[Music]
Ping’s and Finnick waters diving deep
once again we are out here in the heart
of nature baby breathing in that good
ass prana how to stop caring for people
who hurt you
yeah don’t worry about it that’s the
question that came in and we’re gonna
dive into this right how to stop caring
the people who time after time just hurt
you
right so on ask me on the snapchat they
say they are really caring towards this
person and repeatedly right they are
getting used like a doormat and that’s
not fun
cuz we ain’t even had breakfast yet can
I get a Hello yeah
now have you ever experienced that I
have okay I love my early journey I’ve
even been in relationships where I was
so caring towards that person and in
return I wasn’t receiving the same back
I’ve been in friendships where I was the
one who was giving and I wasn’t
receiving anything back at the same time
I’ve also been on the other end where
somebody was really treating me so well
and I didn’t reciprocate okay so I’m
gonna share with you what’s helped me
along my journey because tons of people
are going through this now I even got a
question about vegan activism right when
you’re really like promoting that vegan
message for the 7 day vegan challenge
and people just throw it right back in
your face like at least they could throw
back some grapes in your face no they
just throw it right back in your face
lots of rubbish kick what’s number one
the first secret that helped me along my
journey is ask yourself what is my
nature
because time and time again we forget
our nature and we just see the other
person’s nature so I’ve spoken about the
Zen story where a master and the student
are walking along and they sit down and
the master gets bitten by a scorpion and
the student is like master are you gonna
allow that to happen and the master
being in that Zen moment is like what
just happened okay they walk away they
come back to the same spot and the
Scorpion is trapped it’s stuck and then
the student is like huh you see master
that is the scorpions karma let’s leave
it there let’s run away and then the
master said no you see my nature is to
save even though the scorpions nature is
to bite I’m gonna live out my nature
slow motion this side okay and that is
such a powerful metaphor for life okay
certain times people are gonna treat you
bad they’re gonna do you dirty now you
have a choice to wash yourself whose
nature whose nature am i living right
because their nature
is hurting you now we go on to the
second secret to stop caring for people
don’t copy them don’t become like these
people please don’t write and that’s
such an easy trap to fall in I nearly
did certain times people treat you
really shitty and you’re like okay I’ve
got to be like them no then you end up
being clones like them you got to rise
higher okay
don’t copy them just like I said master
didn’t copy the Scorpions actions he was
following his own nature and that’s
what’s helped me along my journey
because you know what it’s like in the
workplace certain times people do things
and maybe they didn’t even mean maybe
just maybe they didn’t even mean to hurt
you but you’ve perceived it that way
okay and now you are mimicking their
actions is what we call tit for tat lots
of games don’t copy them plain and
simple number three now seven day vegan
challenge I got a question in the
comments I’m gonna do I’m actually gonna
do a whole video on vegan vegan vegan
activism okay so I asked like we are
trying to talk about the animals and
promote like what’s going on behind the
scenes in the slaughterhouses and people
just don’t care about all the animals
suffering like over 64 billion animals
killed over 64 billion animals killed
every single year now I’ve got a massive
platform here and I always talk about 7
day vegan challenge but I’m gonna share
with you to stop caring for the people
CAIR themselves right who are hurting
you through their actions could ask
yourself this where is my focus because
you can focus on those I don’t want to
hear a message or you can focus on
people that do right now I have people
sending me lots of strawberries they’re
arriving at my doorstep
why because I focus on people during the
seven day vegan challenge I’m helping
people eat a plant-based diet cuz
because I’ve seen because I’ve seen the
benefits of what it’s done for me baby
okay so you got to ask yourself if you
are promoting that vegan message and
people you feel are hurting you just
realize it’s not that personal it’s
where they are in their level of
consciousness where you are is totally
different and even for you it was a
whole process to get where you are so
you’ve got to have a lot of compassion
okay but you’ve got to become an example
I don’t tell people hey on the streets
join the seven day vegan challenge no I
just live by example people say gosh I
want to live that lifestyle because
apparently lots of vegans are having
lots of fun oh yes we are
what’s number four what’s helped me to
stop caring for people who hurt you
right is this stop ascribing intent
certain times you may not receive a text
message back the next second and now
you’re having a panic attack you’re
having an anxiety attack
it happens someone didn’t reply to my
