hello everyone and welcome back to
english with lucy your newly engaged
teacher how exciting is that don’t make
me cry I have cried a lot
we designed the ring together very
exciting but back to english today I am
doing 20 engagement related not just
kidding you guys made me laugh so much
on my community tap when I told you I
was engaged but enough about that
today’s lesson is how to be polite in
English and the things you should say
and the things you should definitely not
say so I’m going to teach you really how
to avoid being rude and how to avoid
accidentally offending people before we
get started I’d just like to mention one
other thing that can drastically improve
your English skills
it’s the lingo to language marathon I’m
going to explain this fully at the end
of the video but if you can’t wait and
you want to know about it now I’m going
to show you the time on screen you can
click to that time and hear about the
marathon basically you can do 90 days of
English lessons with native teachers and
get a full refund
that’s up to 800 euros but first let’s
get started with the lesson so you’re
all making a valiant effort to improve
your English speaking skills I remember
when I was learning Spanish I was always
really really nervous about accidentally
offending somebody or seeming rude
without intending to naturally you want
to appear polite but obviously
non-native speakers don’t always know
all of the rules so in this English
lesson I’m going to teach you about
British English etiquette what you
definitely should say and most
importantly what you definitely
shouldn’t say I love participation with
my students so please do comment down
below with any thoughts that you might
have especially if you want to comment
on whether things are different or the
same in your country or culture so let’s
start off with something fairly basic
but very very important questions to
acquaintances firstly what’s an
acquaintance an acquaintance is somebody
you know but are not close friends with
in my
somebody you see at work every day you
might know their name but you’ve never
had a proper conversation with them I
have had acquaintances from other
cultures ask me really personal
questions and I have to admit I was
taken aback this is more of a cultural
issue rather than a linguistic issue but
I think the two go hand in hand so the
sorts of questions that you should
really only ask the people that you know
well are how old are you especially two
females for some reason that’s a big
stereotype you should never ask a woman
her age some reason people get really
offended when you ask how old they are
I don’t mind now I’m 25 I’m happy to say
that no no oh my god I got my age wrong
I’m 24 I always think I’m 25 even when I
was 23 I thought I was 25 that’s so dumb
anyway when I was younger like 18 19 I
almost didn’t want to tell people my age
especially in the workplace because I
didn’t want them to doubt me
they’ve treat me like an equal until
they realized I was a teenager and then
they thought that I was incapable of
everything another one is talking about
marriage are you married
why aren’t you married that’s a really
big one I’m desperate for everyone to
ask me if I’m married or engaged yet
because I just want to show everyone but
some people find it really offensive now
one big one which I definitely don’t
like to answer and I come up with
certain responses so don’t so I don’t
have to say anything is how much do you
earn and this was one that I experienced
in Spain it seemed that just quite
common conversation
quantico dress well most you earn in
England you were just a hundred percent
unless somebody offers you that
information which is considered impolite
as well you really shouldn’t talk about
money the same goes for how much do you
pay for rent
I remember being asked that a lot in
Spain as well and you just wouldn’t ask
someone in the UK the rent one I don’t
think is for me that’s not so rude
because you know I want to know the
house prices in the area and if you
don’t tell me I can find them out online
another one is about religion generally
we don’t talk about religion so I
wouldn’t ask do you believe in God I
wouldn’t ask what’s your religion
times I have mentioned my beliefs or
disbeliefs sometimes you know it’s
actually started a debate and people
have started to question why I think a
certain way and that’s not what I’m here
for
and the last one politics and especially
how do you feel about brexit what did
you vote in brexit leave or remain oh my
god
I don’t want to talk about it and quite
a few people would not be comfortable
with talking about it British people
hate offending people and with something
as divisive as brexit chances are you
are going to offend somebody or have
somebody question your morals and ethics
so in general we don’t talk about sex
and relationships politics money and
religion is that the same in your
country please comment down below I’m
dying to know now non-native speakers
are not at fault for appearing rude by
making this mistake it is complex and
I’d like to think that most native
speakers would appreciate non-native
speakers making the effort to speak
their language but there are some things
that can appear quite direct and to the
untrained ear could be deemed offensive
now in some languages and cultures it’s
