my talk today is on energy and how to
manage it directed and invested into the
things that matter most in our life so
life is a manifestation of where you
direct your energy it truly is and what
we should really start with is to
actually look at energy the same way we
look at water if I took water if I took
a watering can and I watered a garden
bed with the weeds grow the flowers grow
both right water has no ability to
discriminate between the weeds and the
flowers whatever I water starts to grow
energy is the same way as well if I took
energy and I invested it into something
negative it will grow and become more
negative if I took energy invested it
into something positive it will grow and
become more positive energy has no
ability to discriminate between what’s
positive and what’s negative whatever
you invest energy into starts to grow
and manifest in your life right now you
are the sum total of where you’ve been
investing your energy throughout your
entire life so the goal early in life is
to figure out what it is you want right
what’s your purpose in life who and
what’s important in your life
and be able to direct energy towards
that so that you can manifest that in
your life so where do we begin with this
we begin by understanding how the mind
works I’ll have to say with you after
living 10 years it’s a celibate monk in
a cloistered monastery in Hawaii this
was probably the most important thing I
could ever share with you understanding
how the mind works from a monk’s
perspective of understanding a monk and
experience with a monk’s perspective of
understanding the mind and experience of
the mind in my perspective in my
experience of the mind there are two
things we need to understand awareness
and the mind let’s define what they are
let’s define awareness as a glowing ball
of light so imagine an orb a glowing
ball of light that can float around
let’s call that awareness and put that
aside now let’s define the mind let’s
define the – a vast space with many
different areas within it one area of
the mind is angry hatred jealousy joy
happiness sex food art science
technology whole bunch of different
things right
yo awareness that ball of light can
actually move to any area of the mind
you want it to go to so if your
awareness this glowing ball of light
goes to the happy area of the mind it
lights up that particular area of the
mind you become you become conscious of
being happy are you happy no you’re in
an air
the mind call happiness if this ball of
light goes to the angry air of the mind
it lights up that particular air of the
mine are you angry no you’re in an area
of the mind called anger and by using
your willpower and your powers of
concentration you can actually take your
Oh an as this wall of light to any area
of the mind that you want to go to and
here’s the most important part where
your awareness goes that’s where your
energy is flowing so if your awareness
goes to the anger of the mind your
energy is flowing there it’s actually
strengthening that particular of the
mind so this is a theory of it so let’s
do a little practical exercise to see if
this actually works or just some monk
talk okay so for that I need some
audience participation I need all of you
to sit up straight in your chair okay
and put your feet down on the ground and
if you’re leaning back in your chair sit
forward a little bit keep your spine
straight roll your shoulders back you
can keep your head nicely balanced on
top of your spine your eyes are closed
don’t worry we’re not gonna chant or
hold hands until later just kidding so
take a slow deep breath in with your
eyes closed take a slow deep breath in
slowly exhale and take another slow deep
breath in again and then slowly exhale I
want you to become aware of the chair
that you’re sitting on is it comfortable
is it not comfortable the temperature of
the room is it cold warm what about your
body posture is your spine straight your
shoulders roll back you’re sitting a
little bit forward your head nicely
balanced on top of your spine now I want
you to become aware of the most recent
wedding that you attended
do you remember whose wedding it is were
you happy for the couple getting married
try and think as much detail as you can
about the wedding to remember what you
wore to the wedding do you remember what
the bride wore did you make a good
choice with her dress how was the food
alcohol did you drink a lot was they
good music did you dance did you do some
crazy wedding dance now want you to
become aware of the most recent vacation
that you went on what kind of vacation
was it was it a surfing trip yoga
retreat holiday shopping camping
backpacking try and think as much detail
as you can about the vacation what was
the weather like where you went was a
cold rainy hot humid dry snowing do you
remember the favorite Hotel you stayed
in how was the food
bland spicy did you get sick eating the
food did you shop a lot what was one
thing you bought on the trip that you
really liked your eyes are still closed
and want you to become aware of the room
again
try and feel the temperature of the room
is it warm is it cold the chair you’re
sitting on is it comfortable is it not
is your spine still straight are you
hunching your shoulders roll back okay
slowly open your eyes and you can lean
back in your channel well thank you very
much for doing that exercise with me
that exercise is really to prove two
things to you one is there’s a clear
separation between awareness and the
mind two completely different things
second is you can actually take your
awareness and move it to any area of the
mind you want it to go too well you gave
me permission to do it so I took your
awareness from the room I took it to an
area of the subconscious mind where the
memory of the wedding resided and then I
took you to the vacation area of the
mine and then back to the room again how
do I know you were thinking about the
wedding well I had my eyes open and your
eyes were closed and when I asked
questions I could see the reactions in
your face did the bride make a good
choice with a headdress a couple of un
okay did you drink too much a few heads
went down so I knew you were thinking
about the wedding right so I took your
wareness different areas in the mind
this happens all day all day we allow
people and things around us to dictate
where awareness goes in our mind let’s
do one little exercise again just to
emphasize this point because to me this
is really really important and it’s the
crock of crux of really managing energy
in your life can you remember your first
kiss remember who it was to remember his
or her name do you remember where it
took place back at dad’s car behind the
garage what was the experience what was
the emotion that was associated with
that experience come on real think about
it wasn’t that long ago come on we
embarrassed
were you nervous do you remember do you
remember the person’s name okay some
people are laughing blushing do you
remember the first time someone you
loved someone really close to you passed
away do you remember that do you
remember getting a phone call being told
that this person that you love has just
died how did you feel
what was the emotions associated with
that experience did you have the
blessing of being able to see the body
do you remember standing next to the
body wondering how it felt knowing that
you never see this person again how did
it feel for you do you remember the
emotions isn’t it interesting in the
space of 60 to 90 seconds I took you
awareness from an area of the mind where
all of you is smiling or giggling or
slightly embarrassed to an area of the
mind where all of you are completely sad
that Saturday’s feeling the vibration of
the rooms has completely changed
right and I could take your awareness
now to an anger ear of the mind where
you all get anger you get up and you
leave and Sarah and a team would be
really upset with me and this happens
all day right all day we allow people
and things to dictate where awareness
