and
say something stupid never mind
look look look when we talk of feeling
nervous feeling awkward at these
gatherings it’s because a lot of us we
have too much we feel we have to say so
the general questions revolve around Oh
what do you do right what do you do what
you do sometimes we feel the pressure to
put on a show sometimes we feel that we
have to show the world how amazing we
are when no you don’t all you have to do
is be yourself a hundred percent that is
all you have to do and in actuality
those that appear to be more confident
are those that are more laid-back right
you don’t have to say okay I work here I
work there
right sometimes you get people who are
asking all of these questions where do
you work
oh I’m a CEO oh I didn’t know you’re
just wearing some shorts and a t-shirt
we’ll never assume duh can I get a hello
there you develop confidence by becoming
a better listener right because the more
you can listen the more time you have to
not have a panic attack right when you
are listening you can take that time to
whoa breathing that good a spray on a
baby but you see a lot of us we’re just
talking talking talking sometimes which
makes us even more anxious because we
don’t know what to say so we just
yap-yap yap-yap yap-yap
and we talk really really really really
really really really really fast slow
down you’re not going anywhere
right the pie doesn’t finish till about
1:00 right I’m not mistaken where is it
– I don’t know it’s your party you went
too many times when we talk of social
interactions we don’t feel worthy that’s
why a lot of us feel awkward we feel
nervous we think other people are more
worthy to be there than ourselves so
going back to practicing to learn how to
accept yourself you may ask how do we do
that
if you look at every single person who
is in that room a thought is going to
come into your mind which says they are
worthy to be there so what makes you
feel that you aren’t worthy to be there
and it all goes back to feelings of a
lack of self-love feelings of a lack of
self Trust and feelings of not being
good enough so to turn all of that
around you got to learn how to be with
yourself that’s the great paradox to be
wonderful in social gatherings to have
confidence you got to learn how to be
with yourself you got to go into the
wilderness where there is no water right
only mango juice can I get a hello
mangos in the desert how about that
right self-hate doesn’t disappear by
self-blame self-hate doesn’t disappear
because the moment you stop blaming
yourself is the moment you won’t feel
inadequate more self praise less less
self hate we sometimes think when we are
around other people they have it figured
all out right now I’ve got it figured
figure it all out no they don’t that
just as lost as you probably more lost
in fact but once again we project all of
our desirable traits onto them so you’ve
got to realize that we are all helping
each other along the way and start
simple right start with what is
happening in the room maybe some music
is playing focus on the here and now
talk about the music that’s playing talk
about what they’re wearing don’t judge
what they’re wearing or you can if you
want I know why do they wear a peacock
right peacock outfit crazy right I know
right talk about what they’re what kind
of food is that the event right oh this
is delicious get into the present moment
and now the conversation is gonna flow
many times you gotta look people in the
eyes instead of looking whoa downwards
cuz not only gonna straighten your neck
but you see when you look someone in the
eyes and you can practice this you can
practice this with a cat down the road
if it’s bothered if it can be bothered
right you look people I to I you get a
glimpse of their soul but you see once
you turn away you’re afraid
right we don’t really know who you’re
talking to when you have I to I contact
you can see in their eyes
compassion friendliness that in turn can
give you more confidence that in turn
can help you accept yourself that in
turn can be the catalyst for helping you
become your greatest version can I get a
hello there once you are facing the
floor well that’s the inspiration you’re
gonna get the floor right you’re not
really feeling inspired are you but once
again once you’re turning to the side
you’re trying to think of an escape
route nearest exit anywhere no you’re
stuck there
if you realize all of these amazing
people at this event including yourself
do you know what they do you know how
they can assist you you know how you can
assist them once you start networking
you never know you could meet your
future partner so instead of thinking
instead of thinking this is the worst
thing ever that could happen to me what
about changing your perspective to say
actually this is the best opportunity to
meet people I’ve never seen before this
is the best opportunity to move outside
of your comfort zone you see never allow
your comfort zone to become your secret
prison hmm can I get a hello there
that’s why it’s a test everyone I still
sometimes feel really awkward when I go
to certain social gatherings because I’m
like what are those who are you who are
you right but at the same time I realize
what a wonderful opportunity it is to
connect with people that may blow my
mind away with people I’m gonna learn
something from oh maybe not I’m just
