peace infinite waters diving deep once
again how to make friends with stress so
what’s the difference between fear and
stress fear is when you don’t want to go
to work stress is when you get there can
I get a hello there so there are all
kinds of stress job stress money stress
relationship stress how does my hair
look stress what am I gonna wear stress
I don’t know what to do stress help me
stress does my bum look big in this
stress do you like the pun dress stress
you get my drift so stress is affecting
all of us at some point in time now as a
psychologist I always believed that
stress was a negative thing you had to
get rid of it you had to run away from
it and now I tell the clients I work
with something totally different I found
out about another psychologist health
psychologist Kelly McGonigal and her
presentations are amazing she shows and
talks about the studies revealing how
people don’t die from stress people die
from what they believe to be stressful
so stress is neutral it is how we are
perceiving a stressful situation that
really affects the body so what happens
when you are stressed now you’re
sweating your heart is pounding
adrenaline and cortisol are being
released but also oxytocin is being
released now this is the bonding
neuro hormone the cuddle hormone you
just want to give everyone a big hug
well that’s what is being released when
you are stressed and we don’t even know
it so her research shows that when we
are stressed we actually can reach out
to other people and that is how to
change a stressful situation into a more
harmonious one so we have a question
that came in how do I know if people are
judging me all the time or it’s not just
a Jedi mind trick my mind is not just
playing tricks on me well I’ve got a
story for you we’re driving a couple of
days ago to San Diego a good friend and
I we’re driving along feels good
listening to music talking there what
was that looking around mmm don’t worry
driving air okay we better pull over so
we pull over on the highway and what
happens we’re saying oh no has this just
ruined our trip but we change how we saw
that event we said this is not going to
ruin the day so we were totally calm in
the situation and we just said
everything is going to work out and
guess what it did because we changed how
we felt about the situation we didn’t
allow the situation to govern how we
felt so in dealing with stressful
situations I always say that it’s about
interpretation how are you interpreting
what is taking place around you
do you feel it is to be feared so what
is stress I say stress is a self-created
feeling based on the pseudo realization
one does not have the capacity to
overcome a perceived experience so in
other words stress is perception based
you see if you feel people are judging
you they are trash-talking you what
happens now you are ascribing intent
which means you are placing meaning to
the smallest things you think everything
is being done in response to you you see
people that don’t have a lot of stress
they never ascribe in 10 they don’t say
okay this person didn’t email me back
because I’m not a good person no they
see that they are worthy that they are
loved that they are appreciated and that
is why they have less stress because
they are changing the way they are
perceiving the experience so you have
the placebo the sugar pill that makes us
feel like a superhero but wait a minute
it was just a sugar pill but we feel
great because we have changed our
interpretation of what this sugar pill
can actually do to us so this changes a
whole neuro chemistry on the flip side
you have the nocebo and placebo emanates
from the Latin I will please
no sebo emanates from the Latin I will
harm so we had dr. bruce lipton dive
with us he went into it so a nocebo is
negative thinking when we get addicted
to negative thinking now with
epigenetics our perception is changing
and altering our DNA so what happens
when we are for instance I love eating a
lot of plant-based foods no meat no
dairy for me but I don’t judge people
that eat it so what happens when I’m
traveling I want an aeroplane and I say
what’s in there uh we’re not sure sir
okay am I gonna get really stressed or
am I going to say to myself wait a
minute this is only a brief moment in
time I’m not going to be so stressed
about everything being perfect because
once I land I am heading into whole
foods we don’t live in a perfect world
we live in a perfect earth so once again
it’s all about realizing our brain
changes based on our experience what we
call neuro plasticity so to deal with
stress we have to start changing how we
feel about what is taking place now time
is an illusion that’s what I discovered
and that helped me to deal with stress
you see most of us is stress because we
feel we are running out of time but wait
a minute wait a minute what happens when
we realize time does not exist that is
what Albert Einstein realized
that is what the great physicist David
both realized that we kind of living in
a simulation but guess what many ancient
cultures also realize this the Hindus
talked of my how the world is a kind of
virtual reality illusion so you see once
you have this awareness stress becomes
something totally different so you have
to hand in some work you’ve got a
deadline oh you’re panicking you’re
sweating what am I going to do once you
realize that there is no deadline you
can stop changing the way you interact
with time because once again it is our
perception that creates time but it’s
all in our mind I say what’s helped me
along my journey is being an alchemist I
talk of the four levels of consciousness
drone artist alchemist magician so the
alchemist is one who changes a so-called
negative situation into a positive
situation and energy depleting
circumstance into an energy generating
circumstance and what happens there the
lift breaks down oh no what am I going
to do you can listen to beautiful
elevator music or you can have a panic