email Ralph
well you just send it like tubes like
what one second ago right okay chill out
it’s hard because we are living in a
fast food culture we want it right now
when we don’t get it right now we feel
offended I realize this there could be a
reason why somebody didn’t reply back to
you they could be stuck in traffic more
so they could be driving you wouldn’t
want them to have an accident with you
would you exactly exactly okay so when I
realize to stop ascribing intent is to
realize not everything someone is doing
is in response to you people have got
things to deal with family issues work
issues mouths the feed we got children
to feed here baby okay so when you stop
ascribing intent you free yourself it
helps you become your greatest version
and that is how to stop caring people
who hurt you stop caring about is for
taking it to heart to realize that most
of the times it’s not as personal as you
think
people are dealing with their own stuff
now number five what’s helped me along
my Jen used to realize that a lot of
people on the planet simply just need a
hug like can I can I hug you right now
because you look like you need one you
look like you need a hug a lot of people
do ever stare someone in the eyes when
you’re walking down the street try it
out tomorrow today in fact right certain
people are smiling and certain people
are not okay a lot of people are hurting
on the planet because a lot of people
are not in alignment with their natural
equilibrium they are not in nature
therefore they are out of balance so a
lot of people are hurting on the planet
because they have lost connection with
their heart space and are primarily
living in the ego so I get it right I’ve
got an over standing and understanding
and understanding that a lot of people
are hurting on the planet and once again
angle nothing to do with me can I get a
Hello yeah right you are someone because
you wrote in saying that you are really
helping this person out and this can
even happen in relationships you’re
doing so much for them and they just
throw it right back in your face
okay they are hurting their issues are
not yours their issues were there before
you came on the scene what’s number six
you end up with whatever you are willing
to put up with slow motion this side let
me repeat that you end up with whatever
you are willing to put up with I used to
work 12-hour days and then complain and
say what am I doing here no I was ending
up in that job because I was willing to
put up with it I wasn’t taking
responsibility for my situation certain
times you’re hanging around certain
friends then you’re gossiping about them
when they’re not there saying I don’t
like this person then why are you
hanging out with them nobody knows not
even the cat down the road not even the
cat color right so ask yourself what am
I willing to tolerate because it takes
two to tango baby have you been tango
dancing recently have you been salsa
dancing recently then you know it takes
two to make a party ok we ought to feel
like helpless victims because somebody
isn’t being as reciprocal as we are no
no it’s not their fault
we are putting up with it therefore we
are ending up with it caused an effect
so ask yourself how much longer do I
want to tolerate this BS and if you
don’t and walk on by right we should do
a song reason we should do a song right
now number seven is to ask yourself how
am I feeling into this person’s Arrested
Development
let me explain I meet people I’ve
counseled people who are in a
relationship with addicts who are in a
relationship with someone who doesn’t
even care about themselves they don’t
even brush their teeth when they wake up
goodness gracious
got a problem don’t worry about it but
they’re still there for them certain
people they put up with anything and
everything under the Sun but what they
don’t realize is that they are also
feeding into this person’s Arrested
Development because they are like the
band-aid right now people feel justified
in their behavior because you are
helping their behavior you are
reinforcing their behavior so they don’t
change unless you change something in
what you are doing for them how you are
relating to them and how you are
responding to them ok so it happened to
me along my journey I used to always I’m
a Pisces so naturally I’m caring and
passionate I’m always giving and sharing
and stuff I’m also very indecisive right
so I realize I was doing so much for
this friend they were taking me for a
joke taking me for granted but because I
was always there I was always doing
stuff they were like okay ever been to
somebody’s party and you just arrived
and you’re like where’s the food yeah
you’re always taking these people for
granted and then you just leave and then
they stop inviting you good now you can
actually learn right they have stopped
feeding into your Arrested Development
because now you’ve gotten lazy that’s
why for me I never take anybody for
granted don’t think because somebody is
always sharing they’re always gonna be
sharing no I could stop charging for
these videos right premium I would never
do that though because the cat down the
road give me a good beating around the