goes and because they dictate where our
whens goes that’s where our energy flows
as well and where our energy flows is
what manifests in our life so really the
goal in life is not really to control
your mind but rather to control where
your awareness is going in within your
mind so don’t control your mind control
where your awareness goes within your
mind how do we do that we do that by
learning how so your spiritual practice
or your homework for taking away is to
control where your awareness goes in
your mind throughout the day and that’s
really it how do we do this we learn the
fine art of concentration first let’s
define what concentration is I define
concentration as the ability to keep
your awareness on one thing for an
extended period of time so if I can keep
my awareness on this lady and hold it on
her I’m concentrating if I allow my
awareness my ball of light to move away
I’m getting distracted
I used my willpower and I bring my
awareness back and I hold it on her
being able to do that allows me to
concentrate most people can’t
concentrate for two reasons right one is
they’ve never been taught how to
concentrate second is they never
practice concentration how many of you
growing up here in school had classes on
concentration every single day that you
the same way you had classes on
geography on math and science anybody I
travel all around the world and I asked
this question and nobody puts their hand
up how many of you when you were growing
up in school were told to concentrate
isn’t that amazing you get told to
concentrate but you never get taught how
to do it right when I was growing up I
got told to concentrate all the time
down the paani concentrate on doing your
homework dhandapani concentrate on
eating your food anybody want to show me
how to do it no how many of you have
kids how many of you tell your kids to
concentrate have you ever showed them
how to no right and then if you don’t
show them how to concentrate how would
they know how to do it and then if you
want to be good at something you have to
practice it if you want to be really
good at concentration
need to practice it all day people are
good at distraction because that’s what
they practice all day long it’s not that
they don’t have the ability to
concentrate they’ve just practice
distraction and become really really
good at it so how do we concentrate we
concentrate by practicing doing one
thing at a time and integrating this
practice into our everyday life so for
me I look at my average today and I ask
myself what’s a reoccurring event in my
life every day I speak with my spouse
every time I speak with my spouse I give
her my undivided attention I keep my
awareness on her it drifts away I bring
it back it drifts away I bring it back I
keep my awareness on her I give her my
undivided attention now every day I also
speak to my clients I speak with my
clients I speak with my friends family
every time I speak with somebody I give
them my undivided attention if I’m on
the phone I give the person on the phone
my undivided attention
I practice doing one thing at a time by
the end of the day I’ve talked about
maybe six to eight hours of practicing
concentration six months later I’ve
become really good at concentration
twelve months later I’d become really
good at concentration the best way to
become good at something is to take a
tool and insert it into a reoccurring
event in your life and this is the best
way to become good at something rather
than to create another practice in your
life just take a tool and insert it into
the practice into a reoccurring event in
your life so your homework is to give
someone or whatever you’re doing your
undivided attention pick one person in
your life for the next one month that
you will give your undivided attention
to every time you speak with that person
come stay completely focused on them
keep your awareness on them the rest of
the day you can go ahead and be a
squirrel but on just whenever you’re
speaking with that face and give that
person your undivided attention and you
need to practice and bill in incremental
steps the other thing we need to learn
to develop is how willpower
right everybody is born with various
levels of willpower but one thing we
never get taught to do is to actually
develop willpower and willpower is like
a muscle I call it a mental bicep so if
I could draw biceps around my mind there
would be my willpower the three ways to
develop willpower one finish what you
begin to finish it well beyond your
expectations three do a little bit more
than you think you’re able to do all of
these three ways require
effort and that effort is willpower
right so how do I develop willpower I
take these three methods and I apply it
to things that reoccur in my life what’s
something that reoccurs in my life every
day every day I sleep what a great
opportunity to about willpower before I
go to sleep I floss I brush my teeth put
on my pajamas I go to sleep when I wake
up in the morning I finish the process
of sleep how do I finish the process of
sleep I make the bed every day so every
day I wake up in the morning I make the
bed what’s something else I do every day
every day I have breakfast you have time
to make breakfast I have time to eat
breakfast then I have time to do the
breakfast dish and put it away right so
I finished the process that I began and
I bring this into everything that I do
then throughout the day I develop
willpower
the more I practices the better I get
now I have tremendous amount of
willpower after six months I’ve
developed a lot of willpower
every time my awareness drips away I use
that mental muscle that willpower to
bring my awareness back then I used the
powers of concentration that I’ve
developed to hold my awareness and what
I’m focused on and because I’m focusing
on that where my awareness goes energy
flows in my work now my energy is
flowing towards what I want that starts
to manifest in my life that’s why it’s
so important firstly to understand
there’s a separation between awareness
and the mind two completely different
things you control way awareness goes
you control where your energy is flowing
and you control what’s manifesting in
your life and you use your powers of
concentration you will power to hold
your awareness on the priorities in your
life the next thing we want to do is to
learn to manage energy in our life right
this is based on the premise that we
only have so much energy each day we
have a finite amount of energy each day
each day we have this much energy we
take our energy and we invest it into
people and things around us we keep
investing investing investing until we
have no more energy left we get
exhausted that’s usually around 11:00 or
11:30 or midnight we go to sleep our
energy builds up again we go out the
next day and we invest our energy into
people and things so we have no more
energy but but the one thing most people
don’t do is we never evaluate who and
what we’re investing I energy in so I
always tell people to treat energy the
same way you treat money
it’s a
finite resource that needs to be wisely
managed wisely reallocated and wisely
invested no matter how rich you are you
only have so much money right and before
you spend money most of us think and
evaluate what we’re investing our money
in if somebody asks us for five thousand
dollars or thirty thousand dollars to
invest into a startup or a company we
would ask questions we just wouldn’t
hand them thirty thousand dollars we
would ask what’s your plan with it what
are you going to do with this money
what’s my return on my investment
because it’s a finite resource so why
don’t we do the same thing with energy
before we invest energy into someone or
something why don’t we evaluate if that
person oh that thing is deserving of
energy because if you only have this
much energy in fact ten percent on my
energy and I gave it to John that’s ten
percent I could have given to my spouse
my business the things and people that I
love remember the law of thermodynamics
energy cannot be created or destroyed