attack which one do you want to choose
you see because stressing about a
situation isn’t going to change a
situation because once again reality is
just like my wonderful friend so in your
Berra says is the realm of focus that’s
all it is so where are you placing your
focus when you are in a stressful
circumstance whatever you focus on gross
if you are focusing on how stressful
this situation is guess what you are
going to create more stress if you are
focusing that you can overcome this
circumstance you can make it into
whatever you want because in becoming
your greatest version you realize you
are powerful beyond measure now you
reclaim your power I say it’s not about
breaking down you see what happens when
we are placed in a stressful scenario
many of us myself along my early journey
I was having so many panic attacks now
this was coming because I was placing so
much pressure on myself so when you are
talking about being stressed you have to
look at the dynamics of the nocebo and
the placebo what affects them well you
have the expectation the expectation
from friends and family of what they
think you should be but the only thing
that matters is what your heart truly
desires you have the conditioning to
stress we are programmed to believe that
certain things will make us stressful so
for me even along my journey i program
myself to say wait a minute if i watch a
lot of fear-based news
is going to cause me a lot of stress but
no I just love it I just laugh at it
because I watched the new sometimes to
see what they’re not saying mmm so
stress creates a lot of resistance we’re
afraid of something happening but what
happens if you go to someone’s house and
they’ve got the news on this is going to
create a lot of stress if you perceive
the news to be causing you stress no it
doesn’t cause me any stress why because
I’m an optimist I am a magician I am an
architect of reality dealing with stress
is also about changing your environment
it’s not just about being in an
environment you’re absorbing all of this
energy and putting a smile on your face
it’s about moving to an environment
which is complimenting your own energy
which has your own best needs and
interests and that can help you an
environment that can help you and allow
you to become your greatest version but
just like the health psychologists Kelly
McGonigal says it’s about reaching out
that is how I deal with stressful
situations I have a great support
network every day I’m connecting with
amazing kindred spirits by communicating
by expressing how you feel now you are
tuning in to your emotions you’re not
running away now you start to relieve
stress you start to feel more harmony
more balanced more so more clarity so
there you have it enjoy life and change
the way you see stress that’s what I’m
doing make friends with stress because
in essence there is nothing
to phir let love guide you not fear we
are here infinite waters diving deep once again stay well stay healthy peace
again how to make friends with stress so
what’s the difference between fear and
stress fear is when you don’t want to go
to work stress is when you get there can
I get a hello there so there are all
kinds of stress job stress money stress
relationship stress how does my hair
look stress what am I gonna wear stress
I don’t know what to do stress help me
stress does my bum look big in this
stress do you like the pun dress stress
you get my drift so stress is affecting
all of us at some point in time now as a
psychologist I always believed that
stress was a negative thing you had to
get rid of it you had to run away from
it and now I tell the clients I work
with something totally different I found
out about another psychologist health
psychologist Kelly McGonigal and her
presentations are amazing she shows and
talks about the studies revealing how
people don’t die from stress people die
from what they believe to be stressful
so stress is neutral it is how we are
perceiving a stressful situation that
really affects the body so what happens
when you are stressed now you’re
sweating your heart is pounding
adrenaline and cortisol are being
released but also oxytocin is being
released now this is the bonding
neuro hormone the cuddle hormone you
just want to give everyone a big hug
well that’s what is being released when
you are stressed and we don’t even know
it so her research shows that when we
are stressed we actually can reach out
to other people and that is how to
change a stressful situation into a more
harmonious one so we have a question
that came in how do I know if people are
judging me all the time or it’s not just
a Jedi mind trick my mind is not just
playing tricks on me well I’ve got a
story for you we’re driving a couple of
days ago to San Diego a good friend and
I we’re driving along feels good
listening to music talking there what
was that looking around mmm don’t worry
driving air okay we better pull over so
we pull over on the highway and what
happens we’re saying oh no has this just
ruined our trip but we change how we saw
that event we said this is not going to
ruin the day so we were totally calm in
the situation and we just said
everything is going to work out and
guess what it did because we changed how
we felt about the situation we didn’t
allow the situation to govern how we
felt so in dealing with stressful
situations I always say that it’s about
interpretation how are you interpreting
what is taking place around you
do you feel it is to be feared so what
is stress I say stress is a self-created
feeling based on the pseudo realization
one does not have the capacity to
overcome a perceived experience so in
other words stress is perception based
you see if you feel people are judging
you they are trash-talking you what
happens now you are ascribing intent
which means you are placing meaning to
the smallest things you think everything
is being done in response to you you see
people that don’t have a lot of stress
