when we get started I have a question
for you by show of hands how many of you
have ever been afraid before anybody
just wanted to make sure I was amongst
friends and if you didn’t raise your
hand I’m gonna take it you were too
afraid to raise your hand so that will
qualify it right there I can remember
growing up and the first time I was
never gonna hold a girl’s hand I was so
afraid I had to put napkins in my
pockets and squeeze them because my
hands were sweating and I didn’t want
her to know it another time in the third
grade I won my class spelling me and I
had the honor of going up in front of
the whole school to compete against all
the other classes I had the sole phrase
I walked out onstage the lights were
blinding there was a sea of my peers in
front of me the teacher asked me to
spell broom you broom and the whole room
erupted in laughter and I can’t leave
out the day I got my driver’s license
I’ll never forget I had arrived I drove
myself to the store for the first time
and as I was leaving the store I was
backing out and I was so afraid of
hitting someone as I was backing out
that I only paid attention to what
having behind me and as I started to
crank the wheel I’ve completely
sideswiped a car accident fast forward
to my adult life I had been working for
a hydraulic repair company for six years
I was miserable depressed and
unfulfilled I thought the only thing at
that point in my life that could make me
happy was to buy a house so I started
going through the pre-qualification
process and it wasn’t until my employer
had to fill out this document that my
life came to a screeching halt you’ll
see underlined that I made $30,000 in
2008 2009 and 2010 yes that’s what I
made for living don’t be jealous
however it was the right-hand side of
the document that really opened up my
eyes starting at the top you’ll see
dates of next pay increase not label
amount of next pay increase not
applicable date of last pay increase not
label well you get the point
as I placed over looking at this
document I asked myself is this my life
if you would have looked at me growing
up and you weren’t told me that I would
have been working where I was working
making the money that I was making
yeah there had been for six years my
question how did I get here and why am I
still here I realize that that same fear
that have been rearing its ugly head
through all those situations in my life
was still controlling my thoughts I
figured obviously fear isn’t going
anywhere I better learn how to master it
so I started researching and asking how
do I break through my fear how do I
destroy my fear because that’s what
we’re taught right to become successful
we have to destroy our fears these
questions led me to the Holton question
of what if we’re not able to overcome
our fear better again what if we’re not
supposed to to answer these questions it
sent me on a journey that I don’t know
lovingly turns fear Lassa me
the reason I dug this dirty fair Lhasa
fee possibly is derived of a Greek term
meaning with our Sophia meaning wisdom
or Sophos meaning lies and what I was
doing is reading wisdom to fear because
for as long as I can remember fear had
been controlling my life so the first
question I wanted to answer is what a
lot of people think fear is the reason I
started with the perception of fear was
because I believed fear was not being
able to do what I wanted to do because
every time I wanted to do something new
in my life I could feel fear holding me
back so I was able to survey over a
thousand people and ask them the
question what is feared these are the
top five answers that I got fear is the
unknown lack of trust lack of faith I
don’t know and anxiety the funniest
answer I heard fear is cockroaches I can
understand that one the scariest answer
I heard fear is life once I understood
what the majority of people perceived
fear to be I was ready to find out what
is fear actually will fear by definition
is an unpleasant emotion caused by the
belief that someone or something is
dangerous likely to cause pain or a
threat as I read this I thought ah no
wonder so many people are stopped by
fear they don’t even know what it is how
can we master something we can’t
identify not only now but I realized
that the majority
and people perceived fear to be only
part of the second half of the
definition a belief that someone or
something is dangerous likely to cause
harm or a threat with what is fear
actually an unpleasant emotion that’s it
can we just sit at that for a moment
does that mean I’ve been emotional to
better understand fear as an emotion
let’s take a look at another way that
we’re able to put fear and an emotion in
the proper context according to
psychology we have six basic emotions
happiness sadness fear anger surprise
and disgust let me ask you this are we
supposed to destroy these emotions never
to feel them again or are these emotions
tools that are here to serve us fear for
example if you’re getting ready to walk
down a dark alley it’s fear of good
emotion to pop up for you to keep you on
alert to keep you looking around maybe
to have you avoid the alley altogether
fear in this
nation is a tool to serve and protect
you
to better understand fear as a tool
let’s take a look at another name tool
that we have our hand opposable thumb
allows us to pick stuff up allows us to
hold things allows us to text message
well if you were to walk up to one of
your friends and ask them how are you
doing today and they responded I’m doing
really good I’m having a great day
thanks are gonna really awesome man how
are you doing you would look at them to
go what’s wrong with your hand why don’t
you control your band clearly we’ve
mastered this school it’s by our side
and it’s here whenever we need it yet
how many of us have ever talked to a
friend or a family member but what if I
go for it and it doesn’t work out what