but it can be transferred or transformed
from one thing to another right so I
can’t create energy if I give 10% to
John I want to know he’s gonna do
something good with it because if it’s
just gonna squander it I’d rather take
it and give it to the people and things
that I love so why is it important to
manage energy for me the greatest
impetus for managing energy is is death
death is the greatest impetus for me to
manage energy I realized that life is
finite that I only have one life as me
and regardless of my beliefs I know I
have one existence and as dhandapani and
what happens after death I’m not quite
sure we all have different upbringings
different religious beliefs
some people say when you die you go to
heaven or hell some people say when you
die it’s game over that’s it nothing
happens afterwards some people say when
you die you get reincarnated as a man or
woman another say you get reincarnated
as a man woman maybe an insect or an
animal but no one really knows we have
our beliefs and we hold strongly to them
but no one’s ever died going to have and
taking the selfie comeback posted it on
Instagram and say look at me here in
heaven hashtag pearly gates right so we
don’t quite know but the one definitive
thing is that we know we’re gonna die
and I know I have a finite amount of
life
I don’t believe life is short but I do
believe it’s finite and because I my
life is finite I want to be extremely
clear where to focus my energy there’s
no point learning to concentrate if you
don’t know what to concentrate on so
along with learning concentration it’s
really important to also learn what to
focus on so what I would recommend as a
homework is to be clear what your
purpose in life is one way to do this is
to spend five minutes each morning
reflecting on what your purpose of life
is get to know yourself most people are
happy to spend time with other people
and things but very few people actually
make time to spend time with themselves
so when you wake up in the morning take
a shower go to a quiet place in your
house sit down and ask yourself
questions about you what do you want in
life what’s my purpose in life why am I
here what do I love what am i passionate
about how many people can generally
answer this is might say this is my
purpose in life very very few people
once you clear with your purpose you
know what to concentrate on and you know
what to direct your finite amount of
energy to it right so the next thing we
want to look at is energy consumers
right people and things are two of the
biggest consumers of energy and people
and things also give you a lot of energy
since the subject is vast and time is
short let’s focus on the people that
consume energy and how we can deal with
them I call these people energy vampires
alright that’s what a vampire that’s
right bytes in and I can suck the life
out of you and some people consume
tremendous amount of energy essentially
speaking there are three types of people
and let’s keep this simple monk simple
there are uplifting people there are
neutral people and they are not
uplifting people okay let’s define what
this is okay well they are an uplifting
person I spend five minutes with an
uplifting person I walk away I feel
great and go like wow that was an
amazing conversation a neutral person I
spend five minutes with them I walk away
I’m still the same a non uplifting
person I spent five minutes with them I
walk away and I go like oh my god that
was exhausting
alright and you’ve probably experienced
that in your life so then the next
question is to ask is are they an energy
vampire the two ways to figure this out
one is I can judge or I can evaluate
right
what’s judging and evaluating
chuckling is this I’m at a party in New
York City in a penthouse there 200
people in the room the door opens this
guy walks and he’s about white shoes a
purple suit he’s got a cane and the top
hat he’s wearing a chain with a big
clock hanging off his chest I look
across the room and I go he must be a
pimp or drug dealer
that’s judging right I didn’t get to
know him I just judged he was a pimp a
drug dealer evaluation is this I spent
50 occasions with Jon over a period of
two years 49 of those I walk away from
and I go like oh my god that was
exhausting it’s safe for me to evaluate
that John is an g vampire okay then
there are two types of energy vampire
the next question is are there transient
energy vampire inherently a ninja
vampire right
what’s a transient energy vampire just
say John is going through a hard time in
life because his dad is dying of cancer
for example and for three years he
consumes a lot of energy you know he’s
always down you need to uplift him he’s
feeling very sad it’s okay you give him
that energy because he’s your friend and
that’s what we do we express compassion
empathy and love and we support our
friends during difficult times what
someone who’s inherently an energy
vampire someone who’s inherently energy
vampires are always been this way for
decades theses haven’t changed they’re
just not an uplifting human being at all
so how do we deal with someone who’s
inherently an energy vampire so before I
go there quick question for all of you
how many of you in this room feel like
you have someone who’s inherently an
energy vampire in your life that’s a lot
of people in this room right so how do
we deal with someone who’s inherently in
an g vampire right my guru taught me the
best way to do this is to practice the
art of being affectionately detached but
always kind gentle sincere and loving
towards them what does this mean so just
say John is inherently an energy vampire
I live in New York City I’m walking down
Fifth Avenue I see John walking towards
me what do i do do I cross the street
that’s not very nice
I meet John John meets me what do you
say when two people meet each other I
know what you guys say in Australia
g’day how’s it going Mike right do I say
that no do you know why you don’t us how
it’s true you have to understand I’m in
the Munk business when I ask somebody
how are you they tell me the entire life
story
it’s the confession time so I don’t even
ask how are you John asked me how are
you I say I’m doing very well thank you
very much and then I reply what a
beautiful day in Sydney right it’s true
I’m being sincere I’m being kind and
then I say to him please excuse me I
have something really important to do
it’s true my life is finite and I’m very
clear what my purpose is
right I’m not I’m not lying and then
what do people say at the end of a
conversation it was a pleasure meeting
you
actually it wasn’t let’s do lunch why
see you later
not really don’t want to why do we say
the things we don’t mean and ask the
questions we don’t want answers to so at
the end of a conversation I say have a
wonderful day which is true I know he’s
inherently an energy vampire but I do
wish he has a wonderful day
so the concept of being affectionately
detached is to not engage with someone
right is to be kind to be gentle to be
sincere and loving towards them but not
engaging with them what’s another way to
protect yourself from an energy vampire
is to place the burden of responsibility
on them what does that mean I’ll give
you an example I have a client of mine
who’s a expert in social media right so
a lot of people want to get together
with him have a cup of coffee a glass of
wine let’s catch up for lunch let’s do
dinner why because they want to pick his
brain right and get information from him
and he can’t sustained us because
everybody wants to a little bit of his
time and it’s just can’t live this way
so I told him this is what you need to
do you need to you need to tell this
person who wants to meet with you to
read your favorite marketing book read
your favorite marketing book write down
seven key points and email it to you
once you receive the seven key points
from the book tell them that you know
you want to see what sends out to them
in the book once you receive these seven
key points you email them and say let’s
meet up on this day for a couple hours
