peace and Finnick waters diving deep
once again we are out here breathing in
that good ass prana baby weight and even
had breakfast yet can I get a hello
there but we got a great question that
came in got a question Instagram us
infinite waters go to the website
Ralph’s motto calm have you ever been
pressurized into something you don’t
want to do now you don’t want to do it
well no do it not only do I don’t want
to do you don’t have to do it that’s
great
okay a woman wrote in this hi Ralph
my name is we’ll leave that blank i
watch your videos all the time they keep
me strong and I love what you do I have
the most respect for you and I’m so
blessed that I stumbled across your page
I have a question that’s been on my mind
for a while I’m 20 years old and
yesterday a lot growing up to numb pain
and deal with things but after losing a
friend to drinking and driving I despise
it now many of my friends drink a lot
and always invite me out to drink with
them but I never want to go they always
wonder what’s wrong with me and while I
don’t want to have fun but really I
don’t see drinking as fun I don’t enjoy
it at all
but at the same time oh you’re saying
you know but at the same time don’t want
to lose opportunities to go out with
friends
it’s hard being sober around drunks
please let me know any advice for this
situation I would really appreciate the
help
thank you so much love blank can I get a
hello there oh yeah baby we’re gonna
dive into this one let me share with you
what’s helped me along my journey just
like you I grew up with drunk people
everywhere in fact I was drunk – can I
get a hello there sometimes right as a
child
you want an experiment you want to drink
this you want to drink that and then
sometimes you just grow out of it like I
did I said okay it’s not really fun it’s
not really doing anything for me but I
was never an alcoholic why well because
I was too busy getting high when you
realize that you are choosing to be with
these friends then you take back all
your power and now you stop actually
being judgmental towards them right you
don’t feel like a victim anymore you
actually realize you’re making a
conscious decision to be with them but
as a psychologist and counsellor I’ve
seen what alcohol does many people use
alcohol to run away from their problems
and they wake up oh my gosh the problems
have tripled yeah cuz you just did
something really stupid last night can I
get a hello there
don’t worry about it now congratulate
yourself you want to be proud of
yourself that you’ve managed to remain
sober right because a lot of people
can’t so you don’t have to focus your
energy on trying to change people
because not even their mother could do
that you just some you’ve just known
them you’ve just known them for like
what four months four years okay four
years that’s still nothing trust me
some people have known them the whole
life and still can’t get them to change
their ways so I know what it’s like I’ve
been a vegan for over 11 years Christmas
Easter time everybody stuffing their
face full of bacon no Turkey right and
you’re there with a piece of kale not
fun so what happens nothing happens you
just feel terrible really bad so what do
I do I get up and I walk out can I get a
hello there and I look for
buddies so you’ve got to look for sober
buddies you’ve got to start recognizing
your worth to be around people that
complement your own energy you’ve got to
become the energy you want to attract
into your life now what I can gather
from what you’ve written to me is that
you don’t want to be alone and I don’t
blame you
nobody wants to be alone can I get a
hello there that’s why I stay with a cat
down the road right because when you are
alone you feel terrible but if you’re
with people in a crowd who don’t hold
the same principles and values as you
you also feel terrible so you can still
feel alone like you do right now even
with a large crowd right so you’ve got
to remind yourself that hey there are
over 7 billion people who wait probably
half of them a drunk right now ok let’s
just say 3.5 billion people who are
sober that leaves you a lot of people
right – who are really gonna respect you
your choice your decision but when you
learn how to set up healthy energetic
boundaries you now choose who you want
to invite into your space and you now
are very aware of where your getting
invited – right there’s a reason why
sometimes you don’t want to go because
everybody is having fun and you’re just
there like hmm can I get a Hello what
happens when you realize actually these
aren’t bad people they’re actually a lot
of fun to be around it’s just that
they’re still where I was about a year
ago and that can be really frustrating
because you’ve evolved right you are on
a whole nother journey and that’s ok
right we don’t have to get everybody to
live
the lifestyle we want to live it’s got
very little to do with them it’s got
everything to do with you
so what I want you to do try this put a
bin bag on your head and then go to your
friend’s house now if they’re laughing
at you they’re not real friends if
they’re doing it too well they are can I
get a hello ah they are your friends