take off the band-aid and let people
walk they can do it but once again ask
yourself how are you feeding into their
Arrested Development and then went once
you once you stop feeding into their
Arrested Development they will have a
moment of clarity say oh my goodness oh
my goodness oh my goodness yeah that
that person that friend was doing so
much for me and now I actually feel
what’s what’s happening to me only
because you’ve taken off the band-aid
okay now they see your true worth let’s
talk about number eight how to stop
caring for people who continually hurt
you now what’s helped me along my
journey is this care from a distance
we’re gonna go all the way back and then
we’re gonna care for that person all the
way back and care for that person
because first of all this person doesn’t
even give two hoots about you they take
you for granted like you send them stuff
they don’t even reply to it so you’ve
got to care from a distance right now
who do I make these videos for I make
these videos for myself it’s part of
therapy it’s so fun
mmm I’m making for the cat down the road
but also I make it for the amazing deep
divers out there who really show
gratitude and appreciation right now if
I was to cool a deep diver and say okay
I’m gonna be in Hawaii I’ve run out of
grapes help me out they’re gonna throw
me a whole bunch of grapes and that’s
how I end up waking up with a bunch of
grapes in my mouth okay good
amazing people everywhere but it’s all
about who you are focusing on you see we
spend all our time all our energy on
people who don’t serve us so who’s to
blame them for us once you start
carrying from a distance because certain
people do genuinely need help you don’t
want to just give up on people but you
want to care from a distance you don’t
want to invest all your energy in
somebody who doesn’t care about you
that’s not smart okay once they actually
do start showing the same level of care
as you do to them then you can stop
pouring out again but not if they don’t
care okay so that’s what’s helped me
along my journey care from a distance
you still care it’s just from a long
distance away right you just send them a
postcard every two years that’s great
[Music]
number nine is compassion
now what’s helped me along my journey is
to realize that we’re living in a world
where a lot of people are heartless
soulless and growing up I was like oh my
god oh my gosh oh my gosh facepalm
moment I hope that’s not me I’m friend
friend for like a millisecond it nearly
was right because just being in the rat
race over a decade ago I was I saw
myself changing and becoming like a
heartless person then I came into nature
got my heart back okay the people that
hurt you
that talk behind your back that are
never there for you
they need help they are hurting they
need compassion and that’s why you got
to realize it is you that has more
strength by being able to give in the
first place
this action I’m giving to you
compared to this action which is more
powerful this one because I’m extending
I’m expanding
okay I’m not contracting so be proud of
yourself that you are even
able to give so much now you have the
mindset to help somebody else most
people don’t care it shows you’re a
compassionate person so I think we
should invite you to the next seven days
vegan challenge party and you are going
to bring all the strawberries ah no we
would never do that to you what are we
going to bring for you but we are gonna
actually lift you on our shoulders and
say you are the person who brought all
the strawberries you see how we how is
so reciprocal like that you see how
we’re so reciprocal like that show
compassion to people trust me they need
it right but it also frees you of their
negative vibes just by showing
compassion and then getting on your way
but don’t become like these same people
please don’t write I nearly did then I
said paid a minute then we throw them a
mango throw them an apricot then they
started to come her habit what’s number
ten make them realize your presence you
see people don’t actually appreciate
your presence until you are no longer
there it slow motion this side mmm like
if I stop making videos gosh that would
be a riot right I predict a riot that
would never happen them
but many times we care for people who
hurt us because we feed into their
Arrested Development but because we fail
to realize that if we pull back now they
will actually appreciate our presence a
lot more so this is what we call holding
the space pulling back okay and these
people who you say have hurt you who
don’t respect you who don’t even care
what you’re doing for them they will
actually realize the worth you hold and
have and they all say my culture loops
so sorry don’t do something like that
right then you’ll say so you should be
then you’ll just go outside and go to
the beach and just eat pineapples
reconciliation but you got to make them
realize your presence by sometimes not
always being there and then they will
really really know why you are so
valuable then you both say feel so good
to be a live baby can I get a Hello we
are out here in nature
whoa getting high in Fitness diving deep
once again a beautiful day stay well
you [Music]
Ping’s and Finnick waters diving deep