and we can discuss a marketing strategy
for you
strategy for you you know how many
people actually read the book and email
him the seven key points
nobody as soon as you place the burden
or responsibility on someone they don’t
do it I travel all around the world I
speak people come up to me and want to
ask questions I always give them my
personal email address I tell them
please don’t share it with anybody can
you put your question down on this email
and send it to me one will give me time
to reflect on it and I can give you a
proper response and they always say for
sure I’ll put it all down an email I’ll
send it to you you know how many people
email me nobody emails me simple little
tasks right I’m not asking them to do
yoga to meditate to breathe out of one
nostril you just send me an email with
your problems and they don’t do it so
place the burden a responsibility on
someone if you’re somebody who’s
developed a particular skill you’re an
expert in a particular niche in a
particular area and you find that people
want your time they want your energy the
one simple way to protect yourself is to
place a bit and responsibly tell them
give them a simple task to do and see if
they do it and if they fulfilled that
task and come back to you then go out of
your way to help them okay another thing
I want to talk about so your spiritual
practice is to every year evaluate the
people in your life so go through a
process evaluation and reallocate your
energy between people who uplift you and
people that don’t about uplift you and
this is something that I do all the time
right another thing I want to talk about
and wrap up with is mental energy
vampires what’s a mental energy vampire
mental energy vampire is a unresolved
emotional experiences that are sitting
in our subconscious right
most people how much subconscious mind
looks like this Indian flower markets
just packed with stuff because people
don’t resolve stuff as they go through
life right everything that is one
posture wants passed through your
conscious mind in the form of experience
is resident in your subconscious mind
and all these experiences have emotion
attached to them all right one simple
way to deal with unresolved emotional
experiences to do this exercise called
the bossa nada ha Tantra that’s a
Sanskrit name for it and what it really
is is to take a piece of paper and write
down the problem on it every experience
has emotion attached to it and I want to
share with you a quote from Tesla which
I think really income
encapsulate the philosophy that I
believe in though that I was trained in
in the monastry Tesla says if you want
to find the secrets of universe think in
terms of energy frequency and vibration
everything is made up of energy and it’s
vibrating in a certain frequency so if I
have an experience it has emotion
attached to it it’s vibrating in my
subconscious mind my goal is I can’t do
anything about the experience because
it’s already happened but what I can do
to help myself is to remove the emotion
that’s attached to experience so I take
a piece of paper I write down the
problem s I write down the problem
something really interesting happens the
experience moves from my subconscious
mind to my conscious mind because I’m
reliving it the interesting thing that
happens is the energy the emotion
actually comes out of the experience
flows through my hands into the piece of
paper
now I crumble the piece of paper and I
burn it in a fire and it could be a
garbage can a fireplace it doesn’t
really matter does the fire destroyed
the emotion no because you can’t destroy
energy well what it actually does is
transform the emotion in the paper into
heat flame ash smoke and a whole bunch
of different things I remember the first
time I ever shared this exercise was
with a group of entrepreneurs in Perth
actually about five years ago and one of
them said to me look down the ponty I
realized that experiences have emotion
attached to them and I realized as well
when you relive it or you’re writing
about it it goes from your subconscious
mind to your conscious mind but this
whole concept that emotion comes out of
the experience flows through your hands
into the piece of paper it’s find it
really hard to believe I can’t find it
that it’s a little bit too spiritual is
it fair enough so I asked them do you
have kids this is yeah I have a couple
of kids now for yolan six year old I
said on Father’s Day on your birthday
did I ever make you cards they said they
do that all time can you describe the
card well this they usually go to the
back of the house they find an old piece
of cardboard they draw on it they stick
a bunch of things on it stars and and a
bunch of ribbons and then on the last
day on my birthday they hand me the card
I said how does it look the gum wall
doesn’t look that great it’s made by a
foil but I said to you let me ask you
this way if you saw it in the store
would you pay money for it and they got
like no no way
but do you keep it he says yeah I keep
every single one and asked him why I
said well it’s so full of love so wait a
minute do you know you’re telling me
young your kids no monk magic
because two minutes ago I told you about
putting emotion and piece of paper and
you looked at me like I was a crazy
person and now your four-year-old son
knows how to do this right because he’s
taking a piece of paper put his emotion
in it a piece of paper that you don’t
want a cardboard that you didn’t want
put his emotion in it and now he’s
giving it to you and you hold it so you
can actually transfer energy from you
emotion from inside of you into another
matter how many of you have kids and
have one of those not so attractive
drawings at home do you keep them why
you’d never be able to sell it to
anybody nobody want to buy it all right
you keep it because they’re so full of
love it’s full of emotion right so you
can move emotion out of you so the
exercise here is really if you ever find
that you have unresolved emotional
experiences sitting in your subconscious
consuming tremendous amount of energy
take a piece of paper write it down and
then burn it in an ordinary fire how
many times you should you write well
depending on the emotion if it’s an
intense experience you might have to
write about it three or four times if
it’s not so intense maybe once or twice
so just to wrap up over here to know
yourself is one of the greatest gifts
you can give yourself it truly is right
most people don’t really understand
themselves they don’t understand what
they want in life and therefore find it
extremely difficult what to focus the
finite amount of energy on I want to
leave you with two quotes one from my
group the first one is proceed with
confidence right proceed with confidence
believe in your ability to manifest
something in your life because you can
how do you manifest something in your
life you take your awareness you focus
it on that thing you know how to develop
concentration now you keep your
awareness on it when you awareness is on
it that’s where your energy is flowing
when your energy flows there it starts
to manifest in your life and believe in
your ability to do that and proceed with
conference confidence the next thing is
life is meant to be lived joyously it
truly is and if you’re not happy with
life then something needs to be changed
if you ask most people what do they want
in life they’ll always say most people
often answer I want to be happy
happiness should never be pursued don’t
pursue happiness pursue a lifestyle the
results
happiness and that’s for me what I do I
never chase happiness I pursue a
lifestyle where the byproduct or the
lifestyle is happiness in order to find
out what the lifestyle is I need to know
what my purpose and life is in order to
do that I need to spend time with myself
each day to find out who and what’s
important in my life
take that finite amount of energy that I
have each day focus it into those things
that starts to manifest in my life the byproduct of that is happiness