they are your friends right they don’t
judge you for wearing wearing bin bags
on your head yeah they are your friends
but you see many times friends give us
the guilt trip oh you don’t want to come
and hang out with me you’re not my
friend right so you got to become very
strong within yourself to realize you
can’t let anybody down except yourself
when you don’t stay true to yourself mmm
can I get a hello there
you gotta learn how to really really
really really really really really
really really really really say yes yes
when you want to say yes and really
really really really really really
really really really really say no when
you want to say no because if you don’t
know how to find your voice you’re gonna
lose it in the choir in the crowd now
they become your voice your actions
everybody waving their hands around and
you’re like hey can you guys just stop I
want to do that too can I get a Hello
and you can you got to create the sober
party probably won’t be as much spilling
the beans because you see many people
take a lot of alcohol there’s a reason
why people drink many times is to run
away from their life it’s an escape
mechanism but some people drink
moderately right some people drink as a
social thing but when you have had
what’s happened to you you’ve lost a
friend through through drinking you want
to be proud of yourself that you’ve
actually had the
to let go because no your friends are
thinking gosh you’re really brave and
powerful but at the same time the
temptation is always there if you are
going to be hanging around them because
we become like the people we surround
ourselves with most often in ancient
times they talked of how alcohol was
called spirits for a reason because when
people consumed a lot of alcohol it was
almost as if spirits were possessing
them right and that’s why people say all
kinds of stuff you’re like whoa where
did that come from nobody knows and
nobody wants to know right so realize
they aren’t bad people it’s just that
everybody is on a different path you’ve
got to start respecting yourself enough
to realize you want alone not even if
you want it to be alone you couldn’t be
alone but you’ve got to start reaching
out to other sober people who you like
I’m sure you got friends who are sober
is just that you probably don’t find
them as funny as the drunk ones so there
you have it love breathing in that good
ass prana have a beautiful day know your
Worth and connect with those who remind
you who you are well here infinite
waters to Haven deep once again stay well stay healthy peace
once again we are out here breathing in
that good ass prana baby weight and even
had breakfast yet can I get a hello
there but we got a great question that
came in got a question Instagram us
infinite waters go to the website
Ralph’s motto calm have you ever been
pressurized into something you don’t
want to do now you don’t want to do it
well no do it not only do I don’t want
to do you don’t have to do it that’s
great
okay a woman wrote in this hi Ralph
my name is we’ll leave that blank i
watch your videos all the time they keep
me strong and I love what you do I have
the most respect for you and I’m so
blessed that I stumbled across your page
I have a question that’s been on my mind
for a while I’m 20 years old and
yesterday a lot growing up to numb pain
and deal with things but after losing a
friend to drinking and driving I despise
it now many of my friends drink a lot
and always invite me out to drink with
them but I never want to go they always
wonder what’s wrong with me and while I
don’t want to have fun but really I
don’t see drinking as fun I don’t enjoy
it at all
but at the same time oh you’re saying
you know but at the same time don’t want
to lose opportunities to go out with
friends
it’s hard being sober around drunks
please let me know any advice for this
situation I would really appreciate the
help
thank you so much love blank can I get a
hello there oh yeah baby we’re gonna
dive into this one let me share with you
what’s helped me along my journey just
like you I grew up with drunk people
everywhere in fact I was drunk – can I
get a hello there sometimes right as a
child
you want an experiment you want to drink
this you want to drink that and then
sometimes you just grow out of it like I
did I said okay it’s not really fun it’s
not really doing anything for me but I
was never an alcoholic why well because
I was too busy getting high when you
realize that you are choosing to be with
these friends then you take back all
your power and now you stop actually
being judgmental towards them right you
don’t feel like a victim anymore you
actually realize you’re making a
conscious decision to be with them but
as a psychologist and counsellor I’ve
seen what alcohol does many people use
alcohol to run away from their problems
and they wake up oh my gosh the problems
have tripled yeah cuz you just did
something really stupid last night can I
get a hello there
don’t worry about it now congratulate
yourself you want to be proud of
yourself that you’ve managed to remain
sober right because a lot of people
can’t so you don’t have to focus your
