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something that I’ve learned from Drew
Houston the founder and CEO of Dropbox I
think I was like 20 years old and you
know it’s a pretty cool brunch to be
having I’m sitting there with him and
I’m asking similar questions and he told
me something that was amazing
he said the problem people have with
dealing with uncertainty which is
uncertainty is entrepreneurship that’s
the difference between being an employee
and being an entrepreneur is the
entrepreneur takes on the uncertainty
right true said the key that people
misunderstand about uncertainty is that
you’re not born with it it’s a muscle
and people just assume that because they
don’t have it it’s not for them he said
if you think of uncertainty as a muscle
and you train it like a muscle things
start changing let’s say you haven’t
worked out your biceps you don’t go to
the gym and just start lifting the 60
pound dumbbell no you start with two and
then you just go five and you go ten and
then you take you know a couple days off
you have to you know have rest days if
you think of it the way you train a
muscle
all of a sudden uncertainty becomes this
manageable thing where you start small
and you work your way up in something
that drew said that I love you said when
you feel that pain that means you’re
working up a weight class and then he
said when you pull a muscle like
psychologically if you’ve taken on so
much uncertainty that you’re having a
panic attack
you’re way too high in your wake us tone
it down a little it doesn’t mean it’s
not for you but you know if you’re lit
I’ve done it you know you’re lifting
weights and you you know pull something
all right you’re gonna go down maybe 10
or 20 pounds the next time you go into
the gym and then you work your way
slowly back up I’ve learned that
insecurities will never leave you
just like with fear they’re a natural
part of the human condition so your goal
shouldn’t be to rid yourself of
insecurities it should be to become so
aware of them that they could be
yammering away and you go oh that’s just
the insecurities because when they’re
calling the shots when they’re
determining determining your actions
whether it’s your insecurities and I’m
not enough I’m worthless I’m invisible
I’m unlovable people are gonna abandon
me when you’re not aware that that’s
driving your actions that’s when you get
yourself into the biggest biggest
disasters of your life if anyone out
there is dealing with and insecurity
that they want help you know growing
through the first step is getting rid of
the shame that surrounds it because the
shame is what traps that insecurity
think of the insecurities like a bug and
the shame is like the the glass on top
of the bug you can’t deal with that bug
if there’s this guardrail and the thing
about shame is that shame can only live
in secrecy
the second you speak something out loud
it doesn’t have power over you
and even in the writing of this book
that was some of the hardest stuff when
I was a kid out to get bullied and they
would call me like Fatima nya first of
all it’s still weird to even speak those
words out loud but the fat the act of
writing it even the act of saying it the
next time it’s gonna be easier and as
soon as it doesn’t become the secret
anymore you can start dealing with it so
anyone is dealing with an insecurity
whether it’s being invisible or not
being enough speak it out loud whether
it’s in therapy whether it’s and friends
with friends or if it’s just writing it
in your journal because only then can
you start to deal with it what are some
of the most impressive third door
moments that you heard from other people
researching the book my favorite is
Spielberg’s because in many ways
Spielberg’s third door story embodies so
much of the third door in general and
the reason I love it so much is because
of how it starts he was rejected from
the film school which is bonkers you
know it’s like Bill Gates being turned
down from a computer science class you
know Spielberg was rejected from USC
film school multiple times and he when I
loved that is that instead of doing what
most people would do is think you know
maybe I’m not cut out for this he
decided he was gonna take his education
into his own hands
so what he did is he registered for Cal
State Long Beach which isn’t which isn’t
too far away and he arranged his classes
so he would only be there you know
Tuesdays and Thursdays and he decided he
would find a way to break into Hollywood
so what he did is and we’ve been to
Universal Studios theme park so you know
that tram ride like it takes on the
backlot
so Spielberg when he was 19 goes to
Universal Studios goes on the tram ride
goes around the back lot jumps off the
tram hides in a bathroom waits for the
tram to ride away and starts wandering
a lot and yes popping his head here and
there and this older gentleman his name
is Chuck silver stops him and Chuck
Silver’s worked for the universal
television library and you know this 19
year olds kid – starts mumbling saying
like you know my biggest dream is to be
a director and they end up actually
talking for about an hour and Chuck
Silver’s goes not to come back on the
lot and it’s be aware something that
would be my biggest dream so Chuck
Silver’s writes in this three day pass
and hands each other and Spielberg you
know comes on day one day two day three
but on day four he comes back onto the
lot wearing a suit holding his dad’s
briefcase walks up to the security
entrance puts the hand in the air and
goes hey Scotty
and Scotty just waves back and he walks
right in and 4-month Spielberg would
walk back onto the lot and sneak into
soundstages go into editing rooms asking
actors and actresses and producers out
to lunch choking up as much knowledge as
he could and again what I love about is
this is a kid who was rejected from film
school and in many ways he created his
own film school and you know he’s going
around the lod and after a while Chuck
