are you your mother’s lawyer that’s what
dad used to say when he mom had an
argument they never had a fight but
whenever there was an argument I that
made me to show up and try to stand by
whoever is arguing and that was
generally my mom that I did for but and
most of the times the discussion nearly
faded away because they were fed up with
my endless discussion points but what
could I do that was who I was and who I
was going to blossom into what is
genuinely happening for the sake of
being normal
forget about the definition in the
dictionaries
if you do not need special care god
forbid when you are born then you can be
deemed to be normal and can survive but
survival both physically and mentally
go successful if you are living on your
path that you are born into what we
generally do when we are kids is what we
are taught to do or see others doing
acting along the path system way that is
mostly appreciated by our surrounding
like parents grandparents teachers
siblings and there are also
circumstances that we try to fit in to
try to have a good life make good money
meeting and keeping up the standards and
etc living a so-called normal life but
generally what is normal for the society
is an illusion created by judgment of
people on what others should be like do
like or look like and most of the time
we miss our path because it may not fit
into the norms
created but we feel obliged to follow
those for the sake of peacefulness yet I
do not think that one should be an
anarchist to follow his or her own path
at the age of 42 I’ve come to realize
that what makes one feel happy and
contempt in life which is very essential
for successful survival is to follow her
own path and live along her own
normality sometimes you continue follow
your route with the help of others like
your parents teachers friends lovers who
know you well and who can figure out
what your path is and what your
normality is if they’re good analysts
then you’re lucky if not then don’t
worry somewhere someplace sometime some
event will make you realize it and
follow it though I have been
acknowledged as the lawyer of my mom for
several years when I was a kid no
becoming a lawyer was not actually my
childhood dream it was becoming a mom to
those boys and girls at the Johnson &
Johnson baby shampoo commercials I can
sympathize that some of the audience do
not even recollect those but they can
still follow me at my first year in they
say at ease could I make an academy for
girls hard to imagine I came to realize
that I had a pretty good voice
apparently a mezzo-soprano which I did
not have an idea before but my mom had
realized it and thanks to her I had a
chance to sing at the bank children’s
choir for one year when I was in primary
school so that year I took a role
the musical Oklahoma and it was the best
time of my life I adored it I said this
is it this is it I found it I was to
become a musical singer or an opera
singer
now of course not everything that you
feel good at or find yourself good at is
meant to be your path and most of the
times those that are not meant for you
to become simply remain as hobbies which
is a good thing in my second year I had
two choices for me to do as
extracurricular activities musical Cats
or attending to the Model United Nations
mu on at its first year in our school
though I was raised as an obedient woman
at the academy I also believed in my
power of persuasiveness and ability in
negotiating and being in a girl school
only had crafted my personality to be
able to defend her ideas in matriarchy
far from any fights of against the other
gender and not try to be wise as the boy
determined as a boy strong as the boy
hard-working as a boy as a boy as a boy
etc so I did not hesitate to attend mu n
and left my dream for musical for that
year that choice that I made on my path
shaped my life after that I attended to
the MU n which where the general
assembly was held in the hague and we
were to act as Liberian diplomats and
try to defend and negotiate for Liberian
state and people I had a great time I
was so amazed by everyone who was
talking there at the General Assembly
and when I came back I said I knew what
I want to do I wanted to negotiate for
claim
defend prove and achieve fairness and
justice and I thought I was to become a
diplomat like the ones that I acted for
the state of Liberia but then my dad
said and I said I was to study political
sciences which was a very new department
in Turkey back then and my dad said no
political sciences is not a fundamental
profession and you know what if you
become a diplomat you would probably
wander all around the world and not be
able to raise the family of yourself
like he had seen in many of his friends
lives remember my childhood dream no
that was not a risk that I could take so
he advised that I go to law school and
decide later on on who I should become I
went to one of his college friends who
was a great lawyer and had known me
since I was a baby and I talked to many
lawyers at his office I wandered around
and tried to feel the air of negotiating
mediating and litigating and thereafter
at the age of 17 I said okay I’m going
to study law I’m going to graduate all
with my classmates I’m going to win the
university exam and get to the school I
want to however every path has its
tumbles I thought it was nearly
impossible graduating from this school
and winning the school that you want to
win and get into but I failed in the
university exam and I couldn’t get into
the two schools that I had on my list
and that year was the worst of my life I
guess all my genius friends good friends
having want the schools that they had
one two two and I was there to study one
more year with a bunch of losers like