energy on trying to change people
because not even their mother could do
that you just some you’ve just known
them you’ve just known them for like
what four months four years okay four
years that’s still nothing trust me
some people have known them the whole
life and still can’t get them to change
their ways so I know what it’s like I’ve
been a vegan for over 11 years Christmas
Easter time everybody stuffing their
face full of bacon no Turkey right and
you’re there with a piece of kale not
fun so what happens nothing happens you
just feel terrible really bad so what do
I do I get up and I walk out can I get a
hello there and I look for
buddies so you’ve got to look for sober
buddies you’ve got to start recognizing
your worth to be around people that
complement your own energy you’ve got to
become the energy you want to attract
into your life now what I can gather
from what you’ve written to me is that
you don’t want to be alone and I don’t
blame you
nobody wants to be alone can I get a
hello there that’s why I stay with a cat
down the road right because when you are
alone you feel terrible but if you’re
with people in a crowd who don’t hold
the same principles and values as you
you also feel terrible so you can still
feel alone like you do right now even
with a large crowd right so you’ve got
to remind yourself that hey there are
over 7 billion people who wait probably
half of them a drunk right now ok let’s
just say 3.5 billion people who are
sober that leaves you a lot of people
right – who are really gonna respect you
your choice your decision but when you
learn how to set up healthy energetic
boundaries you now choose who you want
to invite into your space and you now
are very aware of where your getting
invited – right there’s a reason why
sometimes you don’t want to go because
everybody is having fun and you’re just
there like hmm can I get a Hello what
happens when you realize actually these
aren’t bad people they’re actually a lot
of fun to be around it’s just that
they’re still where I was about a year
ago and that can be really frustrating
because you’ve evolved right you are on
a whole nother journey and that’s ok
right we don’t have to get everybody to
live
the lifestyle we want to live it’s got
very little to do with them it’s got
everything to do with you
so what I want you to do try this put a
bin bag on your head and then go to your
friend’s house now if they’re laughing
at you they’re not real friends if
they’re doing it too well they are can I
get a hello ah they are your friends
they are your friends right they don’t
judge you for wearing wearing bin bags
on your head yeah they are your friends
but you see many times friends give us
the guilt trip oh you don’t want to come
and hang out with me you’re not my
friend right so you got to become very
strong within yourself to realize you
can’t let anybody down except yourself
when you don’t stay true to yourself mmm
can I get a hello there
you gotta learn how to really really
really really really really really
really really really really say yes yes
when you want to say yes and really
really really really really really
really really really really say no when
you want to say no because if you don’t
know how to find your voice you’re gonna
lose it in the choir in the crowd now
they become your voice your actions
everybody waving their hands around and
you’re like hey can you guys just stop I
want to do that too can I get a Hello
and you can you got to create the sober
party probably won’t be as much spilling
the beans because you see many people
take a lot of alcohol there’s a reason
why people drink many times is to run
away from their life it’s an escape
mechanism but some people drink
moderately right some people drink as a
social thing but when you have had
what’s happened to you you’ve lost a
friend through through drinking you want
to be proud of yourself that you’ve
actually had the
to let go because no your friends are
thinking gosh you’re really brave and
powerful but at the same time the
temptation is always there if you are
going to be hanging around them because
we become like the people we surround
ourselves with most often in ancient
times they talked of how alcohol was
called spirits for a reason because when
people consumed a lot of alcohol it was
almost as if spirits were possessing
them right and that’s why people say all
kinds of stuff you’re like whoa where
did that come from nobody knows and
nobody wants to know right so realize
they aren’t bad people it’s just that
everybody is on a different path you’ve
got to start respecting yourself enough
to realize you want alone not even if
you want it to be alone you couldn’t be
alone but you’ve got to start reaching
out to other sober people who you like
I’m sure you got friends who are sober
is just that you probably don’t find
them as funny as the drunk ones so there
you have it love breathing in that good
ass prana have a beautiful day know your
Worth and connect with those who remind
you who you are well here infinite
waters to Haven deep once again stay well stay healthy peace
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