once again we are out here in the heart
of nature baby breathing in that good
ass prana how to stop caring for people
who hurt you
yeah don’t worry about it that’s the
question that came in and we’re gonna
dive into this right how to stop caring
the people who time after time just hurt
you
right so on ask me on the snapchat they
say they are really caring towards this
person and repeatedly right they are
getting used like a doormat and that’s
not fun
cuz we ain’t even had breakfast yet can
I get a Hello yeah
now have you ever experienced that I
have okay I love my early journey I’ve
even been in relationships where I was
so caring towards that person and in
return I wasn’t receiving the same back
I’ve been in friendships where I was the
one who was giving and I wasn’t
receiving anything back at the same time
I’ve also been on the other end where
somebody was really treating me so well
and I didn’t reciprocate okay so I’m
gonna share with you what’s helped me
along my journey because tons of people
are going through this now I even got a
question about vegan activism right when
you’re really like promoting that vegan
message for the 7 day vegan challenge
and people just throw it right back in
your face like at least they could throw
back some grapes in your face no they
just throw it right back in your face
lots of rubbish kick what’s number one
the first secret that helped me along my
journey is ask yourself what is my
nature
because time and time again we forget
our nature and we just see the other
person’s nature so I’ve spoken about the
Zen story where a master and the student
are walking along and they sit down and
the master gets bitten by a scorpion and
the student is like master are you gonna
allow that to happen and the master
being in that Zen moment is like what
just happened okay they walk away they
come back to the same spot and the
Scorpion is trapped it’s stuck and then
the student is like huh you see master
that is the scorpions karma let’s leave
it there let’s run away and then the
master said no you see my nature is to
save even though the scorpions nature is
to bite I’m gonna live out my nature
slow motion this side okay and that is
such a powerful metaphor for life okay
certain times people are gonna treat you
bad they’re gonna do you dirty now you
have a choice to wash yourself whose
nature whose nature am i living right
because their nature
is hurting you now we go on to the
second secret to stop caring for people
don’t copy them don’t become like these
people please don’t write and that’s
such an easy trap to fall in I nearly
did certain times people treat you
really shitty and you’re like okay I’ve
got to be like them no then you end up
being clones like them you got to rise
higher okay
don’t copy them just like I said master
didn’t copy the Scorpions actions he was
following his own nature and that’s
what’s helped me along my journey
because you know what it’s like in the
workplace certain times people do things
and maybe they didn’t even mean maybe
just maybe they didn’t even mean to hurt
you but you’ve perceived it that way
okay and now you are mimicking their
actions is what we call tit for tat lots
of games don’t copy them plain and
simple number three now seven day vegan
challenge I got a question in the
comments I’m gonna do I’m actually gonna
do a whole video on vegan vegan vegan
activism okay so I asked like we are
trying to talk about the animals and
promote like what’s going on behind the
scenes in the slaughterhouses and people
just don’t care about all the animals
suffering like over 64 billion animals
killed over 64 billion animals killed
every single year now I’ve got a massive
platform here and I always talk about 7
day vegan challenge but I’m gonna share
with you to stop caring for the people
CAIR themselves right who are hurting
you through their actions could ask
yourself this where is my focus because
you can focus on those I don’t want to
hear a message or you can focus on
people that do right now I have people
sending me lots of strawberries they’re
arriving at my doorstep
why because I focus on people during the
seven day vegan challenge I’m helping
people eat a plant-based diet cuz
because I’ve seen because I’ve seen the
benefits of what it’s done for me baby
okay so you got to ask yourself if you
are promoting that vegan message and
people you feel are hurting you just
realize it’s not that personal it’s
where they are in their level of
consciousness where you are is totally
different and even for you it was a
whole process to get where you are so
you’ve got to have a lot of compassion
okay but you’ve got to become an example
I don’t tell people hey on the streets
join the seven day vegan challenge no I
just live by example people say gosh I
want to live that lifestyle because
apparently lots of vegans are having
lots of fun oh yes we are
what’s number four what’s helped me to
stop caring for people who hurt you
right is this stop ascribing intent
certain times you may not receive a text
message back the next second and now
you’re having a panic attack you’re
having an anxiety attack
it happens someone didn’t reply to my
email Ralph
