I think that decision-making is a part
of the issue of assertiveness it’s
always thinking about assertiveness at
home
assertiveness you can be with other
people but you have to be assertive with
yourself and make personal decisions I
know of a woman who takes somebody else
to go shopping with him because she
can’t make a decision as to when to buy
the the pink or the blue but back in my
office I used to have a poster that
showed a dog standing between two fire
hydrants and the caption was decisions
decisions and sometimes the decisions
that we are indecisive about our of no
greater consequences
I remember in the show there was a whole
argument at a meeting from the the
shield organization about an affair that
they were going to have whether they
should have the keyhole with sugar or
the keyhole without sugar I mean this is
this is but there are decisions in life
that are much greater than that I mean
make the decision as to who you’re going
to marry a decision what kind of
profession you want what kind of job you
want as a doctor I have to make a
decision how I’m going to treat the
patient right sometimes the decision do
do we take a chance I’m sorry whatever
the risk of surgery so there’s all
levels of decision-making first thing we
have to realize is we are not always
going to make the correct decision all
right only God can be right 100% of the
time I’m going to make wrong decisions
but my decision-making has to be with
integrity if I’m going to think about
whether I should operate on a patient or
not it’s not because how much I could
collect for the operation right but what
is the best thing for this patient so
first of all we have to realize that we
are housed within a physical body that
has desires and has impulses etc and
that they may color our DC
and making right we may not realize that
sometimes we’re bribed and the bribe is
because we want things to turn out a
certain way and we don’t make the
decision on what is really right because
we see what is really right what we want
to be right so there was a one of the
greater city Grevy’s who was asked by
one of his followers how can I make good
decisions
so the Rebbe said did you ever watch the
type Court Walker he said the way a
tightrope walker keeps his balance is
that if he feels himself pulled over to
the one side he overcorrects by leaning
to the other side and that’s how he
keeps his balance he says when you have
a desire to do something the first thing
your to recognize is most of the desires
come from animalistic traits so the
first thing you should do is think as to
why you should not do it right and then
when you lean over to that side then you
may make a decision I think that we have
to have self-confidence in our decisions
and realize I am capable of making
decisions there are times when I have to
ask expertise at expert advice but given
that ultimately decisions are mine and I
also have to realize that not making a
decision is a decision that I’ve decided
not to make a decision right and I have
to realize that if I’m not gonna make
decisions people other people are gonna
make them for me right and that the
decisions that other people are gonna
make for me I’m much was actually much
worse than these and then the worst
decision that I can make for myself
right because I have my my own interest
and I really most people know what’s
good for them so I think that making
decisions means getting the best
possible information right and having
self-confidence I think it’s appropriate
to pray for decisions right and that’s
for divine guidance and help me make the
right decision and then not to be shaken
by the fact that after we do the best we
can that the decision may not work
the way loo want right and not to see
that a decision that has poor
consequences not to sees that as a
horrible failure on our part
I only say our decisions are good or bad
determined by how we made them not what the consequences were
of the issue of assertiveness it’s
always thinking about assertiveness at
home
assertiveness you can be with other
people but you have to be assertive with
yourself and make personal decisions I
know of a woman who takes somebody else
to go shopping with him because she
can’t make a decision as to when to buy
the the pink or the blue but back in my
office I used to have a poster that
showed a dog standing between two fire
hydrants and the caption was decisions
decisions and sometimes the decisions
that we are indecisive about our of no
greater consequences
I remember in the show there was a whole
argument at a meeting from the the
shield organization about an affair that
they were going to have whether they
should have the keyhole with sugar or
the keyhole without sugar I mean this is
this is but there are decisions in life
that are much greater than that I mean
make the decision as to who you’re going
to marry a decision what kind of
profession you want what kind of job you
want as a doctor I have to make a
decision how I’m going to treat the
patient right sometimes the decision do
do we take a chance I’m sorry whatever
the risk of surgery so there’s all
levels of decision-making first thing we
have to realize is we are not always
going to make the correct decision all
right only God can be right 100% of the
time I’m going to make wrong decisions
but my decision-making has to be with
integrity if I’m going to think about
whether I should operate on a patient or
not it’s not because how much I could
collect for the operation right but what
is the best thing for this patient so
first of all we have to realize that we
are housed within a physical body that
has desires and has impulses etc and
that they may color our DC
and making right we may not realize that
sometimes we’re bribed and the bribe is
because we want things to turn out a
certain way and we don’t make the
decision on what is really right because
we see what is really right what we want
to be right so there was a one of the
greater city Grevy’s who was asked by
one of his followers how can I make good
decisions
so the Rebbe said did you ever watch the
type Court Walker he said the way a
tightrope walker keeps his balance is
that if he feels himself pulled over to
the one side he overcorrects by leaning
to the other side and that’s how he
keeps his balance he says when you have
a desire to do something the first thing
your to recognize is most of the desires
come from animalistic traits so the
first thing you should do is think as to
why you should not do it right and then
when you lean over to that side then you
may make a decision I think that we have
to have self-confidence in our decisions
and realize I am capable of making
decisions there are times when I have to
ask expertise at expert advice but given
that ultimately decisions are mine and I
also have to realize that not making a
decision is a decision that I’ve decided
not to make a decision right and I have
to realize that if I’m not gonna make
decisions people other people are gonna
make them for me right and that the
decisions that other people are gonna
make for me I’m much was actually much
worse than these and then the worst
decision that I can make for myself
right because I have my my own interest
and I really most people know what’s
good for them so I think that making
decisions means getting the best
possible information right and having
self-confidence I think it’s appropriate
to pray for decisions right and that’s
for divine guidance and help me make the
right decision and then not to be shaken
by the fact that after we do the best we
can that the decision may not work
the way loo want right and not to see
that a decision that has poor
consequences not to sees that as a
horrible failure on our part
I only say our decisions are good or bad
determined by how we made them not what the consequences were
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