if I fail what if I lose everything
fear has mastered yet it’s hijacked
their ability to make the choice we have
to learn how to master so how we master
fear well the way that I see it is we’re
able to master fear through the research
that I did I found this your emotions
are the slaves to your thoughts and you
are the slave to your emotions so to
master fear we have to trace back its
roots to the thought that initiated it
because when
we direct our thoughts properly we can
control our emotions so to master our
emotions we have to master our thoughts
how do we master our thoughts let me ask
you this what does an orange guerrilla
dribbling a basketball look like by a
show of hands how many of you just had a
picture of an orange guerrilla dribbling
a basketball pop up in your head anybody
I was just able to direct your thoughts
how with one simple question this is the
ingenious design of the computer
lifeline every time we ask it a question
it must search and find the answer and
this is the premise of fear Lassa that
we can and will master fear by mastering
the questions we ask ourselves think
about it this is the exact same way fear
masters us we get in a situation and
fear instantly pops up and starts asking
us questions
wait what about and what if this is the
same exact way fear was able to keep me
working for a company that I was
miserable at when I looked at that
document that said I need thirty
thousand dollars three years in a row
and I have been too fearful to make a
change
I applied fear loss of me and you know
the questions I started asking myself
what will my life look like if I stay
here
will I be able to get to the end of my
life and look back and say I’d live to
my greatest potential will I be able to
provide for my family will I be able to
give my kids the life that they deserve
once I started asking these questions I
invested myself fearlessly into my side
business in part time in one year I was
able to make over six figures that was
more than those three years of mine I
fired my boss because I’m not asking you
not to fear I’m suggesting that you can
and will fear less by mastering the
questions you ask yourself so the
question I leave with you is this what
would your life look like and what would
be possible in your life if you were
able to master fear and not one area
that you’ve noticed that holding you
back what would you like look like what
would your friends and family members
say how would that make you feel
the quality of your life is a direct
reflection of the questions you were
asking yourself so here’s what I know
from the moment were born till the
moment we take our last breath our life
is on countdown so the next time fear
pops up you have to master the questions
master the questions and you master your
thoughts master your thoughts any master
fear master fear and you become the
master of your life the time is now
you’re on the countdown ready set go
[Applause]
for you by show of hands how many of you
have ever been afraid before anybody
just wanted to make sure I was amongst
friends and if you didn’t raise your
hand I’m gonna take it you were too
afraid to raise your hand so that will
qualify it right there I can remember
growing up and the first time I was
never gonna hold a girl’s hand I was so
afraid I had to put napkins in my
pockets and squeeze them because my
hands were sweating and I didn’t want
her to know it another time in the third
grade I won my class spelling me and I
had the honor of going up in front of
the whole school to compete against all
the other classes I had the sole phrase
I walked out onstage the lights were
blinding there was a sea of my peers in
front of me the teacher asked me to
spell broom you broom and the whole room
erupted in laughter and I can’t leave
out the day I got my driver’s license
I’ll never forget I had arrived I drove
myself to the store for the first time
and as I was leaving the store I was
backing out and I was so afraid of
hitting someone as I was backing out
that I only paid attention to what
having behind me and as I started to
crank the wheel I’ve completely
sideswiped a car accident fast forward
to my adult life I had been working for
a hydraulic repair company for six years
I was miserable depressed and
unfulfilled I thought the only thing at
that point in my life that could make me
happy was to buy a house so I started
going through the pre-qualification
process and it wasn’t until my employer
had to fill out this document that my
life came to a screeching halt you’ll
see underlined that I made $30,000 in
2008 2009 and 2010 yes that’s what I
made for living don’t be jealous
however it was the right-hand side of
the document that really opened up my
eyes starting at the top you’ll see
dates of next pay increase not label
amount of next pay increase not
applicable date of last pay increase not
label well you get the point
as I placed over looking at this
document I asked myself is this my life
if you would have looked at me growing
up and you weren’t told me that I would
have been working where I was working
making the money that I was making
yeah there had been for six years my
question how did I get here and why am I
still here I realize that that same fear
that have been rearing its ugly head
through all those situations in my life
was still controlling my thoughts I
figured obviously fear isn’t going
anywhere I better learn how to master it
so I started researching and asking how
do I break through my fear how do I
destroy my fear because that’s what
we’re taught right to become successful
we have to destroy our fears these
questions led me to the Holton question
of what if we’re not able to overcome
our fear better again what if we’re not
supposed to to answer these questions it
sent me on a journey that I don’t know
lovingly turns fear Lassa me
the reason I dug this dirty fair Lhasa