not impolite to use the imperative in
everyday life in British English the
imperative is used to issue a command or
an order in some languages you might
just say pass the salt and that’s
absolutely fine in English it sounds
rude we need to say please and if you
receive the salt you have to say thank
you so I would never say pass the salt I
would say please could you pass the salt
you can use the imperative as a request
by adding please to the end like pass
the salt please
but it still doesn’t sound very polite
it sounds quite abrupt another example
give me the pen I would say please could
you pass the pen so what are some ways
we can make our requests more polite in
English let me give you a really good
template and format for making requests
in English we can use could you plus the
base verb let’s pretend that I want
somebody to hold my suitcase I could say
could you + base verb could you hold my
suitcase I could also say
would you mind plus ing verb would you
mind holding my suitcase another option
I wonder if you could + base verb I
wonder if you could hold my suitcase you
can also add possibly I wonder if you
could possibly hold my suitcase it is a
bit much but maybe you really want them
to hold your suitcase now there is
another format this is slightly more
persuasive we could say you couldn’t +
base verb could you you couldn’t hold my
suitcase could you or you wouldn’t be
able to + base verb would you you
wouldn’t be able to hold my suitcase
would you it’s quite warm and friendly I
like this way and the last one I don’t
suppose you could + base verb could you
I don’t suppose you could hold my
suitcase could you so that was talking
about being overly direct using
imperatives now let’s talk about being
in direct with idioms we like to use
idioms to beat around the bush to soften
the blow a little we always want to
avoid offending people so we like to
express things in an indirect manner now
obviously for non-native speakers this
is difficult because you need to know
these idioms if you don’t learn them you
don’t know them it’s as simple as that
I’m going to give you a couple of
options to use in the workplace you can
switch from just saying it directly to
using the idiom for example you might
say I think the receptionist is pregnant
but that could be offensive especially
if she’s not pregnant so it would be
better to say oh I think the
receptionist might have a bun in the
oven which obviously means she might be
pregnant
another one you could say I heard the
CEO died or in the British Way you could
say I heard the CEO passed away – pass
away is much softer than to die and the
last one you could say unfortunately we
had to fire him or much better much more
polite unfortunately we
to let him go we allowed him to leave by
firing him British people dreadful okay
now it’s time to talk about the ins and
outs of the lingo de language marathon
and it’s not just for English you can
also do it for French Spanish German and
business English which is really
exciting because I know a lot of you are
studying English to advance in the
workplace the best way to learn language
and retain what you have learnt is by
studying a little bit every single day
and practicing with native speakers I am
fully aware that lots of you don’t have
the time or the money to attend
in-person classes so that’s why the
lingo de language marathon is such a
good opportunity if you haven’t heard of
lingo before it’s an online language
academy where you can study anywhere
anytime in the world as long as you have
a laptop and a stable internet
connection you study in a virtual
classroom with native qualified teachers
in very small group classes there’s no
need to travel you study at home any
time weekend’s weekdays midnight 24/7
I’ve actually tried them out myself and
I think it’s a fantastic service for
busy people like me so I hear you ask
what is the lingo de language marathon
ah let me explain lingo don’t want to
offer you an extra source of motivation
because let’s face it marathons are not
a walk in the park if you successfully
take one group class every day for three
months lingotto will refund your course
fee in full
I think that’s achievable and students
do manage to do it every year
but if that seems like a little bit too
much for you you can also take the half
marathon that is 15 classes per month
for three months and lingo de will
refund half of your course fee if you’re
successful so if you want to take the
marathon in English you have two options
the English marathon is for all levels
beginner to advanced and will help you
improve your general fluency the
business English marathon is perfect for
getting that new job or advancing in the
workplace learn everything from
interview skills to giving a
presentation to writing a business email
to hosting a business meeting this is
for English level b2 or above only the
marathon run
from the 21st of January of 2019 and
ends on the 20th of April 2019 you have
to sign up before the 14th of January
and pay the five euro entry fee but if
you use my code study 1 it’s on screen
now after paying the entry fee that
secures your spot in the marathon you’ll
automatically sign up for a three-month
subscription every month you’ll be
charged a fixed amount a total of 3
times you can also secure your place by
taking advantage of the pay now special