myself really very humiliating both for
my stuff and against my family who had
so much
in me but a path is a path to follow I
did not give up on my will to become a
lawyer the second year I wanted to
include only two schools again in my
list for the university entrance but my
father said this time no no no not to
schools we’re going to have more under
the list but I got into the first one
that I had on my list and started to the
faculty at the Istanbul University along
the faculty I met extraordinarily
well-equipped professors and lecturers
who made me see and my passionate
friends that I had met having dreams
like myself what being lawful and just
meant especially in the case studies
that we had
I saw the outcomes the reasonings the
consequences of defending the rights of
other people and I gave up being a
diplomat because then I thought if I
were to become a diplomat I would have
defended the state politics but
lawyering was not meant for that whereas
being a lawyer you could have defended
other people’s rights in the way that
you think it should have been so I chose
to become a lawyer but then what type of
a lawyer was there a normality to lawyer
in as well that did not become apparent
until the last year of my university and
as a good english-speaking woman thanks
to the Academy I was apparently meant
for assisting foreign clients in Turkey
which was boosting at the beginning of
the millennium but then again there were
so many ways to assist foreign clients
in Turkey as a commercial lawyer I could
have been an in-house lawyer employed by
a company I could have
had my own shop and have one-woman show
or I could have attended to a law firm
and practice with colleagues now being
an extrovert all my life I feed and
thrust on collective power so I’m not a
loner and for having grown from obedient
to rebellious at the law school I had
this great energy to defend the rights
of those who sought for justice and
rightfulness so being a company lawyer
would not do as I would have then needed
to defend company policies as I was told
to do but rather I chose to defend those
who are need in for law and justice as I
decide so I started my career at my
father’s independent law firm and sudden
there’s an intern at the commercial law
consultancy department and at the end of
one year when I finished my intern I got
this advice which was very fashionable
those days probably it is still they
said go and get your master’s degree in
the UK or us now I said I don’t have any
intention to go abroad I want to live
here with my family
be here with my boyfriend marry him
and they said oh no that’s all right you
would be able to find many other
boyfriends where you go to even better
ones so that should not be a concern for
you
really it’s true they said it I said ok
thank you and I did not follow their
normal way and stayed in the country and
at the firm I was a student
assisting foreigners in Turkey and what
was that I had some kind of an idea in
the first year but
it was negotiating and arguing for the
sake of your clients while they were
making investments acquiring assets and
dealing with other parties and other
parties lawyers and try to get the best
legal structure for a deal so that once
they are finished with the project that
you are assisting them at they would
have lists of any legal problems in the
future and I became a negotiator for
these deals rather than a litigator
because in the turkish system litigation
at courts does not give you any chance
to speak up to defend orally that’s what
I do but it’s all in writing so I was
trained by them by my partners as a
negotiator rather than a litigator
we used to shut up before the judges
after 15 years of great experience in my
formula law firm I started to feel that
there is something missing and I was
uneasy I was complaining all the time
this time it was my husband’s turn to
remind me and make me acknowledge that I
had to get out of my comfort zone and
continue to evolve and run to the future
where I find it to be now that future
found its way through a historical day
dream that I had with two of my dearest
girlfriends at Law School where we used
to study days and nights trying to
graduate from the law school I decided
to join them and now I’m a managing
partner in my own law firm where I still
feel the same energy the same enthusiasm
and this
willingness that I had for defending
people or my life at the school and I’m
trying to do the same thing for my
clients I chose to follow my passion and
desire for all these a journey starting
from defending my mom acting as
miserable Liberian diplomats and then
acting for many business people that you
name them and not a single morning in
the last eighteen years I said I do not
want to do this anymore us three one of
the lawyers achieved what we wanted to
achieve in life lawyering in matriarchy
mothers to to all of us and fairly good
citizens trying to help those in need
for justice and law I saw that how
little the social system the educational
system business life gives you a little
chance for you to spot follow your route
it is always there for you to walk on
and even if you step off it then you can
step on it again and again as long as
you do not give up for what you believe
in life and being happy and contempt in
life I believe it would lead all human
life and kind to happiness and
prosperity if we could all raise
ourselves and develop ourselves on path
and in the normality of ourselves and
try to do the same for the ones that we
raise as little ones we with all the
hope that every one of you here
walks along her and his own path and I
kept along his or her normality which I
am sure is going to be the most
beautiful one thank you
you