manage it directed and invested into the
things that matter most in our life so
life is a manifestation of where you
direct your energy it truly is and what
we should really start with is to
actually look at energy the same way we
look at water if I took water if I took
a watering can and I watered a garden
bed with the weeds grow the flowers grow
both right water has no ability to
discriminate between the weeds and the
flowers whatever I water starts to grow
energy is the same way as well if I took
energy and I invested it into something
negative it will grow and become more
negative if I took energy invested it
into something positive it will grow and
become more positive energy has no
ability to discriminate between what’s
positive and what’s negative whatever
you invest energy into starts to grow
and manifest in your life right now you
are the sum total of where you’ve been
investing your energy throughout your
entire life so the goal early in life is
to figure out what it is you want right
what’s your purpose in life who and
what’s important in your life
and be able to direct energy towards
that so that you can manifest that in
your life so where do we begin with this
we begin by understanding how the mind
works I’ll have to say with you after
living 10 years it’s a celibate monk in
a cloistered monastery in Hawaii this
was probably the most important thing I
could ever share with you understanding
how the mind works from a monk’s
perspective of understanding a monk and
experience with a monk’s perspective of
understanding the mind and experience of
the mind in my perspective in my
experience of the mind there are two
things we need to understand awareness
and the mind let’s define what they are
let’s define awareness as a glowing ball
of light so imagine an orb a glowing
ball of light that can float around
let’s call that awareness and put that
aside now let’s define the mind let’s
define the – a vast space with many
different areas within it one area of
the mind is angry hatred jealousy joy
happiness sex food art science
technology whole bunch of different
things right
yo awareness that ball of light can
actually move to any area of the mind
you want it to go to so if your
awareness this glowing ball of light
goes to the happy area of the mind it
lights up that particular area of the
mind you become you become conscious of
being happy are you happy no you’re in
an air
the mind call happiness if this ball of
light goes to the angry air of the mind
it lights up that particular air of the
mine are you angry no you’re in an area
of the mind called anger and by using
your willpower and your powers of
concentration you can actually take your
Oh an as this wall of light to any area
of the mind that you want to go to and
here’s the most important part where
your awareness goes that’s where your
energy is flowing so if your awareness
goes to the anger of the mind your
energy is flowing there it’s actually
strengthening that particular of the
mind so this is a theory of it so let’s
do a little practical exercise to see if
this actually works or just some monk
talk okay so for that I need some
audience participation I need all of you
to sit up straight in your chair okay
and put your feet down on the ground and
if you’re leaning back in your chair sit
forward a little bit keep your spine
straight roll your shoulders back you
can keep your head nicely balanced on
top of your spine your eyes are closed
don’t worry we’re not gonna chant or
hold hands until later just kidding so
take a slow deep breath in with your
eyes closed take a slow deep breath in
slowly exhale and take another slow deep
breath in again and then slowly exhale I
want you to become aware of the chair
that you’re sitting on is it comfortable
is it not comfortable the temperature of
the room is it cold warm what about your
body posture is your spine straight your
shoulders roll back you’re sitting a
little bit forward your head nicely
balanced on top of your spine now I want
you to become aware of the most recent
wedding that you attended
do you remember whose wedding it is were
you happy for the couple getting married
try and think as much detail as you can
about the wedding to remember what you
wore to the wedding do you remember what
the bride wore did you make a good
choice with her dress how was the food
alcohol did you drink a lot was they
good music did you dance did you do some
crazy wedding dance now want you to
become aware of the most recent vacation
that you went on what kind of vacation
was it was it a surfing trip yoga
retreat holiday shopping camping
backpacking try and think as much detail
as you can about the vacation what was
the weather like where you went was a
cold rainy hot humid dry snowing do you
remember the favorite Hotel you stayed
in how was the food
bland spicy did you get sick eating the
food did you shop a lot what was one
thing you bought on the trip that you
really liked your eyes are still closed
and want you to become aware of the room
again
try and feel the temperature of the room
is it warm is it cold the chair you’re
sitting on is it comfortable is it not
is your spine still straight are you
hunching your shoulders roll back okay
slowly open your eyes and you can lean
back in your channel well thank you very
much for doing that exercise with me
that exercise is really to prove two
things to you one is there’s a clear
separation between awareness and the
mind two completely different things
second is you can actually take your
awareness and move it to any area of the
mind you want it to go too well you gave
me permission to do it so I took your
awareness from the room I took it to an
area of the subconscious mind where the
memory of the wedding resided and then I
took you to the vacation area of the
mine and then back to the room again how
do I know you were thinking about the
wedding well I had my eyes open and your
eyes were closed and when I asked
questions I could see the reactions in
your face did the bride make a good
choice with a headdress a couple of un
okay did you drink too much a few heads
went down so I knew you were thinking
about the wedding right so I took your
wareness different areas in the mind
this happens all day all day we allow
people and things around us to dictate
where awareness goes in our mind let’s
do one little exercise again just to
emphasize this point because to me this
is really really important and it’s the
crock of crux of really managing energy
in your life can you remember your first
kiss remember who it was to remember his
or her name do you remember where it
took place back at dad’s car behind the
garage what was the experience what was
the emotion that was associated with
that experience come on real think about
it wasn’t that long ago come on we
embarrassed
were you nervous do you remember do you
remember the person’s name okay some
people are laughing blushing do you
remember the first time someone you
loved someone really close to you passed
away do you remember that do you
remember getting a phone call being told
that this person that you love has just
died how did you feel
what was the emotions associated with
that experience did you have the
blessing of being able to see the body
do you remember standing next to the
body wondering how it felt knowing that
you never see this person again how did
it feel for you do you remember the
emotions isn’t it interesting in the
space of 60 to 90 seconds I took you
awareness from an area of the mind where
all of you is smiling or giggling or
slightly embarrassed to an area of the
mind where all of you are completely sad
that Saturday’s feeling the vibration of
the rooms has completely changed
right and I could take your awareness
now to an anger ear of the mind where
you all get anger you get up and you
leave and Sarah and a team would be
really upset with me and this happens
all day right all day we allow people
and things to dictate where awareness
goes and because they dictate where our
whens goes that’s where our energy flows