which offers a 10% discount for a
limited time only you just have to
select the Pay Now option at checkout
this will allow you to receive your
first set of credits up front and then
you can book your marathon classes
straight away there is also no entry fee
for the Pay Now special you can see all
of the regular prices by clicking on the
link in my description box if you
subscribe right away
you won’t be charged until the 17th of
January 2019 but you can still cancel
your participation you’ve got 14 days
from signing up to either cancel your
subscription or get a refund for your
first payment lingotto will refund your
tuition fee in full if you attend an
agreed number of classes within each
marathon month and if you follow all of
the rules in the terms and conditions
there’s no trick or catch here the only
thing that’s required is that you show
up on time for each class and actively
participate if you book a class and miss
it or fail to book a class at all you
can still participate with all the
classes but you will no longer qualify
for the refund places are limited so
make sure you sign up sooner rather than
later to avoid disappointment the most
important piece of advice I can give you
is check the terms and conditions
carefully and familiarize yourself with
all of the rules past marathon graduates
have said that this is the key to
getting the refund you only have to pay
$0.50 so are you ready to start the most
important three months of your language
learning journey click on the link in my
description box and use the code study 1
to start if you do have any questions
about the marathon feel free to contact
lingo 2 directly and their amazing team
will help you write that’s it for
today’s lesson I hope you enjoyed it and
I hope you learned something don’t
forget to connect with me on all of my
social media I’ve got my facebook I’ve
got my Instagram and I’ve got my Twitter
and I shall see you soon
for another lesson nah welcome back to
english with Lucy I just like to mention
study in tiny groups something like I
was trying to like every small group
okay I’m engaged
oh it’s the ring anyway little kids and
laughing at me outside my window explain
I’m educating and everything just love
everything okay I’m hosting a business
meeting
yeah okay um this one a lot Diego good
boy then go to will refund your I think
the two go hand in hand my hand didn’t
quite go together there and with
something so divisive as breakfast
breakfast I could say you
+ base verb purpose we could say you
couldn’t love a sperm base Berg damn it
I do it again
Facebook base para blue sea base verb I
don’t suppose you could pass face verb base verb
english with lucy your newly engaged
teacher how exciting is that don’t make
me cry I have cried a lot
we designed the ring together very
exciting but back to english today I am
doing 20 engagement related not just
kidding you guys made me laugh so much
on my community tap when I told you I
was engaged but enough about that
today’s lesson is how to be polite in
English and the things you should say
and the things you should definitely not
say so I’m going to teach you really how
to avoid being rude and how to avoid
accidentally offending people before we
get started I’d just like to mention one
other thing that can drastically improve
your English skills
it’s the lingo to language marathon I’m
going to explain this fully at the end
of the video but if you can’t wait and
you want to know about it now I’m going
to show you the time on screen you can
click to that time and hear about the
marathon basically you can do 90 days of
English lessons with native teachers and
get a full refund
that’s up to 800 euros but first let’s
get started with the lesson so you’re
all making a valiant effort to improve
your English speaking skills I remember
when I was learning Spanish I was always
really really nervous about accidentally
offending somebody or seeming rude
without intending to naturally you want
to appear polite but obviously
non-native speakers don’t always know
all of the rules so in this English
lesson I’m going to teach you about
British English etiquette what you
definitely should say and most
importantly what you definitely
shouldn’t say I love participation with
my students so please do comment down
below with any thoughts that you might
have especially if you want to comment
on whether things are different or the
same in your country or culture so let’s
start off with something fairly basic
but very very important questions to
acquaintances firstly what’s an
acquaintance an acquaintance is somebody
you know but are not close friends with
in my
somebody you see at work every day you
might know their name but you’ve never
had a proper conversation with them I
have had acquaintances from other
cultures ask me really personal
questions and I have to admit I was
taken aback this is more of a cultural
issue rather than a linguistic issue but
I think the two go hand in hand so the
sorts of questions that you should
really only ask the people that you know
well are how old are you especially two
females for some reason that’s a big
stereotype you should never ask a woman
her age some reason people get really
offended when you ask how old they are
I don’t mind now I’m 25 I’m happy to say
that no no oh my god I got my age wrong