dad used to say when he mom had an
argument they never had a fight but
whenever there was an argument I that
made me to show up and try to stand by
whoever is arguing and that was
generally my mom that I did for but and
most of the times the discussion nearly
faded away because they were fed up with
my endless discussion points but what
could I do that was who I was and who I
was going to blossom into what is
genuinely happening for the sake of
being normal
forget about the definition in the
dictionaries
if you do not need special care god
forbid when you are born then you can be
deemed to be normal and can survive but
survival both physically and mentally
go successful if you are living on your
path that you are born into what we
generally do when we are kids is what we
are taught to do or see others doing
acting along the path system way that is
mostly appreciated by our surrounding
like parents grandparents teachers
siblings and there are also
circumstances that we try to fit in to
try to have a good life make good money
meeting and keeping up the standards and
etc living a so-called normal life but
generally what is normal for the society
is an illusion created by judgment of
people on what others should be like do
like or look like and most of the time
we miss our path because it may not fit
into the norms
created but we feel obliged to follow
those for the sake of peacefulness yet I
do not think that one should be an
anarchist to follow his or her own path
at the age of 42 I’ve come to realize
that what makes one feel happy and
contempt in life which is very essential
for successful survival is to follow her
own path and live along her own
normality sometimes you continue follow
your route with the help of others like
your parents teachers friends lovers who
know you well and who can figure out
what your path is and what your
normality is if they’re good analysts
then you’re lucky if not then don’t
worry somewhere someplace sometime some
event will make you realize it and
follow it though I have been
acknowledged as the lawyer of my mom for
several years when I was a kid no
becoming a lawyer was not actually my
childhood dream it was becoming a mom to
those boys and girls at the Johnson &
Johnson baby shampoo commercials I can
sympathize that some of the audience do
not even recollect those but they can
still follow me at my first year in they
say at ease could I make an academy for
girls hard to imagine I came to realize
that I had a pretty good voice
apparently a mezzo-soprano which I did
not have an idea before but my mom had
realized it and thanks to her I had a
chance to sing at the bank children’s
choir for one year when I was in primary
school so that year I took a role
the musical Oklahoma and it was the best
time of my life I adored it I said this
is it this is it I found it I was to
become a musical singer or an opera
singer
now of course not everything that you
feel good at or find yourself good at is
meant to be your path and most of the
times those that are not meant for you
to become simply remain as hobbies which
is a good thing in my second year I had
two choices for me to do as
extracurricular activities musical Cats
or attending to the Model United Nations
mu on at its first year in our school
though I was raised as an obedient woman
at the academy I also believed in my
power of persuasiveness and ability in
negotiating and being in a girl school
only had crafted my personality to be
able to defend her ideas in matriarchy
far from any fights of against the other
gender and not try to be wise as the boy
determined as a boy strong as the boy
hard-working as a boy as a boy as a boy
etc so I did not hesitate to attend mu n
and left my dream for musical for that
year that choice that I made on my path
shaped my life after that I attended to
the MU n which where the general
assembly was held in the hague and we
were to act as Liberian diplomats and
try to defend and negotiate for Liberian
state and people I had a great time I
was so amazed by everyone who was
talking there at the General Assembly
and when I came back I said I knew what
I want to do I wanted to negotiate for
claim
defend prove and achieve fairness and
justice and I thought I was to become a
diplomat like the ones that I acted for
the state of Liberia but then my dad
said and I said I was to study political
sciences which was a very new department
in Turkey back then and my dad said no
political sciences is not a fundamental
profession and you know what if you
become a diplomat you would probably
wander all around the world and not be
able to raise the family of yourself
like he had seen in many of his friends
lives remember my childhood dream no
that was not a risk that I could take so
he advised that I go to law school and
decide later on on who I should become I
went to one of his college friends who
was a great lawyer and had known me
since I was a baby and I talked to many
lawyers at his office I wandered around
and tried to feel the air of negotiating
mediating and litigating and thereafter
at the age of 17 I said okay I’m going
to study law I’m going to graduate all
with my classmates I’m going to win the
university exam and get to the school I
want to however every path has its
tumbles I thought it was nearly
impossible graduating from this school
and winning the school that you want to
win and get into but I failed in the
university exam and I couldn’t get into
the two schools that I had on my list
and that year was the worst of my life I
guess all my genius friends good friends
having want the schools that they had
one two two and I was there to study one
more year with a bunch of losers like
myself really very humiliating both for