silvers who became a mentor to him said
one of the best piece of advice he could
have given he said Steven there needs to
be a point where you stop snoozing and
you come back with something of quality
to show people
and Spielberg you know took that hard
you know we were talking a hard piece of
advice he took that hard piece of advice
to heart and he stopped coming to the
lot and started creating this short film
called Amblin and he spent months
editing and even the way he produced and
got the money for the film is like a
third door story in and of itself but he
makes this little short film comes back
to the lot shows it to Chuck Silver’s
and it’s so good that a single tear
comes down Chuck so Christmas and
Silver’s reaches for the phone and calls
up Sid Sheinberg the vice president of
the universe of television and go Sid I
have something you have to see you know
this guy’s the VP of television
universally it’s like look there’s a lot
of things that I need to see and he goes
no no no no you need to see this right
now and he goes you think it’s that god
that important he goes yes it’s that
goddamn important if you don’t watch
this tonight somebody else wrote and the
best part of the story the Sid Sid
Sheinberg still was sort of like
lukewarm so Chuck Silver’s call this is
bakwin had projectionists Chuck Silver’s
called the projectionists for Sid
Sheinberg hapax I was like look Sid
doesn’t want to watch this and when he
gets to the Univ the projection room
tonight put this first he pretty much
put his entire reputation on the line
for this young 19 year old Steven
Spielberg and as soon as Sid Sheinberg
watched the movie he said he wanted to
meet Spielberg immediately it’s people
ran over got to the big office and on
the spot he got offered a seven-year
contract and that’s how he became the
youngest director in Hollywood history
and when I reflect back on this story
you know there’s a million things that
worked well but you know Spielberg had
incredible talent but so do a lot of
aspiring directors what made the
difference and to me it was really like
this people game that he played you know
jumping off the law and meeting
different people but a people game sort
of sounds like you know networking at a
career fair
to me it was like this Spielberg game
you know jump off the bus find your
inside man and use him or her as your
way in and really the key is that Inside
Man because if you think about it
without Chuck Silver’s one writing that
pass to which I think is one of the most
important giving Spielberg that advice
that only someone inside of the studio
would know to tell him and then three
which is the ultimate one putting his
reputation on the line so Spielberg
could get his foot in the door none of
this would have happened and to me I’ve
realized every single person doesn’t
matter if it’s Bill Gates Lady Gaga Maya
Angelou Steve Wozniak we’ve all had an
inside man or woman who’s believed in
them enough to put the reputation on the line to open that door
something that I’ve learned from Drew
Houston the founder and CEO of Dropbox I
think I was like 20 years old and you
know it’s a pretty cool brunch to be
having I’m sitting there with him and
I’m asking similar questions and he told
me something that was amazing
he said the problem people have with
dealing with uncertainty which is
uncertainty is entrepreneurship that’s
the difference between being an employee
and being an entrepreneur is the
entrepreneur takes on the uncertainty
right true said the key that people
misunderstand about uncertainty is that
you’re not born with it it’s a muscle
and people just assume that because they
don’t have it it’s not for them he said
if you think of uncertainty as a muscle
and you train it like a muscle things
start changing let’s say you haven’t
worked out your biceps you don’t go to
the gym and just start lifting the 60
pound dumbbell no you start with two and
then you just go five and you go ten and
then you take you know a couple days off
you have to you know have rest days if
you think of it the way you train a
muscle
all of a sudden uncertainty becomes this
manageable thing where you start small
and you work your way up in something
that drew said that I love you said when
you feel that pain that means you’re
working up a weight class and then he
said when you pull a muscle like
psychologically if you’ve taken on so
much uncertainty that you’re having a
panic attack
you’re way too high in your wake us tone
it down a little it doesn’t mean it’s
not for you but you know if you’re lit
I’ve done it you know you’re lifting
weights and you you know pull something
all right you’re gonna go down maybe 10
or 20 pounds the next time you go into
the gym and then you work your way
slowly back up I’ve learned that
insecurities will never leave you
just like with fear they’re a natural
part of the human condition so your goal
shouldn’t be to rid yourself of
insecurities it should be to become so
aware of them that they could be
yammering away and you go oh that’s just
the insecurities because when they’re
calling the shots when they’re
determining determining your actions
whether it’s your insecurities and I’m
not enough I’m worthless I’m invisible
I’m unlovable people are gonna abandon
me when you’re not aware that that’s
driving your actions that’s when you get
yourself into the biggest biggest
disasters of your life if anyone out
there is dealing with and insecurity
that they want help you know growing
through the first step is getting rid of
the shame that surrounds it because the
shame is what traps that insecurity
think of the insecurities like a bug and
the shame is like the the glass on top
of the bug you can’t deal with that bug
if there’s this guardrail and the thing
about shame is that shame can only live
in secrecy
the second you speak something out loud
it doesn’t have power over you
and even in the writing of this book
that was some of the hardest stuff when
I was a kid out to get bullied and they