I’m 24 I always think I’m 25 even when I
was 23 I thought I was 25 that’s so dumb
anyway when I was younger like 18 19 I
almost didn’t want to tell people my age
especially in the workplace because I
didn’t want them to doubt me
they’ve treat me like an equal until
they realized I was a teenager and then
they thought that I was incapable of
everything another one is talking about
marriage are you married
why aren’t you married that’s a really
big one I’m desperate for everyone to
ask me if I’m married or engaged yet
because I just want to show everyone but
some people find it really offensive now
one big one which I definitely don’t
like to answer and I come up with
certain responses so don’t so I don’t
have to say anything is how much do you
earn and this was one that I experienced
in Spain it seemed that just quite
common conversation
quantico dress well most you earn in
England you were just a hundred percent
unless somebody offers you that
information which is considered impolite
as well you really shouldn’t talk about
money the same goes for how much do you
pay for rent
I remember being asked that a lot in
Spain as well and you just wouldn’t ask
someone in the UK the rent one I don’t
think is for me that’s not so rude
because you know I want to know the
house prices in the area and if you
don’t tell me I can find them out online
another one is about religion generally
we don’t talk about religion so I
wouldn’t ask do you believe in God I
wouldn’t ask what’s your religion
times I have mentioned my beliefs or
disbeliefs sometimes you know it’s
actually started a debate and people
have started to question why I think a
certain way and that’s not what I’m here
for
and the last one politics and especially
how do you feel about brexit what did
you vote in brexit leave or remain oh my
god
I don’t want to talk about it and quite
a few people would not be comfortable
with talking about it British people
hate offending people and with something
as divisive as brexit chances are you
are going to offend somebody or have
somebody question your morals and ethics
so in general we don’t talk about sex
and relationships politics money and
religion is that the same in your
country please comment down below I’m
dying to know now non-native speakers
are not at fault for appearing rude by
making this mistake it is complex and
I’d like to think that most native
speakers would appreciate non-native
speakers making the effort to speak
their language but there are some things
that can appear quite direct and to the
untrained ear could be deemed offensive
now in some languages and cultures it’s
not impolite to use the imperative in
everyday life in British English the
imperative is used to issue a command or
an order in some languages you might
just say pass the salt and that’s
absolutely fine in English it sounds
rude we need to say please and if you
receive the salt you have to say thank
you so I would never say pass the salt I
would say please could you pass the salt
you can use the imperative as a request
by adding please to the end like pass
the salt please
but it still doesn’t sound very polite
it sounds quite abrupt another example
give me the pen I would say please could
you pass the pen so what are some ways
we can make our requests more polite in
English let me give you a really good
template and format for making requests
in English we can use could you plus the
base verb let’s pretend that I want
somebody to hold my suitcase I could say
could you + base verb could you hold my
suitcase I could also say
would you mind plus ing verb would you
mind holding my suitcase another option
I wonder if you could + base verb I
wonder if you could hold my suitcase you
can also add possibly I wonder if you
could possibly hold my suitcase it is a
bit much but maybe you really want them
to hold your suitcase now there is
another format this is slightly more
persuasive we could say you couldn’t +
base verb could you you couldn’t hold my
suitcase could you or you wouldn’t be
able to + base verb would you you
wouldn’t be able to hold my suitcase
would you it’s quite warm and friendly I
like this way and the last one I don’t
suppose you could + base verb could you
I don’t suppose you could hold my
suitcase could you so that was talking
about being overly direct using
imperatives now let’s talk about being
in direct with idioms we like to use
idioms to beat around the bush to soften
the blow a little we always want to
avoid offending people so we like to
express things in an indirect manner now
obviously for non-native speakers this
is difficult because you need to know
these idioms if you don’t learn them you
don’t know them it’s as simple as that
I’m going to give you a couple of
options to use in the workplace you can
switch from just saying it directly to
using the idiom for example you might
say I think the receptionist is pregnant
but that could be offensive especially
if she’s not pregnant so it would be
better to say oh I think the
receptionist might have a bun in the
oven which obviously means she might be
pregnant
another one you could say I heard the
CEO died or in the British Way you could
say I heard the CEO passed away – pass
away is much softer than to die and the
last one you could say unfortunately we
had to fire him or much better much more
polite unfortunately we