as well and where our energy flows is
what manifests in our life so really the
goal in life is not really to control
your mind but rather to control where
your awareness is going in within your
mind so don’t control your mind control
where your awareness goes within your
mind how do we do that we do that by
learning how so your spiritual practice
or your homework for taking away is to
control where your awareness goes in
your mind throughout the day and that’s
really it how do we do this we learn the
fine art of concentration first let’s
define what concentration is I define
concentration as the ability to keep
your awareness on one thing for an
extended period of time so if I can keep
my awareness on this lady and hold it on
her I’m concentrating if I allow my
awareness my ball of light to move away
I’m getting distracted
I used my willpower and I bring my
awareness back and I hold it on her
being able to do that allows me to
concentrate most people can’t
concentrate for two reasons right one is
they’ve never been taught how to
concentrate second is they never
practice concentration how many of you
growing up here in school had classes on
concentration every single day that you
the same way you had classes on
geography on math and science anybody I
travel all around the world and I asked
this question and nobody puts their hand
up how many of you when you were growing
up in school were told to concentrate
isn’t that amazing you get told to
concentrate but you never get taught how
to do it right when I was growing up I
got told to concentrate all the time
down the paani concentrate on doing your
homework dhandapani concentrate on
eating your food anybody want to show me
how to do it no how many of you have
kids how many of you tell your kids to
concentrate have you ever showed them
how to no right and then if you don’t
show them how to concentrate how would
they know how to do it and then if you
want to be good at something you have to
practice it if you want to be really
good at concentration
need to practice it all day people are
good at distraction because that’s what
they practice all day long it’s not that
they don’t have the ability to
concentrate they’ve just practice
distraction and become really really
good at it so how do we concentrate we
concentrate by practicing doing one
thing at a time and integrating this
practice into our everyday life so for
me I look at my average today and I ask
myself what’s a reoccurring event in my
life every day I speak with my spouse
every time I speak with my spouse I give
her my undivided attention I keep my
awareness on her it drifts away I bring
it back it drifts away I bring it back I
keep my awareness on her I give her my
undivided attention now every day I also
speak to my clients I speak with my
clients I speak with my friends family
every time I speak with somebody I give
them my undivided attention if I’m on
the phone I give the person on the phone
my undivided attention
I practice doing one thing at a time by
the end of the day I’ve talked about
maybe six to eight hours of practicing
concentration six months later I’ve
become really good at concentration
twelve months later I’d become really
good at concentration the best way to
become good at something is to take a
tool and insert it into a reoccurring
event in your life and this is the best
way to become good at something rather
than to create another practice in your
life just take a tool and insert it into
the practice into a reoccurring event in
your life so your homework is to give
someone or whatever you’re doing your
undivided attention pick one person in
your life for the next one month that
you will give your undivided attention
to every time you speak with that person
come stay completely focused on them
keep your awareness on them the rest of
the day you can go ahead and be a
squirrel but on just whenever you’re
speaking with that face and give that
person your undivided attention and you
need to practice and bill in incremental
steps the other thing we need to learn
to develop is how willpower
right everybody is born with various
levels of willpower but one thing we
never get taught to do is to actually
develop willpower and willpower is like
a muscle I call it a mental bicep so if
I could draw biceps around my mind there
would be my willpower the three ways to
develop willpower one finish what you
begin to finish it well beyond your
expectations three do a little bit more
than you think you’re able to do all of
these three ways require
effort and that effort is willpower
right so how do I develop willpower I
take these three methods and I apply it
to things that reoccur in my life what’s
something that reoccurs in my life every
day every day I sleep what a great
opportunity to about willpower before I
go to sleep I floss I brush my teeth put
on my pajamas I go to sleep when I wake
up in the morning I finish the process
of sleep how do I finish the process of
sleep I make the bed every day so every
day I wake up in the morning I make the
bed what’s something else I do every day
every day I have breakfast you have time
to make breakfast I have time to eat
breakfast then I have time to do the
breakfast dish and put it away right so
I finished the process that I began and
I bring this into everything that I do
then throughout the day I develop
willpower
the more I practices the better I get
now I have tremendous amount of
willpower after six months I’ve
developed a lot of willpower
every time my awareness drips away I use
that mental muscle that willpower to
bring my awareness back then I used the
powers of concentration that I’ve
developed to hold my awareness and what
I’m focused on and because I’m focusing
on that where my awareness goes energy
flows in my work now my energy is
flowing towards what I want that starts
to manifest in my life that’s why it’s
so important firstly to understand
there’s a separation between awareness
and the mind two completely different
things you control way awareness goes
you control where your energy is flowing
and you control what’s manifesting in
your life and you use your powers of
concentration you will power to hold
your awareness on the priorities in your
life the next thing we want to do is to
learn to manage energy in our life right
this is based on the premise that we
only have so much energy each day we
have a finite amount of energy each day
each day we have this much energy we
take our energy and we invest it into
people and things around us we keep
investing investing investing until we
have no more energy left we get
exhausted that’s usually around 11:00 or
11:30 or midnight we go to sleep our
energy builds up again we go out the
next day and we invest our energy into
people and things so we have no more
energy but but the one thing most people
don’t do is we never evaluate who and
what we’re investing I energy in so I
always tell people to treat energy the
same way you treat money
it’s a
finite resource that needs to be wisely
managed wisely reallocated and wisely
invested no matter how rich you are you
only have so much money right and before
you spend money most of us think and
evaluate what we’re investing our money
in if somebody asks us for five thousand
dollars or thirty thousand dollars to
invest into a startup or a company we
would ask questions we just wouldn’t
hand them thirty thousand dollars we
would ask what’s your plan with it what
are you going to do with this money
what’s my return on my investment
because it’s a finite resource so why
don’t we do the same thing with energy
before we invest energy into someone or
something why don’t we evaluate if that
person oh that thing is deserving of
energy because if you only have this
much energy in fact ten percent on my
energy and I gave it to John that’s ten
percent I could have given to my spouse
my business the things and people that I
love remember the law of thermodynamics
energy cannot be created or destroyed
but it can be transferred or transformed