they never ascribe in 10 they don’t say
okay this person didn’t email me back
because I’m not a good person no they
see that they are worthy that they are
loved that they are appreciated and that
is why they have less stress because
they are changing the way they are
perceiving the experience so you have
the placebo the sugar pill that makes us
feel like a superhero but wait a minute
it was just a sugar pill but we feel
great because we have changed our
interpretation of what this sugar pill
can actually do to us so this changes a
whole neuro chemistry on the flip side
you have the nocebo and placebo emanates
from the Latin I will please
no sebo emanates from the Latin I will
harm so we had dr. bruce lipton dive
with us he went into it so a nocebo is
negative thinking when we get addicted
to negative thinking now with
epigenetics our perception is changing
and altering our DNA so what happens
when we are for instance I love eating a
lot of plant-based foods no meat no
dairy for me but I don’t judge people
that eat it so what happens when I’m
traveling I want an aeroplane and I say
what’s in there uh we’re not sure sir
okay am I gonna get really stressed or
am I going to say to myself wait a
minute this is only a brief moment in
time I’m not going to be so stressed
about everything being perfect because
once I land I am heading into whole
foods we don’t live in a perfect world
we live in a perfect earth so once again
it’s all about realizing our brain
changes based on our experience what we
call neuro plasticity so to deal with
stress we have to start changing how we
feel about what is taking place now time
is an illusion that’s what I discovered
and that helped me to deal with stress
you see most of us is stress because we
feel we are running out of time but wait
a minute wait a minute what happens when
we realize time does not exist that is
what Albert Einstein realized
that is what the great physicist David
both realized that we kind of living in
a simulation but guess what many ancient
cultures also realize this the Hindus
talked of my how the world is a kind of
virtual reality illusion so you see once
you have this awareness stress becomes
something totally different so you have
to hand in some work you’ve got a
deadline oh you’re panicking you’re
sweating what am I going to do once you
realize that there is no deadline you
can stop changing the way you interact
with time because once again it is our
perception that creates time but it’s
all in our mind I say what’s helped me
along my journey is being an alchemist I
talk of the four levels of consciousness
drone artist alchemist magician so the
alchemist is one who changes a so-called
negative situation into a positive
situation and energy depleting
circumstance into an energy generating
circumstance and what happens there the
lift breaks down oh no what am I going
to do you can listen to beautiful
elevator music or you can have a panic
attack which one do you want to choose
you see because stressing about a
situation isn’t going to change a
situation because once again reality is
just like my wonderful friend so in your
Berra says is the realm of focus that’s
all it is so where are you placing your
focus when you are in a stressful
circumstance whatever you focus on gross
if you are focusing on how stressful
this situation is guess what you are
going to create more stress if you are
focusing that you can overcome this
circumstance you can make it into
whatever you want because in becoming
your greatest version you realize you
are powerful beyond measure now you
reclaim your power I say it’s not about
breaking down you see what happens when
we are placed in a stressful scenario
many of us myself along my early journey
I was having so many panic attacks now
this was coming because I was placing so
much pressure on myself so when you are
talking about being stressed you have to
look at the dynamics of the nocebo and
the placebo what affects them well you
have the expectation the expectation
from friends and family of what they
think you should be but the only thing
that matters is what your heart truly
desires you have the conditioning to
stress we are programmed to believe that
certain things will make us stressful so
for me even along my journey i program
myself to say wait a minute if i watch a
lot of fear-based news
is going to cause me a lot of stress but
no I just love it I just laugh at it
because I watched the new sometimes to
see what they’re not saying mmm so
stress creates a lot of resistance we’re
afraid of something happening but what
happens if you go to someone’s house and
they’ve got the news on this is going to
create a lot of stress if you perceive
the news to be causing you stress no it
doesn’t cause me any stress why because
I’m an optimist I am a magician I am an
architect of reality dealing with stress
is also about changing your environment
it’s not just about being in an
environment you’re absorbing all of this
energy and putting a smile on your face
it’s about moving to an environment
which is complimenting your own energy
which has your own best needs and
interests and that can help you an
environment that can help you and allow
you to become your greatest version but
just like the health psychologists Kelly
McGonigal says it’s about reaching out
that is how I deal with stressful
situations I have a great support
network every day I’m connecting with
amazing kindred spirits by communicating
by expressing how you feel now you are
tuning in to your emotions you’re not
running away now you start to relieve
stress you start to feel more harmony
more balanced more so more clarity so
there you have it enjoy life and change
the way you see stress that’s what I’m
doing make friends with stress because
in essence there is nothing
to phir let love guide you not fear we
are here infinite waters diving deep once again stay well stay healthy peace
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