to let him go we allowed him to leave by
firing him British people dreadful okay
now it’s time to talk about the ins and
outs of the lingo de language marathon
and it’s not just for English you can
also do it for French Spanish German and
business English which is really
exciting because I know a lot of you are
studying English to advance in the
workplace the best way to learn language
and retain what you have learnt is by
studying a little bit every single day
and practicing with native speakers I am
fully aware that lots of you don’t have
the time or the money to attend
in-person classes so that’s why the
lingo de language marathon is such a
good opportunity if you haven’t heard of
lingo before it’s an online language
academy where you can study anywhere
anytime in the world as long as you have
a laptop and a stable internet
connection you study in a virtual
classroom with native qualified teachers
in very small group classes there’s no
need to travel you study at home any
time weekend’s weekdays midnight 24/7
I’ve actually tried them out myself and
I think it’s a fantastic service for
busy people like me so I hear you ask
what is the lingo de language marathon
ah let me explain lingo don’t want to
offer you an extra source of motivation
because let’s face it marathons are not
a walk in the park if you successfully
take one group class every day for three
months lingotto will refund your course
fee in full
I think that’s achievable and students
do manage to do it every year
but if that seems like a little bit too
much for you you can also take the half
marathon that is 15 classes per month
for three months and lingo de will
refund half of your course fee if you’re
successful so if you want to take the
marathon in English you have two options
the English marathon is for all levels
beginner to advanced and will help you
improve your general fluency the
business English marathon is perfect for
getting that new job or advancing in the
workplace learn everything from
interview skills to giving a
presentation to writing a business email
to hosting a business meeting this is
for English level b2 or above only the
marathon run
from the 21st of January of 2019 and
ends on the 20th of April 2019 you have
to sign up before the 14th of January
and pay the five euro entry fee but if
you use my code study 1 it’s on screen
now after paying the entry fee that
secures your spot in the marathon you’ll
automatically sign up for a three-month
subscription every month you’ll be
charged a fixed amount a total of 3
times you can also secure your place by
taking advantage of the pay now special
which offers a 10% discount for a
limited time only you just have to
select the Pay Now option at checkout
this will allow you to receive your
first set of credits up front and then
you can book your marathon classes
straight away there is also no entry fee
for the Pay Now special you can see all
of the regular prices by clicking on the
link in my description box if you
subscribe right away
you won’t be charged until the 17th of
January 2019 but you can still cancel
your participation you’ve got 14 days
from signing up to either cancel your
subscription or get a refund for your
first payment lingotto will refund your
tuition fee in full if you attend an
agreed number of classes within each
marathon month and if you follow all of
the rules in the terms and conditions
there’s no trick or catch here the only
thing that’s required is that you show
up on time for each class and actively
participate if you book a class and miss
it or fail to book a class at all you
can still participate with all the
classes but you will no longer qualify
for the refund places are limited so
make sure you sign up sooner rather than
later to avoid disappointment the most
important piece of advice I can give you
is check the terms and conditions
carefully and familiarize yourself with
all of the rules past marathon graduates
have said that this is the key to
getting the refund you only have to pay
$0.50 so are you ready to start the most
important three months of your language
learning journey click on the link in my
description box and use the code study 1
to start if you do have any questions
about the marathon feel free to contact
lingo 2 directly and their amazing team
will help you write that’s it for
today’s lesson I hope you enjoyed it and
I hope you learned something don’t
forget to connect with me on all of my
social media I’ve got my facebook I’ve
got my Instagram and I’ve got my Twitter
and I shall see you soon
for another lesson nah welcome back to
english with Lucy I just like to mention
study in tiny groups something like I
was trying to like every small group
okay I’m engaged
oh it’s the ring anyway little kids and
laughing at me outside my window explain
I’m educating and everything just love
everything okay I’m hosting a business
meeting
yeah okay um this one a lot Diego good
boy then go to will refund your I think
the two go hand in hand my hand didn’t
quite go together there and with
something so divisive as breakfast
breakfast I could say you
+ base verb purpose we could say you
couldn’t love a sperm base Berg damn it
I do it again
Facebook base para blue sea base verb I
don’t suppose you could pass face verb base verb
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