would call me like Fatima nya first of
all it’s still weird to even speak those
words out loud but the fat the act of
writing it even the act of saying it the
next time it’s gonna be easier and as
soon as it doesn’t become the secret
anymore you can start dealing with it so
anyone is dealing with an insecurity
whether it’s being invisible or not
being enough speak it out loud whether
it’s in therapy whether it’s and friends
with friends or if it’s just writing it
in your journal because only then can
you start to deal with it what are some
of the most impressive third door
moments that you heard from other people
researching the book my favorite is
Spielberg’s because in many ways
Spielberg’s third door story embodies so
much of the third door in general and
the reason I love it so much is because
of how it starts he was rejected from
the film school which is bonkers you
know it’s like Bill Gates being turned
down from a computer science class you
know Spielberg was rejected from USC
film school multiple times and he when I
loved that is that instead of doing what
most people would do is think you know
maybe I’m not cut out for this he
decided he was gonna take his education
into his own hands
so what he did is he registered for Cal
State Long Beach which isn’t which isn’t
too far away and he arranged his classes
so he would only be there you know
Tuesdays and Thursdays and he decided he
would find a way to break into Hollywood
so what he did is and we’ve been to
Universal Studios theme park so you know
that tram ride like it takes on the
backlot
so Spielberg when he was 19 goes to
Universal Studios goes on the tram ride
goes around the back lot jumps off the
tram hides in a bathroom waits for the
tram to ride away and starts wandering
a lot and yes popping his head here and
there and this older gentleman his name
is Chuck silver stops him and Chuck
Silver’s worked for the universal
television library and you know this 19
year olds kid – starts mumbling saying
like you know my biggest dream is to be
a director and they end up actually
talking for about an hour and Chuck
Silver’s goes not to come back on the
lot and it’s be aware something that
would be my biggest dream so Chuck
Silver’s writes in this three day pass
and hands each other and Spielberg you
know comes on day one day two day three
but on day four he comes back onto the
lot wearing a suit holding his dad’s
briefcase walks up to the security
entrance puts the hand in the air and
goes hey Scotty
and Scotty just waves back and he walks
right in and 4-month Spielberg would
walk back onto the lot and sneak into
soundstages go into editing rooms asking
actors and actresses and producers out
to lunch choking up as much knowledge as
he could and again what I love about is
this is a kid who was rejected from film
school and in many ways he created his
own film school and you know he’s going
around the lod and after a while Chuck
silvers who became a mentor to him said
one of the best piece of advice he could
have given he said Steven there needs to
be a point where you stop snoozing and
you come back with something of quality
to show people
and Spielberg you know took that hard
you know we were talking a hard piece of
advice he took that hard piece of advice
to heart and he stopped coming to the
lot and started creating this short film
called Amblin and he spent months
editing and even the way he produced and
got the money for the film is like a
third door story in and of itself but he
makes this little short film comes back
to the lot shows it to Chuck Silver’s
and it’s so good that a single tear
comes down Chuck so Christmas and
Silver’s reaches for the phone and calls
up Sid Sheinberg the vice president of
the universe of television and go Sid I
have something you have to see you know
this guy’s the VP of television
universally it’s like look there’s a lot
of things that I need to see and he goes
no no no no you need to see this right
now and he goes you think it’s that god
that important he goes yes it’s that
goddamn important if you don’t watch
this tonight somebody else wrote and the
best part of the story the Sid Sid
Sheinberg still was sort of like
lukewarm so Chuck Silver’s call this is
bakwin had projectionists Chuck Silver’s
called the projectionists for Sid
Sheinberg hapax I was like look Sid
doesn’t want to watch this and when he
gets to the Univ the projection room
tonight put this first he pretty much
put his entire reputation on the line
for this young 19 year old Steven
Spielberg and as soon as Sid Sheinberg
watched the movie he said he wanted to
meet Spielberg immediately it’s people
ran over got to the big office and on
the spot he got offered a seven-year
contract and that’s how he became the
youngest director in Hollywood history
and when I reflect back on this story
you know there’s a million things that
worked well but you know Spielberg had
incredible talent but so do a lot of
aspiring directors what made the
difference and to me it was really like
this people game that he played you know
jumping off the law and meeting
different people but a people game sort
of sounds like you know networking at a
career fair
to me it was like this Spielberg game
you know jump off the bus find your
inside man and use him or her as your
way in and really the key is that Inside
Man because if you think about it
without Chuck Silver’s one writing that
pass to which I think is one of the most
important giving Spielberg that advice
that only someone inside of the studio
would know to tell him and then three
which is the ultimate one putting his
reputation on the line so Spielberg
could get his foot in the door none of
this would have happened and to me I’ve
realized every single person doesn’t
matter if it’s Bill Gates Lady Gaga Maya
Angelou Steve Wozniak we’ve all had an
inside man or woman who’s believed in
them enough to put the reputation on the line to open that door
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