my stuff and against my family who had
so much
in me but a path is a path to follow I
did not give up on my will to become a
lawyer the second year I wanted to
include only two schools again in my
list for the university entrance but my
father said this time no no no not to
schools we’re going to have more under
the list but I got into the first one
that I had on my list and started to the
faculty at the Istanbul University along
the faculty I met extraordinarily
well-equipped professors and lecturers
who made me see and my passionate
friends that I had met having dreams
like myself what being lawful and just
meant especially in the case studies
that we had
I saw the outcomes the reasonings the
consequences of defending the rights of
other people and I gave up being a
diplomat because then I thought if I
were to become a diplomat I would have
defended the state politics but
lawyering was not meant for that whereas
being a lawyer you could have defended
other people’s rights in the way that
you think it should have been so I chose
to become a lawyer but then what type of
a lawyer was there a normality to lawyer
in as well that did not become apparent
until the last year of my university and
as a good english-speaking woman thanks
to the Academy I was apparently meant
for assisting foreign clients in Turkey
which was boosting at the beginning of
the millennium but then again there were
so many ways to assist foreign clients
in Turkey as a commercial lawyer I could
have been an in-house lawyer employed by
a company I could have
had my own shop and have one-woman show
or I could have attended to a law firm
and practice with colleagues now being
an extrovert all my life I feed and
thrust on collective power so I’m not a
loner and for having grown from obedient
to rebellious at the law school I had
this great energy to defend the rights
of those who sought for justice and
rightfulness so being a company lawyer
would not do as I would have then needed
to defend company policies as I was told
to do but rather I chose to defend those
who are need in for law and justice as I
decide so I started my career at my
father’s independent law firm and sudden
there’s an intern at the commercial law
consultancy department and at the end of
one year when I finished my intern I got
this advice which was very fashionable
those days probably it is still they
said go and get your master’s degree in
the UK or us now I said I don’t have any
intention to go abroad I want to live
here with my family
be here with my boyfriend marry him
and they said oh no that’s all right you
would be able to find many other
boyfriends where you go to even better
ones so that should not be a concern for
you
really it’s true they said it I said ok
thank you and I did not follow their
normal way and stayed in the country and
at the firm I was a student
assisting foreigners in Turkey and what
was that I had some kind of an idea in
the first year but
it was negotiating and arguing for the
sake of your clients while they were
making investments acquiring assets and
dealing with other parties and other
parties lawyers and try to get the best
legal structure for a deal so that once
they are finished with the project that
you are assisting them at they would
have lists of any legal problems in the
future and I became a negotiator for
these deals rather than a litigator
because in the turkish system litigation
at courts does not give you any chance
to speak up to defend orally that’s what
I do but it’s all in writing so I was
trained by them by my partners as a
negotiator rather than a litigator
we used to shut up before the judges
after 15 years of great experience in my
formula law firm I started to feel that
there is something missing and I was
uneasy I was complaining all the time
this time it was my husband’s turn to
remind me and make me acknowledge that I
had to get out of my comfort zone and
continue to evolve and run to the future
where I find it to be now that future
found its way through a historical day
dream that I had with two of my dearest
girlfriends at Law School where we used
to study days and nights trying to
graduate from the law school I decided
to join them and now I’m a managing
partner in my own law firm where I still
feel the same energy the same enthusiasm
and this
willingness that I had for defending
people or my life at the school and I’m
trying to do the same thing for my
clients I chose to follow my passion and
desire for all these a journey starting
from defending my mom acting as
miserable Liberian diplomats and then
acting for many business people that you
name them and not a single morning in
the last eighteen years I said I do not
want to do this anymore us three one of
the lawyers achieved what we wanted to
achieve in life lawyering in matriarchy
mothers to to all of us and fairly good
citizens trying to help those in need
for justice and law I saw that how
little the social system the educational
system business life gives you a little
chance for you to spot follow your route
it is always there for you to walk on
and even if you step off it then you can
step on it again and again as long as
you do not give up for what you believe
in life and being happy and contempt in
life I believe it would lead all human
life and kind to happiness and
prosperity if we could all raise
ourselves and develop ourselves on path
and in the normality of ourselves and
try to do the same for the ones that we
raise as little ones we with all the
hope that every one of you here
walks along her and his own path and I
kept along his or her normality which I
am sure is going to be the most
beautiful one thank you
you
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