gonna leave that place thinking gosh I
don’t want to go back and you don’t have
to because tomorrow’s another day so
once again realize that there is nobody
on this planet that can make you anxious
without your permission there is nobody
on this planet that can make you anxious
without your permission without you
already feeling anxious when you go to
certain parties and you feel nervous
maybe you’re an introvert
they are highlighting unresolved issues
within yourself that is why you got to
keep going to more events right placing
yourself in a cold shower in fact have a
cold shower right
boom cold right real cold well do
yourself a favor because the more cold
showers you have you start to get very
uncomfortable until your body starts to
naturally warm up it’s the same as
social interactions talk to random
people random strangers in cafes bars
and nightclubs right or just on the
beach
or just in the library can you talk in
the library these days I don’t know I
used to work in a library can I get a
hello there realize you are worthy but
nobody can tell you you are worthy
without first acknowledging your own
self-worth which only happens when you
give yourself a chance to shine we are
out here we’re nature whoa breathing in
that beautiful prana baby infinite
waters to hiving deep once again stay well stay healthy peace
again we are out here
we’re in nature breathing in that good
ass Prada baby how to handle awkward
social interactions for examples I want
to invite you to a gathering you don’t
know what to do so you sit all alone in
the corner don’t do that can I get a
Hello you may be an introvert a shy
person and alien I don’t know let me
share with you what’s helped me along my
journey that’s the question that came in
you got a question
Instagram us I infinite waters go to the
website rough smart calm as a
psychologist I meet a lot of introverts
but guess what I’ve also been a very
quiet person I’m a Pisces what happens
when the phone rings hey we’re having an
event come along
we’re having a gathering come along
we’re having a party come along and all
that’s going through your mind is please
no please no please no I don’t want to
go you want to go but you don’t want to
go you want to go but you feel nervous
you feel shy but you go and you get
there and you walk into the door and you
see a sea of people staring at you cuz
you’ve arrived late making it harder for
yourself can I get a Hello yeah you trip
up and you didn’t have time to get
yourself ready and you say hi just like
you got a coat okay how can we change
what if I told you that every single
person at that gathering is as nervous
as you are right yes they are
it’s just that they got there a bit
earlier than you so if you have a social
interaction you got to get there early
real early but so early check this out
you got a practice before you actually
get to the gathering to become
comfortable within yourself can I get a
hello there you see all anxiety is born
from the desire to escape the present
moment let me repeat that all anxiety is
born from the desire to escape the
present moment so when you are in a
gathering and event and you are feeling
very uncomfortable what you want to do
you want to run away which makes you
feel even more anxious so what about
actually staying in the present moment
in the here and now and then asking
yourself why do I feel so anxious right
talk to a stranger
right that’s what I always tell people
I’m doing sessions with I do it from
time to time and it’s scary but
liberating and the more you do it
actually it’s not scary anymore it’s
actually quite fun can I get a hello
there so go out into the streets into
your local town and if you see someone
walking along and you’ve got this
intuition to say hi say hi right and the
more you do that you are gonna have so
much confidence you see confidence means
you got to trust yourself that you won’t
make a complete idiot of yourself and
say something stupid never mind
look look look when we talk of feeling
nervous feeling awkward at these
gatherings it’s because a lot of us we
have too much we feel we have to say so
the general questions revolve around Oh
what do you do right what do you do what
you do sometimes we feel the pressure to
put on a show sometimes we feel that we
have to show the world how amazing we
are when no you don’t all you have to do
is be yourself a hundred percent that is
all you have to do and in actuality
those that appear to be more confident
are those that are more laid-back right
you don’t have to say okay I work here I
work there
right sometimes you get people who are
asking all of these questions where do
you work
oh I’m a CEO oh I didn’t know you’re
just wearing some shorts and a t-shirt
we’ll never assume duh can I get a hello
there you develop confidence by becoming
a better listener right because the more
you can listen the more time you have to
not have a panic attack right when you
are listening you can take that time to
whoa breathing that good a spray on a
baby but you see a lot of us we’re just
talking talking talking sometimes which
makes us even more anxious because we
don’t know what to say so we just
yap-yap yap-yap yap-yap
and we talk really really really really
really really really really fast slow
down you’re not going anywhere
right the pie doesn’t finish till about