well you just send it like tubes like
what one second ago right okay chill out
it’s hard because we are living in a
fast food culture we want it right now
when we don’t get it right now we feel
offended I realize this there could be a
reason why somebody didn’t reply back to
you they could be stuck in traffic more
so they could be driving you wouldn’t
want them to have an accident with you
would you exactly exactly okay so when I
realize to stop ascribing intent is to
realize not everything someone is doing
is in response to you people have got
things to deal with family issues work
issues mouths the feed we got children
to feed here baby okay so when you stop
ascribing intent you free yourself it
helps you become your greatest version
and that is how to stop caring people
who hurt you stop caring about is for
taking it to heart to realize that most
of the times it’s not as personal as you
think
people are dealing with their own stuff
now number five what’s helped me along
my Jen used to realize that a lot of
people on the planet simply just need a
hug like can I can I hug you right now
because you look like you need one you
look like you need a hug a lot of people
do ever stare someone in the eyes when
you’re walking down the street try it
out tomorrow today in fact right certain
people are smiling and certain people
are not okay a lot of people are hurting
on the planet because a lot of people
are not in alignment with their natural
equilibrium they are not in nature
therefore they are out of balance so a
lot of people are hurting on the planet
because they have lost connection with
their heart space and are primarily
living in the ego so I get it right I’ve
got an over standing and understanding
and understanding that a lot of people
are hurting on the planet and once again
angle nothing to do with me can I get a
Hello yeah right you are someone because
you wrote in saying that you are really
helping this person out and this can
even happen in relationships you’re
doing so much for them and they just
throw it right back in your face
okay they are hurting their issues are
not yours their issues were there before
you came on the scene what’s number six
you end up with whatever you are willing
to put up with slow motion this side let
me repeat that you end up with whatever
you are willing to put up with I used to
work 12-hour days and then complain and
say what am I doing here no I was ending
up in that job because I was willing to
put up with it I wasn’t taking
responsibility for my situation certain
times you’re hanging around certain
friends then you’re gossiping about them
when they’re not there saying I don’t
like this person then why are you
hanging out with them nobody knows not
even the cat down the road not even the
cat color right so ask yourself what am
I willing to tolerate because it takes
two to tango baby have you been tango
dancing recently have you been salsa
dancing recently then you know it takes
two to make a party ok we ought to feel
like helpless victims because somebody
isn’t being as reciprocal as we are no
no it’s not their fault
we are putting up with it therefore we
are ending up with it caused an effect
so ask yourself how much longer do I
want to tolerate this BS and if you
don’t and walk on by right we should do
a song reason we should do a song right
now number seven is to ask yourself how
am I feeling into this person’s Arrested
Development
let me explain I meet people I’ve
counseled people who are in a
relationship with addicts who are in a
relationship with someone who doesn’t
even care about themselves they don’t
even brush their teeth when they wake up
goodness gracious
got a problem don’t worry about it but
they’re still there for them certain
people they put up with anything and
everything under the Sun but what they
don’t realize is that they are also
feeding into this person’s Arrested
Development because they are like the
band-aid right now people feel justified
in their behavior because you are
helping their behavior you are
reinforcing their behavior so they don’t
change unless you change something in
what you are doing for them how you are
relating to them and how you are
responding to them ok so it happened to
me along my journey I used to always I’m
a Pisces so naturally I’m caring and
passionate I’m always giving and sharing
and stuff I’m also very indecisive right
so I realize I was doing so much for
this friend they were taking me for a
joke taking me for granted but because I
was always there I was always doing
stuff they were like okay ever been to
somebody’s party and you just arrived
and you’re like where’s the food yeah
you’re always taking these people for
granted and then you just leave and then
they stop inviting you good now you can
actually learn right they have stopped
feeding into your Arrested Development
because now you’ve gotten lazy that’s
why for me I never take anybody for
granted don’t think because somebody is
always sharing they’re always gonna be
sharing no I could stop charging for
these videos right premium I would never
do that though because the cat down the
road give me a good beating around the
take off the band-aid and let people