from one thing to another right so I
can’t create energy if I give 10% to
John I want to know he’s gonna do
something good with it because if it’s
just gonna squander it I’d rather take
it and give it to the people and things
that I love so why is it important to
manage energy for me the greatest
impetus for managing energy is is death
death is the greatest impetus for me to
manage energy I realized that life is
finite that I only have one life as me
and regardless of my beliefs I know I
have one existence and as dhandapani and
what happens after death I’m not quite
sure we all have different upbringings
different religious beliefs
some people say when you die you go to
heaven or hell some people say when you
die it’s game over that’s it nothing
happens afterwards some people say when
you die you get reincarnated as a man or
woman another say you get reincarnated
as a man woman maybe an insect or an
animal but no one really knows we have
our beliefs and we hold strongly to them
but no one’s ever died going to have and
taking the selfie comeback posted it on
Instagram and say look at me here in
heaven hashtag pearly gates right so we
don’t quite know but the one definitive
thing is that we know we’re gonna die
and I know I have a finite amount of
life
I don’t believe life is short but I do
believe it’s finite and because I my
life is finite I want to be extremely
clear where to focus my energy there’s
no point learning to concentrate if you
don’t know what to concentrate on so
along with learning concentration it’s
really important to also learn what to
focus on so what I would recommend as a
homework is to be clear what your
purpose in life is one way to do this is
to spend five minutes each morning
reflecting on what your purpose of life
is get to know yourself most people are
happy to spend time with other people
and things but very few people actually
make time to spend time with themselves
so when you wake up in the morning take
a shower go to a quiet place in your
house sit down and ask yourself
questions about you what do you want in
life what’s my purpose in life why am I
here what do I love what am i passionate
about how many people can generally
answer this is might say this is my
purpose in life very very few people
once you clear with your purpose you
know what to concentrate on and you know
what to direct your finite amount of
energy to it right so the next thing we
want to look at is energy consumers
right people and things are two of the
biggest consumers of energy and people
and things also give you a lot of energy
since the subject is vast and time is
short let’s focus on the people that
consume energy and how we can deal with
them I call these people energy vampires
alright that’s what a vampire that’s
right bytes in and I can suck the life
out of you and some people consume
tremendous amount of energy essentially
speaking there are three types of people
and let’s keep this simple monk simple
there are uplifting people there are
neutral people and they are not
uplifting people okay let’s define what
this is okay well they are an uplifting
person I spend five minutes with an
uplifting person I walk away I feel
great and go like wow that was an
amazing conversation a neutral person I
spend five minutes with them I walk away
I’m still the same a non uplifting
person I spent five minutes with them I
walk away and I go like oh my god that
was exhausting
alright and you’ve probably experienced
that in your life so then the next
question is to ask is are they an energy
vampire the two ways to figure this out
one is I can judge or I can evaluate
right
what’s judging and evaluating
chuckling is this I’m at a party in New
York City in a penthouse there 200
people in the room the door opens this
guy walks and he’s about white shoes a
purple suit he’s got a cane and the top
hat he’s wearing a chain with a big
clock hanging off his chest I look
across the room and I go he must be a
pimp or drug dealer
that’s judging right I didn’t get to
know him I just judged he was a pimp a
drug dealer evaluation is this I spent
50 occasions with Jon over a period of
two years 49 of those I walk away from
and I go like oh my god that was
exhausting it’s safe for me to evaluate
that John is an g vampire okay then
there are two types of energy vampire
the next question is are there transient
energy vampire inherently a ninja
vampire right
what’s a transient energy vampire just
say John is going through a hard time in
life because his dad is dying of cancer
for example and for three years he
consumes a lot of energy you know he’s
always down you need to uplift him he’s
feeling very sad it’s okay you give him
that energy because he’s your friend and
that’s what we do we express compassion
empathy and love and we support our
friends during difficult times what
someone who’s inherently an energy
vampire someone who’s inherently energy
vampires are always been this way for
decades theses haven’t changed they’re
just not an uplifting human being at all
so how do we deal with someone who’s
inherently an energy vampire so before I
go there quick question for all of you
how many of you in this room feel like
you have someone who’s inherently an
energy vampire in your life that’s a lot
of people in this room right so how do
we deal with someone who’s inherently in
an g vampire right my guru taught me the
best way to do this is to practice the
art of being affectionately detached but
always kind gentle sincere and loving
towards them what does this mean so just
say John is inherently an energy vampire
I live in New York City I’m walking down
Fifth Avenue I see John walking towards
me what do i do do I cross the street
that’s not very nice
I meet John John meets me what do you
say when two people meet each other I
know what you guys say in Australia
g’day how’s it going Mike right do I say
that no do you know why you don’t us how
it’s true you have to understand I’m in
the Munk business when I ask somebody
how are you they tell me the entire life
story
it’s the confession time so I don’t even
ask how are you John asked me how are
you I say I’m doing very well thank you
very much and then I reply what a
beautiful day in Sydney right it’s true
I’m being sincere I’m being kind and
then I say to him please excuse me I
have something really important to do
it’s true my life is finite and I’m very
clear what my purpose is
right I’m not I’m not lying and then
what do people say at the end of a
conversation it was a pleasure meeting
you
actually it wasn’t let’s do lunch why
see you later
not really don’t want to why do we say
the things we don’t mean and ask the
questions we don’t want answers to so at
the end of a conversation I say have a
wonderful day which is true I know he’s
inherently an energy vampire but I do
wish he has a wonderful day
so the concept of being affectionately
detached is to not engage with someone
right is to be kind to be gentle to be
sincere and loving towards them but not
engaging with them what’s another way to
protect yourself from an energy vampire
is to place the burden of responsibility
on them what does that mean I’ll give
you an example I have a client of mine
who’s a expert in social media right so
a lot of people want to get together
with him have a cup of coffee a glass of
wine let’s catch up for lunch let’s do
dinner why because they want to pick his
brain right and get information from him
and he can’t sustained us because
everybody wants to a little bit of his
time and it’s just can’t live this way
so I told him this is what you need to
do you need to you need to tell this
person who wants to meet with you to
read your favorite marketing book read
your favorite marketing book write down
seven key points and email it to you
once you receive the seven key points
from the book tell them that you know
you want to see what sends out to them
in the book once you receive these seven
key points you email them and say let’s
meet up on this day for a couple hours
and we can discuss a marketing strategy