1:00 right I’m not mistaken where is it
– I don’t know it’s your party you went
too many times when we talk of social
interactions we don’t feel worthy that’s
why a lot of us feel awkward we feel
nervous we think other people are more
worthy to be there than ourselves so
going back to practicing to learn how to
accept yourself you may ask how do we do
that
if you look at every single person who
is in that room a thought is going to
come into your mind which says they are
worthy to be there so what makes you
feel that you aren’t worthy to be there
and it all goes back to feelings of a
lack of self-love feelings of a lack of
self Trust and feelings of not being
good enough so to turn all of that
around you got to learn how to be with
yourself that’s the great paradox to be
wonderful in social gatherings to have
confidence you got to learn how to be
with yourself you got to go into the
wilderness where there is no water right
only mango juice can I get a hello
mangos in the desert how about that
right self-hate doesn’t disappear by
self-blame self-hate doesn’t disappear
because the moment you stop blaming
yourself is the moment you won’t feel
inadequate more self praise less less
self hate we sometimes think when we are
around other people they have it figured
all out right now I’ve got it figured
figure it all out no they don’t that
just as lost as you probably more lost
in fact but once again we project all of
our desirable traits onto them so you’ve
got to realize that we are all helping
each other along the way and start
simple right start with what is
happening in the room maybe some music
is playing focus on the here and now
talk about the music that’s playing talk
about what they’re wearing don’t judge
what they’re wearing or you can if you
want I know why do they wear a peacock
right peacock outfit crazy right I know
right talk about what they’re what kind
of food is that the event right oh this
is delicious get into the present moment
and now the conversation is gonna flow
many times you gotta look people in the
eyes instead of looking whoa downwards
cuz not only gonna straighten your neck
but you see when you look someone in the
eyes and you can practice this you can
practice this with a cat down the road
if it’s bothered if it can be bothered
right you look people I to I you get a
glimpse of their soul but you see once
you turn away you’re afraid
right we don’t really know who you’re
talking to when you have I to I contact
you can see in their eyes
compassion friendliness that in turn can
give you more confidence that in turn
can help you accept yourself that in
turn can be the catalyst for helping you
become your greatest version can I get a
hello there once you are facing the
floor well that’s the inspiration you’re
gonna get the floor right you’re not
really feeling inspired are you but once
again once you’re turning to the side
you’re trying to think of an escape
route nearest exit anywhere no you’re
stuck there
if you realize all of these amazing
people at this event including yourself
do you know what they do you know how
they can assist you you know how you can
assist them once you start networking
you never know you could meet your
future partner so instead of thinking
instead of thinking this is the worst
thing ever that could happen to me what
about changing your perspective to say
actually this is the best opportunity to
meet people I’ve never seen before this
is the best opportunity to move outside
of your comfort zone you see never allow
your comfort zone to become your secret
prison hmm can I get a hello there
that’s why it’s a test everyone I still
sometimes feel really awkward when I go
to certain social gatherings because I’m
like what are those who are you who are
you right but at the same time I realize
what a wonderful opportunity it is to
connect with people that may blow my
mind away with people I’m gonna learn
something from oh maybe not I’m just
gonna leave that place thinking gosh I
don’t want to go back and you don’t have
to because tomorrow’s another day so
once again realize that there is nobody
on this planet that can make you anxious
without your permission there is nobody
on this planet that can make you anxious
without your permission without you
already feeling anxious when you go to
certain parties and you feel nervous
maybe you’re an introvert
they are highlighting unresolved issues
within yourself that is why you got to
keep going to more events right placing
yourself in a cold shower in fact have a
cold shower right
boom cold right real cold well do
yourself a favor because the more cold
showers you have you start to get very
uncomfortable until your body starts to
naturally warm up it’s the same as
social interactions talk to random
people random strangers in cafes bars
and nightclubs right or just on the
beach
or just in the library can you talk in
the library these days I don’t know I
used to work in a library can I get a
hello there realize you are worthy but
nobody can tell you you are worthy
without first acknowledging your own
self-worth which only happens when you
give yourself a chance to shine we are
out here we’re nature whoa breathing in
that beautiful prana baby infinite
waters to hiving deep once again stay well stay healthy peace
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