walk they can do it but once again ask
yourself how are you feeding into their
Arrested Development and then went once
you once you stop feeding into their
Arrested Development they will have a
moment of clarity say oh my goodness oh
my goodness oh my goodness yeah that
that person that friend was doing so
much for me and now I actually feel
what’s what’s happening to me only
because you’ve taken off the band-aid
okay now they see your true worth let’s
talk about number eight how to stop
caring for people who continually hurt
you now what’s helped me along my
journey is this care from a distance
we’re gonna go all the way back and then
we’re gonna care for that person all the
way back and care for that person
because first of all this person doesn’t
even give two hoots about you they take
you for granted like you send them stuff
they don’t even reply to it so you’ve
got to care from a distance right now
who do I make these videos for I make
these videos for myself it’s part of
therapy it’s so fun
mmm I’m making for the cat down the road
but also I make it for the amazing deep
divers out there who really show
gratitude and appreciation right now if
I was to cool a deep diver and say okay
I’m gonna be in Hawaii I’ve run out of
grapes help me out they’re gonna throw
me a whole bunch of grapes and that’s
how I end up waking up with a bunch of
grapes in my mouth okay good
amazing people everywhere but it’s all
about who you are focusing on you see we
spend all our time all our energy on
people who don’t serve us so who’s to
blame them for us once you start
carrying from a distance because certain
people do genuinely need help you don’t
want to just give up on people but you
want to care from a distance you don’t
want to invest all your energy in
somebody who doesn’t care about you
that’s not smart okay once they actually
do start showing the same level of care
as you do to them then you can stop
pouring out again but not if they don’t
care okay so that’s what’s helped me
along my journey care from a distance
you still care it’s just from a long
distance away right you just send them a
postcard every two years that’s great
[Music]
number nine is compassion
now what’s helped me along my journey is
to realize that we’re living in a world
where a lot of people are heartless
soulless and growing up I was like oh my
god oh my gosh oh my gosh facepalm
moment I hope that’s not me I’m friend
friend for like a millisecond it nearly
was right because just being in the rat
race over a decade ago I was I saw
myself changing and becoming like a
heartless person then I came into nature
got my heart back okay the people that
hurt you
that talk behind your back that are
never there for you
they need help they are hurting they
need compassion and that’s why you got
to realize it is you that has more
strength by being able to give in the
first place
this action I’m giving to you
compared to this action which is more
powerful this one because I’m extending
I’m expanding
okay I’m not contracting so be proud of
yourself that you are even
able to give so much now you have the
mindset to help somebody else most
people don’t care it shows you’re a
compassionate person so I think we
should invite you to the next seven days
vegan challenge party and you are going
to bring all the strawberries ah no we
would never do that to you what are we
going to bring for you but we are gonna
actually lift you on our shoulders and
say you are the person who brought all
the strawberries you see how we how is
so reciprocal like that you see how
we’re so reciprocal like that show
compassion to people trust me they need
it right but it also frees you of their
negative vibes just by showing
compassion and then getting on your way
but don’t become like these same people
please don’t write I nearly did then I
said paid a minute then we throw them a
mango throw them an apricot then they
started to come her habit what’s number
ten make them realize your presence you
see people don’t actually appreciate
your presence until you are no longer
there it slow motion this side mmm like
if I stop making videos gosh that would
be a riot right I predict a riot that
would never happen them
but many times we care for people who
hurt us because we feed into their
Arrested Development but because we fail
to realize that if we pull back now they
will actually appreciate our presence a
lot more so this is what we call holding
the space pulling back okay and these
people who you say have hurt you who
don’t respect you who don’t even care
what you’re doing for them they will
actually realize the worth you hold and
have and they all say my culture loops
so sorry don’t do something like that
right then you’ll say so you should be
then you’ll just go outside and go to
the beach and just eat pineapples
reconciliation but you got to make them
realize your presence by sometimes not
always being there and then they will
really really know why you are so
valuable then you both say feel so good
to be a live baby can I get a Hello we
are out here in nature
whoa getting high in Fitness diving deep
once again a beautiful day stay well
you [Music]
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