fee possibly is derived of a Greek term
meaning with our Sophia meaning wisdom
or Sophos meaning lies and what I was
doing is reading wisdom to fear because
for as long as I can remember fear had
been controlling my life so the first
question I wanted to answer is what a
lot of people think fear is the reason I
started with the perception of fear was
because I believed fear was not being
able to do what I wanted to do because
every time I wanted to do something new
in my life I could feel fear holding me
back so I was able to survey over a
thousand people and ask them the
question what is feared these are the
top five answers that I got fear is the
unknown lack of trust lack of faith I
don’t know and anxiety the funniest
answer I heard fear is cockroaches I can
understand that one the scariest answer
I heard fear is life once I understood
what the majority of people perceived
fear to be I was ready to find out what
is fear actually will fear by definition
is an unpleasant emotion caused by the
belief that someone or something is
dangerous likely to cause pain or a
threat as I read this I thought ah no
wonder so many people are stopped by
fear they don’t even know what it is how
can we master something we can’t
identify not only now but I realized
that the majority
and people perceived fear to be only
part of the second half of the
definition a belief that someone or
something is dangerous likely to cause
harm or a threat with what is fear
actually an unpleasant emotion that’s it
can we just sit at that for a moment
does that mean I’ve been emotional to
better understand fear as an emotion
let’s take a look at another way that
we’re able to put fear and an emotion in
the proper context according to
psychology we have six basic emotions
happiness sadness fear anger surprise
and disgust let me ask you this are we
supposed to destroy these emotions never
to feel them again or are these emotions
tools that are here to serve us fear for
example if you’re getting ready to walk
down a dark alley it’s fear of good
emotion to pop up for you to keep you on
alert to keep you looking around maybe
to have you avoid the alley altogether
fear in this
nation is a tool to serve and protect
you
to better understand fear as a tool
let’s take a look at another name tool
that we have our hand opposable thumb
allows us to pick stuff up allows us to
hold things allows us to text message
well if you were to walk up to one of
your friends and ask them how are you
doing today and they responded I’m doing
really good I’m having a great day
thanks are gonna really awesome man how
are you doing you would look at them to
go what’s wrong with your hand why don’t
you control your band clearly we’ve
mastered this school it’s by our side
and it’s here whenever we need it yet
how many of us have ever talked to a
friend or a family member but what if I
go for it and it doesn’t work out what
if I fail what if I lose everything
fear has mastered yet it’s hijacked
their ability to make the choice we have
to learn how to master so how we master
fear well the way that I see it is we’re
able to master fear through the research
that I did I found this your emotions
are the slaves to your thoughts and you
are the slave to your emotions so to
master fear we have to trace back its
roots to the thought that initiated it
because when
we direct our thoughts properly we can
control our emotions so to master our
emotions we have to master our thoughts
how do we master our thoughts let me ask
you this what does an orange guerrilla
dribbling a basketball look like by a
show of hands how many of you just had a
picture of an orange guerrilla dribbling
a basketball pop up in your head anybody
I was just able to direct your thoughts
how with one simple question this is the
ingenious design of the computer
lifeline every time we ask it a question
it must search and find the answer and
this is the premise of fear Lassa that
we can and will master fear by mastering
the questions we ask ourselves think
about it this is the exact same way fear
masters us we get in a situation and
fear instantly pops up and starts asking
us questions
wait what about and what if this is the
same exact way fear was able to keep me
working for a company that I was
miserable at when I looked at that
document that said I need thirty
thousand dollars three years in a row
and I have been too fearful to make a
change
I applied fear loss of me and you know
the questions I started asking myself
what will my life look like if I stay
here
will I be able to get to the end of my
life and look back and say I’d live to
my greatest potential will I be able to
provide for my family will I be able to
give my kids the life that they deserve
once I started asking these questions I
invested myself fearlessly into my side
business in part time in one year I was
able to make over six figures that was
more than those three years of mine I
fired my boss because I’m not asking you
not to fear I’m suggesting that you can
and will fear less by mastering the
questions you ask yourself so the
question I leave with you is this what
would your life look like and what would
be possible in your life if you were
able to master fear and not one area
that you’ve noticed that holding you
back what would you like look like what
would your friends and family members
say how would that make you feel
the quality of your life is a direct
reflection of the questions you were
asking yourself so here’s what I know
from the moment were born till the
moment we take our last breath our life
is on countdown so the next time fear
pops up you have to master the questions
master the questions and you master your
thoughts master your thoughts any master
fear master fear and you become the
master of your life the time is now
you’re on the countdown ready set go
[Applause]
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