for you
strategy for you you know how many
people actually read the book and email
him the seven key points
nobody as soon as you place the burden
or responsibility on someone they don’t
do it I travel all around the world I
speak people come up to me and want to
ask questions I always give them my
personal email address I tell them
please don’t share it with anybody can
you put your question down on this email
and send it to me one will give me time
to reflect on it and I can give you a
proper response and they always say for
sure I’ll put it all down an email I’ll
send it to you you know how many people
email me nobody emails me simple little
tasks right I’m not asking them to do
yoga to meditate to breathe out of one
nostril you just send me an email with
your problems and they don’t do it so
place the burden a responsibility on
someone if you’re somebody who’s
developed a particular skill you’re an
expert in a particular niche in a
particular area and you find that people
want your time they want your energy the
one simple way to protect yourself is to
place a bit and responsibly tell them
give them a simple task to do and see if
they do it and if they fulfilled that
task and come back to you then go out of
your way to help them okay another thing
I want to talk about so your spiritual
practice is to every year evaluate the
people in your life so go through a
process evaluation and reallocate your
energy between people who uplift you and
people that don’t about uplift you and
this is something that I do all the time
right another thing I want to talk about
and wrap up with is mental energy
vampires what’s a mental energy vampire
mental energy vampire is a unresolved
emotional experiences that are sitting
in our subconscious right
most people how much subconscious mind
looks like this Indian flower markets
just packed with stuff because people
don’t resolve stuff as they go through
life right everything that is one
posture wants passed through your
conscious mind in the form of experience
is resident in your subconscious mind
and all these experiences have emotion
attached to them all right one simple
way to deal with unresolved emotional
experiences to do this exercise called
the bossa nada ha Tantra that’s a
Sanskrit name for it and what it really
is is to take a piece of paper and write
down the problem on it every experience
has emotion attached to it and I want to
share with you a quote from Tesla which
I think really income
encapsulate the philosophy that I
believe in though that I was trained in
in the monastry Tesla says if you want
to find the secrets of universe think in
terms of energy frequency and vibration
everything is made up of energy and it’s
vibrating in a certain frequency so if I
have an experience it has emotion
attached to it it’s vibrating in my
subconscious mind my goal is I can’t do
anything about the experience because
it’s already happened but what I can do
to help myself is to remove the emotion
that’s attached to experience so I take
a piece of paper I write down the
problem s I write down the problem
something really interesting happens the
experience moves from my subconscious
mind to my conscious mind because I’m
reliving it the interesting thing that
happens is the energy the emotion
actually comes out of the experience
flows through my hands into the piece of
paper
now I crumble the piece of paper and I
burn it in a fire and it could be a
garbage can a fireplace it doesn’t
really matter does the fire destroyed
the emotion no because you can’t destroy
energy well what it actually does is
transform the emotion in the paper into
heat flame ash smoke and a whole bunch
of different things I remember the first
time I ever shared this exercise was
with a group of entrepreneurs in Perth
actually about five years ago and one of
them said to me look down the ponty I
realized that experiences have emotion
attached to them and I realized as well
when you relive it or you’re writing
about it it goes from your subconscious
mind to your conscious mind but this
whole concept that emotion comes out of
the experience flows through your hands
into the piece of paper it’s find it
really hard to believe I can’t find it
that it’s a little bit too spiritual is
it fair enough so I asked them do you
have kids this is yeah I have a couple
of kids now for yolan six year old I
said on Father’s Day on your birthday
did I ever make you cards they said they
do that all time can you describe the
card well this they usually go to the
back of the house they find an old piece
of cardboard they draw on it they stick
a bunch of things on it stars and and a
bunch of ribbons and then on the last
day on my birthday they hand me the card
I said how does it look the gum wall
doesn’t look that great it’s made by a
foil but I said to you let me ask you
this way if you saw it in the store
would you pay money for it and they got
like no no way
but do you keep it he says yeah I keep
every single one and asked him why I
said well it’s so full of love so wait a
minute do you know you’re telling me
young your kids no monk magic
because two minutes ago I told you about
putting emotion and piece of paper and
you looked at me like I was a crazy
person and now your four-year-old son
knows how to do this right because he’s
taking a piece of paper put his emotion
in it a piece of paper that you don’t
want a cardboard that you didn’t want
put his emotion in it and now he’s
giving it to you and you hold it so you
can actually transfer energy from you
emotion from inside of you into another
matter how many of you have kids and
have one of those not so attractive
drawings at home do you keep them why
you’d never be able to sell it to
anybody nobody want to buy it all right
you keep it because they’re so full of
love it’s full of emotion right so you
can move emotion out of you so the
exercise here is really if you ever find
that you have unresolved emotional
experiences sitting in your subconscious
consuming tremendous amount of energy
take a piece of paper write it down and
then burn it in an ordinary fire how
many times you should you write well
depending on the emotion if it’s an
intense experience you might have to
write about it three or four times if
it’s not so intense maybe once or twice
so just to wrap up over here to know
yourself is one of the greatest gifts
you can give yourself it truly is right
most people don’t really understand
themselves they don’t understand what
they want in life and therefore find it
extremely difficult what to focus the
finite amount of energy on I want to
leave you with two quotes one from my
group the first one is proceed with
confidence right proceed with confidence
believe in your ability to manifest
something in your life because you can
how do you manifest something in your
life you take your awareness you focus
it on that thing you know how to develop
concentration now you keep your
awareness on it when you awareness is on
it that’s where your energy is flowing
when your energy flows there it starts
to manifest in your life and believe in
your ability to do that and proceed with
conference confidence the next thing is
life is meant to be lived joyously it
truly is and if you’re not happy with
life then something needs to be changed
if you ask most people what do they want
in life they’ll always say most people
often answer I want to be happy
happiness should never be pursued don’t
pursue happiness pursue a lifestyle the
results
happiness and that’s for me what I do I
never chase happiness I pursue a
lifestyle where the byproduct or the
lifestyle is happiness in order to find
out what the lifestyle is I need to know
what my purpose and life is in order to
do that I need to spend time with myself
each day to find out who and what’s
important in my life
take that finite amount of energy that I
have each day focus it into those things
that starts to manifest in my life the byproduct of that is happiness
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